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Life Exchange Rate!
by Barbara J. Cormack
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EDITORS NOTE
Welcome to yet another exciting edition of the International
Coaching News (iCN) online magazine! For our 12th edition our
theme is Personal Coaching. This edition is loaded with content on a
variety of relevant topics on the issues that come with managing people, various leadership
and relational styles to improve and enhance relationships and so much more.
The ICN is proud to have collaborated with several renowned international columnists,
expert coaches and best-selling authors to provide insights on executive coaching. In this
edition look out for our feature article from Barbara J. Cormack of France Life Exchange
Rate, where Barbara teaches us on how to balance between personal life and professional
life - the importance of identifying where we are spending our time, need to be spending
our time, and want to spend our time. In our Coaching Tools Section How should coaches
deal with the issue of Work Life Balance? by Malcolm Nicholson from United Kingdom,
highlights tips and techniques that can help leaders and coaches drive or reinforce the
changes they want to make to themselves or for their clients. Another noteworthy article
is Habits and how to break them by Pam Rigden of the United Kingdom. It is the first
article in the series, which covers six key NLP strategies that Coaches can safely use to
support clients who want to give up bad habits. The Work-Life Balancing Act by Ronita
Neal from Australia draws on concepts that unpack the chemical activity inside our brain
that determines our moods and helps to regulate our general functioning.
Each of our columnists, too numerous to mention, have taken some really interesting
perspectives, and I would encourage a thorough read-through of this edition.
Just like all our other editions, this edition is not just an interesting read, but it provides you
with helpful coaching tools, personal development ideas and professional development
techniques to grow your business.
Lovelia
Lovelia Caracut
Editor, iCN Magazine
DISCLAIMER:
Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this magazine are those of the authors and do not necessarily
reflect the official policy or position of the International Coaching News Magazine, or Noble Manhattan
Coaching Ltd.
TABLE OF CONTENTS TABLE OF CONTENTS
4 Editors Note 18 Seek Harmony Instead of 44 Promote Healthy Thinking
by Tarryn Harris
by Lovelia Caracut Balance
by Alicia M. Rodriguez
8 iCN Team & Contributors 46 Why Personal Change is
Important for a Conscious
20 Dont Let Fear Bite You in
the Butt -
Leader
10 Habits and how to break
them 3 Ways to Tell If Youre 29 When is coaching not Life
Coaching
by Floyd Carlson
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4 Help your client embed the new habit(s) A useful question to ask your client is:
Having identified what it is that your client wants Who do you need to be to live the life that you want?
exactly their positive outcome - and the new To answer this question, your client will literally
habit(s) that will support that outcome, it is useful have to step into the role of the new non-habit
to help your client embed the new habit(s) using a person. Eventually, as they play a different version of
techniquecalled The New Behaviour Generator. This themselves, like an actor playing a part, their family,
pattern allows your client to mentally rehearse the friends and work colleagues will relate to them as
new habit(s) before actually trying them out. the new version of themselves. This recognition
Practice the technique a few times yourself and with reinforces their new sense of self, making it easier
other Coaches before using it with your clients. to adopt new habits and follow through. It is also
important to celebrate each achievement on their
Be clear what the new habit is that you wish to embed, journey, however small, because the more evidence
such as selecting healthy food in the supermarket, there is to back up the clients belief that they are
for example. succeeding, again the easier to adopt new habits and
follow through.
New Behaviour Generator
5 Belief in your Client
Finally, the most important element of this approach SECTION: COACHING TOOLS
is your belief that your client will succeed. If you
dont believe they can break their habits, how can you How should coaches deal with the
issue of Work Life Balance?
expect them to believe in themselves!
What are the pressures that cause leaders put their health and non work life at risk?
1. Look down to your left and talk to yourself. Ask Why do so few people see them and even fewer act as examples to a better way of working and living?
yourself, What do I want to do differently? Say
to yourself, If I could select healthy food in the Coaches need to be aware of what is making work- that predetermine our responses. These include:- a
supermarket, what would that look like? As you life balance such a big issue and have a range of need for community and a fear of the outsider; a need
say this techniques to hand. How big an issue? Well, in market for security and a fear of death; a need for clarity and
response terms, a simple Google search for Work life a fear of the future; a need for authority and a fear of
2. Look up to your right and see yourself putting balance books brought up 121 million results chaos; a need for respect and a fear of insignificance.
healthy food items into your shopping trolley as (1)
though you are watching yourself in a film. Notice ABOUT PAM RIGDEN: The impact of the external world has been well
the effect upon any other people involved. documented. Global workforces, new entrants who are Whilst the operating system hasnt changed, for
3. Look down to your right and, as you do so, step Pam Rigden is a Lead Trainer and Coach at working for a step change in personal economic status many people the working environment has changed,
into the experience and feel how it is. Notice what NLP for Coaches that the west takes for granted, pan-continental trade dramatically. Traits that were needed to for survival
happens to your state. This check is a crucial one. deals, the way businesses are measured and funded, havent adapted to the new virtual cyber environment.
It enables you to evaluate your new behaviour After qualifying as an NLP Master Practitioner, with their constant need for growth and more for less. The way we instinctively react to the volume of work
and make any necessary adjustments. Coach and Trainer, Pam designed NLP This has been exacerbated by 24/7 technology. The will be driven in the main by this hardwiring.
Training for Fitness Professionals, the first technological revolution hasnt finished and we are
4. Cycle rounds at least three times
course of its type in the world. Subsequently now at the stage where the enabling technology is aSo why the draw to work? Why do we find it so
5. Future pace. Think of a time in the future when recognised as one of the worlds leading disruptive force, overwhelming us with unrelenting wooing?? Lets not forget that work has always been
you will want to choose the new behaviour, for experts in the application of NLP and Communication. Just look at the amount of time a socially based activity from hunting and agrarian
example, your next visit to the supermarket. Coaching to health and wellbeing, she has people spend scanning or sending transactional economies onwards. We can achieve far more through
Imagine yourself in that context and then run presented at conferences in both the UK responses with no depth of thought. We are alreadyworking with others than we can on our own. It does
through the new behaviour. As you watch yourself, and internationally in the USA, Australia and the most over informed, under reflective people in the
seem to be in our blood and is based on some pretty
notice what happens and then step into the future Canada. history of civilization. (Kegan & Lahey). deep seated human needs. Much has been written
you and experience the feeling.
about theories of motivation, which are beyond
Pam has since moved back to the UK to be This all impacts peoples internal world. We still the remit of this article. Instead, lets look at some
N.B. Reverse the eye movements for left handed closer to her family and is living in Lymington, have fundamentally the same operating system ways that work fulfils the needs of Browns Human
clients Hampshire. As well as managing NLP for that helped us evolve from a stone age species; Universals listed above.
Enable your client to act as if Coaches, Pam mentors students with mental Consequently we have a number of common drivers
health issues at Southampton University and
Winchester School of Art on a part time basis.
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Firstly of course there is a salary. This provides for Even delegating tasks of substance or importance is Leaders are making thousands of tiny decisions There is, as ever, a spectrum of different individual
the keep alive stuff like food and shelter as well as difficult for some leaders. Many admit to me that they that are constantly interpreted and implemented by requirements that coaches encounter. As a result
the self actualization stuff like hobbies and holidays. and their peers are operating at a level below that at themselves and others. coaches could be complicit with their client if they
It also provides the social standing stuff like the which they should be contributing. Its comforting to did not at least question and probe such issues.
property and belongings. This feeds into our fear of oil the tappets in the warmth of the engine room and So, how does the executive coach intervene in such This is where the experienced coach can, like a jazz
the future What if I lost my job how will I pay for not be on the freezing bridge. This creates a bottleneck circumstances? Considering we are dealing with musician, discard the toolkit and intuitively use
everything? and our need for future financial security. that impacts everyone involved with the organisation. some core identity issues which leaders have built up their deep knowledge to create a real time coaching
over their careers and may not even be aware of, its conversation to tease out any underlying baggage or
It also provides us with a routine, security and social a pretty tall order to impose work life concepts on unresolved issues. Probe, test, feedback.
interaction. From that comes status the company successful people such as these. In fact, the executive
name, the job title, office and all the mayoral chain coach may get in the way with such scurrilous talk!
trappings that go with it as well as the opportunity
to gain and exercise power. Kilburg (2) looks at
leadership behaviour and how some personality
disorders can lead to a need for power.
