Tiger Mother

Written by : Fatwa Awaru

Tiger mother (or tiger mom) is a strict or demanding mother who pushes her children
to high levels of achievement, using methods regarded as typical of childrearing in East
Asia, South Asia and Southeast Asia. It is Amy Chua, a Chinese mother living in America
who applied and introduced that term in her book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother1. The
spreading of Tiger mother story of Amy Chua then revealed the secret of Chinese mother in
educating their children who always being superior in every field. Indeed, tiger mother
concept is identical with Chinese mother in raising and educating their children. A lot of
people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder
what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies. This paper
will explain further about Tiger Mother method along with its positive and negative that
following it.
Tiger mom parenting believes that arming children with skills, strong work habits, and
inner confidence prepares them best for the future. What tiger mother understand is that
nothing is fun until their kids are good at it. In process, a tiger mother is uneasy to face their
children. Instead of praise their children for their achievement like “good job” or “excellent” as
what western parents do, tiger mothers choose to praise them only after the children excel at
something.
Beside that tiger moms have high demand perfect grades. That is why tenacious
practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence. No wonder, the results of the children
work is paid off by their grade or their achievement. Then it is being common to see the
brilliant or the expert children in music or in school subject because of thousand hours that
they have been spent for practicing under the highly demand from their mother.
Somehow, tiger mom parenting method cannot be applied for every child because
each child has different characteristic. This parenting method may be good to be applied for
the stubborn or the unruly kids because these kinds of children need strict parents in
educating them. But in some cases, tiger moms parenting method gave more negative
impact especially in children psychology such as a timid child or contrarily the children being
more stubborn and disobey their parents or moreover impact in children development.
To sum up, tiger mom cannot be said good or bad. It relatively depends on the children
as the object. Even though the main purpose of applying this parenting is good, but
considering about children position and their mainly need such as affection and attention
from parents are also important.

1. Chua A. Battle hymn of the tiger mother. New York: Pen—guin. 2011.
 Democratic parenting method may be ideal to be applied in educating children
Pola asuh 'Tiger Mom' tidak bisa dikatakan baik atau buruk. Sifatnya relatif, tergantung
sifat individu yang menerima perlakuan tersebut.
"Tiger Mom bisa positif, kalau diterapkan sama anak yang susah diatur. Anak tipe ini
butuh sikap yang tegas dari orangtua supaya bisa berprestasi," jelasnya. Namun, dalam
banyak kasus, pola asuh Tiger Mom lebih banyak memberi efek negatif ketimbang positif.
"Pola asuh ini sebetulnya sama dengan otoriter. Cirinya, disiplin tinggi, namun
ekspresi kasih sayang rendah. Tetapi bukan berarti tidak sayang lho ya," ujarnya.
Menurut Kassandra, pola asuh yang paling ideal diterapkan untuk anak adalah
demokrasi. Adapun ciri pola asuh demokrasi ialah, anak diterapkan disiplin yang tinggi,
namun diberi kebebasan untuk melakukan apapun yang disukai, selama hal itu masih
bersifat baik dan tidak melanggar aturan.

Metode pengasuhan anak Tiger Mom tidak bisa dikatakan baik atau buruk, sifatnya relatif
dan tergantung individu yang menerima perlakuan ini. Tidak semua anak cocok dengan
metode pola asuh ini. Jika tidak cocok, bukannya akan menjadikan prestasi anak gemilang.
Namun, bisa berdampak buruk bagi perkembangannya.

In order to actualize these goals, the hard working is following the live of children with
toger mom.
 Amy Chua argues that Western parenting tries to respect and nurture children’s
individuality, while Chinese parents typically believe that arming children with skills, strong
work habits, and inner confidence prepares them best for the future
Beside that they have high demand perfect grades. However, that attitude reflects the
parent’s belief of their children’s ability that they can be “the best”. That is why tenacious
practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence. No wonder, the results of the children
work is paid off by their grade or their achievement. Then it is being common to see the
brilliant or the expert children in music because of thousand hours that they have been spent
for practicing under the highly demand from their mother.
Nevertheless, the most responsibility were showed off from these toger mother by
assisting their children over the time. Some
To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to
work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. Instead of praise their children
for their achievement like “good job” or “excellent” as what western parents do, tiger mothers
choose to praise them only after the children excel at something. This builds confidence and
makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes it easier for the parent to get the child
to work even more.
Unfortunately, these kind of parenting methode strive a super parents. These tiger
mothers have to have management by objective that they are not only give a task but also
; rote repetition is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something -
whether it's math, piano, pitching or ballet - he or she gets praise, admiration and
satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn
makes it easier for the parent to get the child to work even more.

What tiger mother understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good
at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it
is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents
because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where
Western parents tend to give up. But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a
virtuous circle. Tenacious practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence; rote repetition
is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something - whether it's math,
piano, pitching or ballet - he or she gets praise, admiration and satisfaction. This builds
confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes it easier for the
parent to get the child to work even more.
 No wonder, we were often find a 9 years old kids achive a global achievement. Can
you imagine how many times he spent for reach that achievement ? Do you believe it as a
talent ?
The vast majority of the tiger mothers believe that their children can be "the best"
students, that "academic achievement reflects successful parenting," and that if children did
not excel at school then there was "a problem" and parents "were not doing their job."
Tiger mother
Can you imagine how many times the children have to spend for learning piano, if in
the 9 years old they already can a word achievement for the great pianis ?
In Indonesia, It is a common phenomena to see the chinesee children
tigger some protest from the children activist but contradictly, it get some impressive
support from others who praise her way in educating her children. Despite it gets some
protest
Different with the western which is more permissif wi, Tiger Mother is strict in the
regulation