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Richard A. Gardner
Abstract: Freuds dilemma with regard to whether or not he should believe his patients
allegations of sexual abuse in childhood is well known. A century later, psychoana-
lysts are still dealing with this important issue. In this article, I describe the criteria I
have developed in recent years, criteria that have been useful for me when attempting
to determine whether my child and adult patients allegations of sex abuse are more
likely to be true or more likely to be false. Although these differentiating criteria were
developed in the context of forensic evaluations, they should prove useful in clinical
settings as well.
abuse is more likely to be true or more likely to be false, that is, more
likely to be the result of an actual experience, or more likely to be the
product of fantasy and/or delusion (Gardner, 1987, 1992, 1995a, 1996a,
2002). The article will be divided into two parts: (1) the situation in which
an adult patient claims to have been sexually abused in childhood or
believes that he or she might have been sexually abused in childhood
and is hoping that in the course of the analysis, clarification of this con-
cern will emerge, and (2) the situation in which an adult patient is ex-
pressing concerns as to whether or not his (her) child was sexually
abused. Obviously, the best assessment in the latter situation would be
conducted by a psychologist or psychiatrist specifically knowledgeable
and experienced in the realm of conducting evaluations of children who
are professing sexual abuse. The differentiating criteria presented in this
article should prove useful for psychoanalysts for deciding whether re-
ferral to such a specialist is warranted. In certain situations, if the ana-
lyst concludes that a parents concerns are justified, then it might be
necessary to contact child protection services.
The criteria presented here are those that the author has developed over
the last 20 years in association with evaluations conducted in many realms,
especially in situations in which the accusation is directed against parents,
relatives, teachers, clergy, scoutmasters, and babysitters. In all of these
evaluations, the author has been confronted with the question as to whether
the accusation is more likely to be true or more likely to be false. In most
cases, the authors findings required courtroom testimony. Accordingly,
the evaluations were quite intensive, involved evaluations of the perpe-
trator (when possible) and required the utilization of very stringent dif-
ferentiating criteria in order to testify properly in a court of law. Psycho-
analysts are rarely subjected to cross examination in a court of law to
support their statements. I have long held the position that such scrutiny
would have done the field much good. This psychoanalyst has been sub-
jected to such scrutiny for over 40 years and brings to this article the prod-
uct of his experiences in the sex-abuse realm, experiences that might prove
useful to analysts who are primarily involved in the psychoanalytic and
psychotherapeutic process, but who are faced with the same question that
Freud was faced with a century ago.
There are psychoanalysts who take the position: Its not important
whether the patients beliefs and/or statements are true or false; what is
important is the patients perception. That is my starting point and I roll
with that. I am in sharp disagreement with this position. All patients,
whether neurotic or psychotic, have some distortions about reality and
it behooves the psychoanalyst to help correct such distortions. Roll-
ing with the patient into fantasyland cannot but be antitherapeutic.
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I present here the criteria that I have found most useful for differen-
tiating between true and false sex-abuse accusations in this category.
Many are derived from my work with adult female patients who claim
that they were sexually abused in childhood. For the adult patient, get-
ting some idea as to whether a claim of childhood sexual abuse is real-
ity or fantasy is very important for proper treatment of residual symp-
toms with which the patient may or may not suffer. More important, a
proper assessment of the claim that a child is being sexually abused is
vital if one is to take the proper steps to protect the child from the abuses.
Some of these accusations were false and the accusation was the prod-
uct of what is often referred to as the false memory syndrome (FMS).
Many of these accusations were indeed true, especially because the
patients provided credible descriptions of their abuses, descriptions
which did not satisfy any of the criteria for a false accusation. Because
women are more likely than men to be raising questions about child-
hood sexual abuse, I will use the female pronoun in this section of my
article. Women are more likely to be concerned about the possibility of
childhood sexual abuse because of the obvious fact that they are more likely
to have been sexually abused, both in childhood and subsequently. In ad-
dition, the false memory syndrome is much more common in women than
men. The differentiating criteria presented here, however, can generally
be used with men as well (Gardner, 1995a).
