Cosmopolitan Australia June 2017

CONTENTS COVER
STORIES
JUNE 2017
20 Olivia Palermo
The It-girl’s no-fail guide
to effortless cool
29 Affordable style 258
best winter buys you
need now
68 The 8-min no-cardio

workout… Hallelujah!
108 Will blog for Botox
The influencers’ secret
exposed
124 Hot hair refresh
Boring hair begone!
135 Come again? 10 things
to say during sex
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this month
54 Beauty under $20 100 ‘My ex tried to

THIS MONTH STYLE 56 Beauty Q&A murder me’
8 From the team 29 Can you handle it? 104 19 things you can
160 Horoscopes 30 How to wear stop doing
162 This is me 32 Netflix & chill
BODY 110 Is it really written in
59 What’s all this zen? the stars?
34 Anatomy of a shoe
60 Late? Stop that!
THE BUZZ 36 Layer like a blogger
64 Breathe to beat THE LOOK
11 What everyone’s stress
talking about BEAUTY 66 The gym bags you’ll
114 Come away with me
14 We need to talk
about period
43 Oh, honey! carry all day
LOVE & LUST GET
solidarity
46 While you were
sleeping
70 Glass half full
142 Can you flip a
OLIVIA’S
18 Marky ponders
50 Tangerine makeup WORK rebound into a LOOK
relationship? Revlon Kiss Balm in Sweet
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80 7 things to do in is so irresistible Strobing Kit, $14.95
the workplace 146 Ask him anything Rimmel London
86 Burgundy is the Scandaleyes Reloaded
148 Sex Q&A Waterproof Mascara,
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88 The career 180 Maybelline New York Brow
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‘I got carried away FEATURES 151 Keep calm and eat
156 Travel European-
and accidentally 92 The fame addicts style
bit down… hard’ 98 Outrage fatigue
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to go in a different direction, and Cosmo was
‘The best thing about working at John Cusack. OK it wasn’t exactly like that,
Cosmo is the spirit of family that but if it weren’t for a cancelled meeting in that
we all have. We work bloody hard, other direction, I wouldn’t be here.’
but doing it with people that you – MEL EVANS, NEWS & ENTERTAINMENT EDITOR
love makes it so much better.’
– DENIS TODOROVIC, STYLE EDITOR
SO
COSMO!
Meet the team behind the magazine
‘WE’VE GOT good news for team, but we’re a passionate
‘After all the hard
work of getting
everything together
and the stress
of deadlines and
getting it perfect,
I love opening the
‘When I got the call, I was shooting
and promptly jumped around the
studio – much to the confusion of
the team who put it down to
caffeine consumption.’ – EMMA
READ, ACTING FASHION DIRECTOR
you…’ read an email from one (read on for more stories mag, turning to my
Cosmopolitan. I’d just reached about working at Cosmo). pages, getting that
the top of Machu Picchu (after Everything we do is driven warm feeling inside
a four-day hike) and finally by you, for you. Cosmo has long and having a proud
moment.’ – CASSIE
got a bar of reception. I hadn’t been at the forefront of change LONGWORTH, MARKET
showered in days, my feet and that’s something we feel EDITOR
were covered in blisters and particularly strongly about
my body felt like it had been – creating waves and making ‘When I found out I
hit by a bus. But it was one some goddamn noise. The best got the job at Cosmo
I called my sister and
of the greatest moments of thing about working here? literally said, “Don’t
my life to date. That ‘good It’s the overwhelming feeling book our flights to go
news’ was being offered the that anything is possible if we home – I got the job!”
position of features director are passionate about it. and teared up from
for the magazine. I squealed We hope you enjoy the joy and excitement.’
– ANA ZUPANOSKA,
and then cried hysterically. issue – we put our heart and FASHION OFFICE
Working for Cosmo is my soul into it. COORDINATOR
dream job and that sentiment
is shared by every person in Shari Nementzik,
this office. We’re not a big features director

from the team
‘This team can talk

about anything! They
know more about my
love life than any of
my close friends.
‘I love the I’ve literally had my
constant editor and beauty
stream of director swiping
hilarious through my Tinder!’
conversations – CASSIDY LOANE,
at Cosmo – BEAUTY & LIFESTYLE
I have learnt EDITOR
a lot.’ – SALLY
HUNWICK,
ACTING BEAUTY ‘Cosmo empowers women
DIRECTOR and that’s what I love most.
We debate the hard stuff,
speak against wrongs and
strive to make a difference
every single day.’ – SHARI
NEMENTZIK, FEATURES DIRECTOR
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brand that’s passionate
about everything from
celebrity to sex to
serious social issues.’
– HANNAH LIDBURY,
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every day knowing
I am going to have
some crazy tale about
an escapade thrown
my way to digest all
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COORDINATOR
‘When I got this job,

I thought, Finally I can
‘I think the founder talk about sex, periods
of Cosmo, Helen and feminism all day
Gurley Brown, is every day! That’s my
a hero to women dream right there.’
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are the best arcade games, because you win every
time.’ Well, Monica is about to get lucky, because
the contraptions are becoming an integral part of
our lives. Huge in Japan (stocking everything from
batteries to canned bread), BrewDog in London
has one with craft beer, while Patterns in Brighton
has one peddling art. In Australia, we’ve got a
vending-machine-only shop, Vitamin Warehouse,
flogging everything from phone cases to medicine.
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The Aussie, 24, may have swapped Puberty Blues for Minkoff has joined the selfie
Hollywood, but she still gets starstruck by Bindi Irwin case-brigade, releasing her
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You’re in NZ film Pork Pie (out with the consistent development to demand the involvement of
look like a Kardashian and
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with the typical accent pisstake? Unfortunately, progression to invest in female employment but SHUT UP AND TAKE OUR
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but I still think society has a Liberation is all about
Scholarship on your fifth attempt A couple of minutes ago when
liberation of the ‘O’, so
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It’s not enough that they
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IN NEED OF YOUR NEXT BINGE? THE ‘X’ CHROMOSOMES ARE BRINGING IT just scare your pants off
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pitched violins and blood
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Kelsey meets
the hardworking
Mamma’s Laef
ladies. The pads are
designed to be
inconspicuous –
they could easily
be mistaken for
hankies!
WE NEED TO OK, I ADMIT IT, I’m bizarrely

passionate about periods. I talk about
mine incessantly; I angrily complain
TALK ABOUT
about tampons being taxed; I even
wear tampon earrings at that time
of the month. I started donating pads
to local shelters when I realised that
homeless Australian women couldn’t
access them. But for all that, I admit
PERIOD
I never thought far beyond my own
coastline. Which is why I was shocked
when I read that just a few hours away,
girls in Vanuatu routinely miss school
during their periods – not because
SOLIDARITY
they don’t want an education, but
because of a lack of basic hygiene and
understanding about their bodies.
These girls – these future women
– miss out on months of education
every single year.
In Vanuatu with CARE, Kelsey Garlick Worldwide, there are currently

31 million girls out of primary school
talks about periods, education and why and 34 adolescent women out of high
women supporting other women needs school, according to UNESCO’s 2012
Education for All Global Monitoring
to extend beyond our borders Report. If you don’t think that matters,
just think of all you learn at school,
just by being there. You learn how to
voice your opinions, how to negotiate,
how to maintain healthy relationships

cosmo cares
LEFT A high
and friendships; you learn about your school class-
place in the world. UNESCO states room. RIGHT
that ‘ensuring that girls stay in school Mamma’s Laef
use diagrams
is one of the most effective ways of to educate girls
averting child marriage and early about their
births.’ And these girls are missing bodies.
out on all that because they have a
reproductive system?
I’m not the only one upset by
this. NGO CARE International in
Vanuatu began distributing sanitary school with dignity’, and ‘securing
items to ni-Vanuatu women in the their future as financially independent
aftermath of 2015’s Cyclone Pam, women’ in the long run.
and realised it wasn’t just a post- The six women who make up
cyclone problem – it was a monthly Mamma’s Laef hand-sew 150 fabric
problem. Cyclone Pam passed, but pads every week, and also help run
Aunt Flo wasn’t going anywhere. the awareness sessions. ‘We have to
With my own monthly visitor in teach our girls so they know this is
tow, I visited with CARE to learn part of life for women,’ says
what Australian women can do to local mamma Marysa.
help our sisters-in-uteri. ‘We want all the girls to
Remember the first time you got know, they can be president. ABOVE Kelsey
your period? Imagine you had never They can be what they want flew to island
heard anything about it – you just to be,’ adds co-worker Mary. Tanna to visit
schools. LEFT
suddenly starting bleeding. That’s If we want women to be The girls’ MHM
how most girls in the rural areas of truly equal in the eyes of the education starts
Vanuatu experience their first period world, we need to start with in primary
school.
– or sikmun, translation ‘sick moon’. the foundations of society:
Florence, 18, admits that her initial education. And we need to
reaction was fear, and tells me that remove any obstacles in the
for many years she was too ashamed way. In some parts of the
to go to school during her sikmun, world, periods are still an
due to cultural taboos surrounding it. obstacle. Let’s make sure it doesn’t Mamma’s Laef do all
their sewing from this
But even if she had, she’d have been stay that way. Because women lift shipping container.
using ripped-up cloth or leaves in up other women… and women
lieu of pads, and would have had no begin as girls.
private toilet to change them. To donate to CARE
CARE in Vanuatu’s Menstrual Australia’s crowdfunding
Hygiene Management project (MHM) campaign, go to
– part of their Water, Sanitation and Care.org.au/pads.
Hygiene (WASH) program – tackles
these issues head-on. They build girls’ The packs include
toilets with wash areas, run awareness two pads and
sessions to educate girls about their eight liners.
bodies, and have teamed up with local
organisation Mamma’s Laef to provide
reusable pads and other sanitary items
to girls in school – all with the aim
THANKS TO VIRGIN AUSTRALIA
of keeping them there. Now, Florence

goes to school during her period.
CARE in Vanuatu’s program
director Charlie Damon says the
WASH and MHM projects are about
‘allowing girls in Vanuatu to go to

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friends, and
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a good time that I
waltzed right into
the men’s bathroom
and didn’t realise it.
While I was in the
stall, I started to
hear several men
going, “Ahem, ahem!”
I was so clueless I
didn’t think anything
of it. It wasn’t until
I’d made it to the
sink to wash my
hands that I realised
there were five guys
at the urinals, staring
at me awkwardly.’
– KRISTA, 25

the buzz
2 ‘One night, I got really 7 ‘MY DENTIST IS SUPER CUTE. AT THE END OF
drunk and decided to try
a new, sexy move on my MY LAST APPOINTMENT, I THOUGHT HE WAS GOING
boyfriend. I somehow had IN FOR A HUG, SO I HUGGED HIM BACK. IT TURNS
the bright idea to tease him
a little by doing this tongue
OUT, HE WAS ACTUALLY JUST TRYING TO TAKE
thing in his ear, where I’d MY BIB OFF.’ – MARLI, 29
wiggle it around – sort of like 5
making out with his ear. I got ‘While I was on the
carried away and accidentally table for a bikini wax,
bit down hard. Almost straight my aesthetician said
away, his whole ear swelled to me, “Nice pink
up. Oops.’ – ANJALI, 21 colour!” I freaked out,
because I thought she
was talking about my
GUY CONFESSION vag. Who does that? I
gave her a seriously
3 ‘When I was 19, I was annoyed look. But
on the way home, I
hitting on a woman who
was older than me. I lied looked at my nails
and realised she must
about my age and told her have been talking
I was 25 and a film producer. about my manicure.’
She asked me what company – GEORGIA, 20
I worked for, and I dropped
the name of a company where
I did work… as a new intern.
Later, I found out that she
8
was engaged to one of my ‘We opened up a restaurant my brother’s boss was sitting.
bosses at the film-production together, and on our first night, I took one beer off the tray, and
company.’ – JUSTIN, 21 I volunteered to help the wait- the rest all fell onto his crotch!
staff. I got this sexy dress, and I immediately ran into the
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I’d been practising holding a bathroom and hid.’ – ASHLEY, 27
4 ’I WAS RECOVERING tray the whole day. I was so

confident – I completely didn’t
‘It was bad. Her brother had
started a new job, and his boss
FROM PNEUMONIA 6 get why people think serving was a high-powered attorney
drinks is so challenging. Once – not a great guy for us to be
WHEN I MET THIS ‘My brother-in-law the restaurant opened, I put six spilling beers on during our
and three nephews
HOT GUY WHILE I WAS were taking showers beers on a tray, and I strutted opening night.’
over to serve this table where
OUT AT A BAR WITH at my house because
their bathroom was
– FRANCO, 27
FRIENDS. HE AND I being remodelled.

I forgot they were
STARTED MAKING OUT,
WHEN I COUGHED UP
coming by, and while
I was out, I received
a text message from
9 ‘I’d been on an online-dating
spree, where I was going out
AND SPIT UP A HUGE my brother-in-law with a new person as often as
I could, and this dude cancelled
GLOB OF PHLEGM IN HIS with a picture of the
vibrator I’d left by the on me three times in one week.
MOUTH. HE STOPPED tub. He captioned it, He texted me a fourth time,
“Your eight-year-old cancelling again, and I lost it.
AND ASKED ME IF nephew wants to I went off at him, cursing him
THAT REALLY JUST know what this is.”
I felt awful.’
out, telling him what a terrible
HAPPENED. I WANTED – AMY, 28
person he is. Turns out, the text
was actually from some other
TO DIE ON THE SPOT.’ guy, who was only cancelling
– DONNA, 39 for the first time.’ – KELSEA, 25

the buzz
MARKY PONDERS So it’s settled… utepils is the

new hygge. I knew it would be.
But it’s not all bad – we have
some pretty choice words in
English as well. Pretty ones
like ‘diaphanous’ and funny
ones like ‘bumbershoot’*. But
the most important ones – the
most life-changing, heart-
filling, soul-affirming ones –
are some of the smallest ones
we have. But we don’t say them
enough. Not nearly enough!
TO LIVE BY
These three little words are
the most significant thing you
can say to your mother, brother,
lover or… OK, nothing else
rhymes with mother. But they
are even more important than
paying your taxes or voting
in an election. Although not
doing those could land you in
people’. That’s right, we need What: Kummerspeck… jail, so do them too.
14 English words to explain excess weight gained from And I know what you’re
one Scandinavian one. But why emotional overeating. This thinking, but ‘I love you’ is
stop at plundering one word? literally means ‘grief bacon’. not where it’s at. This is bigger
We’re not quitters. Let’s take Where is it from: Germany and more meaningful than that.
them all! Here are my top five Why we need it: Because I’ve Because in English we say ‘I
Emma Markezic contenders for the word that got some grief bacon in my love cheeseburgers’ with the
contemplates ALL THE should trend next: pants and everyone’s invited. same vigour we say, ‘I love my
WORDS to discover mum’. We throw love around
the three most What: Shemomedjamo… What: Cavoli Riscaldati… like it’s the goon bladder from
important ones you roughly translates to, ‘I when you’ve attempted a $6 wine box from Aldi. No,
accidentally ate the whole to revive an unworkable those three magic words are
can say to a person… thing.’ relationship. Basically simply… I trust you.
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Anyone who’s anyone has Why we need it: Because we cabbage’. you, we’re saying so much more
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little hygge. Because just like and that’s dangerous. Why we need it: Because and acknowledge you and have
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shoes and movie stars, certain no one should be dating confidence in you as a person.’
words can come in and out of What: Koi No Yokan… the reheated cabbage. That’s right – 14 words that
fashion – and right now hygge sense upon first meeting can be summed up in one neat
is one of those words. It’s the someone that the two of you What: Utepils… to sit little confab. I guess maybe
‘naked shoe’ of words. So what are going to eventually fall outside and enjoy a beer English isn’t so bad after all.
is hygge? It’s a Danish word in love. on a sunny day. You just have to trust that it
that means, ‘creating a warm Where is it from: Japan Where is it from: Norway will come good in the end.
atmosphere and enjoying the Why we need it: Because it’s Why we need it: Because (*Umbrella. Bumbershoot
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Olivia Palermo IS STILL LIVING THE ‘IT-GIRL’ DREAM WE’VE
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STORR MEETS A VERY MODERN (AND GLAMOROUS) MUSE >

celebrity

’I was very aware of
fashion from a young age’
‘What? Really?’ I persist.
‘For now it’s at home. It’s very
organised.’ There’s a pause. ‘I
have my own system…’
She is as frustratingly coy
about the system as she is about
how many items of clothes she
gets given or even what colour
luggage she carries. (She will,
however, enthusiastically disclose
that it’s Rimowa and that’s mainly
because you can stack the cases,
which is handy as she usually
carries her own luggage.) There
is colour-coding, I ascertain. And
grouping of separates.
‘Mine is probably different
than other people’s – I don’t have
a seasonal wardrobe because I’m
in different climates all year. But
colour-coordinating helps,’ she
says. ‘That’s a good way to start,
and keep jackets together and
pants together. And to consolidate
space, use those velvet hangers.
They’re cheap [and] they’re thin.’
She’s equally non-committal
when I ask her how much stuff
she gets sent when she travels to
Paris for the shows, as well as the
number of times she’ll change
outfits to accommodate all the
hungry fashion bloggers who
live for a shot of her mid-stride
between collections.
‘Honestly, my schedule is so
tight. I have a show on the hour
every hour, and appointments.
So my priority is the designers
and the collections. Of course it’s
nice to change once in a while,
and support the designers, if you
can, by changing, but there’s not
always enough time in the day.’

celebrity
When I meet her publicist of

10 years, Barbara, the next day,
as well as Jillian, the editorial
director of her website, Olivia
palermo.com, however, they are
more forthcoming. ‘She zip-locks
everything when she’s travelling,’
says Barbara, miming a zip-lock
bag. ‘Foundations in one zip-lock,
makeup brushes in another…’
‘And then she pops the zip-
locks inside these monogrammed
pouches that she has,’ chimes in
Jillian. ‘We’ve all been inspired
to do the same.’
As though to prove the point,
Barbara gets out her phone and
OLIVIA WEARS (OPPOSITE PAGE) SCARF: (WORN AS TURBAN) BANANA REPUBLIC. ROBE: THE FINE COTTON COMPANY. (THIS PAGE) JUMPER: PRABUL GURUNG. BRIEFS: HANES.COM.
shows me a pap shot of Palermo

in an elegant white jumper and
skirt. ‘See that?’ she says. Barbara
swipes left and a second later, a
bedroom selfie of Barbara appears
in the same outfit.
‘My style has changed a lot,
too, since I started working for
her,’ adds Jillian. ‘There’s so much
I have learnt from her about style.
There’s a nuance to everything
she does. For example, I’ve learnt
the importance of tailoring. When
people see her in high street they
wonder why it doesn’t look the
same when they wear it. But it’s
because she gets most things
tailored – even high street.’
It may not surprise you to
learn that the sort of woman who
gets her Zara trousers tailored she had high hopes of becoming a to her childhood friend Jonathan
comes from a family with an eye sports commentator after college. Simkhai, a designer, to whom she
for detail. Palermo’s mother, Lynn, ‘I was very studious at school. I was close at school] really strived
is an interior decorator, and her was very into sports.’ There’s a to be creative and that evolved as
aunt worked in the couture pause. ‘You know, everything was we got older…’
department for Doyle auction a bit harder for me because I grew Straight out of college, though,
house for 25 years. up with a learning disability.’ she was cast in The City, a frothy
‘I grew up going to antique It’s the first time she has ever precursor to the scripted reality
roadshows and trade shows and spoken about this. When gently shows that have since followed.
auction houses so I was very pressed for more information she The show created a glacial
aware of fashion from a young retreats at lightning speed. princess villain out of Palermo,
age,’ she tells me. ‘I don’t want to go into details who worked in the PR department
At school, however, it was but… what was wonderful is that of Diane Von Furstenberg. I ask
sports that Palermo gravitated people can be very creative in her if that moniker has been hard
towards. And indeed at one point different ways. And we [she refers to shake off. She goes quiet. >

celebrity
‘It was a wonderful learning Mascara: YSL

experience. And going through
all of that gave me a very clear
direction of what I wanted to focus
on.’ She pauses. ‘I don’t have any-
thing negative to say about it.’
She’s equally sanguine about
the title of ‘It-girl’, which has
followed her since she became a
public figure. ‘I’m not opposed Candles:
to it. I have nothing to say other Diptyque
than we all evolve. I wear many Baies
hats these days!’
One thing she will say about
her time on The City is that it
afforded her a front-row seat at
one of the most famous fashion
businesses in the world: Diane
Von Furstenberg. It was here, she
says, she came to understand how
a fashion empire is run.
Palermo’s
ADDITIONAL REPORTING BY MEL EVANS. PHOTOGRAPHY BY MAX ABADIAN. FASHION DIRECTORS: AMY BANNERMAN & KRISTEN INGERSOLL. HAIR BY SEIJI/THE
‘I would spend time under-
WALL GROUP USING BUMBLE AND BUMBLE. MAKEUP BY DANIEL MARTIN/THE WALL GROUP FOR DIOR BEAUTY. PRODUCTION BY A+ PRODUCTIONS. FASHION
standing the business and how
a fashion house is run every day.
It was a really good education.’
This is Palermo all over – a
ASSISTANT: MADDY ALFORD. OLIVIA WEARS T-SHIRT: REBECCA MINKOFF. JEANS: MOTHER. EARRINGS: ASHLEY WILLIAMS. SPLASH NEWS
studious collector of experiences.
She says she regrets nothing and,
strangely enough, I believe her,
because she is, in many ways, the Workout
ultimate curator. She has an innate Gear:
ability to choose and find the very Jonathan
best from a sea of dross. Every job Simkhai x
(and she has done them all, from
THE ESSENTIALS OF A Sunglasses:
Westward Carbon 38,
magazine junior to model), and VERY BEAUTIFUL LIFE Leaning, Fendi, Koral
every experience, she has used in Le Specs Dog coats (for

some way to create her own brand. Travel essential: Mr Butler):
Zip-lock bags Canine Styles
As our time draws to a close,
I ask her to take a quick look at Jeans: Skinny- Lip balm: Burt’s Bronzer:
my Instagram. I’ve been told it’s cut Paige, Black Bees, Vaseline, Charlotte
Orchid… Honest Beauty Tilbury
not very good, I say. She studies tinted balm Filmstar
it with frowning concentration, Bronze &
and suggests I could think about Lipstick: Ciaté
Glow
London Satin
some borders and maybe a couple Kiss Lipstick
of fashion shots. in Praline
That evening, I post a picture
Trainers:
of a pair of earrings, with borders. Nike, Max&Co
Like I said, she is the woman who Perfume: Jo Hardest-
can sell us anything. # Malone Orange working item in
Olivia Palermo was shot at the Blossom; her wardrobe:
Presidential Suite of The Pierre Annick Goutal Black Paige
Vent de Folie
Hotel, New York. leather leggings

