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Notes by the Author............................................................................................................................................................ 4
reprogram your mind......................................................................................................................................................... 5
Technological Disruption.....................................................................................................................................................................................6
Tinders Perception: The Sex App..........................................................................................................................................................................7
Your Online Persona: The Sweetheart Principle.....................................................................................................................................8
Two Core Challenges: Risk Premium & Your Perceived Value..................................................................................................... 11
create the irresistible profile....................................................................................................................................... 13
Who Should You Be?................................................................................................................................................................................................ 14
The Profile Picture.................................................................................................................................................................................................... 18
Your Secondary Pictures..................................................................................................................................................................................... 21
Coming Up With A Description........................................................................................................................................................................... 25
Use Instagram To Achieve Even More Value............................................................................................................................................. 28
swiping strategies............................................................................................................................................................. 30
Setting a Range............................................................................................................................................................................................................ 31
Swiping Technique..................................................................................................................................................................................................... 32
When to Swipe - Herding your Matches...................................................................................................................................................... 35
Not Getting Enough Matches?......................................................................................................................................................................... 37
the art of chatting............................................................................................................................................................ 38
When to Engage.......................................................................................................................................................................................................... 39
Conversational Value How Cool Are You?.......................................................................................................................................... 41
Temperature Theory Is She Into You?........................................................................................................................................................ 44
STEP 1: Opening Get Her Chatty!.................................................................................................................................................................... 49
STEP 2: The Fillers Have A Fun Conversation........................................................................................................................................ 56
STEP 3: The Facebook Close................................................................................................................................................................................... 61
Facebook: the best background check........................................................................................................................ 64
Common Traps: Who Is She Really?................................................................................................................................................................. 65
Optimize Your Image................................................................................................................................................................................................. 67
Reinitiate And Build Rapport Over Facebook.......................................................................................................................................... 68
Sexual Escalation Techniques......................................................................................................................................................................... 72
Closing Conversations And Keeping It Hot.............................................................................................................................................. 76
setting up a great date..................................................................................................................................................... 77
Types Of Girls You Will Meet On Tinder....................................................................................................................................................... 78
Converting Warm Leads........................................................................................................................................................................................ 80
Anti-Flake Protection............................................................................................................................................................................................. 82
Dealing With Flakes.................................................................................................................................................................................................. 83
Techniques For Stubborn Medium And Cold Leads............................................................................................................................ 84
tactics for in-person tinder dates .............................................................................................................................. 85
Date Ideas And Framing......................................................................................................................................................................................... 86
Logistics: The Key To Success.............................................................................................................................................................................. 90
Stimulating Topics And Lines To Use On Tinder Dates....................................................................................................................... 93
coup de grace: the finish................................................................................................................................................. 96
Setting the right objectives............................................................................................................................................................................... 98
Pushing The Sexual Tension Into Overdrive............................................................................................................................................ 98
Overcoming All Potential Objections......................................................................................................................................................102
What Comes After Scoring................................................................................................................................................................................104

Notes by the Author
Thank you for purchasing Tinder for Experts and setting out to discover the immense potential of modern dating
innovations. This book is targeted towards men who strive to become experts in all activities they deem worthy
of their time. The advice will save you countless hours of trial and error, heaps of money from unsuccessful dates
and the frustration that comes along the learning curve. This is the instruction manual to quickly join the top 1%
of Tinder users and take full advantage of this amazing new way to meet women.
Personal Account
Even before the emergence of Tinder, I was successful with women for the better part of a decade. It all started at
a young age, when I decided to read about seduction psychology and finally began to understand what women
truly look for in a man. I cannot call myself a Pick-up Artist since I have never practiced seduction professionally,
but I have read dozen of books from the masters in the field. I credit them for most of the talent I have developed
and for the many adventures I have enjoyed with beautiful intelligent women.
For a living, I am a serial entrepreneur working alternatingly between Europe and Canada. After selling my last
venture, I embarked on a world tour that lasted a full year. At the same time, I separated from my girlfriend and
proceeded to polishing my seduction skills and getting back into meeting women. A new app called Tinder was
quickly recommended to me.
Astonishingly, I had a lot of trouble meeting the women I wanted on Tinder. My approach was simply not adapted
for this form of interaction. I grew determined to upgrade my seductive skills and convince my ideal matches to
go on a date with me. By the end of my travel year, I finally had it down to a science. In fact, I was meeting more
quality women than at any other point in my life.
My success with the app amazed my friends and they began to ask me for lines and advice. This made me see first
hand how small changes could dramatically improve their experience on Tinder, no matter how good looking or
charming they happen to be. These friends slowly convinced me that there was real value in laying out my entire
process in writing.
I see Tinder - and dating in general - as a sales process. Most guys fail to get the women they deserve because they
do not know how to convey the best of themselves. This book will make you an expert in self-promotion. Your
challenge will then be to live up to the expectations of all the new women eager to meet you!
Acknowledgements
Perfecting techniques for Tinder was a long and arduous procedure, but it was greatly enhanced by the
contributions of two close friends: Dr. Stinson and The Marv. The three of us shared a rare advantage: we had
an entire year filled with the free time to test Tinder in many different countries. This enabled us to develop
innovative techniques and become experts in our own right.
Their ideas helped bridge the gaps in my understanding and were crucial in motivating me to write a complete
comprehensive method. Tinder has enabled us to live unforgettable experiences, and now we believe it is your
turn!

reprogram your mind

Technological Disruption
Welcome to the age of Apps! Seemingly every aspect of life is being made easier by the smart device in your
pocket. You now have the power to be connected to absolutely anyone at any time. The implications of this
second Internet revolution are far reaching.
The traditional options to lifes everyday problems used to be confined in space and limited by the scarcity of
information. You need a gas station, ask around for the nearest one. Fast-forward to today and you can find the
one that minimizes the detour and grants you the appropriate reward program.
For those of you who have spotted where I am getting at, congrats! I am addressing the Tinder skeptics. Next time
you are hoping to get lucky at a bar with only 10 or even 50 decent girls (some of which might not even be single),
stop to realize that Tinder connects you to hundreds if not thousands of girls nearby!
Tinder has arguably brought online-dating to the masses. Girls who would never dare to advertise themselves
on match.com find far less social stigma in uploading a few Facebook pictures and swiping through the endless
ocean of contenders. This breakthrough brings unique implications for men and women respectively.
The female behavior on Tinder varies greatly from traditional online dating. This being said, the online-daters
will sometimes try their luck on Tinder. These women will be among the easiest to meet and sleep with. They are
comfortable going on dates with men they have never previously seen in person and they will display the common
eagerness (sometimes desperation) that characterizes this bold segment. Yet some online-daters will balk at
Tinders superficiality and its lack of profile customization. In summary, if you enjoy Tinder, I highly recommend
you give traditional online sites a try: you will have more sex, but the normal girl is harder to come by.
This brings me to the majority of girls on Tinder: the normal girls. These will download the app for fun, personal
gratification and because it has become an extremely popular pastime. These girls are single and you can sleep
with them, but there exist some very palpable challenges to this entirely new sphere of dating. This book will
break down these obstacles and give you a broad set of tools to overcome them.
And finally, what does this technological revolution mean for us, the single men? The Economist cited Tinder as
the modern-day cure for desperation; turning men away from prostitution and other such sins. So let us take a
look at Supply and Demand. Supply has suddenly surged thanks to Tinder implying less effort (ie. price of pursuit)
for more of the women you would usually get. Odds are that this abundance will be more than you can handle
and you will up your price (standards), ending up with hotter women and, yes, fewer prostitutes.
So no matter your seductive skill level and no matter how handsome you are: you are missing out on a huge
amount of potential if you do not get comfortable using Tinder. The following chapters will show you how to save
time along the learning curve and avoid feeling creepy when interacting with new women.

Tinders Perception: The Sex App
Many describe Tinder as an app serving strictly to have a one-night stand or to find a partner for a casual no-
strings-attached relationship. This reputation is mostly unfounded and overall misleading, here is why.
Im sorry to say, but the girls on Tinder are no hornier than the girls at the bar. Depending, which bar you go to, the
converse may be true. However, you have a higher chance of getting laid because you have a far greater selection,
this is the law of large numbers. The more you try, the higher the probability that you will get what you expect.
So a lot of guys are already getting laid more thanks to Tinder, does that mean the girls are easier? Initially, the girls
who you finally convince to meet you will have a stronger adventurous side than the average (see Rick Premium
later in this section). So yes, you will find easy ones, but they are the outliers and you would still have had an easier
time seducing them in the bar. Often, they fall below your standards, but hey, you charmed her from the comfort
of your couch. Hopefully, no one will see you two together!
Understand that sleeping with the normal girls - the ones you truly want - is going to be harder than if youd had
the luck of running into her alone at the bar. Think about it, you need to convince a girl who has never seen you
that she needs to spend some time with you, preferably one-on-one, as opposed to go on with life as usual or meet
one of the other million guys on the app. The good news is that the law of large numbers ensures that you will
succeed far more than at the bar, and there are techniques to multiply your odds.
Once you succeed in meeting a girl from Tinder, casual sex is actually more likely than regular dates. This is because
the girl is usually well removed from your social circle and will not have to answer for the crazy things she decides
to do with you. Also, since this is the first time you meet, she is not expecting anything, leaving room for the magic
of spontaneity that is so crucial in guaranteeing sex on the first night. (see Coup de Grace Chapter)

Your Online Persona: The Sweetheart Principle
Now that we understand the playing field, let us get into the specifics of the tactics involved. The Sweetheart
Principle is the approach that will maximize your chances with the largest number of girls. It underlies most
recommendations in this book and actually goes against many principles put forth in traditional pickup literature.
Traditional Attraction Phase
Let us look at a traditional pickup in a bar. If you have read books like The Game or Mystery Method, you already
understand the underlying dynamics. If you are a natural or utterly clueless, the scenario I am about to describe
should still make sense and will later serve to contrast what goes on in the Tindersphere. Here is the scene:
I am standing at the bar with a friend; we are talking about something extremely interesting. Suddenly, his
head motion serves to tell me that a very attractive girl has arrived to order. I turn my upper body to address
the girl and her friend Excuse me girls, just quickly, can you help my friend and I settle a debate... who lies
more, girls or guys?
The hot girl gives me a blank look; she has clearly been hit on dozens of times that night. Yet her friend
chimes in with an answer. I retort: Interesting you would say that! You must be the clever one! Turn to the
hot one. And you must be the one with attitude and then give her a cheeky smile.
She proceeds to say that men lie more. Since she gives me nothing more to go on, I begin to banter with her
friend about how the hot girl must have had a traumatic experience with a Frenchman who offered to take
her to live in Paris, but then turned out to be Swiss and own a farm instead.
When the hot girl says half laughing that this is not true, I turn to her and give her a hug and utter: Sure it
isnt, but dont worry, not all men are Swiss. What has happened here?