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The constant increase in external pressure on the
working environment means the role of coaches often WORK-LIFE BALANCE
starts with creating space to probe and explore the REFERENCES
COACHING TIPS WORK-LIFE BALANCE
individual constructs around the work life balance
COACHING TIPS (1) Donald Browns book Human Universals, quoted in
space. Working life can be seen as a set of beliefs
(a construct) that is also made up of choices. Work Marcus Buckingham The One thing you need to know
can be approached as sequential episodes or chapters The following are some ideas to add 2005 Simon & Schuster pp.137-141
in a persons life, in which leaders can reflect, gain to coaches existing repertoire. They Apply the 5 Ds law to anything
learning and insights and greater understanding, ready arent exhaustive but have proved very that comes your way:- (2) Richard Kilburg Executive Coaching: Developing
for the next chapter. This should be about themselves, useful both to clients and myself. A Managerial Wisdom in a World of Chaos American
the impact they have and the requirements of their senior business development executive Psychological Association (1 April 2000)
people. Yes, there will be periods of heavy workload, thanked me and told me he had got - Delete it
but greater awareness enables people to ratchet down back 25% of his working week by using (3) Laura Vanderkam Are You As Busy As You Think? Wall
when appropriate and not constantly up. The culture some of the following:- - Delay it
Street Journal. Updated Feb. 22, 2012
an organisation possesses is a construct and one
- Delegate it
driven significantly by those in charge. What are the must do, would like (4) W.Timothy Gallwey The Inner Game of Work Thomson
to do and could do items? Build the Texere. 2000
Looking forward, the requirement to flex down must do non work activities (which Then, and only then
as well as up is likely to increase as Generation Y will never happen again like family (5) Correspondence between Richard Kilburg & the author
become more embedded in the working population. school events) into the diary. - Do it
2015.
Instead of working long shifts to work their way up
an organisation the millennial generation prefers Accept the situation. Freud said But make sure you are putting
(6) Jim Loehr & Tony Schwartz The Power of Full
flexible working schedules and a more rounded that imbalance is part of the human time constraints on it to
Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to
work/life balancefamily life takes priority over condition. If its worth doing, its worth High Performance and Personal Renewal Free Press 2003
the workplace. Many Generation Ys have grown up -Diminish it. Be aware of
doing properly. Be present where ever
with overworked parents and this has driven the new the types of tasks, issues or
you are and give the situation your (7) www.generationy.com/about-generation-y-in-the-
perception to work. (7) opportunities that beguile you
full investment of attention, focus and workforce/characteristics/
and pull you into the weeds.
energy.
Create some reflective time
No is the new Yes. Dont take on things
each week. A sadly lacking
that arent your responsibility or wont
commodity in the current
in the, longer term, benefit your career.
business environment. Even if
its the journey to and from work,
When possible, make others demands
make some time to reflect on
fit in with your schedule. Push back
the past, toady and future. Look
timings most will be a discretionary
at what and how you need to get
figure.
achieved. What impact do you
want to have?
Be smarter and more ruthless with your
time.
Match your contribution level to
your role. Keep on the bridge not
Dont be a perfectionist. There certainly ABOUT MALCOLM NICHOLSON:
the engine room.
isnt time for it in todays environment.
Beside which, most people will only Malcolm is the owner and Coaching Director
Career bests happen when people for Aspecture, and has worked successfully with
scan your work anyway!
work hard, work as a team, learn a wide range of senior business people for over
and are made to feel valued. Part 15 years, enabling them to improve business
Beware the smell of burning Martyr.
of feel valued is providing the results through transformational changes.
Catch yourself or others saying that
support and latitude to allow for (see www.aspecture.com). To find out how
its only they who can do a job and if
non-work time. he can help your organization contact him at
Finally, at a pragmatic level, some simple tools & it wasnt for them this place would fall
techniques can help leaders drive or reinforce the apart. malcolmnicholson@aspecture.com or on +44
changes they want to make. See the sidebar Work- 1932 267597.
Life Coaching Tips for some simple techniques to
feed into the process.
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able to make adjustments and decisions when you
have more options. When the crisis or event is
over, you can then adjust back as needed and you
Seek HARMONY avoid the burden of judgment about whether it was
good or badit just was, you adapted and your
Instead of Balance life worked despite the unexpected occurrence.
Harmony is based on adaptability that considers
by Alicia M. Rodriguez the complexities of your whole life.
(USA)
Step away from your life a bit and begin to think
of the many aspects of your life and how they
are interrelated. Build in additional resources to
cushion the unexpected. Feel confident that you
can adjust fluidly to challenges. Remember you
have four areas of support: time, money, energy
and resources. Withdraw from all of these as ABOUT ALICIA M. RODRIGUEZ:
needed without compromising one or two. Adapt
without guilt or judgment. Harmony will enable Alicia is a transformational teacher,
you to feel that you have more choices and that no leadership advisor and personal guide.
one area of your life needs to take the She is a dynamic speaker, author,
brunt of the additional strain of blogger, writer and visionary whose
lifes unexpected challenges. work unites the world of business with
Begin to think harmony wisdom, mindfulness and spirituality.
instead of balance and The base of her own wisdom lies in
One of the greatest saboteurs my clients face, especially women, is the myth of balance. As a coach to busy see how that affects the her studies of spiritual teachings,
people and as an entrepreneur myself, the amount of responsibilities and pressure today can be overpowering. choices you make. psychological frameworks, cognitive
Who has not felt overwhelmed at some time? Particularly women who manage multiple roles are prone to feel science studies, and ancestral wisdom
like jugglers constantly shifting to manage all the things in their lives. With all the hype about balance and traditions. She lives on the Chesapeake
leading a balanced life women are destined to fail miserably. Bay where she engages her passion
for kayaking and writing and in South
America, where she lives part-time and
The current definition of balance is a set up for When you affect or influence one area of your life, hosts healing and creativity retreats in
failure. Our lives are complicated and unpredictable. inevitably other areas are also affected. So if you her home by the ocean.
Especially for women, balance creates an either/ get a new job, you may have to allow more time for
or dynamic which translates for women: damned if commuting which means you may have to move your Personal Coach
you do/damned if you dont. For example, I can work day-care from one town to another, which means www.aliciamrodriguez.com
out and take care of myself or I can do the grocery you may need to allow more money to pay for that
shopping; I can go to work and have a career, or I day-care, on and on. Balance is a duality. Harmony Leadership Coaching
can be a stay-at-home-mom. Because of womens is integral and whole. You are either in or out of www.sophia-associates.com
multiple roles, and the lack of support for these in balance, only two choices. Harmony seeks a synergy
our culture, the myth of balance imposes double bind of multiple parts of the whole that allows flexibility,
situations and unrealistic expectations. We proceed to expansion and contraction, all at the same time in
beat ourselves up over not being able to do or have order to keep your life fluid, healthy and thriving.
it all. It does not get much better for men either,
who have their own set of cultural expectations that
Harmony allows for more choices and takes
leaves little time or even permission for self-care, for
advantage of multiple shifts in your use of time,
following a passion or for going to their kids games
money, resources or energy. If you consistently think
and activities. in terms of maintaining harmony, instead of balance,
you can put in place additional reserves of energy,
Harmony is different however. Mother Nature time, money or resources for those times when you
provides the perfect model for harmony. Consider are met with the unexpected. You create more options
weather patterns or the ebb and flow of the tides. for being successful even when under some strain.
