CHAPTER 1

1Dreams

Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and

see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead. --Louisa May Alcott

You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams

and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put

your future in good hands -- your own. -- Mark Victor Hansen

We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers. They see things in the soft haze of a spring day or

in the red fire of a long winter's evening. Some of us let these great dreams die, but others nourish and

protect them; nurse them through bad days till they bring them to the sunshine and light which comes

always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true. -- Woodrow Wilson

So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we

summon the will, they soon become inevitable.--Christopher Reeve

If you can DREAM it, you can DO it. -- Walt Disney

Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today. -- James Dean

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who

looks inside awakens. -- Carl Gustav Jung

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1 Ellen G. White, The Compleat Marriage (Nashville: Southern Publishing Asso., 1952). p. 50.

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Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, magic and power in it. Begin it

now. Goethe

The very substance of the ambitions is merely the shadow of a dream. -- William Shakespeare

All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. --Walt Disney

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul; the blue prints of your

ultimate achievements. -- Napoleon Hill

Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Don't bother just to be better than your

contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself. --William Faulkner

Goals are dreams with deadlines. -- Diana Scharf Hunt

The size of your accomplishments, the quality of your achievement, will depend very largely on how big

a man you see in yourself, what sort of image you set your possible self, yourself at your best. -- Orison

Swett Marden

A man's dreams are an index to his greatness. -- Zadok Rabinowitz

A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn

before the rest of the world. -- Oscar Wilde

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life,

the laws of the universe will be simpler. -- Henry David Thoreau

Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so. -

- Belva Davis

Within our dreams and aspirations, we find our opportunities. -- Sue Ebaugh
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Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men.-- Johann Wolfgang Von

Goethe

I have heard it said that the first ingredient of success -- the earliest spark in the dreaming youth -- if

this; dream a great dream. -- John A. Applemen

Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you

shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil. -- James Allen

Yes, you can be a dreamer and a doer too, if you will remove one word from your vocabulary:

impossible. -- H. Robert Schuller

The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do

it, as long as you really believe 100 percent. --Arnold Schwarzenegger

Follow your dreams, for as you dream you shall become. --Anonymous

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. --Eleanor Roosevelt

Hope is not a dream but a way of making dreams become reality. --L.J. Suenens

Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours. -- Les Brown

It may be those who do most, dream most. --Stephen Leacock

There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there

are those who turn one into the other. -- Douglas Everett

There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why... I dream of things that never were,

and ask why not? --Robert F. Kennedy

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Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you

did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore. Dream. Discover. --Mark Twain

The way I see it, there are two kinds of dreams. One is a dream that's always going to be just that... A

dream. A vision that you can never really hold in your hand. Then there's a dream that's more than a

dream its like.... A map. A map that you live by and follow for the rest of your days Knowing that

someday youre going to stand on top of that Mountain holding everything you thought of Right There

In Your Hand! -- Robert Cooper

If you don't have a dream, how are you going to make a dream come true? -- Oscar Hammerstein

Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all,

is a form of planning.--Gloria Steinem

 CHAPTER 2

Education

Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one. -- Malcolm S. Forbes

The roots of education are bitter, but the fruit is sweet. Aristotle

The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great

teacher inspires. -- William Arthur Ward

Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere. -- Chinese Proverb

Getting things done is not always what is most important. There is value in allowing others to learn,

even if the task is not accomplished as quickly, efficiently or effectively. -- R.D. Clyde

You are educated when you have the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or

self-confidence. -- Robert Frost

The secret in education lies in respecting the student. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Nine tenths of education is encouragement. -- Anatole France

An education isn't how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It's being

able to differentiate between what you do know and what you dont. -- Anatole France

Education would be so much more effective if its purpose were to ensure that by the time they leave

school every boy and girl should know how much they don't know, and be imbued with a lifelong

desire to know it. -- Sir William Haley2

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The greatest education in the world is watching the masters at work. -- Michael Jackson