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W H I LE
YOU
W ERE
L E E I NG
S
P
Think you can get away with under six hours sleep
a night and still look radiant? Think again. Getting
your beauty sleep is an actual thing
S leep, and whether we

are getting enough, has
become a modern day
obsession. But instead
of tucking ourselves into bed
early to get the seven to eight
hours the experts recommend,
into our shut-eye, eventually
we will pay for it in the form
of health issues such as illness,
depression, anxiety, weight
gain, infertility – or just not
2 diabetes. Obesity is also
linked to lack of shut-eye.’
Our skin is affected, too.
‘You need sleep to rejuvenate
your organs such as your liver
onslaught of UV, pollution,
smoke, smog and stress that’s
thrown at it during the day.
As well as being the body’s
opportunity to rest, repair
we’re slicing into our slumber being able to keep our eyes and heart,’ says functional and restore, night-time – and
in order to squeeze in other, open when 3pm rolls around. wellness practitioner Darren your bedroom – is also a safe
more ‘important’, things. ‘Sleep is vitally important Cox. ‘If these aren’t at their and clean environment where
With stress at an all-time to our physical health,’ says best, neither is your skin.’ ‘our skin is not prone to any
high, workloads getting even Dr Carmel Harrington, sleep It might seem as though disruption or attack by UV,
heavier and total smartphone expert at Sleep for Health. our complexion is doing a lot pollution or repeated touch’,
dependence the norm, sleep ‘Without it we are susceptible of nothing while you sleep, but says Ultraceuticals founder
seems the most obvious part to infections and more likely the wee hours is actually when and formulator Dr Geoffrey
of our day to scrimp on. The to develop certain cancers as skin goes into damage control Heber. ‘Products applied at
problem is, if we regularly cut well as heart disease and type after the 16-hour (or more) night can act uninterrupted.’

beauty
It’s a story of
In order to rebuild itself, sleeping beauty
during the night-time, the and her hero… hero
body suppresses its release of production of [pimple- and product, that is.
cortisol (which protects skin acne-causing] sebum.’ The
from free radicals throughout result, come morning, is skin
the day) and boosts its release that’s not only tired, but also
of human growth hormone (or inflamed, prone to premature asleep, while hidden stressors,
HGH) to create the perfect ageing, and spots. such as hormonal issues, liver
environment for collagen ‘THE WEE If you don’t feel as though function, infections, blood
making and tissue repair.
But if you regularly skip
HOURS IS you’re getting enough pillow
time, you’re not alone. ‘Studies
sugar and the environment
of the room, wake people up
your Zs – or toss and turn all
night – cortisol will kick in,
WHEN SKIN indicate one in three people
will suffer a sleep problem at
during the night.’
Designed to work with
causing those tissue-repairing GOES INTO some time in their lives,’ says your body’s natural rhythms
growth hormones to call it a
DAMAGE Dr Harrington. and get the most out of your
PHOTOGRAPHY BY NICK ONKEN
night. Literally. ‘Not getting ‘People either can’t get beauty sleep, more potent
enough sleep cuts that crucial
repair time short,’ warns Dr
CONTROL’ to sleep or they have trouble
staying asleep,’ adds Cox.
night-shift formulations get
to work during the small hours
Harrington. ‘Sleeplessness ‘There are obvious stressors when blood flow and cell turn-
increases nighttime cortisol like work and relationships, over are at their peak. All you
levels, which increases the which keep us from falling have to do is sleep. >

ON NIGHT
TH E WORKERS
CLOCK Night is the perfect time to enlist formulations
with ingredients that don’t love the light, like:
RETINOL
A derivative of vitamin A, retinol
works on all skin types and is one of
IT’S NOT ONLY HOW LONG YOU SLEEP THAT’S
IMPORTANT, BUT WHEN… HERE’S WHAT’S GOING the only ingredients proven to reverse
ON AT SKIN LEVEL WHILE YOU’RE SLEEPING the signs of ageing. Use it two or three
nights a week when you start out to
let your skin adjust a bit more slowly.
Try Ultraceuticals Ultra A Skin
Perfecting Serum, $125.
AHAS & BHAS

Both AHAs (think glycolic, lactic and
9pm: 10-11pm: 11pm-12am: mandelic acid), and BHAs (hello salicylic
This is the ‘evening You’re in light Your body is now in acid) are the perfect actives to apply at
phase’, where your sleep now. Your deep sleep phase, night. AHAs ‘unglue’ dead skin cells,
skin gets ready for heart rate slows a key time for your
while BHAs ‘de-gunk’ pores to leave
sleep. Melatonin and blood flow complexion because
increases, boosting increases, which it’s when the body skin smoother and clearer by morning.
our skin’s ability oxygenates the suppresses the Try Drunk Elephant T.L.C. Framboos
to repair itself, so skin to deliver release of cortisol Glycolic Night Serum, $132.
make sure you have nutrients and rid it and encourages the
your night-time of toxic build-up. release of HGH to
products on by now. repair and rebuild
the skin. ENZYMES
Able to boost the skin’s natural
cell renewal cycle, enzymes are
good for eating up dead skin cells
during the night, i.e. peak cell turn-
over time. Try Elemis Dynamic
Resurfacing Night Cream, $210.
12am-4am: 4am-6am: 6am-9am:

Cell turnover is at
its peak, increasing
Repair of the skin
continues more
Your skin is at
its driest now. It’s
HYALURONIC ACID
by up to three times slowly, getting also particularly Able to hold over a thousand times its
its usual rate. Skin ready for you to susceptible to UV weight in water, hyaluronic acid will
also becomes more start the day. light, so make sure
permeable around you add SPF before give skin heavy doses of hydration.
about now, allowing you head out the Try Palmer’s Cocoa Butter Formula
active ingredients door for the day. Ultra Hydrating Serum, $24.99.
to penetrate more
effectively.

beauty
CRYSTALS
Certain crystals, such as
amethyst and howlite,
are said to help us relax.
The Goodnight Co Sweet
Dreams Crystals, $34.95
DARKNESS SILK
Shutting out all light PILLOWS
will help you get to Less friction =
sleep more easily. less wrinkles.
Neue Blvd Eye Shhh Silk
Mask, $49 Pillowcase,
$139 for two
Some
ways to get
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your beauty
rest…
Wake up feeling
selfie-ready.
SCENT
Spritzing lavender on your pillow
or PJs will help you drift off.
This Works Deep Sleep Pillow
Spray, $28
HYDRATING
HEROES
WATER LOSS
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BET AGAINST Recovery Botanical Radiance Booster Oil, Resveratrol B E, $152 Miracle Essence, $75 Recovery Oil, $29
DEHYDRATION Cleansing Oil, $48 $46.95 A powerful cocktail of Dosed with high levels Prevent night-time
This cleanser will get A layer of this oil resveratrol, baicalin of yeast derivative moisture loss with this
your skin prepped and under your night cream and pure vitamin E, Pitera, this cooling oil hydrator made
ready for night-time will have skin looking this gel neutralises formula gives skin a from Australian
replenishment. luminous by morning. free radicals. major moisture hit. ingredients. #

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TREND ALERT
CARA DELEVINGNE
HOW TO WEAR
TANGERINE
Keep things bright as the temperature cools
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3CE Duo Color

Face Blush in
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MAC
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Look #1:
Paintstick in
Genuine
EDGY NEON POP
Orange, $40 Bright-as-you-like
VERSACE
orange eyeliner is a
fun and wearable way
to add citrus to your
makeup look. Take Zoeva Matte
Spectrum
inspiration from the Eyeshadow
runway-only neon Palette, $39
orange sweeps at
ALEX S YU
Versace AW17 then

tone it down to a
simple sweep of colour
for real life. Take cues
from Alex S Yu AW17
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NARS Blush in
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ADAM SELMAN
Look #2:
Charlotte
Tilbury Beach
PRETTY CORAL FLUSH
Stick in Es If you’re an orange newbie, play it safe with a Look #3
Vedra, $55
peachy flush on your cheeks and lids like the
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for pretty pastel corals and citrus tones, then TONES
wash over skin with a fluffy brush; it’s a pretty Make the most of
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heavy on the bronzer. with a rich pop of
colour on the lids.
The key is to get a
Bobbi Brown
Too Faced Long-Wear Cream luxe citrus tone like
Papa Don’t Shadow Stick in
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Cara Delevingne’s
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Peach-Infused smokin’ orange eye
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Sephora Collection the colour out.
Brilliant Jumbo Cheeks Sweep a bit under
& Lips in Orange, $18
your lower lashes,
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Sephora Collection
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Give your face a deep clean COVERGIRL Outlast
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exfoliate and purify pores. Make your lip colour
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Caudalie Hand and Nail
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This hand cream packs a
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COVERGIRL Katy Kat

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costs less than a packet
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Bargain beauty buys
that’ll make you feel like
a million dollars
NYX Eye Shadow Base
in White, $12.95
Sick of eyeshadow looking
washed-out on your skin?
Smooth this on underneath
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to get the most wear and
brilliance out of shadow.
The Body Shop Almond
Milk & Honey Soothing &
Caring Shower Cream,
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Forget harsh body gels or
soaps that strip your skin,
this gentle formula will
nourish and soothe.
L’Oréal Paris
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Build up a bold
white colour with
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BEAUTY Q&A YOU

ASKED. WE
ANSWERED.
YOU’RE
WELCOME
MY MORNINGS
ARE A RUSH. HOW
CAN I STREAMLINE
MY MAKEUP?
My lips are The best way to get out the door
chapped and I’m fast is to enlist makeup and skincare
products that pull multiple duties.
always losing my Make BB creams your friend (they
balm… Help! let you skip foundation) and give
Benefit They’re Real! Double The
You would think we wouldn’t Lip, $36, and Duo Shadow Blender,
be able to help locate your $40, a go. One slicks on lipstick and
balm at the bottom of your lipliner in one swipe; the other applies
bag, but actually, we can. perfectly contoured shadow in
seconds. We kid you not.
The Blistex Pearl Soft &
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packaged up in a sweet,
easy-to-grab, hard-to-lose
flip-top compact, it also
promises to keep your pout
I want to smooth
nourished and silky smooth. those first fine lines,
You can thank us later. Selena Gomez
plays up her red
but I’m not up for
carpet looks with too much fuss. Any
false lashes.
recommendations?
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Try pre-anti-ageing skincare
MY MAKEUP DOES – formulations that focus on
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BEFORE I’VE HAD MY repair. They tackle fine lines
COFFEE. WHAT TO DO? but also combat free radicals,
pollution and UV damage.
Just like a good boyfriend,
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skin as you wear it. Use a primer afraid to trim your lashes to fit your eye shape
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longevity, and apply a setting in Intricate Lies, $35, a whirl – they’re a red
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WHAT’S ALL THIS ZEN?
The idea of finding spiritual salvation by
doing 30 push-ups may sound like some-
thing out of Zoolander 2, but it turns out
this is a legitimate thing. Mindful fitness
works by combining good old-fashioned
grunting exercise with mind-mellowing
meditation. Chi running (tai chi meets
jogging) is set to be the new trend – and
we’re on board. Good for mind, body and
looking hot in a pair of Lululemons. #
PHOTOGRAPHY BY OLIVER BURSTON

STOP THAT! You text your friend: ‘Leaving now!’ But really, you’re
still in bed. Yep, you’re the person who’s always running
behind. Rehab your rep with these tips

I
body
1 The Wild
In a n a 2014 YouGov
poll, 22 per cent of
Procrastinator
millennials admitted
to being late to work ‘I’M BETTER UNDER PRESSURE!’
at least once a week. We’re all guilty of a little often causing you to be late. food one day, do prep on
One of their top procrastination, but not Yes, you get everything done another, and cook on day
reasons was ‘I don’t every single person is a eventually, but in the mean- three. You can also build in
get penalised.’ That’s diehard procrastinator. time, your stress levels, and rewards for yourself and set
Joseph Ferrari, a professor chance for error, skyrocket. certain restrictions. Maxime
not entirely true. of psychology at DePaul Taquet, a Harvard Medical
Lateness can breed University and author of THE FIX Take small steps School researcher, says, ‘If
resentment in all Still Procrastinating?, notes to move forward. That huge you’re working on something
that when you’re postponing, adrenaline rush you get from that doesn’t really make you
your relationships waiting or just delaying, being in a time crunch? It’s happy, doing something else
and ever-simmering you’re often still gathering not actually giving you super- that you enjoy may actually
anxiety in you. information in order to best productive powers. In one of be the right way to get your
achieve your goal (read: still Ferrari’s studies, people who mood back up so you can
‘One of the most being somewhat productive). procrastinated performed continue with that project.’
predominant issues Procrastination, on the other worse under the pressure Stuck halfway through a
people have with hand, is actively avoiding than people who didn’t. In work project? Indulge in a
making any decision, putting the case of life skills, such as walk outside or make a cup
time is that they you at an absolute standstill cooking, break the goal down of tea. Clear your mind for a
constantly lie about until the very last minute, into smaller steps. Buy your few minutes.
it,’ says Lauren
Handel Zander,
author of Maybe It’s The
You and chairwoman
of the Handel Group,
2 Commitment-Phobe
an executive- and
life-coaching company. ‘I JUST CAN’T BE TIED DOWN BY SET PLANS’
We spend too much
energy coming up Zander says these free spirits THE FIX Communicate and plan. Rather than stringing
with fibs to justify – or flakes – fear being locked stick to a plan. Being the others along, be up-front and
into a reasonable schedule flake may feel empowering, vocal about your intentions.
our lateness. Time just in case something better like the world revolves around If you are feeling even the
to get real about how comes along. ‘They feel stifled you, but it can wreak havoc least bit lukewarm about
your traits, moods by concrete plans and wait when you’re the one who’s making a commitment, say
until they’re “in the mood for flaked on, says productivity something like, ‘Hey, I like
and attitudes might it” to do something – which expert Julie Morgenstern, the sound of dinner, but I
be setting you back. leaves a great many things author of Time Management may need to bail, so please
undone,’ she says. Meaning From the Inside Out. So just make the reservation without
they’re rarely anywhere on imagine what it’s like to be me and I’ll let you know if I
time. ‘If you’re waiting for the the other people who are in can make it.’ This way you’re
day you enjoy commitment in the scenario at hand (friends not giving anyone any false
order to start, it’s not coming.’ or family members), who are expectations and if you can
ISTOCK
Best learn to deal. simply trying to nail down a make it, it’s a bonus. >

body
The
3 Underestimator
advance, she is in a position
‘THIS to make better choices.’
SHOULD THE FIX Get grounded in
reality. Morgenstern breaks
ONLY TAKE clients of this habit by making
A MINUTE… them time themselves. Choose
a situation or task that you’re
Underestimators are well- regularly late on and study
intentioned but occupy an yourself doing it on three
alternate reality where time separate occasions. Calculate
has no meaning. ‘I ask clients your average time. If you’re
like this how long they think horrified by the black hole of
a task will take, and then I your schedule, go through all
give them a certain amount of your upcoming tasks and
of time to complete it,’ Zander apply one of Morgenstern’s
says. ‘When the time to stop Four Ds to each one. Delete:
comes, they are so, so wrong.’ If it’s unimportant, don’t do
Underestimators are afraid it. Delay: Reschedule the task
to find out that they can’t do for a better time. Diminish:
everything, or they obsess Break a bigger project into
over and take too long to do parts and dedicate just one
other things, Morgenstern hour a day to it. Or Delegate:
adds: ‘When a person looks Give all or part of your task
at what is in front of her in to somebody else.
Don’t let time
wear you down…
4 The Time Martyr

you have no time to take care
of yourself. When you are
given a task that goes above
and beyond, Morgenstern
Time Martyrs jump at the whelmed, feel unfulfilled and advises buying yourself a
chance to do everything for are usually tardy to the party little time before immediately
everyone, often neglecting – a hefty trade-off that can answering ‘Sure thing!’ Say:
‘I’M SO their needs in the process.
They volunteer to host their
lead to eventual burnout. ‘I’d love to do it, but here is
everything I’m working on
BUSY – THERE cousin’s bridal shower and THE FIX Start saying no. It’s now. Can you help me choose
create the spreadsheet of true that saying yes to every- between these?’ Morgenstern
JUST AREN’T
WORDS BY JUDITH OHIKUARE. ISTOCK
emergency contacts at work, thing can help to accelerate says most employers respect
ENOUGH HOURS but at the expense of making
it to the Spin class they’ve
your career – and socially,
you’ll never miss a chance
this response, especially when
it means the work gets done
IN THE DAY!’ wanted to try or digging into to help a friend. But double- well. The same goes for your
their passion project. While and triple-booking yourself friends, who’d rather spend
they feel validated and useful means the time you spend in time with the most present
to others, they’re often over- any single place suffers, and version of you. #

B toR beat
E Astress
THE
Bring on instant zen with simple techniques you
can do anytime, anywhere, by Danielle McNally

body
signals to the nervous system,

spiking stress hormones. 3 WAYS TO
The result: ‘Your heart rate CHILL, STAT
and blood pressure go up, and Next time you find yourself
I’ve always been a straight-A your immune system goes can be the best way to take in in the midst of mental turmoil,
student, which is why it was down,’ says Vranich. Yep, even air (doctors put a stethoscope practise one of these specific
totally deflating when I got a if you’re in the middle of a nice on our chests and say ‘deep breathing exercises from Dr
D (a D!) on the most basic of massage or just sitting on the breath’; allergy advertisements Andrew Weil, founder and
assignments: breathing. After couch, watching the hilarious feature actors puffing up like program director of Arizona
monitoring my inhalations and Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. Superman to signal opened Center for Integrative Medicine
exhalations, Belisa Vranich, a You may be laughing, but your airways). And then there’s the in the US.
clinical psychologist and author body thinks you’re stressed out. pressure to have a flat stomach.
of Breathe, gave me my near- The trouble starts in primary Stick out my middle each time I
failing grade on this very basic school. Most very young kids breathe? Never! WHEN YOU’RE ANGRY…
bodily function, with just one are horizontal breathers, says A healthier response is TRY BREATH COUNTING
small consolation: 9 out of 10 Vranich. When they inhale, it always. Deeper belly-breathing
people are just as bad at it as looks like there’s a balloon in will make you feel calmer and Close eyes and take a few deep,
I am. It turns out that most their bellies – air enters and happier. ‘When you breathe natural breaths, counting from
adults are shoulder breathers; expands the biggest part of horizontally, your vagus nerve one as you exhale each time,
when we inhale, our shoulders their lungs. But once in the – it starts at the back of your up to five. Continue for up to
rise, engaging the upper back classroom, they pick up the head and runs all the way 10 minutes.
muscles. This type of vertical bad posture that comes with through your body – tells your
breathing only makes space for sitting all day. And slumping brain to go into rest-and-digest
air in the narrowest, tippy- crushes your diaphragm muscle mode,’ says Vranich. Meaning, WHEN YOU’RE TOSSING
top part of the lungs, explains and blocks the lower lungs you’ll feel less tense, sleep way AND TURNING…
Vranich. It’s the exact opposite from expanding. better, have less stomach drama TRY THE 4-7-8 BREATH
of how the body was designed Cultural cues make things and also fortify your immune
to breathe… and such shallow worse. We’ve been conditioned system. I, for one, am breathing Hold the tip of your tongue
breaths actually send danger to accept that a shoulder raise easier already. against the ridge of tissue just
behind your upper front teeth.
Exhale completely through
your mouth, making a whoosh
The Wrong Way VS The Right Way sound. Close your mouth and
inhale through your nose as
TO INHALE TO INHALE you count to four. Hold your
Neck, chest breath for a count of seven.
and shoulders Exhale through your mouth,
Chest puffs up
do not move making a whoosh sound again
and out, and upper
or engage in for a count of eight. Repeat
back arches.
any way.
the cycle three more times.
WHEN YOU’RE NERVOUS…

