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July — August 2010 Issue Contents

Cover Story Page 29
Health & Wellness
7 Exercise: Before of After Cancer, it’s Good Medicine by Nikki Couloumbis
10 Obesity Increases Health Risks presented by Surinder Singal
11 New Recommendations Suggest Breast Cancer Screening Should Begin at Age 40
12 Why Early Treatment of Vein Disease is Important by Dr. Jonathan Calure
14 Dizziness...Do I Have to Live with it? by Dr. Lisa Nelson
15 Men, Shame and Therapy by Dr. Carol Drury

Senior Living
17 Home Health Care: Allow Your Loved Ones to Age at Home by Lee Ann Stedman

Beauty
13 The Aging Skin and the Anti-Aging Toolbox by Dr. Rafik Nasr

Community
8 Chopticon Marching Band Set to Host Prestigious Competition
31 Southern Maryland Summer Events
33 Women in Farming by Grace Jones

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22 Sinking in an Ocean of Student Loan Debt? by Christine Parker CFP
23 Meet Recruiting Team Lead for Wyle’s Aerospace Group
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37 Nominate Your Heroine in Technology

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Exercise: Before or After Cancer, it’s Good Medicine
By Nikki Couloumbis,
MSOTR/L,CKTP,CLT
By now it’s old news that
exercise protects us against
heart disease. However, many
people are still unaware of the
mounting evidence that exer-
cise can help prevent certain
cancers. Numerous studies have
now demonstrated that main-
taining an active lifestyle can cut the
risk of colon, breast, uterine, and
prostate cancers.
Exercise for Cancer
Prevention
Multiple studies have linked in-
creased levels of physical activity with
significantly lower risk of cancer. The
connection between exercise and pre-
vention has been especially clear for
breast and colon cancers. In 2009 the
British Journal of Cancer published a
meta-analysis of 52 studies on exercise
and colon cancer, concluding that the
greater one’s level of physical activity,
the lower the risk of colon cancer. Ad-
ditionally, physical activity on-the-job
has been found to “count” when it
comes to colon cancer prevention, with
studies at USC and the University of
Minnesota confirming that men with
physically active occupations (carpen-
ters, plumbers, landscapers, etc) have a
risk of colon cancer much lower than
that of men with sedentary or desk jobs.
Exercise also reduces breast cancer
risks. The Nurses’ Health Study at
Brigham and Women’s Hospital in
Boston found that exercising one hour
each day cut a woman’s risk of breast
cancer by 20%. A study in Norway
found that women exercising 4 hours
per week were one-third less likely to
get the disease. And an older Harvard
University study compared female ath-
letes and non-athletes in 1987. Post-
menopausal women defined as
formerly athletic (on a varsity team or
following a consistent exercise regi-
men) experienced half as many breast
cancers and one-third the reproductive
cancers as compared to the post-
menopausal women who had been
sedentary.
How does exercise prevent cancer?
It promotes swifter passage of carcino-
genic wastes through the intestinal tract,
reducing the amount of time spent in
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the body. Exercise after which they continued the program vide you with an appropriate, cus-
reduces circulating unsupervised for another 39 weeks. tomized exercise program. c
blood sugar and The researchers found that swelling
hormone levels, did not increase in the weight-lifting
leaving less avail- group, and that exacerbations occurred About the Author
able to feed and less than half as frequently as in the Nikki completed her master’s de-
stimulate tumors. control group! The lead researcher gree in occupational therapy at Co-
Exercise also im- stated that progressive training of the lumbia University’s College of
proves the body’s affected arm made it less likely that Physicians and Surgeons in 1994.
immune response women would experience strain and The owner of On-Site Wellness, LLC,
to pathogens and overuse during daily activities. Further- she is a Certified Lymphedema Ther-
rogue cells. And, of course, it helps re- more, the overall fitness levels of the apist, Certified Kinesiotaping Practi-
duce obesity, to which 25% of cancer weightlifting group increased signifi- tioner, and Certified Strength
cases worldwide are attributed by the cantly, leaving them fitter than before Training Specialist. She has focused
International Agency for Research on their diagnosis. on the prevention and treatment of
Cancer. upper limb disorders and injuries of
The American Cancer Society states Summary all kinds, and has extensive experi-
one-third of cancer cases in the U.S. are
Exercise builds a stronger body, ence treating lymphedema. Nikki’s
caused by the effects of a sedentary helps prevent disease, and improves lymphedema services include com-
lifestyle, and recommends exercising at
outcomes in the event of illness. Every- plete decongestive therapy (CDT),
moderate to high intensity 5 days per one can benefit from the preventive ef- garment fitting, lymphatic kinesio-
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participating in a supervised program Nikki Couloumbis, MSOTR/L, CKTP, CLT
of specific exercises were less likely to
experience lymphatic complications
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The Chopticon Marching Band
F
rom September
through November, the
Chopticon Marching
Band can be seen in action at competi-
tions, football games and parades. But
few people know about the time, en-
ergy and preparation for this activity
which facilitates school spirit all year
long. While it may look easy from the
stands, mastering the art of marching
and playing a musical instrument si-
multaneously is a true accomplishment
which takes years of dedicated prac-
tice.
During the sweltering summers,
while the Band Boosters are busy
having fund-raisers, checking out the
Marching Band uniforms, work-
ing on the backdrops, construct-
ing the trailers that pull the
instruments on the field, and
sewing guard uniforms, the
members of the Marching Band –
both the musicians and the guard
– spend a grueling two weeks at
Band Camp learning to put the
marching to the music. Sunscreen,
water, and hats protect the
marchers from the hot August sun
as they spend eight hours a day get-
ting one song down after the other.
At the end of the day, the students
are exhausted, but excitement grows
as the show comes together.
On Friday, the last day of camp, a
Preview Show is held for parents and
family. Cheering, clapping and pic-
tures abound as the students give their
first performance of the season. After-
wards, everyone is treated to an all-
American fare of hot dogs and
hamburgers on the grill, complements
of the Band Boosters.
The first public appearance of the
band is a fundraiser, the March-A-
Thon, usually the first Saturday after
the school year begins. All three St.
Mary's County high school Marching
Bands combine and perform the Star
Spangled Banner, and then each per-
form their own show individually. Stu-
dents raise money by getting pledges
from family and friends for each lap
they “march” around the track.
At each home football game, a
hush comes over the crowd as the
Chopticon Marching Band comes onto
the field to perform the halftime show.
The Marching Band performs at
three parades during the year – The St.
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Percussion, Best Guard, and Best
Overall Effect.
In the three years that Mr. Bur-
roughs has been the Director of Bands
at Chopticon High School, the March-
ing Band won the State Championship
in 2009 for Class IIA (44 to 58 mem-
bers). And, after gaining that much ex-
perience not only for the Band, but for
the Pit Crew as well, it is no wonder
that Chopticon High School Band will
host a competition this year on Satur-
day, October 9. This will be the first
time that a Marching Band competi-
tion has been held in St. Mary’s
County in more than 20 years.
There will be approximately eight
bands competing. South Lakes High
School from Reston, Virginia is a
Class V Band with over 100 mem-
bers, – so St. Mary’s County resi-
dents are in for some amazing
performances. c
Put it on your calendar!
Saturday, October 9, 2010.
Bring your appetites –
there will be Southern
Maryland fare at its best!
Opening ceremonies begin
at 1:30 in the afternoon.
Mary’s County Fair, The
Blessing of the Fleet and the
Veterans Day Parade.
The competition circuit
is the real meat and pota-
toes of the Marching Band.
The alarm clock often
rings at 4 a.m. so the buses
can leave at 7 a.m. for
competitions in Maryland,
Virginia or Pennsylvania.
The Marching Band com-
petes against other
schools In our region,
classified by the number
of band members. They
compete for a numerical
score based on 100, tro-
phies and caption
awards: Best Music,
Best Drum Major, Best
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Founding
Member of
Mediation Center
Karen Horton, LCSW-C

It’s Tuesday morning and Peace Or-

ders are on the agenda at the District
Court. The Judge has encouraged two
groups [neighbors arrayed against
neighbors] to sit down with mediators.
The neigh-
bors appear
up in arms.
I’m one of
the mediators
and I’m nerv-
ous.
Why do I
feel relieved
to know that
Karen Hor-
ton will be my co-mediator? Because
Karen has a claming presence: Remain-
ing cool in the heat of their battle; Lis-
tening for the essential pieces of
information amidst the verbal barrage;
and Intervening with a reflection or
summary that captures the essence of
the parties’ feelings and needs.
A licensed clinical social worker with
over thirty years of practice as a family
and group therapist, Karen was one of
the founders back in 2001 of the Com-
munity Mediation Center of St. Mary’s.
On moving to St. Mary’s County in
1985, she served for three years as head
social worker for the Navy’s hospital
and as the Family Advocate at PAX
River. In this latter role Karen handled
all cases of domestic violence and sex-
ual abuse at the Base. For the past ten
years Karen has been one of the most
active mediators serving the Circuit
Court in St. Mary’s. She also regularly
mediates cases referred to community
mediation centers in St. Mary’s and
Calvert Counties from a wide range of
referral sources.
Asked what is most satisfying to her
as a mediator, Karen offers three per-
spectives:
Choosing the most effective points and
ways to step in and help during the fast
and complex process of a mediation; Ex-
periencing clients emerging from a me-
diation session with more positive,
trusting relationships; and Believing
that the mediation experience often
changes how participants will manage
conflict in the future. c

