FRIDAY, 2 OCTOBER 2015 20:09

02/10/2015
FR.

My state was all over the place today. Completely dependent on

good reactions, and I felt my state rise and fall in direct proportion to
what I got from HB1.

Did the 4 states generation and extroverted a bit, but it was amazing
what a changeable thing my state is. I affirmed that my Intention
overrides that, but it was a fairly weak fix and only lasted in waves.

She came in this morning and I stopped her to say my application

had gone in. Asked if she was seeing her friend straight after work as
she was wearing lipstick (which was unusual). She said it wouldnt still
be on by the end of work, and that she was going out but only for a
couple.

Went to the kitchen later on, talked about whether she might be
asked to go London again, she said she wouldnt want to but
probably would as you know me, Im too soft (or something like
that).

I asked Are we still on for Five Guys tomorrow? She said she was
busy and had a million things to do but yeah I should be*. With
hindsight, I should have said what time were you thinking for
tomorrow? so not introducing the element or frame of doubt.

Could it be that I misinterpreted this? That shes too busy to go,

when she could have been communicating that even though shes
busy she is still agreeing to this and making time for it? Could it be
that she was implying that she wants to go, as she could have
excused herself?

Later on, she said she was taking a picture of herself in her cultural
dress for Safias wedding; I didnt want to say send me one too so
told her to take photos not just of you, I mean the wedding as
well. I was trying to allude very weakly to her sending me photos.

Texted her at 6:45 (her happy hour was from 5-to-7) are you still out
or have you gone home? x She texted back an hour later with
back home, never planned to stay out late. You had a good time?
x

I responded Yeah we only stayed till 6 or so then we all went home.

Saw Carly at the pub though! :) Any ideas if you will be able to do 5
Guys tomorrow? No pressure x

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No response back as of 8:18pm (only been a few mins). I should
have left that last part and just texted her tomorrow. Ah, well - Ive
done it and introduced all that pressure and doubt.

INSIGHT: I reasoned earlier that assuming it would not happen (i.e.

that she would flake) will just lead to the same thing as it affects all
my communications and choices. Need to dig in to that - is it my
world view, or just my assumptions around her??

UPDATE: She just texted back Winner seeing Carly. Yeah I should
be good to do 5 guys. x

This is something I didnt expect i.e. clash between my model and

what was happening.

Notice that I put the Carly thing in there deliberately to try and break
the pressure caused by my pursuit - adding another interest (i.e.
obstacle??) to make it seem less intense as Im less into her. Is this a
thing?

Ill text back something about Carly and say Ill text you tomorrow
late morning, see how youre getting on.

Saw Carly - I was very reaction-seeking and felt awkward or like I was
loitering. I find it hard to relax and be myself around her.

Texted Mica Mica! We should hang out soonIm starting to forget

what you look like! She texted back a couple of hours later Will!
We do! When are you free? Im back at uni so I have no social life so
let me know when you are around (and an emoticon that looks like a
big smile with red cheeks) xx

Could have predicted, but its magnitude was not in line with what I
expected

Ita s good text. Not sure what to say back to arrange it. Can I
Timebridge in this situation?

NOTE: Texted Helen back yeah it was nice seeing her - shes off
recovering from knee surgery x. No other mention. If she doesnt
text back Ill just message her tomorrow.

Why do I assume that she doesnt want to hang out with me or that
she would enjoy it? That maybe shes looking forward to it or is
excited by the idea? These kind of thoughts have been totally
absent and instead its been dread and negative expectation.

All I know is that she has said yes, and just said it again - I seem to
be assuming that she wanted to say no but just wanted to be nice.
She knows how to say no. But why do I assume she wants to?

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What is my core belief here?

I think this needs counter-examples, as it is based on previous

situations with her. So how about:

Holding hands several times on her 30th night out.

When I mentioned the lips line last year(?) she said oh, no-ones
ever said anything like that to me. Could that have been an
invitation? Remember that responses never come out of thin air.

14 BIRLEY MOOR WAY, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 10 MOSTLY CLEAR

SUNDAY, 11 OCTOBER 2015 00:58

10/10/2015
FR: Approach Reluctance?

Game Plan - CJs SxF

Experiments - Opening, Complimenting, Timebridging.

Met up with Haristo around 10:30. He was a few mins late and there
were a few girls sitting outside Vodka Rev I could have opened - but
had AR (approach reluctance). Walked around inside for a few mins, I
was too hesitant to open and suggested we move to Viper. H got
blown out by one set.

Got to Viper, pretty quiet but got in even though I was worried as I
was just wearing a black t-shirt. Felt the AA at the bar, got a drink
and moved to the smoking area.

Walked over to where a 2 set were standing, thinking up

conversation to sound like we were chatting away, though I felt as
though it sounded false. Genuinely thought one of the girls sounded
American so I interrupted, excuse me - are you Canadian? They
both laughed - turned out she was Irish. The other girl told me I was
way off, I insisted both countries were right next to each other. They
started to head back inside, I cant remember the other bits we said
but I did say are you guys having a good night?

They said yeah, are you? I then - for some reason - thought it was
a good response to turn to H, ask him if I was having fun (tongue-in-
cheek obviously) and then affirm that I was. Felt really awkward - it
was the same level of awkwardness I have when I try to impress
Carly. They went inside. Turns out H is only 21 and I told him I would
have guessed he was older.

Spotted a seated 3 set nearby, so used Tims opener from the

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previous night and asked them which one of us they would say is
older. They all pointed at me and said it was because I was bald. I
pretended to be hurt and they then said something about my buzz
cut. Talked about how much older I am and then guessed their ages.
The girl on my right was HBCurler, shes 24, the others were 19 and
23. More chit chat.

I cant remember the reason but I moved round to HBCurler. She

mentioned something about how shes been having a rough time
lately, I said I have two, she stood up and said you know what, lets
have a moment and have a hug. We hugged, she smelled amazing
so I asked what her perfume was, she showed me, and asked what
my cologne was. I said it was Hugo Boss because my sisters the PR
manager. She said she works in makeup but that doesnt mean shes
stupid. She also has some kind of art degree which also makes her
sound stupid but she isnt. I said I thought she was cool or obviously
smart or something. She took my name and added me on FB.

Turns out she has a job interview on Monday and I told her I had one
too that week.

I asked what was on the agenda for later. They were out for a leaving
do. Her friends left to go downstairs. She mentioned something
about working hard or being driven (shit man Im massively sleep-
deprived) .I asked if she had studied psychology. She gave me some
preamble and asked to sit down. Ran Strawberry Fields. 6
strawberries, and the farmer was like what the fuck are you doing?
and shes like Im just chilling out, go back inside your house. She
loved it. Said strawberries werent her favourite fruit. I countered that
she still ate six of them haaa.

Talked a bit more, told her I was distracted by her lips because they
were sexy. She interrupted fairly quickly so I had to clarify again that
they were sexy. She said they werent and there was nothing sexy
going on. I said I thought they were.

Asked her what she did when not out hitting on ridiculously semi-
handsome guys. Made some joke about how close we are having
bonded for years.

Framed her again as adventurous and driven (she had said I know
how to get over that fence). Asked her scale of 1-10 how
adventurous she is. She said 11. I approved. Froze briefly as I tried to
think, then asked how good a kisser. She laughed depends who is
asking and then said an 8. I said youll have to show me. She said
yeah, youre going to try it are you? smiling as she moved in.

Make out.

Stopped. She asked if that was enough to make a judgment. I said

no.

More make out. Told her she could probably justify an 8. She said

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she was actually better when sober. I told her Id have to sober her
up to kiss her more, and then said that it wasnt a sentence I ever
thought Id say. She laughed.

Showed me some of the photos on her phone, she does some

modelling in underwear. I approved. Told her she was sexy. She said
it was the beer goggles but I told her I was sober. She then said she
doesnt like to get drunk and stops at being tipsy.

During the next few minutes I told her she was just turning me on
now, and then at some point I said if you dont stop being sexy I
might have to find a way to get us alone. Maybe later. Blah blah.
She cut over me with alone? as I went back to blah blah.
Wondering if I missed an opening there.

She mentioned she dances. She clarified she meant pole dancing. I
told her I thought she meant salsa, and I started to seed the salsa
TB. She mentioned she used to do it and they do it at Bloo 88 on a
Wednesday. She suggested we should go, so I just finished off the
TB and got her number!

Kissed some more, she said you have the softest lips ever.

More chat and photos. Her friend came along. HBCurler talked to
her for a bit, which led to her saying that she had tried booty calls
and was turned down.

Asked her where she lived (screw subtlety). She said Stannington, I
asked how she was getting home and she said taxi unless someone
wants to pick me up. I said I could drop her home. She said fine but
no rapeage (tongue in cheek obviously). I said deal.

She said she should get back to her friends as they were going out
after, and it was a leaving do, but she would text me later to see
where I was.

I met up with the guys, but didnt want to do a full night again, so
went home. Didnt want to wait around, nor did I want to do more
sets.

20 BIRLEY MOOR WAY, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 10 MOSTLY

CLOUDY

SUNDAY, 3 JANUARY 2016 01:45

FR: First Night Back Out

Not much to report. Met Joe and went to HQ and back out.

Opened one or two sets at Revs, just my have you been served
yet? opener. No hook, cant remember if I used a having a good
night opener or not.

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Went to West Street Live, and Joe opened a set which I followed up
on and had a decent set with a girl.

Think my opener was to wing Joe as she asked if he was American

too, and what was on the agenda for later etc. Did okay with holding
attention. Chatted about what I was wearing and fashion etc,
mentioned that my sister got me no Hugo Boss stuff for Christmas.
Told her she was kind of cool. Just kind of?! so I told her she could
also be a dork.

Ran Strawberry Fields. 80 Strawberries. Haaa.

Her friend came over and she asked me to run the same test, so I
switched topics to how I had to get into Viper before midnight. More
of her uni friends were out and came over, so she kept getting
distracted. I could have duked it out, but I had 4 minutes to join the
guys and so went to Viper instead. It was dead so should have
stayed with HBBecky.

Observations:

Should have been an easy Timebridge, but due to the above I didnt
do it. However, I think I just forgot.

Didnt throw in a sexual compliment, but again I was battling with

friends (though they liked me so not really).

Opened a 2-set at the bar with standard how long opener. Think
they wanted me to re-open but I left it too long. There was another
set at the bar and I just hesitated and didnt do it.

So: Jason says that Power Opening if drilled etc will solve 90% of
problems. Watching Rocko tonight, I believe that to be true. The
hesitation which seems to be my major point is all a world view
about opening issue. Have to drill drill drill.

Just before I left, Rocko opened a set with a hot blonde. I went to
wing but so did someone else and I just stood there and felt
awkward. However, I said my goodbyes and Rocko shook my hand
and said Im going to fuck this girl.

The confidence and positivity he has is unreal - he is really good, and

if I look at it, he seems to embody Power Opening - his State and his
beliefs. I have got to work at this thing, so Power Opening is my
main focus, as well as memorising my Game Plan so I dont forget
shit.

For my first night back out, when town was dead, Im pretty pleased
overall.

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SUNDAY, 3 JANUARY 2016 16:46

Dating Hacks
#1 Be the best at getting better
If you're getting better every single outing, then eventually you will
notice great improvements.

#2 Work Ethic + Strategy

If you don't have the work ethic your strategy is just an idea. You
need the work ethic.
I don't have to work hard, I work smart!
Me too asshole, I work hard and smart, now what?

#3 Volume
If you talk to 3-4 women per hour, for 4 hours, 4 times a week, thats
64 women a week. Even more if you're doing 2 or 3 sets.

All of the stuff that these women are saying to you is going into your
brain and being processed as data. Your mind will begin noticing
patterns patterns.

#4 Strengthen Your Intention

When you strengthen your intention you're making all the
information in your head available. This is what makes all the things
that you should be doing in the set work.

Most men have weak intentions. What did you want to do in the
set? oh.. I just wanted to talk to a hot girl.

Nope.

What's better is to have the intention of getting her number, and an

even stronger intention of creating a sexual relationship with her.

Having a strong intention is what will allow your mind to run through
all the data you're processing through in Dating Hack #3

#5 Only Be Working On 3 Things

This comes from sticking point analysis.

The idea is that you're treating your game plan like a flow line. When
you get to certain points your whole game fizzles out. Those are your
sticking points. Just following the regular game plan will not allow
you to work on your sticking points.

What you can do is focus on 3 things: What you want to work on for
the majority of the time, and 2 other things that you're not all that
good at.

#6 Use Propulsion Systems

In addition to moving towards something, you're moving away from
something. The law of attraction and the law of rejection. This gives
you two sources of movement.

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Think of something that you're scared of doing.
Measure your desire to do it on a scale of 1-100.
What's the worst thing that could happen if you did it? (She could kill
me, stab me, etc. or more likely, her making a sour face, etc.)
When was the last time you did it?
What actually happened?
Are you okay now? Did you survive that?
Now measure your desire to do that on a scale of 1-100.

Part 2:
Whats the absolute best thing that could happen if you did this?
What would doing this say about you? What kind of person does
this?
If you got just 50% of this, wouldn't that be great?
If you got just 25% of that, wouldn't that be great?
Now measure your desire. (it should jump up)

You're using these question methods to get down to what the

possibilities are.

Most people don't take action because taking action ruins the
fantasy/the good feeling.

#7 Dovetail
Most people have competing goals.
You want to maximize your time, but you also want to go to the gym
and work out. You can't maximize your time if going to the gym
takes you an hour or more.
One way you can do both is to do bodyweight exercises, or get a
standing desk, etc.

One way to use this in dating is to schedule a date for 7:30 in an

area with some activity and dress nice.

If its going well, stay. If it's not going well, leave at 9:30 and go to
the bar/club. You're already dressed well, and you're in a place with
a lot of people already.

#8 Examine Presuppositions
The presupposition of the earlier example is that to workout, I have
to go to the gym.
To find presuppositions ask How? What am I assuming is true about
this that might not be?
or the 5 whys. Ask why 5 times.

#9 Sexualized Compliments
This helped CJ skyrocket his game, especially when combined with a
strong intention.

He wanted to find out pretty early whether or not he should be

spending time with this girl. so he used sexualized compliments. It's
not a test, it actually creates sexual tension.

Sexualized compliments are not generic. They are specifically about

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her.

A woman could throw herself at any guy in the venue and go home
with him. Why doesn't she? Because for it to feel real to her, it has to
be about you and her.

Her goal is to create a sexual effect on men. Its why she got dressed
up. Its why she chose a salad over a cheeseburger.

Sorrycould you repeat that? I got distracted by your lips they're

very nice what were you saying?
or
You're very sexy what were you saying?

The reason why you ask what were you saying is because often
there is snapback effect. You ratchet up the sexual tension too high
and she tries to shut it down. You want slow, steady progress that is
comfortable.

#10: Speed Up
The amount of time you put in has no effect on if she'll have sex with
you.
Remember the friend zone? Most men in the friend zone have
poured hours and hours into their women, and nothing happens.
Women are available to have sex very quickly. Time is not much of a
factor.

Once you establish your rhythm, speed up.

Captain Jack's question for himself was How fast can I get a
timebridge?
At 40 mins, he got a 60-70% closing rate.
At 15 mins it was like 30%.
25 mins was perfect for him. At 20 mins he'd go for the time bridge,
at 25 he was done with the set.
Speed it up until your results break down, then bring it back up
again.

#11 Every now and then, try something completely different.

Use routines
Then use no routines
Do the mystery method and peacock.
Try Juggler and have a very natural style.

#12: interrogative Self Talk

Negative self-talk saps motivation.
You can often create your own obstacle by having negative self-talk
when it doesn't exist in reality at all.

Interrogative self-talk is turning your affirmation into a question.

Can I be an attractive man?

Yes (its always a yes ) then list out 3-5 reasons. When the question
comes up, the reasons come up as well.

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#13 Be out of balance
People who talk about work/life balance often don't achieve that
much. To be above average you'll have to go out of balance, at least
for a while.

You can remove some of the negative effects by scheduling the most
important things. So instead of waking up at 9, wake up at 7 and go
see your parents, or work out, or whatever. Often you can retain
some semblance of balance if you just schedule correctly and
prioritize.

If you fail to do this you'll be one of those people who blame game
for throwing their entire life out of wack.

#14 Supreme Nutrition

You'll be in loud environments, drinking and possibly smoking. You'll
begin losing sleep. You need good nutrition for longevity or you
won't survive the grind.

#15 Surround yourself with women

You're better off in your life if you have women you're not dating. It
also demystifies a lot of the mystery around women. Some guys
don't have a lot of data on women, and this helps you get that
additional data, along with increasing the volume of women you
approach. Women can be past girlfriends, family members, girls you
couldn't close.

#16 Unburden Your Mind

It takes a fair amount of mental energy to do well in dating, with all
the people you have to talk to.

To get rid of as much mental stress as you can, make a list of

unfinished business, and decide which ones you're going to keep,
and which ones you're going discard and knock as many of those
things out as possible.

#17 Craig's Short Sets

Approach Groups
Use Social Conversations
Cocky and Funny A Bit
Then Leave

Keep circling these short sets and then towards the end lock-in and
ride it out.

If you're not having fun, what's the point?

Are you guys shy? Because I've been standing here looking all cute
and you haven't said anything

#18 Instawings
When you go out alone, you only have two options, open, or stand
there alone.
You can create instawings by talking to guys about women.

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Ask them what kind of girls they like approach those women and
introduce them.

#19 Observe
If you've got quite a bit of experience, go out and just observe at
bars. If you don't have much experience this is basically useless.

#20 If you don't feel like going out

agree that you'll go out for 30 minutes. After 30 minutes if you don't
feel it, then leave.

#21 Coach Someone

After 100+ sets you know more than the average guy. Coaching
someone helps you make your knowledge solid.

One thing that you must watch out for is that coaching may increase
your ego. You start to impress other guys, and then you stop taking
risks. It happens a lot to guys who begin coaching.

#22 Mental Rehearsal

Visualization is extremely powerful. You want to mentally rehearse
your game plan and imagine doing it perfectly. You also want to
mentally rehearse your solution to sticking points. It also helps to
mentally rehearse your solution to sticking points.
You're telling your mind what you want to happen. You're making
your mind run on that track and when you're in the heat of the
moment, you'll have those resources available.

#23 Mentally Rehearse Your Past Failures (and fix them)

This allows you to correct past failures and tell your mind what you
would like from it in the future.

#24 Imagine Having Sex With her Right Before You Open

This is a big one. It seems to be some sort of secret thing.

It has to do with intention, but its something a bit different.

Imagining it, seems to create some powerful effect.
CJ experimented with doing this, and not doing this, and every time
he did it, it had a powerful effect.

#25 Talk To Everyone

Important for everyone and most important for introverts. It gets
your mouth moving. Talk to girls you're interested in, girls you're not
interested in, guys etc.

#26 When In The Field, Never Stop Talking

Once you get your mouth moving, don't stop talking! Talk to
bartenders, guys, friends, everyone. Once you have momentum,
don't stop!

#27 Use Sets As A Base

The first one or two sets of the night are your base. If you get
blown out of another set, just go back to your base.

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#28 Open New Sets While in Set
You can open a set while you're in a set. If you leave a set to look for
another one, you're losing momentum, and then breaking into that
set becomes an obstacle. Use a Low Investment Opener to open a
new set while in set.

#29 Use Low Investment Openers

These are statements and questions that you can get a simple
answer to. If they hook, stay and talk. If they don't, whatever.

#30 Open Mixed Sets

If CJ only had one night to get laid he'd focus 80% of his time on
mixed sets. If guys and girls are in a group, but not dating or
escalating, that already shows that those guys are bad at dating. If
you get the guys to approve of you, the women will feel safe around
you.

#31 Don't Take Shit Personal

There's a lot of rejection, if you take things personally you won't get
good.

#32 Leverage previous Night Success by Inviting Women Out to

Meet You
If you have some girls numbers in your phone text all of them to
come out to meet you (and your friends, if you brought them) at the
venue.

This does two things: allows you to re-establish a connection with

these women, and creates a base for your night. They may also bring
their own friends along. Win-Win-Win.
When you first start doing this, you may not get many responses at
first, but if you keep doing this they'll begin expecting it. CJ tries to
get as many women to the venue with him as possible.

#33 Time Constrain Your Day2s and Go Out Afterward

This is another part of dovetailing. Go out on a date at 7. If its not
going well, leave at 9/10 and go out.

#34 Smile More! (Especially Right Before You Open)

When you smile it does release different chemicals, it makes you feel
better, and people like you more. When you smile when you talk to
women, it makes them feel more safe, which is a legitimate risk for
them.

#35 If You Drink Alchohol Take B1 Regularly

B1 is needed to process alchohol. If you drink a lot of alchohol, you
need to supplement B1, its not found in a lot of food.

#36 When Pulling, Switch To Commands

Lets Go.
Come Here.
Get In.
Park Here.

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You go into command mode and lead them, so there's not a lot of
wiggle room. Women also find this highly attractive.

#37 Make Her Neutralize Friends

Common sense: If her friends pull her away you have less of a
chance of banging her.

Your friends seem really cool. But they don't know what we're
feeling here. They might try to protect you by pulling you away.. so,
you gotta let them know you're okay and want to be with me.

#38 Lessen Her Regrets With Regret Erasure

People often focus on some intermediate (negative) consequence.

This provides a path to the current state where they're obviously just
fine.

This is a bit of a hypnotic thing.

Ok now, I'm going to ask you a question but, I don't want you
to answer out loud. it's private. just answer in your head. Ok?
Think of times when you went fast right after meeting someone.
Now, realize no matter what happened then, you're right here, right
now and everything is completely fine.
(then smile)

Memorize it, and then do it as naturally as possible.

#39 Push Her away

Women aren't used to being pushed away especially hot women.

Works at any point in the interaction and works extremely well in
escalation.

I can't believe you said that, then gently push her away.
The belief is that when things start going really well, you need to
push push push forward. Pushing her away a bit is a shock for most
women under 25, and really hot women.

#40 During Escalation Pay Attention to Body Tension and BACK OFF
When She feels Uncomfortable

You don't want her to verbalize no. Especially with all the male rape
accusations flying around. If she does say no, or tenses up, just back
off, let her relax and then go back into it when you're both more
comfortable.

This rarely happens for CJ, but if that happens, she would have to
physically leave and nothing could take place until the next day.

#41 Write Field Reports

The act of writing out field reports puts the data you've observed
into a tangible form for your mind. You can obesrve patterns. If
something in your game starts going bad, you can look back and
notice Oh! Its because I stopped doing that.

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#42 Text Her After The Club Closes

If you're doing night game, you get her number and time bridge,
you can text her right after the club closes.
"Where you at sexy?
then
Come see me.
CJ's SNL rate went up about 30% after doing this.

#43 Push It, Push It To The Limit.

How many opens can I get?

How many TimeBridges can I get?
How many kiss closes can I get?

#44 Parade Girls Through The Venue

It's even better if they parade you through the venue.

CJ used to say: Parade 3 girls through the venue and you're
guaranteed to get laid that night.
Once you do this a few times, your sets will open right up.

#45 Kill Reactionism

Guys say ran a routine, did something, she didn't respond much
Your game shouldn't be based on the responses of women. If she's
still there, keep gaming.

The thing that tells you if you're on the right track is if you get the
timebridge or how well the kiss goes.

#46 Throw Up False Barriers To Sex

'I think you are completely sexy. But of course, I just met you, so I
can't say that.
It creates a kind of safe zone. The girl can then reply something like:
"I'd tell you you're the sexiest guy in here, but then you'd get a big
head, so I won't.

#47 When Pulling One Of The Most Effective Things You Can Say Is
Don't worry, neither of us have to do anything we don't want to
Often you can see them visibly relax, lower their shoulders, etc.

#48 Start To Walk Away

Most guys don't walk away. So you say something and you kind of
lean back, and act as if their reply brought you back to the
conversation. Then they feel that they're trying to say stuff to get you
to stay.

#49 Say Something Positive About Another Girl (not a friend of hers)
In The Environment
This has the effect of them thinking What about me?

Boazoa's #50 Anchor Your Timebridge

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The whole purpose of a timebridge, and the reason why its used
over a number close is that it gets the girl to think about you and her
outside that interaction. Its a form of future pacing. If you don't
timebridge, you can easily lose all the momentum you've created.

If you're privy to anchoring, as you're setting the timebridge, anchor

some positive feelings to it.

14 BIRLEY MOOR WAY, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 8 LIGHT RAIN

TUESDAY, 19 JANUARY 2016 21:39

All these guys here are ogling you funny, they should get brave,
quit staring and come talk to you.

Hey, my friends and I are going to XYZ place Monday night, you
should Oh, wait never mind. I forgot, I have already made other
plans.

Me: So where do you live?

Her: x-area

Me: Ah, thats a pretty far drive.

Use a hit and run approach. No one likes a clingy person.

Attractive women often have desperate guys go up to them and
start talking to them and NEVER leave. Dont be that guy. Roll in,
tease them, playfully interact for a bit and then leave and talk to
another woman for awhile. Then, go back in. No guy does this. You
will be seen as mysterious, a challenge, interesting and definitely
NOT desperate.

You should sit down and write out all of the most common questions
people ask in social situations and think of funny or evasive
statements for them.

Baiting statements for Game Dynamics

What? opener

Girls are always taking advantage when I drink

I like girls who

Inoculation Routines for common objections

Zombie response routines

Make statements valuing feminine traits i.e. nurturing.

GD Clarifying statements - Force principle

Too young.Im surprised youre only 22. You seem to carry

yourself as if youre older. Maybe you are more confident than

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women your age. There are a lot of things you learn through
experience. I like younger women because they havent got jaded
like many older women have, who try to hold back sex or affection to
make a statement.

Since nobody else knows about this, it technically never happend.

Todays wins:

I got my MOT done

I was signed off

Tomorrows wins:

Ill finish Conversational Blueprints

Ill get cracking on a game plan involving the above and 49 hacks
etc

18 BIRLEY MOOR WAY, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 4 HAZE

SATURDAY, 23 JANUARY 2016 13:39

This morning on a scale of 0 to 100 I feel my

positivity is at: __________
Jot down the emotions: (ex: annoyed that I have to get up, elated
because today I get to X!)

On a scale of 100 with 0 being utter despair and 100 being

Elated/Amazing/Best Ever

How positive do you feel about your past? (number and then the
primary REASON for the number.)

How positive do you feel about your immediate future (next few
months)?

How positive do you feel about your overall future?

How positive do you feel that your current actions/responsibilities

line up with your values and purpose?

20 BIRLEY MOOR WAY, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 11 MOSTLY

SUNNY

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SATURDAY, 6 FEBRUARY 2016 23:52

FR: Tonight was a success.

I went out tonight and after an hour or so, we decided to call it a
night.

This was a success. If after half an hour I want to go home, I have

permission to go home. Thats one of the ground rules.

In addition, we opened a lot of sets. I noticed that my reactions

tonight were stronger. I also made sure to smile and noticed that
some girls noticed.

Met Joe at 10:15, opened a girl while waiting for him outside. Just
small chat, she had just arrived and was finishing her cigarette.

We rolled in and it was packed, loads of girls. Got down the stairs
and saw a cute 3 set off to the side of the bar. I wasnt crazy about
opening as they were off to the side, but thats an excuse. Joe
motioned towards them and I told him to go.

I moved to the bar and stood next to a pretty blonde who was with a
Hen party. Opened with have you guys been waiting long? she said
they had been waiting for about 20 minutes. I nodded oh okay, long
time, etc. I think I looked away or at least towards the bar, and she
reopened me but I dont remember what with.

This was something I didnt expect

I then asked who the hen was and she pointed to her friend who
turned around. Some b.s. about a Simon Cowell doll she was
carrying. Waited at the bar, I reopened with why is your friend
carrying a Simon Cowell doll? She said he had just come along for
the night. We then got drinks and it kind of filtered out. As we were
leaving later on I saw her looking at me as I was on the stairs.

We had a decent spot by the bar so we waited, and some girl

behind me got pushed into me and touched my perfect behind, and
her friend said sorry. I said something like it happens all the time
and they laughed. I mentioned that it was my birthday in 90 minutes
and she gave me a semi-hug and said it had been her birthday
recently. I said I was 29, she was 31 and her name was Helene.
Blonde too.

Her touching me and the saying sorry which got me to open feels
like it was proximity. Maybe they saw me talking to the hen party
group, cant tell.

She said they were with two friends but they were talking to (or
flirting with) some guys and I said outrageous or something like that
and she laughed. I made a stupid joke at some point about them

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being the 8th coolest group wed met that night. She didnt hear
and I said that was probably best. They both laughed.

Talked about how her friend was 24 and we role-played like what
does she know at that age? Helene said what does she know about
being crazy or wild or something like that. I added in with letting go
and having fun or being crazy(?? - cant remember exactly). Talked
about not drinking because a) Im driving and b) girls are taking
advantage of me when I drink. Said Joe is my bodyguard. She said I
should drink and I talked about my new place. I asked what was on
the agenda for later, she said they didnt know and would go
wherever.

She mentioned she had laryngitis and her voice was going. Got very
close and touching so she was in my ear and my hand was on her
back. She said something and I said I like older women; was
intending to use an impromptu variation on CJs routine. She gave a
kind of shocked but not really laugh and I laughed too and said let
me backtrackwhat I meant was but not sure if I finished any
more than that.

They got drinks and said they were going back to find their friends. I
told her to come back, and she said theyd be over there and
pointed.

This was something I didnt expect

Clear invitation, should have gone to find her. I think I walked past
them as we were leaving later but I cant be sure, and did stand on
the stairs to look for her. Either way, I should have re-engaged later.

Walked around some more, may have opened another set at the
middle of the bar. Got to the dance floor and Joe spotted a 4-set
behind me and told me to open. I cannot remember if I did or he
did, it may have been him, but there was a cute brunette in the
middle of the group but on the other side of the circle they were in.
As we were talking she started talking to me and asked something
like where are you from? or whatever. She then walked across to
start talking to me.

This was something I didnt expect

I mentioned I had some Canadian in my voice and she mentioned

she had a friend who lived in Montreal. Gabbed about Canada and
why I was there, she asked if I grew up in the UK and if I was from
Sheffield originally. More Canada, she trained with a doctor who told
her not to go because of high tax or something.

She was just down for the weekend to see her friends, shes from
York. She introduced me to her friends who were all really nice and
smiley, shook hands and gave me their names etc. I asked if she was
out tonight and gone tomorrow and she said yes. I gave a thumbs
down.

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I think I then turned to Joe and saw him give me a nod to re-engage
or keep going, and her friend who was next to Joe saw. I then made
up some b.s. about meeting the guys and showed him my watch etc.
I think what happened was somewhere in there I saw that friend just
looking at me and I either got nervous or lost motivation to keep
going with a group of 4 people, so I told my target we were going to
find our friends and left.

I told Joe it was because I didnt want to deal with a 4-set, and I
think it was something to do with the friend looking at me. Had
nothing to do with the girl, who clearly liked me.

I should have said something about making her night fun and TBd.
She was clearly interested, and in terms of social pressure she was
only down for the night so it was like being on holiday. Something
about her being from York made me not Timebridge, but I dont
know if thats because I thought it was pointless or the social
pressure unconsciously put me off.

So that was one was good, I didnt expect her to engage so quickly
and should have and could have kept talking to her. A pull to the bar
would have been great. Should I have jumped on something about it
being her only night here?

And with that Helene woman. That one was equally strong, and
sexual frames and a TB should have been right there. Why I didnt
push either of those two which were my good interactions I dont
know. Ill do FR analysis on the above in the morning, I just want to
get the details down.

There were some more sets in Revs, then we moved to Cavendish

briefly. Opened a 2set outside with who is older, told them he was
15 and they got a bit annoyed with it, said dont talk shit to us and
mentioned it to a guy friend who came out. He said thats nice and
carried on.

Went to Rev de Cuba, I made sure to smile as I went in and let a

group of women go past. Almost all of them noticed my smile and
smiled back as they went through. I definitely noticed a difference
but cant quite put my finger on it. Usual no-go openers of have you
been served yet etc.

The opener on the 4-set was who do you think is older and then
said that I got IDd and he didnt which is why we were asking. We
did that each time we used it.

Either way - we opened better, the good sets that I had hooked
really well - I had interest at least (if not attraction) from both of
those girls, but gave up or let it go rather than push. We did way
more sets than normal, and I noticed that despite a little hesitation, I
didnt feel any AA.

I did practice D-R and Circle of Excellence on the way there though,

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and did CofE briefly outside while waiting for Joe. My hypothesis is
that this is what caused the better reactions and/or the lack of
nervousness or hesitation in opening.

What I will be working on next time:

TIMEBRIDGE - Why am I not doing it???

Using the word sexy IN ISOLATION. I have to mini-isolate or full

isolate a girl when its going that well.

How far I have come

Who the fuck would have the balls to do what we did tonight? Open
a 4 set for example.

Much better reactions.

I smiled deliberately.

I did my mental drills.

We did more than our required half an hour. Some nights I made
excuses not to come out.

We didnt talk about game while out.

Our time between sets was very low.

20 BIRLEY MOOR WAY, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 7 LIGHT RAIN

MONDAY, 29 FEBRUARY 2016 22:03

FR: One set, one number

Game Plan - CJs SxF

Experiments - Opening without hesitation or nervousness; smiling

more and being expressive; having fun.

Ive been treating this like work and Im trying to get into a real spirit
of play. Ive also slacked off drilling Power Opening and want to see
what my baseline opening looks like without any drills or tricks.

Got out to meet Joe for 9pm. Opened a 3 set outside Revs with is it
busy in there? not really oh good just what we want!

They laughed, and we rolled in (I could have kept that one going).

Walked in and saw a line of girls at the bar to the left. Joe went
straight over and I saw a lone woman at the bar. Thought she would
be middle-aged (I assumed she was with a middle-aged man at the
table), but when I caught sight of her, she was young and pretty.

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Opened with have you been served yet? she said no and smiled. I
said that she looked very unhappy about that and mocked youre
like I want my drink NOW! and slammed on the bar.

She said something which I didnt hear because she had an accent
(shes from Latvia). I asked her to repeat it and she had joked that I
was impatient.

I didnt expect her to continue the conversation like that

Asked where her accent was from. I said I assume she is here
because shes studying.

No I work. Im too old to study! Asked how old she was. Shes 27. I
said I enjoyed 27, it was a good year. She asked how old I am, I said
I just turned 29. She said happy birthday, and I said thanks and said
it was a couple of weeks ago so I am over it.

She was there with one friend and didnt know where the other one
was. I said a similar thing happened to me, meaning my friends run
away. She laughed.

Asked what she does for work. She works at a psychiatric hospital.
Asked which one - bit of confusion - she said what it was called and
where it is. I thought she said that it was next to my house so its fine
- I thought she made a joke about me being a patient or whatever.

She had actually said its next to HER house. East Bank Road. I
missed that one.

I ordered some water (she had ordered gin and tonic). She looked
quizzical and I told her I had just finished a play so had destroyed my
voice. She said she thought she wanted to be an actress at 19, and
had been in amateur groups etc. She asked which play, she knows
the book. Talked about that, told her I got a mention in the Star. She
asked if people had to pay to see it, I said yes but we dont. She
joked that I was a local celebrity (did she?). She asked if I was good.
I said that the tears and the applause indicated so, but it was a hard
role to play and why etc.

Asked why that job, she said she wants to be a psychotherapist and
needs the experience. Told her about mum and that she does that
job. Chat somewhere about London, cant remember why. She said
she hasnt been, but she used to live in Glasgow. Told her Sheffield
was a good choice. She asked where Im from at some point.

I asked what she did for fun, besides being out at bars (missed the
hitting on hot guys line). She said getting wasted! and then
laughed and said she was kidding.

I said that makes you my new best friend. she said why, do you like
doing that? (or something to that effect). Told her about the 6:30am
finish last night.

She looked around and said that she needed to get back to her

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friend. Told her I was glad I met her, and that we should hang out.
She smiled and said I want to. Told her to put her digits in (she
laughed at that) and I would look at my schedule and arrange
something. She joked youll get your secretary to call me. She put
the number in and let it ring. Said bye, and she went back over.

Why the hell I didnt Timebridge I will never know. It was even there
in my head and I guess I felt like I didnt need it.

I turned to Joe and hugged him, telling him to act like we had just
seen each other so it didnt look to her like I had been ignoring him.
I interrupted his set (sorry dude).

We left soon after to go Game somewhere else and I sent her this
text a few minutes later.

Hey sexy, was nice meeting you. Had to go meet some friends, Ill
text you soon :) x

I didnt put my name at the end, which may have been a mistake.
Need to make sure I put it there if I have to reinitiate the texting i.e.
if she doesnt text back so I try again.

One set, one number.

NOTES: The whole thing went better than I expected.

We then walked around, hesitated to go into Rev de Cuba as there

was only one seated table of girls. West Street Live, hesitated. I
made decisions and walked down to Bungalows. Opened a 2-set
outside with is it weird that I like the smell of smoke as I just quit?