Women who were abused may have been in situations in which their
mothers were indeed facilitators. They may have looked the other way
because of the recognition that disclosure of the abuse might bring about
the break-up of the family, significant economic privation, and even po-
lice intervention with public disgrace. Such facilitating mothers, however,
do not generally support the denials of their husbands when their daugh-
ters are adults. They may, however, have involved themselves in some
denial in the earlier years during the time frame of the abuses. Women
who falsely accuse will often interpret their mothers denial of the abuse
as part of a conspiracy to cover up this family secret. They will, retro-
spectively, view the mother as facilitator of the abuse and her present lack
of support to be a statement of betrayal of the accusing woman. Typically,
the entreaties of these mothers to their daughters that the abuse could not
possibly have taken place falls on deaf ears. Commonly, the number of
facilitators is expanded to include older siblings. Most often, the facilita-
tors are viewed as passive facilitators via their doing nothing. On rare
occasion, they will be considered to have been actively involved in en-
couraging and even participating in the sexual abuse.
Commonly, when the accusation is false, the recall of the sex abuse
first comes about in the course of therapy and there was no actual recol-
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lection of abuse until the patient went into treatment. Typically, the rec-
ollection of the false belief emerges in the course of a type of psycho-
therapy designed to uncover repressed memory (Repressed Memory
Therapy). Such recall argues for a false accusation. This is especially
the case when the therapist has a reputation for being particularly skilled
in bringing such long-repressed memories into conscious awareness. (For
further discussion of repression, dissociation, and repressed memories
see Gardner, 1995b.)
In contrast, when the abuse is real, the individual does not need to go
into treatment in order to remember the major elements in the abuse.
time gap between the cessation of the abuses and their recovery of its
memories during which time frame there may be absolutely no memory
of the abuses, nor even a hint of it. Such women will claim that if they
were asked during the time frame of amnesia whether they were ever sexu-
ally abused in childhood, they would have responded that they were not.
In contrast, individuals who have suffered bona fide abuses will often
experience recurrent and intrusive distressing recollections of the event,
sometimes even years after the experience. These are sometimes referred
to as flashbacks, especially when they appear without known exter-
nal stimuli. Typically, there will be a gradual diminution in the frequency
of such thoughts over time. Furthermore, when the abuse is genuine,
there is generally no prolonged period during which there were no such
thoughts.
Typically, false accusers and their therapists will not invite the al-
leged perpetrator into the therapeutic session. The most common ratio-
nalization for doing this is: Theres no point wasting time on him; hell
only deny it anyway. In many cases, when the accused party tries to
speak with the therapist, even in the presence of the accusing woman,
his requests are rebuffed.
In contrast, women who were genuinely abused many years previ-
ously do not feel the need to distance themselves so completely from
their abusers many years later. In many cases they have a cordial and
friendly relationship with the man, especially for the sake of their chil-
dren, his grandchildren (Gardner, 1996a).
10. Belief That the Childhood Sexual Abuse Was at the Root
of Most of the Womans Problems in Life
In contrast, those who were genuinely abused are not likely to have
conviction for such an oversimplified explanation for their difficulties.
They may, however, consider the sex abuse to be the cause of some of
their problems, but appreciate that other factors were operative.
Typically, falsely accusing women show little if any guilt over the
grief they have visited upon their fathers, often their mothers, and fre-
quently other members of their extended families. The lives of most of
these men have been destroyed, almost overnight. Many were, by every
criterion, solid citizens. Suddenly, their whole world has fallen away
from them. Their life savings and/or pensions may be at stake. Selling
their homes in order to defend themselves in a lawsuit is not uncom-
mon. They are subjected to public humiliation, sometimes only in the
neighborhood, but often in the media as well. Many suddenly find them-
selves pariahs, and for some, even their wives abandon them. Many have
been fired from their jobs. Heart attacks and strokes are not uncommon.*
Yet, typically, the women who falsely accuse their fathers are blinded
by rage and show little guilt over how they are destroying their fathers
lives. Just as the fathers have been changed, overnight, from solid citi-
zens to perverts in their daughters minds, so too have these women
been transformed into false accusers with psychopathic tendenciesa
testament to their suggestibility and the power some therapists wield over
their patients.
