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Ruiming Li 

Professor Turner 

English 114B 

18 May 2018 
Gender impacts our society 

Gender is inequality in our society. Female and male play two different roles,​ both of

them was act two different personal characters. They have to fit into the roles and play who

they are.​ Sex and biology like the male require them of their masculinity to show how strong

they are like alcohol, muscle, power, and passion and have a good job. So, the female was

emotional,​ make up, high heels,​ long hairs and stayed home after married that was more

outside defined them​.​ Those of the information shows how we look at in our social for the

Gender mean. Based on the readings, people use different mindsets to show what it is gender.

When we born, our parents tell us who we are. Gender is should be equal in our society. 

Female and male are two types of gender and two different roles. In our world, we

create between female and male. So, gender shows how people when they think sex

relationship. Gender and humanity always impact our society. Humanity is progress towards

gender equality, but gender is towards to the sex and can't separate them out. Our parents

made the way how we look at self in the society.  

Based on the six readings, I would like to choose from the articles by Gail Dines,

Emily W. Kane and Michael Kimmel. Those have the similar told how the men or boys and

women in the different views form society. It could come from a younger age, our parents

controlled us what kind of toys we should play and shouldn’t play. Also, when a boy grows up

and becomes a man need to show out the masculinity for alcohol. For women, they want to be
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looking like femininity and the strongest image of sexuality with the porn culture. Our society

is pressure what we have to do and can’t do what you want to do. 

In the article, Gail Dines, “Visible or Invisible: Growing Up Female in Porn Culture”

(2011) is the magazine to show the women how to using porn sex, change their ideas like lose

weight could let the women felt their body skinny, sext, and hot. They will dress up more

femininity try to buy good clothes, skincare, and makeup. The porn culture gives the men and

women with highly image of the sex. ​So, that's why the magazine will affect how we looks at

the sex and gender. Women are less right to control the men, so in the article tell us when men

who do something bad and women still accept it. A big role for the women is conformity

when a woman who look beautiful, sexy, hot or even skinny would have chances to find their

sex partner. Most of the women want to lose weight and look at the magazines to customer

them up to hide themselves. So, it was a cheap way to help them look good and customer their

favorite star. Also, the women should play their role in the home. After they become a

housewife to take care of children and husband, sometimes women's whole life will be around

at home. The author wants us to know how the public look at the sex and women mindsets of

their self what it is. Also, it is very close to our recent culture the idea of the porn culture

affects the women. For now, our life couldn’t leave always from the social media that was the

ways affect how the women thinks of the sexuality and femininity. 

In another article, Emily W. Kane “No Way My Boys Going to Be Like That”:

Parents’ Responses to Children’s gender Non Purity” (2012) is the parents to make decide for

their children what kind of toys and action into gender. ​One of the examples from white low

income family a heterosexual mother, she worried about her children wears an apron and play

a baby doll. This mother thinks that playing doll is usually for the girl and want her son to

play the teacups. Another example, from Asian American middle class a heterosexual father
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when he and his son go to the cloth stores. He will always try to stay with the Powderpuff

girls, never wear a pink shirt and much have to wear a blue shirt. It makes the children to

know how they think our society, what the girl and boy like.​ If the boy who play doll or wears

a dress, their parents hate their children doing that. ​Also, when they are dancing or doing

some action like a girl.​ Their parents will think their children will become gay. Most of the

parents want the boy to have masculinity act like a man can’t cry at all. ​From the whole upper

middle class a heterosexual father, He thinks that it was their failure as a father when his son

become a gay. Those parents will get their children for the high pressure when their sons

become a gay and hide it up. Also, if their children not inserting play doll and want to pay

with another boy that is a message to tell their son like a boy not interesting girls. Those

parents want their children to keep always from femininity and should act like a man. The

author wants us to open mind for the gender and not old mindsets about what is a boy or girl

should be act like. ​The gender performance that gives homosexuality is not the only way to

show how the children their gender.  

Last article, Michael Kimmel “The Rites of Almost-Men: Binge Drinking, Fraternity

Hazing, and the Elephant Walk” (2009) is about the men need to show out their masculinity in

their life. For the example, from a college student Nick when he was turning 21. On his

birthday party go to the bar and have to drink more he can. That should show our society like

the trash when doing that spends the time to drinking. Also, drinking is wasted time, money,

and dangerous like car assistant, so it was no actually fun for that. When congress passes the

Uniform Drinking Age Act, college students who are turning 21 on their birthday party have

to drink. But, some of like 38% will drink before 21. The big problem in the college is hazing

around the campus, when to join a club or doing something like not drink others will hazing.

Also, it points out the masculinity. One of the important things to show out strong is to drink
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in the college life. That know other students will adore and know you is masculinity. When in

a college life, it need to join a fraternity that can have a full college experience. The author

wants us to know how those alcohol is very bad for us and that's not the only ways to show

masculinity. We don’t need to pressure to join something that don’t like it.  

In those​ three articles,​ the main common idea is people looks at gender and sex have

different views. In our society, the parent’s wants their children need to be clearly show

masculinity and feminine. The magazines can teach women the porn culture about sex and

they followed what it did​. College students will drink when they truing 21, even for that

showed their masculinity. ​That would let others think we should follow this rule how to act

like a woman or a man. ​The authors want us to open the mindset need to think more than one

way. The different views from the three articles: parents think their children can’t be gay and

their sons can’t be femininity, the women they need to be confidence who they are and outside

their body is not the only way to show, drinking and hazing something that will be in the

college and can do something else look masculinity not be drinking. Parents, college students,

women, and men they all have different views, expect the children. We still keep those mind

sex is a big problem, because many of the children will feel less confident and gender become

unequal impact our society.  

In my own experience that in my childhood age, my mom always wants me to have

long hair and I can't cut short hair style. ​My mom, she thinks short hair is related to the boy.

She wants me to look more feminine with the long hair. That could be from the article Emily

W. Kane “No Way My Boys Going to Be Like That” :Parents’ Responses to Children’s

gender Non Purity” (2012) is the similarity form those parents how to look at their children.

Our parents like to decide us what we going to do and not to do. Another experience, when in

China that most of the people need to drink in social engagement. If you don't drink people
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will think you're not appearing. It was similar form the Michael Kimmel’s article how the

college students drink with hazing. 

In short, gender and sex can have m​any defined in our society.​ But, that was not the only

thing t​o define who you are or who you will become in the future a male or female​. Our parents

can’t design who we are. ​Social create how the women and men should be act like and follow

their own roles. So, both genders have their own role play in our society that was not equal need

to be change. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Work Cited:  

Dines, Gail. “Visible or Invisible: Growing Up Female in Porn Culture. Gender, Race, and

Class in Media,” pp.252-260, 2011. 

 
 
Kane, W. Emily. “No Way My Boys Are Going to Be Like That” : Parents’ Responses to

Children's Gender Nonconformity,” The Gender Trap, pp 91-97, 2012. 

 
 
Kimmel, Michael. “The Rites of Almost-Men: Binge Drinking, Fraternity Hazing, and the

Elephant Walk,” pp 140-256, 2009.