As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy.

The
good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts
often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves.

Laurie Helgoe

1. Introduction
2. The mistakes
3. Why Its Important to Learn about Personality Differences

4. INTROVERTS ARE MORE LIKELY TO USE THE INTERNET

5. ARE INTROVERTS HIGHLY INTELLECTUALS?

6. INTROVERTS VS. EXTROVERTS: WHO MAKES THE

BETTER LEADER?

7. 10 MYTHS ABOUT INTROVERTS

 INTROVERT PEOPLE
By Alexandra Carmen BuzA

The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some its a
Broadway spotlight, for others, a lamplit desk. ~ Susan Cain
 Eastern cultures see introversion as a value and give it much es- teem. Western cultures prefer
extraversion. For a balanced, safe, and caring world, we must learn to value both. John Weber

The most basic definition of an introvert is a person who gains energy from being
alone and loses energy in stimulating environments, such as social
events(people are very stimulating). But there is much more to it than that.

Many people think of an unattractive and socially awkward person when they are asked
to think about the average introvert though the reality is quite different. Even some
introverts have that imagine in their head and carry just as many negative assumptions.
Introversion is something that can't really be observed on a visual level, but it is easy to
project negative biases on introversion, and explain an introvert's behaviour by him or
her being anti-social or a snob. Introverts feel those vibes and often ask themselves
whether something is wrong with them, and then try their best to act normal and fit in
(this is one reason why people think there aren't many introverts). This unnatural act of
hiding your true nature is the real problem. The introvert nature in itself is not an issue,
the alienation from it is because it cuts introverts off from their real source of energy and
also often makes them come across as fake and unnatural (though many introverts are
really good actors, which might be a reason why many professional actors and
actresses are indeed introverts).
People must not make the mistake of thinking anti-social behaviour and introversion are
the same thing. The definition alone is very different. Anti-social behaviour is actually
linked to sociopathy, a personality disorder. Anti-social people have no inner capacity to
feel guilt and empathy while the introvert can feel those things on a more intense level
than many extroverts. Introverts simply prefer a different type of socialising. After a
certain time they need to recharge their batteries. They need to have a break, and
prefer deep connections to superficial small talk. Introverts take things more to heart,
and like to think things through before they make decisions or comment on something.
Laurie Helgoe uses an interesting concept to describe different people's capacity for
social interactions. While extroverts are like a normal hotel which can hold plenty of
people at the same time, and keep them entertained but doesn't offer much individual
attention, the introvert is more like a luxury hotel or retreat. There is a limited number of
rooms, but those rooms are very spacious, luxurious, and the few visitors receive the
greatest care and attention. Even though introverts are not considered as peoples
people, they can do very well in peoples jobs.

Introverts are not sure the world will understand them. For this and other reasons, they
often proceed slowly and cautiously and their behavior is sometimes misunderstood as

waffling, passive, or pessimistic. Carolyn Dahlgren Rhodes

Our culture values and rewards the qualities of extroverts. We value action, speed,
competition, and drive. Its no wonder people are defensive about introversion. We live
in a culture that has a negative attitude about reflection and solitude. Getting out there
and just doing it are the ideals.