Natures harmony takes into account the whole Harmony allows for more flexibility and it increases
system, not merely one or two aspects of a system. your awareness of your environment. You are better
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3 Getting Defensive of the exact outcome, positive action yields positive
results. Being open to possibility empowers you to
If you notice that you feel the need to defend your take bigger actions and increases the potential impact
reasons for selling out or even getting nasty with of your actions in the world.
anyone who dares to challenge them, fear has already
Dont Let Fear Bite taken a chunk out of your tender backside. So, the next time you are out to make a change,
whether in your own life or in the world, instead of
You in the Butt So, now that I have given you a few of the signs of
selling out, you know what to look for. And, if you
letting fear bite you in the butt, put your butt on the
line and stop selling out on your dreams!
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Celebration is directly and fundamentally tied to our our moment to moment experience of our Sense of
basic underlying, overall mindset toward Life. I refer Life shift up or down around that set point in response
TECHNOLOGY OF
to this as our Sense of Life. I am convinced that to our circumstances and actions.
our ability to enjoy life and function well requires us
to maintain a fundamentally benevolent sense of life. Another important part of our psychology as human
CELEBRATION Sense of life has two components; one is our World-
that we also cannot help having is our survival
mechanism. Thank goodness that we have it and that
Recognising Value in a view. it operates so well when we truly need it. However,
there is an inherent and unavoidable side-effect that
Powerful Way can be very problematic to our Sense of Life.
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So we all navigate through our lives with this constant The celebration process may seem forced and fake, INVENTORY THEM Simply begin to focus on VALUABLE FOR WORLD? Identify as many
inner-pressure to increase our doubt of ourselves and as we probably dont feel the emotional response to these items, forcing ourselves to brainstorm as many ways as you can that the win/gratitude made the world
the world we inhabit. Without a conscious and a it especially when we need it the most. But it serves of them as we possibly can. a little better place.
usually challenging effort to compensate for it, our its purpose and soon the emotions respond to the RECORD THEM. Many folks find that it intensifies VALUABLE ABOUT YOU? Identify as many ways as
sense of self and sense of the world skew to the dark reclamation of our formerly hijacked consciousness. the impact of the process to write them down. you can that the win/gratitude demonstrated valuable
side. This does not bode well for our ability to live The paradox in celebration is that the more we need
our lives with excellence, success, prosperity, love it the harder it is to do, but is the only method I have SHARE THEM. The impact really escalates when characteristics and qualities of your/the world
and joy. discovered to master our sense of life and thus our we share the list with another person SHARE IT! Celebrate the win/gratitude by telling
state of readiness to live well. GIVE THANKS FOR THEM. People with religious another person all of the above.
What can we do? How can we deal for this pernicious and spiritual beliefs that involve a Divine Being, will
stowaway in our cerebral cortexes? How can we Now to take a further look at the phenomenon of offer prayers of appreciation for these gifts so freely In conclusion, this process of paying attention to
continually correct this distortion adjusting and re- celebration, we see that there are basically two forms, given. the countless gifts and effective actions in our lives
correlating our conscious view of ourselves and our each one corresponds to one of the two aspects of counters the instinctual fixation we have with the
TEND TO THEM! Finally, the most powerful way relatively very small set of unfavourable situations
lives? sense of life our sense of self and our sense of the
to implement and sustain this attention redirection and mistakes that occur. Put these tools to good use,
world. The form of celebration that addresses our
effort, is to TAKE THE ACTIONS that take good not only when your state of mind has been hijacked
So what is the antidote??!! .CELEBRATION! world view is celebrating gratitudes, and the form that
care of what is already in your life. by your troubles, but also when you want to energise
Celebrations, in this context, can be seen as deliberate relates to self-view is celebrating wins. your emotional reserves and heighten your capacity
conscious efforts to break the hold that negative Celebrating Wins (Addresses Self-view) to perform well and live successfully.
things have on our awareness and viewpoint Celebrating Gratitudes (Addresses World-view)
and refocus our attention on the good things. One In order to help you take action and remedy the loss
manifestation of that survival mechanism of ours Celebrating gratitude, as a form of ritual, is the of sense of self and the overwhelming impact of a
is that it instantly forces our attention into a sort of thought process, activity and conversation whose narrowed world view due to the survival instinct
tunnel vision on the threat. This is a good thing for a purpose is to acknowledge, grasp, appreciate and tunnel vision, I offer you the Antidote the
survival response, but as I described above, wreaks experience the impact and meaning of the valuable Technology of Celebration Tool and Guide for
havoc on our attitude and outlook. things and people that exist in our world which
we have not directly made to be there. Gratitude is Download.
The immediate antidote to that tunnel vision is to an effort a deliberate process, though because a Technology of Celebration Tool and Guide
force ourselves into a process of celebration. This feeling may follow from the act, most of us mistake Download
literally and almost mechanically cracks the lens that the feeling of gratitude and overlook the action
constrains our view and expands our awareness back altogether. Of course, this totally disempowers us and
to the entirety of ourselves our lives and our world leaves us at the mercy of our sense of life and our Celebrating Wins, as a form of ritual, is the thought
as a whole. We suddenly realise that though (often) feelings neither of which can we directly control. process, activity and conversation whose purpose is
real, our problems are only a very small part of the This attention to all these countless gifts in our lives to acknowledge, grasp, appreciate and experience the
whole picture. With our survival mode tunnel vision, counters the instinctual obsession we have on that impact and meaning of the valuable things we do.
the problem is all we see; it becomes our whole world, relatively small set of unfavourable situations that we Celebrating Wins is an effort a deliberate process.
and our world becomes no more than the problem. have not created. Without it, we are totally disempowered and at the
mercy of our sense of life and our feelings neither
of which can we directly control. This attention to all
these countless small to large things we do well in
our lives counters the instinctual obsession we have
on that relative small set of mistakes we make from
time to time. ABOUT KIM SAWYER
ARTICULATE IT Clearly articulate the win/ With over twenty years of diverse
gratitude, in terms that have an impact on you when business experience; Kim Sawyer have
you read them. started businesses, led companies,
and been involved in almost every
VALUABLE FOR YOU? Identify as many ways as
aspect of a business enterprise. With
you can that the win/gratitude created value for you
expertise in the area of leadership,
in your own life.
professional and business effectiveness
VALUABLE FOR OTHERS? Identify as many and entrepreneurship, today he coach
ways as you can that the win/gratitude created value and facilitate key business people and
for other people in your life. teams to create greater wealth for their
organisations and themselves.
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5 Tips for Creating Balance in Your Life
Anne M. Bachrach (USA)
Is your life truly in balance? Dont be so quick to answer yes. Leading a balanced life doesnt mean living
50/50 between your personal and business lives. Its about having enough time to do what really matters to
you, whether thats turning a nice profit in business or spending quality time with your family.
If you feel as if your life is out of alignment, read Are you where you want to be right now? If not,
and implement the tips below for creating even more you need to evaluate what you need to do to get
balance in your life. there. Your dreams and aspirations are important
and should not be thrown away. If something in your
1 Identify whats important to you life is consuming too much of your time, and its not
bringing you closer to achieving your goal(s), then
Theres no right or wrong way to go about creating some adjustments will need to be made before you
balance in life. This truly is a to each his own can achieve your goal(s). There is a high price to pay
situation. Do you desire more time with your when you give up on your dreams, so always work
family? Maybe you are more interested in travelling toward achieving professional and personal goals
the world? Do you want to be more fit and healthy? that are meaningful to you.
Or, perhaps you just want to focus on building your
business. Contrary to common belief, balance does 3 Think outside the box
not have to equal out to 50/50. If you are content with
the way you divide your time, your ideal of balance
could work out to be 60% work and 40% family time,
or vice versa.