Chatted to them for ages, talked shit, noticed Joe throws out
communications instead of communication. Told him that during the
debrief.

Left them and called it a night. Joe spotted a seated 2 set in Forum,
said lets open them, I agreed and went to go in, saw a 3 set by the
bar. Was ready to go in and he then said lets call it a night, I have to
go, and so we went. He said he shouldnt make excuses, so I had
him talk about his wins to get out of that headspace.

I was ready to go for that 3 set though. I have noticed that even
without those drills, my AA is virtually non-existent. Its more a
hesitation, but even that is much lower down. Still not at the level of
almost automatic opening, but definitely a good step in the right
direction.

I mentioned to Joe on the way down that its an issue with me (and I
think its common), that when I have a good success like that, my
motivation to carry on gaming afterwards drops almost to 0 as I had
such a good buzz. Tyler mentions it in the Blueprint I think.

NEXT TIME:

Working on volume and actually doing a Timebridge rather than just

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a number close.

Modifying to include Strawberry Fields or at least calling her sexy.

Could have caused GD confusion or built Agreement on a wrong

Game.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 5 RAIN

WEDNESDAY, 2 MARCH 2016 06:21

FR: Opens and Chats

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Experiments: I guess my experiments were to gauge my AA and

opening skills. I am working on getting opening as near to
automatic as I can.

Met Joe at 9 and went into Revs. Surprise surprise.

There was some kind of party going on, guys topless and in make up
etc. Stood next to two girls at the bar, and said to him loud enough
for them to hear is it half-naked night? Should we be half-naked?
You never tell me these things! and fake slapped him. The girls
laughed so I opened my target (who was drinking beer) with do you
know why the guys are topless?

She said it was some kind of social. I asked if they were with them,
and she said no.

Genuinely cant remember what else we chatted about. At some

point I told Joe to wait and I walked over to check out the rest of the
bar. Got back and he was in set with the two girls. He was asking my
original target what she does, and she said they were both at Uni.
He asked what they were studying and the other girl (strawberry
blonde) said architecture. I asked if she had read the Fountainhead.
She asked if she should have, and I mock turned to Joe and said that
everyone has (like getting him to agree). I then said shes going to
hate me when she picks it up because it is a brick. They both
laughed.

I think at this point that my original target turned to Joe and I talked
across her to this girl and said yeah, youll text me and be like you
fucker (see what I did there?)

Talked about how I briefly thought I wanted to be an architect after

that. Chatted about the Arts Tower as I had a friend at Uni who did
that degree and so I saw their workshop. General chit chat etc.

They then left.

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I ordered at the bar and got water. Saw a girl at the bar look over as I
chatted to the bartender. Considered opening. Another hot brunette
came and stood next to me, and seemed to slide over. Something
about that was unexpected

I know it was the best space at the bar, but something about it felt
like proximity.

There was a 5p piece at the bar, and I asked if it was hers. She didnt
quite hear me but she started to turn so I immediately phrased the
question to Joe. I then turned back to her and tried again. She said
it wasnt hers. I then said it belongs to whoever picks it up, and now I
feel a bit gross because I picked it up (what was I thinking?).

Asked if she knew why the guys were topless. She said she thought it
was some kind of social, and remembered what it was like to be at
uni. I said the same and it was 10 years since I moved up. She said it
was a year ago, so I clarified you mean you graduated a year ago?
she said yes. I asked in what, and she said graphic design. I said
mine was law. Chatted about how a degree is easy for the first two
years, and how I had two paid years off. Think we just talked about
how we missed it.

Asked who she was there with, she said a friend.

Mentioned that I had my water, as I destroyed my voice being in a

play.

Did the introductions which Im working on. Her name is Jasmine.

Shes from Skipton, didnt think I would have heard of it. Asked if she
had been to the American diner, mentioned that I go to the States
every year etc. Shes down for the night because she just got a
graphic design job.

She went to Uni in Manchester, talked about where we go out. She

asked if I had been to Rev de Cuba, she didnt know there was one
nearby. I said that my friend Joe - pretended I had no idea where he
had gone - and I were going there afterwards. Clear but implied
invitation(?? - was I clear though?)

She said she wanted to stay in Skipton and so on. Joe came over so I
introduced them. We were talking about graphic design and being
artistic, as I was getting ready to run Strawberry Fields. I asked Joe
to find us a place to sit, and Ill be with you in one minute. I dont
know if she heard that, but Im less concerned the more I think about
Dynamic 1 - theres no loss of social proof in obviously being a Player
in a Game.

Asked if she liked to write, she said yes, I then did my b.s. about
psychology for A-Levels and started Strawberry Fields. She had her
card in her hand and the bartender asked her to come down (so to
my right) to pay. So I had to interrupt SF. She then moved back
around, got her drinks. I asked if it took about 2 hours to drive down,

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she said it took her an hour and a half and explained the route she
took. She then said she had to go. I then gave her directions to Rev
de Cuba, and she said so we might (emphasis) see you there.

We then left. Opened an Asian 2-set with a pink backpack. Saw two
girls, went into Bierkeller behind them. Just opened asking them if
the venue was open. Could be a good venue.

That was it.

So overall, some good interactions. Im getting some more

consistent hooking. The last few sets I have opened, which have
been in Revs, have turned into conversations.

NEXT TIME: Ill be modifying my game plan to start introductions as

early as I can in set.

I will be working on getting a damn Timebridge in every set, as for

some reason I dont do it. Sticking point.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 3 MOSTLY

CLOUDY

THURSDAY, 3 MARCH 2016 22:04

FR: Birthday Girl

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Experiments: Opening as a drill. Timebridge.

Not much to report for this one. Walked into Revs, stood next to a
tall brunette at the bar. Easy open as there was a full shot glass on
the bar.

is that yours? She said no. I said I dare you to drink it. She
laughed. Said it looked quite fizzy.

I was kind of in question mode. Have you been served yet? she said
no.

Joe went off to open, so I asked her Have your friends abandoned
you? as seeing Joe gave me that idea. She said she was out with
her mum as it was her birthday. 22. I said Happy Birthday etc.

So birthday girl, Im will. She introduced herself as Hannah and we

shook hands. Chit-chat about being out with her mum. I asked
whats on the agenda for later? You just going to carry your mum
home? She laughed and agreed, said her mum is worse than her.
She mentioned her family is coming up tomorrow so she has to
entertain them.

She ordered mojitos. I said I cant drink due to the play etc etc, so I

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was jealous of her drinks. She asked what I do like to drink when I
can This was slightly unexpected

I said jack and coke and she said she does too. I said not to
massively stereotype, but I dont find many women who like whisky
and coke. She agreed. (I should have given more approval for this,
though it was there implied). Asked if she had been to that new
Bierkeller place. I was seeding a Timebridge. She said she had. I said
what about Cubanas, and she said no. I asked if she likes to Salsa.

She does, so I said I go on Sunday evenings and its loads of fun, and
that they do good cocktails there. Mentioned that there are classes,
and the fun starts at 9:30. I didnt go for the actual number in the
Timebridge as the fact that the mother was there was off-putting. So
I said Sunday at 9:30, you should come and she said she would try
(or something like that).

She then said it was nice to meet me and shook my hand again,
slightly unexpected and I said Happy Birthday again, and she left.

That was the only set I did that night, besides then going over to
find Joe who was in a 2-set. Used a classic for winging from CJ:

Hey, how do you guys know Joe?

They said We dont! And so I said Oh that surprises me, he seems

to know everyone.

One said I didnt even know his name

It felt like I would have made the situation worse - i.e. put pressure
on, so I told him I was going to find somewhere to sit, and went back
to the bar so he could work.

Hes a persistent little fucker. Even when they turned back around he
kept going for AGES. Most guys would have given up; I probably
would too. And the important lesson is they kept smiling and
engaging with him for way longer than I thought they would.

Most places were slightly dead, but my next call is in 15 days and I
need to have some genuine SPs to talk to Jason about. This volume
is simply not enough.

The good thing is that my intention for seeding pulls seems to be

improving slightly, and I did a somewhat Timebridge. Plus my sets
are opening and hooking in an upward direction.

NEXT TIME: Timebridge every set that I end up talking to, and I
MUST increase my work rate.

1 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 6 MOSTLY CLOUDY

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SATURDAY, 5 MARCH 2016 14:56

FR: Blowouts
Oh man last night was rough. Ive been thinking that Ive had a few
okay nights in a row and been opening fairly well, so I kind of felt like
I was due a bad one.

I had a rough day at work yesterday - found out that the G6 and G5
are reviewing my attendance decision, and I guess I felt kind of cut
out of the whole thing and Im worried that without my input they
wont consider everything.

Anyway, so I didnt want to go out but did. Got into revs early,
opened 2 girls at the bar asking if their drink was a pina colada. They
just pointed to the drink in a menu. Did virtually the same thing to a
2-set on my right and basically the same thing happened. Joe came
in and opened like a machine. I smiled at girls as they were walking
past. Later on I saw a couple and they smiled back - smiling is huge.

3 set by the stairs I could have opened, but didnt.

Went to Cavendish, Joe blew a set with a dumb opener rather than a
situational one. I told him to try to come up with relevant openers as
they get into conversation.

Got to Rev de Cuba, opened a 2-set at the bar. Really nice girl
named Sarah, was pretty into me. Then Joe tanked it by talking to
her friend about crocodile meat which grossed her out, so she pulled
her away and that was it.

That set was on, could have at least Timebridged Im sure.

Its fine, just a bit annoying that he says dumb shit. However, he is
working on it and has realised its maybe not the best. Plus he went
and opened a seated 3-set and was there for ages, even sat on one
girls chair arm. Props to him.

Chatted to the bar girl a bit and she made me a honey and lemon.
She was into it too, but she was also working.

Went from there to Great Gatsby, no sets to open, and then I just
wanted to go home and go to bed.

I felt like my overall state wasnt that bad, but my headspace was off
- even then, better than it used to be. I could snap out of it when I
was in set.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 8 SHOWERS NEARBY

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WEDNESDAY, 9 MARCH 2016 22:02

FR: Hook Point. Wednesday 09.03.2016.

Game Plan: CJs SxF.

Experiments: Intention - Ive been going over my old FRs from when
I was on Jasons Force21 program, where I got some insane results.
Those FRs showed how strong my Intention was - every set I ran
Strawberry Fields, told the girl she was sexy, and went for the
Timebridge. I wouldnt have realised how pathetically weak my
Intention is these days if I hadnt found my archived posts. Ive
regressed a lot.

So Ive been going over the SxF game plan and am committed to
getting those three elements in my interactions.

Met Joe at 9 for our daily half-hour or so. Ive had two days off, so
did some Circle of Excellence drills in the car on the way. Still feel
some slight internal resistance to doing those exercises, not sure
why.

Went into Revs, he wasnt there. Place was virtually deserted. 2 set at
the bar, I got served and then asked them if I had jumped ahead of
them. They laughed and said no. Got my drink and texted Joe that I
was inside. Did not reopen - this is a major issue for me. In terms of
AA, Im definitely weaker than I used to be, but will usually approach
anything below a 5 set UNLESS Ive already opened. Then I freeze
like a teenager.

We then left. Opened a lone girl on the street, asked if she knew
where a venue was, and she told us. That was it.

Got to Gatsby, a 10-set at the main table (which despite Joes

insistence I did not see the point in opening), and a 2-set by the
door. Joe went to open them and I got us drinks at the bar. He came
back 10 seconds later and said he had a brain freeze - couldnt even
remember what he opened with. Decided we were messing around,
so went to leave. I was going to open his 2-set, but went for the
door and he reopened.

I gave him a few seconds as I didnt want it to be the two of us

standing over their table at the same time. He then pointed to me
and introduced me, so I went over and said hi. Chit-chat about why
they were out and what they were doing (2 students out for dinner
and drinks). Asked what they were studying and Joe did the old try
to guess their degree game.

I stayed silent while he did that, and the girl on the right asked me a
question about what I do for a living. I noticed clear as day that that
was the hook point. I dont know if thats what intuition feels like, but

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it occurred to me in the moment that we had hit the hook point it
was unusual in its clarity

Talked about our jobs, cracked some jokes and made them laugh.
They asked where we were going, and the girl on the right asked if
we had been to the new German-theme bar. I said no, but it
sounded like a good idea.

Thought Id try some kind of seed. I asked what are you guys
doing?

They looked at each other and hesitated and said they werent sure.
Again it occurred to me in the moment that they were considering
coming with us. I could tell by the way they looked at each other.
Again, the clarity was unusual

It still didnt quite feel on by any stretch (plus we hadnt picked

targets as we havent got any skill in winging each other) so I just
said that we were heading that way and they should join us if they
were going that way afterwards.

Said our goodbyes and left. Joe had to be up early, so that was it.

GOOD POINTS: The hook point and the look observation - I just
seemed to see these things or notice them. Joe did not clock either,
but I just got it. Not sure if its related to these weird effects Ive
been having (like knowing the answers to questions I shouldnt really
know, or knowing when someone will text me).

WORKING ON: There simply werent any people really around, but
when I open I MUST intend to push it as far as I can. Ive invested a
lot of time and money and moved house to get this down. I need
that fire back I had during Force 21, and it starts with getting the
three elements - SF, TB and Sexualised compliment in there No.
Matter. What.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 5 MOSTLY CLEAR

THURSDAY, 10 MARCH 2016 06:04

Jasons response to last nights FR:

Well you did do a lot of Objectives so ESP isn't that far-fetched :-)

In this case, it could also be that Again, the clarity was unusual. is
the establishment of what I call Reference Points in Sticking Point
Analysis. You gather enough Reference Points and you see things no
one else sees.

I just definitely noticed things. Day 2 of my IFTTT morning routine. I

like doing it this way.

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So today is about drilling Intent - in your head communication,
Tone 40, with a sexual state. Ill mentally rehearse more in the
shower etc.

Its a drill. When talking to people, I stay silent mostly, but when I talk
do it with Tone 40 Intention.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 4 CLOUDY

SATURDAY, 12 MARCH 2016 11:10

FR: A little bit better and a makeout (Friday

11/03/16)
Game Plan: CJs SxF.

Had a bad day during the day. Not quite sure why some things hit
my buttons, but anything that makes me feel like Im not being
included activates this horrendous structure ( a la Fifth Discipline) in
me that leads to a downward mental funk spiral I cannot pull myself
out of.

So usually bad days lead to bad (i.e. introverted) nights. Im

becoming more aware of this as I try to think in systems terms. Need
to ask Jason about how to apply Fifth Discipline ideas.

So I decided I was having none of that, so walked into town and

drilled Power Opening - did Desire on my Ideal Scene of opening
automatically, and Repulsion on hesitating AND my current path
scene etc.

Then drilled Circle of Excellence states, and once I felt good I did
the Extroversion Drill.

I walked past a girl sitting on her own outside a bar and hesitated.
Wasnt doing that again, so I street opened two girls outside
Bungalows Have you guys been inside? How busy is it? Brief chit
chat then moved on.

Got to Revs. Asked a girl smoking on her own if she was queuing.
She said I could go ahead as she was finishing her cigarette. Said I
enjoy the smell of smoke as I do occasionally have one. Talked about
quitting, blah blah. She had a yin-yang necklace on, said I liked it
and she finished and we headed inside together. Asked her where
her friends were and she said her boyfriend was the bearded guy
over there.

Ha! Oops.

Walked around as Joe was a bit late. Opened a girl in a white coat
waiting at the bar as it looked huge: Arent you boiling in that?

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She laughed and said no as it was deceptively thin. Talked about
how I usually get too warm so I came out without my coat tonight.
Was a good vibe, easy chat. She got distracted and went to her
friend at the bar. I turned around and saw Joe standing there.

Walked around, brief open two girls at the other end of the bar
asking if they got served down this end. They did, so I ordered us
drinks. Brief chat, Joe blew it by saying basically the same thing Id
said 10 seconds earlier as he wasnt paying attention. We laughed
about it.

I turn and see a two set HB8.5 and HB5. Walk over and ask them if
they were drinking strawberry daiquiris. They told me what the drink
was and I misheard, which made them really laugh. I played on that
joke for a bit until they were both laughing and engaged. When I
opened I was standing so the HB5 was closest to me and my target
was next to Joe so he got talking to her.

Not having that shitensuing verbal ninja game:

Asked the HB5 who they were out with. Just the two of them. Asked
what they were celebrating, and she said it was just a Friday night as
they hadnt seen each other in a while. Joe and my target were
listening now. I asked why they hadnt seen each other in a while,
was it because she (HB5) had been in prison? They both shrieked
laughing. I said I asked because they both seem like troublemakers
and I couldnt tell who was worse. They, of course, pointed to each
other, so I switched my focus to the target (the HB5 was loving me
by now because I was FUN):

So youre the worse troublemaker? Interesting

Said to Joe Switch and just moved him across to the HB5 so I was
now talking to the troublemaker (my target). Smooth, right? Ideal
Scene - Action.

She is at University. Asked what she is studying, she said Criminology

and Psychology.

Psychology? Reminds me of a test

Strawberry Fields. Id barely finished saying You get over the fence
and youre in a field of strawberries and she blurted out I would
eat them ALL!!

She laughed her head off at the interpretation. I finished and she
said something like I do love fruit (cant remember exactly).

Brief chat about her degree and my job etc etc. She was clearly
impressed when I said what I do and how my plan is to go into
Counter-Terrorism policing. This may have been what blew it.
Seeded the Timebridge

Asked where they were going later. She said she didnt know. Asked
if she had been to Rev de Cuba, she hadnt. Asked if she liked salsa

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dancing, and she said she did a bit. I mentioned that they do salsa
on Sunday evenings, I was enjoying talking to her and would like to
see her again, so she should come along.

I dont really go out on Sunday evenings. This threw me as I felt

like the TB should have been solid. Glad I re-watched the SxF videos
two days ago:

The day isnt that important, the point is Im enjoying talking to you
and would like to see you again. She then kind of either hesitated
or just watched me for what Id do next. Its kind of like she pursed
her lips slightly. I cant describe it and cant be sure what it was.

Either way, it felt like the pause was putting too much emphasis on
the TB so I changed topics. Brief chit chat more with all 4 of us, and
they left after a minute to go to the bathroom.

I am stumped as to why the TB didnt work

Anyway, they left and we saw another cute 2-set right behind them,
so Joe opened instantly. Short set, theyre both teachers, and I was
alright chatting to my girl but Joes girl wasnt engaging with him
and so pulled her away.

Joe is going to an RSD event so he left, and I went to meet my lady

friends.

The rest of the night was drinking with my friends.

Got a makeout with one who is more of an acquaintance. It was

alcohol fuelled as shes normally not crazy about me in general. At
one point in the night she was texting someone (obviously a booty
call).

I asked if she was alright. She said yes, but she was doing something
bad. I said FUN bad? and she laughed. A few minutes later we
were standing together and she put her phone away and said
Distract me. Im pretty sure I knew what she meant, and had the
sense I could have kissed her, but something in my internal world
wouldnt embrace it. I said okayuhyou have a cute butt.

She said You dont really believe that. I said Yes I do. She turned
around and showed me her ass. I said yeah its cute. She smiled.
Id hesitated so didnt take it any further.

A little later in the night she was standing around so I walked over
and said Are you still doing something bad? She smiled and said
she wasnt anymore. I said Thats a shame.

She paused, looked at me and said Take me away to do something

bad then

Id love to

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She kind of raised her eyebrows like she didnt quite believe me. I
still felt that resistance as this was WAY unusual. Im savvy enough
that I thought on my feet as we were surrounded by our friends who
were dancing with various people. Lets go see whats at the bar
She smiled and said that yes, that was a great idea.

Took her hand and led her across to the other side of the venue
away from everyone we know.

Waited at the bar, looked at each other andmakeout. No doubt in

my mind, but this wasnt an Alpha thing - no way I would have
screwed that one up (he says).

Was going to go for it again, but she gave me that kind of raised
eyebrow suspicious look.

I said the good thing is, if no-one sees then it didnt happen. I
guess clarifying that I understand Game Dynamic 3 (and, therefore,
qualify under Dynamic 1??)

We made out again briefly at some point (Id been drinking quite a
bit so timings are a bit fuzzy).

Thats it.

A decent night. Reading over my old FRs has been invaluable in

terms of giving me a slap round the face for what Im not doing
anymore. What gets me is why I can be SO inconsistent. Some
nights my sets go pretty well, others I can barely squeak past the
opener all night.

GOOD POINTS: I ran Strawberry Fields and went for the Timebridge
in my long 2-set, which I havent been doing at all recently.

Social intuition: Ive felt like the last 2 nights Ive had these bizarre
flashes of getting it. I saw a guy and a girl at the bar and was
watching them. I had a feeling they werent together even though
they were being quite touchy with each other. Sure enough, at one
point he went to kiss her twice and she pulled away/turned away
both times. I just had a feeling they werent together even though it
kind of looked like they were.

NEXT TIME: I think the exercises were what made the difference.
That and an awareness of what I used to do that I had stopped
doing. I must 10X the exercises.

Im auditing my twin for 3 full days from tomorrow (Sunday 13th-

Tuesday 15th), so that should help me drill my Intention!

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 8 HAZY

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FRIDAY, 1 APRIL 2016 23:11

FR: Open and Hook SP (01/04/16)

Working on: Opening and Follow-up; Re-opening.

Having discussed with Jason, I have streamlined my thinking solely

towards these two areas:

1) Dealing with my Approach Reluctance (I dont feel anxiety as

much as hesitation and/or reluctance); and
2) Continuing past the Opener regardless of the girls input.

If it is a fizzle set then I am working on re-opening the girl rather

than hesitating or leaving.

Went to meet Joe for 9. Got there early, and he texted to say hed
arrive at 9:15. Id worked on the Circle of Excellence drills somewhat
on the walk up there, though I was generally in a fairly positive
mood. Im going through Self Analysis again as it works to move one
up the Tone Scale. When my general baseline mood is good, my
sets tend to be positive - its when Im in a shitty mood that things
go bad. Ill analyse any impact it has on Game over the next few
weeks

However, being there on my own I started to introvert and even

though I had Openers and Follow-ups ready to go, I hesitated and
didnt open anyone at the bar or walking around. My general
extroversion has improved as I saw people looking at me as I leaned
against a wall with my drink.

Eventually I went outside to the smoking area. There was a lone girl
standing there smoking, next to a seated guy-girl 2 set.

I opened the lone girl (with the 2 set listening as no-one else was
there):

I didnt realise you could bring drinks out hereIve been trying to
down mine so I could come out. She smiled but didnt respond.

I re-opened Are you with these two, or did your friends abandon
you? She said her friends were inside.

The seated girl opened me Where are your friends? I said they
were running late because they cant tell the time. She invited me to
grab a seat and sit with them This was unexpected.

Sat down and did introductions. I said my friends were apparently on

their way but I was early. The lone girl said Are you sure they
havent stitched you up? It is April Fools Day. We all laughed.

Seated girl: The early bird catches the worm.

Me: The worm in this case being?

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Seated girl: Alcohol. Youll just get drunk sooner.

Joe texted to say he had arrived, the lone girl went back in, Joe
came out and chatted to the 2-set briefly and we went inside.

Got to the bar for Joe to order a drink. First fuck-up: Two fairly
attractive women were dancing and one of them moved up to me to
dance. Not quite sure whether it was discomfort or focus on Joe, but
I didnt start dancing with her and moved just past her to the bar and
turned back to them. Tried to open with my I love the look opener
but she didnt even hear me. Wasted opportunity. Managed to get
their attention by asking if they could do the weird Indian head bob
that Joe can do. They tried, but even so I couldnt get a conversation
going.

Anyway, at the bar a hottie stood next to me. The Rihanna song
work came on and I told Joe I hated it. I opened her Do you like
this song? Because I hate it! She laughed and agreed it was terrible.
I think she turned to the bar.

So I worked on my SP by reopening (with my prepared opener) I

like the look, its like professional badass.

She smiled Thats exactly what I was going for!

I asked who she was there with, she said work colleagues. I asked if it
was her drinks round and said no, she just came up on her own. I
teased her about sneaking away to the bar to avoid paying for
everyone.

I think she turned back to the bar, so I reopened again. Asked what
she was ordering, and she said some thing with lemonade. I went
into Jasons routine about two old ladies giving me a drink that
tasted funny. That was prepared as my opener follow-up, but
whatever. She didnt get the joke so I had to explain that I was
joking.

Was that an April Fools? She asked.

Yeahsure. She laughed, and started to get served.

Joe told me to go for the number, but something about it didnt feel
on. I need to ignore my instincts as I dont know, so I really just made
an excuse to not Timebridge. I have a commitment to go for the TB
in every set that lasts a few minutes, but this one was very brief.

Walked around some more. Opened a woman at the other end of

the bar with asking if she liked Taylor Swift (who was playing). Made
her laugh talking about that. She turned back to the bar, so

Reopened with the same I like the look, its like elegant badass.
She smiled big and said thanks, then turned back again I think.

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Went to Rev de Cuba, was fairly empty. Opened one girl in a 2-set as
I bumped her and asked if I had just elbowed her by mistake. She
laughed and said it was fine. I said her look was like elegant badass
(just trying the opener) so I was sure she could take it (or something
equally lame).

Prize for the most awkward open ever:

Got served at the bar. Another 2 set was to my left, and Joe told me
to use Gamblers joke Hi, how have you been? opener and say it
was an April Fools. I thought that sounded hilarious, so I tried to
make eye contact with her, and when I finally got it rather than
waving I pointed at her quizzically like an idiot. She said to her friend
that I was trying to talk to her.

I then promptly choked on the opener. It should have been:

Hi, how have you been?

What came out instead was:

Havent we met before?

NoI dont think so.

Oh..rightyou just looked familiar. I decided, for the sake of all

involved, not to bother with the April Fools part. There was an April
Fool present though. I thought Joe was going to wet himself
laughing.

Joe, the usual approach machine, was hesitant as we havent been

out for two weeks, So I told him to open one of the waitresses asking
what time they closed. He did, and then as he wasnt feeling it we
decided to leave. Agreed to do 90 mins tomorrow if I can make it (at
the Org early Sunday so not sure).

As I walked home, the pub next to my house seemed full so I walked

in. That was good, as rather than just calling it a night I decided to
do something else on a whim. Surprisingly, a few hotties present. A
4-set of girls sat next to me. One caught my eye, and I was too slow
to flash the clown and was too hesitant to open the 4-setI wasnt
nervous, just hesitant. She was cute too. An hour later, and Im still
annoyed I missed it!

Eventually I left. Got home contemplating whether to actually go

back out next door. This was the good kind of frustration; I actually
had this burning desire to a) do more sets and b) correct my mistake
of hesitating. Not sure what was different, but spontaneously walking
into the pub and wanting to go back and Game actually is quite a
step forward. Just not sure what that means yet.

What was good:

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I got some good practice in on what Im working onmy SP of
Opening and Re-Opening. I think having something lined up in my
head really gives me this boost of confidence, though not enough to
overcome this hesitation. Still positive practice though.

What needs work next time:

I have to tackle this Approach Anxiety/Reluctance as this is a stupid

issue to have. Desire-Repulsion on Ideal Scene vs Alternatives should
take care of it.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 9 LIGHT RAIN

TUESDAY, 12 APRIL 2016 21:56

FR: Dancers, not Strippers 12/04/16

Game Plan: CJs SxF.

Working on: Opening and re-opening if it doesnt hook, until a

conversation is flowing.
Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge each set that goes
beyond the hook point.

First night out after my four day (amazing) holiday. Agreed to meet
Joe at 9.

Went heavy on the mental rehearsal of opening and getting into

conversation. Did Circle of Excellence drills a bit before I left, as well
as Propulsion System questions to increase my motivation. Did some
Ideal Scene visualising as well.

My mood is feeling more stable at the moment. Im working on the

theory that the higher up the tone scale my chronic mood gets (i.e.
the better baseline mood I have) the better my sets go. Ill have to
monitor this long-term.

Met Joe at 9, went into revs which had a few people in it. Walked up
to the bar and I immediately opened a mixed (1M, 2F) Asian set by
asking what their tray of shots was Are those apple sours? The girl
said it was something else (cant remember) and that was pretty
much it.

Joe asked if he should open the set to my 5 oclock (so behind me). I
said go for it, but he hesitated. I did too, but I decided I wasnt
going to let that stop me so I went over (despite the hesitation,
there was very very little physical resistance). There had been about
5 girls at the table, but now there were only 2.

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Do you guys think its irresponsible for us to be drinking on a school
night?

Wasnt one of the openers Im working on, but I came up with it

earlier and it was what came out.

The girl furthest away said no, because they were drinking but they
worked nights. Asked her what she did and she said she was a
dancer. The woman closest to me worked at the bar where she
danced. Turned out they were all strippers.

Joe was like a kid at Christmas.

At some point the other 5 came back (so it was a 7 set), and I turned
to walk back to the bar for something. One of the women I opened I
think went to touch Joe on the arm as he turned around, like she
wanted to make sure he stayed. So he walked around to the younger
hotter ones as I was on my way back to the bar. They were all on the
other side of the table so I would have had to go around the table
(guess I hesitated).

Joe came back over, said he thought they were a bit sarcastic and he
thought strippers would be nicer. I told him to call them dancers
not strippers, and he said ohI just said strippers like 7 times to
them. I almost cried laughing.

One of them was behind me now. They were laughing and giggling
so I opened with how do you guys have so much energy? It was
one of those where she maybe didnt realise I was talking to her at
first, and she clocked it as I turned away so it just died. Joe almost
cried laughing this time. Really it was a lack of Intention on my part -
Im starting to see the differences now.

Went to Cavendish, as Joe spotted a hot 2 set by the bar which was
almost empty. We went in, I went to the bar and he opened straight
away. It hooked really fast as I heard them both bust out laughing.

I went in Joe, because Im a classy girl and I know how to treat my

man, I got us ice and lemon with our drinks Joe played along and
introduced me.

So how do you guys know Joe? my standard wing line. They said
they dont, I said he seems to know everyone as he talks to
everyone. They laughed and said they had figured that out.

Moved around to talk to the brunette, who is an air stewardess.

Mentioned Id just been away, talked about what I do for work etc.

The interesting thing was she was laughing and engaged, but when I
walked behind her to move to the bar (so she would have to turn
around so I could get her in mini-isolation) she wouldnt turn around,
even though we were talking. She looked over her shoulder at me,
but then turned back around to face Joe and her friend. So I couldnt

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mini-isolate, so I couldnt run Strawberry Fields or Timebridge. This
was unexpected

More chit-chat, tried to tell my story about the old ladies giving me a
funny tasting drink. It fell flat, which I acknowledged and that made
them laugh. Talked about them being troublemakers, but wasnt sure
where I intended to go with that.

I then started to run out of things to say (which is weird), and the
energy started to drop. As I felt it, I dropped a false time constraint
in there and told Joe we would head off in a minute.

The girls did that girl-code thing and said they were heading to the
bathroom, and then they left. Joe asked me special thing I was
doing, as both girls were engaging with me but he lost his girls
interest at some point so she focused on me. I thought it might have
just been my energy levels were more engaging, but I dont know.

We went home after that.

GOOD POINTS: I only opened the first one, Joe opened the
second, but they Hooked. I felt good about opening, and got into
conversations which I enjoyed. Noticed Id passed the hook point
when the brunette asked what I did for a living. If I look at how I was
a few weeks ago, when I struggled to open, this is positive progress.

FOR NEXT TIME: I could have re-opened that dancer at the bar. I let
the failed open fizzle out, and didnt re-open or try to keep it going.
Talking to the brunette (how I love a pretty 2-set in an almost empty
bar) I could have qualified her to engage her more so what can
you do besides stand around and talk to cute guys?

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 8 MOSTLY CLEAR

WEDNESDAY, 13 APRIL 2016 21:56

FR: Hesitating and Stuff 13/04/16

Game Plan: CJs SxF.

Working on: Opening and hooking, re-opening when it fizzles, until a

conversation is flowing.

Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge.

This ones brief, as theres not much to report.

Met Joe at 9. I had been doing the Circle of Excellence drills a bit,
and some D-R on Ideal Scene opening vs hesitating, so felt good. I
enjoyed last night, so I am starting to look forward to going out.

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Walked in, hardly anyone in Revs. Went to the bar, Joe opened a
seated 2 set I saw but hesitated to open. As I was at the bar I could
see him and they seemed to be engaging. I got our drinks and went
to head over as Joe came back.

He said it was a mixed set (we hadnt seen the guy from our
position). Chatted a bit and he wanted to reopen. I hesitated to go
with him as I thought it would be awkward if we both went over
(excuses, not good). Then as he was about to go, 3 more guys went
to their table, so it would have been a set with 4 guys and 2 girls just
as Joe reopened. I was glad as I have very little experience with
mixed sets - I have to develop that skill.

Waited by the bar chatting to Joe, and I saw a lone girl behind me.
He told me to open, and I hesitated for a few seconds (ostensibly in
case she had heard Joe say it), but I did open. No physical anxiety or
nervousness on the open though.

Is it irresponsible for us to be drinking on a school night?

She laughed wellI am, so no!

Good point. What are you drinking? she pointed to a weird drink
on the menu, which was served in a titanium mug. I said it reminded
me of those hiking water bottles you can get at sports shops. She
laughed.

it kind of fizzled out, so I went back to Joe for a few seconds, but
then reopened.

What time are you at work? She said 9, and I said I was in at 7, for
some reason I had agreed. She laughed again, then turned back to
her menu. I turned back to Joe and noticed that she had moved
away slightly. Oh well. Haaa.

We saw another mixed set seated at the table, so didnt open. Went
outside, people were sitting smoking, but no real viable sets.

We left and walked around the other bars. I opened one girl on the
street to ask for a light, chatted to her for a bit but she said she had
to go (she had had her earphones in and was walking fast). Besides
that, we went to Gatsbys, saw a two set outside but one of them
looked a bit miserable so I didnt open.

And that was it.

Good points: My open actually turned into a chat, albeit brief, and I
did reopen which a few weeks ago I wouldnt have. On the whole,
Im enjoying this more even if nights like tonight dont amount to
much.

Working on: Not sure why I hesitated so much. Its not anxiety, its
just resistance.

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MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 8 MOSTLY CLEAR

THURSDAY, 14 APRIL 2016 22:23

FR: Long set to nowhere 14/04/16

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening, hooking, and re-opening until a conversation

is flowing

Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge

Forgot I was meeting Joe, was tired and felt a bit tense but did
some D-R and Circle of Excellence in the car on the way.

Got there at 9 and we headed in. I went to the bathroom, hesitated

to open a girl on the stairs. Came back down to the bar and Joe was
talking to a lone girl, seemed to be going well. I felt good (even
though I hadnt earlier), and spotted a seated 2-set in the smoking
area and headed straight out.

As soon as I got outside the patio heater lights went out, and I said
what did I just do?

They both giggled and played along, you just broke the lights, well
done! and I pretended to shuffle back inside. They laughed and
told me to pull up a chair.

Trying to vary things up a bit, they told me they were out as they just
finished a Uni assignment, and so I was about to ask what they did,
and instead I changed it to let me guess what youre studying and
turned it into a game.

Basically it turned into a degree chat, Joe came outside to join us,
and we then spent the next hour just chatting about stuff.

I tried vaguely to imply they wanted me to take them to the bar

WSL, but as it was four of us around a table I couldnt go into
Strawberry Fields with my girl. I figured at some point they would
suggest heading back inside so we could isolate that way, but they
were actually sitting outside.

I should have suggested we go inside to get more drinks, but at the

time it didnt occur to me. After an hour, I really felt that it wasnt
going anywhere and knew that Joe normally has a 9:30 cutoff for
weeknights, so I told them we were going to head out somewhere
else. Did hugs etc and said goodbye as they went in to use the
bathroom.

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I had asked them earlier where they were going, they hadnt
decided, so I should have just pulled the trigger and said lets go to
XYZ place but that occurred to me 30 seconds too late.

I felt amazing and extroverted, Joe wanted to go but he suggested I

stick around and Game more. I did want to, but also have a 5:30am
start. Had the girls come back, I would have asked if theyd decided
where to go and said that Joe had just left but I wanted to stay out
they would have invited me along., Im sure of it But instead I left
with Joe and went home.

Frustrating, as it could have been so good, but these are good

problems to be having. Should have suggested we go somewhere,
just so we could be standing and we could have isolated.

GOOD POINTS: I felt good, chatted easily, had loads of fun with two
cute girls

FOR NEXT TIME: Mentally rehearse suggesting a move somewhere

else, so its in my mind. Ive had sets before where I think this could
have helped me escalate. This one could have been much better if I
had.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 8 CLOUDY

SUNDAY, 17 APRIL 2016 08:26

FR: Damn, I hesitated 16/04/16

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening and hooking, re-opening until a conversation

is flowing

Secondary: Timebridge and Strawberry Fields

Arranged to meet Joe at 9:15. Pulled up to the car park around 9

and saw that town was crowded. Pretty girls in dresses everywhere. I
thought damn, Im going to kill it tonight (well, for one hour as Im
at the Org by 9 on Sunday morning so have to be done Gaming by
10pm).