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How did we get here in such a short time? Many
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For starters, less activity, bigger portion sizes, crazy
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The problem is that consuming 100 calories more
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The first step is to find out where you stand. A
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If you need to lose weight, don’t try to do too
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Healing Touch: Serving the Dying
By Joan Posey, LMT, HTCP
The dying process can be
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160 cancer patients with less than 3 months to
live, suggested spiritual well-being correlated with
lower depression and greater hope.
Healing Touch (HT) is an integrative energy
therapy that uses light touch in a heart-centered
manner to address physical, emotional, mental,
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The body is a complex energy field. Trained HT
practitioners perform various techniques to open
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passion and love.
Many practitioners are using HT to ease the
dying process as well as providing support to the
family. Healing Touch energy work may provide
the person with the energy to heal relationships
and complete unfinished business. Some Hospice
patients have found great comfort, peace of mind,
New Recommendations Suggest Breast Cancer
Screening Should Begin at Age 40
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The new recommendations from the Society of
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Radiology (ACR) on breast cancer screening, pub-
lished in the January issue of the Journal of the
American College of Radiology (JACR), state that
breast cancer screening should begin at age 40 and
earlier in high-risk patients. The recommendations
also suggest appropriate use of medical imaging
modalities such as mammograms, MRIs, and ultra-
sounds for breast cancer screening. “The significant
decrease in breast cancer mortality, which amounts to
nearly 30 percent since 1990, is a major medical suc-
cess and is due largely to earlier detection of breast
cancer through mammography screening,” said Carol
H. Lee, M.D. “For women with the highest risk of
developing breast cancer, screening technologies in
addition to mammography have been adopted.”
The new recommendations released by the SBI
and ACR include recommendations for imaging
screening for breast cancer by imaging technique
(mammography, MRI, and ultrasound) and by risk
factor. They state that the average patient should
begin annual breast cancer screening at age 40.
High-risk patients should begin by age 30 but not be-
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relaxation, and a deeper spirituality.
“The most precious gift we can offer others
is our presence. Touching deeply is an impor-
tant practice. We touch with our hands, our
eyes, our ears and also with our mindfulness.”
(Thich Nhat Hahn) Our goal is to touch as
many people as possible with unconditional
love and compassion.
HT is considered one of the leading energy
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Joan is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Healing
Touch Certified Practitioner, and a Charles
County Hospice volunteer. Joan is a graduate
of the Baltimore School of Massage and prac-
tices at New Moon in LaPlata, where she offers
therapeutic massage and Healing Touch. She
believes in the holistic approach for total
body, mind and spirit health. Joan’s deep spiri-
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her clients often testify that they can truly feel
her compassion.
fore 25. “Evidence to support the recommendation
for regular periodic screening mammography comes
from the results of several randomized trials con-
ducted in Europe and North America that included a
total of nearly 500,000 women. Overall, there was a
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should be remembered that mammograms are the
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their physicians that in those instances in which there
is a concern that risk of developing cancer is consid-
erably elevated from that of the general population,
consultation with appropriate experts in breast cancer
genetics and/or high risk management is strongly
suggested.” c
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Early Treatment of Vein Disease: Why It’s Important
BY JONATHAN CALURE, M.D.
Medicine is changing. The
role of the Physician tradition-
ally had been to treat prob-
lems. (Reactive Medicine)
The patient saw the doctor
when she became sick or de-
veloped a condition. As the
science of medicine evolves
the prevention and early treatment of many condi-
tions is becoming ever more the imperative of the
Physician.
In our practice we see between 200-300 new
Varicose and Spider Vein patients each month. Our
specialty, caring for people with Venous Insuffi-
ciency, has evolved dramatically over the past few
years. In the past, patients sought or were referred
for vein care only after suffering a blood clot, ulcer,
phlebitis or some other complication of vein dis-
ease. This was the case, in part, because the only
treatment option was a trip to the operating room for
vein stripping surgery, an invasive and painful pro-
cedure. Unfortunately too many excellent Primary
Care Physicians still follow this paradigm. The
complications of longstanding vein disease can now
be prevented with an array of minimally invasive
outpatient techniques.
While generally not a life-threatening problem, if
left untreated vein disease can lead to significant
morbidity. And unlike many other medical condi-
tions, vein disease may take years to fully manifest.
But as with any disease process early detection and
treatment will produce better outcome and reduce
the risk of developing future complications. It is no
longer appropriate to wait until a complication of
vein disease occurs to consider treatment. With our
minimally invasive vein
treatment, VNUS Closure,
patients are candidates for
treatment when the symp-
toms interfere with activity
and conservative attempts to
control symptoms have been
unsuccessful.
In my practice I am sur-
prised to hear from patients
that they had been referred
elsewhere for Vein Stripping.
Smartly, that patient had sought another opinion. To
be sure, there are some rare cases where surgical
vein removal is the only choice. Fortunately, the
vast majority of patients may be successfully treated
with minimally invasive VNUS Closure or Scle-
rotherapy. Our sole focus at Maryland Vein Profes-
sionals is minimally invasive vein care. We have
performed more than 7,000 Closure procedures
since 2005. Our specialized outpatient facilities are
unparalleled in the region. The Closure Procedure
takes only 1-2 minutes, and patients are out of the
office in 60-90 minutes. Most of our patients report
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little or no discomfort and can enjoy a video announce that Maryland Vein Professionals will
during treatment at our specialized centers. be offering a Free Vein Screening Event over
VNUS Closure is a catheter based treatment two days at the end of June. See if you are a
that addresses the cause of Varicose Veins. candidate for treatment on Tuesday, June 29 at
Veins that bulge at the surface are branches of The Columbia Main Office or Wednesday, June
one or two damaged source veins well below 30 in the New Annapolis Main Office. Both
the skin. These damaged veins have incompe- events will run from 9 A.M. – 7 P.M. Partici-
tent or insufficient valves that no longer func- pants should wear shorts to the event. Registra-
tion to guide venous blood flow to move out of tion is required and space is limited. Call
410-964-VEIN or 410-268-LEGS to register. c
A Cardiovascular Surgeon, Dr. Calure holds two
American Board Certifications, in General Surgery
as well as Cardiovascular Surgery. As one of the
first physicians in the region to perform The VNUS
Closure® procedure, Dr. Calure now performs
more Closure Procedures than any other single
Physician in the United States, according to VNUS
Medical, Inc. Dr. Calure’s Practice, Maryland Vein
Professionals is devoted exclusively to Vein Care
the leg. Gravity pulls the venous blood back down and has locations in Columbia, Annapolis, Chevy
the pipes toward the ankle, and out into the bulging Chase, Gambrills, and Clarksville.
veins at the sin sur-
face. (This is why vari-
cose veins seem to
clear when the legs are
elevated.) VNUS Clo-
sure uses light energy
to ablate or close the
damaged source veins.
This depressurizes the
skin veins and blood
reroutes to other
healthy veins. Scle-
rotherapy is a treat-
ment for smaller
(spider) veins. Here a
medicine is injected
directly into the spider
veins that closes seals
and clears the small
skin veins. Usually
Sclerotherapy is more
cosmetic in nature, but
there may be medical
indications as well.
We are pleased to
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The Aging Skin and the Anti-Aging Toolbox
By Rafik A. Nasr, M.D, FABFP, DABMA
AGING SKIN
The skin is the largest organ of the body. It regulates
body temperature and protects us from dehydration and
injury. It can be radiant and flawless with even tone, ra-
diant glow, full lips and without wrinkles. Beautiful skin
is a valuable commodity and within reach.
There are two basic types of aging. The first type is chronological laying within consider our clients to be our number one priority. We offer a soothing en-
your DNA, so it is a good idea to glance at your parents to see what the future
holds for you. The second type is environmental, i.e. smoking, pollution, sleep
deprivation, poor nutrition and EXPOSURE TO THE SUN.
Signs of aging include: dry skin, wrinkles, large pores, redness and decreased
healing capability. In addition there is increased roughness, dark spots, excessive
wrinkling and sagging skin.
THE ANTI-AGING TOOLBOX
Begin by analyzing your skin. Often wrinkles are the major factor, but they are
not the only factor. Sunken cheeks, dark circles under the eyes, sagging skin and a
loss of facial fat, all play a role in the aging of skin.
This is exactly where “lunch time procedures” come into play. “Lunch time
procedures” include Botox, collagen injections, microdermabrasion, chemical
peels and various types of laser procedures.
An advantage of these procedures is that there is no down time because they are
noninvasive remedies. They can be combined
for even more impressive results.
BOTOX
Botox is considered to be the greatest ad-
vance in cosmetic medicine. Botox has many
uses. The most common is to smooth wrin-
kles resulting from different muscle motions,
often found around the eyes, across the fore-
head, between the brows, around the mouth
and in the neck. This procedure takes a few
minutes, and effects can last up to four
months.
Botox can be used for frown lines, eye-
brow lifting, crow’s feet, under eye bags, neck
lines and various other types of facial lines and wrinkles.
Whether you’ve never heard of Botox or have been contemplating it for a
while, remember that Botox delivers maximum results with the least recupera-
tion possible. You will still look like yourself, only a more refreshed, more en-
ergized version.
INJECTABLE FILLERS
Fillers are the most effective way to improve a long list of skin woes. It can
soften the appearance of wrinkles and scars, restore a youthful look to the face and
give lips fullness.
The most important thing to remember is that all of these procedures are meant
to enhance the lips and face with an end result that is appropriate for your face.
The list of filler material available today is long and ever-changing. From
bovine to human derived to synthetic.
The most commonly used filler materials are:
Non-animal Hyaluronic Acid—genetically engineered hyaluronic acid. It
binds with water to increase volume. This is the ingredient in common fillers such
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Health & Wellness
as RESTYLANE, PERLANE and JUVEDERM and effects can last up to six
months.
Synthetic Cahydroxylapatite—Used in RADIESSE, it provides a long last-
ing effect. RADIESSE can last up to a year and there is some evidence that it can
stimulate your own natural collagen production.
While these procedures are typically simple and non-complicated, there is
an art to sculpt the face. They require finesse and skill, not just training and
knowledge. Do your research on your physician and his reputation prior to any
treatment.
At Heaven & Earth MediSpa we offer all of these services and more. We
vironment with personalized care and a friendly staff. Heaven & Earth
MediSpa would like to bring out the best in you. Please visit us on line at
www.heavenandearthmedispa.net or call us at 410-326-0717 and check out
our monthly specials. c
About the Author
Dr. Rafik Nasr is a family practice and anti-aging physician. He has been a Board Cer-
tified Primary Care Physician in Calvert County for 20 years. He is also Board Certified
in Acupuncture with training in Chinese and French energetic styles of Acupunc-
ture. Currently, Dr. Nasr is pursuing a Masters Degree in Anti-Aging Medicine and
Masters Degree in Cosmetic Medicine. He has obtained certification from the Inter-
national Society of Mesotherapy and the American Society of Aesthetic Mesother-
apy. He has attended training and workshops for Aesthetic Laser safety operation,
Botox, Restylane, Perlane, Radiesse, Bio-Identical Hormones, Chronic Diseases and
Lifestyle Modification. Dr. Nasr envisions blending an approach of health and well-
ness with traditional and conventional medicine. Five years ago Dr. Nasr opened
Heaven & Earth MediSpa, offering a wide variety of services, including cosmetic
laser treatments, Botox, filler injections, anti-aging medicine, acupuncture, Chinese
medicine, and bio-identical hormone therapy. Dr. Nasr and his knowledgeable staff
offer a complete comprehensive approach to health healing.
RAFIK NASR, M.D.
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Dizziness...Do I Have to Live with it?
BY DR. LISA NELSON, OWNER,
HEARING PROFESSIONALS
D
izziness is
more com-
mon than most people think.
In fact, it’s the second most
common complaint people
bring to their doctors. It is
estimated that as many as
40% of all adults experience dizziness
severe enough to warrant reporting it
to their doctors. Fortunately, most
causes of dizziness are detectable and
treatable, especially with today’s so-
phisticated computerized diagnostics,
vestibular rehabilitation processes,
medicines and advanced surgical tech-
niques.
Dizziness has been described as a
feeling of:
• Lightheadedness
• Feeling as if you are moving
when you are not
• A spinning sensation
Dizziness often occurs along with
other symptoms, such as nausea, anxi-
ety, and hearing loss. Pressure or full-
ness in the head or ears, or a ringing in
the ears called tinnitus can also ac-
company the dizziness. It is important
that your doctor and audiologist know
if these or any other problems accom-
pany your dizziness.
Do I have to live with it?
No, although diagnosing dizziness
can be complex and the process usu-
ally requires several tests. In most
cases, you’ll start with a detailed med-
ical history and a physical examina-
tion. Because the balance system is
located primarily in the inner ear, a
hearing test with Otoacoustic Emis-
sions (OAEs) and Tympanometry is a
common diagnostic procedure in
combination with the ENG
(Electronystagmography), measuring
eye movements with various stimuli.
They have been the cardinal tests used
to identify vestibular/inner ear disor-
ders. But is there more?
The “Advanced” diagnostic
processes
Some of today’s audiology based
balance centers go beyond the previ-
14
ous protocols men- treatment requires one of several repo-
tioned above and can sitioning maneuvers. To be effective About Hearing Professionals
offer much more pre- this procedure requires appropriate di- Hearing Professionals (HPI) began in
cision when evaluat- agnosis to differentiate between a 1995 after the owner, Dr. Lisa Nelson,
ing a patient’s canalolithiasis versus cupulolithiasis had been providing services for more
vestibular system. and to determine which canals and than 5 years at other practices. Dur-
For more informa- which ear are involved. The success ing this time, Dr. Nelson came to be-
tion regarding spe- rate with less than two visits is over lieve that personalized care should be
cific diagnostic 95 percent, with accurate diagnosis the ultimate goal of an audiology
testing please visit and treatment by specially trained au- practice. She also believed that using
our website at www.hearing- diologists. the most technologically advanced
professionals.com. The inner ear houses two vital sen- equipment should be standard care.
sory systems: hearing and balance. To achieve this vision and provide an
Evaluating both of them is critical to advanced level of care, Dr. Nelson
When will I feel better? finding an accurate diagnosis for your started HPI in Laurel, Maryland. All
Once the Comprehensive Vestibu- dizziness. Audiologists are the profes- of the audiologists at HPI are clini-
lar Test Battery is completed, the pa- sionals uniquely qualified to evaluate cally trained to diagnose, evaluate
tient's dizziness would be categorized and treat, through rehabilitation, disor- and recommend a treatment plan for
as vestibular (inner ear), abnormal (re- ders of the ear that are not your hearing and balance system
quiring further radiographic studies to surgical/medical conditions. c needs. At a minimum, our audiolo-
investigate the brainstem or central gists hold a Masters Degree in Audi-
nervous system), or other possible (Information and statistics were ology, although most of our
causes (cardiovascular, metabolic, gathered from the American Institute Audiologists hold a doctorate, Au.D.,
medication/poly-pharmacy, multi-fac- of Balance.) or Doctor of Audiology.
torial etc.) Working with your primary
care physician, additional referrals
may be indicated (Cardiology, Neu-
rology, Otolaryngology, Physical
Therapy, and/or radiographic studies,
etc.). Vestibular disorders are respon-
sible for 85% of patients complaining
of dizziness. Most medications geared
towards treating the symptoms of
dizziness and dysequilibrium hinder
the natural vestibular compensation
process (the body’s repair mecha-
nism).
Patients that are identified with
vestibular disorders, who are consid-
ered candidates for Vestibular Reha-
bilitation Therapy (VRT), will receive
clinician or self-directed exercises that
focus on the weaknesses identified
(Adaptation and/or Substitution exer-
cises). The typical therapy lasts for
seven to thirteen weeks, depending on
the origin of the disorder and any
multi-factorial symptoms. Patients
who have balance disorders due to
neurological events are given a poorer
prognosis. Therapy directed towards a
specific diagnosis resulted in resolu-
tion of symptoms in 85% of patients,
while general vestibular rehabilitation
exercises resulted in resolution of
symptoms in only 64% of patients.
Another facet of VRT is treating
Benign Paroxysmal Positional Ver-
tigo, the most treatable and most com-
mon vestibular disorder. The
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Health & Wellness