In his book The Pursuit of Happiness, social psychologist Dr. David Myers claimed that
happiness is a matter of possessing three traits: self- esteem, optimism, and
extroversion. Dr. Myers based his conclusions on studies that prove extroverts are
happier. These studies required participants to agree or disagree with such statements
as, I like to be with others and Im fun to be with. Introverts dont describe happiness
in the same way, so they are perceived as unhappy. For them, statements like I know
myself or Im comfortable in my own skin or I am free to pursue my own path are the
benchmarks for a feeling of personal contentment. But they are not asked their reaction
to these statements. An extrovert must have developed these studies. When
extroversion is taken for granted as the natural outcome of healthy development,
introversion cant help but become the dreaded other. Somehow introverts have failed
to achieve appropriate socialization. They are doomed to isolated unhappiness.
People often just put on a happy face to fit in, so that other people would not complain
about the party pooper. They are often trying so hard to be happy that they forget about
how they really feel, and what would actually truly make them happy. We are so busy
pursuing happiness that we cannot achieve it in our lives. People are buying into an
image of what they are supposed to want and supposed to feel. Often this leads to a
depression caused by artificial happiness, and introverts are hit harder by this than
extroverts who prefer to be cheerful all the time. Extroverts also want to be cheerful
during work, while introverts like to focus on the actual job without chatting all the time.
They are happy and truly satisfied when a job is done well, and they can't understand
how people always need to chat and be social during work. Introverts prefer to work on
their own instead of in teams. There are actually countries, like Japan, in which
extroversion is not as important or valued as in other countries. Extroverts only have an
advantage when it comes to the Western standards and ideas about happiness. In
many Eastern countries, happiness is more focussed on an inner peace of
mind. Sadness is often pushed away as fast as possible, even a death of a loved one
should not be mourned for more than two weeks if you don't want people to start talking
about you negatively. You quickly need to put on a happy face again. Grief and sadness
turn into secret burdens that need to remain hidden in our happy society. Often it is
thought that introverts must be depressed because they do not seem happy enough.
Contemplation is often confused with worry and concern. Hence contemplative people
are seen as a threat to happiness. Introverts then often take on this feeling, they think
they really must be depressed, they think about it too much, and then really become
depressed. The extroverts are then happy again because their suspicions have been
confirmed! Introverts often feel bad about themselves, and even get to the stage where
they think that something is terribly wrong with them, that they actually must be quite
depressed if other people think so. They also feel guilty because of other people's
attitudes that make them feel like they are just not happy enough.

Some recent studies found that a certain level of sadness can be quite helpful.
They found that people who are not happy all the time are more willing to make
changes and to improve their lives. They are often better in negotiations and more
creative. People need to look past what she calls a culturally imposed grading
system. People need to become more mindful and accept the negative as well as the
positive aspect of life.
MISTAKES

Another mistake many people make when thinking about introverts is thinking introverts
are shy. This is not true. Helgoe explains that shyness is usually more of an extrovert
problem. The extrovert wants to connect, but is initially uncomfortable, but then opens
up. For the introvert it is usually the other way around: He is comfortable at the
beginning, but then runs out of steam, and needs to withdraw from people. A good
conversation for an introvert means that there is a deep connection, and that he feels
emotionally, intellectually, and often also spiritually richer than before the conversation.
This means that small talk holds not much interest for an introvert. It just bores them as
they only gets excited by stimulating conversations about ideas.

Introverts are not snobs. They simply prefer to do many things on their own. They don't
even think about other people at all when they dive into one of their hobbies, e.g.
reading a book in a park, while work mates have a picnic in the same park. The work
mates might think the introvert is actively snubbing them while the introvert simply
chooses to do something that really energises him, so he can give his best after the
break! Often introverts are described with terms that are simply negative terms for
the positive traits used to describe extroverts. Laurie Helgoe points out that it
would cause an outcry if the same would be done the other way around, because
then extroverts would be described as thoughtless, aggressive, or unintelligent and
so on. However, this tactic only used on introverts which leads to the fact that
many introverts are led to believe they are LESS than extroverts and that they are
lacking. In her book, Laurie Helgoe describes introvert's traits without using
negative terms, and shows introverts how to claim their introversion, and make
themselves seen in a more positive light.
Why Its Important to Learn about Personality
Differences
Parents and teachers can use their knowledge about personality differences to
work with childrens learning styles and allow their true personalities to unfold.
Employ- ers can run more efficient businesses by giving introverts the privacy we need
and assigning extraverts jobs that allow them to use their people skills.
Adolescents self-regard and self-esteem improve when they learn that introversion and
extraver- sion are equally legitimate human attributes.