Turns out, I did not kill it.

Ive noticed a weird thingeven though Revs was packed with 20x
the volume of women I get mid-week, I find it mentally harder to
open when a place is busy. Its this internal block that makes me
worry about friends/guys/etc as I think that mid-week girls who are
out will be more open as on Friday/Saturday they could just be
socialising.

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Its ridiculous, but it blocked me. I remember in the Power Opening
audio Jason talked about you dont need permission to talk to
anyone. This is definitely NOT a mindset/viewpoint I have taken on
yet. Not sure how to reinforce it or internalise it

Revs was so packed we were like sardines so I felt a bit

uncomfortable.

Went upstairs to use the bathroom, opened two girls who were
walking to the private party room who had feathers in their hair.

I like your feathers. They both smiled and said thanks and kept
walking. No Intention in there, I should have continued with whats
the occasion? and engaged them that way. Oh well.

Joe turned up. It was so crowded I could barely turn to face him, so I
suggested we go outside to the smoking area. A few girls on a table
we would have had to navigate around tables to get to, and one M-
F 2 set. There were hotties out front when I arrived so we walked
around there. They had all gone. Damn.

We went to Rev de Cuba, which was also packed but no hotties near
the bar. Saw one 4-set, but as we walked up they had just got their
drinks and so they were gone by the time we pushed through the
crowd.

Stood at the bar, and a M-F 2 set walked up behind me. The girl
grabbed a sugar container from the bar and started pouring it in her
drink. I thought it was salt. I opened her with Are you pouring extra
salt in your mojito?

They both laughed and she said it was sugar, which they had
forgotten to put in her drink. I said I didnt know you could do that,
they both laughed. She knocked the container off the side and I
caught it in a split-second (processing improves reaction time? Must
do because I have never been that fast). It was so quick they were
impressed by my reflexes.

Remembered some group theory, so talked to the guy instead of the

girl (he was next to me anyway). He was cool, laughed when I said it
was lucky she didnt complain about the drink as theyd both be
getting kicked out. Brief chat about what drinks to get, but I was on
water anyway. Got mine and she asked if Id like some sugar with
that. We all laughed.

Next bit of group theory, asked them who they were here with. I
tried not to laugh at his response:

Oh, were just here as a pair, you know, a COUPLE. (he didnt yell
it, he was super friendly and a bit nerdyit was just really funny). I
should have asked how they knew each other, as that would have
encouraged her to engage a bit more.

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More chat, Joe opened a 4-set behind us. I finished up with the guy
and girl, turned around to wing but Joe was back at my side. He said
his opener was do you know any good places to go tonight which
doesnt tend to last long.

Walked past a girl wearing a leather jacket - think she smiled at me

as I let her past. Opened with I love the look, its like elegant
badass, but it didnt go any further.

Saw a cutie in a hat sitting at a table with another 3 friends. I froze

when it came to opening as I would have had to navigate over there.

WHY CAN I NOT JUST ASSUME THAT ITS OKAY, AND THAT A
GIRL WOULD LIKE TO BE APPROACHED? Im constantly focusing
on the negativesits too crowded, what if shes with a guy, it wont
look spontaneous if I go over there, etc etc.

Eventually she went to the bar, but was still a bit away and so I didnt
go as Id have to push past some people. Then a guy turned up and
stood next to her. Looked like he spoke to her, so I rationalised it
was her bf and so we left.

Opened a street 2 set asking if they knew where Gatsby was. Which
is dumb as they gave directions, I said thanks, and then we all parted
ways. (I really want to try Todds hey you guys look like trouble
opener. It seems to hook a lot in his infield vids)

Opened a 2-set in Gatsbys asking if they got served down this end
of the bar, which obviously wouldnt have gone anywhere. There was
a dude standing NEAR them, so I mentally put an end to that one. It
would have been so easy to just continue with you having a good
night? etc but I didnt.

It was 10pm so I had to go. Were going out on Sunday evening so

Ill get some extra work in.

GOOD POINTS: Havent done a mixed set in any form for a while,
and remembered the basics of talking to the guy, and asking who
they were there with. I also mentally revised the night before I went
to sleep. Should have written this FR first lol. Its ok. Some nights are
high, some are low. If I look at my recent progress from a couple of
months ago, this is somewhat better. Still wasnt happy with this
though. I think its because Tue, Wed, Thu I felt like I was on the up-
and-up.

WORKING ON: Where do I start?

QUAY STREET, MANCHESTER, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 3 MOSTLY SUNNY

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SATURDAY, 23 APRIL 2016 15:46

FR: 12 Opens (and solo game!)

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening and hooking, re-opening as needed until a

conversation is flowing

Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge

I phrased tonight as an experiment: Can I get at least 12 opens?

with a secondary experiment of Can I get 4 Timebridges? It seems
to take the pressure off, plus I like having that target; so if I dont
meet it, I have to write in my FR that I failed, email Jason that I
failed, and message Joe that I failed.

No thanks.

So tonight was about opens. Met Joe at around 10:15 as I wanted a

long night.

#1 - Got into Revs and opened a lone girl at the bar with a tray of
shots. Remembered this from my old FRs:

Are those all for you? She laughed and said no. Turned away, as
did I, then I re-engaged Just wanted to say if they are, theres a
great support network available to help you. She laughed again,
but she was being served by the bartender, so that put an end to it.

#2 - Saw a cute 2-set outside in the smoking area. I had wanted to

go straight over, but lost my nerve. We sat at the table behind them.
Joe was shivering as he told me he just took a cold shower. I said I
thought that was a morning thing. Opened the girls with whether
they had tried cold showers as a health thing as my friend had and
was freezing.

They both laughed and said they hadnt. The girl nearest me was
American, from Philly. Chatted about how I once got stranded at the
airport there. Brief chat about Chik-Fil-A and how she hates it (lol
wat?). That was pretty much it. We went back inside as Joe was
shaking.

#3 - We stood around introverting. Saw a lone girl at the busy bar. I

stood next to her to get a napkin. Hey I love the look, its like
elegant badass. She laughed/smiled and said thanks and turned
away (I think she was being served). I re-opened as Im working on
that. Is that what you were going for, the elegant badass look? She
didnt hear so leaned in and I said it again. She laughed again, and
then turned away. I didnt know how to re-open again.

#4 - 2 girls heading to the dance floor with weird blue drinks. Hey,

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is that a smoothie? It was interesting that she properly stopped as
her friend had powered ahead, and she said it was a slushy, but kept
looking to her friend as though she wasnt sure whether to stop and
talk or not. I could be wrong, but thats what it felt like Then she
carried on

#5 - Again by the bar, Joe had already opened a 3-set briefly, they
hadnt really moved (felt like proximity but I have no idea) so I
reopened them with Hey, can you do this head nod thing? and
Joe did his Indian head bobble thing. Didnt really go anywhere.

#6 - As we were walking away, some girl playfully hit her friend. I said
That was a bit aggressive smiling really big. She laughed,
apologised for the dramas, and kept walking.

#7 - Did the same head nod opener to a 3-set on the dance floor.
They actually tried to do it, and so we laughed a bit, but I cant think
why it didnt go anywhere. Did they turn away? Cant remember.

The Model - (Cannot believe how badly I screwed this up. Still pains
me) I had told Joe earlier that if he is going to look around, he
should try to spot girls who are also looking around - it means
theyre bored. He had opened a couple of sets with that. As we were
leaving I saw a lone 2-set, with one girl looking around. I told him to
open with Hey, you guys look like trouble, so I wanted to meet
you while smiling big as he needs to work on smiling.

He opened, and it seemed to hook. I went over after a bit to wing,

and recognised the girl on the right as a model I met a few years
back on a night out. Still Facebook friends with her, and I had taken
the tram from work with her one day back in 2011. Instead of just
turning up and talking to her like we had just met, like a complete
dimwit I asked her Are you Emma? and explained how I had met
her 5 years ago and thought we were still Facebook friends.

OMG, shoot me now.

I SHOULD have just treated it as a cold approach. I cannot describe

how hot she is. FFS. FML. Haaa.

So once the initial discomfort from that had passed, I mercifully

bailed and pulled Joe away as I said we were just leaving. I still
messaged her on Facebook today, tried to keep it brief and witty.
Well see

We went across to Rev de Cuba. Wasnt that busy. Saw some

females by the bar.

#8 - Stood by them and saw some abandoned drinks in front of me.

Are those drinks yours? she laughed and said she wished they
were. I spun some b.s. about not wanting to steal her drinks, and she
turned back. They were a group of nurses on a night out, so we

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chatted to them a bit, danced a little. Told one I knew it was a work
night out as she was obviously married (ring) and yet not with one of
the guys in particular. She seemed impressed by my detective work.

#9 - A 2-set rocked up next to us, one had a massive purse. It was

huge. I opened with that thing is massive and they did not hear me.
Joe found this hilarious. I re-opened when the other one went to the
bathroom, asked her if she had a gun in it. Some b.s. about the
purse, think she laughed. I really cant remember.

#10 - This was my longest set. Joe and I walked around for a bit, and
a 2-set came in. Stood at the bar next to us. One went to the
bathroom, and I opened with Those heels are insane! She laughed
and said they were platforms as she cant do heels. I said I couldnt
either, especially when Im wearing a dress as Im so clumsy. She was
loving it.

Chatted about the night, and what she is studying - again I played
this as a game and tried to guess, rather than just asking outright. I
think this is better as its more fun and engaging. Shes studying
chemistry, so I asked if she was a meth kingpin. She played along
and said yes, thats her career aspiration. She asked what I do and I
gave my usual cryptic answer. She asked if I was a spy, told her that
there are some cool elements to the job. Her friend came back and
so I said hi to her, Joe turned up and started talking to the friend.

I then attempted a Timebridge. I think I told her she was cool, but
either way I asked if she liked Salsa, and she said she had been to
Cubanas. I said I go there on Sundays and Id be there on Sunday
evening and she should come along. As far as I recall (should have
written this down that night) she thought and said she didnt think
she had anything on. I think at this point her large group of friends
turned up. I said again that she should come along and she said she
would try. I made a Star Wars joke about there is no try, she said
she hates Star Wars but loves LOTR. Brief chat about that, and she
said she was there to meet those friends so she really should say hi
to them.

So no Timebridge.

We left and went in to Players. Which I hate, but there were some
hotties in there.

#11 - This one was genius, if very short-lived. Gorgeous 2-set at one
end of the bar, with some guys clearly staring. I had decided on my
opener, which I got from Jason, but also saw that she was eating a
biscuit (which was weird). I opened with that first.

Are you eating a biscuit?! She laughed and said yes. I said I
thought so, I was like where the hell did she get that from. Im so
hungry! She loved it again. Then I moved into the genius part.

Have you noticed - all these guys are staring at you, and not doing

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anything. She said No, theyre not! (she seemed to really like
what I said). I was like haaa, no they are. Theyre all doing this
and I stepped back and did a mimic of a guy staring at his drink and
then staring at her awkwardly. She loved it and really laughed.

Now for the life of me I cant think of what happened here. I think
she turned to her friend to say something OR started to get served.
Either way, I didnt reopen. Plus a guy we were meeting texted to say
he was outside, so we left. That guys staring/they should man up
opener worked really well. I must experiment more with it.

We went to SOYO.

#12 - In the smoking area outside, heard a girl I thought was

American (opened with Are you Canadian?, turned out she was
Greek, brief chat with her M and F friend about that. Didnt go
anywhere.

#13 - Smiled at another girl in the queue, asked how her night was
going, she said good and we started chatting. She was with 2 other
girls who were complaining about the cold. She said they were good
friends as they always came with her when she went outside
(dammit). I said I needed better friends as mine dont do that. She
laughed, and we went in together as her friends decided to join the
queue for some reason. Chatted briefly inside, but then she went to
find them. Could have pushed harder on this one.

#14 - Went to the bar after the guys showed up. Two of them are so
good, I love watching them work. Learning a ton about persistence.
Opened a girl with the whole I like the leather jacket look, its like
elegant badass. She responded really well, said it was her friends
(next to her) so she was the badass one. Kind of fizzled out.

We left and went to Crystal (where the hotties are) but the bouncers
wouldnt let me in even though I was dressed better than Steve who
did get in.

Solo Game

So I was pissed off, and went to meet Joe who had sneaked away
but I caught up with him. No sets at Forum. He said he had to go,
but I talked him into coming to Corp. He drove us down and then
said he had an early start. I thought about it and then said fuck it,
lifes an adventure - so I went in solo. I have never done this before,
and this was a huge step.

I didnt feel awkward about doing it, and although I started to

introvert a bit while there, it wasnt too bad. However, this was a bad
night for corp. Not that many hotties, and way more girls than guys.
It really felt like every girl I saw was surrounded by guys.

So I went inside after drifting around the smoking area (which used
to be my favourite place to Game), and went inside. Saw a lone girl
standing there.

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#15 - Have your friends abandoned you? She laughed, and said
no she was just listening to the song that was playing in the
background. Chatted a bit, her name was Amy. I asked where her
friends were, she said they were in the next room and said come
with me, Ill introduce you

This was unexpected

Went into the room and found her friends, I said in her ear
Remember, weve been friends for years. She laughed and said
yes, so many years! Met her friend, talked to her for a few seconds.
She said her mother worked in my building, so I promised to be on
my best behaviour (or something like that). Her other friend came
over and I talked to her while Amy and her first friend left for the
next room. She got beckoned over eventually and so I lost them that
way. Not sure what went wrong there. Didnt feel like I could have
gone with them to dance. Maybe I should have engaged the group
more??

#16 - One more set. Saw a 2-set outside and asked one if they had a
lighter. Chatted to them, one was getting a booty call and her friend
was chastising her. They asked where my friends were and I said they
were inside but I wasnt sure where.

They went to leave. I got in there somewhere that I was fine out here
as I was talking to two sexy girls. The first one gave me a hug, the
second one wouldnt as she said she wasnt a hugger. Told her not to
leave me hanging haaa.

Then it was 2:30 am so I went home.

GOOD POINTS: The volume. My work rate is not high enough so

this was a big improvement. Plus I almost attempted a TB. But the
biggest one was that despite a couple of hesitations, I didnt have an
issue with opening and talking to people. I had had a couple of
drinks BUT was probably sober enough to drive for most of the
night.

WORKING ON: Im improving my re-opening if it fizzles, but Im still

very hesitant over sets that look difficult. So in a sense, Im still not
comfortable with walking over and just engaging people. So Im still
focused on Opening game.

1 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 11 MOSTLY SUNNY

SUNDAY, 1 MAY 2016 08:41

FR: (delayed) - VIPER/TANK 23/04/2016

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Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening and Re-opening when it fizzles out, until in

conversation (need a measurable target for this).

Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge

Went to see Midsummers and so got out late. Not sure where Joe
was, but Hannah was out with her friends and told me to come along
briefly to girls night at The Old House.

Turned up, she was there with 4 or 5 of her female friends. 2 twins,
one other, and two 18 year olds.

Got a couple of drinks, danced somewhat, chatted to some of the

girls.

Got talking to one of the 18 year olds, named Emma. She was
studying, chatted about how she had just met Hannah etc. She was
studying to be a teacher and had just got back from Uganda (or
somewhere).

Told her something like that was very mature, and I was surprised
she was only 18 as she seemed to carry herself as if she was much
older - trying to clarify on Game Dynamics.

Seeing as I didnt write this FR at the time, I cant remember if that

was before or after Strawberry Fields, but I think it was after.

So I cant remember how I transitioned into it, but ran Strawberry

Fields. Good reactions, she laughed. Think she said 10 strawberries.

I remember the Game Dynamics part - I told her how I was non-
judgmental and I think that women get shamed for their sexuality (I
think she had said something like if a girl was keen she was labelled
as a slut and I said there was no such thing etc), and that as long as
youre not hurting anyone people should be allowed to do whatever
they want and Im cool with it.

Also tried my line about how guys are staring but no-one is doing
anything (she laughed). Used the same line on one of the twins later
on.

Left them briefly with a promise to see them at Crystal (we ended up
not going, but Hannah on Monday said she had a blast anyway). So
Joe texted to say he had to go, but I saw the guys at Viper and
teamed up with them to go downstairs so I didnt have to pay to get
in - a girl who used to serve me lunch at Varsity recognised me in the
line and remembered what I used to order. Should have tried to find
her later as that could have been on. Derp.

Watched Rocko and Chris downstairs - really interesting lesson about

how persistent they are. At Tank I saw Chris re-open this girl 5 or 6
times in quick succession as she wouldnt open straight away. Really

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good to watch.

Anyway, at Viper I opened a couple. Opened one girl at the bar with
have your friends abandoned you? Think I got the smile and turn
back around. I re-opened with elegant badass and I think she
engaged because she didnt hear me, and then turned back.

Hector made the ballsy move of going over to a 3 set on the dance
floor, where I had my best interaction. I saw him walk over, not
smiling and low state, and just because he went over to 3 girls
dancing on their own, it opened.

I decided to go over and talked to one blonde hottie who I saw had
a tattoo on her arm. Opened with what does your tattoo say? or
something like that, and she just started blabbering and qualifying
herself - how she makes loads of money and is happy in what she
does, how she is now independent or whatever. It seemed like shed
had a lot to drink, but she just kept talking. I threw in there that I was
the same (happy) but dont make any money. What I should have
done was validated her for the qualifying - thats the sexiest
characteristic a girl can have or something like that.

Something about a secret, then I left her or she turned back to her
friends, and then we went to the smoke area. Ive forgotten a lot of
what happened which renders it less fruitful. Im finishing all my FRs
tonight.

I got opened my two girls (like Indian) asking where was good to go
as they werent from Sheffield. Chat about that, as we were deciding
to go to Tank.

We went back downstairs to the Viper club. Some girl was recording
on her phone so I asked if it was that new Snapchat thingy. She
started to record me and was smiling as I laughed. Her friend then
came over and was like shes my best friend, keep away or
something else. Ill assume it was my behaviour that could have
made that go better. She wasnt that aggressive, just a protective
friend etc.

So we went to Tank. Somehow Rocko got in (he was so wasted

haaa). I turned to some girl at the queue and because I didnt write
this fucking report down I now cant remember who opened who - if
it was me, no idea what I said. All I remember is that we had a
conversation about coats (it snowed later on) and how I would be
too hot down there. Light-hearted chat, nothing to report.

GOOD POINTS: I got to run Strawberry Fields, and did some more
practice re-opening, but this still wasnt enough volume. That dance
floor girl did open well.

WORKING ON: I need to become as persistent as Rocko and Chris.

When Rocko is on, he stays with a girl for ages. I love the way he

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24 QUEEN STREET, MANCHESTER, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 7 RAIN

MONDAY, 2 MAY 2016 18:54

FR: Junior - 29/04/2016.

Game Plan: CJs SxF.

Working on: Opening and re-opening as needed.

Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge

Experiments: 12 opens minimum per night

So I went out as this Junior guy had just joined the group, and said
hed be out around 9:30 - so I walked up to town to meet him. Did
some exercises on the way up. Got there to a text from Joe saying
hed be out around 10:30, and Junior was just at a restaurant paying
and would walk up soon. So I was on my own for quite a while.

#1 - Went to the bar and stood next to one girl while I pretended to
look at the menu. Same gig as always, which I need to change up in
line with my new epiphany about changing my behaviour will change
my results.

She ordered a water so I asked are you on the water too? she
smiled and said shed been drinking all day. I said good for you and
that fizzled out.

#2 - Think I got an actual drink as I was starting to introvert being on

my own. Some girl was standing behind me with her friends on the
far right side of the bar. I turned around you can slot in, Im not
really looking. She was really friendly and smiled, said she wasnt
sure what to have as she looked my menu. She said she was in the
same boat and she asked me what my usual drink was, and told me
hers was a gin and tonic. I said I wasnt sure, and she told me I had
to have a cocktail in Revs. She said she was getting a g&t, and I
should just point and pick one. She did it for me, and I said no to the
one she picked.

I should have run a story about how I cant do cocktails since New
York or the old lady routine etc.

One or two of her friends came over a couple of times but she
answered them and turned back to me. One friend came over and I
made sure to introduce myselfand ask why she was picking ice out
of her drink and dropping it on the bar. I asked why she didnt just
ask for it without ice, and she said she didnt want to come across as

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an arsehole. Eventually my girl got her drink, told me to have a good
night, and walked away.

#3 - did the same slot in routine to a girl behind me. She was with a
guy I think. She said thanks and slotted in. That was it, no re-open.

#4 - I went upstairs as I was really introverting by this time. Walked

behind some girl and she apologised for walking really slowly. I said
it was alright, take your time. That was it.

By this time I had been outside to sit and have a long cigarette by
myself, then get a second drink, and I started to snap myself out of
the introversion, more so when Joe said he was on his way and
Junior said he was due to come up now.

He turned up, I couldnt open the girls walking by, so we just had a
chat about Game. I feel so much more comfortable with Joe, its
amazing.

#5 - I saw a lone girl behind Junior, and so walked over and opened
her with have you lost your friends? I dont remember what
happened next - she may have just pointed to them. That was it.

Joe turned up and we walked through the packed bar. Joe opened
briefly once or twice.

Walked up to the bar near the dance floor, stood next to a girl and
looked at her drink. I asked her is that a daiquiri? she turned around
and Id already opened her. Oops. Hehe.

I said its you again! I swear Im not following you. She either smiled
or laughed, I think smiled. I asked again if it was a daiquiri, she told
me what the drink was, and I said ugh and made a face. Not a
good move. I tried to hold it by asking if it was good. She said it was
sweet as she was walking away, and that was that.

#7 - I turned around to the girl on my right. She had long black nails,
so I opened with that I like your nails. she smiled and ran her nails
like scuttling across the bar. I told her I had a friend who used to
sharpen hers so they were pointy. She laughed. She then turned to
the guy she was with who was behind her, so of course I turned back
to my menu and then to the guys.

#8 - Around this time, I saw a sexy blonde shot seller girl who had
opened me and Junior asking if we wanted shots on the dance floor.
I had told her I would buy some later and she had said I wouldnt.
When I found her a couple of minutes later to ask how much they
were, she said youre a good guy or something like that. I think (or
hope) I said I wouldnt go that far

So later on I went back to find her, had her pick a shot for me. Some
black guy had been talking to her on the dance floor, so I ran with
that. I cant remember how she told me it was her first night, but
either way I asked her how often she gets hit on doing this job. She

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said she doesnt. I said that guy was hitting on you on the dance
floor. She said he wasnt and I said he was, just not very well!.

Thats when we talked about shots, and I told her I cant say no to
her for some reason. I got the shot and said Ill leave you in peace
now. She said Nooo! in the way like Id misinterpreted her (if that
makes sense). I said I was too shy to talk to girls, she said youre not
shy! and I said yeah Im just bullshitting laughed and walked away
as she laughed.

We went to Rev de Cuba

Walked in, and Joe went straight over to a hot 3 set that blew wide
open. I stood back and told Junior to help him, while I looked to see
if I could get to the bar (so I didnt just stand there in front of Joes
set). I couldnt, so I went back in to say hi as though I was walking
past. Joe introduced me and I said to the girl on my left how did
you guys get to the bar?

She then took my hand and power led/dragged me through the

crowd to the bar. this was unexpected

She told me to get a drink on her as she had a voucher thing for a
free drink. As we were waiting, I asked her what she was drinking - it
was a strawberry daiquiri. I asked her why the sexy girls always drink
those. I think she shrugged. She told me theyd only been there a
few hours, but they had clearly had a lot to drink. She had her face
pressed up close to mine, like cheek to cheek, as we spoke. Im fairly
sure I could have just kissed her, but I guess I was too hesitant or
whatever.

What are you? Nurses etc.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 14 MOSTLY SUNNY

WEDNESDAY, 4 MAY 2016 22:24

FR: Good Mood 04/05/2016

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening and Re-opening when it fizzles out, until in

conversation (need a measurable target for this).

Secondary: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge

Went to meet Joe at 9:15, as the weather was nice and I felt good.
Had a massive boost today from deciding to go for HEO posts too.
Why not?

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So I got to the bar, pretty empty, but I sidled up next to a short
blonde girl at the bar. She was clearly friendly and smiley, talking to
the barman about what to get from the menu. At one point I jumped
in, dont get that and pointed to a drink. Told her I had like 10 of
those in one night and woke up 18 hours later. At one point she said
thats like 75, are you sure? I said I didnt pay for them. She
laughed.

So I was extroverted, chatty, made her laugh.

Asked her who she was here with, she pointed to her friend the
texting friend I told her I call it, the one friend who is always on the
phone when left alone. She said she fakes a phone call. I said Im just
likeand did a big grin and head nod.

Asked why they were out, is she a problem drinker too. She said
excuse me?! both laughing but also kind of shocked. This was
unexpected

She said her friend had just finished her first year of Uni and she was
on a gap year. The friend came over at one point but left to go to
the bathroom. Didnt try to pull her away, but she was ordering
drinks. I mentioned how I had gone to the US and Canada as
everyone else had gone east. She said she had been all over
including India, I mentioned Joe was from there. She mentioned
Thailand, so as Joe turned up (tried to introduce them but
remembered I hadnt gone for the name, which she found funny) I
told the story of Nick getting arrested on the train.

Her drinks came and I said can you carry those? she said no so I
said Ill give you a hand and carried them over to the table. She
introduced me to the friend, I told her she was the texting friend,
and then I decided to bid them adieu as opposed to sticking it out. I
dont know why - some worry about bothering them? Not sure.

A couple more opens, I took a step back deliberately and then asked
the girl behind me if I had stepped on her foot. She laughed and
said no, and I said I was like oh, not againmy heels and she
laughed. A couple of minutes later she (I think it was the same girl)
opened me asking if she could steal the menu. I told her it was fine
as I cant read.

Chat to Joe, re-open them asking how old they thought Joe was at
most. One girl guessed his age, I said I was impressed. That was it.
Joe did a couple of opens.

Went to Forum. I opened a couple of girls (I had hesitated at first

and so had Joe) asking if they had seen a big Russian dude in there,
as we were supposed to me meeting Germain. Just that opener and
a no from them.

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Then Joe opened a girl to my right, and told her I work out. She
didnt get it, so I explained what I had just told him about my MMA
instructor saying I looked bench. She had a nose ring so I just
managed to get through the routine with her talking over me the
whole time. She then mentioned she did some martial arts, so talked
about that for a bit.

She mentioned something about how people ask to touch her nose
ring (as I was doing the routine) and how drunk people think they
can touch her body or some b.s. She was very very drunk. Then her
guy friend turned up so she walked away, and that was pretty much
it.

GOOD POINTS: I felt in a good, chatty mood, but cannot work out
why or what was different. Got through nose ring, and told a good
story. Plus I engaged the friend and took the lead with walking her to
the table.

WORKING ON: If I do not start executing my fucking game plan Im

going to be really annoyed. My next call with Jason is at the end of
this month so I have about 3 weeks to get it together, otherwise I
waste it. Why can I not get through it like I could at 23?

Whatever. Slow progress.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 12 MOSTLY CLEAR

SUNDAY, 8 MAY 2016 13:55

FR: Intention (07/05/2016)

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Running through full Game Plan - Intention.

Secondary: Reducing remaining Approach Reluctance; Re-opening

when a set fizzles.

Ive spent the last couple of days really hammering Desire-Repulsion

on the actions of pickup and their negative alternatives (amazing
once Ive worked through the list I notice a release of energy or a
generalisation of positive emotion, its hard to describe); the Ideal
and negative scenes from Power Opening;

And then quite a bit of deliberate mental rehearsal (this time of

opening and it going well, AND running through my game plan) and
Imagination - based on Nevilles method, so part of my mental
rehearsal is to Imagine having pulled a girl home and feeling strong
gratitude or excitement about it while in that meditative state.

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So having done a bit of that, I felt good to gobut I think I put way
too much pressure on myself for last night. Based on how some of
my sets went, though, I definitely noticed a shift upwards - Im going
to absolutely hammer all these mental drills until they get wired into
me.

So the point is I spent 30 minutes before going out doing that - 10

minutes of Imagining having achieved my Ideal Scene of pulling, and
20 minutes of rehearsing opening and running my game plan
(having action scenes for each one which was also one of the things
to run D-R on in the Power Opening webinar; I realised Ive tried to
be too systematic about theseIll just do any and all at random
until this issue is solved!)

Met Joe at about 10:15, and he suggested we play the Opening

Game to warmup. For some reason I dont like the idea of warming
up or anything that smacks of addressing a symptom rather than
being a cure. Anyway, the game is that you have to open 10 girls
with no longer than 30 seconds between each girl or your wing gets
to punch you in the arm.

So we had fun taking a turn each and having to scamper around as

the other counted down the seconds. It also forced me to re-open a
couple of times as that counts as another open. More on reopening
later. I had 5 significant interactions tonight:

#1 - My first set went thusly:

Stood next to a blonde girl at the bar. She was on my right, and her
brunette friend was on her right. I asked if they had been served yet.
She said not yet. I asked if theyd been waiting long and she said
about 5 minutes. I laughed and smiled and was like 5 minutes?!
You need to be more assertive! Check it out, I bet I can get served in
like 30 seconds.

She laughed and so I moved right next to her, telling her to watch
and wait etc. Caught the bartenders eye after 10 seconds and
pointed to her to get served.

Triumphant, I was like told you so! she laughed.

I think it was this set that I said something like wow you guys are
super friendly, I love it! which is a line I got from a Todd infield
video. It was in my head as I have very little confidence when it
comes to dealing with other people in set, so I figured this could be
a good pre-frame.

Asked if it was just the two of them or who they were here with - I
did this at least 4 times tonight, and as thats a way to find out what
her logistics are like or if shes with a guy, I count this as evidence of
my Intention being somewhat stronger.

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I spoke to the friend and asked if they were having a good night,
teased them that they had sneaked to the bar to avoid paying for
their other friends drinks or something like that. Eventually they got
their drinks and were like have a good night and after saying
goodbye I then went on to finish up my remaining challenge.

*Ive now begun to notice this can be a pattern when talking at the
bar - even if theyre having fun, they do have to get back to their
friends once theyve bought the drinks. I dont know how to make
them staymaybe walk with them, but I wouldnt know how to go
about that that a) they wouldnt mind, and b) how to deal with the
friends as wed just met.

Did my reopens, had an absolutely hilarious time when I opened a 2-

set who I saw pretty quickly had wedding rings on. Did an opener
about whether this place is always this packed, and so I ended up on
the fly telling her I was just visiting from London to see Joe. The
difficult blonde then started interrogating us - seriously, like the Stazi
- about details of our story of how we met; like she could tell it was
obviously bullshit and kept fact-checking and cross-examining us
about each detail.

The old community would have called that a shit test. Jason calls
that clarifications, but there was no game to clarify so dont think any
part of that is really worth much. Anyway

We finally extracted from the clutches of the SS, and then decided to
leave as wed opened 20 sets between us and it isnt a huge venue,
so wed spoken to or been seen by everyone. Joe had opened a 3-
set wide open, which was really impressive. Asked him what hed
opened with and he said you guys look adorable and they had said
you too!

I need to man up with my opens as I dont know why I wouldnt do

that, yet he seems to open really well with it.

Went to Rev de Cuba, but there was a queue (wtf?), and so I turned
to the girl behind me to ask if she knew why, but she didnt even
hear me. Joe loved it. Then we went to Players, which I hate because
its so loud. Opened two girls at the bar, but as I just asked if they
were queuing it didnt go anywhere. I then spent a minute ignoring
some drunk dude who thought I needed to know that his friend was
a gay boy who he laughed at.

Started to introvert and get nervous, so I cut it off by donning a wide

grin and head bobbing to the music with Joe.

I then opened some woman who was part of a bachelorette party

with my needs-work have you noticed how all these guys are staring
at your group but not doing anything about it? opener. She then

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said my boobs?! and I laughed and clarified what Id said, and then
did the mock creepy staring guy pose. She said well, were all
taken anyway.

I laughed and said I dont think they can tell from over there! but
regardless I noticed that that was a clarification statement.

Did one more open. Went up to near the end bar and an all female
group were just walking away. I said to the last one I like your dress
as she walked past. Figured she didnt hear me, but as she walked
away she turned back around and smiled, so she had. Based on that
smile, If Id been on the ball I think I could have reopened and talked
to her.

Opened one girl in Soyo at the bar with I like the flower look as she
had a massive flower in her hair. She said thanks!and then turned
around. Think I made the bar girls night; I asked for just a water
and gave her a cheesy grin and thumbs up, so she laughed. Solid
9.5, smoking hot. She gave me my drink and I said you have a really
nice smileplus remember Im sober, so Im not just saying that.
She laughed, and I think she liked the compliment.

We went down the road and I used one of Jeffys openers on a lone
girl walking up the street as I seem to be the only guy who hates
street sets.

You appear very fashionable this evening. she turned around and
said thanks!so do you. Carried on walking, and Joe said I should
have kept talking to her. I kind of had the same feeling.

Got into Bungalows and I sidled up to a girl at the bar. Think one
two set blew me out when I asked if they were queuing, but
whatever.

#2 - I noticed this girl was chewing gum, so I opened with are you
drinking and chewing gum? Thats risky, youre brave! or something
like that. She laughed and said it was a mistake, so I said she clearly
wasnt the kind of girl that would forget and then drink and swallow
the gum, like I would. She laughed.

I used the line again you appear very fashionable this evening and
she kind of dubiously said what, in my jeans? I said yes, Im
wearing jeans she beat me to my joke when she said shed be
worried if I was in a dress, and I said with my pasty white legs, no
way. We then talked about how glorious the weather has been this
weekend and how wed both caught the sun, compared tans etc

Told her that she seems cool. Pressure-stacking, but didnt feel ready
to drive towards Strawberry Fields.

I then asked who she was with, and she motioned to the mixed
group next to her but only mentioned her female friend who was

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visiting from London. I wanted to be sure if she was with a guy, so I
asked are you not with those guys? - turned out they were just
queueing behind her friends, and I had falsely assumed they were all
together - interesting lesson in assumptions.

At some point that fizzled out, so I went to walk away but then saw
that her friend was standing nearby, so I tapped her on the shoulder
to get her attention.

I did this a few times tonight, and it seems to be somewhat of a

breakthrough in how I feel about imposing on people. I saw Rocko
and Chris open girls this way the other week, and it was really cool
to watch how they open as they are both amazing in set.

I asked her Are you the Southerner? She looked a bit taken aback,
so I explained I had just been talking to her friend. She said she
moved to London a few years ago, I explained I grew up around
there etc etc. Talked about why she moved, how much cheaper it is
etc - told a funny story about how unnerved my sister gets by how
cheap drinks are up here etc.

Asked her why she moved, she said as she works at a hospital. I said
oh, so youre a doctor/nurse/whatever? She explained she did
some biomedical thing so basically Im a nerd.

I said something like I wouldnt have pegged you as a nerd, she

said maybe thats a good thing or similar. I had the idea to go for
something like saying shes too hot to be a nerd, or adapting Jeffys
line of asking if she was always hot or was a nerd who became
hot.but I didnt do either of those as I wasnt quite sure.

She said it was nice meeting me and she had to go to her friends. I
busted her Are you seriously abandoning me?! she laughed and
said her friends were over there, I told her Id let her off.

Had one or two no-go opens, made some girls laugh by instinctively
holding the door open for them as they walked pastbut it was the
mens room. Then we left.

NOTE: *Once or twice during those sets, but I cant remember

where, I teased the girl by doing something like going wow. and
laughing and turning slightly away based on something she said.
Cant remember the moments, but teasing is an important part of
Game and it was definitely something I havent been doing, even
though those moments were small.

#3 - Went to Gatsby. First open, I sidled up to the bar to get a drink.

Some cute girl was next to me (I seem to find spaces next to girls at
the bar quite often; not complaining).

Told her she looked very unimpressed with her drink order, as she
was watching the bartender make it with a frown. She laughed and

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said she was watching to see how it was made. I mentioned I did the
same thing earlier that day at a juice bar. Talked about juicing and
how I got a juicer cheaper than her. I think she said something that
made me bust her and go wow, but cant think what.

I mentioned I wasnt drinking, it came up that I act occasionally, she

asked about where I did that and that she wanted to get into some
acting stuff. I told her she should come along, she asked if anyone
could join. I very weakly seeded getting her details by ninja-like
dropping in that I could let her know when stuff is coming up, but
didnt - Im recognising missed opportunities which I guess is a
positive.

Asked her what she did as she mentioned her degree isnt creative
or something, she does wealth management. I told her where I work
and she asked if I knew her sister, which I didnt. Asked who she was
here with, she said it was her friends 29th. Told her she seemed cool
at some point. She got her drinks and said she had to go but it was
nice meeting me. I didnt know what to do to keep her around, so I
told her dont be shy, if you see me around say hi or something and
then she went. Fuck, could have pushed that further.