Let us think of education as the means of developing our greatest abilities, because in each of us there

is a private hope and dream which, fulfilled, can be translated into benefit for everyone and greater

strength for our nation. -- John F. Kennedy

Education is too important to be left solely to the educators. -- Francis Keppel

Knowledge is power and enthusiasm pulls the switch. -- Steve Droke

A man who has never gone to school may steal from a freight train, but if he has a university education

he may steal the whole railroad. -- Franklin D. Roosevelt

One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our

human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary new material, but the warmth is the vital element

for the growing plant and for the soul of the child. -- Carl Jung

The principle goal of education is to create men who are capable of doing new things, not simply of

repeating what other generations have done -- men who are creative, inventive and discoverers. -- Jean

Piaget

The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn...and change. -- Carl Rogers

To learn is to change. Education is a process that changes the learner. -- George B. Leonard

An educational system isn't worth a great deal if it teaches young people how to make a living but

doesn't teach them how to make a life. -- Source Unknown3

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7 Archa O. Dart, "Choosing a Life Partner", The Ministry, Vol. 5, No. 12, Oct. 1960, p. 57.
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The best teacher is the one who suggests rather than dogmatizes, and inspires his listener with the

wish to teach himself. -- Edward Bulwer-Lytton

Seeing much, suffering much, and studying much, are the three pillars of learning. -- Benjamin Disraeli

If you would thoroughly know anything, teach it to others. -- Tryon Edwards

To teach is to learn twice. -- Joseph Joubert

An understanding heart is everything is a teacher, and cannot be esteemed highly enough. One looks

back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human

feeling. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the

growing plant and for the soul of the child. -- Carl Gustav Jung

The aim of education should be to teach us rather how to think, than what to think - rather to improve

our minds, so as to enable us to think for ourselves, than to load the memory with the thoughts of

other men. -- Bill Beattie4

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9 Fraser, Dean. The People Problem. Bloomington, London: Indiana University Press, 1971.
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 CHAPTER 3

Excellence

One of the most essential things you need to do for yourself is to choose a goal that is important to

you. Perfection does not exist -- you can always do better and you can always grow. -- Les Brown

The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of

their chosen field of endeavor. -- Vince Lombardi

The real contest is always between what you've done and what you're capable of doing. You measure

yourself against yourself and nobody else. -- Geoffrey Gaberino

Resolve to make each day the very best and don't let anyone get in your way. If they do, step on them.

-- Ivan Benson

Excellence is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well. -- John W. Gardner

Do more than you're supposed to do and you can have or be or do anything you want. -- Bill Sands

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle

Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing. -- Harriet Braiker

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. -- Og Mandino

People forget how fast you did a job, but they remember how well you did it. -- Howard W. Newton

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There are countless ways of attaining greatness, but any road to reaching one's maximum potential

must be built on a bedrock of respect for the individual, a commitment to excellence, and a rejection of

mediocrity. -- Buck Rodgers

It has always been my belief that a man should do his best, regardless of how much he receives for his

services, or the number of people he may be serving or the class of people served. -- Napoleon Hill

Whatever you do, don't do it halfway. -- Bob Beamon

The uncommon man is merely the common man thinking and dreaming of success in larger terms and

in more fruitful areas. -- Melvin Powers

The principle is competing against yourself. It's about self-improvement, about being better than you

were the day before. -- Steve Young

Excellence means when a man or woman asks of himself more than others do. -- Jose Ortega Y Gasset

You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else. -- Dianne

Feinstein

Excellence is a better teacher than mediocrity. The lessons of the ordinary are everywhere. Truly

profound and original insights are to be found only in studying the exemplary. --Warren Bennis

Good enough never is. -- Debbi Field

The secret of living a life of excellence is merely a matter of thinking thoughts of excellence. Really, it's

a matter of programming our minds with the kind of information that will set us free.-- Charles Swindoll

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10 Garcia, Manuel B. & Leovigildo O. Militante. Social Problems. Metro Manila, Philippines:

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We distinguish the excellent man from the common man by saying that the former is the one who

makes great demands on himself, and the latter who makes no demands on himself. -- Jose Ortega y

Gasset

The quality of expectations determines the quality of our action. -- Andre Godin

To aim at excellence, our reputation, and friends, and all must be ventured; to aim at the average we

run no risk and provide little service. -- Oliver Goldsmith

The excellence is in the details. -- Gregory L. Sullivan

Much good work is lost for the lack of a little more. -- Edward H. Harriman

One shining quality lends a luster to another, or hides some glaring defect. -- William Hazlitt

The kind of people I look for to fill top management spots are the eager beavers, the mavericks. These

are the guys who try to do more than they're expected to do -- they always reach. -- Lee Iacocca

If a man is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or

Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the

hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great streetsweeper who did his job well. --

Martin Luther King Jr.