In contrast, women who were genuinely abused are not as likely to
engage in an ongoing campaign of vengence. There is more likely to be
some guilt and appreciation of the consequences to the accused.
Not only is past pathology given a new interpretation via the afore-
mentioned mechanism of retrospective reinterpretation, but even past
normal behavior or mild abnormalities (which practically everybody ex-
periences) are considered manifestations of the childhood sexual abuse.
Some examples are feelings of insecurity, headaches, menstrual cramps,
*I personally have now seen three men who, in the course of their lawsuits, devel-
oped terminal illnesses and died knowing that a lawsuit was in effect that might wipe
out all the funds they have left for their wives and, ironically, all the childreninclud-
ing the accusing daughter.
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14. Hysteria
15. Paranoia
False accusers are clearly paranoid and the belief that they were sexu-
ally abused is part of their paranoid delusional system. Typical mani-
festations of paranoia are seen: projection, oversimplification, and re-
sistance to alteration by logic and/or confrontation with reality. Paranoids
are particularly attracted to the legal system, which they view as an
excellent mechanism for protecting themselves from those who would
persecute them as well as enable them to wreck vengeance on their tor-
mentors. Paranoia, like hysteria, has a tendency to spread and, under such
circumstances, preparanoid individuals may become paranoid. Hyste-
ria and paranoia are on a continuum and hysteria can, when severe, de-
velop into paranoia.
People who have been abused are less likely to be paranoid, nor are
their accusations part of a paranoid delusional system.
False accusers may often claim that they can recall having been sexu-
ally abused in infancy, sometimes as far back as the age of six months.
The best studies on human memory demonstrate convincingly that dur-
ing the first two years of life memories are not well organized and not
clearly embedded in storage. Rather, they are fragmented and disorga-
nized. Accordingly, claims based on recollections of sexual abuses be-
fore the age of two (or thereabout) are likely to be false.
In contrast, women who have been genuinely abused sexually do not
usually provide recollections going back earlier than the age of three or
four, the youngest ages at which human memory can provide valid, or-
ganized recollections.
False accusers who may have trouble recalling their abuses may be-
come proponents of the body memory theory. The belief here is that
the body has the ability to remember experiences that the mind might
not. The body expresses its memory not by thoughts but by physi-
cal manifestations such as tingling, blemishes, rashes, and other sen-
sations in the body regions involved in the sex abuse. Once again, we
see how false accusers try to give medical credibility to their accusa-
tions by bringing in medical phenomena. However, because they are
basically dealing with a house of cards, they must distort to prepos-
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terous levels the medical criteria. Again, we see here the mechanism
of stretching known medical phenomena in order to accommodate
a false sex-abuse accusation.
18. Variations
False accusers, especially those in therapy, will often sue their al-
leged perpetrators, claiming that such lawsuits are part of the healing
process. Typically, they claim that the psychological damage they have
sustained is so profound that they will require many years of treatment.
This, of course, will be quite expensive and claim that payment for treat-
ment is one of the purposes of the lawsuit. Not surprisingly, women who
are in therapy are more likely to institute such lawsuits.
In contrast, women who have been genuinely abused are less likely
to believe that such a lawsuit will be therapeutic.
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Soon after the memory of the sex abuse has been recovered, false
accusers will often try to enlist the support of siblings and other family
members in the campaign of vilification and vengeance against the fa-
ther. Those who support the accusing daughter are embraced and be-
come part of her coterie of enablers (see item 9). Those who do not pro-
vide such support may be rejected, even to the point of total cessation
of the relationship. Accordingly, family members find themselves in the
position of having to take sides, either on the side of the father or on the
side of the accusing daughter. Even those who are neutral are rejected
because they are considered to be aligning themselves with the father
perpetrator.