Men, Shame and Therapy

By Dr. Carol Drury, PhD, NCC when ill, I see a doctor. I don’t expect I can cure all that ails my stuff and me. How

O
nly one-third of people in therapy are
men, so it’s not surprising that I am fre-
quently asked, “What can I do to get my husband or
boyfriend into counseling?”
I wish the answer were simple, but it’s as complex
as the men we love. Men fear therapy due to shame
and not just any shame, but the devastating shame of
failure. According to Psychotherapy Networker, men
who’ve experienced toxic doses of shame early on will do anything to avoid re-ex-
periencing it. Shame originates in early family and peer experience, and a shamed
boy becomes a man who constantly fears the possibility of humiliation. These men
are the most desperate for affection and approval, yet usually can’t ask for it; in-
stead, they reject intimacy and blame or think the worst of others. Sometimes the
smallest signs of withdrawal of affection will trigger old wounds, and they’ll sud-
denly lash out at anyone they think is “dissing” them.
Men have a profound fear of appearing weak or—god forbid—feminine, and
will do whatever possible to exert their manliness. A recent study demonstrated the
length of time a guy will tough it out with his hand submerged in freezing water de-
pends on whether he thinks his masculinity is in question. For some men, their
hand could fall off before they’d risk the shame of not seeming “man enough” to
take it.
In order to understand men, women cannot ignore the powerful fear that being
shamed has on our partners. Unfortunately, some women understand this and be-
come masters at shaming their men as a means of control. Men, pay attention here,
many of you don’t get it either. You may not realize that avoiding shame is some-
thing that haunts you every day! A mildly embarrassing event—like carrying your
wife’s purse, can over activate a man’s fear that he’s failing at being a real man.
When therapy is mentioned, a man assumes he will be asked to admit he is
flawed or needs help, openly discuss and express his emotions, get vulnerable, and
depend on someone else for guidance and support. Wow! What man would sign up
for that? Men have male brains and women female brains, and we must learn to ap-
many golfers and skiers have taken lessons from a sports coach and felt they were a
failure for doing so? If it makes guys feel more secure, in most cases, I actually do
more coaching then counseling.
When a man chooses to engage in work that’s hard, unfamiliar, awkward, and
even frightening—but which is in keeping with what really matters to him—we see
a kind of courage and resolve that characterizes, well, a real men. When we recog-
nize and honor how men communicate their caring, we can then help them find re-
lease from needless pain and allow them to be able to receive and give more in
relationships. When we respect their defenses, honor their intentions, speak to them
in a way that values their maleness, and connect with them as real human beings,
we find that men aren’t that different. As women who are in relationships with men
who can reveal their vulnerability know so well, it’s extremely rewarding to be part
of the process through which a man opens up and finds that he still feels like a man,
or even like more of one. He has learned to be truly powerful—not over others, but
over himself. He has finally learned to express the feelings, thoughts, and caring he
was accused of not having but that were really just hidden behind his wall of mas-
culinity and fear of shame. c
About Carol Drury
Dr. Carol Drury graduated from George Washington University with a doctoral degree
in Clinical Counseling, and is a Nationally Certified Clinical Counselor. Before opening
her private practice in 2005, Dr. Drury worked for the Maryland Division of Rehabilita-
tion Services for 27 years, first as a Rehabilitation Counselor and then as a Supervisor
in the Tri County area. She was in the first class of trained Divorce and Family Media-
tors in St. Mary’s County. Dr. Drury has been Adjunct Faculty at George Washington
University and Bowie State Univerity and currently serves in that capacity at the Col-
lege of Southern Maryland. Her interests have always been in the area of improving
the quality of all relationships, but specifically in intimate relationships and uses the
Imago Theory of Relationships in her counseling.

