Name : Zulkifli Bin Abdul Karim

Identification no. : 611101087117

Police identification : RF/111426

Birth date : 1 / 11/ 1961

Age : 56

Address : Kampung Changkat Ibol, Taiping, Perak

Education : SPM

Working date : 6 /1/ 1981

Marriage date : 15/1/1990

Wife : Noriza binti Ahmad

Sons :2

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Life Lessons and Legacies.

From the interview, whats your most cherished family tradition? The most important
things is look after family relation. It does not matter if you have many family members, you
have to sustain family relationships even it small. Family are important. Why is it important?
Appreciation. Appreciation is actively showing love and gratitude for family members. In good
and bad times, which all families have, parents and children in strong families remain loyal to
each other. Strong families are so important because without them, we wouldnt have
successful people or societies. What have you liked best about your life so far? He said having
a good health and the success of the children. He still have a good health and try to keep fit.
He always having medical check-up. Checking for high blood pressure, hypertension the
common disorder for late adulthood. He was very grateful with his health and the achievement
of his children in education.

After that, whats your happiest or proudest moment? His happiest moment was the
moment he getting promoted from corporal to sergeant after serving for 30 years in Royal
Malaysia Police. Moreover, his proudest moment was seeing his children continue and
finishing graduate in college or university. Why is this his proudest moment, this is because he
cannot get chances to continue study after middle school. He had to work to support life and
family. His children can get what he cannot now. Proudest moment of a father to the son. What
do you feel have been the important successes in your life? His important successes in his life
was managed to guide the family as leader of this family. Having a happy family and successful
children. Which is quite romantic was having the best wife (mother) to his children in life. In
order to achieve happiness there must be allegations and obstacles.

Now, what the frustrations? He told me he had many frustrations in his career as a
policeman. He thinks that he getting tested. Although he got promoted but he promoted
passively not like others. The others getting promoted faster and easier. There also another
things that he applied to change his work location. The application had pending until now. He
just want to work at his late workplace. I heard he said it seem boring to work at the prison, no
joke. He's stuck there. The best thing is he accepted that as an order from his superior. It all
depending on sustenance from Allah. That his frustration in his career. The frustration from the
family was his children. Antics two of his sons. By the way, he keep grateful. At least I am
kind of understand that.

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 To the next question, whats the most difficult thing that ever happened to you? It was
when he in childhood. He do not like most of us live in the same roof with our own mother,
father and other siblings. He was an orphan. Have his own parents but they cannot raise him.
He was took by his auntie. I just keep thinking was he can enjoy playing while he in his
childhood like us. He cannot. For school, he just bring 20 sen, 10 sen for his expenses and the
other 10 sen for bus to came and back home. Just bring food from home. Not luxurious as now,
eat what is there. Hard but grateful. From what he experience in the childhood, the hardships
he learn to life well.

How can he deal with it? He said stay strong and strong in dealing with various trials,
mettlesome (tabah). The second things is an attitude of restraining emotions and desires, and
enduring in difficult situations with no complains, patient. Keep praying to Allah for strength.
Allah just give us all the best. He think his marriage as his turning points have been in your
life. He have his children to make him work more for his family life well. Motivation for the
children to not have difficulty like him before. He hope his children to succeed and live well
more than him. What were you like then? He was very happy with his life and proud to be as
now. There are times of his life that he remember more vividly than others was when his own
mother in deathbed beside him. The others siblings that she take care of not there but he was.
He teach her kalimah syahadah until her last breath. Even though she abandon him at his
childhood, he still feel responsible of his biological mother. He do take the responsible and get
the chance to meet her for the last time. But he do not tell me when the first time he can get to
remember about his mother and do not talk anything about his father. This feeling that I cannot
understand is growing up without love of parents. That must be hard for him.

Why? His owns biological mother cannot take care of him in childhood and do nothing
for him .He still satisfied that his mother died in front of him peacefully, he had time to meet
her and he is the one that manage the corpse of his mother. His brother and sister? Many did
not came or get the chance as he did. He do not have any influential experiences in his life. He
had his own story of life but he not able to write or divide it into chapters. From previous
questions that he answers, I guess anyone can understand and get the idea of his life. Even if
anything he can done differently in his life, he dont want to change as its happen. There are
something in life that we can undo. We have to accept it and be grateful as the resolution of
Allah. There are also nothing that he wish to know when he were younger that he know now.

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 What have you thrown away in your life that you wish you hadnt? Nope, nothing to be
thrown away. When I asked him about what important in life, he told me that be a slave of
Allah. Doing what that Allah want to and leave the prohibited. He is seem not too pious but his
religion is firm from what he said.

Nothing junk and nothing have to explain because he dont want to even think about
junk in his life. It kind of useless thing to talk about. He do not tell me about the way he look
at life and people. It just strive and trust. He doesnt have grandparents or advice from his
parents. He learn to live as he going through it. Do you have a philosophy of life? Nope, but I
can guess, just strive and trust to Allah. The most important is I can get the best piece of advice
for living. Effort, dont give up, pray that sustenance from Allah. Then, dont be arrogant and
generous to even animals. Dont forget yourself and more important is dont forget Allah.
Earnest effort and trust to Allah are the most important thing for living a good life and
successful life. That his answer if anyone asked about him about. Even he doesnt know how
to differentiate the difference of meaning between a good life and a successful life. It just the
same as he told.