In contrast, women who have been genuinely abused are less likely
to require such statements of family loyalty and are extremely unlikely
to bring about the aforementioned kind of family civil war.
Until recent years, the multiple personality disorder (MPD) was con-
sidered to be extremely rare or nonexistent. False accusers are often
labeled MPD, especially with the belief that this disorder is caused by
the sexual abuse that has been dissociated into the unconscious com-
partment of the mind. This diagnosis gives the patient medical credibil-
ity, not only because MPD is presumed to be the result of sex abuse, but
also because there is no sex abuse syndrome in DSM-IV. A not in-
consequential fringe benefit of this diagnosis is that it can justify ob-
taining payments from insurance companies and rape victim compen-
sation funds (Gardner, 1994).
In contrast, women who have been abused are not likely to have been
diagnosed with MPD.
Concluding Comments
Whereas an adult womans concerns that she might have been sexu-
ally abused in childhood usually relates to the situation in which the
alleged abuser is a father, uncle, or grandfather, concerns about ones
own childs sexual abuse covers a wide variety of situations: both within
and outside of the family, both within and outside the marriage. As
mentioned, my own experience in this realm covers many of these, for
example, accusations in intact families, accusations in the context of
child-custody disputes, and accusations against clergy, scout masters,
babysitters, teachers, and neighbors. There are, however, certain crite-
ria that can be useful for assessing whether the allegation is true or false.
These should be useful for the psychoanalyst when attempting to deter-
mine whether assessment by an expert in this realm is warranted and/or
whether referral to child protection services is justified. The criteria
presented here can be used by the psychoanalyst when conducting an
inquiry with the patient regarding the childs allegation. They are not
designed to be used by the analyst for interviewing the child directly.
Again, this should be left to specialists in that realm.
There are some situations in which the risk of bona fide sex abuse is
high and there are others in which it is low. High-risk situations include
the intrafamilial situation, where the perpetrator is a family member liv-
ing in the same home as the child. (This is generally referred to as the
incestuous situation.) Other high-risk situations include those in which
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Children who have been abused are likely to provide a credible de-
scription of their experiences. In contrast, those who provide false ac-
cusations are more likely to provide descriptions that are extremely
unlikely and even impossible. The sex-abuse scenarios may be absurd
and/or preposterous. The child may be comfortable with the inclusion
of these blatantly ludicrous elements because of cognitive immaturity.
Adults who promulgate the childs false accusation often exhibit a sur-
prising impairment in judgment when accepting as valid these prepos-
terous accusations, but they may not exhibit such impairments in judg-
ment in other areas of their lives.
Sometimes the fantastic elements are derived from the primitive
sexual fantasies of children, those that are manifestations of what Freud
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Children who have been abused are more likely to be able to provide
specific details of the sex abuse because they can refer to an internal vi-
sual image related to the abuse experience. When talking about the abuse,
the visual image that is brought to mind includes many details that go
beyond the imagery directly related to the abuse. This includes details about
the place where the abuse occurred, often the approximate time of day (or
night), the presence (or absence) of other individuals, and statements made
by the abuser, the child, and others who may have been present.
In contrast, children whose accusations are false are far less likely to
have such an internal visual image because there was no actual experi-
ence they can bring into conscious awareness. Accordingly, when asked
to describe details of the abuse, such as, what exactly was said, what was
worn, and who was in the vicinity, they have difficulty providing the cor-
roborative details. When asked to provide these details they may say, I
forgot, I dont remember, or Ask my mother. She remembers those
things better than me. The last response, of course, lets the cat out of
the bag and provides strong evidence that the child has been programmed.
Often, children who are fabricating a sex-abuse accusation will use such
terms as I think, I guess, maybe, probably, or other vague terms
when describing their abuses. The use of such terms is generally seen in
the transitional state when the child is going from no memory at all to an
actual visual image, a visual image that is a result of the programming.
Commonly, the false-accusation scenario has a nidus of truth related
to some realistic experience. But this core of reality will be elaborated
upon significantly, especially with the prompting of the false accuser.
