Multicultural Conversations

And the Four-Square Relational Model

 Multicultural Guidelines
● Lean into discomfort and take risks - Try things on.
● Maintain confidentiality - Create a safe space for people to share.
● It’s okay to disagree - It’s not okay to blame or shame yourself or others.
● Be aware of intent & impact - Be responsible for how you have affected others, regardless
of intent.
● Practice self focus - Use “I” statements and speak from your own perspective.
● Practice ‘both/and’ thinking - Use “yes, and” to acknowledge there can be 2 conflicting
truths and continue to move forward.
● Notice process and content - Acknowledge the “how” and the “what” of your experience.
● Approach with a beginner’s mind - We are all learning together.
 What do you see?

Both/And Thinking
Multiple perspective
thinking benefits
Lean into discomfort and take risks.
everyone.
Safety is mandatory. Comfort is optional.
WHO AM I?
Four Square Relational Model

From Respect for All Project

Bullying Behavior This quadrant locates those times when one engages in behaviors that are
intended to devalue someone, assert power, or hurt another either physically or
emotionally.

Being an Ally This quadrant locates those times when an individual engages in an act of support
or intervention on behalf of someone who is being targeted. Ally behavior can be
demonstrated through words, emotional support, or direct action.

Being a Bystander This quadrant locates those times when an individual observes an act of bullying
and takes no action to stop the behavior, or to stand up as an ally for the target.
This quadrant is a space of inaction, and passive, indirect support of bullying
behavior.

Being a Target This quadrant locates those times when an individual is a target of bullying
behavior. This quadrant is a space of anger, fear, and oftentimes, isolation.

Personal Junction This section of the model indicates the space/process where all individuals
make choices not only about their behavior on a case by case basis, but also
about the environments they face in making those choices.
How Does This Apply to What We Are Learning?
Four Square Relational Model

Oppressor Ally

Bystander Oppressed