TRY THE 4-8 BREATH
Skip the seven-count hold

ILLUSTRATIONS BY MARINA ESMERALDO. STOCKSY
here. With mouth closed and

the tip of your tongue against
the ridge of tissue just behind
Belly your upper front teeth, inhale
Belly expands to slowly through your nose to
moves in Shoulders the front, a count of four. Exhale slowly
as rib cage tense and sides, and and completely through the
narrows move toward back. Lower back arches
slightly so that the mouth with a whoosh sound,
and abs ears.
tighten. butt pops out a bit. to a count of eight. Repeat
three times. #

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Step 3 Pike push-up
TARGETS Chest, shoulders
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arlie, Gigi, Kendall… Name any the floor, with hands shoulder-
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Sophie Everard from London fitness 2 Lift the hips so that your
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the punching bag – Everard’s workout 3 Bend the elbows and
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and your own body weight. Add to your until the top of your head
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TARGETS Shoulders, chest, triceps,
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with feet shoulder-width apart, left backs of shoulders
foot forward, with your feet at 45 1 Take a push-up position, with
degrees. Hold both hands in front both hands resting on top of the
of your chin and below both your handles of two dumbbells.
ears to ‘guard’ (but if you’re left- 2 Activate the core (tense!), and
handed, it’s the opposite). row the right dumbbell to the abs,
2 Extend left arm to punch and then return to the starting position.
exhale. Lead with your knuckles. 3 Repeat with the left side. You’ve got
Retract hand. two minutes of these – 60
3 Once hands are back seconds per side.
in position, punch with
the right hand. Pivot
through the knee,
turning hips and torso
into the punch.
4 Retract immediately
to guarded stance and
repeat for two minutes.
Step 5 Advanced
tricep dips
TARGETS Triceps, front of shoulders
Step 2 Two left hooks to the head 1 Place both hands on a bench or
chair, fingers facing towards the
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TARGETS Shoulders, chest, backs of your ankles flat on another
triceps, core surface of similar height. If you can,
1 Take boxing stance, knees bent, put a dumbbell on those thighs.
fists up by chin in guard position. 2 Bend the arms, but keep them
2 Rotate your body as you swing close to the body.
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angle, punching a horizontal arc. to the starting position.
Turning through the toes, lift the 4 Repeat for one more minute,
left heel to push into the punch. then you’re done! #
3 Retract the fist on ‘impact’, and
follow with a hook targeting the
body lower down. Exhale with
every punch. Drive into it by rotating on
the feet and through the hips. Repeat for two minutes.
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Have you spent too many Friday nights bitching with your work wife about your
colleagues, only to be all smiles come Monday morning? It’s time to get ‘Radically
Candid’. It’s the new management style that’s swept its way from the tech hubs of
Silicon Valley to the ad agencies of NYC and is now gaining traction in the UK.
Created by Kim Scott, who has a podcast and career tome, Radical Candor, on the
subject, it involves being honest with those you work with. Feedback should be given
frankly, swiftly and face-to-face. It apparently creates a more productive workplace
and cuts out office politics. Bye-bye after-work bitchy wines. Hello, HR nightmare.

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Got career goals? Take note and
kick some serious workplace arse.
You can thank us later…
work
do is ‘reframe’ the situation.

‘Why don’t you say to yourself,
Yes, it’s raining, maybe I’ll just do
another adventure or put on some
rain gear. You can’t control the
circumstances, like the weather,
but you can always influence your
own perception of it and you’ll
be happier for it.’
So how can you apply this at
work? ‘If you go into an interview
and believe that you are the right
person for that job, your chance
of getting it will be much higher
than if you go in with a negative
mindset,’ explains Iseli. The
CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION interviewer will perceive you as
being the best for the job because
Been overlooked for a job you that self-belief and confidence will
knew you would nail? Missed shine through.
out on a promotion you totally And if you still don’t get the
deserved? According to Franziska job? Don’t beat yourself up, says
Iseli, co-author of Perception, Iseli. ‘You can’t influence who
it’s not your skillset that needs else is going to apply; that’s a
tweaking – it’s your mindset. circumstance you can’t control.
‘What you tell yourself when Maybe someone got it who had
you walk into a job interview connections with the interviewer?
really matters,’ says Iseli. ‘Your Tell yourself a different story;
inner voice can be your worst say, This job wasn’t meant for me;
enemy. You really have to believe there’s a better one out there. Start
that you can get the job.’ looking for new opportunities.’
If your inner voice is being Side note: ‘Just make sure you
a negative Nelly, that’s going to don’t go into a job interview [or
directly affect how others perceive work meeting] too confident. You
you. ‘That internal perception can shoot yourself in the foot by
creates our reality,’ says Iseli. assuming you’ve got the job. You
‘For example, you might be hiking have to have a humbleness about
when suddenly it starts raining. you; give it your all, but the rest
If your internal perception is is up to circumstances you can’t
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saying, It’s all stuffed up now, I control,’ says Iseli.

can’t do this, now I’m going to be Walk the line between cocky
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will be down.’ What we need to mindset, and work it! >

BE NASTY
It was the acerbic catchphrase
introduced by Donald Trump in
a reference to Hillary Clinton that
soon took on a meaning of its own:
a more powerful meaning. And
that is, be a ‘nasty woman’.
How can this translate to
the workplace?
We should all embrace the
power player within – she who
rebuffs an unworthy colleague’s
attempted knock-out punch in
the boardroom. She who doesn’t
give up. She who doesn’t tolerate OH, YOU
misogyny, discrimination and NASTY
bullying. While it’s not about
being a hard arse, it is about not
being so damn nice all the time.
‘In terms of power, I used to
think talking about money was
terrible and wanting it was just
shallow, but what is life like when
you don’t have it?’ psychologist criticisms into a constructive source
of feedback,’ says Bradley. ‘If you
Angela Bradley says. ‘If you intend feel compassionate towards yourself
to have power, don’t feel bad about
it: you deserve it. Think of all the
AMP YOUR EQ and you know why you’re there, you
You can be smart and rock a high are in an amazing position to leverage
positive ways you can help other IQ, but EQ – emotional intelligence resources other people will miss.’
people while leveraging your own WE SHOULD – is where you’re going to get ahead So how ’bout we quit with the
goals. Be clear on your value and in your 9-5. A strong EQ helps you second-guessing and show some
ALL EMBRACE not only manage your own behaviour confidence in our abilities?
what a valuable resource you are
THE POWER and emotions more effectively, it
for your company and for yourself helps you deal with stresses and with
and the people around you.’ PLAYER heightened emotions from colleagues. Top three steps to amp your
Claim your ‘nasty woman’ WITHIN – SHE It’s also about being able to EQ (without kissing butt):
pedigree as a badge of honour. WHO DOESN’T get ahead in business by building
Stop apologising. Stick up for meaningful relationships – whether UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS
yourself. ‘A lot of women don’t GIVE UP. SHE you’re rocking the corner office or Understand how your mind works
understand how much personal WHO DOESN’T doing the coffee run: ‘You need to so you have more logic and can
be someone who is constructive, understand how other people
power they have,’ she says. ‘Be TOLERATE trustworthy, compassionate, focused work from a distance.
careful of doubting yourself.’ MISOGYNY and determined, and build up your
Bradley encourages women relationships with other people,’ BE AUTHENTIC
to harness the power by being AND says Bradley. People respond to those who
proactive in our careers, having BULLYING Familiar with the term The Boys are self-accepting; they are quicker
a plan and an understanding of the Club? It exists because those guys to trust you. Identify with people
built relationships and were confident and be honest.
bigger picture goal. We may be
in the strength of those to call upon
‘nasty women’, but it is about using them to get ahead. Do that. But, you OBSERVE
our power for good. ‘Use power know, perhaps more constructively. Get to know what makes your upline
and claim your own victories, but ‘Confident self-talk is a huge tick. Make their life easier. Think a
use it in a focused way.’ thing in being able to turn any step ahead and be what they need.

work
SILENCE A crying shame, no?
YOUR
‘Everyone loses when bright
people play small,’ insists
imposter syndrome speaker
and expert Valerie Young.
It’s time we bid farewell
INNER
to self-doubt and be our own you might be a great leader
goddamn cheerleaders at or fantastic at motivating
work. Here are Young’s top people. No one is perfect, so
tips for self-confidence: forget your failings and focus
on the things you’re good at.’
FRAUD
NORMALISE YOUR FEELINGS
‘This may sound harsh, but KEEP GOING REGARDLESS
the very first thing you need ‘If you sit around waiting for
to realise is, you’re not that the day you feel 100 per cent
special! The next time you confident to ask for that pay
POLICE
have an imposter feeling, rise or go for that promotion,
remind yourself that almost you’re going to be waiting a
everyone has experienced long time. You need to change
feelings of fraudulence – your thinking and also your
many of them award-winning behaviour now – your feelings
actors and authors, CEOs, will slowly catch up to this
Let’s take a quick look at and PhDs. It is completely new non-imposter way of
Emma Watson, shall we? common for competent being’ until it’s normal.
It’s fair to say she’s killed it people to suffer self-doubt, When in doubt, remember
at, well, everything. You so talk about it and make it you’ve earnt every bit of your
know, between graduating the norm.’ success – own it. >
from the prestigious Brown
University, slaying in the REFRAME YOUR THINKING
remake of Beauty and the ‘Say you’ve just landed the
Beast and her work with the job of your dreams. An
UN that includes that game- imposter would walk into
changing speech on gender the office on their first day
equality. So why, then, in a and think, Everyone is so
recent interview, did she say amazing, I’ll never be able to
she feels like ‘an imposter’, match up. A non-imposter
undeserving of her success? would think, Everyone is so
Imposter Syndrome: amazing. I’m so lucky to get
the confidence-zapping to work with them – I’m going
phenomenon that causes to learn so much. Think like
successful, competent women a non-imposter and in time
to doubt their abilities and you’ll start to feel like one.’
feel like absolute frauds in
the workplace. The term was FOCUS ON YOUR POSITIVES
first coined in the 1970s and ‘The day before you have a
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recent research from Ghent big presentation, you might

University shows women are be worrying that you’re not
flying under the radar at work very articulate. The thing
for fear of being ‘exposed’. is, maybe you’re not! But

JEALOUS? USE IT
You may never be psyched about your friend’s massive
pay rise, but envy can still be a powerful motivator
up call to clue you in to what’s

missing in your world. Dig
deep and determine what she to achieve the desires you
has that you want. Whatever have instead of simply feeling
it is, take the first little steps jealous over other people’s
towards feeling better by achievements.
writing down a bullet list of
what you covet. STAY ON TRACK…
Because we all get a little
MAKE GOALS… discouraged when it comes
Because once you’ve zeroed to making changes. But it’s
in on your desires, you have to important to keep focused.
make them a reality. ‘Instead ‘Remember that satisfying a
of allowing other people’s yearning doesn’t require big
success to drag us down, it’s leaps or drastic changes,’
smarter to use it as inspiration,’ says Wright. ‘Sometimes it’s
suggests Wright. ‘Ask your- far more helpful to do small
self, what could I do to be in her things regularly and keep
position?’ If it’s the confidence progressing.’ And in the
to talk up in meetings, you can meantime, if you see you-
sign yourself up to a course. know-who showcasing her
If you’re like the rest of us Do you want to be a better baller life, take a breath and
(i.e., human), this scenario team manager? See if your remind yourself that soon
might sound a teeny bit too eyed monster rears its head. company offers leadership you’re gonna have the life
familiar: you’re sitting at ‘Feeling jealous can provide courses. Take practical steps you want too.
your desk when an email valuable information about
pops up about Perfect Girl’s yourself,’ explains Zelana
amazing promotion. There Montminy, author of 21 Days
she is, with her shampoo- to Resilience. It might even
commercial hair, in her city give you a clear sense of what
apartment with her Ryan you want in life. So next time
Gosling-look-alike boyfriend P-Girl nails a presentation at
– or whatever the irritating work, consult these pointers.
details of her annoyingly ideal
life happen to be. You should LOOK INSIDE…
feel happy for her, right? But Because what you’re feeling
the truth is, you can’t help is not about her. It’s about
seething. Definitely not the you. ‘These sorts of negative
healthiest reaction, but hey, emotions are often triggered
we’ve all been there. Your by someone having something
salvation: there are productive we value but don’t have our-
ways to deal when the green- selves,’ explains relationship
expert Judith Wright. So use
those icky feelings as a wake-

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CALL IT OUT!
women, and women are more And use your own
likely to be interrupted during style of conversation
meetings. You can have the best to do so. ‘I would
idea in the world, but who’s going say, “Thank you,
to notice if you’re being cut off? John, for your kind
‘We speak up, only to be shot interruption – now,
back to the strategy
down by a louder, more forceful I was sharing with
STOP male colleague,’ says Shivani
Gopal, founder of The Remarkable
you”,’ says Gopal. meeting, another female colleague
would repeat it, giving credit to
‘MANTERRUPTERS’ Woman. ‘Interruptions are, in JUST KEEP TALKING the original speaker. The result?
The manterrupter (n): A man essence, a verbal assertion of ‘Keep momentum It forces others to acknowledge
who often interrupts a woman, power, enabling the interrupter going and the the comment and prevents them
especially in the workplace. Just to take the floor of the current manterrupter will from passing it off as their own.
eventually realise
think Donald Trump interrupting conversation.’ it’s time to stop.’ The next time a colleague voices
Hillary Clinton 51 times during So what can we do about it? a stellar idea, shout it loud and
the first US presidential debate A former aide of former president CONFRONT THEM shout it proud! They’ll do the
and Kanye West interrupting Barack Obama and other female ‘Have a private chat. same for you in return.
Taylor Swift at the VMAS. staffers developed a simple tactic Keep it short and We can all band together to
Studies show that men to put down these manterrupters professional: “I was support our female colleagues by
surprised at the team
interrupt at twice the rate of – ‘amplification’. Every time a amplifying their ideas. Because
meeting that you
woman made a key point in a interrupted me sisterhood, ladies.
several times. It
‘Kanye, took away my ability
Imma let you to fully canvas my
finish but…’ proposals”.’
TAKE A BREAK
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felt unable to take leave due to commitments at work while others
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annual leave. We all know the pressure and competition in the
workplace, but you’re doing more harm than good by not taking
that well-deserved vacay.
‘When we get too stressed, it affects every system in our bodies.
All of those things have a long-term impact on our health,’ says
psychologist Melissa Podmore, adding that mental health burnout
is an epidemic. ‘[After a holiday] you’re going to come back more
refreshed, more insightful, hopefully more creative and you’re going
to have fresh views on your projects or your goals.’ Basically, you’re
going to be better at work if you take a break. #
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THE
CAREER
180 Ever considered a move from
hairdressing to horticulture; nursing
to naturopathy? A 2016 study by Seek
found 41 per cent of people planned
to change jobs in the next 12 months
but only 22 per cent will make the
move. Here’s your guide to actually
doing it, by the women who have…

work
Why is it so many
of us consider
an occupational
diversion, but so
few of us make
‘I swapped a six-
the employment
leap? Sure, it feels
figure salary for an
overwhelming and
scary to start fresh
apprentice wage’
as a rookie in a Lisa Rowlinson, 32, was working 13-hour
new and unfamiliar days when she decided she needed a change
industry, but it’s ‘I’d worked in branding, love with it. From there
full of pros! The design and advertising I started planning how I
Career Transformer for eight years. However, could financially make the
as I neared 30, my work move work.’
founder and principal life started to take a toll She found a salon that
Barbara Mallick on my health and lifestyle,’ would take on a mature-
says job change Lisa says of the career she age apprentice and the
pursued after university. rest, as they say, is history.
can be mutually Taking a week off her ‘On my first week on
beneficial for both job as an account director the job I was in shock. I felt
employer and at a marketing agency to like I was living someone
clear her head, Rowlinson else’s life. It took a good
employee. As a new wrote down what she six months to settle into
employee, you’re wanted from life and soon my new schedule, which
excited about your realised that earning six included being on my feet
figures wasn’t everything. and being the absolute
position, are exposed Armed with an interest bottom of the food chain.
to new professional in hairdressing and a need ‘However, three years
development for work-life balance, she on, I have now completed
interviewed hairdressers my apprenticeship and am
opportunities and about what they liked and in one of Australia’s best
are conscious of didn’t like about their job. salons. It’s comforting to
your performance. ‘I set up some work know that I can always go
experience at a premium back to my corporate life.
‘On the flip side, the salon in Sydney and fell in It’s great to have options.’
employer gains a
motivated, engaged
worker with fresh ‘ON MY
ideas and a new FIRST WEEK
outlook,’ she says. ON THE JOB
‘It’s a win-win.’ I WAS IN
SHOCK. I FELT
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LIKE I WAS
LIVING
SOMEONE
ELSE’S LIFE’

Michelle Shimmy, 35, is a born debater who honed
her skills on the courtroom floor as a solicitor for
a top-tier Australian law firm. That is, until
her love of pole dancing took over
‘I always loved debating and suggested that I should open
was opinionated at school so a pole studio. I thought it was
studying law was a natural a crazy suggestion. After all,
progression for me,’ she says. I hadn’t studied law for five
‘After completing a years to throw it all away and
degree in Arts/Law at open a pole dancing studio!
university, I scored an But the more I thought about
internship with the United it, the more it made sense.’
Nations International Shimmy and her
Criminal Tribunal for ‘RUNNING sister Maddie opened
the Former Yugoslavia their first Pole Dance
YOUR OWN
in The Hague, Nether-
lands and later worked
BUSINESS IS Academy studio in
Bondi in 2009, then
as a solicitor for a top-
A LOT OF studios in Redfern and
tier law firm. HARD WORK Crows Nest.
‘However, in time, BUT IT’S ‘While I don’t have
I started to find work WORTH IT. I any plans to return to
boring and stifling. AM MY OWN my old career, I’m very
The thought of spend- BOSS’ happy that I started
ing the majority of my professional life
my life in an office chair as a lawyer. I utilise many of
filled me with panic and I those skills today and also
decided that was not how I believe that if I wasn’t so un-
wanted to live my life… no happy as a lawyer, I wouldn’t
matter how good the money.’ have taken the plunge,’ she
She started pole dancing says. ‘Running your own
‘I went from for fun at around the same

time. ‘It helped me to survive
business is a lot of hard work
but it’s worth it. I am my
corporate long hours at the office,’ she

says. ‘One day, my friend
own boss and there really
is nothing better.’
lawyer to pole
dancer’

work
DO YOUR
OWN 180 SELL YOURSELF
While changing careers may seem
daunting, it turns out your perfect job
TIME FOR YOU TO could be right around the corner…
and study is not even a prerequisite!
CHANGE CAREER?
‘I quit my job If your Monday mornings are filled
with dread, chances are you’re in need
There’s just one catch. ‘You must blow
your own trumpet!’ insists Mallick.
to become a of a change. However, before you make

like a tree and leave, career coach
‘Education is important, but in a lot
of instances it isn’t necessary. If you
talk to the right people and sell your-
yoga teacher’ Nicole Grainger-Marsh says that it’s

important you assess the situation. ‘You
need to make sure you’re not reacting
self, you could get a foot in the door.
It’s about understanding your skills
and articulating your achievements.’
Danique Hanson, 31, quit her to a bad day (or month) at the office. Mallick says the same principle applies
office manager job of 11 years Take a minute to imagine yourself in to promotions at work. ‘People think
to teach people yoga the same role 10 years from now. If the if they put their head down and work,
prospect fills you with horror then it they’ll be promoted. You should never
In the past three years, Brisbane yogi might be time to move,’ she says. assume your boss knows what you’ve
Hanson has completed 500 hours of For many, work dissatisfaction also done. You have to tell them.’
yoga teacher training, taught in studios comes from a lack of challenge, says
across Queensland and garnered an Mallick. ‘No one wants to do the same-
Instagram following of more than 17,000
people @daniquerambo. However, her old. It’s important you like what you do
and feel you’re achieving something.’
RECOGNISE YOUR
start to working life was much different.
‘I entered my career straight out of high
TRANSFERABLE
school, to become the office manager
FOLLOW YOUR SKILLS
and book-keeper of a cabinet-making If your plan is a little grander than an
company,’ says Hanson. ‘However, the
role and its tasks had become second
PASSION internal promotion and a little wilder
While choosing your new career may than a change of company, a conveyable
nature and I found myself unhappy.’
At around the same time, Hanson seem confusing, you can start off by skillset will be your best friend. ‘Direct
began practising yoga. ‘The more that asking yourself a few questions, says experience isn’t always a barrier to
I embraced the yogic lifestyle, the more Grainger-Marsh. ‘What do you enjoy? career change,’ says Grainger-Marsh.
I experienced the overwhelming benefits What do you want from your job? What ‘Employers look for people with skills
it had to offer the mind, body and spirit,’ energises and motivates you? Which of that are transferable across industries
she says. She completed her 200 hour your friends has a career that interests and jobs, such as leadership, teamwork,
yoga teacher training part-time over six you? And, how much money do you communication, negotiation, time
months and began casual teaching in
October 2014. ‘I was finally passionate need to earn to support your lifestyle?’ management and organisation.’ That
about what I was doing and instead of And while there are no easy answers, doesn’t mean you’ll be swapping your
feeling like a cog in a machine, I was life coach and author of The Life Plan stilettos for a space suit anytime soon.
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living each day with purpose.’ Shannah Kennedy says choosing some- ‘You should firstly ask yourself if the
In April 2015, Hanson quit her job thing that motivates you is important job is achievable,’ says Mallick. ‘Do
to teach yoga full-time. She has since for all aspects of your life. ‘We lose your research to see what the job entails
completed her 500 hour yoga teacher motivation, inspiration and joy when and try to work out what those skills
training and also works as a brand
ambassador, model and guest blogger. we are not growing, learning and are. Only then can you truly make an
‘Don’t let fear hold you back,’ she says. thriving in our career,’ she says. informed decision.’ #
‘Sometimes you have to leave the “good”
to get to the “great”.’

