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DESIRE
MAP
A guide to creating
goals with soul
THE U LT R A L I T E ED I T I O N
PRAISE FOR THE DESIRE MAP
The Desire Map has such life, truth, and passion; what could be
better than realigning yourself daily with your hearts desire?
GENEEN ROTH author Women, Food, and God and Lost and
Found
Danielle LaPorte is scary smart, yet so kind and practical that she
kindles the fire in you without causing you to feel consumed by the
flames. She has the knowledge you need to succeed. Lean in and
listen close. What she has to say is what our spirits need to hear.
MARTHA BECK author of Finding Your Own North Star and The
Joy Diet
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PART 3 | WORKBOOK
Going ultra light.
The actual Desire Map book is waaay deeper. And Im all about depth.
And so is your Soul.
All Love,
So you make a plan to get it. The goal. The bucket list. Quarterly objectives. Strategy.
Accountability. Mission: Possible.
One New Years eve, I had an a-ha about typical goal-setting it was really sucking. I was
working my ass off to achieve, achieve, achieve. Sometimes I hit the mark, sometimes
I majorly failed. A few times I changed my mind on the way and course-corrected the
intention. Once in a while I super-exceed my original goals, in which case I rode myself
even harder the next time, pushing myself to think bigger. It wasnt that I was going after
the wrong things in life and work (though that happened more than once,) it was how I was
going about it.
To help you use your desired feelings as a way to access comfort and
clarity during painful times.
To show you how to use your desired feelings as creative fuel to make
great things happen in your life that will radiate out into the world.
To help you accentuate the positive aspects of your life, while still
honoring, and not invalidating, the negative parts that you want to change.
To help you realize that you are much bigger than your feelings, and also,
perhaps paradoxically, to help you regard your feelings as road signs to
your Soul.
Youre not chasing the goal itself, youre chasing the feelings that you hope
attaining those goals will give you. So...
What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel within ourselves, and then
we designed our to-do lists, set our goals, and wrote out our bucket lists?
How do you want to feel when you look at your schedule for the week? When you get
dressed in the morning? When you walk through the door of your studio or your office?
When you pick up the phone? When you cash the check, accept the award, finish your
masterpiece, make the sale, or fall in love?
You need to have Soul-centered goals. You need to go about fulfilling those goals in
life-affirming ways.
Get clear on your core desired feelings, and then all of your goals are a means to create
those feelings. Its that simple. And potentially revolutionary. The foundation of a good
relationship with intentions & goals is keeping in mind that the primary aim of setting and
working toward them is to feel the way you most want to feel. The external things you want
to have and experience, are in service to your Soul.
While core desired feelings dont fundamentally change, we may become more aware
of their nuances and refinements as we become wiser and better listeners. In order to
overcome the conditioning that has dampened our awareness of our core desired feelings,
we may need to consciously invoke them through deliberate practice. But as we continue
to acknowledge them and give them the space they crave, we will find ourselves coming
from that deeper place more and more spontaneously.
Or maybe those are exactly the things that you need to have and do to feel the way you
want to feel.
When you get real about the feelings that you crave, you might surprise yourself with some
new choices. Youll sign up for workshops youd never considered. Youll quit stuff. You
could realize that you dont need to be VP to feel powerful or useful, you just need to
volunteer at the youth shelter. Maybe you dont need that award, you just need to take
better care of yourself.
Clarity about your true desires is so liberating because you get to stop proving yourself to
everyone (including yourself). Just think about that for a minute. No more proving.
is not only comforting, but allows the light of consciousness to enter, by which you
can see more clearly.
You dont need to leave your job. Or learn Spanish, or a whole new meditation practice,
or a seven-step system. You dont need to make a phone call to clear the air with the
person who did you wrong ten years ago. You dont even need to be bold.
To feel the way you want to feel as often as possible, you just need to do easy
things to help you feel that way every day.
Claustrophobic.
I have come to the conclusion lately... which has literally changed my life... and that is...
IT IS NEVER ABOUT THE GOAL.
Glad I asked.
If youre miserable when you hit your target, then its not really a victory.
Want to feel good more than you want to check accomplishments off my list.
Want to feel good more than you want to please other people.
A declaration of deserving
You deserve: eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean
drinking water, fresh air, Hello, Please, Thank you, time to think about it, a chance to show
them what youre made of, a second chance, an education, health care including dental,
multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your
mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen, to be loved for
who you really are.
You deserve all of this and more just because you showed up to life.
This would be the perfect segue for me to give you a cheese-ball list of Ten Ways To
Love Yourself. But I have just one suggestion: Focus on creating your core desired
feelings, and as you begin to generate better feelings and experiences, you will
feel increasingly worthy of the richness of life.
And theres a beautiful twist that happens when you assume your worth: you
value other people more. Because when youre operating from a place of wholeness
and value, you see value in other people and you reinforce the belief that theres enough to
go around for all of us. So in this sense, your self-worth is a service to humanity.
Make your gratitude list as long as you want! Yep, the longer the better.