On an individual level, studying your introverted and extraverted attitudes will help you
value your strengths and become more realistic about your limitations. The prevailing
view is that being moral means to be in harmony with the group: You are suspect if you
dont go along. This makes such an emotional impact on introverts that many of us fool
ourselves into thinking we, too, are extraverts. But not accepting ones true nature
creates stress
FACTS

Introverts often love it when things get cancelled. It gives them more time, but of course
they also feel a little guilty about feeling that way, after all me-time is seen as
something not normal. The introvert then starts beating himself up for not having
enough fun. Introverts need to learn to reclaim their time to think without feeling guilty.
So after, reclaiming their space, introverts reclaim their time. Introverts work very well
and are productive, however, it often does not look that way because inner work is not
visible. There is no clear sign for their productivity until the results are there. Introverts
should not let that get to them though. One thing that helps is removing the word
deadline, and replace it with birth time. It helps an introvert to see the work progress
like a pregnancy. The idea is incubated and grows until it is time for its birth.

Introverts often see relationships as a challenge because they prefer really

deep connections, and often find it difficult to connect to people that way as many
peo- ple can be superficial during first meetings. An introvert needs to have a clear
idea about what they want from their relationships, then it is also easier for them to
at- tract the right people and recognise the right people. Introverts are often
disappointed by people but need to learn that it is a risk they need to take. Introverts
need to stop listening to other people who recommend that going to a bar or party is the
best way to meet someone new. Go and find like- minded people instead by becoming
member of a fan club for your favourite au thor, join a local book group, see whether
there are groups that concern them- selves with your favourite hobby, and find like-
minded people that way. You will most likely have more success with that than trying to
find someone suitable in a pub. Introverts also find meeting people online is a good
option for them as it is easier to see who might be compatible or not.

Introverts like pets and trees because they do not interrupt, and they do not feel
the need to turn your story into their story by making the conversation take a turn.
For introverts, a conversation with an extrovert can be quite a challenge, because
introverts like to think before they speak. However, many extroverts take even
short breaks in a conversation as a sign that it is their turn to talk. It does not
matter whether the extrovert has good intentions or not, the conversations usually
leads to the introvert being outpaced by the extrovert. The introvert then gets tired
and can't be bothered because he thinks that the extrovert does not really want to
know what the introvert thinks anyway! Thus the conversations often turn into
something rather one sided. Introverts need to learn to hold their ground during
conversations. This can be done by using your facial expressions to show that you are
thinking about the answer. Introverts should not give in to the pressure. You might have
to unlock your eye contact, don't laugh at something if you do not really think it is funny.
If some- one said you know what I mean? and you don't, then don't pretend you do.
Just be honest. As an introvert, you need to learn to listen to what is going on inside
of you instead of letting the extrovert take the lead.

Relationships are a bit of a paradox for introverts as they do love their time on their own,
but also have a need for deep, emotional, meaningful connections. It can often be hard
for them to find the ideal balance. An introvert often ends up neglecting his solitude
once he has a partner, especially once children come into his life. It can often be quite a
challenge for an introvert because society wants us to believe that family values are
more important than anything else, so it often is not even clear what those family values
are. An introvert who would like some time without the family is often on a guilt
trip. Society really does not make it easy for introverts! Even the family itself can
often not be very understanding, so it is important for the introvert to communicate
his need to make them understand instead of just retreating. Once people get
assured that the introvert's retreat does not mean that he loves people less, it is often
easier for them to accept the introvert's me-time.
INTROVERTS ARE MORE LIKELY TO USE THE INTERNET

Personality is one of the most studied areas of psychology, and it has been
applied to many aspects such as employment, emotion and behaviour.
Conversely, internet usage is so new that its barely been researched. But
there are some studies out there around it, and some of those studies look
at how personality affects internet usage. Here are six interesting findings
that have come out of this research.

1 High neuroticism is related to more social media use, but overall

less internet use

Neuroticism is an interesting personality trait in relation to its relationship

with internet usage. It also serves as a good example of why internet
usage might be too broad a term. Correa, Hinsley and de Zuniga (2010)
looked at how neuroticism related specifically to social media usage (for
example, blog use or Facebook). They found that those with higher scores of
neuroticism also had higher levels of use of these types of social media.
Interestingly however, Tuten and Bosnjuk (2001) found that overall those
with higher neuroticism scores actually used the internet less. This shows
that it may be useful to look at how personality effects usage of specific
types of websites.

