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1. Youre cold reading which means you dont have a lot of time to play around
so lets get going already. First define the context. This is the easy part. Are you
in a business, dating, public or friendly setting? Are you playing poker? The context
says it all. You shouldnt look for sexual cues while reading your sisters body

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language! Her coy smile probably doesnt mean she wants to date you! In the office, Give me a thumbs up and comment!

your boss might be clenching his fists, but hes unlikely to smash your face in! When
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that guy in the bar starts balling his fists, well, thats another story!

Why? Context is an important factor to consider while reading people. We often

hear about verbal statements that are taken out of context and in this same way, we
can take nonverbal language out of context as well. The guy was obviously lying,
he was scratching his face and neck and could barely sit still might be accurate
when being grilled by a panel of the media over missing fund money, but in the
context of being attacked by a swarm of killer bees, not accurate at all! Concluding
that someone is cold hearted from a single meeting is another case of ignoring
context. We often think people are shy after a first meeting, but are surprised when
over time they open up and are actually quite expressive and talkative.

2. Get to
know a
person
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to Navarro author of What
discover Every Body is Saying
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Some people normally clasp their hands together. We need to watch for sudden
changes in body language beyond the baseline to discover hidden meaning.

mannerisms that a person will use when relaxed. Find out how a person usually
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reading body language requires a comparison between relaxed body language and
body language that arises during emotional provocation.

Why? Baselining is probably one of the most important and often overlooked
aspects of reading body language. It refers to the normal motions that populate the
repertoire of each and every person on the planet. Normal here is the operative
word. We cant even begin to read someone until we first have their baseline
pegged. For example, to read someone that is normally flighty and constantly
moving as agitated, is wrong since they are merely acting out their particular
idiosyncratic nonverbal behaviour. That is, the body language that is particular to
specific people and that makes up their repertoire, or basket of cues, considered
normal for them. By establishing a baseline it will be possible to catch sudden
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3. Next
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least
four
cues
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stand
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cue
cluster.
Look for
the big
stuff first Most agree that we need at least four independent signals before we can reliably
make conclusions about a persons body language. How many signals can you spot
like arm
in this photo? How does each person feel?
and leg
crossing
(closed body) or uncrossed (dominant and open), head tilts (interest), head down
(judgment), head back (disapproval), head even (contemplating) palm up
(offering/honest) palm down (authoritative), eye contact (strong or fleeting), ventral
orientation (toward-liking, distancing-disliking/disinterest), proximity of body as well,
such as arms and legs (close-liking, far-disliking), type of smile (even-honest,
uneven-feigned/stressed), body size, large (dominant/open), small
submissive/closed), touching (liking/influencing), any forms of clenching, pinching or
scratching (discomfort/pacifying), use of barriers in blocking (discomfort/shielding),
lip compression or biting (negative thoughts).

Why? The rule of four, and its an important one, says that you cant attach
meaning to a single gesture and accurately judge a person you need more than
one, preferably at least four. The rule of four calls on us to read cues alongside
other cues commonly referred to as cue clusters before drawing conclusions. The
more cues that appear in association with other cues, the more accurate one can be
about the underlying meaning. It isnt impossible to see cue clusters in the sixs and
sevens or higher. However, most agree that four independent signals is enough to
positively identify true meaning.

4. Next, check for congruence. The word congruence, as it relates to body

language, refers to the degree to which body language cues in a person matches
one another in terms of their meaning. If, for example, one is speaking honestly with
the palms up (an honest gesture) we can say that the body language and verbal
language are congruent. That is, honest words match up with honest body
language. A child with their hands in their pockets (dishonest gesture) speaking
about how they didnt steal a cookie is incongruent since their body language does
not match their verbal language. To extend this example, someone might remove
their hands from their pockets, do a palms up display while relaying information, and
then return their hands to their pockets. Their palm up display is incongruent with
returning their hands to their pockets. This person might be lying in a worst case,

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and at
best,
nervous.

Why? A
lack of
congrue
nce can
lead us
down the
wrong
path or
when we
see Most experts agree that we need at least four independent cues before definitively
inconsist uncovering hidden meaning. Can you spot the hidden language in this photo?

ency can
tip the
body language reader off on a ruse.

5. Is
mirrori
ng
happeni
ng? Are
similar
postures
and
gestures
being
imitated
between
two
people?
Is
rapport
being
built?
Mirroring
describe
s body
postures,
body
positions
and
gestures
that are
held in

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unison or Mirroring means that rapport is being built.

echoed a
few seconds later, across people as they interacting. Mirroring can be matched to
create perfect flow through changing dialect, speech rate or tempo, pitch, tonality,
voice inflection, use of words, and even accent. The process by which this happens
is called communication accommodation theory. Mirroring can cut so deep that
breathing, blinking, and even our heart rates can beat in unison. When full mirroring
appears it is as if each person is looking into the mirror and seeing their reflection.