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what Ive learned from my own coaching practice is By reflecting on these (and other) live (executive,
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2 Maintain social bonds. To help them feel they are living on purpose, consider
asking these questions:
What do you feel you should have done by
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this time in your life? Can you create a similar
impact, even on a smaller scale, with what you
do now?
Mindful Strategies
What do you want to feel more often in your
life? What gives you these feelings now?
to Live Abundantly
How can you feel good about the impact you
by Sandra Miniere (USA)
have on others every day?
Whether its your family or your friends, you need
a few significant relationships where you can Hopefully, they will come to appreciate the hours
occasionally be together without working. You dont they give to their work, which in turn, should help
need to give equal time to this with your work, but you them feel more satisfied with their hours outside of
do need to carve out the time to stay connected. If you work, balanced or not.
go to a movie once a week, enjoy some time afterward
talking about what you saw. Eat meals together. Take Help your clients balance their body and mind
walks and play games with your family. Your social even when they cant balance their work. They
connections keep your mind healthy. can take small breaks for exercise, break bread with
others, and regularly stop to appreciate that they have
3 Regularly notice the world around you. the opportunity to do good work. Out of balance
doesnt mean out of whack if they keep their minds
I do give my clients homework to teach their brains and bodies healthy.
how to be present to the wonder of life and gifts of the
moment. Though they start with being present to the Are you addicted to seeing what is missing in your life instead of the fullness that already exists? After
beauty of nature, they move into being present with hearing my inner voice give thanks for my lovely home and wishing it had larger rooms and more storage, I
people and seeing the beauty and brilliance in each had an epiphany. Suddenly I realised that giving thanks and asking for more at the same time is a habitual
soul they encounter. In my book, The Discomfort pattern with me.
Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations
I thought I had overcome a deprivation mentality Making the mental shift to this higher perspective
into Breakthroughs, I teach the readers how to be
that began in my childhood, but apparently it still takes awareness, commitment, purposeful action
present with their mind, heart and gut. The truth is,
keeps me in a subtle state of longing. Instead of and grace. As you change your distorted earthly
people want you to be present more then they need
acknowledging and feeling the fullness of what I perception of lack, you will see your world through
you to be perfect. My clients learn to give people
have, my mind focuses on something I lack. The the eyes of the Spirit and attract more fulfilment,
present, loving moments, which is more important
principles of the Law of Attraction explain that harmony and abundance into your life.
than spending hours with someone when you would
longing attracts more longing. I now understand
rather be doing something else.
how I manifest limited abundance. Here are a few strategies that keep your attention
ABOUT MARCIA REYNOLDS on the abundance while living in a reality that
These tips can be combined. For example, your
Developing an awareness of the abundant creative challenges this spiritual truth:
clients can take regular walks with family and friends, Marcia works with organisations worldwide,
flow is a challenge in todays world. Some are
enjoying them while you are exercising. Then, if providing Executive Coaching and
dealing with survival needs and others desire BECOME GROUNDED IN THE
they find a long list of emails that came in while leadership training. She is the author of
something or someone that will make them feel KNOWLEDGE OF AN ABUNDANT
walking, they can determine which ones need their three books, Outsmart Your Brain, Wander
happy or fulfilled. Most of us need help focusing on CREATIVE FLOW:
full presence in the moment and which ones can wait Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find
Contentment and Direction, and her latest gratitude and fullness instead of luck.
until tomorrow, practicing being present.
on leadership coaching, The Discomfort You need to believe it before you can achieve it.
Zone. She is the Training Director for the The process I discovered integrates then transcends Find transformational leaders, books and principles
Of course, your clients dont like their work or feel
Healthcare Coaching Institute, regularly the abundance/lack polarity within our minds: We that verify this truth. Speak to others about their
their purpose lies elsewhere, working too hard will
works with coaching organisations in go from a perception of lack (I do not have what I insights, experiences and doubts. Mastermind
be a drain. Even if you work with them to discover
China and Russia, and is the president need to survive.) to abundance/lack (I am grateful groups and workshops for spiritual enlightenment
their purpose, you can also coach them to find what
of the Association for Coach Training for what I have and need more.) to ABUNDANCE and co-creation come in many forms. The objective:
gives their lives meaning every day. Even doing little
Organizations (ACTO). Her doctorate is in (I HAVE EVERYTHING I NEED RIGHT Grow in the reality that you and your life are in
things for people can help your clients feel they are
organizational psychology. Read more at NOW.). The final perspective is a gift of grace and divine right order in an abundant universe.
living life on purpose even if they never discover
www.Outsmartyourbrain.com creates an unshakable knowing in ABUNDANCE
one, overarching purpose for their life.
as a spiritual principle within the universe.
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STOP THE WHAT IS MISSING THINKING gratitude for all you have. The feelings of gratitude
WHEN IT BEGINS: will outshine your misperception of luck. You will be
able to look right through this illusion into the realm
Challenge and change the thoughts that point out what of an abundant creative flow. Abundance has many
is missing. Discipline your mind to stay in gratitude. aspects if you are willing to look. It shows up in your
The time to visualise what you want and create goals health, relationships, possessions, creativity, work,
is not the same time to experience the fullness that money, physical surroundings, wisdom, spirituality
already exists. Each time you feel full, complete and and more. While struggling in one area of your life,
grateful, you are attracting more to you. This feeling
brings your desires to you in accordance with your
you may have abundance in another.
The Work-Life
highest good. In a vivid dream many years ago, I observed a
dark slowly flowing river in front of me. It had no Balancing Act
CHOOSE TO SEE FULLNESS IN YOURSELF boundaries and nothing could withstand its power. I
AND IN YOUR LIFE:
by Ronita Neal (Australia)
knew I had to jump into that river and become one
with this universal energy. After observing it for a
Even though you observe the world and yourself while, I jumped in and a great PEACE came over me.
struggling with lack, hold the ideal perception of When I get caught up in what is missing, I think
abundance in the Present Moment. Abundance is a about that image and trust that all is flowing in divine
part of you and is unfolding within you and your life. right order. This abundant creative energy is freely
This is not denial or wishful thinking. It is a choice to given from the Creator. I invite you to jump in and
see beyond the world of limitation created by the ego experience the truth, peace and fullness that come
personality. The new mindset takes practice, practice, from merging with it.
practice before it becomes a habit. As you do your
part and invite grace into the process, you will soon Abundance is your natural state of being!
reap rewards beyond your expectations.
One of the problems I see in this discussion on spend our time (the activities we are doing and
work-life balance is that we do not have a good the environments we are in) as well as how we
understanding of WHY this topic is important and think (whether we tend to think with a positive or
so it is difficult to know WHAT needs to be done negative bias). These things contribute to whether
in order to get the good OUTCOMES from paying our brain has a healthy balance.
attention to this area.
ABOUT SANDRA MINIERE
From my point of view, our understanding the
Sandra Miniere, M.Ed., is an Integrative emphasis on balance needs to be much deeper.
Wellness Coach and Emotional Freedom While the discussion has been about balancing the
Techniques practitioner. She is an time or energy we spend on the various aspects of
Instead of trying to control outcomes, trust that a
author, speaker and writer, and she gives our life (Work, Family, Friends, Spiritual, Health,
Higher Power is in charge. Ask Spirit to help you
workshops on a variety of integrative etc.) we cannot hope to work out what this means
observe with clarity, do your best and know at the
wellness topics. A former holistic mental for us without understanding WHY. Yes, the final
deepest level of your being that what you seek
health counselor, she has been helping outcome is that we are healthier and happier, but it
is seeking you and leading to your highest good.
people transform themselves and their
Acceptance and gratitude for what is happening now is the HOW that is important.
lives for over 30 years. In her book, A
allows you to feel whole and full and transforms you Lighter Side to Cancer - From Wake-up
into a master co-creator within an abundant universe. In order to be happier and healthier what needs
Call to Radiant Wellness, she shares
to be BALANCED is our brain the chemical
her uplifting and empowering adventure
As you implement these strategies, you will replace activity in our brain that determines our moods
through breast cancer fourteen years ago.
a mindset of what is missing in your life with and helps to regulate our general functioning.
