The 30 Day Challenge

To Social Freedom, Becoming Fearless

and Dating Like a Rockstar

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

- Winston Churchill

3 Rules
1. No drugs or alcohol
2. Have fun
3. Don’t give up

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Phase 1: Social Freedom: Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Day 1

❑ Make eye contact with 3 people

❑ Make eye contact with 3 different people and smile
❑ Ask someone for the time
❑ Small talk with a Coffee barista for 1 minute
❑ Take a cold shower for 3 minutes (I recommend doing this for the entire challenge)

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 2

❑ Conversation with a coffee barista during your checkout and while the next customer
is being rung up.
❑ Have a conversation with someone working on the street (charity collector, political
representative) without giving in to their demands for at least 2 minutes
❑ Ask a stranger for directions
❑ Ask for directions then make small talk
❑ Tell a joke in front of a group of people you know for 2 minutes

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 3

❑ Walk and sing down the street for an entire song with your ipod
❑ Make a stranger laugh. Don’t leave until he/she laughs hard
❑ Share an embarrassing moment with a stranger
❑ Walk up to a group of people of strangers and listen in on their conversation. As soon
as you can provide your input on the conversation as if you’ve known them for years.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 4

❑ Share a story in front of a group you know for 2 minutes

❑ Dance in a public place for at least 2 minutes then point at a stranger and say “your
turn”.
❑ Order a Hawaiian Pizza at McDonalds and persist on the order for 1 minute

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 5

❑ Ask 10 strangers what is their first impression of you. And write them down and have
them sign their first name. (Shy, handsome, animated)

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Phase 2: Approaching: Becoming Fearless

Day 4

❑ Approach 3 women and be genuinely interested in who they are.

Follow this routine for the next 5 days: Walk up side to side or in front of the woman.
Never approach from behind her then say “Excuse me, hi, I was just walking by and you
caught my attention so I had to come and introduce myself. She’ll be shocked and
flattered, then introduce yourself, “my name is ____”, and reach out to shake her hand.
She’ll shake yours and introduce yourself then say, “I never do anything like this but i’d
kick myself later I didn’t come talk to you”. She’ll be flattered. Now this is all I want you
to do. If you can continue a conversation do it. The goal here is to understand that you
can approach any woman you want, stop her, introduce yourself to her and she will
flattered that you did. Approaching women and being direct is not impossible and
women appreciate it.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 5:

❑ Approach 3 women and be genuinely interested in who they are

!

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 6

❑ Approach 3 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now after two days
i’m sure that sometimes you are looking at women and taking some time to make that
initial approach. From this point forward I want you to commit to doing all of your
approaches within 3 seconds of noticing the woman. No hesitation just action. Draw a
line from your feet to hers the second you see her and start following that path.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 7

❑ Approach 3 women and be genuinely interested in who they are

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 8

❑ Approach 3 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now introduce a
time constraint to your opening line. After you say “Excuse me”, say “real quick” or “I’ve
only got a few seconds” and continue on with your routine. Notice how a time constraint
reduces the tension in the woman and is more than willing to spend a moment with you.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 9

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. At least two of the
women need to be with someone, so now you’re introducing yourself to a woman while
someone is closely watching.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 10

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. At least two of the
women need to be with someone, so now you’re introducing yourself to a woman while
someone is closely watching.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

What are my top 3 biggest sticking points right now?

What will I do to overcome these sticking points above?

Phase 3: Connecting

Day 11

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Be present. Try not
to think of what to say so much and just let the interaction unravel. Comment on what
she’s wearing, how she’s interacting with you, how she’s feeling, what’s happening
around you, how you feel.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 12

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Be present. Try not
to think of what to say so much and just let the interaction unravel. Comment on what
she’s wearing, how she’s interacting with you, how she’s feeling, what’s happening
around you, how you feel.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 13

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Be present. Try not
to think of what to say so much and just let the interaction unravel. Comment on what
she’s wearing, how she’s interacting with you, how she’s feeling, what’s happening
around you, how you feel.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 14

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Be present. Try not
to think of what to say so much and just let the interaction unravel. Comment on what
she’s wearing, how she’s interacting with you, how she’s feeling, what’s happening
around you, how you feel.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 15

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
focus on your vocal tonality. Tonality refers to the volume, pitch and tone of your voice.
Most guys overlook this because they are so focused on what they are going to say
next. If your tonality is weak it can actually drive people away no matter how good your
body language and words are. Imagine scratching your fingernails on a chalkboard..yes
that’s the same feeling people can get if you have really poor vocal tonality. Most guys
are talking from the back of their throat or their nose.