#4 - Joe wanted to go to a new club, so we popped into Forum on

the way. I lost Joe in the crowd, but spied a lone girl at the end of
the bar, who had a long tattoo on her arm of major religion symbols.
Opened her with I like your tattoo she said thanks, I said I know
what half of the symbols represent. She had me guess, and then
talked me through the others. Shes from Pakistan, I asked her who
she was here with (again, a good step), she was on a work night out.
Asked her what she did, shes a social worker. Told her what I do, and
then I made sure I got the name: Im Will by the way. Did this a few
times tonight. Her name is Haj.

Brief chat, Joe texted me to ask where I was. interestingly, I pulled

my phone out to text him, and she kept talking even though I was
staring at my phonethat definitely feels like it wouldnt have
happened a few weeks ago He came over and they chatted as he is
from India. She went to head back to her friendsagain as she had
got her drinks.

I need a strategy for this.

Then we went to Code. Full of young, attractive girls. Yes please.

However its a deafeningly loud strobe-light dance club. No thank
you.

I headed for the smoking area. Joe told me to open a 2-set by the
stairs. I hesitated and got really nervous. Went open but had already
internally blown it. Asked if they were having a good night, they

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smiled and nodded and then kind of shuffled away, to Joes
unmitigated and unending delight.

Some girls came out in superhero costumes. Joe went over to the
group (a 6-set?) and started talking. I caught the eyes of one who
was dressed as poison Ivy. I said youre poison Ivy She said yes!. I
asked how they chose who the leader of the pack was as they are all
dressed as superheroes. I realised I was staring at her boobs, which I
of course mentioned. She laughed and said thanks for pointing it out
as theyre not supposed to be on display and adjusted her top.

Chatted for a bit, she put some lipstick on while we were talking. I
was going to use that to reference her lips, but her friend came over.
Talking to the whole group, another hottie was dressed as
Deadpool. Talked about that, but wasnt sure how to proceed with
any one or get some kind of isolation as everyone was buzzing
around.

At one point the girl I was talking to left, so I looked at Supergirl and
said Supergirl, dont leave me!

Went back inside. Joe wanted to sit down, so I spied a gap between
some girls on a bench/sofa type thing and so more or less pushed
him on to it.

#5 - Sat down next to one girl, she had to shuffle over. I told her
thanks as I didnt want to sit on her. She laughed. She was hot. I
think I asked if she was having a good night. It was really loud so we
had to keep leaning in to each others ears to hear. Her name is
Hannah, they were out celebrating her 21st. Shook her hand and we
did the cheek kiss introduction. She was a little tipsy, which is why
she was sitting down, but she wasnt wasted or anything. Could I
have kissed her at some point? Probably, but was too aware of her
two friends. I only thought of an isolation strategy towards the end.

Told her she was a hot 20-year old. Told her I was surprised as she
seems to carry herself as if shes older and more confident. She said
a lot of people say that. She said she was from Lincoln, told her I
had an ex who was from there (lie, I had one Tinder date, but
whatever) and that girl was crazy but in a good way.

Felt a good vibe, so made up some b.s. about how maybe it was a
Lincoln thing. Asked her how spontaneous she was, she said 9. I
acted duly impressed. Asked her how good a kisser she was, she
thought and said she didnt know. Now like a dumbass I brushed
over it and said spontaneous and a good kisser, that must be a
Lincoln thing. *What I should have said youll have to show me and
Ill tell you or something like that, to at least get the idea in there.

Its great that I thought this up two hours afterwards, and not at the
time. Revision it is haaa.

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Told her she seems cool. Asked if she had ever taken the Strawberry
Fields test (did it in one set last week, but it wasnt a cold approach).

150 strawberries!!! She laughed. Think she said something like thats
me! and shrugged, but it was really loud.

During this whole set, they kept talking between them, so I just sat
there and periodically re-engaged. Remembered Jason talking
about how he was like a boa constrictor, and I decided to just sit
there even if I looked awkward. Made sure I asked the friends if they
were having fun. One of them asked I wanted to take a picture with
Hannah. This was unexpected

At one point it really felt blown and I tried to re-engage but it didnt
work so I a) didnt do the lips line, which would have been weird in
the loud club as its hard to talk spontaneously, and b) I couldnt get
isolation by taking her to the bar to get a drink, which I would have
tried to do by asking the friends if I could borrow her for two
minutes.

Joe wanted to call it a night, so I cheek-kissed them all goodbye.

Joe made us go around and get 10 high fives before we could go.

The good thing is I wanted to continue, but he wanted to go and I

had a headache. Could have duked it out, but not on my own.

GOOD POINTS: I expected too much, but all this rehearsal and
visualisation etc seemed to have made a difference in how well my
sets went. Plus I got further into some parts of my game plan. The
juice girl at Gatsby I should have been able to Timebridge, but blew
the opportunity.

WORKING ON: Every day is Desire-Repulsion on those actions and

Mental Rehearsal on my full game plan AND Imagining my Ideal
Scene, until this whole thing forces a change inside me. I feel like
this is good progress.

1 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM

SATURDAY, 14 MAY 2016 03:18

FR: So Much Fun!!!

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Having fun

Secondary: Strawberry Fields, Timebridge

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So having bought TenGame, I went out tonight with the Intention of
just having fun; no pressure, no monitoring of number of opens etc. I
just wanted to see if I could have fun with everything, even
rejections.

And not only did I run some pretty major experiments - in that I tried
NEW things I have never done before and never thought I would
(physically opening on a dance floor anyone?), I think this was
actually a reality-shifting night for methings worked that I didnt
think would, and I had an absolute blast.

By things I mean tapping a girl on the shoulder and opening with

who are you? and it hooking really well; or getting a girls attention,
even just with eye contact, and holding my hand outand they
came over; or combining the two, tapping a girl as she was walking
away and having her come back;

Ive always been very low on the physical side of things, as my game
is primarily about sexual framing and I will stick to that as it has
always been directly responsible for the results Ive got.

However, I went out tonight deciding to throw a lot of those

principles out for 3 reasons:

1.Part of being good is being able to do things to have the reference

points.

2.What Ive been doing hasnt yet got me to the level I want to be
at.

3.This is all about experiments - so why not run some totally different
experiments and see?

So I ran with this and got results; its all reference points, and I will
gradually bring it down to a more chill level. But this was all new to
me.

So I took Juliens teachings and what I had learned from the infield
and applied it tonight. What was different?

I had loads of fun.

Girls opened really well and hooked.

I got a number (screwed up the timebridge).

Made girls really laugh by telling them I loved them.

Got opened by a girl dancing with me, and as soon as I learned who
her friends were I engaged with them.

Spun the same girl and got a kiss (not a full makeout, but lately Ive
been thrilled to even have a decent chat).

Ran Strawberry Fields, which I could have done on quite a few sets.

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Tried mostly non-verbal openers and getting a little physical (hugs
when saying I loved them)

Had long sets and engaged guys as well; wasnt intimidated by

them.

I was persistent. Didnt end the night on a high or a good

interaction.

For pretty much the first time, I found opening to be exhilarating. No

anxiety (though I did have hesitation creep up a few times and stop
me).

I had fun (only had one real rejection which gave me a bit of a
mood dip*, but I just accepted it and carried on)

*I say mood dip as I hate the concept of State. I think its the most
damaging concept the community has come up with, as its just a
chasing the dragon thing - always chasing something you cant get
by chasing. I just think of it as mood - sometimes I feel better than
other times. Some nights Im in a better mood than other nights.
Thats it. Fuck State. You feel good or you dont. Irrelevant.

But tonight, I focused on my mood and having fun.

So we got to the club, and some girl behind me on the stairs asked
(around) if this was the queue to pay; I told her shed best not be
pushing ahead of me. She had a trophy as she won a netball thing.
Some bullshit about how lucky she was to be hanging out with cute
boys.

Asked who she was here with, she said her friends were at Rev de
Cuba, and as they were 24 and shes 18 she felt like coming to Corp.
Didnt quite get it.

Made sure I introduced her to Joe and had him involved. Told her
one of our friends didnt feel like the 6 entry was worth it. She
didnt either and wondered if she could get her for free. I told her to
stick with me, and she suggested using her trophy.

Didnt work obviously. I told her I was sorry, I usually just rely on my
looks to get in.

She then said it was nice to meet me as we got into the club. I asked
Are you seriously abandoning me for your friends? Its me or them.
She laughed and left. I was having fun and felt good, so whatever.

Heres where things got different.

Rather than heading to the smoking area, we headed to the dance

floor area. A girl walked past me, and I tapped her on the shoulder.
She turned around as she was now a few feet away, and I held my
hand out, smiling. She came back over and I opened her. I think it
was who are you? she said her name and I pulled her into me so I

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could talk as it was LOUD. Hand on the lower back, holding her
hand like we were in a tango position(?).

Think I asked her if she was having a good night, but cant
remember. The point is that as she walked away I just amused
myself, told her I loved her as she was walking away. Having fun for
once. Joe got a brief video of the second part of the interaction.

There was another girl on her own nearby. I just opened with have
you lost your friends? She said they were over there somewhere,
think I then asked who are you? and she told me her name. Then I
turned around and left and went back to Joe, but I have no idea
why. He also got a brief video of this. Dark flashes in a loud club, so
you can barely see any detailsbut I did keep leaning in to talk
rather than staying close.

We went upstairs. Did the same thing, a girl walked past and I
tapped and held my hand out - she turned back and mouthed do I
know you? as her friend pulled her away, but she definitely was
hesitating about whether to come over. It was just full intention.

Same thing at the bar - who are you? She told me her name.
Asked if she was having a good night etc.

Had my only real rejection of the night, same who are you opener -
not someone youll meet. Ouch. Haaa. Had a good laugh with
Joe.

Then some girl came over and started dancing with me completely
at random. Asked her who she was, her name was Laz. She was
wearing a weird hat so I pulled her close, told her I loved her and
spun her. Told her I loved her look, that it was elegant badass (I
think that was this set) Told her I liked the hat, and that it makes a
cute girl even sexier. She laughed. Asked Who are you here with?

She said it was her housemate Tom, and pointed him out.
Immediately I called him over, and shook his hand, as though Laz
and I were old friends. Told him we go back years and just
exaggerated about our life-changing friendship as she laughed.

There was another friend (female) standing there they pointed out. I
said Hello other friend and pulled her in for a handshake.
Introduced Joe. Think we danced some more. I told Laz I was going
to spin her and then spun her.

They walked away and danced nearby. As I thought theyd leave, I

hesitated (did happen a few times tonight) and then reopened. Told
her you cant abandon me for friends. Its me or them. She told me
to have a nice night (I think) as they were walking away, she gave me
a quick kiss as she left.

Outside to the smoking area.

More of the same, held my hand out for some girls and opened

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them. One lone girl I opened with have you lost your friends?
Some more taps to open and/or just hey, who are you? Think I did
one with I wanted to meet you as a follow-up as it didnt open.

Saw a girl in a mixed 2F/1M set. Tapped her and asked if she was
wearing a hairband or like animal ears as I couldnt see. She was
cute, her names Emily. Asked who she was here with and it was just
the friend there, they didnt know the guy.

Turns out shes on the same masters degree I did, so we talked

about the tutors we both know. For some reason she kept asking if I
was being serious that that was my degree, I had to reassure her
how else would I know their names.

Told her we should hang out. Totally screwed up the Timebridge and
suggested going for a Starbucks or something over the next week.
Either way she was like You could take my number. I handed her
my phone and she put her number in. Then she reached into her
bag so that I could call her.

Her friend was talking to Joe, who I had introduced, but indicated
they were going in to get a drink. I said wait, just 2 minutes! to the
friend, while smiling. Her friend got really shocked/reassuring me
that she didnt mean she was going to pull her away right away. This
was unexpected

Told her to ask Joe about his Indian goat story, to buy me some
time. They went to say goodbye, gave her a hug and cheek kiss,
think I reiterated that we were going to hang out and she said I
should text her.

I think at one point I said its me or her and she laughed and was
like what?!

Later on towards the end of the night, she was being hit on my some
good looking dudes; I waved her over and turned and pulled her
away from the guys a few feet. They went to dance a couple of
minutes after. The guys found it funny, told me Id cock blocked - not
malicious, all laughs and fist bumps, but I could tell one of them in
particular was hell bent on getting her and I just lost the motivation
to duke it out. I had her number anyway.

What did I do wrong with the dancing?? Maybe I just wasnt as

engaging as the guys and thats why they left, but I dont know.

Anyway, back to the smoking area. Had another lone girl, asked if
shed lost her friends? Brief chat, had fun with Joe and included her
(noticing the perspective difference). Think I told her she was sexy, or
was glad I met her as she was sexy or something. She came back out
later as she had lost her purse. Didnt go anywhere that time.

Opened a lone girl named Helen, she needed some time outside.
Her friends were texting her and I told her to say she was talking to
some cute boys. She said Id never do that, and I told her that she

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had just broken both our hearts. Joe ended up talking to her, so I
just turned around and opened the two set behind me, and
introduced them to Joe and this girl.

This happened a few times tonight. Id open one group and then
kind of merge them as it looked like I was with the other groups. I
didnt think, it just happened. Pretty much everything I did tonight
was taken from Juliens infield Ive been watching, apart from the
sexual framing stuff. This was just about my general vibe and how I
was coming across.

Joe opened one 4-set. One girl didnt look impressed, so I asked her
what he said, and then asked if she was having a good night.

Joe wanted to head out, and I said OK but he needed to open two
seated girls nearby.

Joe opened, I told one in a dress her look was elegant badass.
Held my hand out but she wouldnt stand up and I had to lean right
down a couple of times as she didnt hear me.

Did my extra bit with the elegant badass routine, where I say its like
yeah Im sexy, but I can still kick your ass. She laughed and said
maybe shed have to kick my ass; I told her not to make promises
she wont keep, she said who says I wont keep it.

I said I believed she would punch me, and she said I am good with
my hands Told her I loved her and we should get married. She
laughed and told me to get down on one knee. She

Then some guys came in. Didnt phase me, just shook their hands,
had a laugh, asked how they all knew each other. Joes girl worked
with one dudes mother, and the other guy just knew him. Sweet. My
girl had her phone out, I told her I hoped she wasnt calling her
boyfriend; she said she was and I said ok fine just dont tell him
about me. She laughed.

Engaged that Helen girl behind me, then as it looked like they were
leaving I held my hand out for my girl to come over. Talked about
her heels and how tall she is. Showed me photos of her kids, I told
her I have a niece or nephew on the way. They left.

As Joe talked to the Helen girl, two girls stood nearby. I opened
them with are you having a good night? They said they were so I
said they seemed really smiley and happy. Think I also framed them
as cool and friendly. Did the elegant badass thing to the hotter one.
Talked to the other one about smoking, told her I stopped
completely a few weeks ago, and how its expensive and that even
though you and I can rely on looks to get free cigarettes, its still
pricey.

Asked them what they do besides talk to cute boys? This was
interesting

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The hotter one pointed to her friend and said she has a boyfriend.
I think I said Im still cute though. Then her friend said the hotter
girl was single, and she immediately said I have a boyfriend too.

I just ignored it and carried on talking. Then their other friends came
out, one guy and one girl. Joe by this stage was just about holding
his own with the Helen girl and a dude who had come in, but he was
blown out so I pulled him over to intro him to the group.

Asked how they knew the guy and girl, he was the bf of the less hot
one. And so Joe spoke to them, and I stood next to their smoking
hot but unhappy looking friend Jess. Took me a while to crack
through; turns out she had just lost voice. Thats why she looked
unhappy. I told her I loved her and gave her a hug.

She could speak, but barely. Told her to just communicate in head
nods. Asked where she lived, told her I was training there next week.
She said she worked in HR.

Oh, so youre the analytical type. Reminds me of a personality

test. I then had the frame of mind to pull her away from the group
with a come here and led her a couple of feet away.

Strawberry Fields.

As many as I can until Im full She loved the answers and held her
arms out and said you just summed my life up.

Asked her if the high sex drive meant she was a good kisser? (I know
this was dumb haaa).

She laughed and pointed to her friend and said Im sure she will
put you to the test. Not sure what I said here, something like it has
to be you, or something equally dumb but light-hearted.

Told her we should hang out and she nodded, but something
stopped me doing the TB. It was weird.

The friends gathered around and asked what they were doing, and
whether they were going for food. Jess said she really wanted
McDonalds. We obviously should have just gone with the group at
this point, she did seem to like me and the group were all cool.

Told her I loved her as she was walking away. She gave me a hug,
and I told her that wasnt a proper kiss and kissed near her neck or
something. She laughed and said One day you will find a girl who
will eat all the strawberries

I said Well I kind of hoped it would be you She laughed and

waved goodbye. I told her not to leave me, to amuse myself and
Joe.

We agreed to call it a night.

Briefly checked out another room. A tall girl at the bar stepped on
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Tried to open a seated girl, but knew from the start it wouldnt work.
I didnt feel as at ease or whatever, and she said she was there
because she need to call someone. So I left. Called it a night at 2:37
am.

GOOD POINTS: Where do I start? This was something else. The

exhilaration and total lack of fear I felt, the simplicity of opening, the
no fear of mixed sets, the merging sets.

WORKING ON: Could have done more Strawberry Fields, and I

screwed up that Timebridge.

1 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 5 MOSTLY CLEAR

SUNDAY, 22 MAY 2016 02:58

FR: Present Moment (21/05/16)

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Strawberry Fields and Timebridge, actually having fun

and drawing girls in.

Revs. Self-amuse. Full retard. Open outsidewhere from? whistle.

Met Joe in the car park outside revs. Made ourselves really laugh by
mimicking Tyler from RSD and how he looks into the camera with
full presence. We were almost in tears by the end, and that became
our way of having fun all night (it was also what I did when Joe
introduced me to girls during the night, as we both found it so funny
- the girls tended to love it).

Joe opened a 2-set outside with where are you from? brief chit-chat
about that. One girl asked why we wanted to know. We said we were
just really creepy and thats why. They laughed and blew a whistle at
us.

Walked around inside, got to the end bar and needed water as my
throat was killing me. Stood next to an Asian girl, who got the
bartenders attention by waving her fingers. I told her I loved the
weird wave and she laughed, how else would I get his attention?

I think it was pretty much straight away I turned back to the bar, and
she re-engaged with Whats your name? This was unexpected as
she seemed quite serious at first

Her name was Gina. I asked where she was from, she took it to mean
ethnically and so asked me to guess. I told her I was no good at this.

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She said she was originally Chinese but has been here for 8 years. I
told her the one sentence I can still remember in Chinese. This
whole time I was just laughing and feeling good. When she said she
was had been here for 8 years, I tried a tiny bit of a push by looking
at her quizzically, saying interesting and turning away for a bit
then turning back.

As I needed to introduce Joe as I didnt want to ignore him, I asked

who she was with. She said one Indian friend who was by the dance
floor. As Joe is Indian, I nicely used that to intro him.

She was out having just finished her PhD, so I pretended to do a

takeaway (push-pull) as it was in some neuroscience thing; I said oh
okay see ya! and turned away. She laughed. I said she was clearly
way smarter than me. She said how do you know? and I said I could
just be smart but playing a dumbass.

She got her drinks, and I was straight on it. Can you carry those, or
do you need a hand? She nodded slowly. I said you do need a
hand? and she said yes. Again, this was unexpected I then picked
up her other drink and followed her across the dance floor.

We got to her friend, and there were two guys there. I think she
immediately said theyre just randoms. The guys were quite
physical and it looked like she wasnt massively enjoying it. I asked
her if her friend needed help, she said no. Between starting to dance
and the guys and her friend, I couldnt quite get her attention again.
I turned back to Joe to focus on him rather than the girl. He opened
a large set behind him over his shoulder.

I asked Gina if she wanted to dance (I meant somewhere else, to get

away from the guys). She said I am dancing and went back to it.
Blown out again. I waited for a bit, and asked her if she wanted to
come to the bar to help me pick out a drink. She told me to wait a
second, and they started to take photos.

I told Joe I had one more shot and then we would leave it. I waited
until the photos were done, and then yelled out GINA! BAR! NOW!
and held out my hand. She took it, interlaced fingers, and I headed
off towards the bar through the crowd. Winning? Not quite

I felt her hand slip from mine. I turned aroundand one of the guys
was standing there. He said sorry mate, shes with me. I said yeah
she just needs to help me pick out a drink. He said Okay yeah,
maybe later shook my hand firmly thanks. Nodded, and
turned away.

I got AMOGGED! The force was strong in this one.

Beaten fair and square. I was stunnedI could tell that would have
been an easy pull. Well played, sir.

I was, accordingly, both still in a good mood and also fucking furious.

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Joe told me to let it go and laugh about it. I made myself present,
so we both laughed and moved on. I needed another drink from the
bar so I stood next to a 2-set (later 4 or 5 set) and it looked like they
had water. Asked them if they were on the water too. They nodded,
and then I think the girl on the left re-opened me, but I cant
remember what with dammit

Asked her her name, she introduced herself. I asked who she was
here with, and she motioned to 3 of her friends and then introduced
me to them also unexpected I said hi and think gave them all a high-
five.

This whole time I was just in a good mood, being smiley and making
her laugh. Asked what she does for a living, she works with special
needs kids. I told her I just beat the shit out of people for a living.
Told her about my instructor course, she seemed impressed.

Told her she seemed cool. It had been very superficial, crowded bar,
so I just didnt pull the trigger and try for a Timebridge. At this point,
Joe leaned into my ear (I had just introduced him) and he told me
that Gina was standing nearby and looked really jealous.

Did this pump me up? Oh yes.

As did the bartender asking me how the girls were in here tonight.
Think he might have clocked us gaming, OR the fact that I was
standing next to a group of 5 girls. Dont know.

Joe opened a 2 set by asking if they lived in the present moment.

They were like what, and so he told them that we both meditate,
and that I was just feeling really good and in the zone. We used this
opener a lot, and I actually really like it. I then did my presence face
and we both cracked up. It was like it would have made no
difference if the girls werent there, and they hooked really well I
think because we were having so much fun on our own. Joe was
talking to his target for quite a while.

I think at one point he asked them if they thought we were idiots and
she was like NO! Why would we think youre idiots? I said
because were idiots and we all laughed.

My target wasnt engaging much (think she was ordering drinks) and
so I tapped her on the shoulder. Some chat, and then I said Are you
like omg when are these guys going to leave us alone?! She busted
up laughing and I jumped on it. Uhmy phones broken, its in the
shopwe have to go to the bathroomwere lesbians! She cracked
up again and was like oh my god, what the fuck?! All good and fun.
I told her that apparently some guys get reactions like that but not
me as Im super smooth.

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It fizzled out at some point, but Joe and I realised we were just in a
giving value moodlike just generating good emotions between
us and pulling them in. Such a different vibe. I need to quantify this,
as this and being in a good mood seem so huge and I dont know
why or what it is.

Opened another set, similar deal but not as long.

Then we went outside and this weird thing happened.

Joe opened a 2-set with the meditation thing. They started to walk
away and I yelled out that I was feeling ill and have a disease (just
being an ass, basically)

One girl whipped around did you just say I have a disease? I was
like No, WTF? I just said I have a disease. We then chatted and
decided to walk in the same direction as them. Talked to one about
her rose tattoo.

Then one of them asked where we were going, and said you said
you guys would get us drinks remember? I figured what the hell,
and so we headed to players at their suggestion. The hot girl then
said something like theyd been invited to a house party in Barnsley
(which is a long way away). I asked how they were getting back there
and they said taxi. I was surprised as its so far, and she said dont
worry, well drive you back in the morning.

Guess were invited. She then said shed give us the address or
something. Get to players, they go in and Joe and I hang back for a
second and discuss. When we walk in, the girls are already getting
their own drinks. I walk up to the hot girl and ask if she will give me
the address, and she says shots first. I explain that were both sober,
and they give us a weird look and move away to the dance floor.

I explain to Joe I think that us being sober makes it weird for them. I
then come up with a stroke of genius. Walk over and ask how long
until we leave, they say an hour. I then say were getting shots in, but
an hour is great, walk back to the bar and order us both a water.
Haaa.

They seemed happy dancing on their own (read: oblivious) and so

Joe and I decide to do a takeaway and look for sets around the
other side. The whole thing felt weird to us but we couldnt place
why. Went around for a bit, eventually made our way back to the
dance floor and the girls were gone.

We went to the Forum, and Joe had the brainwave to ask one girl
why the smoking area was deserted as she walked past. He then
proceeded to open every girl with this as she walked by. He then
made me go and do the same opener to a 9-set who were dancing

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nearby. I froze, until I eventually went over and just asked one girl
why it was empty. Then saw a birthday balloon so asked whose
birthday it was and gave her a high-five. Joe came in for a bit, and
then we went outside.

Joe opened a couple of sets outside (he did by far the majority
tonight, which doesnt reflect well on me. Need to stop relying on
him so much).

He opened one set as my voice was going. Got speaking to a girl

named Lauren. Told her what I do and then busted her on her job as
it sounded dodgy and the kind of thing Id investigate. Told her I
couldnt talk to her any more. Told her about my acting hobby, when
she said some things I said interesting and looked away for a bit.
Small pushes.

Joe was in with the group, so I told her come here and pulled her a
few feet away. Told her she seemed cool, and asked if shed ever
taken the Strawberry Fields test.

10,000 strawberries. Haaa.

She kept looking around for her friends, but didnt do anything. At
some point she lost them completely. I told her fuck your friends
Im your best friend now. She loved it. Gave her a hug as I said I
loved her.

She said she was 19 and I told her she seemed like she carried
herself as if she was a lot older, and maybe she was just a lot more
confident than women her age. She said she gets that a lot (or
something like that).

Asked if she liked salsa dancing. She said yes, so I got the
Timebridge for Sunday. Finally got a Timebridge in, although edit
- I texted her today, no response

Completely screwed up the sexual compliment, and instead asked

her what her lipstick shade was. She said it was something dark. I
said I liked it, that it was distracting in a good way. She thought and
then smirked and said OK, Ill take it!.

She asked if we were heading back inside, and so we did. I made

some reference to her being a good kisser, but cant remember the
context. Lost her inside as she and her friends went to dance and I
had to find Joe who I had lost.

We went to do some street game as it was almost closing time.

He again opened a 2-set sitting there, and they engaged almost

before he had finished speaking, giving like a fist bump or
something. One of the girls (who was HOT) lived here for a few years
but was just visiting for the weekend. At one point we realised our
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The friends came along and werent impressed with us, so dragged
them a few feet away. We strategised based on our earlier screw up
with the Barnsley girls, so I just walked over and asked if they were
up for an after-party at mine. One of the group said no and they
were having a dispute about what to do.

We re-engaged again, but eventually they got into a cab. We went

to Rev de Cuba, saw the girl behind the bar who likes me, and as it
was 10 minutes until closing we went to do some more street sets.

I opened a 2-set and got chatting. Joes girl did not like him (he said
something really polarising) and so she said they were walking away,
but as they were outside the Wick they didnt go far. I told him to re-
open by apologising, he did and so we re-engaged.

My girl (again a hottie), works with one of my oldest friends and so

we just chatted about that. It kept going round in circles about that,
but without stalling, and as Joes girl still didnt like him I basically
had to handle both of them and so couldnt isolate.

They left at one point, and I think she looked back at me as they
were heading inside, but I was talking to Joe and so didnt really
clock it.

It was now street game time, and it was crash-and-burn. I felt unwell,
we got instant blowouts of the nope, keep moving type.

We opened one last 2-set, and I sat next to them. Just chatting shit,
and two guys came up. The girls were young and so were the guys,
and small guys too, but I still kind of froze. I stood up while talking to
them as I didnt want them towering over me. Even though with my
training the two guys presented no threat to me at all (as in, I could
have flattened them both no problem) I still felt really introverted
and awkward. Basically got tooled by the guys, and then I made
excuses and left.

No confidence whatsoever to just keep going. It was soberingand

weird. I started to feel really unwell, and my voice had gone, so we
went home.

GOOD POINTS: Jealousy plots, having loads of fun, the absurd fun
of talking about meditation, girls loving the vibe, the Barnsley girls,
getting the TB and Strawberry Fields in, the mini-isolation.

WORKING ON: Should have just said screw it and gone back for that
Gina girl. I still have to push much harder on getting through my
actual game plan.

NOTES: Im sure the mental rehearsal and Desire-Repulsion on the

Actions of pickup and the Ideal Scenes are all working together; but
so is the RSD stuff Ive been reading about self-amusing and just

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some things are contradictory.

1 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 11 MOSTLY CLEAR

SATURDAY, 28 MAY 2016 02:04

FR: I havent forgotten you - 27/05/16

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Getting through my game plan.

Tonight was a weird one, wasnt sure whether to actually title it as a

FUR instead.

Went out to Revs to meet Joe at 10:30. Got in and there were
balloons up by the entrance and loads of girls blocking the stairs.

Walked down to the bar and waited in line. Opened a girl by

tapping her on the shoulder (I think) as she had a tiara on, and asked
if the balloons were for her. She said no, but it was her birthday and
her friends were up in that area or something. Kind of fizzled out and
I waited.

Tapped her on the shoulder again after about a minute, and

introduced Joe by saying this is my cousin Joe. Joe is Indian, so
every time I do this a) it cracks us up, and b) no-one seems to notice.

She left with a have a good night and then I stood next to another
girl, told her she was waiting patiently. Chatted to her for a few
seconds, asked if she was having a good night and she said yes. I
disengaged and she reopened by asking me if I was. I asked who
she was here with, and she said a few friends. Eventually she got her
drinks and left.

Dance floor. Joe opened a girl walking by and she slowed down, He
said this is my cousin Will and as I was doing the presence face to
make Joe laugh (we were just clowning around trying to extrovert) I
just looked at her. A brief hesitation and she said hi to me. This
actually took me by surprise and so I missed the brief window to
engage before she turned around and left. What I should have done
was step forward as she was leaving and say hi, but I hesitated.

Then Alp turned up and immediately opened a hottie near the bar.
Interesting lesson: I wouldnt have opened as I thought she was with
one or two of the guys nearby, but he stayed chatting for ages.
Lesson learned. He says.

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Alp pulls me in.

Nice Italian man. Left, number, said no. No game. Advice.

Handsome, well dressed, can tell youre funny. Put down, less
confident. Thanks, both had shit days.

Stylish. Thanks, wasnt sure about shirt.

Friend. We like you.

Dentist. Fake teeth. Drink spiked. Guy in here. Broken foot. Not
trusting guys.

Emily, boyfriend Liam, nice.

Street. To Viper. Artwork, dancing, drama, Crucible. Like salsa?

Sunday. Qualifying herself about what shed done - charity, friend
passing away.

In club. Lost.

Other girl. Did you ask if that was a babydoll? See Al. Photo. All
friends, cousin Joe. Like merging sets.

Guys, open, point I know you You too, you followed us here.
Remembered my name. Hence my friends, so if anything you
followed us here. Cant leave on own, but I havent forgotten you.

Reactive at end.

Open with do you know DJ? went to Soyo; drinks girl challenge.
Vodka and coke, spill. Thought we were friends. Presence, huge
laugh.

Failed street game.

Two girls, fashion, just been to Corp. Come with us to pizza.

Whereabouts?

Second set, same, kicked out. She walked round. Hug, Whats your
name? She tensed, I didnt back off with statement of empathy. She
said were alright and left.

1 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 10 PARTLY CLOUDY

SATURDAY, 25 JUNE 2016 03:03

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FR: So CloseTwice (cries)
Went out to meet Kieran. Did some energy exercises before I went
to get out of my head and feel good. Got to the bar and saw a
bartender girl I know from another bar, gave her a hug and she
asked if I wanted a drink.

She bought me one and we chatted to Kieran. Sat down with our
drink and chatted, caught up. Didnt open anyone else there as we
were talkingmessed with the bar girl by yelling NO when she
went to take away our empty glasses. Haaa.

So we left and went to West Street Live. Did a random high-five

contest which got us laughing and having fun. Kieran opened a 2 set
straight away, I opened one random girl who appeared out of
nowhere. I stood there a few times when he opened as I got in my
head and felt a bit awkward about stepping in.

From there we went across to the Common Room. He opened a 2-

set (one hottie and older woman) to warn them about broken glass.
He got talking and they were laughing so I went in and talked to the
younger one. Her name is Kira.

I mentioned her heels were insane and she said they were
gorgeous though. I said oh yeah they look greatits just heels hurt
my ankles. She laughed and said Id get used to them. I said it was
because I was so insecure about my calves. She laughed again and
said that heels make them look good though.

I told her Id injured my calf doing yoga. She laughed again (she told
me I was funny a few times), and I think I told her Id just overdone it
at the gym the day before but yoga had done the damage.

She then randomly asked are you gay?, but I dont think it was a
negative clarification, I think I was making an impact. Either way, I
responded sadly, noit would make my life a lot easier if I was and
she laughed again. Chatted about work briefly.

She then randomly said Im not looking for a boyfriend, but I cant
recall the exact content. It was random though. I said yeah theres a
time and a place for everything. Im not looking to be anyones
boyfriend right now. She mentioned she has 3 kids and I talked
about how I lived with small kids and have a niece or nephew on the
way.

Leaning in a bit, some touching. Asked where she goes to the gym, I
told her I go to Ponds because Im common. She mentioned what
workouts she does. I think I asked so did you get a babysitter or are
your kids just in bed? She mentioned they were at her mothers, and
at their dads tomorrow (so shes definitely single).

Kieran was having some issues with the older friend and he
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a foot wrong. I think I said I was very trustworthy and we clinked
glasses. Didnt know how best to deal with the friend.

A couple of times I moved around to turn Kira away from the friend.
They mentioned they were going to the Common Room and I said it
had been dead there. They werent in a hurry to go but it was clear
a) they were leaving and b) the friend was a massive obstacle.

So I pulled her in close, told her I was glad I met her and said are
you definitely leaving? and she said yes. I didnt feel like I could
Timebridge so I just said damn, we should hang out. She said Shall
I give you my number? This was unexpected as I didnt think shed
do it in front of the friend I said OK and gave her my phone. She put
the number in and then called her phone to check it came through.

They left, and I realised I didnt make any attempt for logistics/what
was on the agenda for later. I also panicked about texting after a few
minutes as I thought I should have done it immediately. I then
decided to do it anyway and sent her: Great meeting you! Just
texting while you remember how funny I am. Haha. Will x

Stayed in there for a bit dancing. As we went to leave to meet Steve

I saw them outside. I wasnt going to say anything but she called my
name and so I went over. She was chatting to a bouncer but I
grabbed her hand and turned her around. We spoke, I told her I
texted her and she checked her phone. I then asked how late she
was out or where she was going. She said she didnt know but it was
probably late, like closing time. Said she might be going around
Carver Street area. We all hugged goodbye with the cheek kiss on
each side, and I told her to text me if she ended up at Crystal. Dont
know if she heard or not. So I assumed that was done.

Went back to Revs, it was dead. I opened 2 girls at the bar but
nothing really happened. We decided to head to Walkabout
because it was free. I then got a text from her saying Daft sod lol x.
I texted back Ha! Thats me. Were going to Walkabout. Where are
you? x

Colossal stupidity ahead

She said Players at the minute x. We had just walked past there but
I told the guys I didnt want to change plans and turn up there just to
meet her.

So I texted her In Walkabout. Text me if youre heading this way x.

She said Will do x.

I texted her later from Viper at 01:49 when I was in my long 3-set
(details next) with You still out? Were in viper rooms. Free entry ftw
hehe x. No response.

I should have just gone to Players. Dammit. Did I screw up here?

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Anyway the good part hasnt happened yet.

So we got to Viper. Fairly busy. Screwed around for a bit and I

caught one girls eye as she was walking past fanning her face with
her hands like she was too hot. She went by but I turned back and
caught up with her as she was just standing by a pillar. I said Dont
worry I have that effect on women its fine. We both laughed and I
walked away. Went to find the guys but as I looked back she was
standing there on her phone (so she was bored as I pointed out to
Steve) and I didnt realise how cute she was.

She eventually walked back over so I tapped her shoulder to stop

her. I said are you recovered yet? She said she was claustrophobic
and her friends were in a tight group. I told her I needed to get
some air, asked if she wanted to. She hesitated so I just said yeah
come on lets get some air. She then asked if I smoke. I said I didnt
have any on me but I do occasionally. She said OK but she just
needed to tell her friends she was going outside. She walked over to
them and I stood with the guys. She then came back over and I said
ok lets go and we walked outside.

Got out there and she moved us to chairs so we could sit down. Got
her name (Charlotte) and she asked if I was at uni as I dont sound
like Im from Sheffield. I said I moved up here to study. She said she
was a cook. Asked what she did for fun, she said this was it. Her two
friends (Holly and Katie) came out and interrupted us. Katie asked if
she could sit in my seat and I said yes and stood up. Charlotte was
shocked and said Katie! Thats so rude!, so clearly was invested in
our conversation.

They were all talking and besides asking how they all knew each
other I was blocked out, so I texted Steve I need help.

The guys came out. Kieran jumped straight in, Steve was silent. I
nodded to the friend I need him to occupy. He didnt do much so I
just had to make do.

