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Fear of Intimacy
This construct is positively related to loneliness and negatively related to self-disclosure
and social intimacy (Descutner & Thelen, 1991). Fear of intimacy can also be viewed as a form
of emotional conflict, to the extent that close relationships provide the context for emotional
expression (Berscheid, 2007). An individual high in fear of intimacy is likely to experience
conflict over disclosing emotionally charged personal information to a close other, which is
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Repressive Defensiveness
This results in a motivated failure to recognize, process, and express negative emotions.
Paradoxically, these individuals express little psychological distress, wishing instead to maintain
and present an image of the self as rational, well-adjusted, and unemotional. Repressive
defensiveness differs from ambivalence in that ambivalent individuals are open to the experience
of negative emotions (as well as positive) yet are conflicted over what to do with these feelings.
Repressive defensiveness can also be viewed as a form of emotional conflict, but one that is
unconscious and is evident in the discrepancy or dissociation between verbal and physiological
systems of emotion.
pathogenic outcomes. Ambivalence over expressing emotion, repressive defensiveness, and fear
of intimacy all exemplify problems in emotional communication. This breakdown of
communication is likely to reduce the appropriateness of the helping effort of the conflicted
individual's social network. Thus, similar to the emotional intelligence framework,
developmental–interactionist theory also predicts that individual differences that result in
inappropriate emotional expressions influence an individual's social network.
This consensus is derived from convergence in empirical work pointing toward a five-
factor model. There is still some debate about the proper construct labels for the five dimensions;
here we call them Extraversion, Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Neuroticism, and Openness
to Experience, respectively.
Among these five dimensions, Agreeableness deserves special attention. First, an
Agreeableness-like dimension seems to be pervasive in social perception and cognition, probably
because it is linked to social evaluation. Some theorists have suggested that the label
Agreeableness is too anemic a term for such a large, ubiquitous factor. Digman (2005) suggested
friendly compliance versus hostile non-compliance or friendly versus hostile as more accurate
factor labels. In an effort to avoid social evaluation terms in personality description, previous
research has been biased against the “discovery” of an Agreeableness dimension, and the
dimension still emerges. When Digman and Takemoto-Chock (1981) reanalyzed data from six
major, large-scale studies, however, the first factor to emerge was Agreeableness. Second, an
Agreeableness-like dimension has special theoretical status in many different accounts of social
behavior and personality structure. Compared with the other four dimensions, the Agreeableness
dimension is probably the most concerned with interpersonal relationships. Digman and
Takemoto-Chock (1981) explicitly linked this dimension to theorizing about the tensions
between individual motives of selfishness and a societal concern for altruism. Ahadi and
Rothbart (2004) suggested that Agreeableness may emerge developmentally from processes
associated with “effortful control.” Presumably, agreeable people are better able to control anger
and negative affect in situations involving frustration. Whatever temperaments and
developmental processes are involved in emotional self-regulation, their influence on adult
individual differences almost certainly occurs through interaction with the care giving and peer
social environments (Calkins, 2004, pp. 62–70).
Agreeableness may allow individuals (and groups) to overcome the inevitable frustrations
associated with communal living. Going one step further, Wiggins (1991) suggested that two
major (and apparently orthogonal) motivational systems, agency and communion, underlie
interpersonal behavior. Communion —the striving for intimacy, union, and solidarity with others
—can be mapped onto the Big Five dimension of Agreeableness. If we add theorizing about the
dispositional origins of altruism then an Agreeableness-related dimension occupies an important
theoretical niche in the analysis of interpersonal behavior and personality.
Excepting extensive work on Extraversion and Neuroticism, empirical work on the five-
factor model by personality psychologists has focused horizontally on structure that links all five
factors, not vertically on processes underlying behavioral differences within individual
dimensions (cf. Goldberg's [2009] related distinction between horizontal vs. vertical comparisons
in personality). If individual differences within a specific dimension could be linked to cognitive
or interpersonal processes, then this information would enhance the nomological network
surrounding the structural model in general. In particular, if individual differences in
Agreeableness could be related to important social processes such as the perception and
resolution of interpersonal conflict, then this would suggest that self-reported Agreeableness
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differences are something more than an artifact of biased social cognition or social desirability
responding. If Agreeableness could be related to theoretically meaningful social processes, then
we could have a better chance of identifying mechanisms that link structure to process within the
five-factor model. In the case of Agreeableness, we may be able to uncover links between a
general structural representation in personality and a set of cognitive or behavioral adaptations to
the social environment.
One problem in the current research literature on Agreeableness is its focus on individual
behavior, rather than on the Person × Interpersonal Context interactions within which agreeable
behavior emerges. An interpersonal context well suited to the analysis of individual differences
in Agreeableness is interpersonal conflict. First, if the developmental theorizing about the origins
of individual differences in Agreeableness is correct (Ahadi & Rothbart, 2004), then
Agreeableness differences should be especially conspicuous in conflict situations, which elicit
anger and frustration in many people. Second, interpersonal conflict is an aspect of everyday life
in all cultures. By sheer frequency and consequence alone, interpersonal conflict is a topic
worthy of extensive Personality × Interpersonal Context research.