This chemical balance relates to both how we
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This then also relates to our general physical health,
mental health, energy, focus, and ability to contribute
to those around us. HOW we achieve this will be
different for all of us. If we love our work and enjoy
what we do every day we may be able to maintain a
great sense of well being while working long hours
because we will be generating a great deal of positive
chemicals in our brain every day. If we work in a toxic
environment or in a job that is a bad fit, then we will
not be able to maintain a sense of well being without
taking time and doing activities to balance the negative
chemical load placed on our brain while we are at
work. Conversely, one of the pieces of advice normally
given in the discussion of Work-life balance is that ABOUT RONITA NEAL
you should spend more time with family. This will not
be helpful if your family environment is toxic and so Ronita Neal is currently the President
you will need to look for one of the other areas to help of International Coach Federation
provide more positive input to your chemical balance. Australasia Queensland Branch. Over
the last 25 years she worked with an
Coaches are in a great position to help people work amazing range of people, businesses
through these issues by providing an objective partner and organisations in a number of different
to help evaluate whether all the different areas of life a roles including as a psychologist,
making a positive or a negative contribution to overall consultant, trainer, coach and facilitator.
mental balance. They can also help identify (and Using a combined framework from the
support) changes that may move some of the negative areas of Neuropsychology, Occupational
contributors more to the positive side. Positive Psychology and Coaching
Psychology, she has devised programs
A great starting point for promoting a more positive to help Leaders and Workers to be more
chemical balance is regular moderate exercise MindWise in the way they work and
(moderate here means to the point of huffing and manage. This will enable to boost both
puffing). This not only promotes better balance but their personal and their team performance
also promotes the correct environment within the brain (through improved engagement and
to support the changes and clear thinking that will be productivity) in a sustainable way.
necessary to bring things into better balance
to be available! They have to be doing something that
demonstrates to their boss that they are working.
Why? With technology today, there is an expectation
that you are available. Who set this expectation? Your
boss? Your colleagues? Your clients? No! You! I
know that people cannot believe when I tell them that
I work between specific hours and that, for example,
I am never available in the evening.
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they show a positive life exchange rate, a balance life,
Then rate each segment, where 1 is no time at all or
not enough time, through 10 where you are spending
and it is one that they are enjoying, who are we to
say that it is wrong? Simply living a more holistic Optimal Performance and
exactly the right amount of time. What does your life and balanced life is a life that will allow you to enjoy
exchange rate Wheel of Life look like? every minute of it. the Secrets of Harnessing
Its easy to say that technology is to blame, and
although technology is making it easier to be
Thinking about Henry David Thoreaus quote The
price of anything is the amount of life you change for
Personal Energy
accessible; technology is not to blame! You make the it, how do you understand your life exchange rate? by Stuart Haden (United Kingdom)
decision to prioritise your time and often you will be Simple! Identify where you are spending your time,
re-acting rather than considering. What do I mean by need to be spending your time, and want to spend your
this? Each person has their mobile phone within easy time. Clarify if this is balanced! Confirm that this is
reach. Each time it bleeps, rings, beeps, or makes where you want to be spending your time. If your life
a sound; there is this intense need to pick it up and is not balanced and you are spending too much time
see the reason. It works based on a fear of missing at work, then now is the time for you to make the
something and has brought into this world an urgency decision to have a positive life exchange rate!
which is disproportionate to its priority. Although
technology has created the opportunity to feel that Living the personal and professional balanced life of
everything that is happening is urgent, it is your your dreams
relationship with your technology that is off-balance. is a journey of self-discovery and achievement!
Go back to what I said about automatically switching Barbara J. Cormack
my mobile off at 7pm or physically switching it off at www.nyasa.biz
6pm what happens to those messages? They are still
there the next time I switch the mobile on! The world
has not shut down. They have not disappeared. THE NEED FOR ENERGY
Have you ever been coaching someone who had the following challenges?
Unable to relax, lack of physical drive, build up of resentment, narrow minded or searching for direction.
Well, maybe not these challenges exactly, but I am sure you and your coachee can resonate with the demands
of modern day life and not having enough time in the day, or energy in the tank. Perhaps they have resisted
identifying with these challenges, so let me ask you another question. Do they ever reach for the following
coffee, chocolate or energy drinks?
The list goes on. Of course we have all found ourselves Develop physical resilience to continuously
reaching for a short-term energy kick, the question is evolve during turbulent times?
how often does your coachee find themselves in this Tap into emotions that increase the level of
place? motivation for what they do?
ABOUT BARBARA J. CORMACK
Broaden their mind to new possibilities and
Over the last few months I have been busy designing
Barbara is your leading Spiritual Coach, goals?
and recording online courses. This medium is in my
Mentor and Trainer; published in five co- view really going to take off as a learning platform, so
authoring books, and author of two of her If you are not already convinced, if I said to you - by
I was really keen to include a module on how we can
own. Barbara is an advocate of achieving participating in this programme your coachees can
harness personal energy. Having already explored
in every arena of life. Her clients hold her increase their energy by 25%. Would they sign up to
narrative coaching in an earlier module I designed
in high esteem as her style of working work with you? Well with some simple energy hacks
The advantage though of giving up a number of this module with the coach (and leader) in mind so
makes the knowledge of your future, that I will reveal shortly, I believe this is possible.
things that I thought were important was that having that they can work with others to improve their energy
clear, inviting, and achievable; while her
made these changes, I can now create a Wheel of Life sources, and therefore reduce their need to reach out.
style of coaching or mentoring makes The other thing to note is that many of these hacks
which shows how much time I spend at work and in Calories and money saved, vitality and well being
the possibility of sustainable change are increasingly being applied in society today. The
my life. compelling, exciting, and achievable. She boosted. Here are some questions for your coachee,
old world of hierarchy (blocking energy) and jobs for
Ask yourself or your client the question how much of combines her extensive background and do they need to
life (channelled energy) are quickly becoming a thing
your life are you exchanging for work? experience with a keen insight into the Harness energy by tapping into their energy of the past. This not only gives us more opportunities
demands of balancing the personal with sources to increase vitality? to harness personal energy, it makes it vital for our
Some people, and I know past clients of mine, who the professional. Put fuel in their tank? survival. The new world now encourages choice,
will tell you that their work is their life. If it is and
authenticity, play and freedom.
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The other thing to note is that many of these hacks you touch perfect speed. And that is not flying To get them started ask them to consider what mate maybe, laughter, fun and vitality. Aware of
are increasingly being applied in society today. The at a thousand miles an hour, or a million, tomorrow looks like for them. Now help them to plan their own values, exploring their authentic self.
old world of hierarchy (blocking energy) and jobs for or flying at the speed of light. Because any what they will do (or not do) for themselves under Deep presence in their current state, an egoless
life (channelled energy) are quickly becoming a thing number is a limit, and perfection doesnt have all 5 energy sources. Something that brings energy state. Clarity and freedom descend as their mind
of the past. This not only gives us more opportunities limits. Perfect speed, my son, is being there. into their system. Their priority here is themselves. and body wanders.
to harness personal energy, it makes it vital for our Nothing wrong with being selfish here, if they dont
PRESENCE - visually your coachees energy 2. BODY their primordial needs relating to their
survival. The new world now encourages choice, look after number one then they cant look after
should resemble the typical bell shaped curve. physicality and environment. The roof above their
authenticity, play and freedom. others.
The past and future sits either side of the head, careers, physicality and security. Health and
middle, with presence at the centre. wealth combining. Sporting practice or hobbying
Their activities might of course involve others, as
Brendon Burchard has written a great book called enthusiasts engaged in skills development.