I never had a policy; I have just tried to do my very best each and every day. -- Abraham Lincoln

You always have to give 100 percent, because if you don't, someone, someplace, will give 100 percent

and will beat you when you meet. -- Ed Macauley

It isn't by size that you win or fail -- be the best of whatever you are. -- Douglas Malloch
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Make it a life-rule to give your best to whatever passes through your hands. Stamp it with your

manhood. Let superiority be your trademark... -- Orison Swett Marden

There is only one thing for us to do, and that is to do our level best right where we are every day of our

lives; To use our best judgment, and then to trust the rest to that Power which holds the forces of the

universe in his hands. -- Orison Swett Marden

Determine to become one of the best. Sufficient money will almost automatically follow if you get to

be one of the "best" in your chosen field, whatever it is. -- Don G. Mitchell

Excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better. -- Pat Riley

If you do things well, do them better. Be daring, be first, be different, be just. -- Anita Roddick

All successful employers are stalking men who will do the unusual, men who think, men who attract

attention by performing more than is expected of them. -- Charles M. Schwab

Do a little more each day than you think you possibly can. -- Lowell Thomas

Four short words sum up what has lifted most successful individuals above the crowd: a little bit more.

They did all that was expected of them and a little bit more. -- A. Lou Vickery

EnthusiasmsI studied the lives of great men and famous women, and I found that the men and women

who got to the top were those who did the jobs they had in hand, with everything they had of energy

and enthusiasm. -- Henry Truman

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Every memorable act in the history of the world is a triumph of enthusiasm. Nothing great was ever

achieved without it because it gives any challenge or any occupation, no mater how frightening or

difficult, a new meaning. Without enthusiasm you are doomed to a life of mediocrity but with it you

can accomplish miracles. -- Og Mandino

The worst bankruptcy in the world is the person who has lost his enthusiasm. -- H. W. Arnold

One man has enthusiasm for 30 minutes, another for 30 days, but it is the man who has it for 30 years

who makes a success of his life. -- Edward B. Butler

If you aren't fired with enthusiasm, you will be fired with enthusiasm. -- Vince Lombardi

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I rate enthusiasm even above professional skill. -- Sir Edward Appleton

Knowledge is power and enthusiasm pulls the switch. -- Steve Droke

The condition of the most passionate enthusiast is to be preferred over the individual who, because of

the fear of making a mistake, won't in the end affirm or deny anything. -- Thomas Carlyle

There is no such thing as can't, only won't. If you're qualified, all it takes is a burning desire to

accomplish, to make a change. Go forward, go backward. Whatever it takes! But you can't blame other

people or society in general. It all comes from your mind. When we do the impossible we realize we are

special people. -- Jan Ashford

When a man's willing and eager, the gods join in. -- Aeschylus
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How do you go from where you are to where you want to be? I think you have to have an enthusiasm

for life. You have to have a dream, a goal, and you have to be willing to work for it. -- Jim Valvano

Enthusiasm moves the world. -- Arthur James Balfour

Most great men and women are not perfectly rounded in their personalities, but are instead people

whose one driving enthusiasm is so great it makes their faults seem insignificant. -- Charles A. Cerami

The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which mean never losing your

enthusiasm. --Aldous Huxley

A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm. - Charles Schwab

If you can give your son or daughter only one gift, let it be enthusiasm. -- Bruce Barton

Enthusiasm is the greatest asset in the world. It beats money, power and influence. -- Henry Chester

Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must first set yourself on fire. -- Fred Shero

Genius is nothing more than inflamed enthusiasm. -- Source Unknown

Enthusiasm is a vital element toward the individual success of every man or woman. -- Conrad Hilton