For example, a father may have indeed taken his daughter to the bath-
room and helped her wipe herself. Or the father may have indeed taken
a shower with his two boys. In the course of these experiences the in-
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evitable contact between the fathers hand and the childs genitalia serves
as a nucleus for the sex-abuse allegation, especially after prompting by
an adult, such as an accusing parent or an overzealous evaluator.
Children who have been abused will usually have a fairly good memory
of their experience(s) and during the first disclosure or two will usually
be able to provide a complete account of what has occurred. They rarely
need ongoing therapy to help them remember all the details. In con-
trast, children who have been programmed typically provide elaborations
over time, especially if the inquiries continue to be conducted by a parade
of examiners, each of whom is desirous of extracting more details. Chil-
dren are suggestible and gullible and want to ingratiate themselves to adult
authorities. If they sense that the examiner wants to hear more details and
more elaborations, they will provide them. And, if the examiner is recep-
tive to hearing outlandish and preposterous elaborations, these will be
provided. If, however, the examiner were to express incredulity, then such
elaborations will not be provided. This process is especially apparent when
the accusing child is in treatment with a therapist who is operating
under the presumption (or more correctly, delusion) that there were a whole
series of abominable sexual acts perpetrated over a long period and it may
take years of therapy before all is uncovered.
7. Sexual Excitation
Children who have been abused are often prematurely brought into a
state of adult-level sexual excitation. So high is their level of sexual
excitation that they may be obsessed with sex and may even exhibit
sexual behavior in the course of the interview, for instance, rubbing their
own genitals and/or pressing their genitals against the examiner. Chil-
dren who have not been abused, having had no such excitation, are not
likely to exhibit signs and symptoms of sexual arousal. There are, how-
ever, some nonabused children who exhibit a high level of sexual exci-
tation, and this may even date back to infancy. This may relate to their
being at that point on the bell-shaped distribution curve at which a small
percentage of normal children start to exhibit sexual excitation. Or they
may be children who resort to masturbation as a tranquilizer, antidepres-
sant, or source of pleasure to counterbalance tensions and frustrations
related to family privations and stresses.
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Children who have been abused often have a sexual vocabulary that
is beyond that of other children their age. Currently, when children are
being excessively exposed to sexual information, this criterion may still
be valid. When applying this criterion, one must not simply consider
the content of the childs statements with regard to whether they reflect
age-appropriate knowledge of sexual matters, but the degree of famil-
iarity and comfort that the child has when discussing sexual matters.
Children in this category often appear street smart and speak in a
matter-of-fact way about French kissing, humping, and going
down. At a time when sexual knowledge by young people is so ubiqui-
tous, the comfort element is of greater diagnostic value than the advanced
knowledge factor itself.
Children who are promulgating a false sex-abuse accusation do not
exhibit the aforementioned type of vocabulary. The terminology they
use may come from more stereotyped sources such as child abuse pre-
vention programs and the typical jargon used by overzealous evalua-
tors, such as, He touched me in bad places or He gave me bad touches
or He touched me in places where my bathing suit should be.
ally with other children. They may, on occasion, exhibit normal sexual
exploratory play. Such experiences, however, are only occasional and
do not have the compulsive quality exhibited by children who have been
sexually abused.
Many sexually abused children may feel very dirty after the sexual
encounters, especially in the genital area. They may try to bathe them-
selves or shower, often repeatedly. However, because the feeling of dirti-
ness is more psychological than physical, the cleansing process may not
leave them with a feeling that the washing has been successful. Such
frequent bathing and showering can sometimes serve as a warning sign
of sexual abuse. In contrast, children who provide false accusations do
not generally consider their genitals to be dirty and, therefore, do not
generally exhibit this symptom.
Children who have suffered genuine sex abuse often consider their
genitals, the organs involved in the crime, to have been damaged.
Sometimes the presence of a sexually transmitted disease will contrib-
ute to such a feeling. In contrast, children who provide false allegations
do not generally describe such feelings of genital deformity, injury, etc.
Furthermore, they may not have learned from those who coach them that
this is one of the signs of genuine sex abuse.