Eventually I realised I was frozen out and had to get her alone, so I
asked Charlotte if she wanted a drink. She kind of looked at her
friends and hesitated, but said yes. I said excuse me to her friend
and I moved out. I put my hand out for her to come with me. She
told her friend what she was doing, and and they all came in with
me. I held my hand out behind me for her to hold on to but she
grabbed my arm instead. She did that a few times. Not a big deal
but I guess it was because the friends could see.

We got to the bar, and her friends were all over her, like literally head
on her shoulder. She asked if I wanted a drink and bought me one,
and it was about this time that her friends kind of separated and I
think went back to Kieran and Steve. I remembered some CJ stuff
about handling friends, so I told her her friends were cool and

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obviously protective which was a good thing. She said they were
dickheads (so guessing she was getting frustrated haaa).

Then her friends came back but then actually left to go further up
the bar (why did they eventually leave? - maybe they either got used
to me or she could have said something. My suspicion was it was the
first as I couldnt get a kiss close later so I think she wasnt assertive
enough to do that). It was loud so I told her we should go outside to
talk some more. This time I think she came without consulting the
friends. We went outside, I got the arm hold again.

We went to a corner and chatted about where she grew up. Got
back to her being a cook. I said I guessed that meant she is a
creative type. She said maybe. I know a personality test to find out

Strawberry Fields. 6 Strawberries.

She said the test was so weird and I jumped in yes but these things
are surprisingly accurate. She agreed and I changed topic to
something else straight away to not dwell on it.

She said something else, and I hesitated and told her I didnt hear
that because I got distracted by her lips. She asked What about
them? because I forgot to say they were nice the first time around.
Told her they were really nice, and a nice shade of colour (I shouldnt
have dwelled on it). However, she said Not too big? and pouted. I
laughed and said no theyre nice and she smiled and said Thanks.

Then I started to seed the Timebridge by asking if she likes to salsa,

but her friends came out again. The guys werent in tow, but they
came out a few minutes later.

We all talked about what we were doing for the rest of the night.
Kieran did a clever social proof move so we didnt look clingy and
asked me What about Kira? I said she and the girls are out, we
might see them later.

We all talked about going to Players. I made a decision and said OK

lets go. Some screwing around from the girls, but we led and they
came with us. Got the arm hold again, but Katy (the nightmare friend
who had work at 10am and kept mentioning it) did the same, so I
had a girl on each arm. Gave me some time to try and win her over.
Fortunately, she and Kieran were hitting it off so he gave her a piggy
back up the street. Charlotte and Holly ran into some friends, so we
chatted to them but I eventually told her we had to go and so we
left.

I remembered about logistics this time, and so asked her what was
on agenda for later. She said she didnt know but Katy had work at
10am and were all leaving together. They ran into some more
friends and Charlotte got distracted. I then realised that Holly was
hotter, so what did I do?

Yep. I switched.

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I got her attention while they were talking to friends (I think I held my
hand out), and when she came over I pulled her in really close at
bottom of West Street while we chatted about where we were going.
Kieran and Katy came back down, and so we headed back down
with Kieran carrying Katy and me talking to Holly (Steve took an 8
second infield video of this magical moment).

Holly was talking about how she hates Yorkshire. I told her non-
Yorkshire girls are more fun, more adventurous, sneaky etc. For each
positive thing I said, she asked for a high five. We both walk fast,
which Katy and Charlotte both commented on. Eventually we both
power walked away from the group, and I told her we should sneak
away for a drink. She laughed no and I said I was half-joking.

As we walked past Walkabout I said lets sneak in for a drink and

she did say no, but we were all heading next door anywhere so I just
changed topics and waited for everyone to catch up. Although I did
joke But theyll catch us up and interfere with our marriage plans. I
think she laughed, cant remember.

We got to the Pop World line. They had free entry stamps but we
had to pay. Steve bailed even though he told us it was going well
and we should go in, so Kieran and I did. The girls went in but then
came back out while we were in line, so I think they were waiting for
us. We lost them inside but got drinks and Kieran found them while I
was in the bathroom.

They were on the dance floor so we started dancing with them. I got
Charlottes hand at one point and spun her a few times, and then
pulled her close and we started grinding. I went to let go of her
hand (being aware of not ignoring the friends) but she didnt let go.
So we kept dancing close. I spun her around and started grinding
again.

As we were dancing I turned her away from the friends who were
perfectly happy with themselves and Kieran. We were grinding close
and I went for the kiss and she turned away. This was a little bit
unexpected as I felt it was on We still stayed close, but I soon
released to back off a little bit.

They went off to the corner which Kieran said was for a girly chat,
and we should just keep dancing rather than looking around etc.
Soon enough they went to the bathroom but after a few minutes we
realised we had lost them. They may have just left (remember Katy
did have work in about 7 hours) but they could have gone to the
bathroom first and decided to go.

Should I have gone for Holly? I have a feeling that they would have
all stuck together anyway. The only thing I can think would have
been to stick to them like glue and just head back with them, but I
dont know if it was viable. I didnt get either Charlottes or Hollys
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time I tried to seed it again or just go for the number we got
distracted after a few seconds. With Holly we only had about a
minute together so couldnt have done it.

GOOD POINTS:

My second night out in 5 weeks. Last week I was so frozen and

introverted I could barely open. I think this was down to Kieran and
having fun, but I know Im capable of nights like this. I had two
reasonable opportunities that could have turned into pulls.

Got Strawberry Fields in, and even though I got one number without
a TB, and was working on the second number with a TB - at least its
pushing a bit further.

WORKING ON:

Still not sticking to a consistent game plan, though this was better.
The thing was Kieran did most of the opening tonight, and I fed off
that. I cant rely on a crutch to get past those first few moments.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 12 MOSTLY CLEAR

SATURDAY, 2 JULY 2016 13:53

LR: Finally - 01/07/2016

So finally a Same Night Pull. I knew it was coming, but so nice to just
get one, even if only for the confidence boost of remembering that I
can do it.

The thing is, its hard to analyse this one. I went out with friends, and
got probably the most drunk Ive been in the last few years. Just
drank and danced and laughed.

Ran Strawberry Fields on one girl from work. Flat out said the test
was accurate. I dont remember how blatantly I hit on her after that,
except to say it was probably too much for a colleague. Oops.

Eventually Joe turned up and we went to meet Steve, found Kieran

and some other dudes and we went to Soyo (with my work friend
James in tow).

I think I opened a girl at the bar, but it was brief.

Then I decided we were going to Corp, so off we went. Joe told me

to open the 4 set in front of us in the queue, which I did. Cant
remember what I opened with, nor what I talked to one of the girls
about as we went in - I think it was her job, and one of the new guys
kept asking if I was stealing his future wife.

Yes I was. But its not stealing if I get there first.

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Got in, was immediately opened by one girl in a 3-set sitting down.
They were being odd and so I tried to get a kiss by baiting her into
talking about how good a kisser she was. On a scale of 1-10 she was
a 0.5 in her opinion, and then she talked about how one of her
friends used to be a man. This was fascinating, but I left to find the
guys.

Danced a bit upstairs. Got some high fives and spun a couple of
girls, and then I suggested the smoking area.

We went out and talked to some people. I was sobering up by this

point, but I cant remember who opened the 2-set, me or Joe, but
either way I joined in.

Started talking to the cuter one, so had to switch Joe around once or
twice so we could change positions (which I guess made me look
like a leader?).

Shes a carer. Talked about her being nurturing, and those kinds of
personalities.

Strawberry Fields. 3 strawberries.

Then we just chatted for a bit. I did make sure to include her friend
(who I ended up pulling instead) by talking to her about my target -
a little trick I learned from Todd at his Opening seminar last week.

I cant remember exactly what we said, but I did notice that when I
was asking questions where are you from etc, I made sure to riff off
the answer so it wasnt generic.

Joe and Steve werent occupying the friend, but they did text me to
move the girls. Steve also recorded a nice infield clip of me making
my target laugh. No idea what I said, but it looks good!

So I moved her around to mini-isolate, but she did that weird thing
of turning her head around but not her body. Eventually I called her
on it and put my hand out for her to take, and I moved her around.

The guys suggested the dance floor, and so I said lets go dance
and we went in. Started dancing, and my target had been quite
reserved but her friend seemed more open. So I took her hand and
spun her a couple of times, then just pulled her in and we started
grinding.

Make out.

Soon after they said they were going to the bathroom but would be
right back. I didnt think they would, but they came back to us 2
minutes later.

More of the same, dancing and getting pretty physical until Corp
closed at 3am.

While we were dancing and kissing and getting physical, I told her a
few times she was 'driving me crazy', so blaming it on her.

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I wanted to go for the pull when Corp closed, but Steve suggested
another move so we went to Plug. Held hands with the friend (my
new target) the whole way - but we didnt speak to each other much
at all.

Danced in Plug, led outside to the smoking area, and got the
logistics details. They both live far away and took the train to
Sheffield, and were just going to be out all night until the first train at
about 5:30/6:00. In other words, they couldnt separate and go
home so had to stick together.

Joe vanished at some point and we went back inside. I told my girl
we should definitely hang out for a bit before she went, and she
nodded. A bit later I said we should go, and she said I cant leave
Katie. Then a bit after that I changed it to lets go somewhere
private and I think my girl mentioned it to Katie who seemed to
gesture towards the exit, and then they went to the bathroom.

My logistics were an issue as Sam would be asleep at home and I

could bring Nina back, but wouldnt know what to do with Steve and
Katie (she was giving him nothing so he was just sticking it out to
help me).

Eventually we went out to the smoking area, around 4:30am-ish, and

I mentioned hanging out again. She nodded, and I just said to Katie
we are going to hang out for a bit. She said where? and I said at
my place. Screw the logistics, Ill figure something out.

Then, to my surprise, Katie started talking about which direction it

was to the train station and Steve said he could walk her most of the
way there.

So we headed for the exit, and got to the taxi stand. I expected an
issue, but Katie just said Ill call you later, she and Steve walked off,
and I got in a cab with Nina and went to my place.

I couldnt believe it, I was sure I was going to have to do something

creative.

We didnt speak much in the taxi, just made out at red lights, nor did
we speak much when we got to mine. Just went straight up to my
room, she sat on the bed, and it just escalated from there.

No tension or LMR of any kind.

I didnt game her the way I did Katie, nor did we really talk that
much. It was just on, an implicit Agreement the whole time. All I did
was duke it out and lead.

She left around 5:45am. Bet she didnt remember my name.

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SATURDAY, 9 JULY 2016 02:43

FR: Nice Dress 08/07/2016

So I went out to meet Kieran at 9. Ran into Serena and Stephen who
were out with some work friends, said wed meet up later.

I did some energy work before going out, so felt good. We sat on
stools at the bar and talked and laughed. Saw one or two girls
smiling at me as they walked by, but didnt do anything. Said
goodbye to my friends, and then we went off.

Walked to the cash machine and as I was waiting in line I saw a 2-set
walking towards us. I smiled at the brunette and she caught my eye
and smiled back as they went past. I, of course, hesitated and told
Kieran how frustrating it is that I blow great opportunities like that.
Im sick of hesitating.

Went to Cavendish and Kieran went to the bathroom and I opened a

girl in the queue about her bank card she was holding, and whether
it was contactless as I had just had the same card replaced and it
wasnt. She said hers wasnt either and I made her laugh.

I think it went silent at this point, (maybe as I turned to look at

Kieran) and she reopened me with what are you two up to tonight?.
She had to repeat herself as I didnt hear properly, and so I talked
about where wed been and that we were meeting my friends later. I
asked her her name and who she was out with and she said a friend.

She asked where my accent was from and I explained the weird mix.
I asked if shed ever been to Canada as it had come up, and she said
no, but I study/studied Geography. Obvious qualification which I
kind of picked up on at the time, but didnt fully grasp or know how
to play.

Mentioned that Im in a play coming up where I have to play

American and she asked me to do an accent. I hesitated, laughing,
and her friend walked past. I said Are you the friend? Thank God,
you just saved me from embarrassing myself! or words to that effect
and they laughed and I explained it to the friend. The friend said I
looked American and I said I dont know how one looks American,
but thanks.

Then she said something like she thought we knew each other
already. I was confused so she said that theyd walked past me at the
cash machine and Id smiled at them and so they had been trying to
figure out how they knew me.

So I got to open the brunette after all! Hehehe.

I said no, Im just friendly and its nice to smile at people.

Got the friends name and asked what they were doing, said they

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were meeting some people. I think it was at this stage I looked over
at Kieran who was locked in with a blonde at the bar.

Not sure, but basically it seemed to just die and my target was like
well have a great night, it was nice to meet you! and they went off
to sit nearby.

Jasons explanation for things like this is a Game Dynamics

confusion. The only thing I can pinpoint is that seeing Kieran with
someone else changed the Game (from being a 2-on-2), as I didnt
see any friends come in to meet them while we stuck around.

Anyway, the rest of the night I was stuck in my head and quite
introverted. Only managed one other good open, which I totally
blew despite the amazing window.

Saw a girl at WSL who was wearing a blue dress with tassels at the
bottom. I opened her do you get a lot of compliments on your
tassels?

She opened right up and smiled and was like thank you! I just
bought this at 10pm last night and really appreciate the compliment
or words to that effect. She was really open and nice.

I said yeah I like it. Its unusual but it works. Again she was like
thanks! and I asked if she was now satisfied with her purchase and
she said yes. She said something else that I didnt hear, and she was
like so I got a compliment, and you got a compliment, what a night!
or something.

Wish Id heard what she said.

The whole time I was thinking get the name, get the name and yet I
didnt. I told her we now needed to compliment AJ and she told him
she liked his shirt. Her friend came over and gave her a drink (I
noticed because I couldnt now shake her hand and do my Im will
btw bit).

The vibe and energy was amazing, but I think I just missed that
window to push it forward a little bit (or doing something bolder like
telling her she was sexy as well and thats why the dress worked -
something like that but smoother) and so she told us both to have
an amazing night and off she went.

So again, maybe a Game Dynamics mismatch as I didnt move it

forward.

I could have kept that one going for sure, and I dont know why I
didnt do the necessary thing that I try and do most of the time
anyway.

Regardless, I stayed out and have pinpointed (I think) why things fell
apart both times.

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All good lessons.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 14 MOSTLY CLEAR

SUNDAY, 24 JULY 2016 00:35

FR: Oops - 22/07/2016

Got to Revs, Joe was late. Opened girl at second bar after
hesitating, is that a daiquiri. She said what it was and I said Id had
one before. Fizzled out.

I then made the choice to keep going, so I reopened by being

honest. Dont you hate it when your friends are late and youre on
your own? I dont know where mine are and Im like oh my god.

She laughed - so the reopen went much better than the open. She
asked where they were and I said they were on the way.

MORE HERE?

Opened a second set with Is that a whisky and coke? she said
vodka red bull, I said it was the same thing.

We went to the dance floor, saw some girl stretching to warm up.
She caught my eye but as I hesitated I then didnt go when I could
have.

Saw a 2-set nearby and one of them made a face. They were
drinking the bubblegum blue drink, so I went straight over with is
your drink disgusting? Because you just made this face. She laughed
and said she had brain freeze.

Interestingly enough the friend turned away back to the bar when I
opened, so she wasnt interested in us talking.

I told my girl that I get brain freeze, and asked whether she gets the
euphoria when it fades. She said yes. I think the friend re-engaged at
this point and I asked her if it happened to her too, and made them
laugh by saying we were in a brain freeze club or something.

I then made sure I went for the names and shook hands. I dont
recall making a conscious choice to do this in set, but I did notice
recently I wasnt doing it.

Talked to my original girl about the play I was in, told her where it
was and that she should come along. Joe then came along and I
introduced them, told him we were all part of a special club and they
laughed again.

At some point it kind of fizzled (Ive noticed that Ive been running

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out of things to say lately) and so I turned to Joe and we talked to
each other for a bit. The girls then went to leave, but they turned to
wish us a good night. This was unexpected so maybe it was going
better than I thought.

We went to West Street Live. Opened one girl smoking telling her
she did something in a very feminine way. She said thanks and
walked straight off. Oh well.

We got to Viper and went out to the smoking area. We sat down in
some chairs and there was a 3 set to my left, one of whom stood up.
I think I apologised for blocking the way and teased her about
standing up like let me go mother fuckers. She laughed and said
she was just waiting for her friends.

She asked about my accent and I said I grew up near London but
have a touch of Canadian in my voice because I spent some time
there as a teenager. She mentioned her husband (I missed the ring
at first) and she wanted to move there at some point. She tried to do
a London accent and it was shocking so I teased her by mimicking
her northern accent Im from London me.

She said she had a young son and so didnt get to come out very
often. Told me to live life while I still can, then we talked about doing
things like drinking and drugs - she mentioned she does coke
sometimes, but cant remember what her point was.

i think at some point I put my arm around her and got a little
physical that way. Not into married women but I have noticed (and
its been pointed out) that I dont communicate sexuality very much.
Ive been watching some of my natural friends like Rocko, and he
does get a little physical - not much, but more than I do.

She mentioned they were going downstairs. She gave me a

goodbye kiss on the cheek - maybe it was two - that could so easily
have turned into a make out. It was just ON. I felt it and the guys did
too - but thats someones wife. Honestly if it had just been me and
her away from the friends, I probably would have pulled her, but
thats not right.

In the now at Forum. conversations. High five random.

Are you playing Pokemon? 2 seconds. Dutch. Out.

Long corp. Pokemon open. Nurses. Ages. My girl difficult. More

confident. Watching Rocko.

Liv - smile open. Hi, good night? You? Joe 2 secs. Cool story to tell
you. SF.

Found girls. Text Rocko. Becky, SF. Messing around, hand grab.
Kebab - messed up pull.

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Fat comment. Nina. Escalating. Rotherham. Pull didnt work. Tennis.
Lips line. Phone number attempt.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 20 MOSTLY CLEAR

THURSDAY, 25 AUGUST 2016 20:24

Writing a FR almost a week after is stupid, but I should have done it

at the time. Its been 2 months since I wrote an FR, and I didnt even
cover the major parts of that one - that was the near pull with Rocko.

So, last Saturday 20th, the 3 important sets:

Steve and I head to the smoking area, and a tall redhead girl in a
yellow dress comes to sit near us. Her friend is there and so wasted
its like shes miles away.

HBYellow asks Steve for a lighter, I ask how their nights going and
she mentions her friend is wasted even though its early in the night.
She asks where we are from (I guess she can hear the accents). She
mentions shes from Rotherham. I think at this point she asks how old
we are and I ask her, she says shes 19. I say I enjoyed 19. She says
we look younger and guesses our ages (way wrongly haaa). She asks
what I do, and eventually they get up to leave. She wishes us a good
night, and I get a kiss on the cheek towards the mouth - the kind of
tipsy slow kiss that means its a potentialbut of course no leading,
no escalation, nothing.

We sit down as Im talking to a girl I turned to when discussing

something with Steve, joked about her being an old friend. The shot
girl comes over, her name is Jennie. Again she asks where Im from,
she says shes from Lancaster and I stand up at this point to move
away from my new friends so I can get a mini-isolation. I mention Ive
been to Lancaster and we talk about how she made a break away as
soon as she could. She mentions she moved her to study
psychology.

Easy intro to Strawberry Fields. Shed eat a whole basketful. She

laughs at the interpretation and says its accurate. She asks how
many strawberries I said Id eat when I did the test. I said about the
same (or something like that). She laughed and I got close and said
something like other people dont get it so we just need to keep it
our secret.

Eventually she said she had to get back to work. I said fine, ditch
me and she laughed. She came back later on and we started
chatting again. She said it was nice to talk to me as I was sober. I
said something like about how that means that when I hit on her its
genuine. Put my arm around her at some point and got no physical
reaction from her - totally neutral, so I removed my arm and carried

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on chatting. I asked her what she was doing tomorrow, and she gave
a whole list of her day. No go. I tried again later on telling her to
meet me/us for a drink after her shift ended and got a load of b.s. so
I just left it. I think she liked me but I think the work situation made it
impossible BUT I didnt try to number close.

The 3 set. My new drunk friend Chris went over to open and I went
with him. I think he opened but I took over fairly quickly. Spoke to a
29 year old who was sitting down, eventually I sat with her. She
mentioned she was out with a friend and sister, and eventually we
stood up and started talking to the two sisters. The sister was 26 and
gradually we started talking.

She mentioned she was crazy, and I said something like is it the
good crazy or something about her being hot crazy - I definitely
referenced her being hot. She said there was no good crazy, and
mentioned how she can look at the space station for hours - maybe
she was trying to feel me out??

The interesting part was that her sister and friend mentioned they
were going back in, and she said you go in, Ill be 2 minutes and
she did that a couple of times, the last time quite forcefully. So she
obviously really liked talking to me.

And heres where it tanked. She was prattling on and the voice in my
head was screaming at me to say the lips line (Im sure it would have
been amazing), and yet I didnt. Told her she seemed cool, and
although the next line was we should hang out I missed that one
too. All the talk about being crazy or her studying criminology gave
me a huge window into Strawberry Fields, but I didnt think of it.

At some point I knew it was running down, so I looked down towards

her shoes just to make a comment about her insane heels. Before I
could, she said Ive just read your mind as it obviously looked like I
was checking her up and down. I said something like I dont think
you have, implying thats what I was doing. She said she had to go
back in. She then gave me this weird speech about how this was
clearly an unusual situation for me. I thought she meant speaking to
girls and so I said it was quite common. She clarified that I was
obviously quite confident.
She then said that she meant that she got the impression I was quite
cautious and so would usually speak second.

*As Im writing this it seems fairly clear that that whole speech was
about me missing the window/not escalating.

She then went to leave and I said fine, break my heart. I got a kiss
on the cheek/almost lips againanother positive indicator like the
girl earlier in the night.

Basically this one should have been a sure thing - she told her
friends to go back inside - and I didnt take advantage of any of the
things I could do to escalate, and she quite fairly didnt wait around.

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Anyway, a few obvious mistakes and my first night out in over a
month.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 18 CLOUDY

SATURDAY, 27 AUGUST 2016 00:58

FR: long weekend

So Ive realised (dumb as it sounds) that waypoints in an interaction
are escalation points. A failure to move the interaction forward is
itself a failure on Game Dynamics.

So, writing FRs about what we said independent of a relevant

waypoint actually teaches me nothing. So my FRs should be shorter
as Im focusing on getting those escalation points in.

Got to Revs to meet Kieran. I hesitated to open a lone girl smoking

outside Bungalows, and hesitated to open a 3-set in Revs; so I just
got introverted. Kieran was struggling too, and only once we started
dancing and playing the Imitation Game did we warm up.

Opened a girl at the bar with have you been served yet, turned it
into a joke with Kieran about timing me. Asked what she ordered,
she told me and I said classy. As it sounded harsh, I clarified that I
like cheap whisky and coke so I cant talk.

Kieran opened an older 2-set. I spoke to Steve and Kieran pulled me

in so they could guess our ages. Eventually he turned away and I re-
engaged them. Made them laugh and at some point I just ran with
the flow and randomly commented on how small her glass was, then
we measured hands and so on.

Kieran then opened a younger 2-set and I jumped in. Messed

around, talking to one about kangaroos as she went to Australia.
Kept re-engaging and trying to match Kierans energy. When they
went to leave to get drinks I said fine ditch me and the brunette
laughed and said Ill be back and pointed at me.

I waited and saw they were talking to guys at the bar. Said Id give it
10 minutes. Eventually my brunette came downstairs and I grabbed
her - got physical and pulled her in. Held her hand and told her to
stay with me. She gripped on but said she was just getting a drink.
Sure enough she got a drink and came back, but Kieran got really
Alpha and picked her up as we started to leave. The guys walked out
and I pulled her in and as I hesitated to go for the number (I didnt
know her name) I asked where she was going next, she said she
didnt know. She asked where we were going and I said Viper

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Rooms. She said theyd probably end up there and I said yeah come
find me. Kiss on the cheek/towards lips (thats the third time in two
nights out and it happened again later tonight).

Should have gone for the kiss, or asked if she was a good kisser, got
her number and said Id text - something, but I didnt.

We went to Walkabout.

Talked to a 3-set briefly. Some girl came up and asked for a

cigarette. She was pretty friendly right off the bat. She got one and
went to sit back down with her friends. I needed a lighter so went
over to her big table outside where she was sitting with her friends. I
asked if I could borrow one and she said sit here and patted the
seat next to her. So I did, and said hi to the friends. She then said to
bring my friends over.

She immediately asked how we voted in the referendum. Mentioned

she was rich and it was her 18th, Kieran told her she was opinionated
as she called us Tory cunts. She was hot and I thought funny.

I put my arm around her briefly I think. She got close and asked if Id
buy her a drink. I said yeah once Ive finished my cigarette. Her
friends implied they were going, but she didnt move. They stood up
and I think she then asked one to get her a drink (thats me off the
hook!), and then she was I think asking them to leave her there and
go to the bar - so basically so theyd go and shed stay with me.
They made her promise to stay there and I promised Id look after
her. Eventually they left, and I got her attention and asked what she
did or was studying. She was chatting and I blew the escalation line
and went for you have really nice lips. She said thanks and asked if I
didnt think they messed up her face or whatever. I said no, theyre
really nice. I was going to ask if they were kissable or if she was a
good kisser, but the friends came back and mine were talking bits as
well.

She was hard work. In the end I asked them to come to Viper, and
she said its full of 30 year olds who cant pull and then she said I
wouldnt pull someone who has less money than me. I said how
would you know if they did? and she said well if hes trying to pull
me in Walkabout thats how I know and stood up and went with her
friends.

So somewhere from getting her friends to leave to that, it went from

being (I presume) her interest to total not going to happen.

I did that lips line, but that was it. The rest of the conversation was
brief and not even much there to remember - certainly not that I can
recall that would have tanked it on GD grounds.

We went to Viper, I opened a 2-set outside with a rapid opener

about her heels as she said her feet were hurting. I made sure to
engage the friend as well, but it was just a chat and they eventually

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So a very introverted night that involved hesitation and it took a lot

to snap out of it. My second night out after a month break, and
things in both those key sets I could have done differently.

Set 1 - got the name, tried for the number and gone for a kiss.

Set 2 - introd with I know you get tired of hearing this, actually
taken her to the bar, and asked if she was a good kisser.

Waypoints

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 12 MOSTLY CLEAR

MONDAY, 29 AUGUST 2016 19:45

FR: Shite Shirt Night - 27/08/2016; Bad Music -

28/08/2016
Game Plan: CJs SxF.

Working on: Going for a number and escalation statement; moving.

Also: Not being myself, trying more mysterious and low-energy.

The remaining two nights out of the bank holiday weekend. These
FRs should be briefer as I am focusing on my waypoints (i.e.
escalation points), as those will tell me whether Im moving forward.
So the focus should be around those, but Im still recording as much
detail as I can.

Its been a long, sleep-deprived weekend so a lot of details are

blurry; sometimes I cannot stay awake to write my FRs that night but
I also shouldnt leave it for 2 days.

Saturday - got to Revs for 9:30 to meet Lewis and a new guy named
Matt (hed never approached before and said his mind was blown
that night! hehe).

I forgot that the guys had said it was ridiculous shirt night, and that
became our opener all night - what do you think of our shit shirts?
etc

We sat at a table talking, and I opened a girl in a 3-set nearby, tap

on the shoulder so she turned around. Even though I thought I was
loud, I had to repeat myself and really get close. So she opened, but

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it didnt last long. Lewis beckoned her over and she chatted for a bit.

I noticed a lot of hesitation after that. I saw a girl sitting at the table
opposite make eye contact a couple of times and she was clearly
bored; should have been an easy open but I waited too long and
lost my nerve to walk over. So fed up with this fear response as it
sometimes cripples me.

We went to the dance floor and I opened a hottie next to Lewis at

the bar, again with the shirt opener - told her I forgot about it. That
lasted a bit, but I noticed that 2 girls were standing really close by
behind us. I told the new guy I thought it was proximity (they didnt
need to be there) and to open. He froze, so I went and they opened
really well. Mixed between Lewis and me talking. One of the girls
asked if Id been watching some TV show, I said no and she joked
you - out! and motioned to the door.

I told her she reminded me of my ex-wife. Her jaw dropped. I told

her it was a good thing, as I loved my imaginary ex-wife. That one
fizzled out eventually, but Lewis then went over to open a 2-set and I
told Matt to stand with him, and it went really well. I joined in at one
point and opened a 2-set, but that was it.

Went to Rev de Cuba. and I had an interesting open. Some girl

kicked Lewis while dancing, so it was an easy open for me, she was
laughing etc. She said it was some 50s dance move, I said why do
you know that? I mean why not, but still and she said This isnt
going wellI mean, why not like she was imitating me. Not in a
bad way, just like she was telling me I screwed up the approach. I
should have transitioned off the opener quicker I think. but this was
just interesting.

Then we went to Revs. Stood outside and Lewis stopped a 3-set.

Eventually I got talking to one of the friends, and then switched to
the third one. She seemed like the really unimpressed one (theres
often one in a 3+ set), but this turned out to be my best set of the
night.

Talked about what she did etc, shes a dental nurse so we talked
about how she trained to give injections. Realised it was logical so I
told her it was the sexiest conversation Id had in ages and she
laughed. At some point I put my arm around her and got a positive
(as in not neutral) response, so we kept talking.

She mentioned that she had a fuck buddy next door. I asked if he
was good, and she kind of frowned. She said he makes me queef a
lot and then laughed at her own joke. I said thatsnot a skill you
want.

I decided to stay on the sexual topic (because she raised it). I asked
if it was good sex, she said no, we play for a bit, he gets inside and
hes immediately like OH (as in, he finishes). I said does he at least
go down on you though? she said not really. I told him she really

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like my favourite thing to do, and she kind of raised her eyebrows. I
switched topics fairly quickly and kept chatting.

Told her she was cool and we should hang out, but it didnt really
work.

I ran Strawberry Fields. She said she doesnt like strawberries, but
did like melons (lol). Said shed eat a whole basket. Gave her the
interpretation and she said youve got me down to a T havent you.
Especially (or even, I cant remember) the sex drive part.

I love it when girls say that.

I told her I said the same thing but I said 50 strawberries. Then I said
most people dont get it, do they? Well just have to keep it a secret
between us and we did a pinkie swear (I meant to say wed keep it a
secret if we did anything naughty but forgot the line. Still good
though).

At some point I actually told her to come here and I backed away a
couple of feet so she moved with me (just practicing leading and
moving so got her a few feet away from the friends). The friends
didnt interfere so I think my one was the Alpha female of the group.

We talked about singing and the theatre I do. Seeded a pull by

saying wed have a sing-song in my lounge with the speakers turned
up. At some point I told her she was the coolest girl Id met that
night and gave her a hug. I then said we should hang out and she
said yeah definitely, I pulled out my phone and she entered her
number (Steve recorded a few seconds of video on his phone).

She saw the baby scan of my niece or nephew on my phone and

asked if it was my baby. I said it was my brothers baby due in
October. She said she has a niece or nephew due that month as well.
Little bit of a heart melter or connection as I told her how excited I
am.

Her phone was off but she pulled it out of her handbag and turned it
on to get it, and showed me her Facebook name.

She asked how old I was (shes 19). I said I was 29. She said oh ok. I
dated a guy whos 30 so its fine. I did pick up on that signal.

She then said I can text her anytime I want. They were going on all-
nighter, so I decided to drunk-n-lonely text later that night (which I
should have done with last nights near pull rather than duking it
out).

Went back to the friends, and I think that was really my last set of the
night. I missed a distracted by lips line escalation and didnt get a
proper timebridge, but this was still something.

I texted her around 2am hey sexy, you still out? come see me. Will x
and got a text back at 3:56 saying no, were going home as Sophie

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I missed that as I had gone to bed. Texted her the next day saying it
was fine and I had just wanted to see her, but no response. Ill text
the classic forget what you look like in a couple of days, but thats it
so far.

Would have expected more, but who knows. Maybe I needed to do

more, but cant think at this stage where if anywhere the faults were
or what I should have done differently.

I did notice at some point she was doing the same thing that the girl
from the next section did. Theyll be talking to me but facing away
so were almost sideways on, and its an effort to get them to turn to
face me. They both did when I changed my body language, but is it
a social pressure thing??

Sunday.

Got out to meet Sam (a new guy). I was so stuck in my head and
Revs was so packed I wanted to leave. Maybe it was the fatigue from
two late nights but I felt really fearful and nervous and on edge. I
thought I was going to go home after half an hour, it was extremely
unpleasant.

Opened one girl at Common Room, but just made her smile by
saying I was leaving my drink at her table and not to tell anyone. But
no real intention to open. I tried to open a girl on the dance floor at
Players by tapping her on the shoulder and didnt even get a look.

Met Steve and Johnny, and we all went to Viper rooms again.

Went to the bar, and opened a girl with a 30th birthday badge on for
a bit.

At one point I notice a 2-set nearby, with the hot one looking over at
me a few times. I hesitate and so dont open. We got outside and I
mention it to the guys. I then go back in to find them as Im fed up
with hesitating.

I did that twice and the second time I see the hot one has been
opened and the friend is on her own. So I open by saying she
looked bored or something. Then the hot one turns to me as shes
finished with the guy and saysAre you here with Steve?

Damn, she wasnt looking at me at all. Haaa. So I say yes and as Im

working on leading I say theyre outside, lets go and lead them
outside. We find Steve and the guys and I get talking to my girl. Sam
helpfully wings the friend for a bit.

We talk about travelling and where shes been recently, just general
chat. As shes talking to me shes getting very close, arm around my
shoulder and body pressed up against me.

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She mentioned we went here etc while talking about travelling. I
asked who she went with and she said her ex. Told her she seemed
cool and quite driven, we talked about work and I awkwardly
transitioned into talking about personality types as I knew a test

Strawberry Fields. 5 strawberries.

She said the test was pretty accurate. I swear this routine is actual
magic.

Told her we should hang out and I then did a proper Timebridge for
salsa dancing on Sunday, and got her number.

I then chatted to the friend a bit as Sam had gone back to the guys
and I needed her on my side, as I was going for the pull. My girl had
said they were probably going to be out all night so I figured it was
doable. I intended to be back home for a Skype call at 2 am so my
plan was to drunk-n-lonely text after that telling her to come and see
me (it was only about 11pm at this point).

They went inside. We left to go and meet Alp, and as it was dead we
went back to Viper as I had an hour left.

I saw the friend coming out so chatted to her for a bit. She said she
was going inside to find my girl and I planned to go with her, but she
happened to come outside just then.

I asked if she remembered my name, which she did. Good sign.

Chatted some more while Sam winged again. I knew I needed to get
her away from the friend, and was trying to figure out how.

At one point I led them inside to go the bar and then back outside. I
gave her my arm to hold on to, which she took. I then tried to move
her down to my hand. She resisted the first time, but took my hand
the second time. Interlocked fingers.

Once we were back outside she was talking about the music as thats
what they were there for. I asked if they had been downstairs. She
said yes and she asked have you checked it out yet? I said no and
she said lets go check it out and just headed down the stairs.

Isolation problem solved by the girl! This was unexpected

I had my wits about me so I turned back to the friend and motioned

two minutes as I headed down. We got in there and I led her
through the dance floor. We danced for a bit, getting very close - not
quite grinding. I went for the kiss as our faces were so close, but she
seemed to be hesitant or deliberately holding back. So I pulled
back. She started talking and as I had to lean it to listen I kissed her
neck once or twice.

Eventually she said the music was better upstairs, so I led her the
back way to the top floor. As we got past the stairs we got to a
corner so I think I said lets chat here as its quiet, and we moved

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Make out pretty much straight away.

I didnt want to do that for ages and so I pulled away and led her
upstairs (every time I led it was always hand holding, interlocked
fingers, which we also did when just standing around). I was going to
tell her she was driving me crazy, but not sure why I didnt.

I was aware of the friend, so I said we should go and check that shes
ok (showing I care about her friends) and we walked towards the
smoking area. We saw the friend was still there talking to Sam, so I
said oh look theyre fine and she giggled as we rapidly turned
around and went back to the dance floor.

A lot of hand holding and dancing, and although we did get a bit
close when dancing again, it wasnt like before and I besides (I think)
kissing once outside briefly, we didnt kiss again - maybe the sexual
tension diffused.

After a little while at the bar, Sam came in and basically dumped the
friend off; hed been winging for a while and I dont think Id have
lasted as long as he did. She was lovely, but boy was she dull.

Anyway, we went downstairs to dance again. I said wed head back

upstairs after a song, and on the way up they both disappeared in
the bathroom for ages. I figured they were discussing what was
happening, which again led me to believe it was a done deal.

We went upstairs to dance and after a few minutes the friend said
she was going outside for a smoke. Brilliant, I thought, shes gone
home.

Had she?

No.

I realised at some point she wasnt going to leave, but I have no idea
why. It was clear we were into each other, no-one was talking to her
(I did turn around periodically to engage her, but the guys had gone
and it was getting late and I was focused on baby stepping my girl
home) and she appeared bored.

She said she was currently living with her parents - shes 31 and
mentioned an ex, so Im guessing thats why. I asked if they minded
her staying out all night or very late and she said they were cool with
it. I also asked about the friend, and she said they arrived separately
as they live in different directions. This was all good stuff - the
logistics were almost perfect.