Whatever you do, do it with all your might. Work at it, early and late, in season and out of season, not

leaving a stone unturned, and never deferring for a single hour that which can be done just as well

now. -- P.T. Barnum

 CHAPTER 4
Friendship

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our

hearts. And we are never, ever the same. -- Anonymous

Friendship is the source of the greatest pleasures, and without friends even the most agreeable

pursuits become tedious. -- St. Thomas Aquinas

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. -- Walter Winchell

The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend. -- Abraham Lincoln

What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies. -- Aristotle

True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until it be lost. -- Charles Caleb

Colton

Real friends are those who, when you've made a fool of yourself, don't feel that you've done a

permanent job. -- Erwin T. Randall

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.

Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.

Just walk beside me and be my friend. -- Albert Camus

A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails. -- Anonymous

Friendship doubles our joy and divides our grief. -- Swedish proverb

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The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the

gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity. --

Ulysses S. Grant

False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the

instant we cross into the shade.-- Christian Nevell Bovee

Without friends, no one would want to live, even if he had all other goods. -- Aristotle

Never shall I forget the time I spent with you. Please continue to be my friend, as you will always find

me yours. -- Ludwig Van Beethoven

Fate chooses our relatives, we choose our friends.-- Jacques Delille

For there is no friend like a sister

In calm or stormy weather;

To cheer one on the tedious way,

To fetch one if one goes astray,

To lift one if one totters down,

To strengthen whilst one stands.-- Christina Rosetti

If we would build on a sure foundation in friendship, we must love friends for their sake rather than for

our own. -- Charlotte Bronte

Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.-- Ed Cunningham

A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world. -- Leo Buscaglia

Friendship is Love without his wings! -- Lord Byron

Friendship is a plant of slow growth and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it

is entitled to the appellation.-- George Washington

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A good motto is: Use friendliness but do not use your friends. -- Frank Crane

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.-- Samuel Butler

Friendship is the golden thread that ties the heart of all the world.-- John Evelyn

A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway. -- Fr. Jerome Cummings

Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives.

The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend -- or a meaningful day -- Dalai Lama

Friendship is genuine when two friends can enjoy each others company without speaking a word to

one another. -- George Ebers

An honest answer is the sign of true friendship.-- Proverbs 24:26

I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given

me a heart full of joy. Let's face it, friends make life a lot more fun.-- Charles R. Swindoll

I do then with my friends as I do with my books. I would have them where I can find them, but I seldom

use them. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I would rather have a million friends than a million dollars.-- Edward Vernon Rickenbacker

It's the ones you can call up at 4:00 a.m. that really matter.-- Marlene Dietrich

Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh

thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are--chaff and grain together--

certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of

kindness blow the rest away...-- Dinah Mulock

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My mother used to say that there are no strangers, only friends you haven't met yet. She's now in a

maximum security twilight home in Australia. -- Dame Edna Everage

It is easy enough to be friendly to one's friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your

enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business. -- Mahatma Gandhi

One of the surest evidences of friendship that one individual can display to another is telling him gently

of a fault. If any other can excel it, it is listening to such a disclosure with gratitude, and amending the

error.-- Edward Bulwer-Lytton

A true friend is one who overlooks your failures and tolerates your success!-- Doug Larson

We control fifty percent of a relationship. We influence one hundred percent of it.-- Barbara Colorose

There is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend. -- Katherine Hathaway

I like a friend the better for having faults that one can talk about. -- William Hazlitt

Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose. -- Tehyi Hsieh

Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate. -- Thomas Jones

Plant a seed of friendship; reap a bouquet of happiness. -- Lois L. Kaufman

The real test of friendship is: Can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy

together those moments of life that are utterly simple? They are the moments people looks back on at

the end of life and number as their most sacred experiences. -- Eugene Kennedy
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Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends. --

Cindy Lew

The imaginary friends I had as a kid dropped me because their friends thought I didn't exist. -- Aaron

Machado

Friends are like melons; shall I tell you why? To find one good you must one hundred try. -- Claude