Carol Drury, PhD

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RUNNING FOR COUNTY COMMISSIONER
natural resources, while
OF ST. MARY’S COUNTY. I WOULD LIKE
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My wife Patti and I have lived in St Mary’s County
most of our lives and raised our four children, here. I ‡ Revitalization of our
am very sensitive to the needs of families in which both transportation systems
parents are employed. Both Patti and I shared our family to include local travel,
responsibilities equally as we both had high pressure commuting needs and
management positions, which required travel. I have
Tri-County efforts for
served as an elected member of the Board of Education
for the last 7 years and fully understand the educational future replacement
needs of our children. I have consistently worked for of key bridges
positive change in St. Mary’s County and would like to
continue to do so as a County Commissioner. I believe I ‡ Managing county
can bring fresh ideas and competent management to St needs within our budget,
Mary’s County government. without increasing taxes

Thank you for any support for my campaign.

Auth: G. Bradford Reeves Jr. Treasurer Campaign to Elect Bill Mattingly
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Senior Living
Home Health Care:
Allow Your Loved Ones to Age at Home
By Lee Ann Stedman
C
aring for an elderly loved one is a grow-
ing concern of many middle-aged
adults. The stress is increased when the loved one is ill
or exhibiting signs of dementia. The fastest growing
segment of the U.S. population is our seniors – those
over 65. Many families are finding themselves raising
children and caring for parents at the same time.
We commend you for making the difficult yet rewarding decision to be the pri-
mary caregiver of your loved one. We are aware of the sacrifices you make. Job,
spouse, kids, church, home and other activities have left you with a pretty full
plate, and now you’ve added one more thing. Although they may not show it, your
loved one is aware of the pressure their care has placed on the entire family. Sadly
for families that don’t ask for help, this stress can reveal itself in ways that under-
mine the health and emotional welfare of everyone. Many caregivers feel de-
pressed, trapped and angry. You may argue with other family members, not have
time for your spouse, or have given up a cherished routine such as exercise or
going to church. The great gift that you are giving to your loved one is at risk when
you are not taking care of yourself both physically and emotionally.
When you choose to seek help, you are making a wise decision. According to a
November 2009 study by the National Alliance for Caregiving in collaboration
with AARP, “23% of family caregivers caring for loved ones for 5 years or more
report their health is fair or poor.” In addition, seeking help for some of the
tasks that you perform on behalf of your loved one frees up time to enjoy their
company, rather than always be doing “for” them.
Circle of Care, LLC is dedicated to helping families in Southern Maryland care
for their loved ones in their own homes. Since 2001, we have served over 500 fami-
lies with non-medical tasks ranging from companionship and errands to full per-
sonal care (bathing, toileting, etc.). We acknowledge that while home care may be
the ideal choice for your loved one, the dangers of being alone make for a stressful
situation for the entire family. A home care company can help you on two levels:
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Companion Care/Housekeeping – This level of care provides light house-
keeping, meal preparation and other tasks such as laundry, errands, and appoint-
ment escort. Your loved one’s companion ensures basic safety and provides
friendship. Furthermore, companions can provide sitter services while your loved
one is in the hospital or nursing home.
Personal Care – In addition to providing the services listed above, a personal
caregiver can provide stand-by supervision of activities, bathing, showering, and
toileting assistance. They can provide personal grooming such as dressing, hair
care, and simple oral care. If your loved one is bed bound or unable to walk, per-
sonal caregivers can turn and position, transfer, and provide wheelchair assistance.
All of the services that Circle of Care provides receive on-going monitoring of
needs by a staff nurse and case manager. Services are available for just a few hours
a day all the way up to live-in care. While we serve a predominantly senior client
base, Circle of Care is also available to provide care to those recovering from sur-
gery or injury.
Our staff and caregivers are carefully selected following reference checks,
skills assessments, and a comprehensive criminal background check, including a
Motor Vehicles Administration check. Our team of caregivers is compassionate
and patient, dedicated and experienced. We’re proud of our exceptional reputation
in the Southern Maryland area and would be happy to provide references from
current and former clients. Our professional staff will work with you to determine
the best plan and schedule to assist your loved one with daily life activities, and to
provide you with much-needed support and respite.
Call us today to find out more about how we can help you care for your
loved one! c
About Circle of Care
Circle of Care is bonded, insured and duly licensed by the State of Maryland’s Office of
Health Care Quality as a Residential Services Agency. Circle of Care is a proud member
of the Maryland National Capital Homecare Association.
Home care for your loved one.
Support for you.
Lee Ann Stedman
Executive Director
301 Steeple Chase Drive • P.O. Box 1024
Prince Frederick, MD 20678
Phone: 410-414-2646
Fax: 410-414-9575
24-Hour Line: 410-257-1900
Circle of Care is dedicated to
helping families in Southern Maryland
care for their loved ones in their own homes.
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By Grace Jones

This summer will kick off St. Mary’s inaugural

restaurant week July 25-August 8, 2010. Twenty-
one participating restaurants and food services
providers will team up with local producers to The Good Earth Natural Foods Store in Leonardtown
celebrate agriculture. Photo by Robin Jones

Unlike most restaurant weeks, Savor St. Mary’s strives for something
more. Each participating restaurant or food service provider has
prepared one or more dishes featuring in season, local produce from
surrounding farms. Savor St. Mary’s goal is to link local restaurants
with local producers and in turn give back to the community. Each
participating member will make a contribution to two local soup
kitchens, Loaves & Fishes and St. Mary’s Caring.
“When we support our local farmers, our local agriculture,
aquaculture, we are supporting keeping open space in
Food Company will be highlighting several recipes from her demo kitchen.
The Healthy Lunch Hour takes place Monday-Wednesday 11 a.m. to 2
p.m. It will feature recipes built from local produce. Dishes include a soup,
salad, or wrap. Thursday- Sunday, Larry and Laura will be in the demo
kitchen. “Our specialty is organic and natural foods,” said Valerie. “We’re
all about offering quality, healthy ingredients.”
While most restaurant weeks feel capitalistic, Savor St. Mary’s reaches
out to the community. “It’s not just about dollars, it’s about education,” said
Plant. “It’s about educating our public. It’s educating our chef ’s and our

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our county. I think all the county residents want to kitchen staffs to buy local and support local.”
support that as well,” said, Rob Plant, owner and
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opened the doors of Café des Artistes ten years ago, there
were no suppliers from Washington or Baltimore. St.
Mary’s County was simply too far away. “Buying local
is sharing life,” said Jaffres. “I want to make sure local is
local, from here in St. Mary’s.”
While the focus is on restaurant week, several
participants are not local restaurants. Chef Anne Marie
Morgan is a personal chef and owner of Chesapeake
Cuisine. Morgan designs her client’s weekly menus with

CHESAPEAKE CUISINE
local produce in mind. On an average cooking day
Morgan will visit at least 2-4 farms while shopping for
ingredients. “When I started to see the advertisements
for Savor St. Mary’s and when the group starting
organizing, I really wanted to be a part of that. I wanted A Personal Chef Service for Southern Maryland .
a more comprehensive way to reach the producers that Visit www.chesapeakecuisine.net for sample menus and pricing.
I haven’t dealt with yet,” said Chef Morgan. Call 240-237-0835 to speak with Chef Annmarie
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“Everybody is talking about green, green,
green,” said Jaffres. “Green isn’t only recycling.
Green is buying produce from your next door
neighbor.”

“When we support our

local farmers, our local
agriculture, aquaculture, we
are supporting keeping open
space in our county. I think all
the county residents want to
support that as well.”

