Speech outline

TOPIC AREA : Self esteem

TOPIC : Building self esteem

GENERAL PURPOSE :To inform

SPECIFIC STATEMENT :To explain to my audience how to build self esteem

THESIS STATEMENT :Success will be at your door if you build self esteem

PREVIEW Toady want to introduce three practical ways to build

self esteem.

Introduction.

The feelings we have about ourselves is described as self-esteem. When it is low, it’s a
problem. Nathaniel Brandon, the guru of self esteem issues, states in The six pillars of self
esteem: The level of our self esteem has profound consequences from every aspect our
existence. How we operate at the work place, how we deal with people, how high we are
likely to rise and how much we are likely to achieve when we build our self esteem.Research
has shown that there is often a wide gap between how we are seen and how we think we are
seen.

Transition to first main point

BODY
After understanding self esteem, lets go onto how to build it.
I. Discover and learn yourself and personality

a) Document your accomplishments in diaries

b) Stop comparing yourself with others

c) Do activities to gain self activities like interacting with others

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II).Identify troubling situations and learn to deal with them

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III).Challenge negative inaccurate thinking

a.)Change your thoughts and beliefs to boost your esteem

B.)Set goals

C)Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection

Transition to the conclusion

Conclusion

As I conclude remember, The magic to building self esteem is, discover ourselves, identify
troubling situations and act upon them, challenge inaccurate negative thinking and change
them.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said ‘no one can make you inferior without your own consent. It is
within our powers to build or destroy our self esteem.

We are not born with self esteem but it is something we build overtime. Remember having
goals and high self esteem is free, you can take all you want and walk away free. Your
greatest victory will come in knowing yourself and not believing what others think you can or
can not do.

Works consulted

Dailymonitor 13 june 2010,pg 23,Sundayvision 12 june 2010.pg 3,Dictionary of

Quotes,Machili DInell,2ed,NEWYORK,1987

Sample of speech to inform

Salutation

Am Baliboola..N. Ivan, here to talk about building self esteem

Am a Uganda Christian university accredited peer counsellor. Have worked for ucu
counselling department for two years now. Am here to speak about building self
esteem.

BUILDING SELF ESTEEM

We live in a society that sets unrealistic standards for perfection and criticism on marriage,
height, weight, education and so on.

The feelings we have about ourselves is described as self-esteem. When it is low, it’s a

problem. Nathaniel Branden, the guru of self esteem issues, states in BOOK, The six pillars

of self esteem: The level of our self esteem has profound consequences from every aspect our

existence. How we operate at the work place, how we deal with people, how high we are

likely to rise and how much we are likely to achieve.

Self esteem is an important part of our health and wellbeing. If we feel good about ourselves

we are more likely to take care of ourselves by making sensible choices. By knowing one’s

own mind can be confident enough to make to make our own decisions even if others are

trying to persuade us to do otherwise.

Self esteem plays a role in almost everything you do. People with high self esteem do better

in their career life and find it easier to make friends, and handle mistakes, disappointments. In

the behavouarial school Management, Abraham Maslow pyramid has self esteem as 4th most

important.

After understanding self esteem let’s look at how to build it

Most importantly discover and appreciate yourself. One has to learn to explore them and

become aware of one’s feelings, thoughts, and deeds and accept them in order to build self
esteem. Learn to appreciate yourself as everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits and

religion that define who you are. for example Bible says we are wonderfully and fearfully

made. Spend more time focusing on qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones

you dislike boosts belief in yourself hence high self esteem. Accept yourself as you are and

change only what can be changed.

There are these three girls who stay right opposite my hostel, Jowe,sherry and worship. jowe

talks like sherry, sherry talks like worship, worship talks like jowe. This is a sign of low self

esteem. If you are not happy with your height start to work towards loving yourself the way

you are because you cannot change that After this you will realise you new best found friend

who is you.. Make a list of all your life achievements. You can use pictures to your best

advantage, pin up all pictures for best moments. If you have no achievement consider the fact

that you are born. This will help you feel nice about yourself and gain self confidence. Do

activities to gain self confidence like interacting with others. As you gain self confidence,

your self esteem will also grow.

After self awareness, you move on to identify troubling situations and learn to deal with

them. Think about situations that affect your self esteem, such as dress code, Peoples`

negative comments about you, presentations, and gadget ownership like phones that have

been used to define status. Always expecting the worst. Then choose course of action. You

can choose to ignore negative comments about you and work things like on dress code,

Finally Pinpoint and Challenge negative inaccurate thinking. Your initial thoughts may not be

the only possible way to view a situation. So test the accuracy of your thoughts by asking

yourself if your thought is consistent with situation.

Some Thought Patterns that erode self esteem that need to be challenged are:
 I. Jumping to negative conclusions without evidence. For example `my friend hasn’t

replied to my email, so I must have done something wrong. You think your not

perfect t simply because three girls have refused to date you .

II. All-or-Nothing thinking. You see things as either all good or all bad.

Change your thoughts, actions and beliefs, to boost your esteem. It takes time and effort to

recognise and replace distressing thoughts with accurate ones. Stop negative thoughts by

trying to think positive. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or you will never

achieve success, you will tend to act as such. So make a habit of saying positive things about

yourself and you will build self esteem. Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection is a

lost cause because no one is perfect in the eyes of everyone. By trying to be perfect you set

yourself for disappointments which results in low your self-esteem.

Success will knock at your door if you have high self esteem

Conclusion

As I conclude remember, the magic to building self esteem is, discover ourselves, identify

troubling situations and act upon them, challenge inaccurate negative thinking and change

them.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said ‘no one can make you inferior without your own consent. It is

within our powers to build or destroy our self esteem.

We are not born with self esteem but it is something we build overtime. Remember having

goals and high self esteem is free, you can take all you want and walk away free. Your

greatest victory will come in knowing yourself and not believing what others think you can or

cannot do.
Food for thought. Today we you go back to your hostel or home jump on your bed and say

`am different but Iam normal, I cannot be perfect to everyone`.

Thank you for listening to me and GOD bless you

BALIBOOLA.N.IVAN
Recently won ,Young communicator of year Award (PRAU)
Kampala –Uganda
nbaliboola@gmail.com