2 Introverts use the internet more and with more intensely, but
extroverts use Facebook more

The research on how introverts v. extroverts use the internet also presents a
similar message to that on neuroticism. It was found by Landers and
Lounsbury (2006) that introversion was related to more internet usage, and
more intense internet usage. However in a separate study, rather
interestingly, it was found that extroverts used Facebook more (Correa et al,
2010). This is probably due to the more social, conversational aspect of
Facebook.

3 Use of new online services is positively related to openness for

experience

The research on how openness to experience is related to internet usage is

fairly new and limited, however there are a couple of studies that look at the
relationship between this personality trait and internet usage. The research
has mainly looked at information searching, and newer forms of internet. For
example, Correa et al (2010) found that openness to experience was
positively related to usage of new internet resources, such as Facebook
and blogs. This relationship was however moderated by how much new
information was available on the site, if there was more information, then
the relationship between openness to experience and usage of the site was
stronger. This again shows the need to look at more specific relationships, as
opposed to just general internet usage and personality traits.

4 Agreeableness is negatively related to internet usage, and is

stable online and offline

There hasnt been much research done into the relationship between
agreeableness and internet usage. There has been a couple of studies but
not many, and there has also been research into whether personality traits
are stable online and offline, which has included some interesting findings
about agreeableness. Mikami et al (2010) looked at both of these lines of
research in their study. They found that agreeableness was negatively
related with overall internet usage, meaning those with higher agreeableness
used internet less. Interestingly, agreeableness seemed to be the only
personality trait which was very stable, meaning those who were high in
agreeableness offline also where in their online behaviour.

5 Conscientiousness has a negative relationship with internet usage

and addiction

One aspect of internet usage which may be particularly problematic is that of

internet addiction. Internet addiction refers to a harmful overuse of the internet,
which causes distress or interferes with the sufferers life in some way. It is the
extreme end of internet usage. Landers and Lounsbury (2006) found that
internet usage was negatively related to conscientiousness, so those who were
more conscientious used the internet less. Furthermore, Li et al (2006) also
found a negative relationship between higher conscientiousness and internet
addiction. Therefore it seems that having higher levels of conscientiousness
results in lower internet usage.

In conclusion, it seems all of the Big Five personality traits are in some way
related to internet usage. Its important to remember however most of these
studies are purely correlational and wont be true for everyone.
ARE INTROVERTS HIGHLY INTELLECTUALS?

Are introverts perceived as intellectuals? People who are good communicators

and know how to grab the attention of their audience are often seen as smart
and highly intellectual folks. The general worldview is that a good talker is
perceived as smart a person. Just because a person is able to talk efficiently
and is able to get the notice of people around him/her do we consider them as
intelligent people? However, the truth is since extroverts are good orators and
have better social skills, they are considered as more intelligent, smart,
attractive and more likable people (Cain, 2012). Does this mean that people
who talk less are not intelligent or smart? Absolutely not! But the perception of
the world about quite people is not the same as the loud people.

Susan Cain in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Cant
Stop Talking (2012) notes that talkers are perceived as smart people. However,
the research found no such link between extroversion and intelligence. A study
comprising of college students who were given Math problems showed that the
Math SAT scores of extroverts were no better than the introverts students.
Besides, the introverts received high scores on tests than extroverts for
creativity and analytical skills in an exercise for developing a business strategy
for a start-up company (Cain, 2012). This indicates that introverts are highly
intellectual people.

The question whether extroverts are smarter than introverts or whether

introverts are highly intelligent people has been the focus of research on
personality and intelligence for decades. Just because introverts are silent types
would it mean they are not smart enough or lower in their intelligence than
extroverts? The general tendency of how people perceive attributes of a
successful individual is based on his or her communication abilities. The more
an individual talks and is able to direct the attention of others to himself or
herself, he or she is seen as the most powerful or influential. As extroverts are
efficient communicators they are often perceived as more capable and
appealing than quiet folks in this fast moving extraversion world (Cain, 2012).
But this is not the truth

A typical example of this fact is Harry Potters creator J.K. Rowling. Little do
people know that Harry Potters great author is an introvert. Rowling herself
claims that she was more creative with her thoughts when she was alone than
she was in a group. Her idea for Harry Potter emerged when she travelled all by
herself on a train to London from Manchester in 1990 (Schocker, 2013). Another
noteworthy introvert is the Microsoft icon, Bill Gates. Bill Gates is a silent man
and bookish by nature. He is an introvert but never shy (Schocker, 2013).