Game connoisseurs will spot this as the attraction phase of a pickup. I created attraction by taking the hot girl off
her high horse. For the rest of the night, I would differentiate myself from the other needy men by staying slightly
cocky, thereby keeping her on her toes and demonstrating that I am also a prize to be won. I would also radiate
confidence so that the womans subconscious can begin to picture me as being good in bed.
Tinder is Not Yet Real Life
This dynamic on Tinder is completely different. To begin with, successful implementation of the above example
comes down more to the body language and tone of delivery than the actual words. On Tinder, you are stuck
using messages with a girl that has absolutely minimal insight into your character.
Next, you are not competing with needy guys buying drinks or repeatedly trying to approach her. You are
competing with apparent douchebags, creeps and the sexually depraved. Furthermore, guys who are generally
shy around women grant themselves every right to exude confidence over Tinder, thus quickly falling into one of
the aforementioned categories. The messages I have read on girls phones are simply unbelievable and prove that
the overwhelming number of male matches clearly have no shame!
The danger with conventional gaming tactics is that during the initial stages, you risk being grouped with the
other weirdoes if you try to be cocky or confident. Besides, a girl with so many options at the swipe of a finger will
not give you the benefit of the doubt and youll be left wondering why she suddenly went cold.
Differentiate Yourself By being The Absolute Biggest Sweetheart
I am talking about Ryan Gosling in The Notebook. The guy who can do no wrong and was brought up to do
anything for a woman. Someone who respects them so much that he is shy by nature and would never dare to
approach a girl in a bar or do anything player-like for that matter. This is the guy that all women dream about, but
would never actually be attracted to in reality.
The Sweetheart Principle will enable you to pleasantly surprise a woman. Thanks to Tinder, she has found the
perfect sweetheart that she otherwise would never have noticed! Also, this guy is so non-threatening that she
could picture herself being completely comfortable meeting up with him, even after telling herself she was only
using Tinder for fun and not to actually go on dates. When she does meet you, she will not worry about you
expecting only sex, since you have shown interest in other aspect of her life.
This is a powerful narrative. Although not the only one, the Sweetheart approach will yield the highest success
because it appeals to a broad base of normal girls. In the later chapter, you will see many examples of how to put
this frame into practice at every step until the meet-up. Dont forget, once you finally do meet her, Ryan Gosling
needs to turn into James Bond if you want to avoid a wedding and, instead, guide her seamlessly into your bed.
(See chapter on Tactics for in-person Tinder dates)
Remember: There is no foolproof formula to bed any girl on Tinder. There is only an attitude and some applied
principles that will maximize the output for the time you invest. Focus on adapting your mentality and you will
see drastic improvements.

Other Narratives:
When you care about maximizing your chances of success, revert to the Sweetheart Principle. If applied correctly,
it will never turn a girl off. However, if you wish to save time or target specific outliers, you can apply a different
frame.
Here are some examples of frame variations:
The Sexual Escalator: You have matched with a girl that is not worth much investment or you have a very limited
time horizon in this specific city you want to cut straight to the chase. Although Sexual Escalation will alienate
the majority, you can end up filtering down to the ones you are looking for. There are ways to quickly identify which
girls are open to cater to your immediate needs and to get them to agree enthusiastically to a one-night-stand.
My good friend Dr. Stinson is truly a pioneer in this field.
(read about Sexual Escalation Techniques in the Facebook chapter)
The Social Facilitator: Here you play the cool guy that enjoys bringing people together and is not necessarily
looking for a date. You should absolutely implement this frame if one of these three points applies:
1. You have close friends in common with the girl
2. She is part of a community that you have strong ties with (Jewish, Hispanic, Fashion, Charity...)
3. She is visiting your city and does not know anyone (except perhaps the friends she is travelling with)
Begin by pointing out that, through you, she can meet interesting people and have a great time. This is a sure shot
way to build comfort. If she is showing a specific interest in you, gradually push for a one-on-one meet-up (see
Temperature Theory in The Art of Chatting). You can always fall back on social group invitation if she does not
want to meet alone.
The Social Facilitator is also a last resort for other girls that have gone cold. If the date looks almost impossible,
invite them to cool events - the law of large numbers will insure that some will end up meeting you after all.
The Tourist: This frame can be used in conjunction with the Sweetheart Principle. For various reasons, local girls
will go out of their way to meet you if you are a tourist, especially if you come from a place that they could picture
themselves visiting someday. If you act sweet and non-threatening, the girls will be happy to show you parts of
town that regular tourists would never see.
I have travelled much of the world using Tinder profusely, and this has led to some absolutely unforgettable
experiences!
Keep in mind that sex will be more difficult since the girl will set up the date and your logistics may not be optimized
in a foreign land.
(see chapter on Setting up a great date)

Two Core Challenges: Risk Premium & Your Perceived Value
If you are a seasoned Tinder user, you might be beginning to wonder why the average quality of women you get
is below your expectations. The hottest girls in your rsum were probably met through friends, in the workplace,
or in another form of community. So why are Tinder girls not measuring up to this level of quality?
At work, a woman faces very little risk interacting with you because you carry Social Proof, a common context
that proves that you are not dangerous in any way. Furthermore, if you are successful in this context, you will easily
be able to spark attraction.
On Tinder, You Carry A Risk Premium
Women will subconsciously discount your value because meeting a stranger requires an extra effort to overcome
discomfort and a risk of disaster (a date going terribly tends to happen more often than not - guys just dont know
what they are doing). These two variables make up your Risk Premium and the higher it is, the more difficult it will
be to meet the girls you want.
The starting Risk Premium is beyond your control: some girls are simply more trusting or more adventurous than
others. Some are also busier or less keen to improve their love lives. The girls with innately higher risk premiums
will require more work to bring the discount down to a point where they are ready to meet. Temperature Theory,
explained later, will help you gage how much more work you need to put in.
Optimize Your Perceived Value

On Tinder, men have a lot of difficulty displaying how great they really are. As a result, they see themselves as
being far better than their profiles allow women to understand. Naturally, they can never score with women they
deem worthy.
Your Perceived Value is a continuous project and is the ultimate deciding factor for the quality of women you will
meet. It will vary from one to the other; for instance, some women admire travel and some do not. Yet there are
ways to make your average Perceived Value go up to levels that would even exceed your own expectations. This
is the foundation for all the of the subsequent seduction techniques implemented on Tinder. The higher it is, the
easier everything will follow.
Theory In Practice
You are an amazing guy and you give yourself an arbitrary value of 300. You deserve a girl with a combined value
of 300 as well, right?
Well, lets say that your Perceived Value is not optimized and your profile only shows greatness adding up to 250
points (the ratio of 5/6 is actually much better than most men pull off).
You are talking to normal girls and you are having trouble making them feel completely comfortable meeting a
stranger. They give you an average Risk Premium discount of 20%.

Therefore, on average you will be meeting women with a value of 200, thus only two thirds of the 300 you think
you are worth!
So is Tinder doomed to give you only shallow fun with low quality women? Not necessarily. You need to focus on
the two challenges described above: The Risk Premium and your Perceived Value.
Techniques in this book will focus on precisely that. You can create a profile that will make you look even better
than you see yourself, thereby giving you a value of say: 350. Proper conversational skills, social validation and
Sweetheart Principle can help you drastically reduce the Risk Premium women feel. If you can bring it down to
suppose 10%, then you are scoring women worth 315 and punching above your weight!
Now that you understand the broad strokes that need to be improved, let us look at how to build an amazing
profile and send your Perceived Value through the roof!

create the irresistible profile

Who Should You Be?
You should aim to be the most interesting man in the world. Even more interesting than the Dos Equis guy! Think
about how a magazine would frame you if it were doing a special report on how great you are. Done properly,
your profile can spectacularly inflate your Perceived Value and overcome the Risk Premium of girls you used to
consider out of your league. It will take a while to get the right photos, but we will see the absolute dos and donts
to set you on the right track!
Personal Coaching
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Do You Need To Be Handsome?
Tinder is as superficial as it gets. Looks matter tremendously, but hold on, this does not mean you need to be
handsome to harvest a ton of matches. It just means that you need to learn how to sell yourself properly.
In this respect, women are light-years ahead of men. I have lost count of the number of times my jaw dropped
when I discovered what a woman actually looked like versus her Tinder profile (make sure to check her Facebook
to avoid awkward meet-ups, this is explained later). Although I dont advocate hiding any flaws, as women often
do, you must learn how to cast them in the best possible light!
Methods For Dealing With Specific Flaws
You are out of shape: Do not post a photo of you shirtless lying on a couch surrounded by skinny people. This will
amplify the attribute and raise more objections than necessary. Also, do not hide this by only posting face shots!
This will eventually make the woman feel tricked once she gets a proper look at you.
Instead, post photos of you, on your own, rocking some well-adjusted clothes doing something sporty or stylish.
This way, the flaw is immediately outweighed by other qualities in the same photo. Also, if you are alone, you are
not contrasted to people in better shape. Do not post a photo of you with friends in even worse shape. This will
sink your social value.
You are short: The girl will have no way of holding this against you so long as you do not post photos with much
taller people. The worse would be to post a photo of you with a taller girl - this will immediately trigger a left swipe.
I have a couple of very short friends, including Dr. Stinson, and this has not hindered their incredible success on
Tinder. Occasionally, you will meet a taller girl, but this can be dealt with reasonably well in person.
You are bald: If you are seriously balding, shave your head and rock that style. If you are starting to bald and it is
noticeable, do not hide it by wearing a hat in every photo! Angle the photos so that it is not too noticeable. Also,
post a few that date back to a time when you sported a full set of hair. At 35 years old, my good friend The Marv
is an expert in this art.
You have bad skin: This is very easy to smooth over using modern photo optimizing tools like Instagram (more
on this to follow). Again, the trick to avoid a betrayal reaction from the woman is not to hide your flaw, but to
minimize it and cast it in the best light. Sporting a nice tan in your photos can make you look a full point more
appealing.
You have below average looks: Use Instagram to take cool photos. Show that you have a really interesting life
and access to luxury. Do not show photos with handsomer guy friends. However, photos with attractive female
friends (showing interest in you) are proven to make you look 1 to 2 points more attractive (more on this in the
Secondary Pictures section).
Remember: Optimize your flaws. Do not hide them completely. Imagine you decide to meet a girl you perceived
as curvy. In reality, she turns out to be curvier than you thought. You will be slightly disappointed, but odds are
that you will still enjoy yourself. This is even truer for women because they are not as superficial as men. Once they
know you, they will even learn to like you for your flaws.
However, imagine you thought a girl was in good shape and she turns out to be that same very curvy girl. You will
feel completely fooled and you will never forgive her for it.