He also think that a person needs to first overcome serious setbacks or challenges to be
truly successful. He also going through much to be as he is now. Having a happy family or get
what he want or what he can get. He also tell me that, when he was in childhood he hardly
getting toys or money to buy toys to play with. Yes, there are limitation in life or career. The
statutes and the will of Allah. KUN FAYAKUN (Read as kun fayakoon) is an Arabic
phrase that appears in Quran Majeed. It means Be, and it is. It appears at eight different
places. If we consider these words separately, then the word KUN (only) has been appeared
two times and the word FAYAKUN (only) has been used one time in Quran Majeed. The
word Kun means to be, manifest or exist. It is used in reference to Allahs Glorious creation
powers. When He decrees a thing, He says to it only: "Be!" And it is.' That was the only
limitation in life, it the Allah will after we strive. It is important to know the limitation because
that way we can learn to hope and accept that what Allah set for us.

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 If you had the power to solve one and only one problem in the world, what would it be
and why? He laugh, it seem many ideas come to his thinking. Early start, I though he want to
talk about his life problem. Then, he said welfare and logistics in Royal Malaysia Police. For
the welfare, the salary still low and the payment of allowance late. Housing (ORTS) not enough
especially in big cities, low than rent rate. One of the causes of corruption. Hard to get promoted
even had enough requirement. If die while working then get promoted easily. The apartment
for police were very old and hardly to get fix. If the damage were little or easily fix, then can
fix it ourselves with our own risk and money. Moreover, for the logistics use the same old
police vehicle. Daily stuff for working has buy ourselves. The same problem with the officer
but can easily get or fix. No equality in working. That the one problem with the welfare and
logistics in Royal Malaysia Police that he want to fix or get solved.

Life Events Adulthood.

He married at the age 28 years old. It is because his family always asking him, when to
get married. He working at that age, he just comfortable not thinking about marriage make
people around him worried. Then, he asked them to help find for him. After that, someone told
him that, they had found him a bride. He just want to meet her first. In one month, they engaged
and married after six month.

The Present.

He do not have any hobby or special interest for now but if he has more money he want
to go vacation with his family. For sport, when he young he play football and now just watching
it at the television. His typical day just the same as before he said. His daily routine are going
to work, back home and stay at home. Do not waste time outside. Dont hang out outside too
much. Is the present better or worse than when you were younger? Alhamdulillah, when his
younger and now is the same. The different is how to manage life to be better than before. What
do you do for fun? Who do you trust and depend on? What things are most important to you
now? Why? How have your dreams and goals changed through your life? This all questions
have the same answer. A happy family, a good health with successful children are the fun that
have no value to him. The most important is family, without family, life not complete. Family
is everything for him.

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 Adulthood Development Theory

1. Social Clock

Have you ever heard someone say (or said yourself) "my clock is ticking." This is an
example of a social clock which is a cultural specific timetable for events to occur. Events
include marriage, having children, etc. For example, in some cultures it is expected that people
be married in their teens. This is an example of a social clock - in that culture they have an
accepted timetable for when events are to occur.

As we know above, at his 28 years old, he was told to get married. Malaysia has a dual
legal system, which means that the minimum age of marriage can be determined by either civil
law or Syaria (Islamic) law. Non-Muslims may only marry from the age of 18, but girls can be
married as early as 16 provided they or their parents have the permission of the State Chief
Minister. That for law in Malaysia but at what age that people in Malaysia expect their people
to get married?

Nowadays, it is very popular to get married at earlier age at 20 25 years old. But even
they want to get married later on, it cannot exceeded 30 years old for women. Difference with
men, after 30 years old, they have more stability in financial and emotional to get married. It
just the same at 1990s. People will have to get married when can afford to and finally found
someone. Just nowadays, people prefer to love or getting know for each other to get married.
What I mean is love before marriage than arranged marriage like before.

2. Sleep Drive and Your Body Clock

Most people notice that they naturally experience different levels of sleepiness and
alertness throughout the day, but what causes these patterns? Sleep is regulated by two body
systems: sleep/wake homeostasis and the circadian biological clock.

When we have been awake for a long period of time, sleep/wake homeostasis tells us that
a need for sleep is accumulating and that it is time to sleep. It also helps us maintain enough
sleep throughout the night to make up for the hours of being awake. If this restorative process
existed alone, it would mean that we would be most alert as our day was starting out, and that
the longer we were awake, the more we would feel like sleeping. In this way, sleep/wake
homeostasis creates a drive that balances sleep and wakefulness. Our internal circadian
biological clocks, on the other hand, regulate the timing of periods of sleepiness and
wakefulness throughout the day.