That said, we dont want to turn this into a bitch fest. So I suggest you keep this part of
the conversation brief. We really do want to make a practice of accentuating the positive in
our lives, so consider the Whats not working sections just pit stops along your inspiration
highway. Keep your time there to a minimum, focus on the critical issues, and get back to
the upside.
G R AT I T U D E D I S S AT I S FA C T I O N
G R AT I T U D E D I S S AT I S FA C T I O N
G R AT I T U D E D I S S AT I S FA C T I O N
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Heres what youre going to do: Youre going to riff on how you want to feel in the key
areas of your life, and then! youre going to narrow down those feelings into some core
desired feelings.
Stream of consciousness is the way to go. Ramble, jam, repeat yourself. Dont be
concerned with duplicating words in different life areas. Get abstract or specific. Do you want
to feel spicy or red or electric? Do you want to feel ten different ways of confident? Then just
write it down. Close your eyes and tune in.
I want to feel...
I want to feel...
I want to feel...
I want to feel...
I want to feel...
Head to the Desire Map Facebook group to get inspiration from other peoples core
desired feelings.
Try to select about 10 words or fewer. You can always put a word back in the mix if you
pass it over in this first round. Dont stress about itthis is supposed to feel fun and exciting.
Ask yourself which words make you feel positive, uplifted, expanded. Which
words feel like home? Which make you feel inspired, grounded,peaceful, energized, or
supported? Circle them. Approach each feeling word from every possible angle.
We need to zone in on the core desired feelings that you want. Ideally, you want to choose
three to five core desired feelings. Think of it this way: we want the North, South, East,
and West of your compass, not every street that you could turn down.
Now you want to find the redundancies and overlaps between various words so that you can
knock some words off your list and zero in on the most empowering selections for yourself.
This is the moment! Im thinking of you right now, sending light and whispering into your ear:
The core... desired... feelings. Oh yeah.
If you want to keep more than five feelings, go right ahead. If seven is your lucky number,
then go ahead, choose seven words for luck. Focus might help you get better results, but
doing it in the way that works for you is whats most important.
Write your core desired feelings on a page and declare them sacred.
BRAVISSIMO!
Youve homed in on your core desired feelings. Brilliant. Some people go their entire lives
on an autopilot of do-get-do-get, but youve just cracked a code to wide-awake living.
Dont tattoo your core desired feelings anywhere yet. You can feel out your words for
a few weeks and go back and tweak them for the exact fit.
Youve just done some good Soul-searching and surfacing. Before you jump into the
next phase of writing out your core desired feelings and matching them up with visions and
to-dos, its a good idea to... rest.
Youre going to go through each of the life areas (wellness, relationships, and so on) and ask
yourself what you want to have and experience in each area. But youre going to do it from
a fresh mindset, in a new way youre going to do it with your core desired feelings as the
central goal.
In order to generate my core desired feelings in Livelihood & Lifestyle (because thats
the whole point), what do I want to do, experience or have?
In order to generate my core desired feelings in Body & Wellness (because thats the
whole point), what do I want to do, experience or have?
In order to generate my core desired feelings in Creativity & Learning (because thats
the whole point), what do I want to do, experience or have?
Out of everything that I want to do, create, experience or have to feel my core
desired feelingswhat will I choose as 3 or 4 intentions/goals to focus on this
year?
Heres my theory feel free to burn it down or to make it your new religion: Significant
intentions and goals take time to achieve, and a year flies by, so you have to FOCUS. It
might ache a bit to put some intentions on the back burner. Naturally. But those wants can
circle back for attention. And the momentum and satisfaction youll gain from pulling off just
a few amazing endeavors will far outweigh anything you could gain from doing a bunch of
things halfway.
Set out to do three or four things this year with gusto and excellence, rather than
doing a dozen things just sufficiently. Trust me on this.
Youre putting your core desired feelings at the center of your life. Yes, yes, you are. You
know how you want to feel. And youve got a really good idea of what you can do, have, and
experience and think and believe to help yourself feel that way.
Now youre going to take aim and devote yourself to actualizing what you want the most.
when youre coming up with your yearly goals, planning your week, building your career,
making holiday plans... youll have your core desired feelings in mind;
when youre choosing whom to invite in, how to react, what to give, where to go, how to
move, how and what youll worship... youll have your core desired feelings in mind;
when you want things to be different, when youre in pain, when youve got a great idea to
act on, when you want to make stuff... youll have your core desired feelings in mind;
when youre composing the email, asking for what you want, choosing presents, shopping
for shoes... youll have your core desired feelings in mind;
when you go to sleep at night, and you wake up in the morning... youll have your core
desired feelings in mind.
And what you have in mind is how you create your reality.
And there you have the key steps to desire mapping. But remember: quality in, quality out.
Get deep if you want to go higher. Its all at my digital temple,
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you are more than your name
your frame
your DNA
more plenty than
all that you have given birth to
big big wishes!
you are even bigger
imagine that
(imagine anything)
and you are more
you are gone gone gone beyond
the beyond of what started This All
I pray you
desire temples of peace
and benevolent tsunamis of love
and that you realize your size
in relation to this universal declaration:
I desire...
you are the that
and the and
the core
and the more
ever expanding
desire