T
ucked away in a corner at a been seeing a therapist in Beverly Hills
Hollywood juicery favoured on a weekly basis for the past two years.
by the A-list, Erica* looks ‘There’s no doubt in my mind that
like any other celebrity chasing fame is something I’m addicted
customer trying to fly to, and that has taken me years of therapy
under the radar. She’s got to address and come to terms with,’ she
the oversized sunglasses, confesses to me.
her huge curls are scraped As a showbiz journalist who has been
back and she’s dressed head- living in LA for the past three years, I’ve
to-toe in black. On her feet met countless women (and men) just like
are trainers so she can flee Erica. Their faces light up when I mention
from the paparazzi and fans what I do for a living, thinking I can help
at any given moment. boost or kickstart their careers. I’ve been
The problem is, Erica isn’t famous – asked to do favours for semi-famous stars,
but she’d like to be. ‘I should be a celebrity shoehorning their pictures into articles
by now,’ the 28-year-old sighs when I in a bid to raise their profiles. I know
tell her she reminds me of an A-lister what fame-hungry looks like, and it’s
going incognito. not always pretty. But I had no idea that Dr Reef (below):
She looks different to her pictures on the addiction had become so potent – never not practising
his ‘blue (surgical)
Instagram, where she has more than 10K so much so that there’s now a place for steel’ look.
followers. Her public persona is more people like Erica to go to seek
polished than she is in the flesh. ‘I do get help with their obsession.
recognised if I’m dressed up,’ she says The Lumion Center
with a positive smile. ‘Somebody once (formerly the Control Center)
asked for my picture thinking that I was in LA is home to the world’s
Natalie Portman.’ first specifically designed
Like many of her Hollywood peers, treatment program for fame
Erica has tried her hand at everything addiction. Founded by
in an attempt to become a celebrity – so psychiatrist and addictions
much so that now she behaves like one. specialist Dr Reef Karim in
In addition to dabbling in acting, singing 2009, it’s only in the past year
and modelling, last year she attempted that he has started to treat
to make her debut as a DJ on the showbiz patients specifically for fame
party circuit in LA, following in the addiction, after spotting what
footsteps of one of her idols, Paris Hilton, he saw as a growing problem.
who she went to school with. ‘I begged It’s a sunny LA day when I
my friend who is a professional DJ to let arrive. The tall, white building
me join in with him; I wanted to be the with tinted windows is just a few
face of it all. But it didn’t quite pan out,’ blocks away from the world-famous disclose the names of any famous faces
she grimaces. Cedars-Sinai hospital (where Britney I might recognise beyond this point.
Instead, the privileged LA resident was admitted at the height of her public In the waiting room – all crisp white
is working as a social media influencer meltdown in 2008), on a leafy street in furniture and mahogany floors – there’s
for a music company as she continues West Hollywood. Its discreet location the usual pile of fashion and entertainment
her search for fame. Her parents were makes it nice and easy for any celebrity magazines. Only here, you might find
previously bankrolling her quest but to be chauffeured in undetected, as many yourself sitting next to a cover star.
‘that’s all stopped now’, she says, looking have been. Dr Reef (as he’s known) ushers me
down. Using her social media presence A Kardashian-esque receptionist into his office. He’s got that LA charm
for work can be an ego boost, but she hands me a confidentiality agreement. and is obviously used to making people
says she won’t feel content until she’s I’m about to gain unprecedented access feel at ease. It’s no surprise he’s a regular
‘legit famous’. to the centre, including sitting in on a on US TV screens, appearing on The
Erica’s pursuit of fame has taken its group therapy session with patients who Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN and Fox News
toll on her health. She is currently on are currently being treated for their fame – perhaps ironic for someone trying to
medication for severe anxiety and has addiction. The agreement forbids me to coax people away from fame’s lure.

cosmo report
on each individual’s needs, and the

average client stays with the program
for at least three to six months.
Fame addiction is not recognised
as a mental disorder by the American
Psychiatric Association, but it’s a term
often churned out in the media. Dr Reef
tells me his patients are usually seeking
help because they’re depressed, lonely or,
more commonly, suffering from anxiety.
They don’t necessarily walk in thinking
they’re addicted to fame, but he’ll identify
the condition.
From there, he and his team play the
role of an ‘emotional detective’, conducting
psychological testing, brain imaging
and pharmacognetic research, to work
out why their clients have developed this
addiction. Patients are given treatments
tailored to their individual needs. It could
be anything from therapy to holistic
treatments or acupuncture. The clinic
also conducts group therapy sessions –
which is what I’m sitting in on.
Dr Reef leads a group of six patients
and begins by writing the key symptoms
of fame addiction on a whiteboard. These
include problems controlling impulses,
being overly sensitive to rejection, using
people for your own gain, a crisis of
identity and living in a fantasy world.
At this point, he stops to ask whether
any members of the group would date
According to The Lumion Center’s gambling, shopping, becoming obsessed someone just because of their success or
website, fame addiction is ‘a behavioural with video games…’ But fame addiction fame. Half of the group say they would.
condition centred on the desperate need isn’t just a celebrity problem. Dr Reef Then he writes down the final two
for validation at all costs’. Dr Reef says points out that ‘most individuals have a symptoms – self-destructive behaviours
that celebrities crave being fantasy of what fame could caused by a lack of self-esteem and
seen, adored and valued by bring them – status, money, control, and struggling with ‘impression
others. ‘It gives them an desirability, sex appeal, men/ management’ (being constantly worried
inner rush, a hit of meaning,
self-love and stress reduction ‘It gives women, attraction’, and that
while celebrity status seemed
about image, who to be seen with and
how you’re viewed).
– even though it is usually
fleeting.’
them an inner unattainable to many of us
for a long time, the internet
David*, a musician who is coming to
terms with the after-effects of celebrity
While he acknowledges rush, a hit and social media has made now that he’s no longer on the road with
there are ‘healthy celebrities’,
the ones he’s seen – who he of meaning’ fame tantalisingly reachable.
The Lumion Center’s
his famous rock band, raises his hand.
Dressed in ripped jeans and a T-shirt
can’t name for legal reasons clientele now includes every- revealing a smattering of tattoos, he
– are often in existential one from actors, professional swigs on an energy drink as he talks
crisis. ‘They had no idea athletes and reality stars to about missing the rush he used to get
who they were. So they were acting out the man off the street who isn’t famous while performing. ‘The feeling on stage
in an addictive way by popping pills, but is desperate to be. They pay between was better than any drug,’ he shares.
drinking too much, having too much sex, $6500 and 33,000** a month, depending ‘Better than heroin.’ >

cosmo report
FAME
An attractive red-haired social- Research backs up the idea that social
media star speaks next. Overwhelmed media is fuelling a fame obsession. A
from living her life online, she reveals 2013 study by UCLA found that children
that she’s now come off all social media
platforms. ‘I was being an inauthentic
version of myself,’ she says. ‘I was living
a lie. But when I tried to be the real me,
HUNTERS
THE CELEBRITIES WHO, IN
aged nine to 15 who use social media a
lot place a higher value on fame than
those who don’t use social media much.
American psychologist Jean Twenge,
I just couldn’t do it.’ THEIR OWN WORDS, WERE co-author of The Narcissism Epidemic,
A women named Haylee* introduces DESPERATE FOR THEIR often appears in the media arguing that
herself, who Dr Reef informs me was TIME IN THE LIMELIGHT young people are becoming more and
born into a famous family. Dressed in more narcissistic (which she defines as
gym gear, her fancy jewellery and Cartier ‘the fantasy that you are better than you
watch give away her privilege. She tells really are’). She points to factors such
the group that she’s recently been cut as the rise of reality TV, and constant
off by her famous father for refusing to praise from parents and the internet,
follow his rules. ‘I have a toxic family,’ which ‘encourages people to constantly
she says. ‘Everyone caters to my father. promote themselves’.
He wanted me to be his protégé. All he And according to Dr Reef, it’s only
cares about is money and status.’ likely to get worse… ‘Similar to the
Her mother – who mixes in celebrity JENNIFER LAWRENCE internet creating more online access
‘I always knew that I was going to
circles – is paying for Haylee’s treatment, be famous. I don’t know how else to for gambling- and shopping-addicted
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though it doesn’t sound as though she describe it. I used to wonder, Am I individuals, fame addicts now have more
acknowledges she’s part of the problem. going to be a TV person? Am I going available triggers because of social media,’
‘My mother is always posting pictures to be a motivational speaker?’ he explains.
of herself supposedly looking happy and He clearly thinks he’s onto something
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competing with her famous friends,’ by identifying fame addiction, but not all
Haylee complains. psychologists agree. Dr Tom Stafford, a
As the group session ends and the psychology lecturer at Leeds University,
patients hug and congratulate each other warns that people should be careful about
on what they’ve shared, I’m invited to using the term ‘addiction’ freely. ‘It has
sit in on Haylee’s individual session with a medical definition, and can define
Dr Reef. people who face profound challenges.
She seems to be here to deal with Applying the label to things like fame,
her parents’ addiction to the limelight
LILY ALLEN cell phones or email is unwise without
‘[I’d see] how people treated
rather than her own, clearly exasperated famous people better than they extreme caution,’ he explains.
by her family’s constant need for fame treated not-famous people. I think I However, Dr Reef insists that, like
and attention, explaining she’d be happy wanted to be famous, to walk into a other addictions, fame can be ‘desired
with a ‘normal’ life. room and someone show you to a and consumed in excess to the point of
nice table – that special treatment.’
Having heard these stories, I wonder pathology and dysfunction’.
if fame addiction is really as tangible as At the moment, his fame addiction
Dr Reef makes out, or whether it’s just clinic still feels a little like a somewhat
a new label for age-old problems. Then niche haven for a privileged few coming
I remember something another patient to terms with their own reality. But if
mentioned. ‘Everyone at my school wants he’s right, then we might see a whole
to be famous,’ he said. ‘It’s all I ever hear industry emerge to cater to the fallout
from my friends.’ of fame chasers.
The dictionary describes fame as the In my job I’ve spent enough time
‘state of being known by many people’. around celebrities to know fame isn’t as
Social media has shifted the landscape
KIM KARDASHIAN alluring as it appears. I just hope there’s
‘Every time I’d go out to the gym
and made that possible for more of us or go out to eat, every paparazzi light at the end of the tunnel for those
than ever. By chasing followers, likes would ask me questions and I battling a self-destructive craving for
and retweets, aren’t we all seeking a would be like, “Hey guys!”’ fame – and that it lasts longer than the
piece of the limelight? frenzied flashbulbs of the paparazzi. #

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ARE WE ON
ZZ
THE BRINK OF
Z
T R A G E
U
O I G U E?
F A T social media to pop culture
and beyond, it’s wearing us
thin. I bet you’re feeling the
heat. But that’s no reason to
get out of the kitchen.
AS WE’RE ‘We are exposed to such a
HOW ARE YOU FEELING? large volume of information,’
BOMBARDED BY Calm? Centred? Or are you says psychologist Jocelyn
DEATH AND pissed off? Feeling like the Brewer. ‘We’re “infobese”.’
world sucks and you’re sick of So we look at the news, we
DESTRUCTION ON THE hearing about it? Well, friend, feel momentary anger, react
REG, THE RISK OF you could be on the brink of with an emoji or perhaps shed
outrage fatigue. And that’s bad. some tears on our commute,
THROWING IN THE This tricky precipice of but, ultimately, we move on.
TOWEL AND BECOMING carefactor zero, dubbed outrage With each news article, we’re
fatigue, comes about when we growing more and more tired
SLACKTIVISTS IS AT reach peak exhaustion from of being fired up. For no one
CRITICAL MASS, raging at what’s going on in person, no matter how woke,
the world around us. Thanks can maintain an indefinite
WRITES MEL EVANS to Gen Y’s need to be logged sense of outrage.
in constantly, outrage fatigue On the neverending nature
permeates our whole life. From of info, digital anthropologist

cosmo zeitgeist
Rahaf Harfoush once said: ‘we there is so much competition,’ engage the social capital we year in a bigger way as we flex
are struggling because even Brewer says. ‘One question is need to be included in our our democratic biceps, Rosie
though – rationally – we know if the way we communicate communities. the Riveter-style. Is this only
that we’re never going to reach online is the best way to have ‘It’s the degree to which because we can see issues more
the end… Eventually you start the important conversations.’ we actually “help” the issue prominently on our news feed
hearing the same piece of sad The flip side of all this is that is contested,’ says Brewer. and, thus, be held accountable?
news over and over and it loses that globalisation has made ‘We might want to help but Or is it just that we’ve grown
its ability to pull you, and that us want to care more, and you not feel like we have the skills up and want to show we care
is really dangerous.’ could argue social media allows to make a difference – it can be more than clicking?
We’re outrage fatigued us to do that – even if it seems overwhelming to know where To avoid outrage fatigue,
and also feeling a looming we’ve shifted our goal posts to start.’ people power is where it’s at,
compassion fatigue, as our in thinking less action equals people. Ignore the cut-and-
tolerance for shit grows and the same change. On the whole, SO, WHAT CAN WE DO? paste nothingness of a social
we feel less need to help. though, it’s meant that we can We’ve never cared and never media post. Log out. Petition
signal our values, as that’s how not cared as much as we do hard; march strong. The main
ENTER SLACKTIVISM we form our identities and now. It’s a weird millennial point in this fight against
Cast your mind back to 2014 contradiction. But the aspects outrage is that we can’t, even
when our news feed was filled of social media that were once at times we most want to, be
with friends pouring eskies of killing historical forms of fatigued. Tired gets nothing
ice over themselves in the name activism – marching, public done in the business of change.
of charity. The ALS Ice Bucket speaking, protests and strikes ‘If it’s just outrage and
Challenge raised $115m for – seem to be coming back this keyboard warriordom without
ALS sufferers and has meant the actions, then that is not
they’ve been able to purchase helpful for our sense of well-
advancements in medical being,’ explains Brewer. ‘The
technology. But the whole challenge is for the causes to
donation part – the point Sorry but you come up with meaningful real-
can’t smash
of it all – seemed to be a the patriarchy life actions for people to take,’
postscript for most, who through your she says. ‘It doesn’t have to
seemed to be jumping keyboard. be a big action or have huge
on the bandwagon impact – but it does need to
and simply extend to something beyond
annoying their a simple “click”.’ #
friends. We
shouldn’t
diminish the
conversation
it started and
the lengths it made
for ALS sufferers, but at
times it did encourage a sense
of ‘slacktivism’.
Social media is the best
friend and worst enemy of
fatigue. It starts conversation,
but on the flip side it creates a
new breed of lazy that believes
a Facebook share is going to
change the world. Outrage isn’t
persuading us to do anything
further, because we just DGAF
after we see something more
than once. ‘The online world
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‘My ex
murder
T R I ED T O
ME’
IN LATE SEPTEMBER LAST YEAR, ANGELA JAY, 29, THOUGHT SHE WAS
DATING A NICE GUY. BUT JUST SIX WEEKS LATER, PAUL LAMBERT BROKE
INTO HER HOUSE AND BRUTALLY ATTACKED HER >

cosmo real life
Angela’s quick
thinking kept
her alive.

‘Somehow I
managed to stand
up and, looking
down at my legs,
I saw my jeans
were saturated in
blood from where Angela is
determined to
help end violence
he’d stabbed me
against women.
with his knife.

I could see a particularly big
gash on my leg and, being a
doctor, I knew I should try to
put pressure on the wound with
my hands. I thought that I was
going to bleed to death, when a dating app. It was something was fun getting to know each
suddenly, he started pouring to do and a way to meet people. other and I was flattered by A second chance
petrol over me. Then I saw Paul’s profile. the attention. He was upset – incredibly so
I’d accepted that I might In it he mentioned he liked He had booked a hotel, so – and I felt awful. I had a gut
die that day, but being doused adventure and had spent some he went back there and I went feeling warning me, but he
in petrol took it to a whole time in the US, which is where back to my place. The next day was doing everything right
other level. I thought, I’m going I lived until I was 15. He looked we met up for brekkie and went and begging me for another
to burn alive and my family is not nice in his photos and was in for a walk. I was like, “Oh my chance. I told myself maybe
going to be able to recognise me. his mid-thirties. I was looking gosh, a guy is interested in me I was just running scared, so
for someone a bit older, so we again, maybe there’s happiness I flipped and said yes.
started chatting. He lived four in my future…” But then his controlling
Six weeks earlier and a half hours away from me, While I could see lots of behaviour escalated to a point
In August, 2016, I moved to in Sydney, so we got to know positives, he was also quite where he was stalking me. I
Port Macquarie for work – I’m each other via phone calls. He intense. I think that’s the first told him, “Don’t contact me,
an obstetrics and gynaecology seemed like a normal guy. thing that put me off. About a I don’t want to see you again.”
doctor and moved to work at Not long after we’d started month into it, he seemed quite On Sunday night, October
the hospital. I was away from chatting, he flew up to Port smitten and I wasn’t. I didn’t 30, I got home from being
my family, lonely, bored and Macquarie for our first date. want to hurt him so I tried to out with my family and was
getting over an ex. So I went He’d booked dinner at a tapas break it off, saying I thought shocked to see him waiting for
on a few dates with guys from place and treated me well. It we should just be friends. me at my house. I was scared

cosmo real life
He ordered me into the

bedroom and told me to sit
on the bed. Then he started
interrogating me, asking me, had run to his ute to grab a
– he was demanding to collect “Where have you been? You metal bar before coming over
some of his stuff, so I gave it haven’t been staying at the to the house. I collapsed, but
to him and told him to leave house?” I said I was at work
WHAT TO DO managed to tell him how to
the property and never return.
After that, he sent me
and he replied, “I was at the
hospital, I didn’t see you.” IF YOU’RE help my wounds.
[Cosmo note: According
threatening text messages,
saying I wasn’t safe in my own
I thought maybe I could
buy myself some time if I used FEELING to police, after Angela made
her escape, Paul sped off in his
home, that he wasn’t sure what
he would do. He told me he had
the bathroom. He let me use
the loo, but with the door open. UNSAFE
According to counselling
hire car to Bonville, 150km
away, where he was cornered
stolen my keys. I looked at my I had my phone and I thought, by police. At around 9.45pm,
keychain – some were missing. Do I dare call police? But then service 1800RESPECT, police tasered him as he lunged
Terrified, I went next door I thought, He’ll see for sure and you can: at them with the knife, then
to my neighbours’ house, who then I’m a goner. The whole fatally shot him.]
Let trusted neighbours
I didn’t know very well at all time I’m thinking, How can I know to call the police on
besides saying hi on occasion. call for help? Nobody’s coming
They took me in and calmed to help me!
000 if they hear fighting,
shouting or noises. Moving on
me down while we waited for I sat back on the bed while In terms of healing, I’m still
police to arrive. That night I he continued to interrogate me. Have a small escape getting there. I have scars and
bag packed with spare
filed for an AVO [Apprehended Somehow I managed to work scar tissue that aches and gives
keys, important papers
Violence Order] and went to a my way to the edge of the bed and some cash. me shooting pains, mostly in
family member’s place. so I was closer to the door. my leg. He stabbed me 11 times
The next day, I went back It became very apparent to Keep a diary of abusive in total – six times in my legs,
to work but I was still scared. me that he wasn’t just going or frightening incidents, once in my hip, once in my
I had a feeling something bad to let me go. He seemed very if it’s safe to do so. These back and three times in my
can help if you need to
was going to happen, but still agitated and angry and I didn’t get a protection order. forearm and hand.
I kept telling myself, “You’re know what he was capable of. Mentally, some days are
AS TOLD TO HARRIET MCCREADY. PHOTOGRAPHY BY PAUL SUESSE/BAUER. HAIR & MAKEUP BY LUCY JACKSON/RELOAD AGENCY
being ridiculous. Be rational. It got to the point where I Ask police to do a better than others. My family
He knows there’s an AVO; he’s thought, I can’t wait to find out, ‘security upgrade’ check and friends have been amazing
going to leave you alone.” I have to run for it, or die trying. on your home. and going back to work really
By Thursday, I needed to I made a run for the door, If you have separated helped. I’ve also been seeing
feed my cat and get some fresh but he caught me. He grabbed from your partner, change a psychologist, who has really
clothes so I thought I could me and that’s when I saw the your routine regularly. helped me. Lately, nightmares
duck home quickly while it was blood from him stabbing me have become an issue. I dream
daylight before going back to – I didn’t really feel it at all. I Tell your boss and/or that I run out of the house and
security staff of any
my family member’s place. fell to the ground and tried to protection orders that no one is there. He haunts me.
When I got home I put on put pressure on my wounds. prevent the abuser from I have felt what it’s like to
the telly and had some dinner. I struggled to stand up. coming near your work. experience violence. It needs
Part of me was thinking, Screw Next thing I knew, he grabbed to stop. So in September, I will
you! This is my home! I’d already me again and started pouring Delete your Facebook hike 65km of the Larapinta
account, or review your
removed the locks and door- petrol over my head, which Trail in the Northern Territory
settings to restrict access.
knobs that he had the keys to. was intense. Luckily, though, with my dad and brother as a
As I opened my bedroom I think it made me slippery Have a computer tech spiritual healing journey, and
door, Paul jumped out from enough that I was able to break check your computer for I’m hoping to raise $100,000
inside my closet. I screamed free from his grasp. I made sure spyware or keystroke for White Ribbon. I believe
and he grabbed me and put I grabbed the edge of a banister logging programs. what happened to me happened
his hand over my mouth. He and swung myself around it so for a reason, and I’m trying to
was looking into my eyes and I didn’t slip over, and then I make some good come from it.
said, “I just want to talk. If you ran for it. I try to focus on that.’
stay quiet, I won’t hurt you.” When I ran outside, my If you’re in immediate danger,
His eyes looked crazy and he neighbour was standing there. call 000. Call 1800RESPECT
had a knife in his pocket. He’d heard me screaming and for help and advice 24/7. #