Some children who have been sexually abused have indeed suffered
physical damage to their genitals, and such trauma will generally be
verified in medical reports. However, there are children who have been
abused who have not suffered any physical damage to their genitals but
still feel that their genitalia have been damaged because of their appre-
ciation of the cultural attitudes toward their sexual activities. Further-
more, the programmers of children who provide false sex-abuse accu-
sations may have brought the child for numerous physical examinations
in the hope that the examining physician might provide supporting evi-
dence for sexual abuse. Their hope is that the physician will agree that
a minor blemish, a minor rash, inflammation caused by occasional rub-
bing, etc., is indeed a sign of sexual abuse. Nonabused children who have
been subjected to such repeated examinations may thereby come to
believe that their genitals have somehow been damaged.
Children who have been abused are often preoccupied with their
trauma, often to the point of obsession. Such preoccupation may last for
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months and even yearsto the point where such children complain that
they cannot get thoughts about their abuses out of their minds. Recur-
rent thoughts of the trauma are likely to occur in situations that remind
the child of the abuse. Such preoccupation is one of the hallmarks of
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
In contrast, children who have not been abused are not likely to de-
scribe such preoccupations.
Some sexually abused children will suffer with episodes in which they
reexperience both cognitively and emotionally the sexual encounters.
This is especially the case when the encounters have been traumatic.
During such episodes they act and feel as if the traumatic event were
recurring. These episodes are sometimes triggered by exposure to stimuli
that are similar to those that were present at the time of the abuse.
These episodes are sometimes referred to as flashbacks. Generally,
simply thinking about the abuse does not warrant the designation flash-
back. Rather, the term flashback is better reserved for distressful recol-
lection in which there has been high emotional reaction, very similar to
that which existed at the time of the abuse. Overzealous evaluators will
often label any thought of the experience a flashback. Actually feeling
that one is reliving the experience is an extension of the flashback.
In contrast, children who have not been abused do not experience
episodic reliving or bona fide flashbacks (as defined above).
Information about what the child chooses to do in his or her free time
can provide useful information for differentiating between true and false
sex-abuse accusations. Rather than involve themselves in age-appropriate
traditional recreational activities, abused children may choose a hobby
or recreational activity that provides the opportunity for desensitization
and dealing with (sometimes symbolically) the trauma.
Especially valuable is an inquiry into the kinds of pretend games
that the child utilizes. Common pretend games include house (in which
children assign parental roles and play act various family interactions),
school (in which teacherpupil interactions are often enacted), store
(in which sales transactions are enacted), and various job roles such as
secretary and boss. Sexually abused children will frequently utilize
such games as a vehicle for working through their reactions to their
trauma.
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A detailed inquiry into the dream life of the child can provide useful
information regarding whether the accusation is true or false. It is im-
portant to differentiate here between the normal predictable nightmares
that all children have on occasion and those that are directly related to
the abuse. Dreams in the former category are nonspecific, whereas
dreams in the latter are trauma specific and will generally portray some
aspect of the abuse with little or no disguise or modification. Such
trauma-specific repetitious dreams are one of the hallmarks of PTSD.
Abused children are also likely to daydream about their abuses and
this too is one of the hallmarks of PTSD.
Nightmares are commonly considered to be one of the important in-
dicators of sex abuse. There is hardly an article on child sex abuse that
does not list nightmares as one of the indicators. Overzealous evalua-
tors invariably will list nightmares as one of the important manifesta-
tions of child sex abuse. It is rare for any differentiation to be made
between nightmares that might relate to sex abuse and nightmares that
may have other sources. It is rare for zealous examiners to ask ques-
tions about the content of the nightmare in order to try to make some
assessment in this regard. But even if one does conduct such an inquiry,
one may be hard put to know whether the content relates to sex abuse or
to other issues. This problem notwithstanding, the inquiry into content
should still be made because there is still the possibility that such an
inquiry might enable one to make the differentiation.
