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DIRECT AGGRESSION
Direct Aggression expression of a criticism or demand that threatens the face of the person
at whom it is directed.
Attacks receivers position or dignity
Types:
- competence/ character/ physical appearance attacks
- teasing
- ridicule/ threats
- threats
- swearing
- nonverbal emblems
May be effective in the short run but can lead to long-lasting consequences
PASSIVE AGGRESSION
Passive Aggression expression of hostility in an obscure/subtle way.
For example:
Pseudoaccomodators pretend to agree but do not comply with request for change
Jokers- hide behind their jokes
Trivial tyrannisers- do small things to drive the other person crazy
Withholders- punish by withholding something valuable
Can have a detrimental effect on relationships
ASSERTION
Assertion - handling conflicts by expressing needs, thoughts, and feelings, clearly and directly
without judging or dictating others.
Characteristics of an assertive message
- behavioural description
- interpretation of the other persons behaviour
- description of your feelings
- description of consequences
- statement of your intentions
Communication Climate (Gibbs Categories)
Strategic Spontaneous
Strategic Communication refers to a Spontaneous communication clarifies
speaker with an agenda or ulterior the speaker's needs and includes the
motive. hearer in the brainstorming solutions.
Neutral Empathy
Neutral communication does NOT offer Empathy involves understanding and
a diplomatic point of view on an issue-- appreciating the other's feelings.
it conveys indifferent to the other.
Superior Equal
Superior communication sends the Equal communication sends the
message that all others are inferior or message that the other is valued and
inadequate in some way; therefore, the worthy as a human being.
speaker has no interest in what they
might say.
Certainty Provisionalism
Speakers who communicate with Provisional communication involves
certainty come across as narrow- acknowledging other points of view and
minded and unwilling to listen to possibilities.
another point of view.
Essential Interpersonal communication behaviour
Influencing Others
- compliance-gaining
- compliance-resisting
- personal idioms
- rituals
Self-disclosure
Self-disclosure is deliberately revealing personal information about oneself that would not normally
be known to others (experience, attitude, feelings etc.)
Why is it important:
To develop relationships
- Do not disclose negative information that will cause you personal harm
Relational development
2. Experimenting: Occurs when the two people have clearly decided to find out more about
each other, to quit scouting, and to start getting serious about each other.
3. Intensifying: Involves active participation, mutual concern and awareness that the
relationship is developing because neither party has quit and both people are encouraging
its development.
4. Integrating: Means the two people start mirroring each others behavior in manner, dress
and language.
Relational maintenance
In dialectic theory the idea that each person in a relationship might have two opposing
desires for maintaining the relationship.
Relational deterioration
1. Differentiating: Occurs when the two partners start emphasizing their individual
differences instead of their similarities.
5. Terminating: occurs when the two people are no longer seen by others or themselves as
a pair.
Johari Window
1. Open self Here the information about the person his attitudes, behaviour, emotions, feelings,
skills and views will be known by the person as well as by others. This is mainly the area where all the
communications occur and the larger the arena becomes the more effectual and dynamic the
relationship will be. Feedback solicitation is a process which occurs by understanding and listening
to the feedback from another person. Through this way the open area can be increased horizontally
decreasing the blind spot. The size of the arena can also be increased downwards and thus by reducing
the hidden and unknown areas through revealing ones feelings to other person.
2. Blind self Information about yourselves that others know in a group but you will be unaware of
it. Others may interpret yourselves differently than you expect. The blind spot is reduced for an
efficient communication through seeking feedback from others.
3. Hidden self Information that is known to you but will be kept unknown from others. This can be
any personal information which you feel reluctant to reveal. This includes feelings, past experiences,
fears, secrets etc. we keep some of our feelings and information as private as it affects the
relationships and thus the hidden area must be reduced by moving the information to the open areas.
4. Unknown self The Information which are unaware to yourselves as well as others. This includes
the information, feelings, capabilities, talents etc. This can be due to traumatic past experiences or
events which can be unknown for a lifetime. The person will be unaware till he discovers his hidden
qualities and capabilities or through observation of others. Open communication is also an effective
way to decrease the unknown area and thus to communicate effectively.