A study on personality test and effective communication skills found that

introverts proved as better telemarketers when compared to extroverts. The
study was conducted among call-center employees to identify who would fit into
that role based on their personality. The study results showed that the
introverts were good at cold calling. They were more focused and determined
using their persistence characteristic (Cain, 2012). Research has found no
correlation between IQ and personality. But when it came to practical
intelligence the results demonstrated that intelligence depended on other
factors beyond the IQ. For instance, extroverts were quick responders to tasks
that were timed. But they were less accurate and less reflexive on work that
was repetitive. On the other hand, introverts proved best on tasks that required
perseverance and they were more careful and accurate with assigned tasks
(Engler, 2008)
 INTROVERTS VS. EXTROVERTS: WHO MAKES THE

BETTER LEADER?

The answer is neither. Its true that research on leadership styles has revealed
that extroverts, due to higher levels of charisma and active engagement, are
consistently perceived as more effective and are more likely
to become leaders (Knowledge @ Wharton, 2010), but does this reflect the
output of their leadership? Its also true that Mother Teresa, Mark Zuckerberg,
Barack Obama, and Rosa Parks are/were introverts, and are/were well-known
leaders, but is it the trait of introversion that specifically makes them good
leaders?

These claims usually come with assumptions such as introverts are shy/dont
like people, introverts think before they act, and so on. This kind of
generalization doesnt hold up under scrutiny how many of you know an
outgoing person that still claims to prefer some time alone, or a very
extroverted person who also happens to be a very decisive planner? Moreover,
extro/introversion is a scale, and research has revealed most people to be
ambiverts, i.e. not on either extreme, and thus they may display qualities of
either into or extroversion, depending on the situation (Knowledge @ Wharton,
2010) so where does this leave us? Personality varies too much to say
anything conclusive about introversion and leadership capability. So
what can we say?

Leaders & Followers

In 2011, Adam Grant performed a study wherein college students had to fold a
certain number of t-shirts to win an iPod Nano (if this story was done specifically
to make me rethink my life choices, it worked). Groups with introverted leaders
and proactive group members were 28% more productive than groups with
extroverted leaders in a 10-minute period (Knowledge @ Wharton, 2010). Grant
found the same results in 57 different stores of a pizza franchise. Stores
managed by introverts were found to produce 14% higher weekly profits when
employees took initiative to generate ideas and suggest improvements
(Whitbourne, 2011). However, groups with more introverted leaders and passive
group members did badly because they failed to engage and encourage, and
more extroverted leaders with proactive members butt heads too much to
achieve anything. Extroverts with passive group members also did well, but
didnt generate as many ideas/as much output (Knowledge @ Wharton, 2010).

This finding is called dominance complementarity theory, meaning that

groups get along best when the tendency to dominate is balanced between
leader and group personalities. Related studies have found that one of the
strongest predictors of proactivity is a sense of responsibility for the larger team
[] When employees feel like they are responsible for a larger unit, they are
much more likely to broaden their roles beyond their specific individual job
descriptions. (Knowledge @ Wharton, 2010) When the tendency to control is
balanced, leaders draw out the best in their followers; members feel more
invested in the groups efforts, and the group output reflects the best efforts of
everyone (Whitbourne, 2011).
 WHAT CAUSES INTROVERSION AND EXTROVERSION: NATURE OR

NURTURE?

Study by Jordan Sprogis

Most people know whether or not they identify as an introvert, extrovert, or an
ambivert (both). The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator describes these two
personality types and it is explained that while most people have qualities of
both, people usually tend to lean one way more than the other.