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participating members are located on the Savor
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Savor St. Mary’s restaurant week will be
featured twice each year, with the next occurrence
taking place the week of February 15-28, 2011.
It will highlight local seafood and wine.
Chef Jaffres of Café des Artistes in Leonardtown

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Patrons who dine out twice during Savor St. Mary’s
restaurant week can bring their
recipts to Port of Leonardtown Patron Giveaways!!!
Winery to redeem free tickets!
Patrons who dine out twice during restaurant week can bring their recipts to Port
of Leonardtown Winery to redeem free tickets to one of the following events:

Taste of St. Mary’s St. Mary’s County Fair

Riverside Winefest Oyster Festival

Patrons can also enter the Feel the Local Love

Participating Restaurants:
Blue Wind Gourmet
Bollywood Masala
Bruster’s Real Ice Cream
Café des Artistes
Chef’s American Bistro
Chespeake Cuisine
D.B. McMillan’s
Fiesta Café
Kevin Thompson’s Corner
Kafe
Lenny’s Restaurant
Linda’s Café
Morris Point Restaurant
Oga’s Asian Cuisine
Quality Street Kitchen and
Catering
Rustic River Bar & Grill
Spinnakers Waterfront Res-
taurant
The Good Earth Natural
Foods Company
The Island Bar and Grill
The Lexington Restaurant &
Lounge
The Mixing Bowl
Tides Restaurant
Giveaway which includes wine from the Port of
Leonardtown Winery, Oysters from Circle C Oyster
Ranch, and a week of dinners prepared by personal
Chef Anne Marie Morgan.
August 6 author of Dishing
Up Maryland, Lucie Snodgrass,
along with featured Chef ’s will
appear at a book signing on the
Leonardtown Square from 5
p.m. to 8 p.m.
Also at 8:30 p.m. August
6 during Restaurant Week on
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Sinking in an Ocean of Student Loan Debt
By Christine Parker, CFP®
A
fter graduation, student
loan debt can feel like heavy ankle
weights dragging you down, reaching
over $50,000 for some advanced degrees.
According to Fin Aid Page, LLC, the
average cumulative debt at graduation for
pharmacists, doctors, lawyers and doctorial students is
$88,648, $136,474, $95, 914, and $61,121, respec-
tively.
Education debt is considered by many as good
debt because it is an investment in your future. Stati-
cally, individuals who have obtained advanced de-
grees have higher lifetime earnings potential.
Within the Southern Maryland region, the percent
of citizens age 25 years or older with a graduate or ad-
vanced professional degree within Anne Arundel,
Prince George’s, Calvert, St. Mary’s and Charles
County is 14.7, 11.8, 9.10, 9.4 and 8.8 percent, re-
spectively.
Here are three financial planning survivor tips to
help keep you afloat in the early years of your profes-
sional career while at the same time paying off stu-
dent loan debt:
First, when searching for your first professional
job carefully compare the entire job offer package in-
cluding starting salary, employee benefits and eligibil-
ity for government student loan forgiveness programs
or employer student loan repayment programs. Note
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that in some circumstances any student loan purposes only and should not be considered an
forgiveness or repayments made on your individualized recommendation or personalized
behalf may need to be included as taxable investment advice. She does not provide legal or
income in that tax year. tax advice. Before implementing any strategy,
Second, total student loan debt to annual please consult your accountant, legal counsel
income ratio should equal 1 or less. For ex- and/or financial planner.
ample student loan debt of $88,648 divided
by starting salary of $90,000 equals
.98 which is less than 1. Therefore,
negotiate a starting salary equal to or greater
than your total student loan debt.
Third, pay at least 10 percent of your gross
monthly income to student loan debt. Obvi-
ously, if the minimum required payment is
greater than this you will need to increase
your monthly payments accordingly.
In summary, create a solid student loan
debt repayment plan that can help you better
manager you money and create long-term
wealth. c
About the Author
Christine Parker is a CERTIFIED FINAN-
CIAL PLANNER professional, personal fi-
nance writer, and President of Parker
Financial, LLC; a woman-owned fee only
registered investment advisers in the state
of Maryland. She is author of
www.2LIVEWELL.com; a financial planning
blog for women of Southern Maryland.
This article is for general informational
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Meet Megan de Vos
Recruiting Team Lead for Wyle’s Aerospace Group
In many industries recruiting departments are
major components in helping companies find
people whose knowledge, skills and abilities
match those needed by the company. Here in
Southern Maryland where many defense services
firms do business with the Department of the
Navy, defense industry recruiters are looking for
individuals who can perfom jobs for their
Department of De-
fense (DoD) cus-
tomers or for the
company.
Recruiters utilize a
variety of avenues to
fill open positions with
skilled and knowledge-
able applicants. One of
the most successful av-
enues is attending job
fairs because they help
match applicants with
specific skills to specific
job openings.
“Job fairs are key,”
said Megan de Vos, re-
cruiting team lead for
Wyle’s Aerospace Group,
whose headquarters are
located in Lexington Park,
Md. “They serve two pur-
poses for the company—finding job applicants
that may not otherwise apply online and also as a
branding vehicle to promote the company.”
Before speaking to a recruiter at a job fair, it is
helpful to prepare a 20-second speech about your-
self, the areas of expertise you specialize in, and
the type of jobs you are looking for. Also, check
the company’s job listings to find openings that
you believe you may be qualified to fill can help
the recruiter map your qualifications to current
job openings.
Since recruiters interact with many job-seekers
in one day at a job fair, it is always beneficial to
re-establish contact. “After attending a job fair, al-
ways follow up with the recruiter you spoke
with,” de Vos recommends. “Recruiters can
sometimes speak to 200 job seekers at a time.
Stand out by writing a thank you note and include
a soft copy of your resume.”
Aside from job fairs, searching and selecting
resumes is done mostly online in today’s job mar-
ket. “Within our company we have a tracking sys-
tem that allows us to search the resumes of all
applicants to our positions.” de Vos further ex-
plains, “If I want to scan who’s applied in the last
six months that has relevant experience for a spe-
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cific opening, I can do that search within our own
database.”
For database searches to be accurate there are
key words that applicants should include in their
resumes. “Key words are essential,” says de Vos.
“A lot of people think that using generic-type
words will get them more exposure, but if you are
looking for a specific
kind of position, ‘buzz’
or ‘key’ words are es-
sential to the resume.
If you have experience
working with a spe-
cific program or air-
craft for example,
make sure you use
applicable verbiage
and acronyms, and
be sure to spell them
out.”
For those who are
interested in work-
ing for a defense
firm, but find them-
selves without DoD
experience, a suc-
cessful strategy for
entering the com-
munity can be to apply for
functional or administrative entry-level posi-
tions. “At Wyle, the turn-over rate with most
entry level jobs is less than a year,” de Vos says.
“Most of these folks are recruited into support-
ing any number of programs at Patuxent River.
Since the Naval Air Station is such a small com-
munity, applicants who are coming from other
industries without DoD experience on their re-
sume sometimes need to first get that experi-
ence.”
Other than making connections at job fairs
and obtaining relevant experience, recruiters will
tell you that being prepared for an interview is
the key to your success. Researching the com-
pany or program you are interviewing with and
having a list of questions to ask during the inter-
view is always beneficial and shows that you are
interested and prepared.
“Be ready to answer some of the typically
asked questions such as what are your biggest ac-
complishments and what are your weaknesses?”
de Vos adds. “Turn your weaknesses into posi-
tives, be calm, presentable, and most importantly
be yourself!”
For more information about Wyle or to
find out more about careers at Wyle, visit
www.wyle.com.c
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“Before speaking to a
recruiter at a job fair,
it is helpful to prepare
a 20-second speech
about yourself, the
areas of expertise you
specialize in, and they
type of jobs you are
looking for.”
About Megan de Vos
Megan de Vos graduated from the Robert H.
Smith School of Business at the University of
Maryland, College Park with degrees in market-
ing and international business. Prior to coming
to Wyle, Megan worked for Randstad, a staffing
agency, and then moved to corporate recruiting
for a consulting firm CRI, Inc. in Vienna, Va. For
the past four years she has been focused on
technical recruiting for DoD contractors for vari-
ous federal agency contracts including the U.S.
Department of Navy, Customs and Border Pa-
trol, Office of Naval Intelligence, National
Geospatial-Intelligence Agency, National Secu-
rity Agency, and U.S. Army, Marine, and Air
Force. Since joining Wyle, she has focused on
recruiting for NAVAIR contracts across the coun-
try. Megan is the team lead for Wyle’s Aerospace
Group recruiting team at the Lexington Park,
Md. location. Her interests lie in international
travel, international politics and human capital
management.
“At Wyle, the turn-over rate with
most entry level jobs is less
than a year. Most of these
folks are recruited into
supporting any
number of
programs at
Patuxent River.”
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About Candice Quinn Kelly

“...government
Candice Quinn Kelly is a Democratic candidate for President
of the Charles County Commissioners. She is a mother is meant to
of three, a successful business owner, and a community represent the
organizer. In 2009 Candice was named the Philanthropist of
the year by the Community Foundation of Charles County people and
and was honored with the Lifetime Achievement Award by
the Charles County Commission for Women for her service can really
to the community. Public service is a way of life for Candice
and she continues working to improve the community; shape the way
believing in the power of people to make a difference in the a community
lives of those around them. For more information visit her
campaign website at http://electcqk.com. views itself.”

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many people throughout Charles County. I have had to think

through the tough issues of the day. I have worked to bring
people with different views to some kind of compromise. I
have had to decide at times that I just couldn’t agree with
some of the positions taken by some people I have met and
who supported me and I have done my best in these situations
to communicate the basis for my positions.
One of the most important lessons learned by losing an
election is that it is not about me. People’s concerns and
the issues that affect their lives continue to live on well after
voting is done.
I have always loved people. That’s cliché but it’s true. I can
be dead tired and dreading leaving my home but once I get to
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more importantly, most people do not want to be judged for
their views. One of the most important roles of our elected
representatives is to listen with empathy and objectivity.
People should be empowered to speak freely. It is healthy teenagers loitering in the woods behind their house at night and that they are afraid to speak
to have an open discussion on important issues. We can all out. You can see the fear in their eyes and that they want the Sheriff ’s deputy to patrol as
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and make a difference in our community. care and reassuring them that everything will be alright, they are enormously grateful.
We are a community and it is essential that we meet the needs of our citizens. That
It is far too easy to instantly shut down when happens in countless ways on any given day. There is little that a County Commissioner
we hear an opinion that is not in keeping with can take credit for as the work of government proceeds, and yet I feel a certain sense
our own. It takes true enlightenment and self of pride as one who wishes to serve and humbled to be considered.
discipline to maintain an open mind.