Third, attempts to identify major individual-difference moderators of conflict processes
have not been especially successful. The problem is not that empirical research cannot detect
individual differences in conflict behaviors; the problem is more a matter of identifying the
construct underlying the individual differences. If the developmental theorizing is valid, then
Agreeableness may be one construct underlying individual differences in processes of
interpersonal conflict.
Given how little is known about the Agreeableness construct, it is difficult to offer a
definitive model of its operation during interpersonal conflict. For Lewin (1935, 1948), the
proximal cause of social behavior was in the phenomenology of the perceiver, who actively
constructed a psychological environment under the influence of salient goals and motives.
Concretely, agreeable people may be more highly motivated to maintain positive relations with
other people, and this motive system may induce agreeable persons to generate positive
perceptions and attributions to otherwise-provocative behavior. These attributions may induce
the agreeable person to respond to the conflict with less negative affect, to select more
constructive conflict tactics, and to generate a more constructive pattern of oppositions during
conflict than would a low-agreeable person. It is probable that individual differences in
Agreeableness reflect underlying differences not only in social perception but also in affect and
social learning experiences.
Consequently, conflict outcomes may be influenced by Agreeableness through routes that
bypass social perception, or at least easily accessible social perception.
Agreeableness is one of the least explored or conceptually developed factors among the
components in the five-factor model of personality. Agreeableness is probably the largest factor
in the model. When Digman and Takemoto-Chock (1981) reanalyzed data from six major, large-
scale studies, the first factor to emerge was Agreeableness. Furthermore, the dimension is related
to important aspects of social relations. Compared with the other four dimensions, the
Agreeableness dimension is probably the most concerned with interpersonal relationships. In the
present research, we built on theory by Ahadi and Rothbart (2004), who suggested that
Agreeableness may emerge developmentally from processes associated with “effortful control.”
That is, adult differences in Agreeableness may reflect internalized tendencies in the regulation
of anger and frustration. Presumably, agreeable people are better able to control anger and
negative affect in situations involving frustration. We focused on interpersonal conflict as an
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interpersonal context for our analysis because Agreeableness differences should be especially
conspicuous in conflict situations, which elicit anger and frustration in many people. For Lewin
(1935), the proximal cause of social behavior was in the phenomenology of the perceiver, who
actively constructed a psychological environment under the influence of salient goals and
motives. In this framework, the motive systems associated with Agreeableness may predispose
the individual to perceive persons in the social environment in ways consistent with the salient
motives. Agreeable people may be more highly motivated to maintain positive relations with
other people, and this motive system may induce agreeable persons to generate positive
perceptions and attributions to otherwise-provocative behavior. The attributions may then induce
the agreeable person to respond to the conflict with less negative affect, to select more
constructive conflict tactics, and to generate a more constructive pattern of oppositions during
conflict than would a low-agreeable person.
The central hypothesis was that individual differences in Agreeableness were
systematically related to patterns of conflict and conflict resolution, both in perception and overt
behavior, within relationships. In Study 1 we explored the link between Agreeableness and
evaluation of interpersonal conflict tactics. Individual differences in intelligence seemed an
implausible candidate.
Our data suggest that Agreeableness may be the construct underlying cross-relationship
consistency in the evaluation of power assertion conflict tactics. Low-agreeable participants
differ from high-agreeable participants, however, in that they evaluate power assertion tactics as
more effective. These data suggest that differences between high- and low-agreeable persons
may be more pronounced in the evaluation of destructive tactics.
This program of research focused on Agreeableness as a dimension of personality. An
Agreeableness-like dimension is pervasive in social cognition and is part of the dispositional
explanation for interpersonal relations. It is probable that the pervasiveness of Agreeableness is
due to its connection to social evaluation. It might be argued that the dimension is a professional
embarrassment, reflecting our inability to separate “real” personality characteristics from
prescientific social evaluation. It might also be argued that Agreeableness differences are the
result of social desirability biases, in persons responding to self-report inventories, to persons
who rate others, or to both. The available empirical literature on Agreeableness does not allow us
to rule out this line of reasoning. Even if this social-artifact explanation were true, however, we
would still need to understand why virtually every major account of social cognition, person
perception, or social relationships includes a valuative dimension. It would be difficult to
imagine how we could explain other people or complex social behavior without social evaluation
language. More systematic theorizing is needed to explain the origins and correlates of individual
differences in Agreeableness, as well as its link to socially important processes such as
interpersonal conflict and interpersonal attraction.
The differing effects of perceived and received social support on health are still under
investigation. Of all the social support indexes sampled in this study, perceived support was the
most important contributor to self-reported subjective well-being. The results of this study
provide another illustration of the differing effects of support perceived and support available on
well-being. Moreover, they exemplify the need to assess social support with a multitude of
methods to completely capture the complexity of this construct.
The experience of conflict has biological, psychological, and interpersonal consequences
that are linked to each other in complex and multifaceted ways. Buck (1989) presented a social–
developmental perspective that offers a comprehensive theoretical explanation for linking the
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