Section 3

Everyones family situation is different from each other. Some teens are closer to their

parents/guardian then others. It takes a lot of courage for the victims to tell any type of authority

about the abuse because they are afraid of losing their trust. Dating Abuse Statistics stated

that,only 33 percent of teens who were in a violent relationship ever told anyone about the

abuse(Duncan). This makes it important for authority to be understanding of the situation the

victim is in and guide them to safety plan and make them feel accepted. No matter what

relationship authorities have with the victim they are not to be judgmental and never to blame

one for the abuse as it is not his/her fault(Love does not hurt)

Due to teens fear of losing trust from their parents they have the likelihood to confide in

their peers for guidance about their abusive relationship. Due to teens lack of access to wisdom,

life experience or resources(Love does not hurt) it is hazardous for a victim to get help from

their peers. Most teens are not knowledgeable about the danger of an abusive relationship or

who to tell. Therefore it is important for teens to be informed about abusive relationships but

also know how to guide peers to a supportive adult. Peers should also learn to be understanding

and not judgemental.

Schools also need to take steps to address the problem of abusive relationships, so teens

feel safe and focus on their education. But Arne Duncan U.S. Secretary of Education has said

that nearly half of students who experience dating violence say some of the abuse took place on

school grounds(Duncan). Schools should have rules in place to address dating violence and
making it safe for all students. Also it should be made sure that when victims speak to their

teachers or an authority they should feel safe and accepted. Therefore schools should have

education programs implemented not just for students,but for the entire school community

teachers, staff,and parents all of whom play essential roles in promoting the health and

wellbeing of young people.(powers and herman). In this programs schools can discuss what a

healthy and unhealthy relationship is, warning signs, and resources.

As a community we should care about each other especially the youth who are the future.

Obama gave a proclamation stating that the cycle of violence can begin with anyone at anytime

and as a society, we must acknowledge that we each have a role to play in teaching children

about healthy relationships(The President of the United States of America). We as a society

should bring knowledge and awareness to our community so no adolescent has to feel the

suffering dating violence causes. The community should also have resources like a shelter,

support groups, or counselors that empower victims to get out of an abusive relationship.

When programs are bringing awareness to the community and schools they should be

open with no judgment. When bringing awareness these programs should try to change

attitudes about violence and gender stereotyping, teach conflict management or problem solving

skills, and frequently include activities that increase awareness and dispel myths about

relationship violence(Kerman). It is important for young people and their parents to identify

unhealthy relationships, warning signs, and how to get help so we can lessen dating violence.