As an introvert, Ive always wondered why I am the way am and not the way
my best friend is: she could count the people she speaks to on a daily basis on
both hands while I could only count her, my boyfriend, and my cats as the ones
I interact with on a daily basis.

Growing up, Id have to back out of social gatherings last minute because the
idea of having to look this entertained for this long was draining. My best friend,
on the other hand, could see people every day and not get tired of their
company. Why was it so hard for me but not her?

There had to be an answer as to why some people lean one way more than the
other on the spectrum. At first, I guessed that it would come back to the age-
old debate: nature versus nurture.
Truthfully, just like introversion and extroversion, nature and nurture is not
black and white. We know that now and I think we always have. Its a gray
area because theres no way to say that someones upbringing is completely due
to their home lives, and theres no way to say that its solely because of the
environmental factors either.

Lets say you get pushed around a few times as a kid, so you grow up to be
quiet and secluded because you were bullied as a child; or, you grow up to be
talkative and attention-seeking because you never got to be that as a child
when you were being picked on. These are drastically different outcomes so it
cant be ones surroundings that make him or her an introvert.

Now, lets say your parents have always been a little too protective while you
were growing up. You get older and more established with yourself and become
a more quiet individual due to your sheltered upbringing; or, you get older and
find yourself more outgoing than your parents allowed and are always looking
for something to do because those opportunities were nonexistent as you were
growing up. Again, two different possible outcomes suggest that nurture, too, is
not a sole contributor.

Well, according to Hans Eysenck, a psychologist from the 1960s, its just got to
do with our brain and its chemicals.

You could be raised this way or that way but as long as youve got your brain,
you will be who you are despite nature and nurture.

In 1999, scientists measured the blood flow of introverts and extroverts and
found that introverts had more blood flow in their frontal lobes and anterior
thalamus. These sections of the brain are the parts that take care of
remembering things, planning events, and solving problems.

At the same time, extroverts had more blood flow in brain areas (anterior
cingulate gyrus, the temporal lobes, and the posterior thalamus) that had more
to do with sensory in this case, specifically for socializing. This may be why
extroverts enjoy peoples company since their brains are happiest when their
senses are being stimulated.

Carl Jung suggests that this is why extroverts are more outward and introverts
are more inward.
Over decades of research for the two personality types, most scientists have
come to the conclusion that it has a lot to do with dopamine in the brain. It is
suggested that extroverts are less sensitive to dopamine, so they need a lot of
stimulation to get enough of it. This has something to do with the amount of
blood flow to certain sections of our brains.

A 2012 study by Randy Buckner at Harvard University found that introverts

have thicker gray matter in their prefrontal cortex (linked to thinking and
decision-making) than extroverts did. He says that this is probably why an
introvert can thoroughly consider outcomes of a decision while an extrovert may
make one and act upon it quicker.

Now, if youre asking why people have more blood flow in their frontal lobes
than their posterior thalamus, I couldnt tell you. I dont think theres enough
research thats been done on the biology of the human being let alone the
human brain to explain why we are built the way we are.
 10 MYTHS ABOUT INTROVERTS

Myth #1 Introverts dont like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just dont talk unless they have something to say. They hate small
talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they wont shut up
for days.

Myth #2 Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of
people. What they need is a reason to interact. They dont interact for the sake of
interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Dont worry about being
polite.

Myth #3 Introverts are rude.

Introverts often dont see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries.
They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most
settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 Introverts dont like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their
close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend,
you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a
person of substance, youre in.

Myth #5 Introverts dont like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just dont like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to
avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and
experiences very quickly, and as a result, dont need to be there for long to get it. Theyre
ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for
Introverts.

Myth #6 Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They
daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get
incredibly lonely if they dont have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an
authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They dont follow the crowd. Theyd prefer to be valued for
their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often
challenge the norm. They dont make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and
emotions. Its not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around
them, its just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 Introverts dont know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not
thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they
shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine.
Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets,
filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are
still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I
reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts
cannot fix themselves and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions
to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of
Introverts increases with IQ.
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