Broaden Your Appeal
Another important concept to keep in mind is aiming for a broad appeal. This means avoiding showing or saying
anything particularly polarizing. For instance, if you are a smoker, do NOT post a photo of you smoking. This will
turn off a large number of women who later could have tolerated the habit.
In essence, to maximize your matches, stay away from factors that give women the slightest reason to say no or
to categorize you as a type. Not a single woman will have a problem with a photo of you travelling to remote
places, or doing a particular sport. However, many will categorize you if you reveal a photo of you in a mosh
pit with KISS makeup all over your body. The Rocker Type simply does not appeal to a broad base. Similarly,
avoid photos of you at the church or the synagogue unless you want to alienate almost every atheist girl. Having
passions and strong community affiliations will be a source of attraction when you finally do meet the girl, but on
Tinder, they will make her judge you all too quickly.
I strongly recommend leaving your career mysterious and open-ended. This is not LinkedIn - you are not here to
talk about work! Besides, a picture of you in your office - no matter how senior you look - will categorize you as
the corporate type and you will lose matches. In fact, all professions will categorize you: doctor type, manual
laborer, model/actor type... Even if you are proud of your profession, resist disclosing it too early because it
will limit your appeal. Instead, show the intriguing things it grants you access to, like private events, fancy trips,
meeting famous people... The girl will be curious and might even match you to find out what it is you actually do*.
Avoid The Douchebag Trap
Finally, you need to stay away from anything that could make you look like a douchebag! Almost every guy will
get this wrong and it will sink your perceived value. Let us look over some of the common mistakes:
NO SELFIES: There, I said it and Im going to say it again later on to make sure you remember. We all get turned
on when girls take selfies in their skimpy new dress, but this is not a two way street. Only the lower quality girls
will give you props for talking a shirtless selfie after the gym. The vast majority will see you for what you are: a
douchebag. Selfies at the beach, selfies at the ski resort, before a gala... no, no and no!
If you are a cool guy, you have friends who can take a nice photo for you. The only selfie that can be tolerated is
using a GoPro and an extendible arm because no real life photographer could hit some of those angles. Otherwise,
delete every selfie you ever took!
NO Cool Serious Face: Im sorry, but unless you are starring in a professional modeling shoot, you have no
reason to pretend to be serious. Even if you were caught at a serious moment, it has no place on your Tinder
profile. The Duck Face is especially painful. When someone is taking a photo of you, you smile, and it is as simple
as that.
NO posing with something you do not own: You see a sports car or a nice boat and you quickly go take
a photo with it. Congratulations, but you need to keep it for your own fantasizing. Dr. Stinson came up with a
clever twist to avoid douchebaggery: someone took a slick Instagram photo of him from the passenger seat of the
Porsche he was driving. You can only tell it is a Porsche because of the logo on the steering wheel. Girls love this
because he is not posing; he is simply having fun driving a Porsche! (Stinson does not own the car in question, but
no girl ever assumed he did, nevertheless he is associated with an item of luxury)

NO Showing-Off: Cool people do not need to show off, they simply radiate all the things that make them cool.
This difference may take some time to grasp. Let us assume you own the Porsche in the previous example. Driving
it is cool because you only see the steering wheel and the road ahead. Also, Stinson is not even looking at the
camera, implying that this is not a big deal. If the car was not moving and he was giving the thumbs up to the
photographer, girls will know for sure that he borrowed it from his friend.
So which one is cooler?
1. You smiling in a bathrobe with an amazing suite behind you.
2. You freaking out in front of a Hilton sign.

If you guessed 1, then you are on the right track. As mentioned earlier, girls like to see that you indulge in luxury,
but this must be shown in a subtle manner without looking like this is the first time youve ever splurged on a nice
room.
The same goes for your body. If you are in good shape do NOT have a photo of you flexing for the camera
(especially not a Selfie)! Instead, have a photo of you doing something that requires you to be shirtless like sailing
or catching a Frisbee at the beach and make sure that the angle gives you a great definition!
The same logic applies to style. Wear nice, well-fitted clothes. Do not wear a black t-shirt with a huge Armani
logo written on your chest. Are you starting to get it? If ever you are not sure whether or not you are committing
one of the cardinal sins mentioned above, ask a female friend with a good fashion sense to have a look at your
Tinder profile. Ask her if you look douchy in any picture and tell her to be brutally honest.

The Profile Picture
Your profile picture is the single most important element of your profile. Most women will only see this when
deciding which way to swipe. They will not read your status and not look at your other photos until they have
matched with you. Most will not even look at your age!
Formatting The Perfect Shot
So how do we get maximum impact for just one photo? Firstly, formatting is very important. Avoid posting a
photo with:
88 only your face

88 you standing somewhere in the distance
88 you turned away from the camera
88 you sporting the serious look
88 you posing with anyone else. People in the background can be ok.
88 blurry resolution. Women are very weary of this while swiping and you should be too.
88 parts of the photo hidden by darkness. Same principle as previous point. Avoid black and white photos.
88 you wearing sunglasses

Instead:
99 Have a photo of ONLY you, the sole focus of all attention.

99 We must be able to see your entire head, down to at least your chest*. Anything past the knees will be too
zoomed out.
99 Stare at the camera, or slightly away if you want to have the in action look.
99 Smile genuinely
99 Make sure it is a crisp shot, such that someone who saw the photo could later recognize you in person. This
being said, use apps like Instagram to optimize the lighting and smooth over your features. This needs to be
the absolute best version of you.
99 Display one or several of the following Value Indicators: taste for luxury, physical activity, artistic side, travel
experience or acute sense of style.
*Note: If you have a nice body, I do not recommend being shirtless on the profile picture. In most cultures, this
will come across as douchy. Also, many other guys will think that this is the way to go. Differentiate yourself by
having her discover your body on the later photos (more on this in the next section).

Integrate One Or Several Value Indicators
Taste for Luxury: Someone once told me: A well fitted suite does to a woman what lingerie does to a man. If
you have a designer suit or tuxedo that is either custom tailored or a perfect fit, then you would be wise to have a
woman see it. This has been my preferred approach for a while. If you combine it with a slick skinny tie then you
are also ticking the style indicators.
Other examples include:
99 being in a very nice restaurant with some wine or a fancy meal

99 being in a luxury hotel room or balcony
99 if you have a very nice apartment, you can pose for a picture there
99 a fun activity known to cost a lot, like flying in a helicopter
Physical Activity: Absolutely no photos at the gym. Although I fully advocate a good workout regimen, do not
make this the central premise of who you are. The woman will automatically disqualify you as someone with no
life. Instead, it needs to be something that looks fun like:
99 You at the top of a mountain in hiking clothes or light ski/snowboard gear

99 You in a marathon outfit near the finish line
99 You dancing in a cool venue
99 You on the field/court of your favorite sport holding the equipment
Artistic Side: Posing in front of a painting at the museum is simply not going to cut it. You need to display
something more profound. For example:
99 Hold a camera and be in front of a set or a breathtaking setting

99 Get featured on stage holding a microphone.
99 Hold artistic painting material, but NOT your actual painting. You dont want the girl to swipe left or right
depending on whether or not she likes your art. Let her be curious.
99 Take a dancing lesson, like salsa, and get someone to take a photo of you looking like a pro, even if it is just
your first time.
99 If you play an instrument, save it for the secondary picture or she might think this is a major part of your life,
as opposed to a hobby. See next section.
Travel Experience: I strongly believe that travel is the best investment of time and money to grow as a person. A
few trips to remote locations will make you so much more interesting to any woman. You will automatically have
higher value and you will have an easier time filling dates with interesting conversation. Even if you have only
travelled to the nearest national park, the picture will hold more value than somewhere local.

Capture yourself with something unique about the place you are visiting, be it a waterfall or the Eifel Tower. When
appearing in the photo, it is better if you do not look like a complete tourist. Backpacker gear will not impress as
much as some of the local fashion that you bought that day. Girls love seeing that you are versatile and that you
adapt to every new culture you encounter.
Acute Sense of Style: In your photos, you need to be wearing your most stylish clothes. Careful, being stylish does
not mean looking like you put two hours of work into your appearance. Being extremely casual is part of style as
long as the clothes look nice and are well adjusted to your body.
If you have a very strong personal style, be careful not to fall into a specific type like Goth, rocker, hipster, gangster
or overly preppy. This will trigger left swipes. If you see yourself as a trendsetter, you might want to tone it down
for Tinder, since not all girls will appreciate this.
If you feel you are lacking in the fashion area, buy mens lifestyle magazines like GQ. Also, visit the website of the
worlds fashion leaders like Armani, Hugo Boss, Dolce & Gabbana and Diesel to name a few. Analyze the colors and
looks that are defining this season. Then, I recommend going to a designer store and having the cute employee
help dress you properly. If you have stylish female friends, bring them along too.
Designer clothes will simply look better than regular clothes to the trained eye. Girls are much more perceptive of
these things than men, so dont think you can fool them. As mentioned earlier, stay away from large logos seen
on belt buckles or t-shirts, they will make you look douchy. The occasional medium range items from Zara or H&M
are all right, so long as they follow the styles set by the leading brands.
Private Photo Trick
If you would like to use a photo that you not wish to appear on your Facebook - for example, you
used Instagram to improve an old shot - simply post it on your wall under the Only Me visibility
setting. As of this publication, the latest Tinder allows you to use these pictures on your profile.

Your Secondary Pictures
While viewing secondary photos, the girl has now decided to dig deeper into your profile. She will usually look at
all of them, so you have more flexibility than with girls who only look at your profile picture. Keep in mind that the
last photo is the most important since this is the one she will ponder on before making her decision. It should be
almost as good as the profile picture.
Show Different Facets Of Your Character

Tinder enables you to add five supporting photos. You must absolutely upload the maximum number of photos
to have the highest chance of success. While photos good enough to be a Profile Picture can also qualify as
Secondary Pictures, the goal here is broader: you want to show many unique variations of you. As long as these
are non-polarizing, they will help spark interest from many different segments of the female population.
You will therefore want to target the Value Indicators that you did not integrate into your Profile Picture. For
example, do not have six photos of you in a suite if done right, one is enough. Use the other pictures to show that
you also know how to be casual, that you travel a lot, that you are sporty... Refer to the previous section for ideas.
Additional Mandatory And Optional Shots

In addition to these Value Indicators, there are tweaks that can apply to Secondary Pictures, but not in your Profile
pictures. Here are the new categories:
The Body Picture: Finally, it is time to show off your body! I believe this is a must, no matter what shape you are
in. If you omit a body picture, the woman may suspect that you are insecure or hiding something.
99 If you are in shape, do not look like you are flexing.Also, do something that requires you to have your shirt
off. A shirtless pic with your feet dipped in water will look a lot better than one of you in your bedroom.
Alternatively, you can be on a boat or doing a sport. Instagram will make sure your muscles look absolutely
spectacular.
99 If you are in average to poor shape, you still need to get shirtless! Dr. Stinson does this masterfully by lying on
his stomach, facing the camera, such that you can only see his face and shoulders. This way, he looks ripped
even though he truly isnt. If you are overweight, get shirtless, but do not let your weight show! She already
knows you have a few extra pounds from your other photos (but you have compensated with adequate
designer clothes). You just need to show that you are not the guy at the pool that keeps his shirt on!
Sunglasses: Lets admit it, we all look cooler with our shades on. This is perfectly fine for your Secondary Pictures,
but not your Profile Picture. Do not wear sunglasses on more than half your pictures or else girls may think you
dont look good without them. Make sure they are stylish and that you are still doing something else in your photo
than just wearing glasses.
Looking into the Distance: This is also ok for Secondary Pictures and can make for a cool effect if you are in a truly
stunning setting. Also, you can be standing further in the background if this attracts more attention to the scene
you are aiming to demonstrate.