I even asked her at one point if she was tired - take the hint - and she
said Im alright actually. For fucks sake. So some back and forth, we
went outside for a bit and sat down. She got talking to some guy
outside and I just ignored it (same thing happened inside - she told
me fairly quickly they used to work together and I just nonchalantly

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maybe he was trying to pick her up and she wanted me to intervene.
No idea).

She wasnt happy with the music that was playing that night and
mentioned it a few times. She even commented at one point I must
have thought she was crazy. I did, but didnt say anything.

Some general chat about whether she had siblings, what she wanted
to do for work long-term. I realised it was getting a bit dull so spiced
it up a bit when she guessed I was from the county next to where I
grew up, so I acted offended and pushed her away and told her to
leave. She giggled, I then pulled her close while I joked more about
how I even disowned my grandma because she lived there. Just to
get some emotional spikes in the conversation.

At one point she said that nights out are fun and I said yeah, I like
them and I get to meet cool girls and pulled her close. We may have
briefly kissed again then, cant remember.

Eventually it was winding down. I seeded a pull earlier by saying I

was getting hungry, which didnt work, but this time she mentioned
she was getting that way. I said we could get some leftover fajitas
(Id mentioned they were in my fridge) and hang out, and she said
yes.

The next few minutes are difficult to recall verbatim:

The friend walked out with us, of course, and we were hand-in-hand
up West Street. She asked where we were going for food and I said
there are places nearby. I also mentioned the leftover food again
and said we could hang out at my place and chat some more. She
said yes but clearly hesitated so I changed subject.

We then walked further up and she said she was getting tired and
thought shed just go home. She then said we could go out on a
proper date for drinks or something and what did I think about that.
And about a minute later she asked again if I was up for that.

The friend was about to walk another way and said shed pick up
some food and get a cab. So my girl then said ok, lets get some
food and so the friend changed her mind about leaving and we
carried on walking together.

Dammit. So close to getting rid of the friend, but it was a 1.5 second
window.

She then said I dont really go back to guys houses and the friend
sidled up and said yeah and nodded, which was actually really
funny, and I bit my tongue and we kept walking.

Got some food and they both ordered cabs and went their separate
ways. I think I alluded in the takeaway place to where we could go
out for drinks, but again she seemed less enthused. It was 4:15am,

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was there.

Without the friend, Im convinced it was a done deal. The above FR

may be missing some details that are significant and Ive forgotten,
but this is the gist. The way she changed when the friend was there
leads me to think it was just social pressure that undid it - but Im
sure there are things I could have done differently; more framing of
her being independent etc. If a girl is truly attracted shell deal with
logistics.

Conclusions:

This was about 5 hours all told, so in terms of what I could have
done differently:

Sexual flirting statements - I actually dont think I did any.

I got a proper Timebridge and Strawberry Fields in, which Ive been
focusing on. So this weekend it was 2 numbers and 1 makeout in
two nights. A definite improvement.

I also toned it down. Im not naturally high energy and so maybe Ive
come across a bit fake. This was more low-key, but I rely on being
outside in smoking areas to be able to open. I get way too
overwhelmed with energy and music volume inside.

I should have left and drunk-n-lonely texted the Sunday night near-
pull. I have a feeling that once she was in the cab alone it would
have been much easier.

Something was amiss from a GD perspective as I texted her

yesterday asking how it was going and didnt get a text back. There
are so many maybes that this is why we look for consistent patterns
in multiple interactions.

A good learning lesson, but so long I could maybe have done loads
of things differently.

This is more like it, but I still am baffled by my inconsistency. Some

days I dread opening and my sets dont really open, some days I can
do it like this weekend. The variation in results is enormous, but my
work rate - i.e. volume - is still far too low to start seeing patterns.

Roll on next weekend!

Working on:

Increased volume

Sexual flirting statement in every set I get hooked into

Not relying on comfort zone to open.

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FRs.
Work drinks.

Lucys friend turned up and came with us. Passive attraction as I was
making decisions? Made her laugh by turning logical into funny
yeah, try to impress me motherfuckers!. Flitted between groupsI
think she re-engaged when I stopped talking.

Making decisions.

Pulling J away from the group. Kissing her without warning. Leading
come here, well be back in 30 seconds. Baby-stepping. Body into
it but not mind. Did a good job of saying it didnt count but either
pushed too hard (and definitely got emotionally needy - in my sober
state I would have run a jealousy plot and gone for the other girl) or
she was just rationalising.

Blonde girl Laura. Saying we were going to Soyo. She may have
seen me lead Jamie earlier. Went for her hand and she took itI
made the wrong decision and should have gone with her. I wasnt
expecting the hand. Was it my full belief due to the alcohol?

Tonights FR.

Nutrition bad and sleep-deprived. Super in my head. Did more

opening inside than I have done. Sam played the countdown game.

WSL set. I opened with the hat, told her she could cook for me. Sam
led to the dance floor and my girl took my hand.

Viper.

Sunglasses blonde girl.

Other blonde, why away from friends, smell of smoke.

Then Viper. Cousin blow out when my brain just wouldnt do it. Just
not with it. Started to engage when I talked to those girls I saw a
couple of weeks ago. Forgot the fact, you can text it to me, no,
teasing about horrible rejection. Youre confident, youve got swag.

Blonde girl and friend Lauren. Re-engaged with so are you from
Sheffield then? Strawberry Fields, got nervous??

Alps wing set. Steak. Friend warmed up, languages, works in an

office. Hangovers, new job, Skype call.

Stephanie - wing set, make laugh, tenessee, going home and

coming out, her or me - cant do that to a girl. Steak rare, walk off,
grabs arm. On the agenda? All night? will you be staying here -
might come back out. Somehow led to do you have a phone
number? number close.

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WEDNESDAY, 7 SEPTEMBER 2016 21:08

First 3 things that will go down (so my mental

rehearsal game plan).
Open the set:

Me: Hi, I dont think Ive met you guys yetIm going around
meeting everyone and yall seem pretty friendly!

Group: we are friendly! or hi!

Me: Hows your night going?

Group: goodhow about you? etc

Yeah Im good. Do any of you like malibu? I was on a date with this
girl in the States a few months ago and she kept ordering them for
us and I was like Ok, this has no alcohol I can have a few of these.
Plus they were really good so I just kept drinking. Shit, was I wrong!
All the sudden I could hardly focus my eyes! I found out later from
the waitress it was Malibu Black thats double the alcohol as regular
Malibu. I dont know if they serve it over here, and I should avoid it,
but Im trying to find if any bars have it! What are yall up to?

[or I just open with the malibu opener]

Group: blah blah, talk about drinking whatever, plans for the night
etc

Me: So which one of you is the leader? Whos the Alpha female?
figuring theyll either select my target, or someone else, and so I can
focus on my target by asking why shes the leader or why she isnt. If
she tries to qualify herself I can then tease:

Ummnote to self - do NOT date this girl!

And go from there.

How does that sound? I just mentally rehearse the above, imagining
them wanting to be opened, and smiling and laughing when I open
and tell the malibu story.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 21 PARTLY

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FR: Back to square 0 - 09/09/2016

Game plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening sets (not individual convenient girls) and

running my initial 3-step game plan

Experiments: Whether mental rehearsal* of the above - without

Desire-Repulsion - increases my willingness to open and actual open
rate.

*Note that a key part of mental rehearsal this time was imagining the
girls wanting to be opened before rehearsing the game plan.

My mental rehearsal schedule proper (where I sat down to do it) was

odd 2-minute slots here and there, 15 minutes last night and 15
minutes tonight. So altogether, less than 45 minutes proper
rehearsal.

Got to Revs to meet Kieran for 9, but I was slightly early. It was dead.
I noticed that I felt good as I looked around, which I had rehearsed. I
only saw one viable set, which was a 2-set sitting at the end of a
table. I didnt feel any physical pangs and made the decision to walk
over. This was interesting. I was sober, on my own, in a quiet bar and
I opened a set I normally wouldnt have.

So I walked past them, as though I was checking out the bar near
them (which I kind of was to see if Kieran was there) and then
stopped and turned back.

Hows it going guys? (I deviated from my rehearsed opener which

was I dont think Ive met you guys yet.)

They looked really kind of shellshocked. I continued my friends

arent here yet and you both looked really friendly. pause as they
looked at each other so I thought Id say hi. One of them kind of
smiled and said hi, the other one kind of turned her head away.

So I ploughed on with my story do you guys like malibu? but it

even sounded to me like I was offering them drinks and so the first
girl shook her head. I then told the routine about how Id been in the
States and was super jet lagged but I went on a date with this girl
blah blah.

They just didnt really respond, just felt like they didnt know why I
was there and none of us were comfortable. I bid them goodbye and
went over to the bar, kind of relieved to be out of there. Made sure I
didnt introvert by talking to two guys there straight away.

The important thing is that I actually opened a set I usually wouldnt,

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normal.

Kieran showed up. We chatted for a bit. I hesitated to open a 2-set

who went upstairs, but a 2-set came over to the bar and so I went
over. Opened with hows it going guys? (again, not the opener I
rehearsed, but my logic was the bar was quiet so the havent met
you yet didnt feel right). They were more friendly so asked if they
were having a good night, they said yes are you.

Then I told the black malibu story and the girl actually called the
bartender over to ask him if they served it. Fortunately they didnt as
I wasnt drinking anyway. I started to tell a story and immediately
switched over as girl 1 had a massive ring on her ring finger.

Me: Wow that ring is huge! Is that so you can give someone a huge
left hook?
(she mimics a left hook)
Me: Yeah I didnt know if it was a look how huge my wedding ring is
idea (haaa, Im sneaky)
Girl: laughs oh no, Im not married.

Chat a bit more. Ask if it was just the two of them out - getting some
kind of logistics I guess but nothing else. Eventually that fizzled out.
Sam arrived and we went to the dance floor for a bit.

I opened a 3-set at the bar.

I think I opened with hows it going guys? My friends (gesture to the

guys) are catching up so thought Id leave them to it. They were
looking at me but not really responding so I kept going into are you
having a good night? Where have you been? etc

Two of them had turned back to the bar and so I was left with one. I
think I went into my malibu story at this point or talked about how I
was jet lagged from the States (total lie, it just came to me). So she
was kind of nodding at this but not really contributing. I probably
didnt leave space. I think I asked if she was from Sheffieldand
then I basically stalled and she turned back to the bar.

So I left. Interestingly enough Kieran opened them less than a

minute later and even though he didnt last very long, they still blew
wide open compared to mine. He went in strong and made them
laugh, and got them all engaged. Sam did a similar thing right off
the bat by getting physical with a different set.

I still hesitated later to open some girls near the bar, a couple of
whom were looking around. Should have been super easy, but I
thought too long and then left it.

Just before we left I opened a mixed set (again, a step forward) 2

girls 1 guy by asking how their night was going. Again they seemed
pretty taken aback, or at least I spoke to the guy who didnt say
much. Talked about where theyd been and where they were going

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West Street Live

Jonny and some other dude showed up. I opened two girls dancing
nearby with party hats on by asking whos birthday it was. They
pointed to their guy friend and I asked why he wasnt wearing a hat.
They were quite drunk anyway, but I think what happened was I
stalled or the energy dropped and one of the girls just looked at me
and slowly waved and said bye bye and then said something like
youre on your ownbye byeit looked like I was as Sam was at
the bar and Kieran was in the bathroom.

That one was pretty bad, but I felt better as they were quite rowdy
again. But obviously Kieran went in and got great reactions. Even
spoke to one of their group for a while who I hadnt met. Sam
counted me down so I opened a girl on her own at the bar who was
texting with are you trying to find your friends? she laughed and
said no and I told her I was going to say she could hang with us. I
forgot I had spoken to her boyfriend briefly earlier so we all chatted
in a group when he came back.

I winged Kieran in a 2-set. My girl, again, was really quite standoffish

but I just kept talking - again the malibu story - and she opened up a
bit more, so we eventually ended up chatting.

Viper Rooms

Got talking to the shot girl about why it was so dead, and she
mentioned there was a boxing night the next night. I spotted a 3-set
to my right and hesitated so many times, but eventually I opened
asking them about it. Went back and forth between them and the
shot girl as I guess it was some kind of social proof. It was a little
rough, but they did engage a bit.

Kieran came in and opened, and I winged. But I stayed by the bar
for most of it and had to force myself to move around to be with the
group. I did the Alpha female bit and they pointed to the girl I liked,
but I didnt move him around to move to my target.

He was just being fun and physical, I about managed to join in

talking to some girl about her birthday and guessing how old she
was.

I dont quite recall the next steps, but two left, and my target stayed
for a couple of seconds and said they were going to stand over
there, and they went several feet away.

Everyone left. I went back over and opened a 2-set where is

everyone? and we talked about how dead it was. One girl was a
southerner (from Oxford) and so we got talking about that.

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Eventually it turned into a 3-set, with turnover, as one girl left and
another came. So a long chat, Sam winged for some and went in at
some point.

The best takeaway was how engaged the girls were, and so how
long it lasted. I did ask one who the Alpha female was, so engaged
the group as a whole.

I talked to one girl about her degree, and somehow (hehe) got onto
psychology and these tests I was taught

Strawberry Fields. 10 strawberries. She said it about summed her up.

I love doing it.

More chit chat and eventually we called it a night.

So lessons: there was a definite change to my opening, but it was a)

very short-lived, and b) the hesitation hadnt gone. I opened sets I
wouldnt have - the 2-set at the table, the mixed set, the smart guys.

I didnt go out on Saturday which was a huge mistake, but James

and I did Sunday. It was all dead, but I did open a 2-set sitting in
Walkabout from outside (yelled from a distance like Maxs pier
opener). They actually said come have a drink with us, but I missed
the two-second window where we should have just walked up,
before it turned into them fucking around and saying they were
going soon. He who hesitates, masturbates. Remember that.

Before Sunday I did 15 minutes of mental rehearsal, with some

Desire-Repulsion on opening vs not opening. The key change was
that I did Desire, and once it was as high as I could get, I asked what
state would I need to get higher? and chose euphoria and imagined
that. This was all along with imagining girls wanting to be opened or
feeling horny.

So definitely a change, but I have to remember that a) I abandoned

my rehearsed opener on Friday, and b) I had only done maybe 30-45
minutes of mental rehearsal before going out.

If I commit to 15 minutes plus every day this week, I can see what
happens on Friday. Its an experiment.

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SATURDAY, 17 SEPTEMBER 2016 02:56

FR: Joes Back 16/09/2016

Game Plan: CJs SxF

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Working on: Opening sets, getting through game plan

Experiments: Whether mental rehearsal increases opening desire,

lessens reluctance, or increases opening rate. I did 10 minutes
during the evening, and another 15 just before going out.

Got out to meet Sam at 9:30. He was already at the bar when I got
there.

Opened the two students (one IT), asking if they were students and
why it was so quiet, guessed what they did. Black malibu story. The
hot blonde re-engaged a few times, asking what I was studying and
then where I was from. She wanted to be a barrister but wasnt
clever enough. Asked who the Alpha female was, they mentioned a
group of 10. Phased out when Sam wanted a smoke.

He went outside, I opened the shot girl. No drinking. Nose ring

routine. Sam joined in. Ibiza 8-way story. We shouldnt hang out, it
would be a disaster. Too innocent - somewhat innocent, not really. I
went upstairs and Sam left it.

Dance floor. Re-opened seated 2-set, coding. Looked disinterested,

waited for Joe. I opened a set asking if they were students. One
stayed as I kept talking, cant recall what about but no waypoints.

Outside, cock block daughter/mother.

Band girl for Viper, made her practice flirting after me. Flip hair. Now
touch my arm and tell me Im pretty. Pretended orgasm. Said she
was my new favourite, arm around, fuck T, dont tell her because
shell beat me.

Saw T. Cheating on you. Come out at 2. Run away and get married.
Sugar daddy. Cheat on you and treat you like shit. She told us to
fuck off, swag walked away.

WSL

Wing for Sam with 2-set (how do you guys know Sam?). Jet lag,
malibu story. What she did. Admin. Quite logical but can let go.
Strawberry Fields - 10 strawberries. Pinkie swear to keep it quiet.
Others dont get it. Went to bathroom.

Straight into wing for James (how do you guys know James?). One
from Leeds. Sells apartments. Asked where I was from - youre not
from here. Brainy (did the point at brain thing). Good at convincing
people. Sell me this. Apologising for being weird, faulted on intro to
SF - asked if she did personality tests in magazines. Eventually went
into Strawberry Fields. All of them. Punch farmer and eat his
strawberries. Pinkie swear. She made reference to SF again. Not
going to Viper as no strawberries etc.

Went for next day TB as she was leaving next day. Damn - no dice??

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She went to the bar and I went to Joe. She came back and I
apologised, told me not to. Drink with strawberries in it. She told me
to get another one now, pointed to empty glass. Told her I was
going to but got distracted by her sexy mannerisms like hair flip. She
said she only did it once, I said several it was distracting. She did it
again. Said it was driving me crazy and she did it again. Told her not
to purse her lips or Id pass out, she made a motion on her straw.
Told her she was a bad evil woman. She said theyd meet us in viper.
Another thing about strawberries??

Viper

No significant waypoints

Although that Charlotte girl remembered Strawberry Fields.

Interesting.

Soyo

Actress girl. Are you guys on the water too? Got back from States,
other girl had been to LA, talked about LA. Switched to Lori, as
asked where they were from or where they had been, quiet, just
done Viper. South-East drama school. Glass broke. Reopened.
Acting, my two plays. Film and TV, mine was shit. 4th year. My sister
wont leave London - heart melter type. Really sorry, have to go.
Better if storm off. lol.

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MONDAY, 19 SEPTEMBER 2016 20:54

FR: Goons - (17/09/2016)

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Sexual escalation (as in, compliments) as Im getting

more consistent with SF; Timebridging.

Experiments: Whether Mental Rehearsal increases desire to open or

open rate. Ive noticed somewhat of a difference, but I actually think
Desire-Repulsion needs to play a factor as the rehearsal is not
overcoming the resistance itself. Energy plays a role, but Desire is
essentially a positive energy. As the mind compares options, is
removing the second option the way to go?

Got to bed at 3am on Sunday morning, so this thing should have

been done 36 hours ago.

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Started off in Revs as Lewis was there with Tim. Met them at the top
bar and chatted to them and Al. They went out for a smoke and I
was introverting so I went to the downstairs bar. I bumped into some
guy wearing a prison outfit and he handed me a shot.

Thanks for the opener dude. Tapped a girl on the shoulder Some
guy just gave me this shot, should I drink it?

Note - this was a queue at the bar. The situational opener made me
confident to open. She also hooked right off the bat. This is getting
more consistent. Whats causing the change?

HB: Yes(I think she got one earlier).

Some discussion and then I asked what it was and gave it to her to
smell. She said it was cherry, I said fuck it and drank it.
Told her I shouldnt be drinking as I just got back from the States.
She asked where, I told her Texas. Did my malibu story, she laughed.
I asked who she was here with, she said a friends birthday.
Who is the Alpha female?
Told her my name and shook her hand.

She said one of her friends who wasnt there. I said happy birthday
to the wrong friend. They didnt really hook and soon after that she
said she was getting a drink and turned back to her friends who were
at the bar.

I went down a bit further, dont think I reopened, and went outside
to find the guys and loads of others were there, including Rocko.
They went to Carver Street and I waited for a new guy. He went off
to find them and I waited for James at Revs. New guy came back at
some point.

[I love watching James work. Hes a bigger guy, not massively tall but
muscly. He opens super direct and he hooks so often. His opener is
good evening. He very often doesnt hook, but a) its never bad, b)
he doesnt care if it doesnt open and c) he opens girls I wouldnt
dare open - i.e. there with a guy - and a few seconds later hes in
conversation with her.

I notice all these excuses come up like its because of X, its because
of Y, but he just puts my bullshit to shame. He just opens - quite
physically yes, but doesnt touch. He just opens and it shows me
how many opportunities I could have missed.

Its not that I cant, its that I wont. I need to get this handled,
because Ive seen him talking to hotties I walk right past. I constantly
lose him and turn around and hes in set, guys there, whatever, just
chatting away and the girls are fine with it.

I enjoy watching it, but I really should be doing it myself. No

excuses.]

So I go in and wing him in a 3-set. His target opens but the friends
are totally ignoring him and his girl (whats the lesson there? They

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didnt care - they know what were doing and are allowing him to be
a player in the game) and so I wont go over to open, and so I open
his target. Vibe about her being a dental nurse, try to engage the
friends.

We finish there, and head to Viper. Get in for free, woo!

Smoking area.

Weve been up-and-down, but get out to the smoking area, and
Jacob Prince comes out (he was JP in the group). Tell him Ill be
hiring him in a couple of weeks. Talk about how I freeze. Hes been
here a week and got laid 5 or 6 times.

Theres a 3 or 4 set nearby, he tells me to open. Move into the

pain. I open with the Paris opener. Get talking to one girl, hooks
pretty hard but I cant remember what we talked about. I think I was
just being conversational, also I was pretty aware of Jacob watching
me.

I got phased out of that group somehow, think maybe a guy came
in? I watched Jacob at one point, leaning back against the railings.
Could not have been more chilled out, but a girl was talking.
Interesting.

I open a 3-set asking about the queue for Paris, as Jacob said they
were there on a platter. Get talking to one girl who is a student,
studying to be a teacher.

Told her she was the nurturing type, and how I like girls who are
nurturing (CJs feminine polarity theory, bringing it out)

We talk about that, how I changed jobs recently. She seems cool and
switched on. Speaking of personality types

Strawberry Fields. 2 strawberries. I had moved around at this point

so she had to face me, kind of mini-isolation.

I tell her shes cool, much cooler than I first realised when I started
speaking to her, things along those lines. Shes 19, I say Im surprised
as she seems much older, more confident than other girls her age
etc (forget that one sometimes).

Talk about my niece or nephew, about how I took the job because I
want him/her to be proud of me (heart melter). She says thats really
sweet.

Weak attempt at a Timebridge for salsa. She says she might come
along, asks if its free, says she might bring a friend (??).

I suspect that as I didnt move her to the bar, or at least away so I

could escalate with a compliment, that was her way of clarifying as I
hadnt. So I got the default - remember that her clarifying means I
messed up somewhere.

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Then she goes back in, so thats it.

A few more chats here and there, I open a 2-set and they talk about
how I keep dropping these bombs into conversation, so I have to
disqualify myself. Just general chat, no waypoints. Dont think I
missed anything.

I opened a Spanish girl at the bar, really friendly (with a super hot
friend). They both leaned in as I was talking as they struggled to
understand. Talked for a bit and I weakly told them Id be outside.
Should have just motioned and used Intention to get them outside.

My intuition tells me I could have, but I hesitated. I even asked

James for a wing later, but I felt like I couldnt reopen so I didnt. No
excuse there, just a different kind of AA - about looking needy?? Or
the rejection?

So I think that was it for the night. Opened one girl with a broken
wrist asking if she got it by punching someone. It was a weak open
and I bailed the second a guy nearby motioned to himself (like he
was the victim, playing along). She was standing there bored and I
had no reason to bail but I assumed he was getting jealous.

James opened a girl with guys nearby and after a few seconds they
were left alone.

I got through more, but Im still:

Working on for next time:

Opening - read the above.

Whats the plan for later?

Heart melter (did it, but needs consistency)

Isolation (did it a bit)

Sexual compliment (needs isolation)

You seem cool, we should hang out (did it I think, but very weak)

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CLOUDY

SUNDAY, 25 SEPTEMBER 2016 18:41

FRs
The whole AA on Friday.

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Lighter set in revs

Froze at bar

Winged in married porn set.

Over to Stewarts blown set - taking pictures?

French girls - street set is it socially awkward?

WSL - run into Stewarts colleagues. Irish. Soyo. Eva offers drink. Talk
about Ireland, not everyone would do that. Making friends. Talk
about Stewart. Seed - I have to take you there (rev de cuba). Cook
and clean(??). everything Ive been looking for. Hug, not really there.
Is that what tanked it - social pressure??

James arrives. Too nervous, dance floor. Back to bar. He opens, I go

to lone girl. Guy comes over. Friend working his magic.

Viper was dead.

Crystal.

Go with James to smoking area. Nervous. Girl opens me asking for

lighter. Musician. States. Malibu?? Shes going to Aus. Just didnt
escalate it so went nowhere. My own fault.

Upstairs. Been served yet? What beverages did you order? States
again, girl had been. Waiting at bar. Look very bored and serious.
Want my drank now! Dance floor, danced with girls.

Outside. Winged Rocko. Working tomorrow. Everything Ive been

looking for. Turned her away. Sheffield. Seem cool. SF - 1000
strawberries. Lips line. Seem cool, should hang out. Tonight? No.
Salsa TB. Get phone out do you want to take my number? -
experiment worked.

Texted her straight away.

Viper. Lots of sets. Good evening.

Indian girl - good evening, you having fun? Oh the check out first! It
was good though.

Hot 2-set. James opened. Talk about work. SF - 28 strawberries.

Made me do it on friend. 50. pinkie swear. Fuck off James my high
sex drive girls. White dress kept talking about how she loves
strawberries. Emily - weak seed. How often do you make it to Sheff?
No lips line, no we should hang out. Couldnt get her to turn away.
Showed tattoos. Hot. Should have called them sexy. Switched to
white dress. Guys come in - moved around to get attention.

Are we going inside? Come - white dress took my hand and held on.
Do you want a drink at the bar? James pulled us away. Mistake? Did
she want to buy me a drink? Couldnt get them back later.

Tiger works. Failed to open. James did it. Street set. Didnt join in.

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Saturday

OMG - weak opens. Did that is he nice? bit.

Viper. Lone girl. Strawberry Fields. Tanked after that, but she said
she liked it. Weak attempt at TB. Mother and daughter set. Open
mixed set? Some good evenings. Saw Em. No-one knows, doesnt
count. Bad man. Take advantage. 2 minutes. Could kiss you. Kiss.
Home. Not adventurous/spontaneous enough? Bad framing. We
never saw each other. Curly hair, neck kiss.

Lone girl downstairs. Left keys. How could you? Wanted a cigarette -
did I miss that invitation??

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THURSDAY, 29 SEPTEMBER 2016 22:28

Went out with Stu.

Revs - what does the F stand for?

New place on West Street.

Open at bar - are you part of the craziness?

Psychology and medic - not dressed up. Missed opportunity to say

your bf is a medic to blow him out (dont think they were together)
and move into SF.

3 set at bar. Youre like omg someones looking (lame). Talking - not
freshers, second years. Oh so you know. Dragged friend in. My
friend X set it up (assume she brought her in positively).

Turned around and she re-engaged asking what I did. Science and
physics. Spent my lessons in corridor. Bad boy. Guy came in. Toilet
but Ill be back.

3 set. Talking to Danish girl and 2 guys. Weird accents. One guy
from Essex. Conversation naturally just me and her. Teased about all
the places shes from. Froze when asking about politics. Malibu story.
She spent time in USA.

Strawberry Fieldssounds like fucking psycho-babble. Switched to

talking about degree? Mothers a psychologist. This girl also had a
mad teacher. I turned to Stewart and she said nice to meet you and
they left.

No reason not to say you seem cool we should hang out. It is my

test of my initial game plan.

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Open at bar - not part of craziness. No.

Other set. Are you doing the quiz. Used to work at the graduate.
Why did you get fired? Misunderstood. Ask Sunday?? Didnt hear
what she said.

That was it. But I went out on Thursday - and did a day game
approach today. Small, but love the little victories and momentum!

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 11 MOSTLY CLEAR

SUNDAY, 2 OCTOBER 2016 15:58

Bootcamp 01/10/2016
I had my bootcamp with Jacob last night. It was, by far and away, the
hardest worst most anxious night of gaming I have ever had.

It was brutal. I was drained, tired, wanted to run away and thought I
was going to cry at one point. The relentlessness of the pressure got
me so introverted I had to be told to smile and breathe.

And yetI still pulled. I couldnt close the deal as I majorly fucked
up on the Game Dynamics agreements and so the confusion led to
LMR, plus her logistics sucked, but I still managed to baby step all
the way back to her house (and then walking through the park where
I tried to close but the Confusion led to her being very hesitant)
when I would have ejected at WSL. I only stuck in because Jacob
told me to.

So I made a mistake getting the number and talking about dates

had I said it was just a one night thing it would have been donebut
those amazing moments like when I talked my way into getting in
her taxi were magical; seeing it work was eye-opening.

And the main thing is that I executed the process and managed to
pull from the venue despite being so introverted I struggled to do
anything. So if I can do it on a horrendous night like that I can do it
ANYTIME as long as I follow the steps.

That lesson alone should be worth the price of the program. I pulled
at my worst lowest state by just opening to a responsive girl, sticking
in, building attraction (getting physical) and doing whatever I could
do get to the next smallest step forward. And, CRUCIALLY -
screening whats the plan for later? seeding an afterparty, and
moving the girl (I kept forgetting, but its part of baby stepping).

Offered to walk her out, to walk up the street, to help her get her
friend home (she resisted and I said can you meet me for a drink

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later? she said yes so I said I could get in the cab to help with the
friend and we could go for a drink nearby and she said yes) and got
back to her place that wayI just followed the above steps and I
pulled it off. Couldnt pull her out so I went with.

Then walking through the park where she clearly wanted to do it but
as I had arranged a date she even said lets not give it all away the
first night; a clear lesson that had I said its a one night thing it may
have gone down.

So that alone was priceless.

Interesting that when she said she was leaving, I panicked and got
the phone number - Jacob asked me what I was doing. He told me
no phone number if you want to close her tonighta number
means youll see her again, means no lay. With hindsight, when she
asked me several times on the street to be honest about what I
wanted, rather than saying I wanted to hang out with her because I
didnt want the night to end, which led to all the talk about going on
a date, I think she wanted me to just say I wanted a one night thing.

Whats fascinating is that I think the number and Timebridge/date -

we did agree a date and time - is what unravelled the whole thing.
From a GD perspective I dont see what else I did wrong. She said
lets not give it away the first night. Had there been no date I think
it would have been a lay.

Watching Jacob pull a stunner in under 5 minutes from Revs

shattered about 4 limiting beliefs of mine: the friends wont leave
you alone, a girl wont get physical with you right off the bat, you
cant make out with a girl in Revs at 10pm, and you cant pull a girl
from Revs after a few minutes of talking.

Seeing how attracted she was right off the bat, how she got physical
and how he pounced on itwas unreal. Ill be back in 20 minutes
and off they went.

It did help later on when I just did Strawberry Fields at the bar, not
giving a shit who was there, but I hope I dont forget that lesson. Id
never seen anything like it. The attraction he got from girls was so
clear.

And then the lesson about man-to-woman. I realised with a death

blow to my ego that my good sets maybe arent good. They were
platonic which is why theyre going on. I chatted to a 2-set for quite
a while (opened with a statement, giving value - NOT like every
other guy does) but when he came in with something absurd they
clarified were taken within about 20 seconds.

They saw him as a sexual person, but me as platonic. It wasnt my

good game that kept me there, it was my lack of man-to-woman. He
came in with it, and they reacted almost instantly.

I even got opened by a girl because of what he was doing are you

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wingman-ing your friend?

I should have had a drink or two just to get going - I kind of wasted
it in that respect - but it was so different from what Ive done before.
And I walked home drained, but didnt cry. Hehehe.

So much to work on, but for now:

Sexual state - LASER eye contact (mentally rehearse and drill this).

Open with a statement - bring value. Bring the party (rehearse

groups).

Teasing - has to be sexual and flirty or it becomes platonic.

Practice physicality - physical open, hand on shoulder, affirming hug.

Look for AIs or IOIs. Dont value scan, but look for girls seeing me.
Rehearse pouncing on this immediately. I saw them looking at him,
but I never see girls check me out (expect the hottie at Viper who I
missed).

Screen and move. This alone almost got me laid on bootcamp.

REMEMBER!!!

Stick in until they leave or tell me to leave. Painful, but I have no

references for how far I can go.

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MONDAY, 10 OCTOBER 2016 13:50

FR - Thursday notes
Met james at 12.

Went straight to wsl. Saw his 2 friends. Had to plow. Random

dancing, opened 2 set with shite shirts. I think they asked a question
to re-engage. Asked what they did - tried to guess to make it fun.
Fizzled out.

More dancing, don't really think much happened. James went to his
friends, I went over. Opened new black friend with spin time, my
target wouldn't do it, busted her on it. I think one girl in a set copied
my bop move.

Then we left, met the Spanish girls outside. I talked too fast. General
chit-chat. They said they were getting food, we asked where and
they said they didnt know. Then their friends showed up.

Went to Soyo.

James got into set almost straight away. I stood there chilling.
Opened a 2-set at the bar, Americans. Chatted about that for a bit,

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Portland and Powells, then they said were going to get a seat.
Maybe I didnt move it forward enough? Im wondering if I should
adopt the mindset that as girls want me to succeed, any fizzle out is
not because they werent interested, but because I didnt escalate or
move it forward like they wanted.

I told James to meet the friends so I could be introduced. Met the

friend, got blocked out by James so had to move around. She gave
one word answers at first but eventually I got her talking more.
Strawberry Fields5 I think?

I bitched out of giving the lips line so I just asked what shade her
lipstick was (ridiculous). General chat and I have started doing this
thing of looking at girls quizzically. Teased her about being a useless
tour guide for Jamess girl.

I knew we had to move them, so I asked her if she was dancing and
we went and danced for a bit - I prompted it by saying we should act
like idiots or something. I spun her while there.

This whole time she was still quite distant - like anxious or worried
about her friend (who was pretty drunk).

I had tried to TB weakly by suggesting she come to salsa - I need a

new lower key TB - but as she weakly agreed I didnt go for the
number. Dont know why I do this.

Any who, we went back over, they went to the bathroom while
James and I discussed an extraction plan. They sneaked away as we
saw them leave. We laughed.

And that was Thursday. That was the way we should be playing the
Game - discussing logistics and pulling.

No Game Friday. I went to bed at 7:30pm and slept for 12 hours.

Weird.

Saturday.

Met James at 11 or so at Revs. I got there early and had 2 shots as I

had walked into town. A girl had almost tripped me walking past so I
made her laugh about it but didnt re-engage even though she was
cute. Im finding Im less worried about mixed sets.

Bar - queuing? Fake fur. Went downstairs. I opened again but fizzled
quickly.

Shot with bar girl as James was in set.

Bar and Beyond - two set with saying it used to be Varsity. No-go.
Opened mixed 2-set latersame girl. Haaa. James was in a long set
so I went in. Met the guy in it.

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Jacob texted, so we headed to Viper rooms. Saw Tim with a date. I
hesitated to open at the bar. Went outside with Jacob - it was really
nice that he spent time with me virtually all night from about 11:45
until Al finished at 2:30, and then we all ended up at WSL.

So I had several hours with Jacob again. Winged a couple of times -

that seated set was hilarious. I opened with why arent you guys
dancing?. Interesting that they mentioned they both had boyfriends.

He got me to open a 2-set, no go but he came in with shaking his

hand. Seated 4-set, I opened with have you been to Paris, they
laughed as they thought I meant the city. Chatted for a bit.

Anna. 5 strawberries. Was staring at your lips. Sexy. I think she tried
to qualify herself with her dress. Friends visiting from London.

I dont know where to start, but it was my fault for a) not engaging
the friends (though not convinced about this), and b) not pushing
harder - I think she wanted to go inside and/or give me her number.
But I got the little bit of resistance and didnt push through.

My fault, and the consequences are that I got no further with an

absolutely incredible girl. My fault that I didnt get her number to try
and see her again. No excuses, and only I am to blame.

Inside - dancing and limbo. Being the party.

Girl on the stairs haaa. I opened with are those the hipster glasses?
immediate attraction, take a selfie and add me on Facebook. The
friend came down. No judging, but Ive seen that behaviour in
myself and see now how beta it is, and how alpha I looked, and I
could feel how much more attractive I was to her in that situation.

But again my fault for not jumping in - I had the power there and
had no reason not to use it.

James kept opening like a pro. This is why he gets what he does.

WSL

Saw Jacob and Al. I was frozen. Al bought me a drink.

Tapped one girl open as I was in the great spot. She actually opened
for a few seconds but that was it. So much hesitation. Whereas
James just opened as soon as he got in, mixed set, didnt matter,
and he took the girl home.

I saw the resistance she was getting from the friends and how he
seemed like he had to fight for her number before she was dragged
away. He texted her his name and she texted later hi James, my
friends have just gone home. Are you still in wsl?

And that was a done deal. She came back to meet him inside. Super
cute girl who looked all innocent - another lesson learned. Girls want
sex.

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And he deserved it because he opened. I hesitate and this is what I
get. Its like David and the jobs. James puts in 10x the work and gets
10x the results.

So Im at the bar and a hottie stands behind me, asks if Im queueing

I think. I tell her she appeared out of nowhere. She asks if Id like a
drink. I get distracted and Jacob moves in. I try to engage the
friends - think one told me to go away as there was drama, but my
girl asked if Id join her for a cigarette. I had to walk away to join the
guys so as not to look needy. Then I saw her walk outside alone and
managed to time it pretty well.