EGOLESS if your coachees ego is active long as the coachee is still the priority. On the whole
The Charge, describing 10 human drives that make Sleeping, eating or intimate physical contact.
then they are probably paying too much they need to be solitary. Dont worry too much about
people feel alive. Preferring Charged people to Caged Wellbeing and being well. Stretching their legs.
attention to what they want rather than what which box the activity resides in, many activities
people he reminds me to point out some of the most 3. HEART - tugging at their heart strings, fear which
they need. Equally one might stick to their could be associated with all sources. As long as they
common mistakes our coachees might experience. are considering the 5 sources and being deliberate in can stop them loving. Pride in the name of love.
People are often found wanting in this area because preferences without adapting to meet the
their actions. Esteem that has no name. Relationships, emotions,
they are putting goals before energy - moving too priorities around them.
social interactions and confidence. The bonds
quickly, disregard for physical needs, letting things ATTRACTION - some people argue that we As a coach watch for well formed habits, this is the they make, and those they break. Compassion,
build up, tunnel vision and ignoring purpose. get what we wish for, the law of attraction. old paradigm. The new paradigm requires intentional trust and empathy. Intuition maybe.
Wayne Dyer goes some way to up the ante newness. Nothing radical, just a point of difference 4. MIND - the school of thought that builds their
THE SOURCE OF ENERGY by stating, You do not attract what you from previous ventures. So picking up some free knowledge. Allowing them to study, research,
want. You attract what you are. Either way weights for the first time in a frequented gym does reflect, learn, read and write. A world view,
Lets take a look at the source of energy, how we can attraction is key. count. Doing the same old routine might not. The old planned, organised, intellect. Letters after their
find it, its framework and effective techniques such paradigm is still of enormous value as it forms the name, analysed, assessed, certified sense. How
as being present and free from the ego. The source of bedrock from which they can build. In with the new they you know what they know? Logic pervades.
energy is hidden within society, but the examples to and in with the old.
follow should allow it to surface. A quick delve into 5. SPIRIT - connections, meaning, morals and
quantum physics and history should complete this The aim is to achieve harmony between tasks for innovation. Harmony and true self, up above or
journey. themselves and tasks for others. Too much energy down below. Morals and moods, defining their
in = stagnation. Too much energy out = flushing. attitude. A sometimes volatile extraction of their
Your coachee will only find the source if they... Coaching them to agree what they can do and what intentions. They enter into it, a world maybe.
they should avoid do or do not. Do I will leave Belief, religion, nature, creativity, actualisation,
SURRENDER Eckhart Tolle gives the its sacred. Our breath.
work on time. Do not I will not be late home. When
wonderful example of being in prison. If
they are ready encourage them to map out activities
you are in prison you have to surrender. You
that have someone else as the priority. They might be
have three options: to see out your time, to
PUTTING FUEL IN YOUR TANK doing something for this person or with this person.
get parole or escape. Either way you have to
surrender, neither option is possible unless Support, challenge and question around each of the
you show vulnerability. This is one of the key modules in the online course,
5 sources
where I describe energy using the 5 energy sources:
soul - body - heart - mind spirit. The energy mapping
hack to follow is a great new habit for coachees
to develop, so that they can access the source and
increase energy.
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Why Personal different actions until you get the results you want.
This requires a desire to continue to do the internal
work to be the best they can be. To be able to transform
Change is and make an impact on other people, leaders must be
willing to take the actions to change themselves and
Important for a invest in their own development. Being free from their
blocks, judgement, fears and limiting beliefs is an on- THE WINNER,
Conscious Leader going process. Taking the action to be committed to
doing the work builds confidence and provides first Lady Learning and
hand stories for the leader to help others see possible
by Floyd Carlson (USA)
alternatives. Charming Mr. Bond
A great first step in driving personal change is getting by Rosana Nedelciu,
a coach. A coach will help the leader to become iCN Journalist Romania
aware of their defaults, the impact these are having
on others and assist in determining how best to
overcome the items holding the person back. The
payoff is the leader becomes an example for others of
what personal change can achieve and they become
conscious of their behaviours. This awareness allows
them to decide is this how I want to be and what I
want to be remembered for. They then are on their A winner is a man who has learnt how to position himself correctly in relation
to his past failures.
journey of becoming a conscious leader.
I heard it the other day and simply loved it! Unlike In real life, a Winner is first and foremost a person
the usual James Bond-like depictions, this piece who has the ability to reason, and who is also not
The shift that is driving leaders to become more
impactful is that we all desire more consciousness of wisdom seems to give The Winner, my hero in afraid to dig deep into the heart of the matter and be
and connection in our lives, and especially from our todays article, more reflective attributes, and not honest with himself. As such, a correct positioning
leaders. We are yearning to feel inspired, but are often so much action. Yes, I know, thats boring. No one in relation to past failures tells me that those of you
surrounded by poor examples of leadership. We see would watch a 007 film to see Mr. Craig sitting at his who are now discouraged and feel like you have
everything from leaders leaving a legacy of long lasting desk and thinking. Sitting in his car and thinking. Or, failed, are actually future Winners, if you just:
emotional scars to many leaders being average at best worse, lying in bed and staring at the ceiling all night.
and being unmemorable. When I ask the question, And yet, the mission of a future Winner - who is now See a mistake/ failure for what it is, and accept
what percentage of the leaders in your career, would meeting with failure - could prove as difficult as those it as such. Bummer, but real!
you want to work for again, I get less than 27%. of charming Mr. Bond. Take full responsibility for it. You have the
ABOUT FLOYD CARLSON
courage to say Me, me, me! in this situation
The leaders that are most memorable are the ones Floyd is presently a business executive Position himself correctly in relation to his past as well.
who care more for their peoples success than his or serving as Director of Learning and failures. It states right from the start that winners,
her own. They check their ego at the door and wake By being responsible, you empower yourself.
Organizational Development for too, have made mistakes, they have met failures and
up every morning thinking about what they can do You know that only those who never do
manufacturing company, Greenheck. went through crises. Winners, too, had moments
today for the best of their team and people. Conscious anything are the ones who never make mistakes.
Prior to this position he spent 15 years when they questioned themselves and their abilities.
leading is taking consistent actions that make a positive (Im thinking this should be part of a Professional
in Belgium working for Cisco Systems in Yes, some of them even let the word looser hover
difference for your people, family, friends, community, Decalogue). You, on the other hand, are on a path
various operations leadership roles for around for a little, while they were discouraged, and
organisations, and environment, while making the of learning that will get you where you want to be.
Ciscos Europe, Middle East, Africa and just before they got back on track. Which means a
world a better place to live. A conscious leader is Thats what Lady Learning does. And she loves to
Russia organization. He led a number Winner now is someone who was once milled and
everyone who makes the decision to be one, believes win.
of cross-cultural teams in Cisco focused polished, and against his or her best intentions and
in their heart they are a leader and takes the steps to By accepting your mistakes, you also prove
on solving customers most important wishes. (Lets be honest, who wants that?) A Winner
live and be an example for the world to follow. Being you have the ability to recognise success, and
business problems. is not a chosen one, but a person who did his part in
a conscious leader is an on-going personal journey of to tell right from wrong in your situation. Unlike those
the Skill and Luck equation and had to confront the
awareness of your default behaviours and the impact for whom there is always someone else to blame for
they have on others. Floyd Carlson is the author of uncontrollable, the twists and turns of life, just like
Conscious Leadership In Action! anyone else. And, unfortunately, thats usually not things that dont work in their life. Unlike those who
(Panoma Press, 2015) and can be done riding cool motorbikes, flying helicopters and steal ideas and like to take credit for someone elses
Personal change is the critical component to drive the
followed on Twitter @fwcarlson. http:// jumping from one high-speed train to another. Not achievements. Why do you think these people do it?