The Cooking Photo: Although optional, you can almost only go right with this type of photo. Have someone
capture a shot of you stirring up something fancy, with many ingredients spread out neatly in the background. If
you do not have a nice kitchen, take a one-off cooking class. Girls will want to know what you are making and will
assume you are a great cook even if you are not. Some will even be willing to come straight to your house for you
to cook them something!
I am not a great cook, but I have never gotten a single complaint. This is because women will appreciate the effort
far more than the end result. The food just needs to be edible and require a reasonable degree of preparation. The
presentation is just as important: light a candle, use nice cutlery, arrange the food artfully on the plate and open a
good bottle of wine!
Playing an Instrument: The great thing about this picture is that you dont even need to know more than a few
notes to capitalize on the value it brings. Sit at a piano and look concentrated while your friend captures the
moment. Women will assume this is one of your many talents and you will likely never have to prove it.
Childhood photo: If you have a funny or extremely cute photo of you as a child, this can have a powerful effect on
many women. They will feel an intrinsic sense of affection for you and will view you as non-threatening fitting
nicely with the Sweetheart Principle. Place this photo in 4th or 5th because, on the first pictures, she is still trying
to figure out if she finds you hot and the 6th photo is too pivotal. No baby photos please, this is going too far and
will come off as weird since she has no way of knowing if it is you, your nephew or your kid!
The Party Photo: Time to show that you like to go out and have fun! This is an optional photo and must be
treated with care. Firstly, remember that you are targeting a broad appeal, so avoid anything too vivid like a rave
or a mosh pit. You must look like you are having fun, but you cannot look tipsy. In fact, dont be holding a drink
even girls who drink themselves will be turned off by this. If you like to pop massive bottles, have them be in the
background. Dont hold one while you stand on a table like a douche.
So how to do this properly? Make sure the party venue prestigious and non-trashy. Rooftop parties or galas have
a particular appeal to women. They also love themed costume parties; so if you happen to be dressed retro 60s for
an event, take a good photo! A Halloween party can also work although this is much less original. No matter how
you dress that night, you need to look slick and the picture should be very crisp and clear. Pulling a little dance
move can look charming and show that you are not reserved.
Include other People: I highly recommend showing that you have friends in one or two of your Secondary Pictures.
The goal here is to look extremely comfortable embracing others in a social context. If you look awkward, the
woman will imagine that the date will go badly. There are different set-ups to be mindful of ranging from mostly
bad, tricky and great:
88 A crowd: usually counterproductive, the girl will waste time trying to find you in the group and get annoyed.
This will only work if you are clearly at the forefront of the gang.
88 You and children: This is a no. Women will think that you either have kids or that they are an immediate
preoccupation for you. This will drastically lessen your appeal. The only way this can work is if you are caring
for poor children that are clearly not yours. This will show that you have a sense of social responsibility and
that, one day, you will be a strong father figure. This is actually very powerful.
88 You and a group of girls: Sorry, I do not endorse this approach. Whether the women are working for you
or you happen to have many hot friends, having them all pose with your will come off as douchy. Girls are
usually not drawn to the pimp appeal. If you convinced a bunch of playboy bunnies to give you one lucky
photo, girls will think you are a loser.

99 You and a few friends: I would also not recommend this. It is hard to make this work in your favor. The
guys cannot steal your thunder, but also cannot drag down your social value. If you have really cool friends
and appear to be the leader in this particular photo, then it will work well.
99 You and a pet: Be careful with this one. If you live in an area where absolutely everyone loves dogs, this
can work so long as it is the cutest mutt anyone has ever seen. However, especially in urban settings, you
will have your fair share of women who do not like pets. When they see you with one, they will assume it is
yours and that you come as a packaged deal. This will trigger objections. If you own a pet, dont worry she
will eventually learn to love it, but since Tinder is extremely fickle, you are better off revealing this later.
99 You and one girl: This is dangerous. Since Tinder automatically builds you a profile using past Facebook
profile photos, many girls will assume that the woman in you pictures is your ex-girlfriend. The fact that you
have her on your Tinder account will make girls assume you still care for her. This is a complete deal-breaker
for most women. A mind-boggling number of men make this mistake. Therefore, to avoid confusion, never
have another woman on your profile pictures. You can have one in your secondary pictures, but only if it is
totally clear that she is just a friend or a random girl. If you can afford it, two girls are better.
99 You and one friend: Can work well, just make sure that you are doing something that friends do together
like partying, playing a sport or travelling, not just standing in the street.
99 You with two girls: Yes, but do not get sandwiched between the two like a wannabe pimp. Be doing
something cool like have one on your shoulders and the other pulling your arm. Needless to say that this will
entirely backfire if the girls are not attractive. The girls must appear to be giving you more attention than you
are giving them in return. A good way to implement this is to be the only one looking at the camera, while
the girls look at you. This will boost your attractiveness to women because you appear preselected by other
women. If you are already a very attractive man, be careful not to look too much like a player.
99 You and a gay guy: This can be funny and actually work as well as having an attractive female friend
posing with you. If girls see you as preapproved by the gay community, they will respect you for it. Just make
sure that you look absolutely straight, some girls may have a problem with you swinging both ways.
99 You and someone famous: If you can get a good photo with a celebrity than this is sure to boost your
Perceived Value considerably. Casual and exclusive settings are better. For instance, a picture of you and
Justin Timberlake in his concert venue is worth less than one with you two sitting in a hotel lobby. Beware
of celebrities known to polarize opinions such as prominent politicians. For better or worse, a picture with
Obama will cost you a lot of matches.
99 You and your family: A picture of you with your parents or grandparents will let a girl know that you are
a family guy and she will associate positive emotions to this. Similarly to a childhood photo, this will make
you come across as modest and non-threatening, thereby lowering your Risk Premium. Make sure that you
and your family appear to be happy in the photo!
99 You and wild animals: This is much better than a pet photo because you can show that you are an
animal person without girls assuming that you own the animal in question. The more exotic the animal the
better! Travel around to get photographed riding an elephant, high-fiving a kangaroo, kissing a dolphin...
These will also boost your Perceived Value. Make sure that the animals are alive in the photo the female
community is very divided over the issue of hunting.

Clashing To Maximize Intrigue
Secondary pictures serve to show your many sides. This displays your versatility, but will also spark a keen interest
from many different types of women. The broader your spectrum of activity, the more attraction you will create.
On top of attraction, you can also trigger fascination by showing activities that appear to contradict each other. I
call this clashing. For example, in one photo you are giving a toast at a gala (luxury, style, social value) and the next
you are building a house in a Colombian ghetto (physical activity, travel, benevolence). Most formal types would
never venture out of five star hotels. You are effectively escaping categorization and many women will want to
know: who is that man who can afford to be several different people in one!
An advanced technique is to create an apparent clash within the same scene. These examples will seem far-
fetched, but if pulled off, women will almost always ask about these photos:
99 Wearing an expensive suite for a physical activity (running, climbing, jumping into water...)
99 Being extremely casual at a formal event surrounded by suites
99 Working on your laptop at a deserted beach or another highly exotic and unlikely setting
99 Being well groomed in a very poor foreign setting (helping the locals of course, not appearing obnoxious)
Come up with your own ideas. Detach yourself from the ordinary and strive for the extraordinary!

Coming Up With A Description
The important thing to remember about your description on Tinder is that it matters very little. You have 500
characters to write a nice description of yourself. Do not fall in this trap: more does not mean better. You want to
write exactly one full sentence and thats it.
You will look like you are trying much too hard if your description appears to have required any real thought.
Tinder is meant to be a low-effort, simple app. Your photos need to do all the talking. They were presumably not
taken explicitly for Tinder and therefore will not look too try-hard. A long monologue will make you seem willing
to pour your heart out to the million strangers viewing your profile. This is not high value at all.
Crucially, you should use this space to add your Instagram account. Since Tinder only allows for six pictures,
adding Instagram will allow women to find out more of your qualities. Creating a great Instagram is covered in
the next section. Here is the format:
About White Panda

a simple sentence of my choosing.
Instagram: xxx_xxx
Common Errors
88 Remember the principles from the previous sections: nothing show-off, polarizing, work-related, weird, gross
or low value in any way.
88 Abstain from saying that you are a tourist or new to a city. This will cost you matches with women seeking
something serious or with tourist girls looking for a local. Therefore, mention this later when the temperature
of the conversation is right.
88 Quotes are also perceived as quite lame. Not all women are seeking a man who thinks of himself as a modern-
day philosopher. Come up with something yourself, but nothing too deep.
88 Do not cite what you are looking for in a woman. This is also too try-hard.
88 Do not try to be funny. Being cute is ok, but saying something with a punch line is much too try-hard.
Besides, girls have a different sense of humor and most will find you lame.
88 Do not say anything already made obvious in your photos. This is a waste of space.
88 Do not mention what you plan to do with a woman you meet. This will make her think of the date too early
on.
88 Do not say anything too serious. It is better to appear to be joking around to set a relaxed tone and to avoid
her judging you.
88 Do not leave this area blank. You will come across as strange.

Sentence Suggestions
If you avoid the previous errors, you can say pretty much anything. This being said, you might as well say something
that can set off womens imagination and serve in the conversation later. Here are some examples of these:
Romance Themed
Magic carpet certified obviously joking around, but she might ask you to come pick her up with it.
I love long carriage rides into the sunset notice that you are not saying you will necessarily do this with her.
This could make her think of the date too early on.
Flying to the moon and back
The fortuneteller brought me here
Dancing in the moonlight... it just feels so right
Looking for something dumb to do some girls might spot the Bruno Mars song and chat you up saying
hey baby, I think I want to marry you.
Travel Themed
If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be?
Sandy beaches and snowy mountain tops! - usually girls will like one of the two.
Buenos Aires Paris - Berlin if you have lived in several places or speak another language than just English,
hint at it in your status. If a woman shares a particular affinity, this will pique her interest. You can use this as
a second line in your description because it is not really a sentence. This is the exception to the rule.
Cute Line Evoking Familiarity*
See you later, alligator - Credits to Stinson for a using sweet sentence that close friends usually part with.
She might even respond: In a while, crocodile.
Rise and shine, porcupine
What you cooking, good looking?
Take care, teddy bear!
*Note: Although these lines give the girl little content to help the conversation along, they make you look
unassuming and approachable. This initiates the Sweetheart Principle before the chatting even begins. I would
recommend a cute line if your pictures spill into the seducer or exclusive look.