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Communicate and Educate

Aside from being a mother, I would say that my sincere
fondness for the democratic process is the basis for my strong
passion for education. I think that only through a quality
education can we ensure our future. Our young people must
have the tools to work through the tough issues that will come
before them now and in the future. They must be able to
communicate and to build our community for the future.
The quality of education that our children receive
impacts how they see themselves. In a sense it impacts how
our entire community perceives itself. Our schools are so
often the thing that binds us together in Charles County.
What People Have Had to Say
I have never had anyone tell me that they are concerned
about the time it takes to get a subdivision plan through the
Planning Department. I have had them tell me that there are
Why I Campaign
You can say that your door is always open but you really have to mean it. That’s
why I keep running, because every time I open my door to a problem that is clearly
not within my power to solve, I watch as other doors open and eventually, maybe
over years things begin to happen. Things may never happen fast enough but I keep
running because I believe in the ability of all of us to make change and move forward.
From what I have heard over the years what we really want is a good place to live, our
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and the sense that our government is working for us.
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budgetary issues, strong work ethic and willingness to put in long hours. It requires
straight, honest talk and the tenacity to move things forward even when unpopular,
the ability to stand strong to protect the rights and well being of citizens, and sincere
desire and interest in going out and talking with and meeting citizens. In other words
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have to go out and feel the heat in order to do a better job.
I have all of these skills and I have my faults too. But since my earliest days (I am 54
years old) I have been working in my community to make a difference. I get far more
back from everyone that I meet than I have ever been able to give and what a blessing
that has been. Sometimes being tough and tenacious isn’t pretty and as a woman I of
course would like to be pretty. But as each challenge comes my way I have learned a
little bit more about me and how I can better serve. Through it all I have met some
wonderful people and my own life has been enriched.
I am running for President of the County Commissioners – this time may be
the charm.

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Southern Summer
Events
Maryland July —August 2010

July 5 – August 16, 9 a.m. – 1 p.m. and 4 – 8 p.m.Tuesdays and Thursdays
CSM Presents “Farm Life Exhibit”
College of Southern Maryland, Prince Frederick Campus
In partnership with the National Endowment for the Humanities (NEH), CSM hosts
the NEH traveling exhibit “Farm life: A Century of Change for Farm Families and
Their Neighbors,” at the Prince Frederick Campus. “Farm Life” has been made pos-
sible by NEH on the Road, a special initiative of the National Endowment for the Hu-
manities. It was adapted and is brought by Mid-America Arts Alliance. Its was
organized by The Chippewa Valley Museum in Eau Claire, Wis.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Screen on the Green
Bring a blanket or lawn chair and kick back, while watching a movie under the stars
on Saturday, July 10, at 8:30 p.m., when we show “Where the Wild Things Are” on
the west lawn of La Plata Town Hall. Free popcorn will be given away, and refresh-
ments are available from the food trailer located in the back part of the parking lot.
The movie is rated PG, and parents may visit the website www.kids-in-mind.com to
get a complete overview of the movie content.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Lighthouse Open House
Point Lookout State Park, Scotland, off Route 5. 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Self-guided tours
of the lighthouse are open to the public with volunteers and Friends group on site.
Admission. 301-872-5688. www.dnr.maryland.gov.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Truck and Tractor Pull
Charles County Fairgrounds
Lucas Oil East Coast Modified Truck and Tractor pull. There will be wheel standing 2
wheel drive trucks, 4x4 trucks, modified three engine tractors, and Super/Pro stock
tractors. Starts at 7 p.m. There will be local farm stock tractors and the mini rods,
which start at 4 p.m. Come out and enjoy and evening of ground pounding action!
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Twilight Performance Series: Terenace McArdle & Big Trouble
College of Southern Maryland – Leonardtown Campus. 6:30 p.m. This family-
friendly, free series features artists performing weekly during July on the Leonard-
town Campus. Grab a chair, bring a picnic and enjoy a great performance by
Terenace McArdle & Big Trouble. 240-725-5499 ext. 7861. www.csmd.edu/finearts.
Friday, July 23, 2010 – Sunday, August 01, 2010
Recreation and Parks Summerstock Production “Cinderella”
This year’s show will be Rogers and Hammerstein’s “Cinderella.” Show dates: July 23
– 25 & July 29 – August 1 Show times: Sunday evening shows begin at 5:00pm, all
other evening shows begin at 7 p.m. Saturday matinee (July 31) will begin at 1 p.m.
Location: Great Mills High School air conditioned auditorium. Ticket prices: $14. Con-
tact 301-373-5184 for more info.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Potomac Jazz & Seafood Festival
St. Clement’s Island Museum, Colton’s Point, off Route 242. 3 p.m. – 9 p.m. Relax
riverside on the museum lawn to three dynamic jazz groups and delicious seafood
specialties. Admission. HC. 301-769-2222. www.stmarysmd.com/recreate/museums

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Twilight Performance Series: The Fitzmaurice Band
College of Southern Maryland – Leonardtown Campus. 6:30 p.m. This family-friendly,
free series features a variety of artists performing weekly during July on the Leonard-
town Campus. Grab a chair, bring a picnic and enjoy a great performance by The Fitz-
maurice Band. 240-725-5499 ext. 7861 www.csmd.edu/finearts.

Friday, July 16, 2010

River Concert Series: Youth and Beauty
St. Mary’s College of Maryland, St. Mary’s City, off Route 5. 7 p.m. Jeffrey Silber-
schlag and the Chesapeake Orchestra welcome the first annual Young Artist Concerto
Competition Winner, Nina DeCesare and perform the world premiere of William
Kleinssaser’s “St. Mary’s River” and Prokofiev’s “Symphony No. 5.” Free. 240-895-
4107. www.riverconcertseries.com.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Community Yard Sale
It’s time for summer cleaning! Get rid of unwanted “stuff” in your house by participat-
ing in La Plata’s Community Yard Sale. Remember “one person’s junk is another per-
son’s treasure!” The Yard Sale will be held at La Plata Town Hall on Saturday, July 17,
2010, from 8:00 a.m. until 12:00 noon. Vendor space is available for $10 per 10’ x
10’ space with a limit of two spaces per vendor. For more information, please contact
Julie Lemmon, jlemmon@townoflaplata.org or 301-934-8421.