STOP LISTENING
TO OTHER PEOPLE’S
OPINIONS...
&
18 OTHER THINGS
YOU CAN STOP
DOING RIGHT NOW
These just waste your time, energy and
money so quit ’em already! (Yes, we’re
giving you permission to downsize your
to-do list. You’re welcome)

cosmo life tips
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1. VISUALISING
According to a million Instagram
quotes, this is the key to achieving
your dreams. But one study looked
at a group of uni students who
used visualisation in an attempt
to smash their exam results and,
well, it turns out they didn’t. Why?
Perhaps because if you spend so Stop that!
You’re juicing your
much time imagining your perfect fibre away!
future, you could be spending too
little time taking the actions that
will actually get you there.
5
6. SEPARATING WHITES AND
2. PAYING BANK FEES ADDING FABRIC
DARKS WHEN DOING YOUR WASH 9. THINKING YOU SHOULD PUT
In 2017 no one should be paying SOFTENER TO ‘You don’t HAVE to do this,’ ALL YOUR $$$ INTO SAVINGS
annual or account-keeping fees YOUR TOWELS says Rapinchuk. ‘If they have If you’ve received a bonus (yay!)
for savings and/or transaction already been laundered, you can don’t put it into your savings
accounts, according to money ‘IT COATS THE wash them together on cold.’ straight away. Marcus Roberts,
expert at Finder.com.au Bessie FIBRES, WHICH the director of Mirador Wealth
Hassan. ‘If a bank is not willing
MAKES IT 7. LISTENING TO OTHER PEOPLE’S Management, advises that first
to waive these fees, there’s a bank OPINIONS* you pay off (or down) any debt;
around the corner who’d love to HARDER TO GET *
Except this one. ‘You should be ‘reducing a credit card or personal
have you as a customer,’ she says. totally independent of the good loan will greatly outweigh any
THE TOWELS and bad opinions of the world… interest earned on your savings.’
3. PUTTING SPARE CHANGE IN A TRULY CLEAN,’ you should have faith in yourself,’
PIGGY BANK SAYS BECKY says spiritual teacher Deepak 10. BUYING THINGS JUST FOR
Download the app Acorns and Chopra (aka Oprah’s best mate). THE FREQUENT FLYER POINTS
they’ll round up each of your RAPINCHUK, The points system is rigged in
transactions to the nearest dollar FOUNDER OF 8. IGNORING THE SKIN CANCER the airlines’ favour. Shocking. But
and invest it for you. All you have STATISTICS if you have managed to accrue a
to do is sit back and watch your
CLEANMAMA. Just this year, almost 14,000 heap of points, the most value
money grow. #MoneyBagEmoji NET. new diagnoses of melanoma are you’ll get out of them is to use
expected to occur in Australia them for an upgrade. ‘You’ll need
and, tragically, over 1800 Aussies to spend to purchase the flight,
are estimated to die from it, but generally you’ll save more
4
according to the Australian in terms of both points and cash
Institute of Health and Welfare. than if you just buy a full flight,’
Slip, slop, slap, yo. explains Hassan.
Trying to be happy Happiness is kind of like chasing a

guy – the more you try to catch it, the further away it gets. But
one proven way to perk up is to write a letter telling somebody
you love all the reasons why you’re grateful for them. When you
give it to them, they’ll get a boost, sure, but so will you.
cosmo life tips
for Women’s Health Dr Elizabeth

Farrell. ‘The skin is sensitive so
plain water is best, but if you must
use a product, it needs to be very
gentle, such as Cetaphil,’ says
Dr Farrell.
14. PAYING FOR EXTENDED

WARRANTIES
16
11
Your rights are already covered
under law so if you pay for this, 17. TAKING MULTIVITAMINS
you’re being ripped off. ‘They’re bullshit,’ says Dr McKay.
PAYING FOR ‘If you have a proper diet, there’s
15. GIVING IN TO CRAVINGS CABLE no proven evidence multivitamins
Here’s a solution that won’t undo help at all, so the money is better
your 6am spin class efforts: place
GET NETFLIX invested.’ See: Acorns.
your finger at your temple and OR STAN
then lightly tap all the way across (OR BOTH!) 18. STANDING IN LINE AT THE
your forehead, following your DEPARTURE GATE AT THE AIRPORT
ALREADY.
Drinking finger with your eyes; repeat in
the opposite direction and just
You have an assigned seat. It’s
not going anywhere. Why sit in
green juices continue until craving subsides. an uncomfortable chair (unless
Put down the Nutri- Weird, but true. you’re in business class – or first
– in which case, ignore this) for
Bullet. Sydney-based even more time?
GP Dr Brad McKay
says the gut and
digestive problems IF YOU DRINK… TRY…
lots of people have
are caused by lack of If you’re looking for fruity
flavours and bubbles,
fibre and when you Sparkling
SAISONS are like the sister
juice your vegies and sparkling never had.
19
fruit, most fibre is A LAGER’S unpretentiousness
removed. So start Pinot grigio is quite similar to a pinot
chewing the good grigio’s crispness.
stuff for your gut. Say hello to your new

Sauvignon 5pm light and refreshing
blanc tipple, a PILSNER .
12. CREATING YOUR
‘PERSONAL BRAND’ The chocolatey flavours
It’s just fancy mgmt speak that Merlot of a PORTER make it same-
really translates to: don’t be a Thinking but-different to a merlot.
you
WORDS BY HARRIET MCCREADY. ISTOCK
dickhead and you’ll be right.

PALE ALES are richer than
13. USING BODY WASH… don’t like Pinot noir light beers but don’t
…especially on your vajayjay. beer have a bitter finish.
‘Using soaps and body wash on Maybe you just don’t Full of hops, the
your body and on your vagina is know what to order. flower that makes beer
not good,’ says gynaecologist and Shiraz
deliciously bitter, an IPA
medical director at Jean Hailes is rich and potent. #

BLOGGIN for
KATE*, 26, POSTS A
SELFIE OF HER RADIANT
SKIN, THANKING A CLINIC
FOR HER BRIGHTENING
OTOX FACIAL – IT GETS OVER

2000 LIKES. WHAT SHE
HASN’T TOLD YOU? HER
FACIAL CAME WITH A SIDE
SERVING OF BOTOX
‘As I watch the number of likes
on my latest post climb by the
minute, I place an ice pack on
my forehead to ensure I don’t
bruise from the Botox I’ve just
had. My 9000 followers think
I’ve just popped into my local
beauty clinic for a facial to remove
dead skin, but I went under the
needle too.
My job is all about looking
good – I’m a fitness influencer
– but even I was taken aback when
I was offered free Botox last year
by a local beauty clinic. Sure, I
had some very fine lines on my
forehead, but I didn’t think that
I needed it. Then I spoke to some
blogger friends about the offer
and they told me they’ve been
having it for ages. In hindsight,
their smooth foreheads should
have been a giveaway, but I just
thought it was freakishly great
genetics. I figured if they were
doing it, then I should too, so I
accepted the offer of Botox.
I spoke to the clinic staff and
explained that I didn’t want to let
my followers know I was having
it, and they were more than fine
with that. They told me most of
their VIP clientele keep it on the
down-low and just promote the
cosmo report
other treatments at the clinic, like

their facials and chemical peels.
After I got the anti-wrinkle
injections, my lines were gone.
It took me a while to get used to
not being able to really frown, but
my selfies looked great. Did I feel
bad about spruiking a brightening
facial and keeping mum about my
Botox? A little. I did have a facial,
but it wasn’t responsible for my ‘I receive Botox every three
smooth face. My followers don’t months,’ admits Taylor. ‘I’m open products or cosmetic surgery’.
judge me for having a facial, but about my Botox use and have no ‘There’s been an increase in
there are many who’d judge me issues or concerns talking about people getting injectables and
for having Botox – especially as it or posting about it on my social I’m seeing young patients asking
my “thing” online is clean living. media accounts.’ for them,’ says Dr Hunt. ‘Botox
As an influencer, I have so While the pair are open about is approved by the Therapeutic
many businesses and brands their treatments, they understand Goods Administration (Australia’s
approach me to promote what why others are getting injectables drug regulatory agency) as a
they’re selling and it is hard to on the sly. ‘They aren’t accepted treatment for wrinkles; it’s not a
say no. I am fully aware that I by everyone, especially when you treatment to prevent them.’ The
may not get these opportunities are getting them at a young age,’ long-term consequences of getting
in the future, so I want to make says Frances. ‘People can be very injections before the age of 30 are
the most of it now. If I’ve been judgemental and vocal about hard to predict.
paid to promote something, I’ll their opinions. But in our opinion,
always use the hashtag #spon you shouldn’t feel the need to Double-edged sword
(meaning sponsored), so that my hide it because it is becoming It’s a damned if you do, damned
followers know. But I’ll never tell more acceptable in our society. if you don’t situation, really. If
them about my Botox use. I guess If you can get rid of a wrinkle, an influencer admits to having
that’s the way it goes in order to then why wouldn’t you?’ Botox, their followers may follow
WORDS BY SHARI NEMENTZIK. *NAME HAS BEEN CHANGED. **COSMETIC PHYSICIANS COLLEGE OF AUSTRALASIA. ISTOCK
keep up with the Joneses – and The problem is many young suit when they don’t need it. If
these Joneses always look perfect.’ people injecting their face with they keep it hidden? Followers
the toxin (Botox is a neurotoxin may think that brightening facial
‘I’m an open book' that’s produced by the bacterium is responsible for the perfect selfie
Not all influencers hide their clostridium botulinum, which skin. Body confidence expert Dr
anti-wrinkle secret. Rachel De paralyses the muscles) don’t have Katherine Iscoe says that we’re
Oliveira (@insta.beauty.mummy) wrinkles yet. Plastic surgeon Dr striving for perfection, which
always discloses the injectables Jeremy Hunt says that people doesn’t exist. ‘If I portray myself
she receives. ‘I want my followers are buying what influencers are as someone that I’m not, that gives
to know that I have Botox to look posting, ‘whether that’s shoes, my followers false hope that they
a certain way,’ she says. ‘I believe can be like me; that’s where it
36%
you have to be honest.’ becomes wrong,’ she says. ‘There’s
Influencer couple Poppy a deficit between the reality and
Frances (@poppyfrances) and what is portrayed and it’s making
Adam Taylor (@adamluketaylor) people feel bad about themselves.’
have an agreement with Victorian The takeaway? ‘Only you
Cosmetic Institute. ‘I get LED know what’s right for you,’ says
light phototherapy treatment,’ Dr Iscoe. ‘If Botox is something
says Frances. ‘My skin can often of 20-30-year-olds would that is important for you, go for
break out from heavy makeup and consider anti-wrinkle it, but don’t do it just because
can be dull. It’s a requirement injectables to look younger** others are. Take what you see on
of my job [as a model] to have social media with a pinch of salt
glowing skin and I certainly do – give yourself a reality check and
not have that naturally.’ a dose of kindness.’ #

If you’re Gen Y, you probably swear by your
zodiac rain, hail or starsign. Whether the
universe has our back or not, it seems we’re
all searching for a little spiritual get up and
go, writes Cosmo’s Mel Evans

cosmo insight
It’s in our DNA

‘It’s a bit of a human tendency to
want to know what’s coming up at
times of emotional difficulty,’ says
psychologist Dr Samantha Clarke.
‘That’s partly linked to the way
How much of your life is our minds are set up. We have the
limbic system, which is our fight or
planned based on what your flight, and the pre-frontal cortex,
which is pretty much why we’re at
starsign tells you? If you’re in the top of the food chain – but we
still don’t like uncertainty. Our
retrograde, do you use it as an minds think that if we can’t see what
is in the distance, there might be a
excuse? (‘Sorry I yelled at you predator, and it needs to know what’s
– Mercury was in retrograde.’) there so it feels safe. The physical

threats have disappeared, but the
Do you feel hope when you think psychological threat of not knowing
about the future is still there. We
of that love-attracting rose need that little reassurance that lets
that part of our anxiety settle down.’
quartz in your pocket? We put 2017 has already presented a
raft of uncertainty in the world.
a lot of faith in The Universe. Because of this, we seem to be a
melting pot of lost souls searching
for meaning in WTF times. Some-
A logical mind will tell you that times seeking a forecast of good
relying on the universe for answers news is nothing more than needing
is a bunch of baloney. But cut to me a sounding board, a confirmation
on any particular week and you’ll of previously held beliefs, or just,
see a woman cross-referencing three you know, some guidance.
different astrologers, wondering if To an extent, our gender also
she needs to refer to her natal chart fuels this obsession, encouraged
and cleanse her crystals with the by the ‘locus of control’. Dr Clarke
full moon. Impatient? Deluded? Or explains it as a two-sided pattern
just wanting a heads-up? You be of thinking when it comes to our
the judge. personality – internal and external
Even though I perpetually find – and women are believed to have
myself relying on some galactic map a higher external locus of control.
to determine my life, I’m no loony According to Dr Clarke, those
– even my most with-it girlfriends who have an internal locus of control
join me in this obsession (as do the feel they have more control over
6.5 million other people who tune in what happens to them in their life:
to astrologer du jour Susan Miller’s in their mind, ‘they make a choice
horoscope overviews each month). that leads to an outcome’, says Dr
Whether we’re worried about work, Clarke. Then there are the rest of
confused about our next step in life, us, those with an external locus of
or losing patience in the seemingly control, who feel like we’re more
neverending quest for love, our powerless to control our situation
horoscopes, psychics, tarot cards and regardless of what we do. Think
whatever-elses serve to tell us that about your workplace. You may feel
everything.is.going.to.be.OK. ’Cos you have no control over who the
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it just has to be. Right?! boss gives a promotion to, but >

Do you believe?
We’re not only keener than ever to
figure out our future whatever the
forecast, we’re taking it far more
seriously, with 58 per cent of 18-
‘THERE IS SOMETHING 24-year-old Americans believing
astrology is scientific (maybe us
IN EACH OF US THAT IS Australians think more realistically).

But it’s not scientific. Far from it.
SUPERSTITIOUS…’ The mere mention of horoscopes

and science in the same sentence
has the potential to make Bill Nye
ask a guy and they’ll (likely) feel spit out his tea. It’s more to do with
they have all the control. The mind our psychological needs – although
is a funny thing. we know our horoscope is being
Astrologer Jenny England read by millions of other people, we
believes the planets can determine want to be able to glean a sentence
our life’s path, so knowing this, we’re from it, look off into the distance
probably more inclined to sit in the and think, ‘It just gets me.’
passenger seat. ’Cos it’s written in Case in point: an experiment
the stars, right? conducted in 1948 by Bertram Forer.
‘When it’s done properly by a The American psychologist told
certified astrologer, your astrological his students they were receiving a
chart is a blueprint of who you are: unique outline of their character
your DNA,’ she says. ‘We can’t be and asked them to rate its accuracy.
anybody but who we are and when The catch? Each of these outlines
we try to go against it, we go wrong. was identical, but everyone rated
When you get back to your proper theirs an excellent description.
self, you feel happier and content.’ Team this with the analysis
But away from those helpful of over 22,000 Yahoo horoscopes,
confirmations-of-sorts, these maps conducted by David McCandless
are king content creators – read: in The Atlantic, which found each
money makers. Stories I’ve found one mostly rehashed the same old
in the past month include: ‘This is details for each sign, no matter the
how old you are mentally, according fact each zodiac is meant to possess
to your zodiac’ (‘42-49’); ‘This is varying traits and desires.
what job you were born to have, As psychoanalyst Gérard Miller
according to your zodiac’ (‘to marry explains, ‘There is something in
someone rich’); ‘This is the most each one of us that is superstitious,
annoying thing about you, according that can’t be convinced by reason.
to your zodiac’ (‘I’m a hypocritical This part of us means we are able
people pleaser’); ‘This is the best to dream, to access our imagination.
date according to your sign’ (‘taking The problem is that it makes us
a class’). There are even star sign- vulnerable to astrology, clairvoyants
themed fragrance-making work- or any type of guru who claims to
shops in case you want to know know something about our essential
exactly what a Libran smells like, being, our needs, our desires – our
and a hotel has opened up in Sydney future’ – just something we do not.
with a bespoke program catered to A little spirituality, wherever it
your own zodiac. We’re approaching may come from, allows us to live in
system overload. But at least I can a make-believe world, where sadness
flop down on my Libran-bed, wrap is seldom mentioned. Because the
myself in a Libran-robe or enjoy a truth hurts. But thinking a generic
Libran-walking tour. round-up speaks only to us alludes

cosmo insight
to the motivation behind our search. a lack of meaning; they have so I’ll be honest, they really are just
We’re a narcissistic bunch. We long much choice and so much pressure a guide. Anything negative is ignored
to feel like we belong and that we to achieve it’s paralysing.’ and the good is treated as inspo.
each, individually, have our own Humans are a fan of patterns. ‘If your patterns of behaviour are
unique, special place. Because we’re Team this with a lack of meaning working for you and you can read
special. And armed with this, we and looking to the stars helps deal your horoscope and it makes you
continuously strive to find out the with not knowing what’s ahead. think about what you can learn in
secrets to our future through an Even if we read between the lines, order to move forward in your life,
industry that is worth more than we’re still using the message to our then it’s fine,’ says Dr Clarke.
$2b illion. advantage as it helps quiet anxious That’s just the sign I need. #
feelings. So long as we take it all
Losing our religion with a grain of salt (and a dash of
‘People have been moving away reality), what’s the harm in believing
from churches and close connections something good is ahead for us? We Whatever time of day
you’re reading this, you
with family and instead seeking can believe in whatever we choose,
can guarantee writer
material things,’ explains England. so why not let a bunch of stars in the
ISTOCK
Mel Evans has already

‘This is leaving a lot of Gen Y with sky be our guiding light. checked her horoscope.

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Hair & makeup by

Kristyan low using MAC
cosmetics and O&M
Haircare. Model:
Halcyon Powe/Vivien’s
Models. Photographer
assistant: Matteo Macri.
Stylist assistant: Ana
Zupanoska. With thanks
to Virgin Australia.
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HOW
TO
NAIL
A HAIR
section
CHANGE
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Scarlett’s crop
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1 KNOW YOUR TEXTURE

Want Chrissy Teigen’s
tresses? Know what your
hair type is first. Strong hair can
cope with sexy layering, but ‘if you
have fine hair, you want the weight
of the hair to work with you so
minimal layers is best’, advises
Jonathan Colombini, Kendall and
Rosie Huntington- Kylie Jenner’s hairstylist. Got
Whiteley rocks a
layered bob.
curly hair? Be wary of crops like
Scarlett Johansson’s. ‘This won’t
work for you,’ says hairstylist and
STYLE CHANGE R+Co ambassador Barney Martin.
Step away CONSIDERING A

2 KNOW YOUR FACE
SHAPE (OR ASK)
from the
STATEMENT HAIR A drastic chop can be an
CHANGE? READ amazing feeling. Not so amazing?
THIS BEFORE Walking out with major regrets
YOU GO FOR and a pixie cut you hadn’t planned.
scissors...
THE CHOP ‘Look at your face shape,’ says
Tarryn Cherniayeff, co-founder
of Mob Hair. Then listen to your
hairdresser if the cut you picked
out isn’t the best fit for you. ‘They
will be trained in what shapes
work best and will come up with
the perfect look,’ she says.