In conclusion, your description is not intended to give you additional value. Your pictures must entirely do this
for you. The best you can achieve is to come off as relaxed and interesting. On the flip side, you can lose a lot of
value if you write something too long or if you commit one of the common errors. Give her a glimpse into your
personality, but leave her wanting to know more!
The Age Conundrum
Your age is written up there, in big letters, right next to your name. Contary to your description, this number will
play a big role in a womans snap decision on your eligibility. If you are used to seducing only younger women,
this will not pose a problem for you. However, if you interested in women your age or older, this will be a strong
limiting factor to your success.
To begin with, most women use the age filter and will not even see people their age or younger. Even if you do
manage to match them, they will have a strong bias against meeting guys born even a few months before them.
There are many reasons for this (pride, maturity, habit) and on Tinder you do not yet have enough rapport to
diffuse them.
I dont usually advocate obscuring information about yourself, but if you are mature for your age, the pros will
outweigh the cons. At 24, you get girls 19-23. If you are suddenly 28, you can get girls 20-27. This means many
more women and a higher level of maturity on your dates. Do not reveal your age when you meet the girl, even if
she is younger. This will shatter your image.
Between the age of 22 and 26 (before Tinder), I regularly inflated my age. As long as I stuck with my story, I never
got a single comment from the many older women I encountered. When I finally got into a relationship with a girl
two and a half years my senior, I waited a few months to tell her my real age. She was upset for a day, but then
admitted to being grateful. Had I not put on this act, she would never have spoken to me and overlooked what
was to become a great romance!
The decision is yours. Unlike hidden phyical characteristics, your age will not be revealed when you finally meet the
girl. Facebook allows you to alter your age, but not too often. Proceed with care.

Use Instagram To Achieve Even More Value
Instagram makes an expert photographer out of all of us. I regret being a late adopter of this crucial app. It helped
me understand the value of taking one amazing shot instead of many average ones to later stuff in a Facebook
album. If you are still skeptical about getting on Instagram, trust that you will quickly get hooked once you start.
At the very least, it will serve as a useful extension to your Tinder profile. Its core uses are: improving your photos,
showing even more of your greatness and creating a social image beyond the realm of Tinder.
Fixing The Flaws To Create Stunning Art

Instagram has many useful photo editing tools to make the shot look spectacular. Other apps exist to optimize
your pictures, but you must use Instagram because it also integrates a social networking aspect.
For beginners, use a few of your best photos and play around with the various filters and effects. You should
quickly realize that Instagram makes you look a whole lot better. I recommend that all of your Tinder photos pass
through Instagram editing to make them as resplendent as possible. A few rare shots are so good that they cannot
be enhanced with Instagram. Post these with the caption #nofilter.
Careful not to overdo Instagram effects to the point of becoming unrecognizable. The goal is to optimize your
image, not to look like someone completely different. Women will notice if you have applied too much cover-up
and immediately assume you are hiding something. The photo must also remain crisp and relatively detailed. If
you think you might have gone too far, ask a friend: does this look like me?
Add Even More Value Indicators

Follow my advice from the previous section and add your Instagram account to your Tinder profile description.
Next, make sure the Private option is switched off. This will mean that absolutely anyone can view your Instagram
account without you being notified. If you have a problem with this, then dont post anything that you would not
want to be seen doing in public. This way, women deciding which way to swipe and those you have matched can
discreetly go find out more about you. Make sure they are blown away!
You might find that the simple fact of having Instagram makes you want to go out and do cool stuff. This is a great
thing! Refer to the Profile Picture and Secondary Pictures section to get inspiration for your Instagram account.
I like to describe Instagram as an artistic license to brag. This means that you are much more entitled to try and
look cool than on your Tinder profile after all, you are creating art. Showing-off is encouraged so long as the
picture looks amazing. You can also feature more of your friends, since you are not on a dating app.
This being said, you still need to avoid being a douche, so no shots of you making it rain money on your kitchen
table or flexing in front of the mirror. Also, nothing polarizing: no smoking, no looking like a specific type, nothing
hateful... If you are obsessed with Mercedes Benz, keep those pictures hidden on your laptop.
Instagram is especially effective to help you enhance your Artistic Value Indicator. Have photos of beautiful
scenery, interesting people and historical landmarks. Sprinkle these pictures throughout your Instagram and you
will suddenly look very profound!

This is a glimpse into your life. The more amazing it looks, the more women will want to meet you and find out
what you are about. All Value Indicators must be thoroughly developed here! Send your Perceived Value to levels
previously unimaginable.
Deriving Social Value From Instagram

Instagram is often the first real impression of you that women will get beyond Tinder. The quality of you pictures
matters a lot more than the quantity. A woman will also feel comfortable if she sees that you have followers.
Somehow, this validates that you are not a creepy hacker operating from your parents basement. If you successfully
demonstrate a lot of value, some Tinder girls will actually start following you before even knowing you!
Here is a quick way to initially get followers. When you create your Instagram account, connect it to your Facebook
and all your friends who already have Instagram will be notified that you have joined. Many will start follow you
then. If you want more, start following all your friends and many will feel morally obligated to follow you back.
Then proceed to removing most of them. Unfortunately, some girls will find you needy if you follow more people
than you have followers.
If you have a lot of social traction with a group of people like Facebook fans, subscribers or a high traffic website,
then notify them to follow you on Instagram. Many girls will be very impressed if you have a ridiculously large
number of followers.
Another way to garner followers is to put a lot of captions on your photo (#this #that). You will start getting Likes
from a lot of random people and some will follow you. Although weird, you should not be alarmed. This is just a
part of the hyper-connected world we now live in. Use it to your advantage!

swiping strategies

Setting a Range
The number of women you will see on Tinder will depend on population density and the rate of Tinder adoption in
your given area. Since Tinder usually prioritizes proximity over last login, you will first see those nearby. This works
well, since they will be the easiest to meet. The more you swipe, the further away the girl will become. Obviously,
setting a range at the maximum 160km allowed will show you the most women.
This being said, do not set the maximum range if it is not necessary, as this can distract you from the high potential
targets. For instance, in a dense city, a broad range will give you higher standing with the girls in low-density
outskirts. Since they have fewer options, they will often swipe you right first and appear near the top of your deck
(following Tinders algorithm). You will suddenly be matching many girls living far away from you. This is not ideal.
To summarize Tinders prioritizing*:
1. Girls that have swiped you right This means that at one of your logins, you were within her range or she
was within yours. She swiped through all the guys closer and finally got to you. She swiped you right,
thereby putting herself as top priority on your next login.
2. Girls closest to you These girls will usually show up before those at the very end of your range.
3. Date of Last Login This appears to play little part in the Tinder algorithm. So long as she has not been
absent for more than a month, she will appear sooner or later depending on her proximity during her last
login.
*Note: Tinders algorithm is more complex. Other factors come into play, like the girls level of involvement and an
element of randomness. The exact factors and their influence are unclear and proprietary to Tinders coding team.
To stay optimal, I highly recommend increasing the range incrementally. Start small and if you run out of girls and
if you feel your plate is not yet full, increase the range gradually. This will make you prioritize your energy on the
ones closest with the highest chance of success.
Walking Distance
The girls you match in this range have been near your home or office. They are familiar with your surroundings
and will be comfortable meeting there. Often they will live in the same area - an added bonus.
Accessible By Public Transport

In a city, you can eventually increase your range to one that fits the reach of the public transportation network.
The girl can come see you relatively easily. Once convinced, they will have a strong incentive to stay the night,
especially if the busses have stopped running (see Tactics for in-person Tinder dates).

Driving Distance
If you live in the outskirts, extend your range as far as you are willing to drive. Keep in mind that you will be losing
potential matches from girls in dense areas that have set their range to a short distance. To overcome this, next
time you are downtown, do a quick login and then wait a few days before logging in again. The matches should
have piled up (see Herding later in this chapter).
If you are centrally located, but open to meeting girls living further away, this will be much easier in cities like L.A.
where everyone owns a car. If she does not own a car, do not offer to pick her up! Solutions to this problem are
presented in the Tactics for in-person Tinder dates chapter.
Neighboring Cities
Coming to meet you will represent a massive investment on her part. Similarly, going all the way out to meet her is
very burdensome. Quickly find out if she comes to your city regularly to see family, party, work... If she does often,
you may have a shot at convincing her to squeeze in a date during her next visit.
Usually, she will only come for special occasions. Therefore, apply the Social Facilitator frame. Make her understand
that if she comes to your city, you are the guy to know and you will make sure she takes part in some unforgettable
events. With this offer, you waste little time building rapport with a girl that will remain a long shot.

Swiping Technique
Left or right. This may seem rather straight forward, but with so many girls, you will want to optimize the time
invested. Do not click on the X or - this is much slower than swiping. Here are the methods and their pros
and cons.
Swipe All Girls Right And Only Talk To Hot Ones
Pros:
99 Fastest possible method

99 Maximum number of matches, this can help boost your ego
99 Absolutely no thinking or emotional involvement
Cons:
88 Many notifications present false hopes and an overall distraction

88 You will sometimes match two friends almost simultaneously
88 Chat screen filled with girls you are not interested in
88 When chatting with many hot girls, it is hard to stay organized, especially with so many bad apples
If you are using this technique, I recommend unmatching the bad matches in order to stay organized. Do the
math: does the distraction and the organizing take more time than you save from this method?
This method is best for men who are less picky. Men who are more selective will find they waste time overall.
Swipe Right Or Left Depending Only On Profile Picture

Pros:
99 Relatively Fast
99 No scary matches
99 Minimal thought or emotional engagement
Cons:
88 Missing out on hot girls with bad Profile Pictures (extremely few)
88 Matching with bad girls who managed to fool you with good profile photos

Girls will almost never have a profile photo where they look worse than in real life. I can say this with 98% assertion.
So swipe left freely and dont worry about what could have been.
When in doubt, swipe right. This saves time and you can find out about her later if ever she matches you. If there
are several people in the photo, swipe right if one of them is attractive. Find out later if this was the correct one.
The problem comes when they have a photo of something abstract like a meme or smiling potato. In this case,
it might be a cute girl trying to be original. I personally dont put much stock in such behavior, but you may not
consider it to be a deal breaker. Right or left, just dont waste time.
Once you have matched, look at the secondary photos and the description. I estimate that a third to half of the
girls will have fooled you with their profile picture. This means that their secondary pictures are inconsistent or
that their description says recently became a female. Dont worry about it. Simply block these matches.
If you are pickier, this method will save you time. You will have far less blocking to do than with the previous
technique. By now, this is my preferred method.
Investigating Secondary Pictures When You Are Uncertain

When swiping, this is a total waste of time. Assuming you are working at being a high value successful man, you
cannot afford to analyze profiles of girls that might not even like you back. Please abstain from this practice. This
may seem shallow, but Tinder is a shallow and time-consuming game.