For a complete listing of events please visit

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Friday, July 23, 2010
River Concert Series: Next Stop: Vienna!
St. Mary’s College of Maryland, St. Mary’s City, off Route 5. 7 p.m. Jeffrey Silber-
schlag and the Chesapeake Orchestra welcome concertmaster, Jose Cueto, and cele-
brates Mahler’s 150th Birthday Anniversary with a performance of “Symphony No. 7.”
Free. 240-895-4107. www.riverconcertseries.com.
Saturday, July 24, 2010 – Sunday, July 25, 2010
Tidewater Archaeology Weekend
Historic St. Mary’s City, St. Mary’s City, off Route 5. 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. Help archaeolo-
gists remove pieces of Maryland’s past from excavations; watch as artifacts are identi-
fied; lab tours. Admission. HC. 800-762-1634. 240-895-4990. www.stmaryscity.org.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Downtown Tunes
Washington Street, Leonardtown Square, off Route 5. 6 p.m. Enjoy a live music per-
formance on the town square! Free. 301-904-4452. Leonardtown.somd.com.
Sunday, July 25, 2010 – Sunday, August 08, 2010
Savor St. Mary’s Restaurant Week
At participating restaurants throughout St. Mary's County, “Buy Local, Eat Local and
Support the Community!” St. Mary’s County’s Restaurant Week brings together locally-
owned restaurants, food service providers, wineries and growers to create special
menu items prepared with ingredients fresh from our area’s farms, waterways and
vineyards. Monetary donations generated by Restaurant Week will be made to our two
local soup kitchens, St. Mary’s Caring and Loaves and Fishes, which provide food to
the community’s hungry and homeless.
Book Signing! Join Dishing Up Maryland author Lucie Snodgrass at Leonardtown’s
First Friday on August 6. Meet St. Mary’s featured chefs and sample fare.
301-475-4200 ext. 1404. For participating restaurants, profiles on local chefs and
more, visit www.savorstmarys.com.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Twilight Performance Series: Alegria
College of Southern Maryland – Leonardtown Campus. 6:30 p.m. This family-friendly,
free series features a variety of artists performing weekly during July on the Leonard-
town Campus. Grab a chair, bring a picnic and enjoy a great performance by Alegria.
Coming Home
By Judy Angelheart
I would like to share a story with you:
There once was a medicine woman, known by her tribe
as a very wise woman. One day a newspaper reporter inter-
viewed her and asked her how she became a medicine
woman. She answered, “I have always been a medicine
woman.” “Really, said the reporter, didn’t you have to study
to learn your skills?” “No, she answered, all I had to do
was find the right elder to pull them out of me.” “That’s an
interesting concept.” the reporter chimed in. However, I have done my research
and I know you went to college and that you didn’t start practicing as a medicine
woman until your forties.” “You speak truths, said the medicine woman. How-
ever, that does not change nor negate the fact that I have always been a medi-
cine woman. It was I who had to find my way back home.”
I share this story with you to illustrate that for many of us it takes some time
Permission Slip
I grant myself permission to give LOVE and be LOVED.
(This permission slip never expires and may be shared with others.)
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240-725-5499 ext. 7861 www.csmd.edu/finearts.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Jimmy Jones Memorial 10K
Maryland International Raceway, Mechanicsville, off Route 234. 9 a.m. Commemorate
and celebrate the life of Jimmy Jones at MIR and take a shot at $10,000 CASH!
Fundraisers will be held and a portion of every ticket sold will be donated to help
Jimmy’s mother. Admission. 301-884-7223. www.mirdrag.com.
Friday, July 30, 2010
River Concert Series: The Grand Finale
St. Mary’s College of Maryland, St. Mary’s City, off Route 5. 7 p.m. Jeffrey Silber-
schlag and the Chesapeake Orchestra host Broadway Singing sensation Kate Baldwin,
with a festive finish to the summer season, including a performance of Beethoven’s
“Symphony No. 5.” Free. 240-895-4107. www.riverconcertseries.com.
Friday, August 06, 2010 – Saturday, August 07, 2010
St. Mary’s College of Maryland Governor’s Cup Yacht Race
St. Mary’s College Waterfront, St. Mary’s City, off Route 5. Race is Friday at 6 p.m.,
followed by party on Saturday beginning at 10 a.m. Oldest and longest overnight race
on the Chesapeake Bay. Marks the 37th running year of the race from Maryland’s cur-
rent capital city to its first capital in St. Mary’s City. Admission for yacht race; Free for
Saturday activities. 240-895-3039. www.smcm.edu/govcup.
Friday, August 6, 2010
WWII USO Remembrance Day
Gazebo on Solomons Boardwalk
WWII USO Remembrance Day (USO Night) is held at Solomons, MD, Friday, August 6,
from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. on the boardwalk pavilion. Its purpose is to salute those who
trained at the Solomons base, the “cradle of invasion.” This free event is open to the
public and is hosted by the Circle of Angels Initiative, Inc. www.circleofangels.org.
Friday, August 06, 2010 – Sunday, August 22, 2010
Newtowne Players present “Laundry & Bourbon/Lone Star”
Three Notch Theater, Lexington Park, off Route 235. “Lone Star” tells the story of three
“good ole boys” from Texas and one hilarious Saturday night carouse. Conceived as a
companion piece to precede “Lone Star,” “Laundry & Bourbon” takes the audience into
the lives of three small-town wives who marriages have turned out to be less than was
hoped for. Admission. HC. 301-737-5447. www.newtowneplayers.org. c
to find our way home to our true selves. And we, like the medicine woman
in the story, often need elders or mentors or just friends who can coach us
along.
And when we find what it is that we were always meant to be, it is like a
homecoming where doors are flung open and a welcome banner is hung
across the expanse. The welcoming feels great; however, many times the
first steps into who we truly are is scary. Yet, know this, you can move into
who you are little by little.
You may think that you don’t have the time or the money to pursue who
you are meant to be. There too, give yourself a little bit of time and resources to
pursue your gifts and passion. You will find you will be rewarded many times
over by honoring who you truly are.
I, like the medicine woman, have finally found my way back home. And it
feels great! c
Judy Angelheart ©2010
About Judy Angelheart
Judy Angelheart is a Life Coach, Writer/Poet, Minister, Reiki Master,
Certified Reflexologist and Certified Personal Trainer. She has been
published in various newsletters and publications, among them
Today’s American Woman magazine. She can be reached by email at:
jangelheart@hotmail.com with any questions or comments.
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By Grace Jones
Women in Farming
W
hen Judy Hayden arrives home from
work, she comes home to two boys, a husband and
23 horses. Judy owns and runs Woodbury Equestrian
Center. She also is chair of the St. Mary’s County
Farm Bureau Women’s Committee. Judy is just one
of many women who are behind the driving force of
agriculture in St. Mary’s County.
According to the U.S. Census of Agriculture there
are 2,216 women operated farms in Maryland. 12%
of those farms are located in St. Mary’s County. Of
those women, 65% hold jobs outside the farm, 38%
of which are full time employees. Women like Judy,
who commute to Arlington and come home to not
only provide for her family but her farm as well.
The role of women in agriculture is shifting. They
are no longer the sole providers for their families.
They are in the fields, planting and running the trac-
tor. They are partners with their husbands, making
business decisions. They support the community by
becoming agricultural marketing professionals or
agricultural specialists.
“In the past five years I’ve seen a lot of women
come into this field,” said Christine Bergmark, Ex-
ecutive Director for the Southern Maryland Agricul-
ture Development Commission and Co-Owner of
EvenStar Organic Farm. “Women have often taken
the role of supporting the farm from the business
side. Now I’m actually beginning to see women
who are owners of the farm, and really taking on the
whole operations of the farm and that’s very gratify-
ing to see.”
While studying in college Christine would often
sit in a classroom of 80 and find herself one of two
women and the only woman from an urban back
ground. “When I look around me, I see women com-
ing into this field as farmers in production or as sup-
portive or service roles, some of whom are from
urban back grounds. I think it’s a really wonderful
transition to bring a women’s point of view into
farming.”
Kathy Cropper always gets the question ‘what do
you do?’ “Well, I don’t have a specific job. Just like
on the farm. It’s whatever needs to be done, from
bookwork, to being on the tractor, plowing, and pick-
ing.” Kathy runs and operates along with her parents,
Friendly Hall Farms. For the past ten years Kathy has
been delivering produce to local restaurants.
“Your true blue farmer isn’t going to be out, call-
ing your chefs, calling the restaurant owner, saying
‘hey, what do you need?’ and doing the deliveries.
Over the ten years, you build that relationship and it’s
like family. It’s that buy local family.”
Judy Hayden married into farming. Her husband
owned a farm with his family. When the farm sold
July – August 2010
they bought Woodbury. Her husband farms hay. She
commutes to work daily and still makes time to take
her boys to baseball practice, serve her second year
as chair on the women’s committee, and run her
equestrian center. Her only regret is not being able to
make more time to work on the farm.
As women’s chair Judy recently crowned the
2010 Miss St. Mary’s County Farm Bureau. Em-
milee Guy is young and passionate about women’s
role in today’s agriculture. “Women as a whole are
more innovative and more willing to try new things.
As time has gone on, they’ve pushed their husbands
to branch out into new areas.” She sees women’s
role in agriculture expanding in the future.
Betty Russell’s father made her work for every-
thing. By eight she was driving stick shift. She
moved to St. Mary’s County 25 years ago. “I swore
when I came here I wasn’t selling the stand any-
For more information
To support or find more information on local agricultural programs
please use these contacts.
St. Mary’s County Farm Bureau, Women’s Committee
Judy Hayden
Email: hayden.judy@yahoo.com Phone: 301-994-0350
St. Mary’s County Young Farmers have a FaceBook page at
www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/home.php?sk=h
The Maryland Farm Bureau website is www.mdfarmbureau.com/index.asp.
The Future Farmers of America website is http://www.ffa.org/
A list of 4-H Clubs can be found at
http://stmarys.umd.edu/4H/Local_4H_Clubs/4H%20Club%20Listings%202009a.pdf
www.SouthernMarylandWoman.com
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y
more.” Now Betty runs one of the largest
produce stands in the county and an auxil-
iary stand on St. Andrews Church Road.
Russell Farms generates 200 acres of pro-
duce.
“People don’t see the behind the
scenes, the labor of love that goes behind
this,” said Betty “You’re fighting the mar-
kets and fighting the labor; you fight the
weather, the bugs. Women are the back
bone of a lot of this stuff.” Betty is the face
of Russell Farms. If she’s not at the stand,
she’s negotiating for equipment, com-
manding her staff, or doing bookwork.
“The one thing I love about farming is
you don’t have the same thing 12 months out of the
year. It’s always something different,” said Betty.
According to the U.S. Census of Agriculture more
than 30% of farm operators nationwide are women.
In college Christine Bergmark’s advisor told her
‘you’re a woman, you shouldn’t be going into this
field. You should stick to nutrition.’ It infuriated her.
“It made me even more determined to stay in the
field that has been much more male orientated than
female.”
“Every year you have to make changes,” said
Kathy Cropper. “I guess that’s where the woman
comes in and takes up the slack. You have to start
making changes. The old ways just don’t make it
anymore.”
“A good thing to have,” said Betty “is a little
sense of humor.” c
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Recreation

Food For Thought

Mark Dale, General Manager & Rastafarian beanie complete with fake dreadlocks “short-term” memberships to help overcome that
Personal Trainer, Wildewood Location coming out of the back; not the beginner falling 10 hurdle but there is a point to consider here. Why
times down the bunny slope. The same principle is wouldn’t you want to commit to one year of a

