PHILOSOPHY ASSIGNMENT- “PHILOSHOPHY OF CHILD REARING”
NAME: SHIKHAR GUPTA ID NUMBER:
ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL
How did you think Having children totally changes
having children would the parents’ life. Their first
affect your life? priority becomes to fulfil their
QUESTION 1
children’s needs. They forget
about their own life and only
concern about grooming their
children.
Did you use childcare No, we didn’t use childcare
during your child’s during our child’s infancy
infancy? Why or why because a mother can give the
QUESTION 2
not? warmth and values to the child
that no one else can give. The
mother can feel the child’s
needs as the child can’t express
his feelings properly.
How much do you think The parents understand the
QUESTION 3
should be your role in likes and dislikes of their
shaping your child’s children. They provide all the
hobbies (sports, music facilities to the children so that
etc.)? they can improve their skills.
2015A1PS748H DATE: 15/04/2017
ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA
Having child is the most beautiful phase
in the life of a person. It gives a new
dimension to one’s life. Person learns to
become caring and responsible. It
creates a unique bonding between the
parents and their outlook towards life
changes entirely. They learn to handle
different situations in life.
No. Because mother can take best care
of her child and initial years are very
important for the growth of an infant.
As parents, our role should be to
discover the interest of our children and
then provide them ideal and required
opportunities to them in order to
pursue their hobbies.
ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA
I would not get a lot of time for myself after
having a child. But the happiness at the
infant’s face at the sight of his/her parents
would be priceless. I would have to be more
responsible than ever before as constant
care would be required.
I will try not to use childcare and make a
bond with the infant, as the early years are
considered very important for the parent-
child relationship.
Children wouldn’t know what they can be
good at if they don’t explore. We can’t make
fish climb a tree, so my motto would be “try
everything”.
 ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL
Do you think that Yes, religion is very important
religion is important for for a child because it teaches
your child? Why? the child the difference
between good and bad for them
and for the society. Being
religious makes the child a
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better and more informed
person overall.
Do you think your child No, as according to me, we give
should be given freedom them better knowledge about
to choose his/her own the religion because we are
religion? more experienced than them
and can guide them to follow
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the right path. Though once
they are adults, they should be
free to choose.
ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA
Yes, it is extremely important for every
child because it develops one’s spiritual
force which is the reservoir of love,
happiness, peace and all the good
qualities, through a systematic
discipline.
When a child is born, he/she is a very
strong part of the entire family. By birth
he /she does not know about the
religion followed by the family but
slowly he/she learns about the religion
and its strong values and principles.
He/she should try to understand the
religion by reading its Holy books and
should act accordingly. As every religion
teaches humanity and love, one should
spend time to understand the basic
principles of all the religions as far as
possible.
ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA
No, religion is not necessary for child
rearing. It is not required to teach children
morals. This is vastly superior to basing
morality on the alleged command of an
alleged deity because if a child merely learns
to obey orders, it won't learn enough about
how to reason out moral dilemmas in new
situations — a vital skill given how
technologies such as the biological sciences
keep advancing and creating new
conundrums for us. Empathy, on the other
hand, never ceases to be important and is
always relevant when it comes to evaluating
new dilemmas.
If the child feels the need of being
associated with a religion, he/she is free to
do so. But, I would encourage the child to
read the religious books and gain the vast
amount of knowledge they have to offer.
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 ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL
Do you force your We never force our opinions
opinions and views on and views on our child instead
your child or let them we let them build their own
build their own? Is opinions. But we are always
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there a grey area in there to guide them at every
this? step of their life.
How much important Education is very important
do you think is because it teaches a person how
education? Would you to live and lead their life.
prefer home-schooling, No, we don’t prefer home-
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why or why not? schooling as the school provides
the child a platform for
interaction and overall
development which home-
schooling cannot give.
ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA
Sometimes we do force our opinion
because we have better experience of
life then the child. At times, children
may have a better view and opinion but
will always need the guidance of their
parents who possess better experience.
This does not mean that we should
force our opinion on them rather we
should always try to support their views
and give them freedom to think
independently.
Education is a very crucial factor, both in
the development of the child as well as
in the life of the nation and a civilized
society.
No I do not prefer home schooling as
isolating child from the school
environment would hamper his/her
growth. He or she can learn social
etiquettes and values with their
classmates and during other school
activities.
ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA
During their infant years, it’s important to
force them to do the right thing and teach
them morality. However, when they are old
enough to understand the world, we should
never force any of our opinions on them.
They should be taught to “agree to
disagree”.
Education makes the child informed and
intellectually sound. The true purpose of
education is to make minds, not careers. We
can satisfy our higher wants only after being
educated.
Going to school is an important social
experience and should not be missed under
any circumstances.
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 ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL
Should the child be No, parents should never
forced to do academics pressurize the children to do
well? How much well in academics. They should
pressure is necessary? take care of the likes and dislikes
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of their children and should
encourage them to do well in
the fields which they like.
Do you live near your Yes, we live near our extended
extended family? What family. The grandparents tell the
kind of experiences has children some stories and share
your child had with their experiences with their
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grandparents, aunts, grandchildren.
uncles, and cousins?
What, according to you, The relatives share their
is the importance of the experiences with the children
QUESTION 10
experiences with the that give them important values
relatives? of how to manage time and
money and how to lead their
life.
ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA
In earlier times, academics was given The pressure by parents should be to
more preference than overall understand what the books are trying to say,
development of the child due to lack of and not just score well in an exam. Parents
facilities but now the scenario has should also see which field intrigues their
changed. Academics is an integral part child and encourage (but not force) the child
of development but not the only criteria to follow that path.
to judge a child. We should motivate
our children to do well in studies rather
than creating pressure on them which
can be damaging for the comprehensive
development.
There are great advantages of living in a Not applicable
joint family rather than a nuclear family.
But due to various socio-economic
reasons, the concept of nuclear family
slowly creeped into our society.
Yes, we have lived near our extended
family and our kids enjoyed living with
grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins
as they learnt moral values and sharing
of facilities.
It helps in the overall personality Just like the parents, children look up to
development of the child. His outlook their relatives for life experiences. They gain
changes towards life, sharing, affection, great amounts of knowledge from them and
take challenges and to make also make great bonds that remain for life.
adjustments. He learns from their
experiences which helps him or her in
the future and inculcates good values in
the child.
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 ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL
What was the effect of The parents’ habits play a vital
your habits (good or role on their child. If the parent
bad) on your child? Did has any of the bad habits then
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you change any of your they cannot stop their children
habits for your child? to do so and it puts a bad effect
on the child’s life whereas if the
parent doesn’t have any bad
habit then even the child
becomes a good human
imitating them.
Do you think that you The parents are the role model
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are a role model for for their child till their childhood
your child or did you set but after that the child is given
someone else as one? full liberty to choose their role
model that may be their parent
or someone else.
Are there any Yes, there are some basic rules
basic/fundamental rules that we would impose on our
and restrictions you child. The rules can be to
QUESTION 13
would impose on your respect your elders and the
child? Can you justify child should inform their
them? parents before they go
anywhere with anybody.
ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA
Our good habits definitely make positive
impact on our children but sometimes
our children make us realize about some
of our habits that need to be changed. It
is rightly said that child is the father of
the man. Child learns from parents and
parents also learn from their children.
This is a continuous process of
improvement that goes on and on.
Although we taught family values to our
children but we have never tried to
become their role model. We feel that
our Spiritual Guru is the role model for
us and also for our children.
No system can function without rules
and discipline. So, we also imposed
basic discipline on our children and
asked them to follow rules of the family
and the society. We tried to inculcate
ethics and values in our children. They
will become responsible citizens and
good human beings only by following a
disciplined life style.
ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA
Children imitate their parents a lot and
many of their habits are incorporated by
children. The parents should set a good
example for their children by doing what
they feel are “good habits” in front of their
children. This process might even change
their own actual habits!
The role models of children keep changing
with time. During infancy, as they don’t
know other people, parents are the role
models. As they are exposed to the world,
their role models may change (mine was
Bob the Builder!).
Some rules are important for upbringing
(like bedtime, not taking things from
strangers, touching feet of elders etc.) for
the safety, health and general moral values
of child.
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 ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA

If you set a boundary We should not be very strict All the boundaries are dependent on a If you set a boundary once, it is not okay to
for the child, is it okay with our decision and particular situation. So, it can be bend that. This is because this instability of
to break it now and sometimes it’s okay to break the changed according to the situation but conveniently changing the rules can be
QUESTION 14

then (for example, if I boundary that we set for our not for the convenience of the parents damaging. The boundaries should be clear
say one day, "don't play children. or children. Children should also try to and unequivocal.
in the street" but understand that their parents always try
another day I say, "it is to take best care of them and provide
ok to play in the street them the best possible facilities.
if I am watching you.")?
Do you think it is okay Yes, it’s sometimes better to lie Sometimes we need to withhold some It is okay to withhold certain truths children
to withhold certain to the children so that it doesn’t truths as child may not understand the can’t process emotionally. But it’s wrong to
QUESTION 15

truths from children? Is affect their emotions. depth or the reason for it. As the child tell lies about world just to justify your own
it okay to lie to them? grows, we should share the information opinions. For example, I should not just say
with them. But under any that studying commerce is useless even if I
circumstances, we should not lie to feel so, it should the child’s decision.
them.
Do you think your child In their childhood children Child should always view his/her It is important for the child to see us as
should view you as an should consider us elder than parents as their guides but should also elders during childhood for them to listen
equal? Should this view them and not equals but as they be allowed to behave like friends under and follow our advice. But this view should
change with their age? grow older and become mature some situations. Child should have faith change once they are capable of their own
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they should consider us as their
equals.
in his parents rather than getting scary decision making, but respect for parents
of them. When child commits some should never leave them.
mistake, parent should guide and
correct him but when he is playing with
you, he should be treated as a friend.
This view definitely changes with age
and parents become friendlier with
their grown-up children.

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 ADULT 1: MADHULIKA AGARWAL ADULT 2: ANURADHA GUPTA ME: SHIKHAR GUPTA

How much would you We would let them choose Child should be allowed to identify As answered earlier, if we let them find their
indulge in helping your whatever they want to do in his/her capabilities and interests and potential, there shouldn’t be much problem
child choose their their life. But we will see that parents need to help them by providing in this decision. Parents are always there to
career? Would you let our child should have the caliber all the possible facilities and help but it’s the child’s decision, as it’s
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them take risky for whatever he/she wants to environment for the same. It is also his/her life.
options? do. We will provide the child important to guide the child in choosing “Not taking risk is the biggest risk”. If the
with the pros and cons of the his career and support him in the best child wants to take a risky option, he/she
career, but never force them possible manner. If the child is confident must be prepared for the coming future.
into anything. to take up some option then we should Parents would always be by the child’s side,
support him even if the option involves even if disagreeing.
some risk.
After adulthood, would We would let them be their own Adulthood is a phase where a child can Parents should not make decisions for their
you still make decisions boss. We would still be there for judge between good and bad. But then, child in adulthood, as he/she has his/her
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for your child or let them when they need us. he or she always needs guidance to
them be their own make decisions. As parents, we should
boss? not impose our decisions on them else
we should guide them so that they do
not choose the wrong path in their life.
own views and would make decisions
accordingly. However, the child should seek
counsel from his/her parents, seeking their
experience to make informed decisions.