When to Swipe - Herding your Matches
You can swipe at anytime of the day or night. However, I recommend doing this when you are stuck waiting and
have absolutely nothing better to do. Otherwise, do it while you are in the middle of a Tinder conversation since
you are logged on and distracted anyways. Since swiping is extremely time-flexible, set rules for yourself and dont
let it interfere with regular life.
Swipe at least once, every one or two days, because active users have a priority over other men. You can swipe
many times in a day, you are better off spacing out the sessions, here is why:
Tinder will have time to sort through the girls and show you the active ones in priority.
Some matches may check up on when you were last logged on and get turned off if the number is always
under five minutes.
Give some girls time to match you first.
This last point is called herding and can differentiate a king from a mere expert.
Psychological Advantage Of Herding

Keep in mind that even moderately attractive women will get a match practically every time they swipe right.
They are effectively the herders. If you are among the ten men in a row that she matched, you are in a relatively
weak position. This is why you should not usually begin the conversation as soon as you match (more in The Art
of Chatting). Being herded does not spoil your chances, but since we are thinking statistically, there is a way to tilt
the odds in your favor.
If you are swiping through a large sample, picture three phases that unpredictably follow one another:
1. Most girls you swipe right turn out to be matches You have successfully herded some girls! They will get
a notification and take some time out of their day to look at you and only you. When you finally message
them, you are at a relative advantage.
2. You are swiping right and not getting any more matches - You are now getting herded. But wait. Keep
swiping! The girls you are seeing are relatively active, meaning that you will not be herded with too many
other guys. Also, swiping her right will put you to the front of her selection when she logs on, a strong
advantage.
3. You are swiping through infrequent users You will begin seeing girls that have not logged on in a while
(clear) or girls who have logged on recently but do so only sporadically (not clear). The deeper you go into
this phase, the worse your odds of finding a match that will lead to a date.
As you can understand, the threshold between phase 2 and 3 will always be hazy and undefined. The point is that
when youve been swiping for a while, ask yourself: am I in phase 3? Know that if you are, you are wasting time.
Better to get off Tinder and let it do some herding for you.
If you commute more than 10km on a regular basis, use herding to your advantage! Log on in the new location,
give it a few swipes then go on with your day. If this is a target rich area, like the downtown core, resist logging
back on for a while after leaving. Tinder will have women lined up for you when you finally return!

International Herding
If you are planning to travel to another city or country, there is a way you can already have dates lined up thanks
to Tinder. A few days before you trip, ask a friend who is already there (and whom you trust) to log into your
Facebook and connect you to Tinder in the distant location. Let your phone herd some matches before you even
arrive.
You can then log back in, a few days before the trip, and start chatting with the girls that have swiped you right.
If they ask why you are so far away, just say you travel a lot, but that you will be nearby in the coming days. If you
are extra skilled, have a match come pick you up at the airport!

Not Getting Enough Matches?
If you feel that you are not getting enough matches, it will be due to one of two reasons:
You Are Being Too Picky

Be honest with yourself, is it realistic to only right-swipe models? Have friends help you objectively rate your
profile. Give yourself a score out of 10 for looks and one out of 10 for the value you manage to display on your
pictures (perceived wealth, style, social value, sex appeal). Whichever scored lowest will be your baseline score
and the highest will be your ceiling.
Since men only rate women on their looks, their scoring is simpler: a number between 1 and 10. Even women
subconsciously know that this is their value on the dating scene, especially on Tinder. Right swipe women that
score between your baseline and your ceiling. You will rarely match women above your ceiling, never mind meet
them! Similarly, women below your baseline are the ones you do not want to meet even if they offer you sex on
a silver platter.
The closer you swipe to your baseline, the more likely you are to match. Since your market value is a weighted
average of your looks and Perceived Value (culture decides the relative importance), women near the baseline
are getting a bargain. They will often be eager to know more about you and push for the meet up! On the other
end, women near the ceiling will also match (though not as often) and act as a tough sell from the start (see later
chapters for skills to overcome this). Experiment with different levels of pickiness to understand exactly how much
a pound of your flesh is worth on the dating market.
You Need To Work On You Profile

As explained in the previous chapter, Create the Irresistible Profile, your looks must be optimized and your
Perceived Value should be elevated into the stratosphere. If you are not matching any girls above an 8, know that
this is your ceiling. In order to do better, you need to improve your profile. Perceived Value is the variable with
the most potential for improvement: the sky is truly the limit. So go out, do cool stuff and capture it on Instagram!
(refer to previous chapter for specific ideas)
Reinitialize Your Profile
Once you have changed your pictures and elevated your Perceived Value significantly, you should reinitialize your
profile. This means going into App Settings and deleting your account. Once this is done, log back on and re-
upload your pictures. Dont forget to retype your description!
This means that you get a fresh start with your citys entire Tinder population. Almost no girls will recognize you
and you will get matches that you missed out on last time around. This is the best way to see the drastic results
from and superior profile.
I also recommend reinitializing every few months if you are regularly running out of girls to swipe.

the art of chatting

When to Engage
Youve got the match, now when should you initiate a conversation? Girls are very easily distracted, so you need to
make sure you message them when they have the highest probability of not being busy. If they are in the middle
of something, they will see your message and then completely forget about it. When this happens, you have to
reinitiate with lower Conversational Value. This is elaborated in the next section.
Use the primetimes in the day to maximize the chance of striking up a proper conversation. You can swipe outside
of primetime, but if you match, do not start chatting. If she matches you outside primetime, you should also wait.
Imagine she matches you during her lunch break, you may exchange a few messages, but as soon as work starts
again, she will forget about you forever. Not good.
During primetime, if she matches you (you got herded), wait at least a few minutes before messaging to avoid
looking too excited and to give her a chance to message first. If youve herded some matches into this period, feel
free to message them right away since you are in the power position. Also take the chance to chat up matches you
got during the day or reinitiate with old matches. Here are the different primetimes:
Monday To Thursday Between 7-11pm

The girls have gotten home from work and finally have some time to relax. Try to wrap up your conversations by
11pm even if it is going very well. Very few people make reliable plans past 11pm, so you will not be able to secure
a proper date. Better to cut it short, keep her wanting more, and postpone to the next primetime. Ideally get her
Facebook in order to continue there next time around. This is elaborated later in the FB Close section.
Friday, Saturday And Special Holidays Between 3-9pm

These times are flexible based on the going-out culture of the country you live in. The point is that, during this
period, girls are on their phones planning what to do that very same night. If they are staying home, they will crave
the social connectivity that partygoers are getting ready to enjoy. Both scenarios will require different approaches.
Girls planning a party night are going to have a million more important priorities than meeting a guy from Tinder.
They will appear receptive because they happen to be on their phones, but this is a trap. They will lead you on
to maximize the number of event options on their roster, but very rarely take the time to meet you. Absolutely
avoid wasting time with these girls unless you agreed beforehand to meet on such a night. You are much better
off waiting until they have had their wild fun and offer to do something relaxed, one-on-one, during the week.
Girls who are not going out will be difficult to convince that very same night. If they were not up for meeting
their friends, then why would they meet you? If you are not going out, you can perhaps convince them to do
something small like a quick drink or coffee. If you are partying, build some rapport and plan to meet in the near
future. These girls will usually be enthusiastic at the idea, since they are in a bored state. Push the commitment
as far as possible (see chapter on Setting up a great date), then bring the conversation to a close and focus on
having a good night!

Sundays Between 4-11pm
This time is devoted to relaxation and frivolous activities like Tinder. This is a great opportunity to schedule dates
for the week because girls do not usually feel so busy. In many cities, a lot of girls will have followed a friends
recommendation and downloaded Tinder over the weekend. On Sundays, you have plenty of time to build rapport
with these newcomers.
Late Night Match
If, and only if, she matches you late at night, use the following opening line: Yay, a late night tinder match!
She will usually respond and give you her undivided attention since it is late and she has nothing else around to
distract her. You have also busted her looking up guys in the middle of the night. This can lead to some funny and
even sexual conversation.

Conversational Value How Cool Are You?
Before getting into the specifics of the interaction, you need to understand the forces that will determine your
success (Conversational Value and Temperature theory). Assuming you have a great profile by now, you will start
off with a relatively high Perceived Value. However, once the chatting begins, failing to maintain Conversational
Value can completely cancel the advantage you started out with.
To assess whether you have sufficient Conversational Value, ask yourself:
Am I in control of the conversation?
Am I determining the pace and the direction?
View your value as a currency. You begin with what she grasps from your profile and then your wealth fluctuates
depending on how you carry the conversation. Keep in mind that mistakes are far more costly then gains and you
can go broke fast! In fact, good technique will not ensure that the girl likes you the content is more important,
as explained in Temperature Theory (next section). Yet a few mistakes will effectively ruin your chances by making
you look desperate and socially out of tune. In other words, Conversational Value will not make you, but it will
definitely break you.
Maintaining Or Raising Your Value

How would a cool guy behave if he was overwhelmed by hot matches and barely had time to keep up? This is who
you need to be! There is no secret formula to send your value through the roof simply with chatting technique.
But there are ways to make the girl understand that you are not desperate and that, if she is not clever enough to
see what is in front of her, you will move on with no second thoughts.
Here are subtle indicators that you are in control of the interaction:
99 Herding: As explained in Swiping Strategies, waiting long enough to herd your matches will give you an
advantage. However, this is only a small boost and should not be relied on.
99 She messages you first: Some girls will chat you up and save you all the work prescribed in the upcoming
Opening section. She is effectively putting herself on the line and you are in control. This girl is already
open to getting to know you. Unfortunately, the hottest girls will seldom do this.
99 She asks you questions: The girl is now investing herself and giving you leverage. You can use an answer to
direct into a tangent topic and even ask a question of your own.
99 You dont answer one of her questions: If you are in control, you can completely ignore one of her questions
and talk about something else. She will not pay much attention, but this subtly gives you the dominant role.
99 She is writing more content: Take a step back to look at the conversation thread. Who is typing more
characters? Although it is normal for you to write more at the beginning, it should even out as fast as possible.
If she is always writing far less, then you are putting in more work and she is in the power position.

99 She responds faster than you and fills time gaps with more content: This girl is showing that she cares
about this conversation. She is probably giving you the most attention out of all her matches. When you
take some time to answer, she will clarify her last message or ask an additional question. You have this girl
hooked! (see Ping Pong Technique to avoid being the one getting hooked)
99 You choose when to start the conversation: Suppose she messages you during the day and you wait until
primetime to answer. If this initiates a conversation, than you come off looking busier than her. She had free
time during the day and now has free time again for you, whereas you have many more important things to
do outside primetime.
99 She fuels the conversation: If you give a plain answer with nothing to go on (yes/no or factual response),
wait a bit before writing a follow-up. She might just ask you another question keep the conversation alive.
Since she is putting in more investment, you know that you are in the power position.
The Ping Pong Technique
In Ping Pong, pushing the ball to the back takes one shot, but playing short range usually requires several
incrementally reduced shots. Similarly, in conversation, shortening the delays between messages must be done
incrementally or you risk countering the laws of momentum. In reverse, adding long delays can be done suddenly
for better or worse in the course of an exchange.
Here are the rules to follow (based on time between messages):
Short game (2 minutes or less): The conversation is hot and the girl is engaged. Keep going back and forth
quick until you get to the close. You can occasionally throw a medium shot and see if she plays short or,
even better, she writes more content to fill the void. If she suddenly goes medium or long, patiently work
your way back to short or you will look like you care more than she does.
Medium game (3 to 15 minutes): The girl is engaged but she is doing some other stuff at the same time, like
cooking or messaging other matches. In order to work down to short, build momentum by taking slightly
less time to answer than she did. Do not play short before she does! If she suddenly takes longer, you also
take longer. Subconsciously, she will grasp that the faster she responds, the more attention she will earn
from you.
Long game (15 minutes or more): The girl is very loosely engaged or rather uninterested. Space out openers
to bring her down to medium (see Opening section). Outside of primetime, you are the one who should
be playing this tactic.
As tempting as it is to respond as soon as you get the notification, show restraint and ask yourself where you stand
in the Ping Pong game. Your value will benefit.