Mermet

In a friend you find a second self. -- Isabelle Norton

Friends are needed both for joy and for sorrow. -- Samuel Paterson

Nothing is there more friendly to a man than a friend in need. -- Titus Maccius Plautus

Do not protect yourself by a fence, but rather by your friends. -- Czech. Proverb

No one is rich enough to do without a neighbor. -- Danish Proverb

Hold a true friend with both your hands. -- Nigerian Proverb

Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty. -- Sicilian Proverb

Good friends are good for your health. -- Irwin Sarason

One who looks for a friend without faults will have none. -- Hasidic Saying

Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives, and remembering what one receives. -- Dumas The

Younger

Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure. -- Jewish Saying

Many a time from a bad beginning great friendships have sprung up. -- Terence

It is not what you give your friend, but what you are willing to give him that determines the quality of

friendship. -- Mary Dixon Thayer

The language of friendship is not words but meanings. -- Henry David Thoreau
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Don't wait for people to be friendly, show them how. -- Source Unknown

Friendship is a precious gift. To give at Christmas time. A Cherished gift, a treasured gift that lasts

through all time. -- Source Unknown

True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity,

before it is entitled to the appellation. -- George Washington

A true friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else. -- Len Wein

Friendship is to be purchased only by friendship. A man may have authority over others, but he can

never have their hearts but by giving his own. -- Thomas Wilson
 CHAPTER 5
Failure

Failure I don't measure a man's success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits

bottom. -- George S. Patton

No one ever won a chess game by betting on each move. Sometimes you have to move backward to

get a step forward. -- Amar Gopal Bose

Because a fellow has failed once or twice, or a dozen times, you don't want to set him down as a failure

till he's dead or loses his courage--and that's the same thing.-- George Lorimer

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour,

not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being

nothing.-- Denis Waitley

Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success. -- Denis

Waitley

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. -- Confucius

You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there. -- Edwin Louis Cole

If there exists no possibility of failure, then victory is meaningless. -- Robert H. Schuller

I am not judged by the number of times I fail, but by the number of times I succeed; and the number of

times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I can fail and keep on trying. -- Tom

Hopkins

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Most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They

give up at the last minute of the game, one foot from a winning touchdown.-- Ross Perot

If you can't make a mistake, you can't make anything. -- Marva Collins

When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail

once more toward your coveted goal. -- Napoleon Hill

Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.-- Marilyn vos

Savant

Men succeed when they realize that their failures are the preparation for their victories. -- Ralph Waldo

Emerson

The wisest person is not the one who has the fewest failures but the one who turns failures to best

account.-- Richard R. Grant

History has demonstrated that the most notable winners encountered heart breaking obstacles before

they triumphed. They finally won by their defeats. -- B. C. Forbes

Defeat doesn't finish a man--quit does. A man is not finished when he's defeated. He's finished when

he quits.--Richard M. Nixon

People in their handlings of affairs often fail when they are about to succeed. If one remains as careful

at the end as he was at the beginning, there will be no failure.-- Lao-Tzu

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.--

Colin Powell

If you are not big enough to lose, you are not big enough to win. -- Walter Reuther
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Not many people are willing to give failure a second opportunity. They fail once and it is all over. The

bitter pill of failure is often more than most people can handle. If you are willing to accept failure and

learn from it, if you are willing to consider failure as a blessing in disguise and bounce back, you have

got the essential of harnessing one of the most powerful success forces.-- Joseph Sugarman

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit.--

Napoleon Hill

I have always felt that although someone may defeat me, and I strike out in a ball game, the pitcher on

the particular day was the best player. But I know when I see him again, I'm going to be ready for his

curve ball. Failure is a part of success. There is no such thing as a bed of roses all your life. But failure

will never stand in the way of success if you learn from it. -- Hank Aaron

It is inevitable that some defeat will enter even the most victorious life. The human spirit is never

finished when it is defeated...it is finished when it surrenders.-- Ben Stein

I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is to try to please everyone. -- Bill Cosby

Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure. -- George E. Woodbery

In great attempts, it is glorious even to fail. -- Vince Lombardi

The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process

of getting to the top. -- Dr. Joyce Brothers

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Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.-- Henry Ford