Vocal tonality is important for a few reasons:

1. Being aware of your sound helps you control it
2. When you control your voice, you influence how others react to you.
3. When you have influence you can get them to do what you want easier.

Women respond to men with a deep tonality because the deep tone represents
confidence. In order to achieve this type of tonality you must speak from your
diaphragm.

Try this:

1. Hum for 30 seconds. And try talking now. Notice a difference in your voice.

2. Say: mmmmm hmmmmm and notice the vibration above your lips and below your
nose. You want to speak from this place.

3. Put your hand on your chest and feel the vibration in your chest as you talk. When
you chest is vibrating your speaking from your diaphragm vs your nose or throat.

From this point forward, speak from your diagram and notice the reactions women give
you. They are not even listening to you as much as they are “feeling” you from your
voice.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 16

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
focus on your vocal tonality.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 17

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
focus on your vocal tonality.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 18

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
focus on having high energy. First impressions are always important. It’s much harder to
start an interaction with someone at low energy and build it up than it is to start an
interaction with high energy and let it settle. The more energy you bring into the
interaction the more influence you will have over the people you speak with.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 19

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
focus on having high energy.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 20

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
focus on having high energy.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

What are my top 3 biggest sticking points right now?

What will I do to overcome these sticking points above?

Phase 4: Advanced Connection:

Day 21

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. And now I want you
to focus on your eye contact. Nothing communicates confidence better than direct eye
contact with someone. A hard strong gaze can be quite seductive and helps establish a
stronger connection with the person your talking to.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 22

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. And now I want you
to repeat her name at least 2 times during the conversation. People love hearing their
names and it’s very rare that people hear someone else say their own name in a social
manner. In a subtle way hearing someone else say your name creates comfort and
familiarity with that person. Do this with the women you talk to and she’ll fell that.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 23

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. And now I want you
to share your life experiences with each woman. Capture your targets imagination by
sharing experiences you’ve been through. When you share your own experiences about
yourself you help shape other people’s opinions about you. This also prompts her to
share something about herself as well further establishing familiarity and comfort.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 24

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. And now I want you
to monitor how you speak with the women and not only in a deeply resonated voice but
speak with conviction. The last thing you want to communicate to women is that you are
unsure or timid. So know what you’re talking about and be certain with what you’re
saying. And don’t be afraid to disagree with something she says. Don’t be a “yes” man
to everything she says. Women respond to male aggression well when it’s used in a
constructive way.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 25

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. And now I want you
to try whispering a few words into her ear. When you lean in towards a woman and
lower your voice, it creates an aura of intimacy that’s hard to resist. As you slowly move
in towards her ear the intimacy builds up and so does the connection between the two
of you.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 26

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. And today I want
you to creates a funny or cute nickname for each girl you talk to. When you name
something it symbolically expresses ownership of that. The act of giving a woman a
name is quite powerful especially when the name is a little seductive.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 27

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
ask for each woman’s phone number that you talk to for at least 2 minutes. Review how
to get a phone number and setup a date via text in the program and bonus guide for a
step by step solution.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 28

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
ask for each woman’s phone number that you talk to for at least 2 minutes. Review how
to get a phone number and setup a date via text in the program and bonus guide for a
step by step solution.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 29

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
ask for each woman’s phone number that you talk to for at least 2 minutes. Review how
to get a phone number and setup a date via text in the program and bonus guide for a
step by step solution.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

Day 30

❑ Approach 5 women and be genuinely interested in who they are. Now I want you to
ask for each woman’s phone number that you talk to for at least 2 minutes. Review how
to get a phone number and setup a date via text in the program and bonus guide for a
step by step solution.

What did I do well on?

What will I work on?

What are my top 3 biggest sticking points right now?

What will I do to overcome these sticking points above?

Congratulations,

You have completed the 30 day challenge. I did something similar many years ago and
it completely changed my life. I’m happy you took action, and persevered despite many
failures (although now funny stories). I wish when I first started out I had such a
resource that broke everything down step by step and progressively increased in
difficulty.

By now you should have social freedom, be fearless in your approaches and have many
numbers lined up in your phone to follow up with. Refer back to the texting guide and
the main program to continue advancing in your dating life.

Best,

Andrew Ferebee

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