The Marriage Expectation Inventory The Mariage Expectation Inventory for engaged couples is designed to help you dialogue on some important aspects of your relationship. Check your answer. 41, LOVE EXPECTATIONS 1. After marriage, | will spend more quality time with: a. my parents (utang na loob) b. my fiiends (pakikisama a barkada) my work (for our future) d. my family (especially my spouse) e. other (specify) 2. Love means : a. never giving up my ideals which my spouse should follow b. willingness to accept and adjust to my partner . always giving in to my partner to please him/her d. other (specify) 3. Love in marriage will have its ups and downs b. be abed of roses be a crown of thorns d. other (specify) 2 9 4, After a quarrel : the husband must make the first move for a reconciliation the wife must make the first move whoever is wrong should apologize both should attempt to reconcile other (specify) s LL 25. Love is best expressed in marriage by: a. continuing to say"! Love You," remembering birthdays and wedding anniversaries b. working hard to provide for the family .¢. fulfilling the commitment in the marriage vow d. other (specify) 6, When my spouse gives a reason for coming home late : i LL | a. | will accept whatever reason he/she gives b. Iwill question hinvher further c. {will quarrel with him/her d. Weewill talk about it honestly 2. other (specify) Jealousy is a sign of: a. love b. mistrust ¢. . immaturity ‘insecurity e. others (specify) Il, MONEY EXPECTATIONS 1. 2. | ‘When we get married: a. we should not stop relying on our parents/relatives: b. we should work for independent living ¢. we will adjust to the circumstances. id. other (specify) On the salary, my husband should: a. keepa "secret account" b. keep a separate account G. tum over everything to his wife d. turn over an amount enough to cover household expenses e. other (specify)3. The wife should work: ifthe husband's pay is not enough for her personal growth and achievement while there are no children yet upon mutual agreement other (specify) 4, Ifthe wifé has a higher income, the husband should: a, be humble enough to acceptit be ashamed of himself ‘c. rely onthe wife and take life easy d._ work Harder and strive to get a higher pay other (specify) 5,» The bank account of the husband and wife should be: a. joint separate other (specify) 6. Major financial decisions should be the responsibility of: a. husband wife . both Il, IN-LAW EXPECTATIONS 4. don't mind living with my in-laws. a. O.K. lang b. No, to avoid friction c. ifit cannot be helped d. other (specify) 2. « Its alright for our in-laws to live with us. a. agree b. disagree . slong as they don't meddle d. fit cannot be helped3. I would allow our parents to interfere or meddle with our affairs: ——2. agree disagree in certain situations 4, Texpect my spouse to defend me or take sides with me in front of my in-laws, a. atall times only when | am right . it does not matter whose side he/she takes other (specify) 5. _lexpect my spouse to be agreeable with my family, or atleast to be able to get along with them. a. agree b. disagree ¢. itis upto him/her 6. I will not object to giving financial support to our in- laws a. regularly b. occasionally ©. other (specify) 7. _ expect my wife to be of service to my parents/relatives. a. agree b. disagree &. if she likes d. in certain situations IV. CHILDREN EXPECTATIONS. 1. We should not have children for at least one year. a. agree b. disagree c. itdoes not matter d. other (specify)Ifwe have problems in having children, | expect my husband/wife to seek. medical help: a. agree disagree iffhe/she likes | believe in adoption. a. agree b. disagree : c. it must be talked over very carefully If we agree on adoption, | expect to adopt from: a. relatives . friends c. adoption center d._ itdoes not matter from whom Discipline of the children is the responsibility of: ___a. the father b the mother ____-¢. both parents { believe in physical punishment in disciplining children. a. agree b. disagree c. itdepends Itis the wife's responsibility to get up at night and attend to the baby’s needs. agree they should take turns they should both get up other (specify)8. We should limit the number of children a. yes no : it doesn't matter 9. "When our children grow up to be adults: a. they should take care of us b. they can extend help to us, if possible . they should be independent V. RELIGIOUS EXPECTATIONS 1. . Inour marriage, religious belief and practice is: a. very important b. important ©. oflittie importance d. ofnoimportance e. I don't know 2. Iwould like to my husband/wife and children to practice the following: a. attending Mass regularly with me b. going to confession receiving communion praying before and after meals praying the rosary praying novenas 9. considering God and religion in making major decisions h i the whole family should be together in one place when they attenda religious service others(specify)itis important that we share our: time, talent and treasure with others in the parish/community. ——a. yes b. no ." Should be agreéd upon The eee education of the children will be the responsibility of: the mother the father . both parents d. church fe. the schoo! f. others - g. itis not important h. I don't know whose Tesponsibility EXPECTATIONS RELATED TO COMMUNICATIONS nour mariage, communication and understanding is: a. very important b. Important C. oflittle importance 4. of no importance e. I don't know List down sources of Conflicts/misunderstandings: (Minor to major) Incase, of misunderstanding between the husband and wife, they should: let it pass —_b. drink tolerate it d. give cold treatment out shout each other f. pray over it 9. listen and talk with each other h. consulta marriage counselor! priest i. goto relatives |. other (specify)Vil. EXPECTATIONS RELATED TO SEX For me, sex in marriage is: a. very important b. - important ©. _notimportant ___d. aduty e. aright f. anexpression oflove ___9._ other (specify) For me, sex in marriage is an important means of communicating: a. agree b. disagree c. Ido not know For me, sexual experience: . a. canbe enjoyed without love cannot be enjoyed without love b. (For men) During our sexual relations, | expect my wife to be: a. passive b. responsive ©, aggressive d. I don't know 8. other (specify) (For women) During our sexual relations, | expect my husband to: a. begentle b. take the inttiative c._ walt for my signal or cue d. others expect my future partner to teach me to do things which will satisfy me: a.. agree b. disagree itis normal for married couples to indulge in and experiment with different techniques. a. agree b. disagree10. 12. When I notice that my partner is not in the mood for sex, | will: a. - get angry b. goto sleep c. try to seduce him/her d. watch T.V. e. others (specify), What | fear most about the sex actis. For me, the sexual act: a. can be used to get back at the spouse b. should be done at all times c. should deepen the relationship d. others (specify) My feelings about family planning are, Decisions about family planning will be made taking into consideration: »