There are two kinds of failures: those who thought and never did, and those who did and never

thought. -- Lawrence J. Peter

Failure? I never encountered it. All I ever met were temporary setbacks.-- Dottie Walters

Would you like me to give you a formula for ... success? It's quite simple, really. Double your rate of

failure... You're thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all... You can be discouraged

by failure--or you can learn from it. So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because,

remember that's where you'll find success. On the far side.-- Thomas J. Watson

The greatest failure is a person who never admits that he can be a failure.-- Gerald. N. Weiskott

Accept failure as a normal part of living. View it as part of the process of exploring your world; make a

note of its lessons and move on.--Tom Greening

'All honor to him who shall win the prize,'

The world has cried for a thousand years;

But to him who tries and fails and dies,

I give great honor and glory and tears.-- Joaquin Miller

I do not fear failure. I only fear the "slowing up" of the engine inside of me which is pounding, saying,

"Keep going, someone must be on top, why not you?"-- George S. Patton
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It is a mistake to suppose that men succeed through success; they much oftener succeed through

failures. Precept, study, advice, and example could never have taught them so well as failure has done.-

- Samuel Smiles

Show me a thoroughly satisfied man, and I will show you a failure. -- Thomas Edison

Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can--and surely will at times--fail. I think we should follow

a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.-- Joyce Brothers

You win only if you aren't afraid to lose. -- Rocky Aoki

If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. -- Steve Bartkowski

Nothing fails like success because we don't learn from it. We learn only from failure. -- Kenneth

Boulding

All of us failed to match our dreams of perfection. So I rate us on the basis of our splendid failure to do

the impossible.--William Faulkner

Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.-- Charles F. Kettering

Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, I have failed three times,

and what happens when he says, I am a failure. -- S. I. Hayakawa

Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure. -- William Saroryan

To expect defeat is nine-tenths of defeat itself. -- Francis Crawford

No one that ever lived has ever had enough power, prestige, or knowledge to overcome the basic

condition of all life - you win some and you lose some. -- Ken Keyes
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The biggest job we have is to teach a newly hired employee how to fail intelligently. We have to train

him to experiment over and over and to keep on trying and failing until he learns what will work.--

Charles Kettering

Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on

to the next challenge. It's OK to fail. If you're not failing, you're not growing.-- H. Stanley Judd

The freedom to fail is vital if you're going to succeed. Most successful people fail from time to time, and

it is a measure of their strength that failure merely propels them into some new attempt at success.--

Michael Korda

Every failure is a step to success...-- William Whewell

Failure is the tuition you pay for success. -- Walter Brunell

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. In this life we get nothing save by effort.-

- Theodore Roosevelt

Failure does not count. If you accept this, you'll be successful. What causes most people to fail is that

after one failure, they'll stop trying. -- Frank Burford

Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses. -- George

Washington Carver

A man's life is interesting primarily when he has failed -- I well know. For it's a sign that he tried to

surpass himself. -- Georges Clemenceau

Every great work, every big accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to

the vision, and often just before the big achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement.--

Florence Scovel Shinn

Failure to prepare is preparing to fail.--Mike Murdock

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Everything ultimately fails, for we die, and that is either the penultimate failure or our most enigmatical
achievement. -- Edward Dahlberg

The most important of my discoveries has been suggested to me by my failures. -- Sir Humphrey Davy

Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure. We get very little wisdom

from success, you know.-- William Saroyan

I am never a failure until I begin blaming others.-- Anonymous

Remember you will not always win. Some days, the most resourceful individual will taste defeat. But

there is, in this case, always tomorrow - after you have done your best to achieve success today.--

Maxwell Maltz

Just because something doesn't do what you planned it to do doesn't mean it's useless. -- Thomas A.

Edison

An inventor fails 999 times, and if he succeeds once, he's in. He treats his failures simply as practice

shots.-- Charles Kettering

Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don't

think you can go wrong. -- Ella Fitzgerald

No man ever became great or good except through many and great mistakes. -- William E. Gladstone

One reason God created time was so that there would be a place to bury the failures of the past.--

James Long

I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.-- Thomas A.

