v v in) t n 1. A symbol that has had an impact on my life is the ASL sign for “I love BC oon pt y be ' I Emily Huttner ctivity B - Week 3 1". My father ost 90% of his hearing as a child from meningitis and has worn hearing aids. since be was three years old. Growing up we did not use sign language, but we were taught to cenunciate and speak slowly so my father could lip read. Even though we did not lean ASL, my father did use the sign “I love you" regularly. This was something that I thought ‘was unique to my family and it still is special to me. Any time I left the house to go to school or just to g0 to a friend's house even after I had said goodbye and I love you, my dad would stand at the door, wave goodbye and always sign “I love you" even though it may just be a phrase the sign itself means a lot to mean and always reminds me of my father. 1 currently live with my older sister and even though we get along pretty well we tend to get into disagreements every now and then. Last week my sister wanted to go to target to get some items she needed for class and I offered to drive, but I only have my permit. ‘When we approached a stop sign and I was waiting to tum she told me that I was okay to go, then tells me I should have gone because there was enough time. | got upset and told her “you cannot just tell me when to go; you are not the one drivin; | Live stories ~1 was driving and I thought I was driving correctly, My sister saw an opening and thought I should have had time to turn. Unknown stories — My sister had not known how long it had been since the last time 1 drove. Untold stories —I did not tell my sister that I was nervous about driving. Unheard stories ~ 1 did not acknowledge her comment as being. helpful but as a critique of my driving. Untellable stories ~My sister did not say anything after I yelled at her she knew I was upset and anything else she might have said could have made me more upset Story Telling - The tone my sister had, to me, sounded condescending which upset me. But after she did not comment anymore I knew she was not intending to upset me. Stories told ~ We have discussed what happened and even laughed about it and now understand the intentions and feelings we both had. }. Two instances where I have violated a persons expectations in how I communicated where when I kissed my now boyfriend and when I invaded my coach’s personal space. The first instance was a positive one; my current boyfriend and | had just seen each other for the third time in about seven years. My older sister was dating my current boyftiend’s older brother and they were moving in together for college but I had not seen the younger brother except for about 5 minutes two other times in about 7 years. My sister and her boyfriend Josh invited me to visit and help them move, When I saw TJ (now current boyfriend) it was as if nothing had changed, growing up we were best friends and I had acrush on him. Well I guess I still did, we were hanging out and ! had a couple drinks and Heaned over and kissed him. He was not expecting it at all but luckily he was not upset and now we have been dating for over 4 years. The second instance was when I was in high school. My dance coach and I were pretty good friends, I was even a teachers aid in two of her classes but one night at dance practice she asked the team to sit down in front of her and I guess I sat too close she immediately popped up, took her shoes off, set them in front of her and asked the team to scoot back, we had invaded her bubble. Two instances in which someone else had violated my expectations in how they communicated involved my grandpa’s girlfriend and a student in one of my classes. In my algebra class over the summer one of the students in my class was interested in studying together and when we met up to start studying it started out fine, He sat down next to me and we started going over some problems and then he moved really close next to me, I could feel his breath on my face and I was very uncomfortable I leaned farther back in my seat. The rest of the time we studied together I set my text book and other items out around me to create a larger space for myself. The second instance was when I met my grandpa’s girlfriend Marva for the first time. None of my relatives growing up ever kissed each other when greeting so when my Marva was introduced to me for the first time and kissed me right on the lips I was not expecting it at all. After talking with her and my grandpa I had found out about all the places she has traveled to and that was just the way she was brought up and how she greets others though it was new and unexpected to me I wasn’t upset since I understood that it was just apart of her cultural identity. I know that we have talked about the expectancy violation theory the most and that is the theory that makes the most sense to me. I think this is because I have experienced this a lot. Since I have been able to identify times in my life where I have experienced this it ‘was easy for me to understand the theory.Activity B- Week 3 Due: due in class on Wednesday based on the following rea‘ Griffin, E., Ledbetter, A., & Sparks, G. (2015). Symbolic Interactiontsm. 4 First Look at Communication Theory (9" ed., pp. 54-65). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Education Griffin, E., Ledbetter, A., & Sparks, G. (2015). Coordinated Management of Meaning. 4 Fint Look at Communication Theory (9* ed., pp- 66 80). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Education. Griffin, E., Ledbetter, A., & Sparks, G. (2015). Expectancy Violations Theory. 4 First Look at Communication Theory (9 ed, pp- 81-93). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Education, Task(s) - Type an essay response to address the following items: 1. entify «word or symbol (nonverbal or other) that has had an impact on your ife and apply symbolic “teraction to your experience with it (an example inthe ext was how a stadent interpreted the symbol of ‘having a boy's class ring)“ Dad bein ora 2 preriye Gps Whe TEC Sn a 3. Choose a dose relationship partner with whom you have recently had a fight and apply the LUUUUTT model to try to make sense of the argument (see pp. 69-70 for an example), Sarely anh Tim the com 1s violated a person's expectations in how you communicated, one that 3. Describe two instances in which wvas pereived asa negative violation and another that was perceived asa positive violation. 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