Why? Mirroring or isopraxis is as important to lifelong friends as to strangers

meeting for the first time, since mirroring is a way to test and maintain the level of
rapport, or connectivity being established, between two people or groups of people.
We mirror as a form of bonding with one another, and it happens without our
conscious awareness. In ancient times, mirroring would have created group
cohesion and identity. Sports groups, riot officers, firemen, and a myriad of
occupations all wear the same uniform. It is this dress that formulates the
beginnings of the behaviour that eventually leads to a groups ability to functioning
in unison. Mirroring says that we are on the same page. Its like saying look at the
two of us, we walk the same, talk the same and our bodies move in unison,
therefore we must agree!

6. Pretend they are nude! My rule of thumb on macrogestures, the big stuff, like
arm and leg crossing, is to picture people nude. This gives the body language
reader a quick assessment of a persons level of dominance or submission and
comfort or discomfort. Are their hands covering their genitals? Are they hiding their
breasts or chest with arm crossing, are their legs splayed out putting their junk out
on display, are their arms raised up high defying gravity showing no worries, are
they cowering over in a fetal position? Each posture leaves cues as to the emotional
state of a person through their relative exposure.

Why? The genitals are tied to our emotional state and when we feel insecure or
submissive we cower to protect them. Our hands will fig leaf over our private areas
or our legs will slam closed. Body language cues came about over our primitive
evolutionary history as the naked ape, so it naturally follows that they developed
without clothing or coverings. Clothing provides a blanket to hide our genitals, or
chest and breasts, our feet and so forth, but the hardwiring in our brains functions
as if they are totally absent. Imagine, for example, a full body steeple, sometimes
called hooding where the arms are placed behind the head and the body leans
back with the legs spread wide open a crotch display! It is the way a proud (or
arrogant) man sits to put his full package on display to the benefit of others. True, it
is slightly less offensive with clothing on, but it still carries the exact same meaning
since its true intentions were delivered as if the clothing were absent.

7. When in doubt check the feet. Are the feet bouncing (nervous energy/wanting
to leave or excited), are they aimed toward the door (desire to exit), aimed upward
(gravity defying-happy), standing crossed (negative thought but not ready to leave),
pulled under the chair (insecure), wrapped around the chair (ejector seat-negative
thoughts/bracing), extended toward a person (attracted/liking/interested), pulled in

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(dislike,
fear,
disintere
st), feet
together
while
standing
(child-
like, at
attention
-ready to
take
orders).

Why?
The feet
are
honest! It
has been
said that
the feet
are the
most
honest
part of
the body
as it
applies
to the How does this posture appear to others? What if clothing was absent?
language
they
emit.
Millions
of years
ago, we
gave up
quadrup
edalism
to walk
upright
leaving
our feet
to the
dirt. Sitting on the feet or tucking them in can be a sign of high comfort because it makes
While it difficult to make a quick escape.

our
hands busied themselves with other complex tasks like fire building, making clothing

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and shelters, and throwing spears, our legs were relegated to more primitive
activities like locomotion.

The feet, unlike the hands, carried out more traditional tasks like escaping
predators, avoiding hot sand or coals from the fire, leaping from slithering snakes or
poisonous spiders, or navigating rough rocking river bottoms. The feet were
therefore connected more to the reptilian brain which reacts to stimuli directly
instead of contemplating higher order tasks that require planning. When were
frightened it doesnt take much to put our feet in gear. We quickly and instinctively
get them tucked under our legs and coiled up, or freeze instantly or pull them up
onto a chair when startled by a mouse that catches our eye scampering across the
shadows of a room.

8. Trust your intuition. When all else fails, how do

you feel about the person you are reading? Do they
fit into one of the six primary emotions (happy, sad,
fearful, disgusted, surprised, or angry)? Do they
like or dislike whats being said? Are they flirting,
playing hard to get or are they hiding contempt?
When it really comes down to it, our intuition is
usually quite accurate. Knowing body language
helps reinforce what we already know about our
targets. So when doubtful, trust your gut!

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9 comments for How to Read Body Language

Quickly In 8 Easy Steps

R Gietkowski
March 15, 2013 at 9:47 pm

Eye lock Very brief eye contact accompanied by a strong

electrical feeling of varied intensity. Definitely of a sexual nature . . .
Its uncommon occurrence seems to signal importance.

Chris P.
March 21, 2013 at 4:50 pm

Thanks, Ive made a note and will add that to the dictionary. I
have about 150 new words to add as well!

Raynell Proctor
November 13, 2013 at 12:00 am

Chris, this is the most comprehensive website that I have seen. I

highly recommend your site. It is a great tool for anyone who is
interested in body language. It provides a one stop source of
references. Especially since nonverbal communication makes up
anywhere from 60-93% of our communication. Your explanations
and great illustrations make it very simple to understand and apply.
Keep up the great work.

Chris P.
November 13, 2013 at 12:14 am

Thank you!

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Dyrk
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December 15, 2014 at 3:55 pm

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dashti
June 7, 2015 at 4:13 am

Hi,
Please send me list of pdf & movie for body language.
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Chris P.
June 7, 2015 at 12:08 pm

Im not sure what youre referring to. Contact me directly via

email and perhaps I can help.

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