Strawberry Fields. Staring at your lips - dont do that. Maybe as a

clarification she was getting turned on by it?? Seem cool we should
hang out. I have a boyfriend. I just looked at her bemused - forgot to
say Im not looking to be anyones boyfriend. Friends dragged her
away. Could I have turned that around? I dont know.

Club closed. James had pulled. Jacob and Al pulled the get with my
friend set from my bootcamp. I was so angry, I didnt go home and
waited outside. Talked to girls who came near.

One asked if I had gum. I said no, she said she needed it as her
friend did. I reopened her later. Shes a PHD student. Kept talking
over me so I really struggled with Strawberry Fields. No strawberries
- went for chips haaa.

Staring at your lips. Should hang out. Got her number. Talking about
having exes and just kissing them when arguing. I said could be all
up in my face like and put my head to her forehead. She said not
to kiss her as it would be awkward, I agreed and said it would be
gross. My intuition tells me I could have just kissed her and the
hesitation caused the snapback.

Chit chat, kept getting logistics. She said she had to take her friend
home - near Eccy road, so I asked if she could sneak away and meet
me for a drink. She said she was tired or they werent going home -
something like that.

Her friend was arguing with two guys. I waited nearby. Didnt feel so
anxious about them arguing. The friend agreed to head back to their
house. She said shed go. I told the guy I was an old friend. The
other guy asked if I was cool as he didnt want to invite a random
guy back to his house. I said I was.

They hailed a cab to Walkley. It was the wrong direction so I said I

wasnt going as it was too far. The guy said so?, and in I got to his
laughter.

I bailed soon after as she kept saying she was tired and wanted to
go home, so I dont think I would have got anywhere. BUT the point
is that despite how shit I felt after James left, how angry with myself,
I stuck around and got into a cab with a girl. Thats two weeks in a

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row of ending up being able to go somewhere with a girl I had just
met.

Dont downplay or underestimate this.

Inspiration and confirmation that its possible. Thats what I got from
Bootcamp. I managed to turn the night around again. I could have
just gone home, but instead I could have gone back with that girl
and tried harder. That was my choice and Im ok with the outcome.

Im not ok that it had to get to that point.

ABINGDON STREET, LONDON, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 13 PARTLY CLOUDY

SUNDAY, 16 OCTOBER 2016 11:16

FUR: Germans and Weed 15/10/2016

[Notes: Revs - drink opens. Opened girls outside asking if it was
good. She reopened asking our names and introducing us to friends.
One looking the other way.

Feeling good within myself.

Viper waiting for James. Dancing weirdly. Blonde bump/possible

proximity. Mimicking dance moves like on Bootcamp. Decent first
try, wave away.

WSL with James.

Some high fives and a couple of reopens. Opened about the band,
didn't plow. James just sticks in.

It's a sticking point - mentally rehearse this!!!]

Ive been using more intention with openers but still weak. Better
results when I go in hard - could feel myself stifling, really interesting.
Once I go my mind has to unlock itself. I force it to adapt by taking
action.

Joe, James and I go to Viper

We got outside and Joe said what about that 2 set over there?. I
guess I had had enough of hesitating last week and I went over with
full power (no hesitation in other words) and opened. Good
evening, are you having fun?

It blew wide open. This was a theme of the night. Maybe it was Joe
calling me on my bullshit, but I opened with more intention and it
worked more often. Besides watching the Blueprint and thinking
about state generation, I cant tell what the difference was. Why
tonight is okay and other nights Im frozen.

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I joked with them. Talked about what the younger one was studying,
it was sports science. The older one was a chef so I asked if she
could make a good steak. She said yes and I said to Joe and the
other girl well Ive found my future wife - see ya! and pretended to
drag her away. We all laughed. They were Latvian girls. I think I
asked who the alpha female was. How long shes lived here. I did the
switch move with Joe which he finds hilarious and girls never say
anything (if I want to switch girls I just say switch and we move
around each other haaa). Asked how they knew each other. I think
they indicated they wanted to go back inside and dance - I should
have led but instead meekly said well be in in a minute.

It was about 12:40-ish by this point and I was feeling unwell again so
I said wed do a lap of the inside and then go home. A girl walked
past and I copied Jamess higher enthusiasm level Good evening!
Are you having a fantastic time?. She kinda blew me off with the
good evening, but the second part hooked her in.

It was either this set or the next one but I got talking to another girl,
brunette, pretty cute. I realised I hadnt done anything besides chat
tonight so she mentioned what she was studying and I said that I
had studied some psychology for my degree.

Yes, Strawberry Fields.

(What was funny about this was that Joe was chatting to her as well. I
had to get the hint across somehow so talked a little louder, but as
soon as he heard psychology he knew what was coming and turned
back to the rest of the set.)

10 strawberries. Said something about her being sexy but cant

remember exactly how it came about. I think I told her I got
distracted by her lips as well.

Got those in so I was pleased I had at least done something.

Then a friend of hers (the dreaded unhelpful friend in a 2-set) turned

up and I pretty quickly got phased out. So I just back turned and
talked to two other guys who were standing there.

We walked back in and I went to the bar as an absolute stunner got

there. Good evening, are you having fun?

She was super friendly - German and HOT - and this was her first
night in Sheffield as she had moved here earlier that day. Her friend
had come with her but was heading back the day after. I told my girl
I was learning German as Im going there soon - true story - and
when she asked I could only remember one sentence. I pulled it
back though, cause Im a champ.

Joe took the friend while I chatted to my girl. General chit chat - I
think I lost my nerve to escalate in front of the friend and didnt try to
pull her away as I didnt think of it.

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Told her she was cool and set up a Timebridge to go salsa dancing
the following week - she went for it and so I got her number. She
said yeah you can text me and put her number in my phone.

She also asked me if I wanted to get something to drink - offering to

buy me a drink - which I declined as I had some of my drink left,
which was a stupid move, because.

Joe told me we should move them outside. I asked if they wanted to

come outside to the smoking area to chat more, and my girl said no
were going to stay here and drink some more. I had asked rather
than just saying lets go outside and now I was caught in the
awkward situation of having declined a drink, and so started to get
nervous about staying put.

Joe and I were on point so we had both separately got their

logistics, although with the volume I had misunderstood. My girl was
living about 15 minutes drive away which is where I thought she was
staying, but Joe had clarified they were both staying in a hotel
tonight.

So I made a snap decision that we were going to do a takeaway as I

had said we were going outside anyway, and we would re-engage
them later. Great plan genius.

We chatted outside for a bit when Joe made me realise I was

wussing out by settling for the Timebridge when they were a) both at
a hotel, b) clearly liked us, and c) his girl was leaving tomorrow. So
back in we went.

They were surrounded by guys. Joes girl had asked him earlier
things like where do you live whats happening later (I think), so I
told him he had the best shot as she was leaving anyway. So he went
in and reopened, pulled her away from the guys she was talking to
and told her to come dance with us. He came back over and said
she had said they were going to the bathroom and then pulled her
friend away from the other guys.

So I figured they were discussing logistics in the bathroom.

Nope. Or maybe they were but you know what girls are like - they
go with the energy of the club.

After almost 10 minutes of us chilling out, we realised they had just

gone downstairs to the dance floor. We went back outside and I
decided on an experiment. Rather than just go home with my
Timebridge, and because Joe is my boy, I decided to risk looking
needy by texting my girl hey sexy, where you at? x

I remembered theres no phone signal downstairs in this club, so I

said we should open more sets. A 2-set walked by and one of us
opened, cant remember who. Chatted for a bit, my girl was cool.

Some guys came over and tell my target to come downstairs as they

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are going dancing. I can see she is considering it, but I trust my gut:

Stay here and chat for a couple of minutesI dont want to make
your boyfriend jealous though.

Oh, hes not my boyfriend

Thought so. So we keep chatting for another couple of minutes, the

guys have gone, but the girls go downstairs anyway, and Joe and I
decide that if the German girls dont work out wed try to pull this
other 2-set.

Back inside, Joe tells me that the German girls are at my 8 oclock. I
say fuck it and walk over and re-open, pretending I didnt see them
at first. Ask if theyre having fun and decide we need to pull them
somewhere else.

We had talked about things to do in Sheffield earlier so I ask if she

has been to WSL. She says no and I say its the coolest, its where
everyone goes when Viper shuts and we are heading there in a few
minutes. I say something else and she says maybe well see you at
the other club. I lose my nerve at this point to push any
further.and that was it.

I still have her number but Im actually worried about texting as it felt
like I tried too hard one too many times. Damn shes hot. Anyway.

That was FUR #1.

We go downstairs and see the other 2-set. Its late now, and they are
the only girls on the dance floor, surrounded by those 4 or 5 guys
from earlier.

We dont give a shit, were going in. Go in dancing, high energy, just
like Jacob made me do on Bootcamp because I was so
uncomfortable on dance floors. Joe takes the blonde this time and I
move on the brunette. I tell her its spin time and I spin her. Shes
then loving the attention and so starts dancing with the other guys.
Im having fun with Joe anyway so pay no attention.

At some point the brunette moves away to the edge of the dance
floor where I am. I tell her to come help me get a drink from the bar,
she says no, but the blonde comes towards her anyway as theyre
heading back upstairs to the smoking area. Joe and I follow.

Its basically empty as its gone 3am, so we just chat. Joe and the
brunette are talking and I go back to the blonde. I run Strawberry
Fields (we get there in the end - some girls do love to talk) and at
some point I tell her I got distracted by her lips. Like with the last
girl, I cant tell if it takes or not - not getting the amazing reactions I
sometimes have. (This is important for later on)

Amazingly, were talking and one of the remaining guys is just saying
my girls name over and over again and she just doesnt respond.
Eventually he comes over and says hes leaving and they both tell

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him goodbye.

So Joe and I basically outplayed 5 other guys until we were last men
standing.

I had already got logistics. She lives around the corner from me, and
her friend is staying over. I had already asked what the plan was for
later and she had kind of shrugged. I suggested we share a cab back
to the pub near her house and Joe and I could walk from there.

Haaa.

So we get in a cab together. Were feeling good and laughing - Joes

ability to vibe and chill and BE COOL with girls is so many levels
beyond where it was a few months ago, Im more excited about his
success than I am about mine.

My girl mentions to the other one she has weed, and so I act all
excited do you?, and we get invited up to smoke a joint (which I
have no intention of doing). So we get upstairs to the apartment,
and Joes girl says just so you know, were not slags [sluts] and were
not having sex so get that idea out of your minds.

So we chat for a bit. And this is where it unravels. This is a FUR, not a
LR.

My girl refused to come outside as she said she was tired and cold,
so I go back in and sit on the bed with her. She lies down on the bed
and we chat. Joe and the brunette go outside as I say Ill be out in a
minute.

Reading this and thinking through it, its almost painful as I see
nothing but wasted opportunities and things I missed.

So were talkingI hold some eye contact, but I cant hold the tension
and so one of us looks away.

Basically Im too scared to escalate.

The logistics kind of suck as they are sharing a bed, and its a shared
house so theres no privacy. I explain where I live and she is
gesticulating and I try to get our hands to touch so I can go for a
hand claspbut she doesnt take it.

I ask when we are going climbing (she had said in the cab does
anyone want to go climbing with me and I said I would as I love it),
she says whenever and so I get her number that way.

I then try to escalate by asking if she is spontaneous and

adventurous (yes I know I should have just kissed her - just nerves as
I dont get here very often, and the few times I have weve already
kissed). She says no and tries to turn it logical. She then says Well I
have a boyfriend and we went to Thailand together in June, and I
had to organise it months in advance.

And that was the end of that, as I got way too nervous to try

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anything after that. I casually went to check outside on Joe and his
girl - you know, to look cool - and my girl promptly fell asleep.

It was only the day after I realise she didnt mention a boyfriend at
the club, but neither did she really take my distracted by your lips
line. Its probably pretty damn sure she just got fed up of me not
making a move.

Joe isolates his girl to the kitchen as I text him that mine is done. I
text him to tell her she is sexy and hes been thinking about kissing
her. He doesnt escalate in there (he says she didnt really respond so
he loses his nerve), she comes back upstairs and tells me something
akin to you and your friend need to go fairly soon as Im going to
bed [it was 5:30am] and nothings happening is it?

So, againJoe missed a pretty big window there. I dont know, its
all learning lessons. But this is the third Saturday in a row Ive got in
a cab with a girl. My bootcamp where I just couldnt close the deal
(total Game Dynamics confusion), last week where there was no
sexual vibe - I think I number closed but she was complaining how
tired she was and I just got in the cab with her friend and two guys,
but bailed as they were going miles in the opposite direction and I
didnt think it would go anywhere - and then this time.

Considering how my AA has been getting even worse, and I dont

know whats happening, this is at least the parts of the Game I
should be playing.

MOORE STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 12 LIGHT RAIN

SUNDAY, 30 OCTOBER 2016 18:30

LR: Alarm Clocks and Fist Fights 28/10/2016

So I think we can count this as my first full proper SNL; from meet to
penetrative sex (including coming inside her, raw). The others Ive
had werent full closes same-night, due to performance issues.

Funny thing is, I wasnt going to go out. I had been at the theatre
and gone to the pub with AJ, Annie Herbert, and Sarah; it had
ended around midnight and I got in my car to drive home but
instinctively drove up to Revs to see what town was like. Once I got
there, I needed the bathroom, so I hit revs. I froze on a set but I
called James as I was in town anyway and thought Id stay for 10
minutes and then go home.

Met him at Cuba, and said as I was going home we could hit Revs
for a few minutes and then that would be it.

I see a girl who is sitting on her own (I assume her friend was in the

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bathroom) but James opens before I can. Im pissed again because
they stand there talking for ages while Ioiter at the bar. I weakly try
to open some girl but obviously she doesnt open and I dont
plough.

Although winging is a weak point of mine, I go over and playfully

kick James and give him a drink. I talk to one girl, just get basic info,
dry conversation, and at some point James accidentally blocks me
out. The other girl sees me look over and kind of playfully mocks me
trying to get in. I have no choice but to run with it and play along
with the joke. I then moved around and started talking to her so we
have basically switched targets.

Mine starts to warm up when I mention I was just in Manchester (her

home city). Chat about that and the differences in night life. I ask her
who the Alpha female of the two of them is, she says they both are.

I run Strawberry Fields. She says 0 and wouldnt eat any other fruit
either - she just wouldnt take any.

She goes to the bathroom and I chill out texting some people. Im
feeling pretty good and laid back. She comes back over but pulls her
girl away briefly, James and I decide we need to move venues as
they are getting ready to leave, but it doesnt go anywhere - just the
vibe isnt there.

James goes to open another 2-set on the dance floor while we are
just dancing and clowning around. I go over pretty quickly. I know I
have to be fun so I immediately go in and tell them Im going to
sneak up to the private bar. I walk over and peek my head in the
door and come back over to say we should all sneak in.

One of the girl asks me what my name is (good sign). Her name is
Grace. They agree and we laugh; its all a big joke. We head to the
door and a bartender sees us, waves us away and shuts the door. I
turn around:

Well done Graceyou always do this

She then plays along and we role-play a massive argument. I like this
girl. Tell her shes either the coolest girl Ive met in ages or a massive
dork. She says both. I sneakily tell her shes sexy - Ive been doing
this thing where I frame girls as though they can get away with stuff
because they are cool/sexy and then jokingly talk like Im the girl:
yeah, just because Im cool and sexy I can do whatever I want
and pretend to twirl my hair.

Strawberry Fields. 10, I think.

We go over to ask the DJ to play Taylor Swift as I joked if he plays

Taylor Swift I will absolutely lose my shit. Grace exploded with joy
at how much she loves her and we went over. The DJ said he was
packing up and I role-played again:

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If you dont do it for me, do it for my ex-wife Grace. (she dies
laughing). Its our last chance to save our marriagethink of our
children.

We go for the pull, they dont agree with our suggestion and say
they are going to The Wick. James and I say we like that place too
and so we all go. I engage the friend and tell her Im trustworthy or
some b.s. (haaa) as she kept saying Grace wasnt allowed to drink
any more.

We get to the Wick and I think our girls go to the bathroom, or we

lose them in the crowd. We eventually open another set (by which I
mean James didthis is still not acceptable from me) and my target
- and eventual lay - invites me out for a cigarette so we all go
outside.

James and I had a quiet giggle. We just abandoned the set we

pulled there and switched to another set without skipping a beat.
This is when the Game is fun.

She has a nose ring so I run is that nose ring real?. I think I run
Strawberry Fields but Im not entirely sure as she talks a lot. I switch
to qualifying by asking about her bar - she runs one around the
corner from my apartment.

James and his girl are hitting it off. My girl is keeping an eye on her
and I keep having to reassure her that James is solid. We go back
inside and they go to the bathroom. We dance for a bit, James sees
his girl and re-opens. I have to go and find mine as other guys are
circling. She asks where her friend is and I say over there. I hold my
hand out and she takes it - good sign.

She keeps saying that her friend just split up with her boyfriend and
isnt in a good place. They go over into a corner and start arguing.
James and I watch as they get pretty damn heated. We agree that
well give them 2 minutes and then step in before they lose interest
in us.

A few seconds later, some piece of furniture falls down.

A few seconds after that, our girls are having a FULL-ON GIRL
FIGHT, complete with pulling hair. The bouncers come in and rip
them off each other; my girl gets thrown out and Jamess girl storms
off to the bathroom.

We almost wet ourselves laughing and agree its probably a lost

cause. James sees his girl and goes over. I check he is all good, tell
him not to fuck it up, and say goodnight (its 2am-ish).

I walk outside and say goodnight to my girl Charlotte. She stops me

Can you please get my stuff from inside? as the bouncers wont let
her in while Liv is still inside. I tell her she has 30 seconds to tell me

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exactly what stuff and where. I go in and get it and come back out.
Even though Im done, I need to buy James some time and she
insists she needs to stay to check Liv is okay.

I reassure her that James is one of my best friends and I would jump
in front of a bus for him. That reassures her a bit (she seems to trust
me), and I say lets go for a walk to the end of the street and calm
down a bit. She eventually relents and says okay we can go for a
walk. We get a few seconds down and I think she just blatantly
asked Do you have any booze?. I say theres some at my place.
She then says she wants wine and I say yeah we can buy some wine
and chill out at mine.

She buys the wine, and I hail a cab.

In the cab, she keeps fretting about Liv so I tell her we can get to my
place and then call them (or similar, this happened a few times). She
eventually calls her to check she is okay. She says she is with James
and shes fine. This seems to relax Charlotte, she says goodbye, and
back to mine we go.

I tell her shes sexy outside my place, and we kiss for a few seconds.

Open the wine. My housemate is asleep upstairs and so I say were

better off talking in my room as the door is soundproof. Yeah.

She asks me why are you so nervous? and tells me to relax as she
likes me too. Not sure what I was doing - maybe being too pushy or
antsy?

She says she doesnt care where we go as long as she can have
wine. We get to my room, drink and chat. I tell her something like

I really want to kiss you now (I said and did a couple of lame
things).
She says Why now more than a few minutes ago? I say its because
she has loads of passion and thats rare in girls I meet. She had been
talking about her bar/cafe and I told her I saw the drive in her as I
see it in successful business owners and knew she could do it too -
this was one of Jasons old LMR tactics.

We kiss more, lie down. She wont go on top for some reason. She
eventually says we cant have sex because shes on her period. I tell
her its fine, its natural and Im just having fun anyway. She asks if we
can put some music on. I do that and she starts undressing behind
me - I guess being cool with her period was enough??.

We then sit down naked (haaa) and she drinks some more wine. I
lamely ask if she is cool with me being naked - I dont know what the
fuck happens in my head sometimes - and she says its fine.

She then says shed hoped I was going to pin her down and take her.
This really threw me

So I told her I was about five seconds away from doing it. She then

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says she might as well finish her wine. She drinks, puts the glass
down and I go to kiss. She says something like dont ever make me
wait this long for it again, which I didnt understand as she had
pulled back a few times. Must have been the period thing, which I
could see was true.

Full-close about 3:40am.

She flaked on a Day 2 yesterday but I had been away for the week
after we met. But regardless.

POINTS TO NOTE:

I may not have done Strawberry Fields. I dont think I did the lips
line. I didnt Timebridge.

Thats the second SNL Ive had where I didnt go through my stack
but then again I did pepper a lot of little bits in there. I guess it really
all is Agreement.

SEVENOAKS ROAD, ORPINGTON, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 11 MIST AND FOG

SATURDAY, 19 NOVEMBER 2016 19:44

FR: Energy - 17/11/2016

Game Plan: Freestyle

Working on: Just getting out

I went out with James at midnight on Thursday. I wanted to go

earlier and was kind of pissed off that he tried to reschedule to 12:30
- but I had texted him about going out so I let it go.

I got to WSL early and there werent many people there. I got a drink
and stood near the bar and started to get stuck in my head. But I
think because I had done my energy workout and some deep
breathing beforehand that I was in higher vibration energy than
normal so I didnt introvert as much as normal.

I did see an old work colleague who I had a touchy relationship with,
but fortunately James then turned up. I told him that I had to do 5
approaches before he was allowed to start gaming, to give me a
push. I think I gave one girl a high five (one), and opened a girl at
the bar asking if she was standing there or actually waiting (two). We
talked for a bit, about the cold and how she was from so far north
she shouldnt feel it.

High-five another girl I think (three), and I may have done another,
but we moved on to Bierkeller and I did my fifth one there. So I then
told James we were good - I think this was the main thing as it got
me out of my head really quickly. I started to re-introvert in there, but

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nowhere near as much. Talked to one girl about double-fisting a
drink, and another girl I opened about her leather jacket or some
b.s.

We met Al outside and went back in to WSL. We went to the dance

floor and did some dancing together in a group. As Al had a long
bootcamp with Jacob I recognised it and started to have fun. One
hot girl in a group behind us started copying the clapping moves we
were doing, and I noticed my state shift when she did - we were
bringing the party.

James opened a few and I saw Al and Charlie with a 2-set. I thought
Als girl was cute and realised that he and Charlie were both on the
other girl. I saw him and he motioned me over. I pushed past and in
a really camp voice said hes my boyfriend as a joke. The girls left
and I apologised for tanking his set, he explained he wanted me to
occupy her as she was getting bored. I went to the toilet and
mentally committed to reopening her.

I went back to the guys and saw that she and her friend were over by
the bar. I said fuck it and went over this is a level of intention I had
that has lately been missing I opened with he isnt my boyfriend, I
was jokinghes way out of my league I spoke to her friend briefly
as Id met her earlier, and then I bailed.

We went outside to the smoking area, James left, and I made the
decision one more set with Al.

We went back in and to the bar at the back. Al then gave me some
incredible advice while we were dancing: tone down your energy
by 40%.

He had already told me not to ask for a name or offer a hand in set
as it is taking value. I thought Id go with it as Im still looking at my
fundamentals.

He told me that he had wanted to say for a long time that my energy
is so manic that I come across as really nervous. He pointed it out
when we were doing the pointing arm and leg shake that I was
bouncing up and down and shaking my head really fast and I just
seemed nervous.

So I toned it right down until I got the movements right. I felt good,
and looked over and saw a 3-set of girls mimicking our movements -
or maybe just mine, I think Al was talking to a girl and I think Charlie
had come back by this point.

The 3-set were copying the moves, and came over to dance with me
and get a video. I spun the hot blonde but her friend missed the
video. They went back to the corner and I went over to Al, avoiding
the temptation to reopen as per his advice. I was careful of my
energy and whether it was needy or chasing.

I danced again, and they came back over for another video and we

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got the double spin. I had noticed when she was back in her group
that a guy had his arm around her and I think had tried to kiss her
and she had given him a friendly pat on the cheek.

So when she came over I went with my gut: Im not making your
boyfriend jealous am I? She immediately said I dont have a
boyfriend This was interesting as she could have just said no hes
not

I said oh thats good.Im the guy your mother warned you

about. using a line I had got from Madison. She laughed
hysterically and went over to tell her friend what I had said. She then
came straight back over with her hand extended Whats your
name? This was also unexpected as it was so direct

She went back to her friends soon after and I spoke to the guys
again. Al told me not to go over there to re-engage, but eventually
once he had given me a pep talk about the plan, he said there was
nothing to lose. So I went for it, took a few steps back and caught
her eye and held my hand out (hand of god).

The best moment of the night She then turned to her guy friend,
handed him her drink to hold, and came over to me. I think I spun
her again, and then pulled her in. I think I asked what she did when
she isnt being sexy in clubs and she said she is a police officer.
Asked if that meant she is arrest trained and said I used to run PST
courses.

Her friends dragged her away to the smoking area (the jealous friend
had his arm around her - Al later told me that she was grimacing
when he pulled her away so he saw how into me she was). I asked if
she was leaving, but didnt try to go with or convince her to stay.

The guys told me to duke it out rather than go to the smoking area -
Al pointed out that the jealous friend would make mistakes over the
next half hour and blow himself out.

So they left, and I didnt flinch when they did. I was feeling so in the
zone Im not even entirely sure I clocked it. Really weird. So I queued
up and some girl accidentally hit me on the head.

She turned to apologise and I just ran with it. Told her I have feelings
and she cant just beat me if shes angry. Turned to her guy friend
and asked if he was a victim too (she was laughing hysterically) and
how he should do the washing up occasionally.

Asked her what she did when she wasnt out being sexy in clubs, and
gave her the Im the guy your mother warned you about line. She
went back to her friend at the bar, and I tapped a girl near me on the
shoulder as I assumed she was her friend. Cant remember when i
told her she was sexy, but I also gave her the mother warned line.

I noticed a guy there listening, so I did the am I making your

boyfriend jealous line and she said oh no, he doesnt get jealous. I

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asked so is that your boyfriend then? and she went maybe
haaa.

Strawberry Fields. 30 strawberries. Some b.s. about where she was

from, and how good her Spanish is as she was studying. It then felt
like it was fizzling, so I decided to leave.

I saw Jordan on the way out, so tapped her on the shoulder. Kind of
awkward for a few seconds as she figured out which way to turn, but
when she did I said I had to go, but what was she doing on (I
fumbled here) Tuesday night. She said probably working. Her
friends were watching, so I turned her away so her back was to them,
and I said Discreetly [so she knew I was socially attuned] give me
your number and Ill hit you up this week.

She then took my phone and got hers out to put numbers in. One of
her female friends did that really weird jealous(?) thing girls do and
started trying to mess with her phone while she put the number in.
But she did it, I said goodbye, hug and cheek kiss, and I leftto her
guy friends staring dumbstruck at me.

Haaaa.

Ive texted her a few times (thank you Todds free texting webinar!)
but have had to email Jason about her texts as shes both really
enthusiastic but hesitant to say yes to meeting up. Needs more
comfort?.

So the interesting thing about this night was the reactions I was
getting a) from Jordan and her group, and b) the other girls at the
bar. I can attribute this to being with the guys (Al especially), but I
really clicked into gear when he got me to massively downshift my
energy and my dancing to stop moving up and down and moving
too much.so I just looked chilled. And that got me in the zone.

So theres that, but I think almost as crucial was the 5 opens with
James before we started opening. Getting on top of the
environment before it gets on top of you. Theres a reason the RSD
guys say you must open the first girl you see in a venue.

Also, I think I had just had too much of the resistance. 7 hours before
going out I was absolutely petrified. But through a combination of
the letting go breathing technique and energy work I managed to
shift a lot of it. But I then looked at my Do It For Her post-it - about
Ella - and I think that was the impetus for me to say fuck it. I think I
just reached such a low point that once I made the Intention to do it
anyway, that was enough to break it. Hence why I went over to
reopen that girl Al was talking to. I just said fuck it and went.

So theres the combo of:

Breathing;

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Energy Work;
Consideration of Consequences i.e. my niece thinking Im a loser,
and deserving an Aunt. That gave me the Intention and commitment
to push through;
5 opens immediately upon getting into the venue;
Toning my energy down to 40% and getting those dance moves
right, including the arm whirl-clapping and not moving when I point.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 2 CLEAR

MONDAY, 12 DECEMBER 2016 05:45

Review and FUR: Cash

Same thing - it took real discipline for me to sit down and write this -
its 5:45am. Journaling has been such a massive part of my life this
year, and Im due to review my entire year at the end of the month,
to pick out lessons and see how far Ive come.

So I dont want to go out with a whimper right on the home stretch.

Same with Game. Ive now missed the last 3 nights out - last
Saturday, and this whole weekend.

The last night I did go out (last Friday) I had a 5-minute pull from
Corp, but it fell apart when we had to walk around looking for a cash
machine, by which time her state had broken and her friend had
come to get us. Had I had cash on me, we could have just got in a
cab and it would have been a 5-minute SNL.

Interesting that I noticed how strong my Intention was in Corp. I

hope it was due to the questions/affirmations, but I was also a little
drunk. I opened her inside, stuck in till we were outside. Strawberry
Fields. Asked if she was adventurous, from 1-10 she said 15, good
kisser she said immeasurable. So we started kissing. I said can I be
direct? Ive been thinking about going down on you the whole time.
She said Ive been thinking the same.

I said I wanted to sneak away with her. I may have asked if she
wanted to, rather than said, but out we went - and that was it.
Eventually her friend caught as the division street and first Tesco
cashpoints were both out of order. Unreal.

Anyway, besides that, Ive had a great year and want to continue - I
must go out this weekend. As the weekend after is Christmas! I must
do both nights this coming weekend.

3-5 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 3 MIST AND FOG

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FRIDAY, 30 DECEMBER 2016 02:31

FR: In The Zone - 29/12/2016

Game Plan: Experimentation following Tylers hot seat and energy
work with Glenn. Assuming its already open and what do I do
between sets?

I did the full energy platform before going out. Ive done bits of
mental rehearsal, but not much. What I have been doing is watching
Tylers infields and rehearsing them as though it was happening to
me.

I arrived at Revs - I opened a M-F 2 set outside with have you been
in this awesome bar? Got my mouth moving as I knew I had to start
talking immediately or else I would introvert.

It was fairly empty. I chilled out by the bar, and luckily saw a lone girl.
There was a 4-set nearby, but that may have been too much. Im
working on the its already open frame i.e. assuming familiarity off
the open and almost starting mid-conversation.

Youstrike a good pose. She laughed. I asked What are you

looking at? as she was just staring off. Looking at the corner seat. I
said its a good seat, but you do get boxed in and spend a lot of
time staring at peoples asses, so depends if youre into that kind of
thing. She laughed and said its her favourite pastime. We cheersd
our glasses.

I think at this point she asked what my name is (did I spin her when
we shook hands? Cant remember). I asked what she did - shes a
nurse. I remembered to follow something like that with a statement,
rather than just ask do you like it? so I said I come from a family of
doctors and they told me to go to med school, and Im way too
stupid, and just act like derp derp derp. She laughed.

I asked who she was here with, and she pointed out her male friend
nearby (think she said just a friend - may have been a hint but cant
tell). I asked her if shed seen a large welshman as I was meeting him
here. He texted to say he was a few mins away. She said are you on
your own? and I told her my friend was coming but she could
entertain me for a few more minutes.

I told her I was working tomorrow, and teased about forgetting when
she was working as she couldnt remember. Teasing role-play
werent you supposed to be taking care ofoh hes dead. Yeah,
fuck my patients. She was laughing.

James turned up, we chatted for a bit and she said see you later.
James told me it looked good and I should go for the number.

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James went into a 2-set, and I turned back to the bar. My usual
pattern, but it didnt feel like it normally does of me just not knowing
whether to go in or not. Jessies guy friend was chilling out leaning
against the bar (cool black dude with loads of swag). I told him I
couldnt look that relaxed, so we laughed and I copied him leaning
back. I made a really sexual pose with a cheesy hey girl finger point
to her and they both fell apart laughing. So I was having fun with him
- he was super cool - but not paying attention to her.

James came back and opened another set. He had a blow out and I
felt uncomfortable. I called her over with my hand. Asked how often
she was in Sheffield, she said every weekend, I said we should all
hang out - she involved the guy in the convo which was fine by me.
He walked away to talk to some guy friends nearby. My salsa
dancing TB failed, as she said she cant dance. I told her fine, just
dismiss me like trash. Shoo me away. She laughed. Hes from
Sheffield, so we teased her about where shes from fuck Rotherham
(a big thing about tonight was teasing girls as most guys cant or
wont do it). He went away, again. I told her I would hit her up and
got my phone out. As I actually suspected, she wouldnt go for the
number - gave me that hilarious bit about not knowing what it is. I
made a face and rolled my eyes, and she told me to add her on
Facebook - my gut told me it was because there was less social
pressure as her friend and the other guys, who I bet wanted to bang
her as shes hot, were standing nearby. So I kind of expected it, but I
didnt expect her to tell me to find her on Facebook. She accepted
the request about 20 minutes later after wed left.

So this one was good - I was easy going and social, felt good and I
was funny. I opened straight away, but was lucky it was a lone girl.
Was there an assumption it would work when I opened? If so, why?
Why didnt I hesitate?

SoYo - self-amuse with 5 outside. Dawdled and realised so opened

girl with 3 drinks. I love how youre triple fisting. Number that can
help you. Bar, girl on date you strike a good pose. Who are you
here with? Guys there, didnt care. She talked to James for a sec, I
reopened. Bad man, guy your mother warned you about. Think I
spun her. Got physical (key) and close. He seems like a nice guy, not
like me. James did the gay joke - I told her to tell her date we were
gay. Guy your mother warned you about. Did she tell us we were
bad men?? Told her she was sexy. Second date. Asked if he had
shoved her against the wall and kissed her like I would have. Feeling
cocky. Later on reopen with hand, told her she was sexy.

3 drinks girl. Met friends, how do you all know each other. Bar. Drink
me girl, was talking to James. Hand out, spin, my kind of guy. Hand
of god over. Tattoo, leg around. Most guys say they love it but they
dont. Girls dont like choking on dick. I would never presume (arm

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around shoulder). I love going down, favourite thing. Is it really?
Special move, from behind. Turned to friend, I got it back with
natural convo about bar. Went for cigarettes. Saw later, would have
spun and given arm to walk with.

WSL - street set. Mummys basement jokes. Toying with my

emotions.

felt myself introverting. Joined Jamess set. Saw Birthday girl, old at
20, take crowns away. Something about I might hate you and she
laughed - good teasing. Jamess girl liked him.

A couple of high fives and spin opens.

Was going to leave but Debbie came along, feeling that coat, spin
and pull in close. Who are you here with? Lost friends. Told her I was
a bad man etc inside the bar, said I had seen girls leave saying lets
ditch Debbie. Could they be in smoking area? Tried come with me,
didnt work. Told her to shoo me away, like trash youre not trash.

Changed the topic or made her laugh, then Tylers walk with me,
you dont have to come with me but walk with me. Arm lock and
outside - it worked!

What do you do etc, mummys basement, masters USA and France -

two closest to my heart. In French, Spanish, told her she was pretty
and did it again in French. My job, I just derp around. Cant tell how
bright you are. Hands, pull close, picked her up and spun her
around. No tension. Quite full-on, but calibrated - hands in pockets,
back away. Distracted by lips, sexy. Most guys too passive, break out
of friend zone, dirty massage - not his knee. Boyfriend, spun her
again. Cant go with what youre suggesting. She wanted it.
Commenting on my cocky body language, the way I lean against the
wall - swag basically. Friends there, old friends - we almost lived
together but didnt - her playing the game?

Coolest girl Ive met - or a total dork. Told her to leave at some
point.

Inside. Really have BF, I wouldnt do that, unless he doesnt know.

Live together. So I definitely wontunless we keep it a secret. Just
kidding, laugh. Then she says hes not here, then waves her hands
as just kidding. (Did I miss a split-second window there?) Tried to get
her outside, no go, friends there - I get the deal, secret society shit.
Ill be in smoking area - didnt take, but we stayed in there anyway.
Saw her later, still physical. Youll never see me again. Yes I will,
always around Sheffield - hint? Went for kiss twice, no go, James
didnt see. Should have tried to pull outside.

Pretty much it.

Great night - now why was it so easy? Consider the elements.

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Energy, rehearsal, focusing on podcast, what you resist persists,
intention - man up etc, and watching Hot Seat.

All 3 main girls were with guys (the last one wasnt but lived with a
bf). I was grounded and didnt let it affect me.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 1 PARTLY CLOUDY

SATURDAY, 21 JANUARY 2017 04:08

Notes
Gatsby open - force self.

Revs - AA

Going for easy sets, not 'approaching'.

Stifling much less - didn't realise. Able to snap out quite quickly and
take action.

SF - 29 strawberries. Had a drink.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 1 FOG

SUNDAY, 19 FEBRUARY 2017 20:26

FR: Momentum
Went out. Probs had to do 50.

Opened first set outside Revs.

I opened a girl inside by tapping her and saying I loved her elegant
badass look; I had to open inside quickly as my theory is if I dont
open almost immediately in a new place the venue overwhelms me.