For a nightmare to be considered a manifestation of bona fide sex
abuse, it must be trauma specific, that is, it must either depict specifi-
cally some aspect of the abuse or be so closely related to it that most
examiners would agree that it is a direct derivative of the abuse. The
more one must resort to speculations regarding the symbolic significance
of the dream element, the less likely it will be useful as an indicator of
bona fide sexual abuse (Gardner, 1996b, 2002).
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In contrast, children who have not been abused, like all children, are
likely to have occasional nightmares. However, their nightmares are
either normal, nonspecific nightmares or depict other elements totally
unrelated to sexual abuse. Last, the examiner must be aware of the fact
that children with legal process/therapy trauma may ultimately develop
trauma-specific dreams. Their source, however, is not the trauma of the
abuse but the trauma of their interrogations and therapy. Accordingly,
a detailed inquiry into the onset of such dreams is important to conduct
under such circumstances.
dren not only exhibit the previously described fear of people who re-
semble the alleged abuser (see item 15), but fear of situations similar
to those in which the abuse occurred: bedrooms, bathrooms, showers,
washrooms, etc. This fear, especially prominent in younger children
who are more helpless, relates to their feelings of impotence about
being subjected to the sexual abuses. Such fears can contribute to a
state of hypervigilence and frequent startle reactions. Older children
may be fearful primarily of the consequences if they were to disclose
any hints of what they have been subjected to. They may fear that they
will be murdered, beaten, or abandoned, or that significant individu-
als in their lives will be subjected to similar consequences. They may
fear breakup of the family if they reveal the molestation. Such fears
may result in a chronic state of timidity that is observed by friends,
relatives, teachers, neighbors, etc.
In contrast, falsely accusing children are far less likely to present with
such a picture. There are children, however, who have not been sexually
abused but who have been subjected to other traumas that may bring about
a similar state. This is especially the case for children who have been
physically abused. In fact, hypervigilence, startle reactions, and even
flinching when approached are common manifestations of physical abuse.
Children who have been molested in the home may find the home so
intolerable that they run away. This is especially the case when a child
has been abused by one parent and has not been able to obtain help and
protection from the other parent. In contrast, children who falsely accuse
sex abuse are not as likely to have a history of such behavior. There are,
however, children who have not been sexually abusedbut who have been
physically and/or emotionally abusedwho will run away from home.
Utilization of this criterion is also compromised by the fact that sexual
abuse is often accompanied by physical and/or emotional abuse. Further-
more, children who are being relentlessly programmed by parents into
making a false accusation of sex abuse, especially in the context of pro-
tracted lawsuits, may entertain fantasies of running away from home in
order to remove themselves from their exploitation and harassment. All
these factors weaken the value of this differentiating criterion, but it still
may be useful, especially if the examiner conducts a detailed inquiry.
When the abuse occurs in a situation outside the home, the child is
likely to avoid going to the site of the abuse or to attempt to run away
from it when there. For example, children who are sexually abused in
school may avoid going to school or even riding on the school bus.
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Children who may have been sexually abused by the bus driver may
avoid riding, or even flee from, the bus. The same holds true when the
abuse takes place in such situations such as Boy Scout camp, churches,
and residential centers.
18. Stigmatization
Children who have been traumatized often feel stigmatized. They con-
sider themselves to have been the victims of a terrible experience and
anticipate that all around them will view them with loathing and scorn.
Often there is a projective element here in that others either do not know
of the trauma or, if they do, are not reacting with derision and rejection.
This problem can contribute to traumatized childrens reluctance to go to
school and involve themselves with peers in their neighborhood. Central
to the feelings of stigmatization are self-loathing and the belief that oth-
ers, even strangers, loathe and even scorn the person similarly.
It is important to make a clear differentiation between true stigmati-
zation and fantasized stigmatization. Some abused children are actually
teased and taunted by others who may make direct reference to the sexual
encounters with the perpetrator. These children are indeed being stig-
matized. In contrast, there are children who are not subjected to such
cruelty, but who think and feel that others know about their abuses and
are silently scorning them. These children, also, are suffering the effects
of bona fide sexual abuse.
CONCLUDING COMMENTS
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