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Kim K’s
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cut is easy
styling.
HEAD
CASE
CUT
OF THE
MOMENT
3
These two decadent
KNOW YOUR THE ASYMMETRIC in-salon treatments
STYLING LIMITS UNDERCUT will get your scalp
It’s no good asking your A’kin Dry
Shampoo,
R+Co
Rockaway
It’s not one hair healthy so your hair
hairdresser for a directional cut but three
haircut if you’re not able to style
$14.95 Salt Spray,
$39
can grow longer
it yourself. If you want an easy-
blended together, and shinier
care cut, you can go two ways, look.’ Or go the opposite route says Colombini,
says Martin: relaxed or precision. with a meticulous chop: ‘a strong- who recently AVEDA PRAMĀSANA IN-SALON
SCALP FACIAL, $30. This ‘scalp
‘A great haircut with minimal lined precision cut always remains performed the facial’ treatment can be
styling is an unstructured bob,’ styled.’ But just be prepared to
says Martin. ‘This can be tended rebook your cutter often. ‘You
shoulder-length added to your next in-salon
service. Start with a scalp
to at home with dry shampoo for need frequent top-up trips to style on Kendall reading, then an exfoliating
texture and boost, and sea salt keep the blunt finish blunt and Jenner. ‘It’s a bit brush, cleanse and
serum treatment.
spray for that done but undone not frayed,’ warns Martin. longer at the Continue the ritual at
front,’ he says. home with AVEDA
PRAMĀSANA PROTECTIVE
‘The underneath
4
SCALP CONCENTRATE,
hair is shorter, $62, which protects the
KNOW then each section scalp from pollution,
WHAT’S REAL drops a little bit
balances sebum levels
and maintains natural
Some celebs change protective barriers.
their haircut as often as they longer to really
update their wardrobe, but make the hair KÉRASTASE SPECIFIQUE
realise that some of the big swing.’ MASQUARGIL, $25. This salon-
statement changes are, in fact, only scalp ritual starts with
wigs. ‘Kendall uses clip-in a high-tech diagnostic
extensions,’ says Colombini. camera to give you a visual
‘Kylie uses extensions as well, at root level. Next a clay
mask is applied to unclog
but she also plays with wigs.’
pores and get rid of oil,
So if you want to play with sweat and pollution lurking
length, consider faking it – at on the scalp.
least until you’re sure about a Hair is then
drastic change. ‘If you want washed with
to go a little bit shorter or a a prescribed
little bit longer with your shampoo, then
treated with a
hair, then experiment with
hydrating mask
extensions,’ says Colombini.
FILMMAGIC; WIREIMAGE
Kylie uses wigs and air-brushed

‘You can take them out for maximum hair treatment. >
drama, while
and your hair is still J.Lo’s curls look Kérastase
there and hasn’t amazing long. Diagnostic Camera
been touched.’

CHANGE IN HUE
Take your
colour cues
COLOUR TECHNOLOGY HAS PROGRESSED SO MUCH THAT Katy Perry
traded in her
WE CAN PRETTY MUCH BE WHATEVER COLOUR WE WANT. signature
dark locks for
HERE IS EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW platinum.
1 OPTICAL ILLUSIONS
ARE YOUR FRIEND
We’re all into clever make-
up trickery (*cough* contouring)
so why not do it with your hair?
‘Ultra-contouring is a technique Lady Gaga shows
used to manipulate an optical how bottle blonde
is done.
illusion to bring out the most
2
beautiful aspects of our clients,’
explains hairstylist and R+Co
ambassador Barney Martin. BLONDE AMBITION
‘Shade and light are used to CAN BE WORK
maximum effect to slim down Celebrities with naturally
certain areas of the face, while dark hair are going blonde. But
highlighting accentuates other is it possible for the rest of us?
areas.’ Also, like makeup, you ‘Almost anyone can go blonde,’
can add in unexpected colour. says Martin, who advises enlisting
Dark hair suits ‘deep petrol blue, a pro if you’re going more than a
deep ashy violet and camouflage couple of shades lighter than your
FILMMAGIC; GETTY IMAGES; GC IMAGES; WIREIMAGE
green’, recommends Martin, natural colour. Be patient on your

while blondes can add a pop of way to blonde – ‘you won’t get a
‘dirty blue, amethyst and soft platinum from a
powder greens’. dark base on your
first visit,’ warns
Martin. Use a
blonde treatment
Subtle hair like Olaplex Hair
contouring brings
out all of Cara’s Perfector No.3,
best features. $28, for upkeep.

hair special
3
Versace AW17
GRANNY GREYS embraced
ARE COOL pops of bright
colour at Milan
Grey hair might not Fashion Week.
sound that appealing, but ash
tones actually flatter a wide
range of hair and skin tones.
The best way to do it is to
ask your colourist to hand-
paint strands with balayage.
‘Ash balayage is certainly 1
trending in our salon at the
moment,’ says Mob Hair co-
founder Tarryn Cherniayeff.
She suggests keeping the ashy
hue looking good with an in-
salon colour treatment and
at-home toning conditioner. TREND
Try Mr. Smith Blond, $45, OF THE
MOMENT
or Fudge Clean Blonde
Violet Toning Shampoo and
Conditioner, $21.99 each.
RAINBOW HUES ARE
A REAL GOOD TIME
2
Highlighter hair is a major
trend this year and, thanks
to wash-out formulations,
draw-on hair chalks and
semi-permanent hues, you
don’t need to be brave to
take on brights. If you’re
considering frequent hue
changes – like Kylie Jenner
1
does so well – keep in mind
Grey tones
that celebs often fake their
can be subtle, way to colour. ‘Those are
like Zendaya,
or overt, like wigs,’ says celeb hairstylist
Kelly. Jonathan Colombini. >
1. Vixen Hair Graffiti Vibrant Hair Colour Chalks, $9.99 for 12.
2. BRITE Brite Neon Semi Permanent Neon Hair Colour in
orange, purple and pink, $16 each. 3. Fudge Paint Box Creative
Semi-Permanent Colour in Turquoise Days, Chasing Blue and
Lilac Frost, $18.95 each.
3
2

Naturally
blonde Bella
rocks her APP
brunette OF THE
MOMENT
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Fantasising
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4
before you change
THE DARK SIDE colour? Dream
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COMMITMENT Clairol Nice’n
Good news for those of you Easy My Shade
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in one session, but the upkeep go any shade you
is very different and you’re like. Virtually.
likely to need to come back Take a selfie and
for a top-up,’ says Cherniayeff.
It’s worth the trip, though –
the app suggests
regular colour refreshes will the colour you
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and rich. appointment. from the inside out.

hair special
THE LINGO
Say what
you mean
TARRYN CHERNIAYEFF, CO-FOUNDER
OF MOB HAIR, FILLS US IN ON WHAT
THESE THROWAWAY TERMS ACTUALLY
MEAN TO YOUR HAIRDRESSER
Hairstylist
Short layers: add body chocolate or auburn Orlando Pita
and remove weight. shades. backstage
during the BCBG
Max Azria Spring
Blunt: straight lines and Cool toned: anything 2015 collection.
no movement. blue, green or violet-
based – think ashy,
Choppy: lots of different creamy, blondey or
textures throughout. even blue-black. THE
FIXABLE
A trim: remove whatever Ashy: cool-toned, ISSUE 1
hair needs to come off blue-based colour -
to make hair appear think silvery platinum
healthy again (HINT:
this may not be just a
blondes.
Dandruff
nibble off the ends). Golden: warm tones,
yellow or orange-based an issue?
*ACCORDING TO A RECENT HEAD & SHOULDERS AUSTRALIAN SURVEY. WIREIMAGE
Highlights: dark base colour – think honey,

with lighter accents. caramel and biscuit Nearly 8 in 10 of
tones.
Lowlights: lighter base
us suffer from
with darker accents. Toner: a toner has the dandruff *. Get
ability to change the your hair on track
Babylights: very fine complete look of your with a formulation 2
foils that grow out colour. It can make your
naturally. colour more warm
that purifies the
(honey or champagne) scalp and adds
Platinum: silver blonde, or more cool (creamy lots of hydration.
most likely all-over. vanilla or silver). It’s a
1. Head & Shoulders Itchy
semi-permanent colour, Scalp Care Shampoo &
Warm toned: anything which means it washes Conditioner, 200ml, $6.75
each. 2. Kerastase
red, yellow or orange- out over a period of six Specifique Anti-Dandruff
based – think caramel, weeks. > Solution Shampoo, $75

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TOOLS
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MY HAIR IS DRY the nourishment it straightens.
FROM A TON OF breaking a sweat. Your strands it needs without
DAILY HEAT will also stay much fresher if weighing it
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STYLING SO I DON’T your skin so keep your hair off
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WASH SO MUCH your face and neck with a sleek 1. TRESemmé Beauty-Full
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Verdict: ‘If you are exposing it to topknot or high pony.’ Pre-Wash Conditioner,
4
a lot of heat styling, washing $10.99. 2. Matrix Biolage MODELSPREFER HAIR CURLER,
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I STRESS MY HAIR Hair Scrub, $31. $19.99. With adjustable heat
settings, this affordable hair
or environmental damage. So OUT WITH DAILY curler will give you bouncing
definitely don’t be scared of WASHING… 1
curls in a flash.
washing every day if you feel Verdict: ‘People think they are
you need it.’ “over-washing” when really they
are using products that aren’t
3
suited to their hair type. To repair
I LOVE MY GYM stressed-out hair, try using a
SESSIONS BUT I formula that’s specifically damage
HATE HAVING TO repairing, such as Pantene Pro-
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proactively to absorb any excess right conditioning where you dryer will up your blow-
oiliness that comes about from need it most.’ drying game.

SOPHISTICATED RIBBON
There is nothing pre-teen about a stylishly
placed ribbon. Take cues from Gwyneth.
‘You can
change a
look just by
putting in an
accessory,’
says
Colombini. Princess
bands
featured at
Elie Saab for
AW17.
Bright
scarves hit
the Gucci PRINCESS HEADBANDS
Cruise Guaranteed to add shine to any hair
2016 type, this is your moment to slide on a
runway. sparkler and channel your inner royal.
Gwyneth Paltrow
makes a simple CLEVER
pony chic with a
black ribbon.
SCARVES
A beautiful bright
scarf is a chic way
to add a pop of
LOW COMMITMENT colour to hair (no
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rinsing or waiting
Change
for colour to fade
required).
without
‘Try a gold
piece or braid
in coloured
pieces of
change
leather,’ says
Colombini. Chanel was all
about the chunky
headpieces for
AW17.
FROM BEJEWELLED HEADBANDS TO

LEATHER STRAPS AND RIBBONS, HAIR
ADORNMENT IS A BIG TREND – AND A STATEMENT
GREAT WAY TO GIVE YOUR HAIR AN UPDATE ADORNMENT
Add an encrusted
WITHOUT ANY PERMANENT CHANGES headband to give
winter hair some
dazzle. It’s also
great for disguising
regrowth! #

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16. Alternate sucking on his
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The hottest
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17. When you’re lying in bed
foreplay tricks
together, run your fingers along
your collarbone or smooth your
hands down your torso. Touching
yourself shows you’re a super-
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will take it as a cue to touch you.
1. At the next party you attend 7. 8. When you’re at a bar, brush 18. Have him stand helplessly
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chance of him thinking about Cosmo you walk by, or place a hand on ● Sit him down as you peel off
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1997:
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until he can’t do anything about ‘Flutter your but you did. knees…
it. The effect: stunned lust. eyelashes ● Unzip his fly slowly and
over his entire 9. Have him undress you slowly remove his pants…
body, paying
2. Try this sexy a.m. move: attention to
and take his time kissing and ● Trail your fingers up his legs
lightly rake your nails up and surprising caressing each body part as it as you eye the final frontier.
down his inner thighs, then erogenous comes into view.
along the bottom edge of his zones, like the 19. Be a wet T-shirt winner!
boxers, without quite touching backs of 10. Guide his fingertips to Wear a white tee to bed, then
his goods. Rise and shine, fella. knees.’ lightly swirl large circles around have him suck on your nipples
your entire breast, then slowly through the fabric. He won’t be
work towards your nipple. able to stop fantasising about
3-6 where he left his mark.
11. Delay him the gratification
20. Have him stroke your
4 blush-worthy
of a full-blown make-out. Start
by smooching his face and neck, clitoris with his ring finger,
pleasure tools
then teasingly lick his lips and which is less likely to feel as
suck on his bottom lip. rough or rigid as his index or
middle finger (coincidence?).
WHO KNEW THESE BEAUTY ITEMS DOUBLED AS GENIUS
PLEASURE DEVICES? US, DUH!
12. Wear a pair of inexpensive
fishnets to bed and let him rip 21. For a feel-good handy,
them off. With his teeth. move your hands up and down
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PERFUME BLUSH BRUSH
Always spritz on the same Take turns tying each other his penis in different directions.
scent before sex. The smell to the bed, then run the 13. Slowly nibble the outer rim It will make it seem like there’s
will create a special sensory brush across each other’s of his ear before probing just more than one of you on him –
memory he’ll associate with bodies to prime you both inside it with the curled tip of aka his ultimate fantasy.
ravaging you. for even more touching.
your tongue. The warm, wet
sensation feels shockingly erotic. 22. Suck on a piece of ice, then
RED LIPSTICK HAIR CLIP
Apply a fresh coat before Come to bed with your hair lightly kiss and nibble his bare
going down on your guy. pinned in a high bun. As 14. While standing naked with butt cheeks. Your freezing lips
The smudges left behind you get handsy, unclip your your back to his chest, ask him will give him a cold thrill.
on him will be a visual map locks and let them fall to reach around and touch you.
of every spot you kissed. seductively. 23. Clear him for landing:
15. When he puts a finger in, right as he is about to enter you,
insert one of your own, too, so trace a finger from your neck
you can feel your digits moving down to your belly button like
together. Teamwork. you’re drawing a runway.

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24. 31-35
Classic X X X- R AT E D
Cosmo 2006: DI RT Y TA L K
‘Pick up a strand
of fake pearls, cover MASTERED THE SWEET
NOTHINGS? TAKE IT UP
them with lube, and coil A NOTCH WITH THESE
them gently around his NAUGHTY WHISPERS
penis. Place your palms over
the pearls, and slide them
up and down to roll the
warm, smooth beads
over his shaft.’
Ask him, ‘What

do you want me
to do to you?’ This
is a great way to
gauge how naughty
he’s ready to get.
Come out
with something
unexpected and
naughty, like, ‘F*ck
me harder.’ Using
expletives shows
your boundaries
are down and lust
has taken over.
(But only drop an
f-bomb if it feels
right to you.)
Tell him out loud

He’s craving to
hear you say the moment you
what you want. get wet.
25-30
DIRTY TALK FOR ROOKIES

Let your guy know
just how much you
love his penis with
25.Send him I-want-you style texts throughout the day that explain phrases like, ‘You
feel so big inside
what you love about his body. 26. Call him on your way to his place, me’. Confidence
and start listing all the explicit things you want him to do to you once boost = hornier.
you get there. 27. During foreplay, whisper: ‘I’ve never been touched It’s a win, win.
like this before, but it feels so good.’ 28. Say his name in between
feel-good moans. 29. After sex, ask him to whisper all his steamiest Order him to do
desires to you. 30. Tell him how much you love having sex with him. specific things to
you, e.g. ‘Squeeze
my nipples.’ Hot.

Forty-plus
moves down,
only sixty or so
36 & 37 to go…
G O A H E A D,
H AV E A BA L L
THESE UNASSUMING
OBJECTS CAN
SERVE VERY X-RATED
PURPOSES
Take a tennis
ball and roll
it with slight
pressure
between his
shoulders and
over his butt
to help him 45.
release pent-up
sexual energy. Classic
Cosmo 2001:
‘Choose a
moniker for your guy’s
Chill marbles in
passionate bedroom
the fridge, then
persona – like Italian
scatter them
Stallion or Rocket Man –
over the sheet.
then reference it all day in
As you get on,
emails and on the phone
you’ll feel the
by its abbreviation.’
cool spheres
press against
your hot skin.
It’s a wicked
massage!
38-44
Our steamiest shower scenarios

38. Take a sexy snap 40. Leave the 42. Have him stand 43. Give him a soapy 44. After a super-
of yourself in the shower bathroom window open and hold on to (but not loofah, and tell him to intense sex session,
(get a waterproof phone for midday shower sex hang from) the shower scrub down your back, lead him into the shower
case) and send it to him and a voyeuristic thrill. rod as you kneel in front then front (while taking and let the warm water
while he’s out of town. of him, touching him his sweet time). For the spill over your bodies.
41. Press your wet, with your hands and finale, have him lightly Post-orgasm, your skin
39. Slither into his soapy bum against the tongue. When it’s your pass the loofah between is crazy-sensitive, so the
pre-work shower to give glass shower screen for turn to be pleasured, your legs before finally pressure of the water
him a scalp message. him to perve on as he switch positions and resorting to his fingers. hitting your every inch
His head is full of nerve brushes his teeth. don’t let go of the bar will feel so electrifying.
endings that can fire up until you finish. Maybe you’ll even go at
his desire for you. it again!

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Out-of-this-
world oral
61-66
USE
46. As he’s going down on you, 54. Hold the base of his penis THAT
tell him to slip his hands under
your butt and gently knead. Being
stimulated from both sides at
53.
firmly with one hand and then
delicately flutter your tongue
against his frenulum (the skin
TOY!
Classic 61.Run a vibrator
once enhances sensation. on the underside of his member,
Cosmo
where the head meets the shaft). over his member
47. Sit him down in a chair and while he’s still in
give him two full glasses of water 2007: 55. Lean over the arm of the
to hold. Don’t tell him why. Then couch, and have him go down on
his boxer briefs.
‘You may
start going down on him. He’ll remember our you from behind. The angle will
realise how helpless he is. tip of using a offer completely new and intense
62.During oral,
scrunchie on sensations. tuck and hold
48. Lightly nibble on the head your man to a buzzing pal
of his penis to ignite him. help him 56. In the middle of a BJ, behind his balls.
maintain an remove your mouth and use two
49. For feel-good, indirect erection. Now
we’re upping
fingers to form a V shape, then 63.Put a toy
stimulation, tell him to flick his slide it up and down his penis.
tongue against your clitoris
the ante by between you
through your G-string.
using six
scrunchies! 57. Keep the lights on when he during missionary
Stack them on is giving you oral. He’ll get the so you can both
50. Gently wrap your mouth his penis, then thrill of pleasuring you while feel the rumbling.
around his testicles, and start to remove them seeing your most private parts
hum for an amazing feeling. one by one up close – a total treat for him. 64.While he’s
using your
51. Hold the back of his head, mouth. This 58. Have him place his lips
doing you from
and when he’s doing something gradual around your clitoris (making behind, hand him
right with his tongue, dig your release of
pressure will
sure he covers his teeth) and a bullet vibe and
fingers into his scalp.
make his
alternate between sucking and have him rest it
teasing it with his tongue. As
52. Give him oral while he’s on
orgasm more
he’s doing this, press and grind
on your clitoris.
intense.’
all fours positioned over you. It’s your pelvis against his mouth to 65.Slip a vibrating
a rare (and totally hot) angle. get the right pressure and rhythm.
penis ring onto
his shaft, climb on
top, and tilt your
59. The triangle 60. Assume a pelvis forward.
Who needs 69? Lie on power pose
While giving
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your sides, your face by While he’s sitting upright in 66.

his pelvis and vice versa. bed, stand, facing him, with him oral, stimulate
Then each of you bend your legs on either side of
your top knee so your his body and your hands
yourself with your
bottom half forms a on your hips. The blood favourite toy.
triangle-like frame around flow to your nether regions
the other’s head. will help you orgasm.