Edison
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I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you

hate.-- George Burns

Failure comes only when we forget our ideals and objectives and principles. -- Jawaharlal Nehru

If I had permitted my failures, or what seemed to me at the time a lack of success, to discourage me I

cannot see any way in which I would ever have made progress.-- Calvin Coolidge

If you are doing your best, you will not have to worry about failure. -- Robert S. Hillyer

If you're not failing every now and again, it's a sign you're not doing anything very innovative.-- Woody

Allen

It is not a disgrace to fail. Failing is one of the greatest arts in the world.-- Charles F. Kettering

Accept failure as a normal part of living. View it as part of the process of exploring your world; make a

note of its lessons and move on. -- Tom Hobson

They who lack talent expect things to happen without effort. They ascribe failure to a lack of inspiration

or ability, or to misfortune, rather than to insufficient application. At the core of every true talent there

is an awareness of the difficulties inherent in any achievement, and the confidence that by persistence

and patience something worthwhile will be realized. Thus talent is a species of vigor. -- Eric Hoffer

Success is 99 percent failure. -- Soichiro Honda

More men fail through lack of purpose than lack of talent.-- Billy Sunday
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There is the greatest practical benefit in making a few failures early in life. -- Thomas H. Huxley

The man who tries to do something and fails is infinitely better than he who tries to do nothing and

succeeds. -- Lloyd Jones

Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail. -- Charles F. Kettering

My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure. --

Abraham Lincoln

You can't be a winner and be afraid to lose. -- Charles Lynch

Remember your past mistakes just long enough to profit by them. -- Dan Mckinnon

Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.-- Robert F. Kennedy

The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process

of getting to the top.-- Dr. Joyce Brothers

Remember the two benefits of failure. First, if you do fail, you learn what doesn't work; and second,

the failure gives you the opportunity to try a new approach.-- Roger von Oech

Failure is good. It's fertilizer. Everything I've learned about coaching, I've learned from making

mistakes. -- Rick Pitino

Do not look where you fell, but where you slipped. -- African Proverb

I've come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the

understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy. -- Anthony Robbins
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Why is it so painful to watch a person sink? Because there is something unnatural in it, for nature

demands personal progress, evolution, and every backward step means wasted energy. -- J. August

Strindberg

Failure is not the worst thing in the world -- the very worst is not to try. -- Source Unknown

There is much to be said for failure. It is much more interesting than success.-- Max Beerbohm

You cannot measure a man by his failures. You must know what use he makes of them. What did they

mean to him. What did he get out of them.-- Orison Swett Marden

You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try.-- Beverly Sills

Remember that your failures are the seeds of your most glorious successes. Be sad if you must, but

don't despair. -- Source Unknown

When you fall, don't get up empty handed. -- Source Unknown

You're on the road to success when you realize that failure is only a detour. -- Source Unknown

The greatest failure is a person who never admits that he can be a failure. -- Gerald. N. Weiskott
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Fear

When you face your fear, most of the time you will discover that it was not really such a big threat after

all. We all need some form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation -- it empowers us to overcome

obstacles so we can live our dreams. -- Les Brown

Because a fellow has failed once or twice, or a dozen times, you don't want to set him down as a failure

till he's dead or loses his courage--and that's the same thing.-- George Lorimer

"Come to the edge," He said. They said, "We are afraid." "Come to the edge," He said. They came. He

pushed them...and they flew. -- Guillaume Apollinaire

Never fear shadows. They simply mean there's a light shining somewhere nearby. -- Ruth E. Renkel

Whenever we're afraid, its because we don't know enough. If we understood enough, we would never

be afraid. -- Earl Nightingale

Winners are those people who make a habit of doing the things losers are uncomfortable doing. -- Ed

Foreman

You never conquer a mountain. Mountains can't be conquered; you conquer yourself--your hopes,

your fears. -- Jim Whitaker

Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared. -- Eddie

Rickenbacker

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I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest

victory is over self.-- Aristotle

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.-- William Allen White

Fear is the biggest motivator. -- Bill Dixon

Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed. -- Michael Pritchard

Fear is met and destroyed with courage. -- James F. Bell

All serious daring starts from within.-- Eudora Welty

Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our

minds to walk boldly through them. -- Orison Swett Marden

Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it... that is the quickest and surest way ever yet

discovered to conquer fear. -- Dale Carnegie

It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live. -- Marcus Aurelius

Be bold. If you're going to make an error, make a doozy, and don't be afraid to hit the ball.-- Billie Jean