W
orking in the health club industry
for the past 12 years I have heard
almost every excuse as to why people, in this exam-
ple-women, can not or will not join a “gym.” Every
generation has explained to me, sometimes in great
depth, why it is not for them. Whether I am touring a
prospective member around one of our clubs, casually
chatting in a restaurant or even talking with women in
my own family, they have all expressed to me why a
membership to a health club may not be for them.
Ladies, let’s get a few things straightened out.
Of the hundreds of reasons I have heard, I would
like to address the three I have heard most often
and, hopefully, clear up any misconceptions people
may have.
1) “I don’t want everyone looking at me.”
The reason heard most often! There are two types
of people working out in health clubs; the ones who
want to be watched and the ones who do not. It truly
is that simple. It’s like going snow skiing for the first
time. People are watching the skiers trying to land
full flips off of ramps and the ones thrashing through
moguls at warp speeds in day-glow apparel with a
true in any health club. The people, who want to be
noticed, try to be noticed. Trying something new for
the first time is always frightening, especially when
you could embarrass yourself. Our personal trainers
work with all new members to acclimate them to the
equipment, the classes and the health club in gen-
eral. We would never sign someone up and say,
“Good Luck, You are on your own!”
2) “I just can’t find the time.”
Bad news, I work here fulltime and I can’t find
the time either. I have to make the time. Extra time is
so hard to come by in 2010; even people who are re-
tired are “swamped.” Take my word though, if you
make time for exercise in your life, EVERY OTHER
ASPECT of it is so much better. Exercise truly is the
best kept secret. I won’t sugarcoat it; it does take de-
termination and commitment; but it’s so worth it in
the end! I can remember hearing as a child that “the
harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usu-
ally the same thing”; I can’t think of any example
that fits that quote better than exercise.
3) “I don’t want to sign a contract.”
Okay, signing a contract is part of it. We do offer
healthier lifestyle? People subscribe to 12 issues of
Shape, Women’s Health, etc. Why not subscribe to
12 months of doing what the magazine preaches?
Better yet, why not make it part of your everyday
life? Our hope is to turn that 12-month sign-up into a
lifelong member. I know that life has a way of taking
over all of your free time (see #2 above when that
happens), and we offer membership freezes to help
combat that as well, but we need to look at this exer-
cise idea as a lifelong promise to ourselves. In the
end, our significant others will thank us, our children
and grandchildren will thank us and most impor-
tantly, we ourselves will be happier. I have always
stressed that the words “Happy” and “Healthy” are
synonymous.
Between our 6 locations (Leonardtown, Wilde-
wood, Lexington Park, Lusby, Prince Frederick and
Owings), we offer over 1,000 Group Exercise &
Spinning Classes every month. These classes and the
instructors who teach them are what truly set us
apart from other health clubs. They come free with
all memberships and we believe that once you try
one, we’ll have you hooked to try more! Come in
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10 Reasons to Start Sailing Right... Now!
By Captain Lisa Batchelor Frailey
Have you always dreamed of sailing, but never knew quite how to start? Or
maybe you sailed as a kid, and would like to get back on the water. Whatever your
reason or experience level, here are 10 great reasons to start sailing right…now!
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Sailing melts away that daily stress – you literally feel yourself decompress
when you’re out on the water. Your mind clears, and you focus on the here
and now, on the challenge and exhilaration of being one with the elements.
You’ll return to your daily routine energized, clear-headed and focused –
that is, if you decide to return! An excellent full-body, non-impact sport,
sailing lets you discover and tone new muscles without going to the gym.
With proper instruction, you’ll learn to use the lines and winches onboard
to work smarter – not harder.
having fun and forming memories to last a lifetime. While solo sailing gets you
“away from it all”, sailing can also be a very social sport. Sailing clubs, marinas
and regattas give opportunities to meet people from all walks of life, with the
shared interest of sailing. My truest friends, men and women, are my sailing
partners. My husband and I were sailors long before we met at a regatta; we fell
in love and got engaged while sailing together. There is no hiding on a sailboat –
the whole person shines through.
Ultimate Teambuilding
Sailing is the ultimate teambuilding sport. As in business and life, success on a
boat depends on a capable skipper and crew, working together towards a common
goal. Good sailing crews depend on each other, communicate effectively, and
share the load. In strong winds, the crew adjusts the sails to optimize speed and
direction without getting overpowered. Light winds require the crew to seek out
and maximize all opportunities. Whether your “team” is business or family, our
Sail Solomons teambuilding sessions get results.
Women’s Courses
Good sailing schools recognize that men and women often learn differently,
and adapt teaching techniques accordingly. Sail Solomons offers women-only
courses for those who prefer a single-gender learning environment. Many
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Clean and Green Variety - the Spice of Sailing

Sailing reconnects you with nature. There is nothing so tranquil as the sound
of the wind in your sails and your hull slicing through the water. The most
spectacular sunsets are those you’ll see while anchored in a quiet cove. The forces
of nature can be humbling, but as a sailor, you’ll learn to “read” the wind and
waves and work with those forces, harnessing their power to your advantage.
Sailing is green! Eliminate fossil fuel emissions by using wind power.
SAILING SCHOOL
YACHT CHARTERS
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to try, there are always variations on the wind and seas, scenery, and even
crew. Southern Maryland is in the very heart of the Chesapeake Bay, where you’ll
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clubs and charter bases offering everything from dinghies to cruising yachts,
there’s a sailing budget for everyone! Clubs and charters are perfect for those
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Women Making a Difference
Courtesy of the Maryland Women’s Heritage Center
JILL MOSS GREENBERG
EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR
The State of Mary-
land is home to many
women “firsts” and
“founders” who will
be highlighted and
honored at the Mary-
land Women’s Her-
itage Center.
In addition to the renowned
women who are known far beyond
our state, there are innumerable
women in each of our lives who have
sustained our families, taught or vol-
unteered in our schools, worked for
social justice and shaped our com-
munities—often behind the scenes,
serving anonymously, without recog-
nition and praise. The Maryland
Women’s Heritage Center is commit-
ted to telling and preserving the sto-
ries of these unsung heroines and
honoring their many contributions.
Juanita Tamayo Lott of Silver
Spring, Md., is one such woman
“Making a Difference.”
Nationally known as a pioneer in
the field of Filipino American and
Asian American Studies, she is the
founder of the first Asian American
Studies program in the United States
at San Francisco State University
and the first (and only) College of
Ethnic Studies. In 2007, she co-
founded the Filipino American Stud-
ies program at the University of
Maryland, College Park.
As a demographer, she has been
instrumental in diversifying the U.S.
Census. She joined the U.S. Census
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Bureau in 1997 as special
assistant to the Director in
preparation for the 2000
Census and subsequently
directed the 2010 Census
Planning Unit. She was
special assistant to Dr.
Martha Farnesworth
Riche, only the second
woman director of the
Census Bureau since the
first census was conducted by
Thomas Jefferson in 1790 (the first
was Barbara Everitt Bryant for the
1990 Census).
Much of her work has helped to
put human faces to statistical num-
bers, which has led to major
changes. For instance, it is because
of her that there are no longer a
“head of household” or “wife of
head” categories on the Census
form. In addition, she made it possi-
ble for those filling out the form to
be able to check more than one
race or ethnicity.
Furthermore, she has lectured
and written on demographic
changes for over 30 years for
both public and scholarly audi-
ences. She is the author of Fil-
ipinos in Washington, D.C.,
Asian Americans: From Racial
Category to Multiple Identities,
and Spotlight on Heterogene-
ity: The Federal Standards for
Racial and Ethnic Classifica-
tion. In 2010, she co-authored
“Race, Ethnic and Gender
Bias in Educational Statistics”
for the International Encyclo- Adding Herstory to History
pedia of Education.
A strong civil rights advocate for to Tell Ourstory
Asian Americans and women in par-
ticular, she serves as a board member
of the Maryland Women’s Heritage The first comprehensive state-based center and museum of
Center. its kind in the nation to celebrate the women of
As Juanita Tamayo Lott men- Maryland’s past, present, and future!
tioned, “I really believe that a critical
component of effective, long term
community organizing and civic en-
We invite all who wish to honor the history and
gagement is statistical and financial contributions of our diverse foremothers to join us in
literacy for women and girls.” c supporting the creation of this historic first.
For more information or to become 501(c)(3) Non-Profit Organization
involved in supporting the creation
of the Maryland Women’s Heritage
Center, visit our website at 410-767-0675
www.MDWomensHeritageCenter.org, www.MDWomensHeritageCenter.org
call 410-767-0675, or e-mail
mwhcjill@comcast.net.
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Nominations Now
Being Accepted for
10th Annual
Heroines in
Technology Awards
T he March of Dimes is issuing a call for nomi-
nations for Heroines in Technology®, an
awards program that recognizes women in
the technology industry who have used their experi-
ence, knowledge and skills to benefit the community.
In addition, woman-owned or woman-run compa-
nies will be recognized for extraordinary commit-
ment to local service or philanthropy. The deadline
for submitting nominations is August 1, 2010.
The 2010 Heroines in Technology will be hon-
ored at an awards dinner on Friday, November 12, at
the Hyatt Regency Reston in Reston, Va. New to
this year’s event is the Government Heroines Award,
which will recognize women employed by federal,
state and local governments who exhibit extraordi-
nary volunteerism in endeavors over and above the
mandates of their government role.
The keynote speaker will be Carol Evans, CEO
and founder of Working Mother Media. The 2010
event chair is Sandy Scearce, business development
director with Grant Thornton LLP. The
mistress of ceremonies will be
Amy Morris, co-host of
“Federal Drive” on
Federal
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Left to right, Sandy Scearce and Carol Evans.
News Radio. The evening includes a cocktail recep-
tion, dinner, live band and dancing, and live and
silent auctions.
“This year’s theme is Decade of Heroines,” said
Ms. Scearce. “In addition to honoring the 2010 fi-
including government, not-for-profit and commercial
organizations.
To complete an online nomination form, visit
marchofdimes.com/marylandmetrodc. For more in-
formation on the nomination process or the event,
nalists and winners, we’ll also recognize our 53 for- please contact Kate Leib at (703) 824-0111, ext. 21.
mer Heroines and where they are today.” Past Event sponsors include Lockheed Martin, Federal
winners include Ardell Fleeson, Bobbie Kilberg and News Radio, Fairfax Woman and
Marie Johns. Washington Life.
Proceeds from the event will support local March
of Dimes programs of research, community services,
education and advocacy to reduce the occurrence of
birth defects, premature birth and infant mortal-
ity. Since 2001, the event has raised nearly
$1 million to support the March of
Dimes mission of saving babies.
Nominees will be considered from
all segments of the technology com-
munity in Maryland, Washington,
D.C., and Northern Virginia
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