Typical value-killers
88 You chat her up as soon as she matches you: If you get a lot of matches you have no reason to get excited
by yet another. So, even in primetime, feel free to wait a while. All the other guys she herded are probably
messaging her at that very moment.
88 She does not reply to a statement: Depending on how nonchalant you come across, this may not be too
damaging. If you were clearly looking for a laugh or a wow, you will lose some value when she falls silent.
88 She does not reply to a question: This is more damaging to your value than the previous case. Try to avoid
questions altogether until you feel she is invested and will not forget to answer. Also, start with easier
questions (more on this in the upcoming Fillers section).
88 You are double questioning: For every ? a woman sees in your messages, she perceives that you are
interested and that she needs to put in effort to quench your curiosity. Therefore, include a maximum of
one question mark at a time to avoid overwhelming her. Sometimes, forget them altogether. For example:
BAD: What college did you go to? I bet it was Berkley, am I right?
GOOD: What college did you go to, I bet it was Berkley!
BAD: Is that the CN tower in you photo? Are you Canadian?
GOOD: That looks like the CN tower in your photo! Are you Canadian?
88 You are writing several consecutive messages: If she is writing one message at a time. You should also
be sticking to one and occasionally two. Of course, if she does not answer the first, you are forced to write
a second. This will often cost you value, but there are methods to minimize the damage (see section on
Opening).
88 You are asking all the questions:If, after a few questions, she has not asked you anything, you are clearly
becoming the interested party. Revert to tactics from the upcoming Opening section.
88 She is showing no emotion: Since you are a sweetheart, you are showing a lot of positive emotion. However,
if she is giving short answers and not laughing at anything funny, she is giving you the classic cold treatment.
Do not acknowledge her numbing attitude. This will only put the nail in the coffin. Get creative; you would
be surprised how many girls end up coming around.
88 She takes much longer to answer than you: This means you are not playing with proper Ping Pong technique.
88 She criticizes something in your profile:
This will not hurt your value as long as you do not let it faze you.
Do not even acknowledge her problem. Say ok and then go on about something else. She matched you,
meaning the good clearly outweighs the bad, so focus on that. On the other hand, if she is making fun of you,
show that you have a sense of humor and make this an inside joke to increase rapport.
Now that you understand how to keep your Conversational Value afloat, we will look at what to actually say. Even
with great technique, hollow content will prevent girls from wanting to meet you. To summarize, on Tinder, how
you say it is important to avoid destroying your value. When done right, what you say will have her choose you
over the competition*.
*Note: Once you meet in person, body language and tone will matter a lot more than content. This is another stark
difference between Tinder game and conventional game.

Temperature Theory Is She Into You?
A girls emotional temperature towards you evolves as you get to know each other better. Whereas your
Conversational Value indicates that you are not desperate, her temperature will warm up if she feels you are a cool
guy (not a creep) and that you are worth meeting. Value gets you in the door, but the content of your interaction
will determine your success.
When evaluating her temperature, ask yourself:
How comfortable does she feel interacting with me?

Does she view me as someone she would get along with?
Would she be ready to accept a meeting?
If so, how committed would she be?
Temperature can cool or warm up depending on the emotional cords you strike. Here are the principles of
thermodynamics:
Heat her up
This revolves around lowering the Risk Premium. She first needs to realize that you are a normal guy with only
good intentions. At the same time, she needs to grow attracted to you emotionally. This means feeling desire
when she pictures herself in your company. Finally, she needs to feel the urge to meet you and the fear of losing
you if she cancels (Anti-flaking protection is explained in the Setting up a great date chapter).
Here are the qualities you should emulate to help her warm up to you:
99 You are not desperate: Follow the tips from the previous section on Conversational Value.
99 You have stuff in common with her: The more unique the similarity, the better. For instance, speaking a
foreign language, being part of a minority, having the same quirky hobby or being extremely good at a sport
she practices. The goal is to avoid pointing out something that many other guys will already have said. If you
can find commonalities that are not obvious on her profile, this is even better.
Try mining interests. This means saying something that will target many possible interests and see if you
uncover something. For instance, I love water sports is better than saying I love water skiing because it
has a better chance of getting a omg, me too! Another way of mining is to give several answers to one
question. Let us look at how to answer the infamous where are you from? :
BAD: Im American, and you?
In America, you will probably have this in common, but this is extremely unoriginal.
GOOD: Im a New Yorker, but been living in SF for a while. In my heart, Im convinced Im Brazilian
An American girl is bound to find something interesting in this answer.
Show variety in your answers to uncover what she is about. If you are the first guy to discover that she loves
fly-fishing, you have a huge advantage.

99 She discovers cool stuff about you: This is where it comes in handy not to give everything away on your
profile. Learn how to explain stuff about you in the most interesting fashion. Careful, avoid specifics to
maintain intrigue!
BAD: I am an accountant at XYZ firm on boring street
GOOD: I dabble with numbers. Tedious work, but saving up to retire young and buy an island
Essentially, youve told her nothing here, except that you stand out from all the other boring guys.
BAD: Nothing much, and you?
GOOD: Chilling in [part of town where you live], about to drive off to meet some Mexican friends!
She has just learned where you live, that you own a car and that you have some foreign friends. She can
begin to paint a picture of you as a real person. The details are hazy and leave her wanting to know more.
BAD: I am here as a tourist
GOOD: Flew in from [previous place], here for business + fun
Sometimes, saying something ridiculous is more interesting than giving a real answer. It shows that you
have character. Most importantly, reveal details slowly. This way, you can paint yourself in a cool, mysterious
light. It also makes her understand she will have to work to get to know you. Women love a challenge! *
*Note: There is a difference between keeping the conversation light and looking like you are hiding
something. If she insists on knowing a detail, let her have it, or tell her it is complicated and promise to
explain when you finally meet. Stay humorous, but do not tell plain lies. She will think you are a fraud if she
finds inconsistencies.
99 She discovers you are skilled at a subject: Women love a man that can teach them something interesting.
Have her discover that you are well travelled, speak a foreign tongue, know a lot about wine or a certain
sport/dance. Do not tell her unprompted! Have her ask by giving her cues. Then follow-up by telling her
that you will teach her this skill. For example:
Her: Im off to the movies, you?
You: Im off to play beach volleyball
Her: Oh, cool, do you play often?
You: I do! Im booking us a flight to Rio, going to give you private lessons
Notice that you are not explicitly bragging. You are also making an absurd suggestion to avoid her thinking
you are offering the date too early. Finally, you are building a fantasy that will subconsciously trigger positive
emotions in the woman (fantasies are elaborated in the next section). Suddenly, she feels that she has a lot
to gain from getting to know you.
99 She realizes you fit her criteria (social, physical, economic, moral...): Different types of women will have
varying preconceived notions of what they are looking for in a man. She will usually give away her criteria
with the questions she asks. Tailor your conversation to quickly tick her essential boxes and qualify yourself
as a great catch.

99 She realizes you are a sweetheart: As explained earlier, this is the broadest way to make girls feel comfortable.
You always need to be in a good mood. This means using plenty of exclamation marks and smileys. You also
find everything amusing and therefore sprinkle haha and loool whenever possible. You show genuine
interest when she shares something about herself and you give her the occasional compliment. You avoid
judging her or coming across as overly confident. You must be that amazing, unthreatening guy that can
light up her day.
Careful, being a sweetheart does not mean being spineless. Do not act too impressionable or as if you are
trying hard for her to like you. You need to remain manly. She needs to feel like she is earning your interest
and that if she messes up, she could well lose you. Being a sweetheart is about showing that you are a
genuine good person, whereas being spineless will unfortunately paint you as a desperate lassie.
99 Self-disqualification: This is a more advanced, yet powerful concept. If you paint the potential romance as
a long shot, the woman will warm up to you. Firstly, she will understand that you are not one of those guys
that latch on and fall in love after one date. Second, she will instinctively feel the desire to overcome the
obstacles.
Here are some examples:
I keep myself extremely busy and dont have time for dates. I just thought I would get this app to see what
Im missing out on.
Its a shame this romance is doomed.. we live on opposite sides of town..
I have a business trip coming up.. too bad we wont get time to properly get to know each other..
If she bites, you will find yourself jokingly coming up with ways to overcome the obstacles, thereby building
rapport. Even if she agrees that the odds are slim, she will implicitly warm up to you because she does not
have to worry about you taking things too seriously.

Temperature drops
A girls temperature towards you will cool down when there is a break in her emotional state. This can happen
suddenly or over time. This is inevitable in some cases and you have to spot it early to avoid the relationship being
frozen forever. Here are the causes and symptoms:
88 Time passes: Girls have very short memories. A conversation could be hot one day, but have cooled by the
next. For this reason, any time a conversation is adjourned, you need to test the temperature. If it is cold,
you need to revert to openers. If you assume that the conversation is still hot, you will jump in too quick and
likely be ignored.
Primacy vs. Recency
Psychological studies have identified interesting tricks that our memories will play on us. The primacy effect
implies that the first information received will weigh a lot heavier than all that follows in the interaction. This
means that you need to make a great impression as fast as possible to ensure that she will engage actively.
However, after time passes, the girl will look back and tend to remember the final impression more
strongly. This is the recency effect. Therefore, you may have had a great conversation, but if you failed
to outdo yourself at the close, you might be surprised at how cold you find her the next time around.
88 You push things along too fast: Im going to spare you the allegory of the frog in boiling water, but
understand that you need to raise the temperature slowly to avoid her having a negative reaction. We will
go over skills to properly escalate without friction throughout the next chapters.
For now, a sure shot way to avoid her turning cold is to leave the possibility that you might be joking.
Whenever, you think you might be overreaching, add a smiley at the end of your message. Give a humorous
twist for additional protection. For example:
BAD: Oh, youre not in the mood to go out.. maybe we can meet at your place
GOOD: Oh, youre not feeling well, I can come take care of you
It is much better for her to say no to what sounds like joke, than to a concrete proposal like coming directly to
her place. Often she will be open to the idea and you can offer to cook her something and then tuck her in.
BAD: Come hang out at my place sometime
GOOD: I think were due for a pajama party
BAD: Lets go on a date some time soon
GOOD: I dont think we should ever meet, we would get along too well
88 You deliver a deal-breaker:Keeping the previous section in mind, if you sink your Conversational Value by
coming on too strong, you will have little chance of warming her back up. This deal-breaker is completely
avoidable.