James opened a set. I talked to the friend, a Spanish girl who was
visiting for the weekend from Manchester. Logical conversation but
made her laugh. I think I did the arm around and called her my new
best friend and made her laugh. Spun her? She spoke some French,
so I did my little tes tres jolie (youre very pretty and so am I) joke
in French and hugged her. She laughed. I tried to get outside for a
smoke but no go as she couldnt leave her friend.

They left and I started to feel more confident opening sets on the
move. I still have a major issue with actually walking up and opening
as opposed to finding opportune moments - like a girl waiting at the
bar next to me.

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Persistence - I opened a girl with you have a very determined look
as she pushed through the crowd. I thought she hadnt heard but
she turned back a bit as I got louder. She smiled confusedly and I
followed her as she was still smiling and kept talking, to keep the
opener going. She still left, but this was actually kind of ploughing
which I dont do very often - so this really extroverted me.

Kat - Greek - taking photos. I did that once, but turned the camera
around. High five, and spun. Got me in photos. She asked what my
name was. Talking to a guy - I think she said he asked if I was
bothering her so he was being nice. She walked away at some point
- she went to the bathroom but there was something elseI think
she walked away a bit and came back.

She got distracted by the guy and I leaned back and chilled; asked
what her PhD was about. Maybe I tried to sound a bit too clever.
Talked about French again, same joke.

Gave a time constraint when she got back from the bathroom - were
leaving. What are you doing Sunday? She checked her calendar -
she was free. Said Id take her to Rev de Cuba, and got her number.
Asked what she was doing later that night; she didnt know, and I
said we were going to WSL and she should come if she was bored.

I should have said can you sneak away and meet me for a drink
later?

But either way, a number close and a (pretty poor) timebridge -

probably doesnt even count; did I say a time or just tomorrow
afternoon??

We went to Soyo - I got stifled and couldnt do it. Some girl told me
she was cold outside and I must have glanced and she said dont
look at my tits when I say Im cold, thats rude. Haaa. I told her Im
just a bad man and moved away to her friends.

Walked to Code. 2 girls walking in front, one stumbled and I told her
that was a graceful save (or something). They laughed and her friend
said she was graceful as the girl skipped away. James moved along
to her and I walked beside the friend arm, and she put her arm in
mine. We walked along just chatting. Asked where we were going.
We stopped at one point and she said she was a nurse. Told her my
ex was and I like girls who are nurturing.

Then we told them to come to Code with us, or something - Ive

only just clocked they came with us and started walking with us in
the other direction.

I put her arm in mine again, she said thanks and I think something
about me being a gentleman. I told her I was a bad man.

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I told them to come for a drink with us and my girl said she had to
pee. James suggested food I think. They turned and said they were
going home; maybe one said they werent hungry. Not quite sure
about this one - could we have done more??

We got to Code. Somehow we got in even though it was student

night. went out to the smoking area, and this is where I started to
loosen up. I had reconciled myself at the start of the night Id
probably have to get 50 out of the way, and Lukes mantra that Im
not gaming for the girls tonight, Im doing it for the girls 6 months
from now.

So I went more actively, stopping a couple. But firstJames opened

a set and I stood awkwardly nearby (I got better at this during the
night, but this is a very common introverting issue for me). I walked
over and saw one of the girls (it was quite a large mixed set) and
opened with hows it going or whatever. She smiled and was quite
engaged so we started talking. Asked where her accent was from -
or just asked if shes Spanish. Shes french so I did my little joke
thingy about how shes beautiful and Im beautiful too in French.

General chat. Asked where she was living and what the plan for the
night was, plus I think I asked how they all knew each other. Im
improving here as I did it several times tonight. At one point they left
- cant remember if I told her she was sexy or not. Damn. Maybe I
hugged her at one point to get a bit physical. Did I spin her when I
opened??

Opened a couple of others. Just getting out of my head and

extroverting. I think James opened a 2-set and I started to wing.
Talked to the first girl. Chatted for a bit, I guessed she was studying
psychology - she loved it.

Strawberry Fields.

Switched topics and asked why she wanted to be a psychologist.

Framed her as being nurturing - did this with a few girls tonight - as
well as framing her as being logical but also having a wild side (not
sure about this one, but did it a couple of times tonight).

Told her I got distracted by her lips. She laughed. Told her I couldnt
tell if she was either the coolest girl Id met in a while or a massive
dork. She said both. Told her she had the sexy nerd thing going on
and asked if she had always been hot or became hot. (I think she
said shes never been hot, but I cant remember if I just ignored it or
told her she was to clarify it).

And then I saw her friend walk over to me - James had said
something she didnt like and she was giving him the finger (lol). She
was pretty hot so we started talking while James engaged the friend.
Talked, made her laugh. Really good vibe. So hot.

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Something about her being crazy, she said she was so I saw my
window. Asked how how spontaneous she was, she said not very.
That threw me a bit, so I then asked the craziest thing she had done.
She started to think. I felt like it was taking a bit too long - or the
potential was there for it to unravel, so I then switched to how good
a kisser are you?

She said she was amazing, and a guy had put her at a 7 or
something like that. I framed (maybe pressure stacked) thats the
thing - every girl thinks shes amazing. She said no Im definitely
amazing. I dont believe you. She teasingly said something like
well youll never find out. I said never occurred to me, Im just a shy
boy.

Told her she needed to stop doing that sexy thing with her hair - she
giggled and asked what. Kept up the game by refusing to tell her. It
was driving her nuts so I said Id tell her if she kissed me. She
laughed.

I asked her how many times a day do you get told you have really
nice lips? She got really coy and said never. I think this was when
she asked again about her hair, not sure, but she gave me a brief
kiss. I told her that wasnt enough for me to tell how good she was.
Eventually it turned into a proper make-out. I remembered the
advice to not do it longer than 10 seconds as it risks pumping her BT
up too much.

I heard that voice in my head, but I was kissing a pretty girl, soyou
knowwhatever. And true to form, it didnt take long and she just
walked off to her friends and went inside. James had gone by this
point and opened another set in the corner. I went over and didnt
need to come up with an excuse - just told him that was an effort
(about the make out). Turned to one girl and asked how they knew
James. Asked where her accent was from. Maybe I spun her - Im
doing this a lot so cant remember.

She was Spanish. Only general chat. Asked what she was doing for
the rest of the night and where she was living. She didnt know, but
she did say at one point when Im not drunk I need to ask you
which masters degree I should take. So I took her number and told
her wed meet up. Again no proper TB, and I cant tell if this was her
clarification. At some point I told her she could be my new Spanish
wife and hugged her. Asked if she could cook and she said no, and I
jokingly shood her and walked away. She laughed. Told James to
stay away from my future wife. Cant remember how it came up, but
she said she wanted 3 kids. I said ok Ill give you a baby right now
come on and took her hand and pretended to pull her away. She
laughed.

That set ended (somehow) and we went inside. Tried to open a few
sets with high fives. Some were stronger opens, even got a couple of
spins in - but I was still really just getting out of my head and gaining

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confidence to open in situations I normally wouldnt.

Opened a girl on the edge of the dance floor you strike a good
pose and spun her and pulled her in who are you?. She really liked
it, I could have gone for a quick makeout. I think I asked who she
was here with and she pointed to her friends and went over, or the
friends pulled her away, I cant remember.

Opened one girl at the bar with you just made the best expression
and spun her and pulled her in. Again really open, so I like this
move. Asked who are you, and she asked me my name - a good
sign. I asked who she was here with and she said a few friends. I said
are your friends jealous? like will they freak out if they see you
talking to an older guy or will they leave you alone? She said theyre
not jealous or something. I think she asked how old I am. I lied and
said 26, she said shes 18. I may have pulled her in, but told her she
was sexy. She got her drink and at one point said she had to go. I
pulled her in close and said fine, ditch me. Even though youre the
sexiest girl Ive met in a while. She smiled and said thanksbut still
left.

We went back outside. Opened another 2-set good evening, are

you having a good time? - good Intention so they stopped. As we
were talking I saw the makeout girl from earlier. I asked James if I
should reopen and he said yes. I went straight over - she was with
her friend and a guy. I went in full Intention heycome and meet
my friends and pulled her over by the hand, to James.

Chatted briefly, asked if she remembered me calling her sexy earlier.

She said vaguely. We kissed again. I cut it off quickly and decided
to pull her inside to the dance floor. I said lets go inside and
dancewell be right back (pre-empting the objection). I think I had
to say it again as she didnt want to leave her friend, but it didnt
take much for me to get her inside. I thought the friend had seen so
I pretty quickly walked us hand-in-hand inside and into the middle of
the dance floor so she couldnt find us haaa.

Dancing, grinding, kissing. I spun her around and backed her into
me. At one point moved her hair and kissed her neck. Put her hand
on the midget arm. We moved around and I could tell she wanted to
go back outside so went with, trying to make it look like I was
leading. The friend found us and we went back inside. My girl kept
searching for my hand whenever we moved somewhere else, so I
figured it was fine and decided to just hold on and stick with this set
as long as I could. At one point her friend got opened or re-
engaged by a guy and so I led my girl away to get physical again.
We kissed in front of the friend too. I moved her around and led her
towards the exit as it was getting pretty hot and I thought it would
workbut she wheeled around and headed back towards the friend.

James found us and came to wing. But as the friends moved around,
at some point she stopped looking for my hand. Eventually I felt like

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I was now following them around, and so we went to open other
sets.

Opened another one outside. She didnt really stop for long and
said she was going to find her friends upstairsbut I couldnt tell if
she was inviting me to go with her. She turned back around on the
stairs and James told me not to lose her. I think I just lost the plot so
didnt follow through.

I did open another one and run Strawberry Fields. She agreed with
the whole thing and I changed topic quickly so she didnt dwell on it.

And then it was just a few more until closing time. I was getting tired
and introverting again. So that was the night.

GOOD POINTS: On Friday I was so stifled I only squeaked out a

couple of failed opens (and one set that actually worked but we just
chatted and even though I got logistics I couldnt escalate in the
groupmust remember this sneak away and meet me for a drink
line - so this was much better. I eased in and just accepted I would
have to do a lot of opens.

Logistics: I am getting much better at asking about them early on.

Numbers: I got two, but didnt TB properly. One texted back today
but I think I escalated too quickly when I asked to meet up. No
response yet.

Getting physical: Im doing this more to sexualise it, and I like high
five and spin open, or at least doing it quickly.

Teasing: Im getting better at making them laugh and messing

around as opposed to just being logical. Like telling a girl Id make a
baby, or telling a girl she was really close to being cool.

MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 11 CLOUDY

SATURDAY, 4 MARCH 2017 10:55

A few tips from Jason:

I think she asked how old I am. I lied and said 26, she said shes 18. I
may have pulled her in, but told her she was sexy. She got her drink
and at one point said she had to go. I pulled her in close and said
fine, ditch me. Even though youre the sexiest girl Ive met in a
while. She smiled and said thanksbut still left.

Old enough to be your ridiculously semi-handsome uncle.

Fine, ditch me. Even though you're the sexiest girl I've met in the
last few hours.

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(I should have said can you sneak away and meet me for a drink
later?)

Program this into your mind

You: Adventurous people make life exciting! Are you adventurous?

Her: "yes it depends i don't know

You: Sneak away and meet me for a drink later.

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FRIDAY, 14 APRIL 2017 23:51

Last night
Disengaging.

WSL

Viper - many more, free. Didn't plough.

Counter intention.

Intention covers everything.

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SATURDAY, 22 APRIL 2017 12:35

FR: Recommit to Intention - 21/04/2017

Game Plan: CJs SxF

Working on: Opening with sharing high vibrational energy; noticing

when Intention is knocked off, and recommitting to it.

Part 1: Warming up and hesitations

I did my platform before I went out, including the exercises. Still felt
some tension, but I reminded myself that Im going out to share as
my only goal, and feeling good about it.

Met Joe, walked to Gatsbys to meet James. I opened a M-F two set
without thinking, just asking why it was so quiet etc. Just a couple of
street opens to get my mouth moving. Opened a hot girl with good

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evening, not expecting a response. She said hi quite warmly and
kept going - so I was annoyed I could have continued to engage.

Met James and we all headed to Pop World. Maybe I opened in

there, but I think it was just a thumbs up/James move on the dance
floor. In fact, I went over to a set he was in and danced with the girl
who was pretty open as she copied my move. I spun her, told her
she did it well.

I think that was it in there.

We went to Revs. I started to get stuck in my head. Revs was quiet

and this is where it went downhill. Very few sets there, a lot of guys
and mixed sets and I have a real issue with walking over as I cant
think how Id be sharing or offering value and so blank on what to
say.

I also hesitated to open a 2-set, one of whom looked at me. I

remembered to watch for body shifts, but usually forget to do it.
Opened one girl outside the bathroom as she turned the wrong way;
I accused her of trying to break into the locked room upstairs. I tried
to reopen her twice downstairs but she didnt hear me.

A couple of street opens including a M-F outside Bar and Beyond,

asking if theyd been in. Opened a girl as soon as I walked in, saying
I hoped the DJ played Taylor Swift. She was Spanish so I repeated it
in Spanish which made her laugh.

Her boyfriend came over, so I went back to the guys and started to
introvert again (Intention knocked off). I opened one more girl right
by me, asking if they were all screaming and laughing because they
were doing shots. She said yes and talked about how she cant mix
drinks any more. It was going pretty well but then her friend
dragged her away.

It was amazing watching James work. He opens freely, and just sticks
in there no matter what.

I was starting to feel like I wanted to go home. I noticed, and

recommitted: No. My intention is to stay out and share positive
energy. And I did my disengaging technique to get out of my head.

We went to Rev de Cuba. Again, it was quiet. There was a girl

dancing with a guy, with two other guys on the dance floor - all a
group. We walked in and I started dancing, she copied my moves.
Went back to her friends, and I decided to go for it - something
about a girl and 3 guys. So I walked over and held my hand out
asking her if she could spin. She wouldnt do it, but laughed when I
did. I wasnt expecting that I was sure it was going to work - must
have been the social pressure on her (??)

Then James went in and tried the same thing and it worked. I was
sure Id gone in 100%, so maybe this is just the randomness of the
Game.

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Then we left and went to the Wickand this is where the night
kicked in.

Part 2: Near pulls and group theory.

This is now two weeks old, so I cant remember all. I went outside to
speak to Joe as we were both overwhelmed by the environment. A
girl asked me if I had a lighter or spare cigarette. Talked to her
briefly, and re-engaged as she walked away.

We have a mutual friend, so just talked about work. I told her she
was sexy. She said how do you know? as wed only just met. Her
friend came to pull her away and we went back in. I may have run
Strawberry Fields.

Fortunately James was with her other friends. We were all dancing
and I guess what I did well was to switch between girls - her other
friend kept dancing with me and so I made sure to focus on her, and
periodically turn back to my girl and spin her and dance a bit.

I asked where they were going afterwards. She said they didnt know
and I seeded the bounce were going to xyz place. Both places I
suggested she said she didnt like. I asked if she could sneak away
and meet me for a drink later.

She said she was maybe staying with her friends and then said Did
you hear the maybe in that? I said yes but then said we were going
somewhere else as I knew I needed to bounce her elsewhere. She
said I could take her number and she put it in my phone this was
unexpected

More dancing, and I then asked her if she was coming outside for
another cigarette (I needed to get her alone). She said great idea.
She mentioned it to her friend who clearly wasnt having it, but when
she turned away to dance with either James or Joe (I loved the way
the three of us were doing with the three girls in terms of getting rid
of other guys and switching girls) I then saw my window and told her
lets go outside.

She did and we spoke some more. Just chitchat, I think I asked what
she was going tomorrow and where we both live etc. Then at one
point while were talking she pulled out some lip gloss and started
putting it on. No way I could miss that! So she was talking and I told
her I got distracted by her lips, and they were sexy etc. She said the
lip gloss makes her lips expand or something.

More talking and I just kissed her mid-sentence. Very short as I could
tell she wasnt a public kissing fan - just not much commitment but
she still went with it, if that makes sense.

Went back inside. I told James and Joe we needed to bounce as the
energy in the place was dying and people were leaving. We left

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them for a few minutes to go the bar. A risky move but it had looked
like we were loitering so we risked it. A few minutes later they said
they were leaving and we walked out with them.

Tried to bounce to Division Street but they werent having it. She
said I could text her tomorrow and her friend looked at both of us
and said you two are sexyyou should definitely text her

And that was it.

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SUNDAY, 30 APRIL 2017 14:35

FR: Grind it out

The last few nights out have been basically getting my ass handed to
me. I have barely hooked a set.

On Friday I winged Sam with a two set on the street - in that he

opened, and it went well, while I dawdled, and then two guys came
in and took over. I told him I thought it was still good and we could
bounce to a cash machine.

So we walked over and I said were going to get cash, come on and
that was enough for them to come with. I walked with my girl and
said arm and she put her arm in mine. That was good leading I
guess.

Asked where she was from while we walked, told her she was too
sexy to be from Sheffield. James had turned up, so he and Joe were
walking behind.

I think they wanted to go to Crystal, so we let them go as I dont

think they were massively keen - or my Intention was weak.

Opened another girl at the cash machine, told her it was badass for
queue jumping. Dont recall what happenedI was pretty drunk.

So the last few nights. Weve been in loud venues, Ive done a few
high fives and spins with a few pull-ins and who are you? but they
just havent hooked. I think Ive tried a few times to keep it going as
they walked, but its either I give up too quickly or its just not a good
technique. I find it so hard in these venues and dont know what else
to do. But thats pretty much all the venues around here. Deafening
bars or proper dance clubs.

I did open a girl walking into Soyo teasing her about getting IDd.
She tried to get me to buy her drinks, and I said no but set her the
challenge to see if she could get a guy to buy us both drinks if she

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was good enough. She said Ive got boobs of course I can and
pulled her top far down to show cleavage.

I reopened later on with did you succeed? She said no and I said
well if you do, mines a Jack and Coke. She said she couldnt do it
and I just said oh right and walked away to my friends. Definitely
got her intrigued as later on the dance floor I saw her looking over
once or twice.

But fuck knows where she went. This is why I dont drink.

If I think about it, the last two (horrendous) nights I cant tell you
what my Intention has been. Just to not get rejected? Just to share a
good vibe? Am I coming from a needy place even though I dont
think I am? Its been like pulling teeth.

Last night I spoke to precisely ONE girl as when I wasnt freezing my

other opens just did not take. I opened her by the DJ booth (James
was in set with all her friends) and told her I asked the DJ to play
Taylor Swift and she laughed when I said he wouldnt. Then I got her
to ask the DJ.

She started asking questions where are you from? Did you move up
here for Uni? etc. So she was asking questions and engaging really
quickly. She asked where I live, and she was surprised Id heard of
her neighbourhood.

I went off to find James and Joe and I put on these joke sunglasses
James had. We went back to near her group and she came over to
me to put them on.

Talked some more and I asked where she was going after this. She
said home, and that she only comes out once every few months. She
wouldnt give me her number, just said next time shes out maybe
shell run into me. She did leave before her friends did, so not sure
what all this was about. She was clearly somewhat interested but I
cant tell what I could have done differently.

Told her she was cool and we should hang out. No-go. But she
asked me questions really early on, and came over so we could re-
engage. That may have even happened twice.

I need a better strategy for these venues. When dancing I dont think
I have the presence to walk up low energy and just start talkingbut
I just feel really incongruent and uncomfortable dancing and doing it
that way.

A lot of this is still uncertainty about how to open in these venues

and do it solidly. And also just my discomfort and unwillingness to
just walk up and start talking. A physical open is good but so so
unreliable. Some girls will hive five and spin, others will weakly high
five and others just turn away. Thats the majority.

Stillhonour the struggle I guess.

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SoJasons advice was to monitor my Intention and how often it
gets knocked off. What was my Intention here? Because if thats
whats getting broadcast, if its just a hope that a set will open and
hook - what am I broadcasting?

I know I can do this. I just get in my own way.

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MONDAY, 1 MAY 2017 01:05

Why was tonight different?

Intense EPR beforehand a couple of hours good use of grounding,
10 minutes in the silent pause. I also did a huge amount of revision,
and some mental rehearsal but got to the place of feeling neutral no
attachments no aversions.

Remember I was feeling extremely low vibrational energy when I got

out there. We started off in Revs and I guess the important thing is
that I got into opening quickly. Now it was easy that time because
the place was so full. I think my first open was the double tap good
like pushing through there and fortunately the girl in gauged act and
then it was a couple of you have a good crowd control you're good
at pushing through, or I I did a few it's alright I'm not following you
I'm just letting you push through,. The point is that I did them
extremely rapidly, and they were situational openers.

And once we got down to salsa, I wasn't feeling it but when we went
to Revs I got back into it because I took control of the environment
and went straight to the dancefloor. I danced with those girls the two
of them, and if I recall correctly I spun and then said to one of them
can you spin because they were laughing and I spun both of them.
Then we joined the train and that was more fun, I opened ago as we
were leaving with is that a gin and tonic? And she said it was a vodka
lemonade and I said I thought it was too posh for this place.

Open the girl on the street with high-five and she spoke in Spanish
and then she reached for me to take your hand so I could've taken
that much further, the point is that I persisted and kept going I
could've gone much further. My intention was good because I think
my intention was clear better not entirely sure that attention was!

Revs again we went upstairs and as I was dancing I saw that girl
looking at me so later on I just went and tapped on the shoulder to
taps why are you dancing and texting most girls can't do that, and
she said it's because I'm cool so she engaged quickly. And then I
went into who are you here with how do you know them where are
you guys going after this?

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When I went for the high-five and it didn't work, this is downstairs on
the dancefloor, and when I tried again she said are you collecting
high-fives and then I spun her.

I persisted with the girl with the drink, saying I would take it then
kept going even after the blowout.

In rev de Cuba with James open and I went up and did the can you
spin.

Life comes from you not to you, so I can only assume the things I did
beforehand were what made the difference. This energy players 90%
of it, so I cannot afford to slack on it again, let this be a lesson.

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SATURDAY, 13 MAY 2017 17:38

Thinking about last night, there wasnt much in

interactions to write about.
The unexpected things:

The girl sayingyoure cool, we should hang out, give me your

number.

The girl saying if she was single shed probably kiss me.

The girl who hugged me and got close and said believe me Id
rather stay here with you and chat shitthen when leaving put her
arms around my waist and held on.

But lets face the issues. I did hours of EPR, a lot of mental rehearsal,
however long in the silence, and was still frozen.

I know the issue is ultimately energetic.

What happened was I hesitated with the girls outside Tesco. We got
to Popworld and it was too loud for me to open. We went to Revs
and I didnt open - notice it was i) because it was quiet and I would
have to walk up, and ii) my internal thought was what should I
say?.

I opened the girl with good pose and she turned to her boyfriend.
They looked over at me a couple of times and I feltpressured and
stifled.

I wanted to give up at 12.30 and we went to Corp. I felt frozen and

stifled inside Corp - did I anticipate bad reactions?? even in the
smoking area it wasnt until I just FUCKING DID IT and did some

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approaches that I started to loosen up. I didnt get out of my own
way.

The issue was I did not follow the process which is just to get rapid
approaches out of the way. A space opened up, and LVE jumped in
and filled it.

The space was hesitation and what should I say?

I didnt follow the process. Why? Space and an LVE attack. It just
means I have work to do to remove this LVE and be prepared so
space doesnt get created.

So why did the space get created?

The action is the result, not the problem.

What emotions, what energies are going on inside me that lead me

to frustrating behaviours?

What energies, emotions, and viewpoints are leading me up to this

issue, so that I cant get over it?

I shouldnt approach, I dont know what to say, its an interruption, its

going to go badly, I feel awkward and stifled, Im weird and bald, I
just feel creepy, Im too old, I dont want to do this, this is horrible, I
want to go home, I need an excuse to go up there, Im an
inconvenience, Im ruining their experience, theyll look at me
horribly, I dont like this feeling.

My women story

PART 1 - EARLY LIFE TO END OF COLLEGE

The first one was at Mrs Mays, when I remember chasing a girl
around the pool with Luke, and I remember being rejected in one
sense but I didnt know what it was.

Then there was the childhood issues with Annie. We were small
children and so in one sense didnt know, but in another I knew it
was wrong. And it carried on way too long, until I was definitely old
enough to know better. The regret, the guilt, the intense shame
when I think about it.

And then there was the Solefield dance, where that girl danced with
me a bit, but then I think danced with George and I told Mr
Hamilton that she dances with me every other song and felt
awkward about it.

And my parents driving me there and talking about dishy dolly

birds and dad giving me a pen and paper to get numbers. Feeling
so awkward and uncomfortable about it.

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Then I got to Sutton Valence, and met Cat. First day, Tam and Cat
coming to sit with me, and me telling Josh I fancied someone and
he yelled in Cat, its youthen asking her out and she said just as
friends. I then lied and told people otherwise, or Sophie asked
hows Cat? and I gave a thumbs up.

Someone telling me she said Im going to kill him.

Then it was the constant calling and pleading with her. The phone
call where she left me and I said that was the first time Ive cried
trying to get sympathy.

Remembering she was ill in class, and feeling really concerned but it
might have been for show.

Then she started seeing Luke Harding, and someone told me they
were kissing and I wanted to walk past and say dont mind me
because I was jealous. Then the issue in the corridor where she
slapped him and he said come on thensilly bitch.

And her ex-boyfriend DJ and the party, he said so youve been

buying my ex girlfriend presents and me justifying it and him saying
he was joking. Stefano telling me she got fingered, three fingers up
her fanny, and that I wouldnt like hearing this.

Me lying about my grandfather dying to get sympathy, someone

telling me she wanted to give me a hug but it doesnt mean
anything. And then her saying she liked my confidence because I
asked for another one.

All the calls, and the phone bills. Saying wed go on a night out and I
had to call and leave a message saying somethings happened with
mum listening. The condemnation and blame related to calling her
and it racking up a huge bill.

Art lesson, her saying to Tam bitch, stay away from my man. I asked
her whats the deal with you and Dan? and she said oh my god,
you are pathetic!

Me stealing money to take her shopping and her saying I cant be

bought, the kiss on the cheek at the end and me skipping away in
delight.

Did she change schools?

Then Emily. Saying Id ask her out and it got messed up. Talking to
AH, and then all the phone calls. Her saying did you missed call me
30 times? and James Park saying hes so embarrassed, look.

Then Peter saying did you ask Emily McDonald to go to America

with you?.I love taking the piss out of you. Telling LH she
reminded me of that song and her skipping away.

The one time we spoke in the refectory, and her waving goodbye

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and me calling her that night.

Writing the Valentines card and someone told me she said oh god,
and I walked away and punched the locker.

Me asking out Sophie and telling her someone else liked her and
she said no.

Charley Sax, and she was thinking about me and then the next
daylikeno.

That first year girl (May?), and I think asking Josh about her.

Jealousy at the party when Alex Mills kissed Rosey.

Lois hanging up on me and someone asking why I bored her so she

hung up.

Me trying to impress her by saying I broke Nicks arm?? I definitely

stole some jewellery and gave it to her, she disappeared and I asked
if she was laughing at me and someone said no, but asked why I did
it.

PART 2 - UNIVERSITY

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SATURDAY, 20 MAY 2017 13:12

FR:
The reason youre doing this is to help your recall AND to keep
things in your awareness so you can begin to notice patterns. THIS
IS VERY IMPORTANT! Please, please, please do it.

9 MOWBRAY STREET, SHEFFIELD, ENGLAND, UNITED KINGDOM 16 PARTLY CLOUDY

SATURDAY, 20 MAY 2017 17:49

FR: Back to basics 18/05/2017

Game Plan: Conversational Blueprints Mission #1 - 50 Groups.

The reason youre doing this is to help your recall AND to keep
things in your awareness so you can begin to notice patterns. THIS
IS VERY IMPORTANT! Please, please, please do it.

As a cycle, what did I do? Mystery Method videos, reconnected with

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the point - results. Intention by setting up experiments, tracking -
how did I miss the way to do it: defined experiments and continuous
improvement related to those goals. Before it was what should I
change if X happens again, now it's what should I change to hit that
target. It has a defined output I think I missed before even though it
was obvious!

So Intention, defined targets and KEY the idea of improving a skill

and going back to basics to master each step. Just weekly targets,
no account of how I feel.

Platform, gratitude that LVE is coming up, grounding with goals, how
do I want to feel opening, in that energy rehearsing specifics.
Mentally rehearsing the words too - so its in my head. Then inhaling
that, going into silence, and letting it go - no thinking afterwards,
only presence.

Gatsby - tap open g and t, tap guy open.

I was going to leave but remembered my intention. She was in a

group but I tapped her on the shoulder and asked if it was a G&T.
She said no but pointed to another guy in her group. I walked over,
tapped him and asked and talked. It was good that I opened and
went over as she was with a group.but not sure this counts strictly
as a group open for my purposes. My Intention is to get comfortable
opening and delivering a routine TO A GROUP.

Popworld - sway dancing, High five, Malibu? S on beach.

Same here. I had good energy because she danced towards me as I

mimicked. Made sure I opened with Malibu opener, but not a group.

Kettle - excuse me sorry Malibu and coke? Rum, Malibu story, dom
rep 82%, legal, more for me!

This was good, my best of the night. I went up to her at the bar,
tapped and did the wording excuse me, hi, Im sorry.. Im trying
that instead of just launching into it, giving a bit of empathy as I just
need their attention long enough for me to deliver the routine. I got
to deliver the routine and she hooked and told me about how she
got a strong drink on holiday, so that was exactly the reaction I
wanted - but again it was a solo open. This is all good - and
reference points - but I am strictly building up to comfort with
opening groups. Thats it.

Hesitate on fire 2-set and winging 4 set. Went over after bathroom,
was fine.

James opened a 2-set right next to us, and although I engaged

briefly when they were talking about speaking Welsh, I still hesitated
and hung back. Why? This is important as its something about
engaging a group of girls. Is it What would I say?

But when I went over to his big 4 set, with a big hi, intending to say

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how do you know James, with the new routine firmly in my mind of
launching straight into Rings on Fingers, it went really well as they
were having loads of fun and we carried on. Not a group open per
se, but a good experience of holding or catching their attention.

Same with married 2 set by door. Didn't engage properly - why?? I

went in pretending to ask him if we were leaving. Why am I so
uncomfortable going in second? It was bad enough, and the other
one seemed so closed off that I just said Ill be outside and that I was
working.

But I went back in having taken some time, with I didn't mean to be
rude, and apologised, and despite the silences eventually made her
laugh and warm up because I kept going and teased her about her
body language etc. I just had to keep talking.

Maybe its because I saw the wedding ring and felt awkward about
them thinking I was picking them up? I dont know. A promo girl said
last night I was really fun to chat to, so what gets in the way of me
being able to do that here? MAYBE its very simple.I dont have a
plan of what to say and how to enter that I have decided and
rehearsed ahead of time!

Come up with a plan!

Soyo - opened with your definitely classier than me to a girl who

mimicked my dancing. I felt better about opening that time, maybe
because I had an intention to open tonight.

Old house - just water. Malibu in it? Taste. States

This one was good. Again, not a group open but I ordered water
next to a hot girl at the bar and said I feel like an arsehole for just
ordering water and she laughed. I then delivered my Malibu routine
and she gave me a taste of hers. Good reaction. She was with the 2-
set that James opened, but I didnt follow over. This is a sticking
point as it happened at least 4 times tonight! Decide a solution!

Wick - push circle, best expression- determined x2

Opened a girl as I pushed past her, jokingly apologised for breaking

up her circle. She laughed and I said it normally happened to me. I
opened two girls in a row with you just made the best expression
the look of determination to push through the crowd and they both
laughed.

Very shiny, like it, couldn't pull off - skin tone

Told a girl she was very shiny (her coat), and I liked it, she put her
arm against mine to compare the colour(?), told her I didnt have the
right skin tone and she laughed.

Group - wsl closing time? 1f 4m

We left and I realised I had missed a group outside - 1f and 4m, so a

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know what time WSL closes?. It wasnt my intended routine, but I
did go back to open the group.

2 set street been to wsl? Hard stop

Tried a hard stop on 2 girls walking with have you been to WSL?
They didnt stop but I did go in hard which was good.

Hard stop - Katie red dress have you been to popworld?

James told me to open a lone girl with the same have you been to
Popworld opener. She stopped and we had a long chat, she was
fun. Threw in a fine, throw me away like trash, tell me fuck off Will I
never want to see you again and she played along. One of my
experiments was to go for at least one number and I didnt do it,
could have. She liked us as she was tempted by food. Could have
pushed further.

Popworld Malibu in it? Hesitated first. Take what you're given.

This one was again a solo girl. What was good was I hesitated for
ages, especially as when I was about to go her friend gave her
money and I thought Id interrupt.but I made sure I opened a few
seconds later. Does that have Malibu in it? She said she didnt know,
and I joked she just takes what shes given and she said yes.

Tiger works - james said open set. Headband? 2m 2f?

James told me to open a 3 or 4 set behind me (2m 1f?), and I saw

the girl had a LED headband on so went straight in. I kind of asked
her by tapping and she pointed to a guy in the set and said he got it
so I went over to ask him. BUT the win is that I got all their attention
at the same time. I think I went in hard enough that I opened all of
them together??

Opened 2f 1m, does that have Malibu in? Fishbowl. Bye high five,
spin

Straight in to a 3 set behind me with the Malibu opener. The girl said
she didnt know and gave me a taste. I teased her it was a drink she
found, and that she just wanted a fishbowl. I gave her a high 5 and
spun her, then she held on. I like 2f 1m sets like that, I could have
kept it going.

Street wsl red dress determination high five leave me hanging spin

Opened another girl outside WSL with determination. What was

interesting was she left me hanging for a high five but when I kept
saying dont leave me hanging, she came back to do it.

Wsl queue - they've abandoned you and left with these horrible
boys

Solo open with a girl left beside us in the queue. Good fun and
playful as I teased her and accused her of queue jumping etc, but

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16 opens overall. Pretty good, a huge reduction in AA as I had an

Intention to open, and a target of 12 opens to hit.

Conclusions? I did something right with these exercises and the

setting up of the group with firm experiments and targets to hit. Its
like an Intention and an accountability measure.

Need to get smoother with the Malibu opener on groups, but Ive
got 50 attempts just to get comfortable.

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James didnt turn up, but I was out for an hour.

I went to Gatsbys, hesitated to open - there was a set by the bar and
another one came in as I was there. I could have easily said you can
go ahead Im not queuing, but I didnt.

It was rammed in there so I walked down to see if Jamess car was

around. It wasnt and I kind of suspected he had overslept. But I
walked up to get my bands and went to Viper - almost didnt let me
in as I was solo but the other bouncer recognised me.

Walked in and queued at the bar. It was very quiet so I was starting
to introvert - but not much. It was more a social anxiety as I knew it
was slightly odd.

I saw a 2-set (or 3?) up at the bar and went for it, opened with
Malibu, but as I walked up to one girl as they were in a line, not sure
it counts as a group opener. She was nice but told me to ask the
bartender haaa. Maybe better to do it away from the bar?

Then I went outside and opened the shot girl with Its as packed out
here as Id hoped (it was almost dead outside). Talked to her for
ages, busted her on being a lousy flirt a few times. Just having fun
and chatting which was good.

Then she went in and I stood there on my own, looking at my phone.

There was a 3 set there, one solo guy had opened them so was
chatting on their right. I hesitated loads, and felt pretty awkward, but
eventually had to go for it. I opened with Malibu and if I recall, two
of the three turned around and I delivered the routine.

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They were nice but it fizzled and they turned back around. I kind of
squeaked nice talking to you and felt that awkwardness as I walked
away and went back inside. Need to hold it stronger so I end it with
nice talking to you.

It doesnt matter how they react, I am just building a skill.

Then I left and decided to head back up as I realised James wasnt

coming. Opened a 2-set at the traffic lights as the younger one
(turned out to be a mother and daughter) had those big novelty
shades on. Talked to them as we walked, loads of fun, the girl was
dragging her mother to Corp for the first time. I teased her shed be
like what the fuck is this? I actually said that Id be there later on
and shed say that to me.

I actually could have gone with them, but I walked up towards my

car. This new OHM bar had opened, so I saw a 2-set coming out and
opened with have you been inside? How is it? and chatted to them
for a bit. Then once we said goodbye the promo girl started talking
to me and we chatted for ages about loads, the bar and travel etc.
She had a boyfriend but was super cute.

She said I was really fun and pleasant to chat to - so what is getting
lost when I do Game? Could it just be a skill set I havent smoothed
out? Its all about smooth enough delivery to get to the stage where
I can chat like that.

I would have gone in, but didnt want to risk running into Erin while
solo, so I went home as it had been about an hour.

Good points: I stayed out on my own, and did go for a few group (or
at least 2 set) opens; same the night before.

Definitely behind on my target, and if I keep my intention to follow

the plan I have to do a lot on my own on Friday and Saturday (unless
I can convince Joe to come out).

Im babysitting Friday, but shouldnt miss a night out if I have to go

solo. Just go up, deliver the routine X number of times, and then
bounce. The faster I do it, the sooner I can go home!

BOOM.

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