85. To up your orgasm odds,
start in missionary position, then
have him move about five centi-
Epic, bed-
metres up so that his pelvis is in
alignment with yours. Tell him
81-84 to rock back and forth or in circles
as you thrust your pelvis upwards.
breaking
PI L L OW PL AY
TRY OUT THESE 86. While riding him on top,

ELEVATED ANGLES: reach behind you and cup his
testicles in your palm, gently
1 PILLOW
sex moves
Where: Under his
squeezing them in the same
head while he’s tempo as your thrusts.
lying on his back.
87. Squeeze and release your
Why: He’ll get a pelvic-floor muscles (the same
prime view when ones you clench to hold in your
you give him oral.
67. During girl-on-top, only let then a few more during. Your red pee) over and over while he’s
him inside halfway by clenching blood cells will be filled with 2 PILLOWS rocking inside you. He’ll think
your legs, butt and abs for several oxygen by the time they reach Where: Under you never want to let him go.
thrusts. Then release. Because your pelvis, which ups arousal your butt in
your nerve-packed G-spot is in and the strength of your orgasm. missionary. 88. Try this edge-of-the-bed
the first third of your vaginal Why: He can trick: during woman-on-top,
canal, lingering here ups your 71. Try these two hot twists on enter you at a keep one foot on the mattress
O chances. reverse-cowgirl. Bend over and deeper angle. and place the other foot on the
grab his ankles, using your hands 3 PILLOWS floor for leverage and get ready
68. Make doggie-style sex feel to push and pull yourself back and Where: Between for deep penetration.
more intimate (and hotter!) by forth. Or place your feet on his your knees in
turning your face to the side to thighs and reach back to put your doggie-style. 89. After he orgasms, all the
make out with him. hands on his chest. You get to stay Why: Squeezing blood rushes away from his penis,
in control, but he gets to go deep. them will make leaving him super-sensitive. Rub
69. For a fresh way to get laid you feel tighter. his chest and stomach to maintain
in the kitchen, make a rule that 72. Tantalise his P-spot (his 4 PILLOWS a deep level of intimacy.
both of you must stay upright… prostate) during sex by placing Where: Under your
the entire time. two fingers between his testicles hips, getting oral. 90. After you’ve hit the big
and back door. When he’s close Why: He can go O, let him rest his head on your
70. Take 10 deep breaths from to exploding, rhythmically press for longer (no chest so he can feel your pulse
your diaphragm right before sex, the area with light pressure. neck strain!). and heartbeat going wild.
73. 74-80
Classic
Cosmo
EXTRA NAUGHTY POINTS
2005: Share (then act out) the
74. 77. Keep your boots on.
‘Put Pop sexiest dream you’ve ever had.
Rocks [find 78. Have sex on a boat.
’em in grocery While he’s driving, place his
75.
stores!] in your
mouth during hand deep between your legs. 79.Pretend you are your own
a BJ. It’ll feel lusty twin sister.
like fire- 76.Fantasise that you’re getting
crackers on it on in a lust-inspiring locale. 80. Role-play as a naughty nurse.
his member.’

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92-96
A tip for every

type of lube
OIL-BASED: Massage his body WARMING: Rub a few drops in
Aaand he’s everywhere with the product… your palms, wrap them around
spent (but in
using your breasts. his shaft, and gently twist in
the best way
possible). opposite directions.
TINGLING: Put a small amount
over his peen, then hop on to WATER-BASED: Apply a drop
feel the tingles. to his fingertip, then guide
his hand to your clitoris to
FLAVOURED: Have him head show him the rhythm you like
downtown to taste it. to be touched in.
91.
Classic
Cosmo 1998:
‘A new, soft
toothbrush is an
incredible sex toy that will
provide pleasure for both
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of you. Ask your man to run

the bristles over your
breasts and entire body
– the sensation is
truly erotic.’
97. 98. 99. 100. 101.

Lap of love Swivel me, Two become Legs for The booty
He sits upright, baby one days shake
his legs crossed. Have him sit in In doggie-style, Let him lift both Have him lie back
Facing him, lower an armless chair. slide forward onto your legs over to on the bed with his
your body into his Straddle him, and your stomach and his right shoulder butt on the edge.
lap, and wrap your hold onto his forearms while he while he’s on his Lower yourself
legs around his shoulders as you supports himself knees. He can rub onto his penis in
butt. Rock back and pump up and down on his palms. Keep against your G-spot reverse. After you
forth, increasing or swivel your hips your legs as close and also get a start bouncing,
speed as you get in circles for deep together as you can good look at your bend towards the
closer to climax. penetration. for lots of friction. gorgeous bod. floor slowly. #

Can you
FLIP A
REBOUND
into a
relationship?

love & lust
Out of the frying not to squander a diamond in

the rough – and you get your-
pan and into the self a bad pancake. Easy, no?
fire: introducing Before you rush to a rebound,
the latest dating Lovehoney’s relationship expert
Annabelle Knight reminds us
term, The Bad we need to be mindful of the
Pancake. But can post-relationship grieving
process and what that brings
we have our cake to a new love – whether it’s
and eat it, too? a bad pancake or not.
‘Whether it was you who
ended the relationship or not,
IT’S THE WEEKEND and it’s always best to allow some ‘ENJOYING YOURSELF
you’re gearing up to tuck into time to process any residual WITH SOMEONE ON
a stack of fluffy pancakes. The emotions,’ she suggests. ‘Quite A CASUAL BASIS CAN
oil is in the pan, you’ve got the often a new person acts merely BE A GODSEND WHEN
spatula ready to flip and the as a distraction, which isn’t YOU’RE FEELING LOW
mixture is ripe for the pour. fair on them or you.’ AFTER A BREAK-UP,
You wait for the bubbles to But where’s the fun in that,
BUT BE CAUTIOUS’
emerge before sliding the egg right? Let’s add a little zest to them on social media [note:
flip under your half-cooked this theory with some casual guilty]. And when they are
first attempt, catching the edge dating, where the mixture of someone else rings true in the honest with themselves this
as you flip, dragging a trail dating apps and a perceived theorem of bad pancake law might make them feel worse.
of mixture from one side of ambivalence towards sex can when you’re both in a similar When you’ve identified what’s
the pan to the other as it starts create a bad pancake loophole. frame of mind. not working, it’s time to set
to smoke under the pressure. And when you’re in dire need ‘If you ended it, you might limits for yourself – like, I will
You’re defeated. Still, you wait of some flipping practise, it really be ready for new love, not contact my ex unless it’s
10 seconds for it to cook, then could well be the antidote. since often you’d have been one about unfinished housing or
transfer it to a plate and pick ‘Casual dating is completely foot out of that relationship for financial business.’
at it until you decide it’s a lost different to serious dating and a while before making such a Before you think getting
cause and bin it. can be extremely useful for decision,’ sex therapist Desiree yourself a bad pancake is the
Introducing the newest someone looking to move on Spierings says. ‘By the time you secret to relationship bliss,
metaphor for your dating life: from a relationship as it can leave you are often more ready know these sorts of rebound
The Bad Pancake (TBP). rebuild confidence both in to meet new people – you’ve flings are seldom destined to
yourself and in dating itself,’ already had a grieving period.’ last. You can limp along, but
WHAT IS THE Knight says. ‘Enjoying your-
self with someone on a casual
Knight agrees, to an extent,
but warns at some point you’ll
ultimately you’ll need the head-
space that only comes with
BAD PANCAKE? basis can be a godsend when need to address and process being on your own for a bit.
Like the first pancake you try you’re feeling low after a bad why your relationship ended ‘If you meet someone you
to make – a smooshed dough- break-up, but it’s advisable to in order to learn from it. To like and wish to pursue after
ball of nothingness – TBP is be cautious about throwing be honest, that is where a bit coming out of a relationship,
the first person you date after yourself in the deep end too of bad pancake could come in then do yourself the courtesy
a serious relationship, destined soon as this can do damage to handy. In order to move on of giving yourself some time,’
to end in epic failure. your emotional state.’ faster, pass your bad pancake says Knight. ‘The relationship
‘A bad pancake can never and collect $200, it’s about stands a much better chance
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turn into a proper relationship,’ setting yourself some limits. if you both enter it as happy,
says Molly Bernard’s character, THE FLIP SIDE ‘Identify what’s working emotionally healthy individuals.
Lauren, to Hilary Duff’s Kelsey Do two bad pancakes make for you and what’s not,’ says Remember: the only baggage
in Younger. ‘It’s pre-destined a stack? To an extent, the ol’ Spierings. ‘Often you’ll see you need to take with you when
to fail.’ So you put your good adage, The easiest way to get people after a break-up still you start dating is your clutch
guy on the backburner in order over someone is to get under contacting their ex, or stalking bag.’ Filled with pancakes. #

WHY A WORK
FLING IS SO
IRRESISTIBLE
DATING A HOT COLLEAGUE ISN’T
ALWAYS A NO-NO. BEHOLD, THE
JOB-SAVING WAY TO DO IT
I
Best save your
nookie for nooks
outside the office.
f you’ve ever had a crush on Syrtash, author of He’s Just Not survey by ranking site Vault. inter-workplace dating can
a co-worker, you’re familiar Your Type (and That’s a Good com. Surprisingly, 27 per cent beat swiping through singles
with the fantasy: eyeing each Thing). ‘Plus, you’re more of workers think a colleague- endlessly on apps. ‘In contrast
other in meetings leads to… attracted to someone when to-colleague relationship is to online dating, gradually
lingering near each other’s the stakes are higher.’ As in, cool, even if it’s with a boss. forming a connection with
desks, followed by… steamy your colleagues might find Just a decade ago, that someone in person can feel
make-outs in the supply closet, out or (gulp) you get caught percentage might have been refreshing,’ says Syrtash.
then… off-the-charts nights violating your company’s no- lower (and evoked comments If you’re gonna go for it,
at the company retreat. fraternising policy. like ‘but I don’t sleep my way be sure to take a no-regrets
‘There’s something so If you’ve flouted the rules, to the top!’). But these days, approach and don’t hurt your
exciting about knowing a you’re in crowded company: employee hook-ups have hit job in the process. Allow our
person in one context, then half of all workers have had the mainstream – and main experts – and other Cosmo
crossing over into a new kind an office romance in their screens (think: Olivia and readers – to set some love-at-
of relationship,’ says Andrea careers, according to a 2016 Fitz’s affair on Scandal). And work ground rules.

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Flirting
‘I hooked up with my boss success!
– and it ended horribly!’ More than 30 per cent
of coupled colleagues
eventually tie the knot*.
‘When I first interviewed week exploring a new really weird. He started Here’s how it started
with Mr He-Who-Must- city and drinking wine at being rude to me at the for these women:
Not-Be-Named project
manager, I thought he
our Airbnb (which we’d
booked to save money).
office. I felt uncomfortable
asking him for help on RISKY
was cold and arrogant.
After I was hired, he’d
We finally made out, and
the chemistry was insane.
projects – a problem,
since he was the project
BUSINESS
simply review my work Back at the office, we manager. Some industries
and never ask me any-
thing personal.
played it cool. We talked
and texted for months,
Soon, he got fired
because (surprise!) he
are responsible for
churning out more
‘I grabbed
It wasn’t until we took and he told me how much was difficult to work with. love connections his butt’
a business trip together he was into me. The lesson? Don’t hook than others. The
that my opinion of him Then he began dating up with the office jerk.’ fields that ranked
changed. We spent a someone else, and it got – JESSICA, 26, ENGINEER the highest in
employees having
dated a co-worker: ‘I met up with my former
superior, now-husband, at a
bar for his birthday. I walked
Avoid an HR HOSPITALITY
AND TOURISM
up behind him and grabbed
nightmare his arse! Immediately, I was
The right way to cross lines

with a co-worker: 3 / COORDINATE YOUR EXITS
61% like, WTF did I just do? But the
flirty move paid off. I went
back to his house for an
Colleagues will quickly get after-hours party, and we
CONSUMER spooned on the couch all
1 / WEIGH ALL THE OBSTACLES suspicious if you show up and PRODUCTS night. After that, we started
WORDS BY KIERA CARTER. *ACCORDING TO A CAREERBUILDER SURVEY. STATISTIC SOURCE: 2016 VAULT.COM SURVEY. GETTY IMAGES
59%
Review your employer’s leave together at the same hanging out regularly. A few
policy handbook, suggests time every day, says Haefner. months later, once we knew
Rosemary Haefner, chief Space out your arrivals and it was going somewhere, we
human resources officer at departures by five minutes. told a supervisor and asked
CareerBuilder. If any kind of RETAIL her where we should go
58%
office romance is off-limits 4 / GO DARK ON SOCIAL MEDIA from there. The only thing
that changed was that he
and you’re not willing to risk If you both take a few days
reviewed my work less.’
your job (or resort to finding off for a trip (let it be noted: – MEGAN, 27, ACCOUNTANT
a new one), stick with pure that’s a dangerous move) and ADVERTISING
58%
fantasy. But you can go for it someone asks where you’re
if you’re within the bounds going, say you’re holidaying
of company policy or there’s with a friend. Once there,
nothing in writing. Just be beware of posting pics or
‘We had
aware that should things turn status updates. GOVERNMENT a secret
54% code’
sour, your reputation or any
future promotions could be 5 / BE HONEST WHEN IT’S TIME
adversely affected. A general rule of thumb is
to wait three months before
2 / AVOID PDA AT ALL COSTS disclosing that you’re dating. ‘My now-fiancée and I
Keep your hook-ups private, Tell your supervisor, says went to great lengths to
after-hours and out of the Haefner. After that, if your be secretive in the office.
During the day, we’d leave
office (the break room is for co-workers ask about it, you sexy Post-it notes on each
coffee, not cunnilingus). The can downplay it (‘Yeah, we’re other’s desks but sign them
sexual tension build-up will seeing each other’), but don’t with a code so no one knew
be totally worth it when you outright deny it unless you’re who they were from.’ #
finally find a safe locale. looking for drama. – BETH, 38, EDITOR

ask LOVE
ADVICE FROM
OUR GUY
GURU, LOGAN
him
HILL
any-
thing
Q. I GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS ON THE
WEEKENDS AND I LOVE MEETING NEW GUYS
AT BARS, BUT NONE OF MY ENCOUNTERS HAS
EVER TURNED INTO ANYTHING ROMANTIC.
WHEN DUDES GO OUT, ARE THEY JUST
LOOKING TO GET LAID, OR IS THERE ANY
REAL CHANCE FOR AN ACTUAL ROMANCE?
A. Yes, lots of men go to bars looking to get

laid, but some don’t. And some who aren’t
looking for anything serious end up finding
love while sitting on a bar stool anyway. (Hey,
it happened to me.) There’s no way to read
someone’s mind and know his intentions,
so just keep meeting new people, trust your
instincts and remember that each person you
hit it off with is different from the last.

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He’s not
looking for Q. MY BOYFRIEND Q. I’m not a gold Q. MY BOYFRIEND AND I MET IN UNI, AND
love? Next! REFUSES TO GO digger – but I want WE’VE TALKED ABOUT MARRIAGE A TON.
OUT IN PUBLIC to know my fiancé’s WHEN WE BOUGHT OUR HOUSE TOGETHER
WITH ME. I’M HIS credit score and A WHILE BACK, HE PROMISED ME THAT THE
FIRST OFFICIAL financial standing. RING WAS COMING ‘SOON’. THAT WAS NINE
GIRLFRIEND AND Is there a good way MONTHS AGO. WE’RE STILL NOT ENGAGED.
I KNOW HE’S STILL to ask him? AM I BEING LED ON?
GETTING USED TO
THE IDEA OF US
A. In addition to A. For all I know, your boyfriend is planning
legally binding your
TOGETHER, BUT a surprise proposal, saving up for a giant
hearts, you’re also
I JUST WANT TO
combining finances,
rock, or simply choking under the pressure.
BE ABLE TO SHOW
so you need to have I’d tell him the plain truth: you don’t want
HIM OFF. IS HE a comprehensive talk to wait any longer. If he doesn’t pop the
ASHAMED OF ME? about money. Once question very soon (since you already made
you sit down, don’t the huge commitment of buying a house
A. You may not just stop at ‘I’ll show together, I bet he’s just overthinking it at
want to hear this, you my checkbook if this point) get down on one knee yourself.
but his behaviour you show me yours.’
is seriously shady. Talk about balances
There is a distinct and debts, your top
savings priorities, and
possibility that he’s
who’ll pay what bills.
icing you out ’cos If he gets defensive,
he has another – try a financial adviser.
public – girlfriend. A neutral third party
Just ask him point- can help.
Is he dangling
blank. If he doesn’t, the goods? Tell
then his behaviour him to hook
may have more to you already!
do with his (pretty Q. I asked this guy
extreme-sounding) out on a brewery-tour
anxieties about date, and he brought
relationships and his friends along with
his insecurities him. Does that mean Q. I’ve been dating instead of insulting
he’s not into me? my guy for a year his oversize tees,
than his intentions and I can see a future nudge him towards
towards you. Tell A. No. If he’s as clue- with him, but I hate flattering clothes
him his actions are less as most of my the way he dresses. with compliments.
making you think
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beer-drinking bros, I know it sounds When he’s wearing

he’s ashamed of he may have just been shallow, but he his one pair of jeans
you. Ask him what’s distracted by the mere doesn’t take pride in that fit, marvel at his
going on; make it thought of all that what he wears, and arse. At the shops,
clear that you won’t beer! Next time, ask it’s a total turn-off. ask him to try on a
be judging him. him to a more classic How do I bring it up? nice shirt, then tell
When he opens up, date for two (a movie, him it looks so good
listen carefully to live music gig, dinner A. Any man is likely that you want to rip
at your place), and to take criticism of it off him. If you swap
his explanations. If
make it so obvious his personal style insults for praise, he’ll
you’re going to have
(think, a text saying very, well, personally. respond better. #
a real relationship, ‘Can’t wait for our Try to forget what’s
he has to get over dinner tonight!’) that on-trend and think
this and venture he can’t mistake your of how you’d feel if Hill is a
out of the house contributing
message. Third and he were criticising writer for
with you – stat. fourth wheels avoided. your taste. Then Cosmopolitan.

Sex Q&A
No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo
The less sex

I have, the less I’m not sure
I seem to want it. what to do with
What’s wrong my guy’s ‘jewels’
with me? when I’m down
Nothing! It’s normal for there. Can I
desire to dip when you’re ignore them?
not getting it on regularly,
explains Osmo Kontula, a Sure, you could ignore his
professor at the Population testicles if you really, really
Research Institute of the want to, but keep in mind
Family Federation of Finland. that they can be major
His research found that 54 pleasure centres and learning
per cent of women who get how to handle them would
it on once a month or less likely blow his mind. Start
experience few sexual urges. explains Justin Lehmiller, simply, and focus on his
But only 16 per cent of What exactly is director of the social scrotum (the sac of skin
women who get busy at a golden shower, psychology graduate program containing the boys), says
least twice a week say their
libido is dragging. That’s in
and do people at Ball State University in
the US. If your partner hints
sexologist and relationship
expert Emily Morse, host
part because your brain sees really do that? that he or she is down for a of the Sex With Emily podcast.
orgasms as rewards, says pee party and you know you Gently – and we mean gently!
Kontula – and who wouldn’t Well, the technical term are definitely not, speak up: – roll the skin between your
want more of those? To give is urophilia, and yes, some ‘You should be clear about fingertips, or give it a few
your desire a reboot, find people actually do get turned your own sexual boundaries licks with your tongue flat.
hot ways to work sex into on by urinating on others, and say no to anything that Another trick that’ll have
your busy schedule a little being urinated on, or even makes you uncomfortable,’ him doing a happy dance:
WORDS BY JULIE VADNAL. STOCKSY
more frequently, like sending watching others urinate. says Lehmiller. ‘But try to when you’re hanging around
your guy an email invite to It’s pretty uncommon, but respect that different people down there during a beej,
a weekly meeting (‘location: the, ahem, urge can stem are into different things.’ Or cup ’em gently in one hand
your bed’). And because you from a few things, such as if it’s something you want to while you slowly pull them
were probably wondering, a broader interest in BDSM try, bring it up outside the away from his body, then
no, masturbating won’t have or just a basic wish to try bedroom – and the bathroom, move them back towards it,
the same effect. something new and taboo, for that matter. which increases sensitivity.

love & lust
Why do I get
wetter with some
guys more than
with others?
You can’t blame being a
strong river with one dude
and a gentle stream with
the next on just one thing.
That’s because female arousal
– which is often measured
by vaginal lubrication – is
both a psychological and
physiological process, says
gynaecologist Dr Elizabeth
Poynor. ‘In new relationships,
people tend to be much more
excited by their partner,
which heightens arousal,’
says Dr Poynor (which may
explain why you’re sometimes
wetter with a guy you only
recently matched with). But
there’s also a comfort factor.
Most women need to feel
relaxed with a partner in
order to get turned on and
cue the waterworks. Some
medications, like the Pill, can
affect things too. If you’re
feeling dry, an organic lube
can help adjust your babbling
lady-brook at any time.
SEX
TOY OF
THE
MONTH
What’s the best sex toy…
for a total first-timer?
Even noobs fall fast for
the Lelo Nea 2 ($132.99,
Wildsecrets.com.au). It has
eight vibration settings,
is totally waterproof, and
isn’t peen-shaped, which
means he won’t be freaked
There’s a party in out when you introduce him
his pants tonight, to your new little friend.
so RSVP ‘Yas!’ Score! #

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LIFE
STYLIST
KEEP CALM
AND EAT
With the Queen’s birthday weekend creeping
up, what better excuse to get your friends
around for a British-themed dinner? >

Keeping it
classic Keeping it fresh
BECAUSE EVERYTHING’S
THER E’S NOTHING MOR E BR ITISH THAN A BAP BETTER WITH AVO – MAKE
AND NOTHING E ASIER TO WHIP UP FOR A DINNER OURS A BLAT
PART Y. THESE SOF T, WHITE BUNS, USUALLY 2 rashers of bacon

½ avocado (sliced or smashed)
PACK ED WITH BACON, AR E THE PER FECT Leaf of lettuce
SERVE-YOURSELF TR E AT. JUST SET UP A STATION ½ tomato (sliced)
OF DELICIOUS FILLINGS AND LET YOUR GUESTS