transformation to being more conscious. The model
www.consciousleadershipinactionbook. to mention that, in real life, when things get tough, Because they dont have the ability to build success
becomes aware, make changes and see if those changes
com/the-book/ beautiful ladies arent so much - or so many - around. on their own, but they see it in you!
make the difference you want in your life. If not, take
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A correct positioning means knowing what always have parts of our life that we need to work on.
to do next, or the next time a similar situation And sometimes it just requires a little hard work.
appears. That is why my hero today, The Winner, is
comfortable with thinking. Its like we were back in Returning to my all-time favourite Bond, I have
university and we had to take exams. We could have sighed quite a few times for Mr. Craig. When he was
studied a lot, but unless we took time to carefully in dangerous situations I mean. I did it even though
read and understand the enunciation of the subject, I knew he always prevails in the end. What is my
we never got an excellent grade. So focus on what point? Dont get discouraged if you have failed at
your failure tells you, and not on what you think about something!. You know what? Even if you have done
yourself because of it. repeatedly so. Because now you know what A Winner
Spend some time with your mistakes or failures. does to get back on track. And placing yourself in the
Dont be so quick into freeing yourself from company of Lady Learning (as elusive as she might
them. I know this is usually done by going seem on a first impression) is a great first step in an
straight in the opposite direction, or embracing the adventure that will ultimately lead you to success.
mighty NO. Never. I will never do this again. Not in
this lifetime. Dont they say that if you do the same
thing twice and expect to have different results, you
are crazy? Well, not me. Im not doing that ever again!
Only to redo it, of course, and simply because
not enough time was given to read the fine print. You
never know what it tells you. Sometimes, you need to
try again, try harder. Other times, just rework on some
nuances. Maybe you need to come with a different
approach. And if you were waiting for this, yes, there
are situations when you need to go in the opposite
direction. And you know what? If you ever decide to make a
film about this thinking ride of yours, count me in!
Dont have an all-encompassing rule for Ill be your first buying viewer!
different mistakes or failures, unless its to
treat each as a singular and unique event. There may
be teachings that apply, teachings from past mistakes,
but the enunciation of each mistake is still unique.
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From Balance to Integration,
the Role of the Coach
mega-cloud. Sustaining personal growth in such an So it is not a question of semantics. The concept
unstable environment is no longer only a right but a of integration of private and personal lives, if not
priority. a reality, is at the very least a necessity, whether it
by Cedric Lefebvre (Belgium) be reactive (a concession in respect to a current
Elsewhere, beyond this evolution, there is clear professional situation) or proactive (the conception,
evidence of an inappropriate discordance between implementation or re-orientation of a career plan).
private and professional life. Wanting to establish
a balance between two worlds implies they are
exclusive and in competition with one another.
Speaking of balance leads unavoidably to the idea of
imbalance. Keeping ones balance then, becomes a
means, a tactic, rather than an end in itself. Moreover,
failing to maintain this balance, or losing it altogether
provokes evident stress, a devaluation of the self and,
potentially dysfunction, illness, frustration, burnout,
death and suicide. The Japanese actually use the term
Karoshi which means death caused by an excess of
work.
Personal growth is more than a right, it is a priority. However, considering private and professional lives
as concepts between which everyone should find their own balance is not as sustainable as finding a way to
What is the role of a coach in this context? How can
integrate them with a holistic view. In such a context, coaches have a key role to play.
a coach facilitate this transition, specifically where
While the first mention of the term workaholic dates envisaging, or even dreaming of exercising their the coach suggests a dichotomous structure in which
back to the 1940s, it wasnt until the seventies that chosen profession. We are far removed from the work and pleasure are perceived as conceptually
related terms began to be heard, such as burnout and poque when one could, without any hesitation, contradictory? To be precise, it is in suggesting that
work-life balance. establish an unequivocal connection with a type of the structure goes beyond an approach centred on
work a trade a company a workplace a career. time-management, task-prioritisation (or delegation)
This balance between ones professional and private At present there is a progressive blurring of the line or even development of assertiveness. In effect, as
lives is still often portrayed as the manifestation between work and private life due primarily to the useful as the teachings gleaned from sessions on these
of a serene, economically stable lifestyle where necessity of moonlighting, less time-consuming and objectives may be, they can but reinforce a black
the individual is able to assign the appropriate more ecologically sensible home working and home and white vision, deprived of any nuance. With the
importance and thus, the true value to each of these based businesses. clients consent, the coach will first of all initiate an
two fundamentally distinct entities: career and the If the balance between private and professional exploration of the self, followed by awareness and
sphere of private life. The Hudson Agency designed It is well-known that, much more than mentality, it life is no longer of interest to us, what then is the finally the full expression of their raison dtre.
a typology of companies based on their wish to is new technology that is sustaining this evolution. contemporary approach we should consider? As
encourage a harmonious balance between professional It annihilates distance and, one day, holograms may emphasised by Lisa Earle McLeod and Stew
and private life, demonstrating how employees who even create the perfect illusion of a physical presence Friedman, we should not henceforth view things
are able to attain this balance in their lives in turn add in the office. Little by little, robots replace humans from the perspective of a dichotomy; it is neither
great value to their company. An illustration of this (one recent study suggests that 47% of all jobs in the a question of choice nor opportunity. As much as
can be found in the Gallup study that reveals how an United States will be threatened by this phenomenon possible, life and work should complement each other,
employees satisfaction level increases by 50% when within the next two decades - other states that 40% should be sparked by the same passion, by the same
they have a close friendship with a colleague at work. of Australian jobs are at risk of being automated values. Life and work should be congruous. The key
within ten to fifteen years). Relationships between is not a tactic, then, but a holistic vision. The solution
For several years, however, the relevance of this very colleagues, clients and suppliers exist in a dimension is not, then, knowing how to prioritise, but how to
concept of balance has been thrown into question, where contact is virtual and professional activity is combine pleasure with raison dtre, essence and
owing as much to socio-evolutionary reasons as to a not linked to any specific location. And while social activity, fulfilment and professional endeavour. In
progressively different and more philosophical vision network is already a welcome guest at the dinner this way development at work, at home, in the midst
of what we still call work. table as much as in the office, while companies of ones community and within ones most intimate
have their page and we like our colleagues, the self becomes accessible and lasting.
For instance, let us begin simply with the way multiplication of these platforms will undoubtedly
in which more and more people are practicing, lead to a future fusion if not replacemed by a dynamic
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It is through these experiences of looking within and
the touching of another that creates no other closer
feeling of emotional connection.
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From Confusion to Clarity Innerpreneurs (also called Cultural Creatives) have
traits that are very compatible with the concepts
But Innerpreneurs are characteristically different, as
they start businesses as vehicles to aid in their own
As most Life Coaches know, when a client says, I dont really know what I want in lifeI just want to be
happy, we can feel stumped. Traditional Life Coaching can only, by its very nature, help someone reach a
clearly definable and measurable goal and being happy is neither of those. So what can the coach do?
Try to discover, through deep questioning, what is missing in the clients life, what would make them bounce
out of bed with joy each morning, what is it they cannot get through the day without dreaming about. With
Transpersonal Life Coaching, this dilemma is tackled from many angles.
Transpersonal can be said to be another word for their spiritual integrity. They will discover how to
holistic which, in essence, means to address the whole grow, thrive and bring some magic back into their
person from all three perspectives: mind, body and lives, while actively nourishing their spiritual selves. ABOUT JEAN GILHEAD
spirit. Transpersonal Life Coaching helps to guide
Clients are often surprised how quickly
and develop the psychological, physiological and Heart-based entrepreneurs respond well to & easily they move through their issues
spiritual aspects of peoples lives to enable them to Transpersonal Life Coaching; these business people & challenges once they start coaching
work through their blocks, to thereby achieve success are often called Innerpreneurs within the marketing with Jean. As an Intuitive & an Empath,
and accomplish their desired results in spite of their profession. An Innerpreneur will use their business she has developed the ability to work
issues. to find personal fulfilment creatively, spiritually, deeply & connectedly with individuals &
groups, encouraging & motivating them
emotionally and create social change. to bring out the best in themselves.