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 The circadian rhythm dips and rises at different times of the day, so adults' strongest sleep
drive generally occurs between 2:00-4:00 am and in the afternoon between 1:00-3:00 pm,
although there is some variation depending on whether you are a morning person or evening
person. The sleepiness we experience during these circadian dips will be less intense if we
have had sufficient sleep, and more intense when we are sleep deprived. The circadian rhythm
also causes us to feel more alert at certain points of the day, even if we have been awake for
hours and our sleep/wake restorative process would otherwise make us feel sleepier.

For him, his biological clock just the same as before. At 11 pm at night. But it just for daily
routine. If he had to work overnight, sleep/wake homeostasis make him to stay awake. When
return home at the morning, he just need a nap, a little sleep. Not for 8 hours sleep the amount
he sleep at night. This is because an adult just need a little amount sufficient sleep. When we
are younger we need more sleep for our daily activities. This how our body work through time
with the body clock.

3. Carl Jung's theory

Carl Jung, a Swiss psychoanalyst, formulated four stages of development and believed that
development was a function of reconciling opposing forces.

Childhood: (birth to puberty) Childhood has two sub stages. The archaic stage is characterized
by sporadic consciousness, while the monarchic stage represents the beginning of logical and
abstract thinking. The ego starts to develop.

Youth: (puberty until 35 40) Maturing sexuality, growing consciousness, and a realization
that the carefree days of childhood are gone forever. People strive to gain independence, find
a mate, and raise a family.

Middle Life: (40-60) the realization that you will not live forever creates tension. If you
desperately try to cling to youth, you will fail in the process of self-realization. Jung believed
that in midlife, one confronts one's shadow. Religiosity may increase during this period,
according to Jung.

He had going through all this 3 stages of development, childhood, youth, and middle life.
He had realize that days of childhood are gone forever, with his difficulties (life without parent)
he strive to gain independence to make his life better. He finds his own ways.

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 When he was working at the Langkawi, his family find a mate for him. Later on, he accept
and get married at the age of 28 years old. At 1994, he start raise a family with one son. He
also had many frustration while working, but at middle age he realize that he will not live with
frustration forever, he try managed it well. At this time, his religiosity increase with time. He
became more grateful and accept thing as there are. He strive for better in career and family
and place hope just to Allah.

4. The Big Five Personality Test

Extroversion (E) is the personality trait of seeking fulfilment from sources outside the self or
in community. High scorers tend to be very social while low scorers prefer to work on their
projects alone.

Agreeableness (A) reflects much individuals adjust their behaviour to suit others. High scorers
are typically polite and like people. Low scorers tend to 'tell it like it is'.

Conscientiousness (C) is the personality trait of being honest and hardworking. High scorers
tend to follow rules and prefer clean homes. Low scorers may be messy and cheat others.

Neuroticism (N) is the personality trait of being emotional.

Openness to Experience (O) is the personality trait of seeking new experience and intellectual
pursuits. High scores may day dream a lot. Low scorers may be very down to earth.

E = 20 + (1) 1 - (6) 1 + (11) 4 - (16) 3 + (21) 5 - (26) 3 + (31) 3 - (36) 2 + (41) 2 - (46) 2 = 24

A = 14 - (2) 4 + (7) 2 - (12) 2 + (17) 4 - (22) 3 + (27) 4 - (32) 2 + (37) 4 + (42) 4 + (47) 5 = 26

C = 14 + (3) 3 - (8) 4 + (13) 2 - (18) 3 + (23) 3 - (28) 3 + (33) 2 - (38) 3 + (43) 3 + (48) 3 = 17

N = 38 - (4) 5 + (9) 2 - (14) 4 + (19) 2- (24) 5 - (29) 4 - (34) 3 - (39) 3 - (44) 4 - (49) 4 = 10

O = 8 + (5) 5 - (10) 5 + (15) 3 - (20) 1 + (25) 3 - (30) 2 + (35) 3 + (40) 1 + (45) 3 + (50) 3 = 19

Higher in Agreeableness (A) and lowest in Neuroticism (N). It mean that he typically
polite, like people and not so of being emotional. Agreeableness reflects individual differences
in concern with cooperation and social harmony. Agreeable individuals value getting along
with others. He is therefore considerate, friendly, generous, helpful, and willing to compromise
their interests with others'. Agreeable people also have an optimistic view of human nature. He
believe people are basically honest, decent, and trustworthy.

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 Agreeableness is obviously advantageous for attaining and maintaining popularity.
Agreeable people are better liked than disagreeable people. On the other hand, agreeableness
is not useful in situations that require tough or absolute objective decisions. Disagreeable
people can make excellent scientists, critics, or soldiers. Policeman?

Neuroticism refers to the tendency to experience negative feelings. Individuals who

score low in neuroticism are less easily upset and are less emotionally reactive. He tend to be
calm, emotionally stable, and free from persistent negative feelings. Freedom from negative
feelings does not mean that low scorers experience a lot of positive feelings; frequency of
positive emotions is a component of the Extraversion domain.

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