King

Confront your fears, list them, get to know them, and only then will you be able to put them aside and

move ahead.-- Jerry Gillies

Considering how dangerous everything is, nothing is really very frightening.-- Gertrude Stein

When one has the feeling of dislike for evil, when one feels tranquil, one finds pleasure in listening to

good teachings; when one has these feelings and appreciates them, one is free of fear. -- Buddha
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Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile... initially scared me to death. -- Betty Bender

We often pretend to fear what we really despise, and more often despise what we really fear. --

Charles Caleb Colton

Courage is a special kind of knowledge: the knowledge of how to fear what ought to be feared and how

not to fear what ought no to be feared.-- David Ben-Gurion

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important

than fear.-- Ambrose Redmoon

A fighter has to know fear. -- Cus D'Amato

It all changed when I realized I'm not the only one on the planet who's scared. Everyone else is, too. I

started asking people, "Are you scared, too?" "You bet your sweet life I am." "Aha, so that's the way it

is for you, too." We were all in the same boat. That's probably what is so effective at our workshops.

When I ask, "Who else feels like this?" the whole room of hands goes up. People realize they are not

the only one who feels that way. -- Stan Dale

The first and great commandment is, "Don't let them scare you." -- Elmer Davis

Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Do what you fear and fear disappears.-- David Joseph Schwartz

Each time a person stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against

injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers

of energy and daring, these ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of

oppression and resistance.-- Robert F. Kennedy

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Fear of success can also be tied into the idea that success means someone else's loss. Some people are

unconsciously guilty because they believe their victories are coming at the expense of another. -- Joan

C. Harvey

Feel the fear and do it anyway. -- Susan Jeffers

A champion is afraid of losing. Everyone else is afraid of winning. -- Billie Jean King

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer.-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I do not ask to walk smooth paths nor bear an easy load./I pray for strength and fortitude to climb the

rock strewn road./Give me such courage and I can scale the hardest peaks alone,/And transform every

stumbling block into a stepping stone.-- Gale Brook Burket

What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is

understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to

learn about fear, not how to escape from it. -- Jiddu Krishnamurti

The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends. --

Shirley Maclaine

You can't underestimate the power of fear. -- Patricia Nixon

If you listen to your fears, you will die never knowing what a great person you might have been.--

Robert H. Schuller
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It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are

difficult.-- Seneca

Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.-- Robert Louis Stevenson

Half the things that people do not succeed in are through fear of making the attempt. -- James

Northcote

He who is afraid of a thing gives it power over him. -- Moorish Proverb

Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.-- Andre Gide

Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the

Titanic.-- Anonymous

...the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. -- Franklin D. Roosevelt

If you're never scared or embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take any chances. -- Julia Sorel

Never forget that life can only be nobly inspired and rightly lived if you take it bravely and gallantly, as a

splendid adventure in which you are setting out into an unknown country, to meet many a joy, to find

many a comrade, to win and lose many a battle.-- Annie Besant

Never grow a wishbone...where your backbone ought to be.-- Clementine Paddleford

Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will. -- James Stephens

Even the bravest men are frightened by sudden terrors. -- Publius Cornelius Tacitus

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live... -- Dorothy Thompson

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There are people who put their dreams in a little box and say, "Yes, I've got dreams, of course I've got

dreams." Then they put the box away and bring it out once in awhile to look in it, and yep, they're still

there. These are great dreams, but they never even get out of the box. It takes an uncommon amount

of guts to put your dreams on the line, to hold them up and say, "How good or how bad am I?" That's

where courage comes in.-- Erma Bombeck

To fight fear, act. To increase fear--wait, put off postpone.-- David Joseph Schwartz

Try a thing you haven't done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to

do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not. -- Virgil Thomson

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear

in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.-- Eleanor Roosevelt