In the first coaching session, clients will often
struggle to express their deepest desires, perhaps after Her strengths are communication
a lifetime of suppressing them. But, after having had of all forms & at all levels; the ability
explained how the many tools in the Transpersonal to instigate & promote an idea or
concept & inspire others; versatility &
Coaching Toolbox work to help them, they can and do adaptability; high creative energy; an
go forward to achieve everything they want, having analytical & enquiring mind & an ability
been inspired and empowered to find and live their to work on her own initiative or as part
passion in a context of love and joy and an absence of a team.
of fear. www.jeangilhead.com
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Do You See
What They See?
(Part 1)
by Reginald Jackson (USA)
Everyone looks at things in different ways. Where Exposure is the first element; the story of our life to the responses, we also have feelings, emotions,
we come from, what we have been taught, etc. can as we remember it. We form opinions about all the and body sensations. Therein lays the recipe for an
have an effect on how we form opinions. The position events we have witnessed or been a part of and experience.
we take can be considered a frame of reference, or relate to our past through the feelings and emotions
context. Our context is the lens through which we see associated with those events. Positive, negative, or Finally, the expectation is best described as the
the world. This is typically based on three elements: otherwise, it becomes our reality. In this way, we anticipation of a future outcome. Although the future is
Exposure are products of our environment. Although some unknown, we tend to forecast certain events. Oddly
would argue, subconsciously or intentionally, we are enough, exposure and experience(s) may influence
Experience
somewhat shaped by our past. The relationships we how we envision the future as it will be or (even
Expectation have with our friends and family also contribute to better) should be. With this in mind, disappointment
the collection of memories we carry. Some more than is often where expectation and reality meet. Of course,
others! expectation isnt categorically unpleasant. Expectation
can also be a source of joy and excitement. The
combination between the two is our context which ABOUT REGINALD JACKSON
leads to the essence of this discussion.
As a Personal and Business Coach,
he works with individuals, as well
Imagine your every action is a display, or evidence of as groups, inspiring them to move
your context. In other words, the way we see the world outside their comfort zone and realize
is the way others see us. This leads to the question; do their greatness. His journey up to this
you see what they see? If you had the ability to watch point is interesting and quite diverse.
Having served in the Marine Corps
yourself as others do, would you be surprised, amused, for more than twenty years, he offers
disappointed, etc.? We are spectators of everyones life a unique blend of leadership, wisdom,
but our own. It is virtually impossible to assess how you and compassion. Over the span of
act or react in the moment. Taking a slightly different his career, he trained, counseled, and
approach will allow you to gain another vantage point. mentored hundreds of Marines. It
was during that time he developed the
The second element consists of our experiences. Being acutely aware of how exposure, experience, and insight and awareness that makes him
These three elements also represent moments in They are shaped by the events that take place every expectation dictate your daily interactions will cause such a powerful Coach. Since retiring
time. Simply put, they are our past, our present, day. Moment by moment, life takes place. And as it you to be better equipped and less likely to fall victim from the Corps in 2007, he has held
and our future. Looking at each of these elements does, we are constantly collecting data and storing to lifes ups and downs. leadership positions in the IT industry,
independently may provide an objective perspective memories. Oddly enough, those memories may to include consulting and project
that helps us to better understand how we actually see management. Working with others and
determine how we respond to certain events or issues. If this has aroused your curiosity and youd like seeing the light come on is especially
the world. More importantly, this understanding can More times than not, those responses are automatic to learn more about shifting your context to one of rewarding.
allow us to also better understand how the world sees and dont require much thought at all. In addition empowerment and decisiveness, stay tuned for Part 2.
us!
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Life Coaching indeed, a
unique journey of Equals
by Namita Sinha (India)
In my quest for continuous improvement in my professional practice, trying to better myself on the principles
and skills widely accepted to be the arsenal of a Life Coach, I realised that once we start coaching more and
more people, we may get to see a common pattern evolving and helping us understand and assist people with
their situations and journeys, yet it is so important to also acknowledge at the same time that every individual
is unique with his or her unique context, and at no point should we rush to categorise or classify a person as
per our professional experience .
We rather be prepared to risk a bit of failure and be rightfully its a process of supporting and helping the
confronted with some surprise element or a What client himself find his unique solution!
next.. , at some junction rather than allowing our
subconscious to fit every living being and his situation
into the frame of some or the other past learning of ABOUT NAMITA SINHA
ours.
A Banker and Marketer by educational
To be a successful Coach, there exists a dire need qualification, after 12 years of full
time corporate assignments at Senior
to genuinely keep ourselves open to exploring a new Managerial levels with Multi National
life and a new mindset every day, and add to our Firms, NamitaI recently embarked on
own learning experience first , rather than feeling an exploring phase in her career, to
victorious that Oh, I managed to figure my Client discover her true callinglife -coaching
and trace him to that oft repeated concept of Coaching ,training ,writing and blogging.
that I have tested for so many She is keen to support and empower
people, through her Coaching Practice
Not to be judgmental at all, in the truest spirit would and look forward to sharing hr insights
mean totally disconnecting ourselves first from our especially with young minds on socially
own past and present ,and delve into the clients relevant themes and topics through
her writing and blogging. Aspiring to
world as if discovering a totally new space each time.. become a thriving Coach and Trainer
in personal, academic and executive
Indeed thats one of the reasons why we prefer space, Namita likes researching ideas
Coaching to be separate from Counselling or any which actually integrates and aligns
Therapy or Consulting, it is definitely a journey the personal and professional domain.
Thus she is a strong advocate of Work-
of Equals , and theres lot more of Compassionate Life integration rather than work life
Listening and Absorbing from the part of the Coach balance.
rather than talking , suggesting or advising, and
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14. How clear are you about the differences between 17. What is your anticipated length of commitment
Coaching, Mentoring, and Training? Which for this coaching/mentoring relationship?
meets your exact needs? 18. What procedures does the Coach/Mentor have
in place to formalise the coaching/mentoring
Click the Issue 12 link below to understand the relationship?
differences between Coaching and Mentoring.
19. What format of coaching/mentoring are you
Click the Issue 12 link below to read the definition of looking for?
Coaching, Mentoring, Training and other therapies.
Face-2-Face Telephone Internet Email
15. Does the Coach/Mentor belong to an Accreditation, Individual Group Team
Professional or Trade Coaching and/or Mentoring
Body? 20. Does the Coach/Mentor provide an introductory
session that allows you to know whether you
If your selected Coach/Mentor is on the IIC&Ms could effectively communicate with this Coach/
Directory of Professional and Accredited Coaches/ Mentor?
Mentors then they do belong to a an Accreditation
Coaching and Mentoring Body. If they do not
appear in the IIC&Ms Directory of Professional and To ensure a positive outcome, it is important that you
Accredited Coaches or Mentors, are they found on the and your Coach or Mentor are a good fit, that you
IRCMs Register? If not, what other Accreditation, feel motivated, and are comfortable being challenged
Professional, or Trade Coaching/Mentoring Body by them. Therefore, we suggest that you interview a
do they belong to? What do they have to do for number of Coaches or Mentors.
this other Accreditation, Professional, or Trade
Coaching/Mentoring Body to demonstrate their IIC&M
professionalism? The IIC&M is an officially approved
International Accreditation Body
16. Does the Coach/Mentor have Professional for Coaches, Mentors, Training
Indemnity Insurance? Organisations and Clients
creating excellence in the coaching and
Although in some countries Professional Indemnity mentoring professions
Insurance is not mandatory, the IIC&M recommends www.IICandM.org
that each Coach/Mentor has Professional Indemnity www.IICandM.org/ICNissue12
Insurance. info@IICandM.org
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