PICK AND CHOOSE. WE LOVE THESE VAR IATIONS…
Like an
American
BEEF UP YOUR BLAT
WITH A PATTY, ONION
AND CHEESE
2 rashers of bacon
1 ground beef patty
1 slice of cheddar
cheese
BBQ sauce
½ onion (caramelised)
Vegorama
FOR YOUR NON- 3 slices of grilled
MEAT-EATING haloumi
FRIENDS, THROW ¼ onion
OUT THESE (caramelised)
FANCY VEG-FILLED ½ tomato (sliced)
OPTIONS! ¼ capsicum (grilled)
Handful of spinach
leaves

lifestylist
Some like
it hot
ADD A MEXICAN TWIST
WITH A BIT OF SPICE
2 rashers of bacon
1 tbsp shredded lettuce
2 tbsp shredded
cheese
1 tbsp guacamole
1 tbsp hot salsa My big fat
1 tbsp sour cream
Jalepeños (to taste) Greek bap
A TASTY, FRESH,
MEDITERRANEAN-
INSPIRED TREAT
1 tbsp crumbled fetta
¼ red onion sliced
½ tomato (sliced)
½ cucumber (sliced)
Drizzle of olive oil
Oregano >
Fish are
friends,
and food
TAKE IT OLD-SCHOOL WITH
A FEW FISH FINGERS
2 fish fingers
Handful of rocket
Tartare sauce
2 tsp mushy peas,
served as a side

IT’S PIMM’S
O’CLOCK, PARTY
PEOPLE!
SERVE IT WITH PIMM’S

The Brits love a jug of Pimm’s to get the party going. It’s dead
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easy to make – but be warned, it’s super easy to drink too
Pimm’s Royale Classic Pim’s The PimPom

25ml Pimm’s 500ml Pimm’s One part Pimm’s
Top up with sparkling wine 750ml dry ginger ale 3 parts pomegranate juice
750ml lemonade Ice
Want to impress your friends? 8 strawberries, quartered Orange and basil to garnish
Posh up your Pimm’s with 1 Lebanese cucumber, cut into
sparkling wine. Your pals will thin strips or rounds This highball, fruity version of
appreciate a bit of decadence 1 orange, sliced into moons the original is not only pink and
with their blats! Bunch of mint sprigs pretty but full of antioxidants.
Ice Bonus! Totally delicious, this
cocktail will definitely get the
BONUS SERVING TIP: Serve this one
Fill a 3-litre jug with ice then party started.
in a champagne flute! Then up the
add the strawberries, cucumber,
British vibe with a strawberry.
orange and half the mint. Pour BONUS SERVING TIP: A highball glass
Either pop a whole one onto the
over Pimm’s, dry ginger ale and is always best served with a straw
rim of the glass or slice and scatter
lemonade, then stir. Add more and lots of ice. To make things even
onto the top of your cocktail.
mint as a garnish in each glass. fruitier, add some strawberries.

lifestylist
SWEET TREATS
Go to any Brit’s dinner party and they will tell you how to make the perfect trifle.
Our version is easy to make – and guaranteed to impress even the poshest of ex-pats
TOO-
GOOD
TRIFLE
Layered-up
loveliness
IT’S THE DESSERT OF QUEENS
Berry-flavoured jelly crystals
Thick custard
Madeira cake, cubed
2 cups of berries, plus extras
(strawberries, blueberries,
raspberries, blackberries)
– if you can’t get fresh fruit,
use frozen
4 tbsp sherry, optional
Caster sugar
Double cream, whipped with
2 tbsp icing sugar, 1 tsp vanilla
extract
Pink meringue, crushed
Make the jelly and leave in fridge
until almost set. Place half the
berries into a pan with a little
water and sugar to taste, then
simmer for 2 minutes. Keep the
fruit and juices to one side. Place
the cubed cake into the bottom
of a glass bowl then spoon over
the cooked fruit and juice. Add the
sherry. Pour over a thick layer of
custard, layer over the jelly then
return to the fridge to set. Add
the whipped cream mixture then
garnish with meringue and berries.
SHORT ON TIME?
Strawberries and cream is the ultimate in British fare. And it’s easy-as to make. Just whip up some cream
(add a spoon or two of icing sugar if you want to be decadent), top it over strawberries and you’re done. #

TRAVEL
European-style
It’s a thing. And we need to embrace it now.
Time to start long-weekending
cosmo travel
EEKENDE
-W
E FRIEND
R
FIJI
✈
TH
In Europe, you hear Feeling like you need some
‘we’re going away for cocktails on the beach, wine your mates at Nanuku (basket-
the weekend’ all the over dinner and sore cheeks weaving, cooking sessions, river
time. It’s part of the from continuous laughter? paddle boarding through the
Take the squad to Fiji! rainforest, catching freshwater
culture. Australians, prawns, visiting local markets,
though, tend to think For a place with a reputation for snorkelling, er, sitting at swim-
a big trip is where it’s being a family friendly getaway up bars…), But if there’s only one
or a romantic escape for two, it thing you do between mimosas
at. So we happily go all sure is a good place to take the and mojitos, it’s taking the trip
year without a holiday, girls for a long weekend. If you’re out to the private island the resort
just to blow it all on after sun, sand and laughs (and takes its name from. Arrival is
drinks – lots of drinks), a resort by jetski – so rockstar – and the
one off-the-scale trip. is where you want to be for a mix team bring everything, and take
But actually, lots of of luxury, beach bumming and everything back, to preserve the
small holidays are local culture. island’s natural state of beauty –
Enter Nanuku, the down- so eco-friendly. This is true bare-
better for your stress to-earth resort with a five-star foot luxe. With feet in the sand,
levels, state of mind punch. Standing against a back- you’ll be served the best kumquat-
and happiness. And drop of lush rainforest-covered infused lychee martinis ever!
hills, this thoroughly boutique The team can even organise for
there is so much just resort has just 18 villas – so you you to stay overnight, if you’re
a few hours’ flight away don’t feel like one of thousands an adventurous squad.
that we’re crazy not treading the vibrant green lawns. Nanuku has all the usual bells
Most of the villas have their own and whistles of a five-star resort.
to spend more Fridays private swimming pools, over- But what gives it the edge is its
hot-footing it to the Private beach, looking the ocean. It’s tranquillity attention to detail and relaxed
airport for a few days gourmet food,
cocktails and a
(and privacy) at its absolute best. manner. You’re made to feel truly
It’s easy to lap up the Fijian special, with surprise personal
of fun. So whether you welcome crew. It’s
the simple things culture – many of the team who touches at every moment. The
go with your friends, at Nanuku… work on the resort live in the team are so fun you pretty much
your partner or your local village and happily share make new friends on your friend-
tales of their everyday home life. weekender. Guaranteed you won’t
own fine self, it’s time If you’re after a more immersive stop laughing for a single minute.
to hop on the weekender experience, you can visit a local
bandwagon. For the village, meet the chief for a Kava
A stay at Nanuku Auberge
ceremony and do an easy trek up
love of God, think of to a beautiful swimming hole – Resort starts from $3980 for
your Instagram feed. #instaopportunity. Worried about
two guests based on a min.
three night stay inclusive of
feeling voyeuristic looking into all taxes. The tariff includes
the locals’ homes? Worry not – all gourmet meals, select non-
the genuine warmth you’ll be alcoholic beverages, wifi, IPTV
greeted with will make you feel and in-villa movies, use of
select non-motorised sports
GETTY IMAGES
instantly at ease. equipment including bicycles

There are a million and one and selected cultural activities.
ways to spend your time with Nanuku.aubergeresorts.com.

Tourist hotspot
Port Vila is
located on
Efate, one of
Vanuatu’s
80-plus islands.
EKENDER
WE
VANUATU
SOLO
with stories of the beautiful

islands they grew up on. Half-day
THE
and full-day tours are available

to show you around the township
or take you to the spectacular
To hell with everyone else! Book one seat on a flight tourist sites – the Blue Lagoon,
to Port Vila for four days of utter relaxation… solo Mele Cascades Waterfall, Iarofa
Cultural Village… Or hop on
a flight to neighbouring island
Can you really find complete and wander and yoga session. The Tanna to visit an active volcano
utter luxury only two and a half coconut mojito comes highly (#wanderlust at its best) – it’s
hours from Brisbane? Yes you can, recommended at all times of day totally doable to get there and
on a beach in Port Vila. If you’ve (because 11am is an acceptable back in a day, and the rumbles
never holidayed solo before, opt drinking time on holiday), best from ash-spouting Mount Yasur
for an out-of-the-way stay with drunk while lounging on a bean- will leave you excited in a totally
all the close-to-town amenities bag on the grass, watching locals nothing-suss way.
you might need – to save on stress fish the coral reefs just off shore. You’ll leave a long weekend
and scary ‘I’m so lost’ moments. There’s a restaurant on site in Vanuatu feeling just refreshed
You’ll get it at Tamanu on the for all the food you need (trust enough. The key is to not draw
Beach, the perfect mix of beach- us, you need the coconut prawns it out; leave wanting more. That
side luxury and ‘real Vanuatu’. to soak up the mojito) and you way you don’t get travel weary
The five-star resort, recently can finish with a bottle of wine – you’re always looking forward
reopened following its destruction in front of a firepit on the beach. to the next long weekend. This
by 2015’s Cyclone Pam, is better Total relaxation achieved? Euro-style thing ain’t half bad.
and more beautiful than ever. Check out the adventure options.
Make yourself at home in a coral Just a 20-minute drive from the
Villas at Tamanu on the
beachfront villa – yes, the walls resort, Port Vila awaits. It’s worth Beach start at $345 per night
are actually made of coral – where a walk through town to mingle – but you can get your own
you can step from the door onto with the friendly locals – if you plunge pool for $545. Go to
sun-warmed sand for a morning ask, many of them will regale you Tamanuonthebeach.com.

cosmo travel
-R OUNDER:
ALL
HE
BALI
T
Ah, Bali. It’s accessible from all major
cities in Australia and offers the best of,
well, everything. You can chillax by the
✈
beach with cocktails, experience Bali’s
cultural heart, Ubud, shop in Seminyak
and let your hair down in Kuta. Go solo,
with your partner or with your squad.
COSMO’S TOP PICK
STAY: $ - Tijili Hotel, Seminyak (Tijili-
Pura Ulun Danu hotel.com/seminyak), for traditional charm;
Bratan Temple in
Bedugul, Bali. $$$ – Ayana Resort and Spa, Jimbaran
(Ayana.com) for a pamper-sesh.
EN TURE BREAK:
A DV
NZ
E
TH
THREE Fancy zipping through the forest at high

speed on a flying fox? Swinging from 160
metres above the canyon floor? If you want
OTHER Queenstown’s
spectacular views
of the Remarkables
a rush, meet Queenstown. Home to some of
the world’s greatest adventures, including
EASY
Range, Cecil Peak and jet boating, skydiving and bungee jumping,
Walter Peak. be prepared for serious adrenaline.
COSMO’S TOP PICK
ESCAPES
GET THERE: Virgin Australia and Air
New Zealand will introduce night flights
between Queenstown and Australia for
FROM C ESCAPE
the first time from June 23.
AUS RO
MA
NTI :
SAMOA
E
No matter your
TH
getaway vibe, there

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Whisk your bae away to this paradise for

are destinations close the ultimate indulgence. Swim in the To
enough to home that Sua Ocean Trench – it’s a 30-metre hole
will tickle the tastebuds in the ground that you can only get to via
of any traveller. Hitch a single ladder – or hop on a scooter to
a ride at lunch and be explore the postcard-worthy views.
there in time for tea! COSMO’S TOP PICK
Futi Rock, in the STAY: If it’s seclusion you want, Seabreeze
ocean near Resort (Seabreezesamoa.com) is an adults-
Fatumafuti on
Tutuila Island. only escape on the Romance Coast, with
private pools and a killer cocktail menu.
TRAVEL TIP: AVOID THE CROWDS AT THE BAGGAGE CAROUSEL AND BE ON THE BEACH STAT BY LIMITING YOUR LUGGAGE TO A CARRY-ON. #

HOROSCO
22.06-22.07
After a bumpy few months, things are falling into place. Dream big around
the Full Moon on the 9th, and focus on your end game on the 15th
23.07-23.08 24.08-23.09 24.09-23.10 24.10-22.11 23.11-22.12 23.12-20.01

Hello, brink of Everyone wants Hey, superstar, Welcome to Praise the planet This is your best Nothing gold can
greatness. Here to weigh in on don’t lay low at the best of your of love, Venus, month for love! If stay, right? Wrong!
you come! Active your big decision, work. Take the life! You’ll feel which slides into you’re single, Mr This is a 24-karat
Mars ushers in a but don’t let stage and soak empowered to your opposite Right just might month for you.
period of success them overrule up the praise make romantic sign, Taurus, on be a swipe away, Set up those
on the 4th. This what your gut is when your boss decisions after the 6th. She’ll especially on the stressful meetings
winning streak telling you. Your finally notices the 3rd. On the help you smooth 9th, when a Full – you’ll nail ’em
lasts until July answers will your awesome- 23rd, a New Moon out any rocky Moon could make – and put on your
20th and only come – Venus ness on the 1st. in Cancer will relationships. for a swoon- best networking
happens every and Saturn have Don’t be surprised lead to a huge Turn your lust worthy night. At heels. Big breaks
other year! So aligned to help if an ex reaches career change. antennae way up work, trust your await! For a jolt
double down you get yours. out around the If you get a job – someone you gut and embrace of confidence,
on the 21st. Just beware of 16th, but think offer, you should meet could send closure when the go Marie Kondo
burnout! Set hard before you take it! And treat you subtle sex Sun opposes and purge your
YOU NEED:
aside time to do engage. Do you yourself: it’s the signals. Saturn on the 15th. messy closet.
To be your own
yoga or meditate really want that perfect month to
cheerleader. YOU NEED: YOU NEED: YOU NEED: To let
after the 24th. scrub? plan a weekend
A next-steps To be honest with loose at happy
CANCER GUY: getaway.
YOU NEED: To YOU NEED: To strategy. yourself about hour.
His career may
trust yourself. know your worth. YOU NEED: what you want.
be on fire, but SCORPIO GUY: CAPRICORN GUY:
To dream big.
he needs your LEO GUY: VIRGO GUY: He’s The boy cannot SAGITTARIUS He’s feeling
support. Lend He may not know the BMOC at LIBRA GUY: The get enough of GUY: Things are daring and
him an ear and it yet, but this work right now, adventure bug you between the about to get experimental
he’ll show you boy needs some but nothing means has bitten him, sheets right now. romantic. Light – now’s the time
how grateful he bubbly and a more to him than so get ready for Don’t overthink; the candles, then to push his sexual
is for your parts! bubble-bath. you, his HBIC. some wild ideas. just enjoy! light his desire… boundaries.
CANCER
LEO
VIRGO
LIBRA
SCORPIO
SAGITTARIUS
CAPRICORN

OPES 21.01-19.02 20.02-20.03 21.03-20.04 21.04-21.05
A fierce Gemini,
Amy Schumer can
crack you up and
melt your heart.
June 1, 1981
GEMINI
22.05-21.06
Stellar gifts: Funny and articulate,
you have a knack for befriending just
about anyone at any time.
Blind spots: You tend to move super-
fast, which can leave you and those
around you feeling rushed or frenzied.
Get ready to Self-care is the Been thinking You’ve been flip- Fashion faves: Funky finds from
paaartaay! This name of your about kicking boo flopping like crazy, vintage racks.
is your month game right now, to the curb? You’ll but on the 6th,
to have stupid so treat yourself finally have clarity you’ll feel ready Indulgence: A spontaneous vacation
amounts of fun to a face mask, a when Venus and to make a major where you can explore local culture.
and dive head-
first into a new
splurgy workout
class, or a mini
Uranus unite on
the 3rd. Move
decision about
something that’s
GEMINI Seduction style: You’re a total flirt
obsession. Gather
your girls – old
home makeover.
Lean into your
fast, though –
another romance
important to you.
Pamper yourself
GUY who knows how to get what she
wants. Charm and quick wit keep
suitors lined up to see what’s behind
friends and new sensual side on may soon blossom towards the end Chris Evans closed doors.
– for an ultimate the 26th, when when and where of the month – 13.06.81
fiesta on the Neptune angles you least expect. especially on the Your month: Get ready for 30 days
20th. It could with Mars to You are over- 24th, a magical of being a dynamic powerhouse. A
turn into one of introduce love whelmed with day for love. full moon in Sagittarius on the 9th
the best days of into your life. change, but pay will bring an epic sexcapade your
YOU NEED: To
your year. attention to your way. Enjoy many admirers, but be
YOU NEED: To focus and avoid
fam on the 21st. choosy. Near the end of the month,
YOU NEED: To let take stock of distractions.
your hair down. your priorities. YOU NEED:
there’s major momentum at work:
TAURUS GUY: He a promotion, raise or big ol’ bonus
To think a bit
AQUARIUS GUY: PISCES GUY: Give needs alone time may be in store around the 28th after
more before
He’s all about him space if he’s right now. When LOVES: your boss realises she’d be lost
you speak.
romance. Cuddle being a downer. he’s ready to Intelligent, without your skills.
up close and he’ll He’ll feel better ARIES GUY: Keep play, take a hike outspoken women
do everything he by the end of the him grounded together to get a Your year: Everything’s coming up
who enjoy similar
can to leave you month, but let him with a cosy night little sweaty, then you! You’ve worked hard, so now is
hobbies and
feeling satisfied. deal on his own. of Netflix and vino. take it inside. the time to take a break and give into
passions.
that urge to see the world. This is also
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HATES: the year to find mentors, and come

Stubbornness July, you’ll thrive professionally. By
and hissy fits October, you’ll be applauded for your
AQUARIUS
PISCES
ARIES
TAURUS
that make him efforts, so don’t shy from the spotlight.

feel stuck.
You need: To expect the best and
DREAM DATE: surround yourself with positivity!
A hand-in-hand
walking tour of
his hometown as
BEST MATCHES
he shares his Sagittarius: The two of you will
fun memories. love getting out there and seeing
the world together.
WIN HIM OVER:
By giving him the Aries: His enthusiasm turns you on,
reins and sharing and he adores your frisky side. You
in his excitement. push each other to new heights. #

THIS IS ME
The Suits actress, 44,

dishes on her love of
Beyoncé, how she’s like
Donna, and gives us an
exclusive look at Harvey
Specter’s dance moves
WHAT’S YOUR MOST MEMORABLE MEAL? WHAT IS YOUR PARTY TRICK?
I have two answers. The first one is in Tokyo, at about I don’t have a party trick and I’m really ashamed of this.
6am, I had a sushi breakfast at the Tsukiji Fish Market I was thinking about Gabriel [Macht, who plays Harvey
with the fishermen after the tuna auction. And another Specter], and what I would reveal about him is that he’s
time I had a New Year’s Eve campfire dinner in the actually an amazing dancer – like a break dancer – and he
Himalayas, and the guides we were with had smuggled, can kick really high! I don’t have an awesome party trick
on horseback, champagne and glass flutes to drink but I can reveal his! [Pauses] You know what, I can catch
while we were camping. It was amazing. things. Any time my husband throws me the keys without
telling me, I always catch them. I can freakishly catch things.
WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE CITY?
London. I spent my junior year of college in London WHO DO YOU MOST ADMIRE?
and that’s when I knew I wanted to be an actor: I was an I’m loving on Beyoncé. There’s so much inspiration all
English major and then halfway through I added a theatre around and there are so many women expressing their
major. The last time I went back I flew in just for one day unique voice and I feel like it’s a magical time for that.
to see my friend in a play at the West End.
WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT?
WHAT’S A MISCONCEPTION PEOPLE HAVE I’m not going to say my kids are my achievement because
ABOUT YOU? they are their own achievement – but on a more classical
That I’m just like my character, Donna Paulsen, and I note, when I look back between seasons 1 and 2 of Suits, I
have her skills. I have none of her skills, including reading had my second child and we all moved from LA to Toronto,
people’s minds! People ask us a lot whether we’ve gained and I was breastfeeding a newborn and adjusting a
a working knowledge of the law, and I’ve gained none. I four-year-old to a new school – and I didn’t go mad!
INTERVIEW BY MEL EVANS. PHOTOGRAPHY BY CATIE LAFFOON. GETTY IMAGES

mean, I play a secretary and I don’t even have a working
knowledge of how to file things or how to use a computer. WHAT IS YOUR LIFE MOTTO?
Run your own race.
WHAT FRUSTRATES YOU?
Never having enough time. Suits Season 7 is coming to Universal in June.
recommends
Sar3ahBOOKS THEIR EYES WERE AS YOU LIKE IT MARY OLIVER
WATCHING GOD by William as a poet
EVERY WOMAN by Zora Neale
Hurston It made
Shakespeare I learnt
about women and
I wouldn’t be able
to pick a poem,
SHOULD READ me fall in love with
the act of reading.
gender roles and
love and humanity.
just her complete
work. #

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