Additionally, a woman may learn a fact about you that suddenly renders you ineligible. For instance, if she
is only looking for something serious, she will become completely cold upon learning that you are a tourist.
Again, we see the advantage of remaining hazy and intriguing about the details of your life. To avoid the
tourist trap, say you are here for work + fun and might stay for an extended period, depending if I like it
here.
Dodge as many potential deal-breakers as possible until you have her in front of you for the date. Almost all
of them can be overcome, or simply ignored, during a successful encounter - especially when the result is
merely some casual fun.
Here are some other common deal-breakers that she will be probing for:
- You are of lower socio-economic standing
- You are recently out of a relationship
- You do drugs or party a lot
- You are a player and meet many girls on Tinder
- You do not live in an adequate home (with parents, roommates, bad part of town)
88 Something beyond your control changes: You never know what is happening on the other end. An infinite
number of events could happen in her life that would cause her to suddenly disregard you. It is important
that you completely abstain from asking why she has suddenly gone cold. Whatever it is, it is more important
than you and acknowledging this will make you look weak.
If you feel that an outside variable is causing the freeze, cut the conversation short with something like never
mind, talk later or long day I see haha, take care, talk later . Often, she will revert back to you once the
situation has passed. Otherwise, start slowly warming her up with openers at a later time.
In summary, Conversational Value is determined by the artfulness or your delivery, whereas Temperature
is determined by the emotional state she derives from all the content. This is a delicate balance, proper
chatting means raising the temperature slowly, not giving everything away at once. If the temperature is
heating up, she will tolerate a few chat mistakes here and there; however, a cold match will usually categorize
you at your first fumble.
Starting at the first message, the goal is to raise the temperature up to boiling point and secure a strong date
commitment. The steps of the interaction are fluid, meaning that you can find yourself jumping back and
forth depending on the temperature you reach in the given moment. Given that she is not in front of you,
you risk misreading which step you are on. The upcoming tactics therefore aim to gage temperature before
focusing on raising it.

STEP 1: Opening Get Her Chatty!
In conventional game, Opening means striking up a conversation with a complete stranger. In Tinder game,
I broaden the definition to mean: warming up a girl to the point where she is willing to engage in a proper
conversation with you. This encompasses girls you have already interacted with, but have since cooled down due
to any of the reasons listed in the previous section. Hence, anytime you are not sure if the girl is open to chatting,
apply tools from this section.
Assume that all new matches are starting at a frozen temperature. This means that they see your face for two
seconds, swiped you right, and could not care less about the fact that you two matched. Although usually not
accurate, assuming this scenario means that you can still recover these ice-cold cases. If she chatted you up first,
congratulations, the conversation is already lukewarm and you can skip this section. Otherwise, grab a fur jacket!
Simple Openers
The match is new* or time has passed and you are not sure if she has cooled down. In this context, you should
begin with a simple opener that protects your value and requires minimal investment on her part. This will
enable you to gage where you stand and slowly warm her back up if she is indeed quite cold.
*Note: Most Tinder experts will advocate addressing a new match with a killer line or an insightful comment
on her photos. This is equivalent to packing all your strength into one punch. If she does not reply, or answers
something curt, you are left struggling. Gage the temperature first, and then move on to a more Conducive
Opener (explained next).
Therefore, to begin, say something that will elicit a response from all kinds of matches, cold or warm. Also, have it
be something that does not kill your value if she fails to answer. Here are examples:
This is my personal favorite. Its cute and shows you are not too eager. All the girl has to do is send a smiley
back or say hey. If she does not answer, you can always follow up with something else while keeping your
value intact.
Hey [girls name]
Saying her name comes across as personable. The smiley makes you looks sweet (more on smileys later in
this chapter).
Yay, a late night tinder match!
Only if she matched you late at night.
hum, so tinder says we find each other hot, haha
You are pointing out a fact that puts you on even footing. Some cold matches will warm up to this. If you
use the smiley opener and she asks, in a cold tone, why you are smiling, you can always say because tinder
says we find each other hot, haha.

Yep, youre a hottie!
I use this when the girl clearly put an effort into looking hot on her photos. You know its on if she answers:
thanks, youre not too bad yourself!
Notice that you are not aiming for ground-shattering originality. These are just cute little quips that will show any
girl that you are just having fun and not investing too much of yourself yet. Her response, or lack thereof, will give
you a strong hint about the temperature. Here are the three possible reactions and the adequate strategies:
1. The Silent Treatment - the girl does not respond: Get used to checking when the girl was last online. If she
has not logged onto Tinder since your last message, then she has not seen it and is effectively not ignoring you.
Absolutely avoid double messaging if this is the case. Once you see she has logged in, but not answered, you
know that is relatively cold and that you will have to reinitiate.
If there was a long gap between your message and her latest login, this girl is freezing cold. She gets Tinder
messages, but does not bother to check them. She does not invest much hope or energy into the app. Send a
second simple opener, in case she was extremely busy. If, again, there is a long gap, you know for a fact that she is
an icicle and not chatting with anyone on Tinder.
Since this girl is only on Tinder to swipe and see whats around, she will not engage if you send a Conducive
Opener. Use the following line instead: Listen, Im about to delete this app, it would be a shame to lose contact,
whats your FB name, Ill add you .
Some girls will actually respond to this from loss aversion and also from curiosity to see your Facebook. You will
have a much better chance one you have gotten away from Tinder. More on transitioning to Facebook in the
upcoming FB Close section.
If she is logging in at medium intervals (1-2h) but did not answer, she is a tinder skeptic. She probably has a lot
of matches and feels overwhelmed. She no longer takes the time to answer everyone. Follow-up with a strong
Conducive Opener and differentiate yourself from the pack as quickly as possible.
If she is logging in often, then she is an active app user. She probably forgot to answer you because she is already
messaging other people or energetically swiping. Given her short attention span, send another simple opener to
try and get her involved. Quickly follow up with a Conducive Opener if she remains aloof.
Here is a real-life example:
ME:
ME: hum.. so tinder says we find each other hot! haha
ME: I like your party photo, theres this event you have to hear about!
HER: hahaha
HER: I guess tinder knows best!
HER: Cool, which event?
She is asking a question, therefore she is engaged and I can move on to STEP 2.

2. The Minimalist - she is responding the bare minimum: Move on to Conducive Openers, but keep investment
low and increase slowly.
3. The Warm Lead - she responds with a compliment or asks a question: This girl is in the mood to interact. You
can jump into a conversation right away. If you prefer to play it safe, throw in a Conducive Opener and see how
she reacts. If her temperature is consistent, you may move on to STEP 2: Fillers (next section).
The Advanced Silent Treatment
At some point, you cannot write another opener without losing value. Either she has not said anything from the
start, or she is a minimalist who has suddenly fallen silent. For these cold women, your only chance is to switch
frames!
Act like something weird is going on: why would a match not even take the time to write a simple response? Send
a or a k.... In both cases, follow up with a lol so she does not think you are actually offended.
Wait until her next login. If nothing still, the last resort is the electroshock. Write the following line:
Hey so sorry, but I am going to block fake profiles
Research shows that humans hate losing the luxury of options, even if they had little intention of acting on them in
the first place. A woman will be happy keeping you as a prospect and doing nothing. However, when faced with
losing you forever, she will feel a discomfort that can spur her into action.
If this works, use the momentum to head straight into Fillers (next section).
Conducive Openers
Now is the time to gradually warm her up. Here are several opener categories in progressive order of investment.
If she is being cold or brief, start light and move your way up to the more advanced conversation starters. The
goal is to spin off into a conversation by getting her to ask about you or reaching the point where you may include
questions.
A general compliment: In most cultures, it is considered rude not to thank someone for a compliment. This also
gives her a chance to give you one back. Therefore, build momentum by throwing one in like:
Youre super cute!
Cute photos! use cute instead of hot or attractive. These are too intense and stray from the Sweetheart
Principle.
Very cool profile, Im super impressed!
Heres a trick. If you are not sure about her looks, after she has answered thanks or whatever else, ask her for her
Instagram. She will almost always accept. This helps for rapport building and will let you know early on if she is
even worth the effort.

A funny half-compliment: Careful not to throw out a full NEG (statement or joke intended to lower her value).
Over Tinder, she will be inclined to think you are being a douchebag or you are bitter that she is not showing you
attention. Go soft and atone with a smiley.
Nice selfies! Obviously only if a few of her photos are selfies. This is a bit of a backhanded compliment, more
effective with the hotter girls.
You get the longest/most interesting self-description award very effective with girls who seem to have put
quite a bit of thought into it. Also slightly teasing.
Interesting profile...! She wont be sure if this is a compliment.
A specific comment: Analyze something from her pictures or her self-description. This is even more effective if you
can relate it to yourself. Sometimes, if you have a strong commonality with the girl, you can skip the simple opener
and jump right in with a comment.
Youre definitely not from here
Wow, youre a travel addict, I feel that!
Ive been to that place, it was absolutely amazing because of [...] !
I like your party photo! Theres this event you have to hear about
Trigger her curiosity: You are golden if you can write a statement that will make her unable to resist asking about
you. The topic should raise your value and you the answers to the resulting questions must be interesting.
For example:
Just hopped off the longest flight!
If you are a tourist, say you are considering living in this city. If you are from here, say you were somewhere
for business.
People are taking photos of me today haha
After she asks why, say its because you look like a specific celebrity.
[something in a foreign language, like a compliment or half-compliment]
She will usually ask what it means instead of researching. Answer and wait until she asks why you speak this
language. Whether or not she asks, throw in: Apparently Im a stellar teacher

Get her attention with Moments
If you are doing something really cool, share it with all your Tinder matches by creating a Moment. Then, check
to see which girls have liked the image. If any of them are girls that have not yet been fully opened, you have an
opportunity to trigger a conversation.
For example, I could post a photo of me eating some fancy sushi. A cold match likes it and I get notified. I can
then proceed with a Conducive Opener and see if she bites. For instance, I could say: the sushi at XYZ restaurant
is really the best in town! There is a good chance she will open up.
As a general rule, use Moments sparingly. I suggest once every two weeks. If you post too many Moments, girls
will identify you as the guy that is always on Tinder. This will make you look too try-hard. Therefore, make sure the
few photos you post possess maximum impact and have been optimized with Instagram!
Build a fantasy: This is the very powerful technique of saying something absurd, but romantically enticing.
Ideally, you want to build a fantasy as fast as possible, because this will permanently differentiate you from all the
other guys. Think about it, they are asking her the same boring questions, whereas you are getting her to dream
about sharing drinks on a deserted island!
This is slightly tricky to master at the beginning. When done correctly, she will open up very fast. Here are some
real examples for inspiration:
1. This match was a gorgeous fitness addict that ignored me completely. After a few months, I reinitialized my
profile and matched her again. This time, I was ready.
ME: Oh cool, you also do modeling
I dont, but this line works well with hot girls
HER: Noooooo
ME: Are you sure, it looks like you are modeling for a sports chair.
HER: haaha, yes i am sure, haha
at this point she is a minimalist
ME: hahah, lets do a shoot together when the new chair model comes out!
HER: Haha yes!!! The new one comes out very soon!!!
finally, something to go on
ME: Oh no, that leaves us so little time to know each other. Quick, where are you from?
HER: hahaa, im from here, and you?
From this point on, she was engaged. I got her Facebook, but had to leave the country before meeting, to her
great disappointment.

2. One of this girls pictures was an old school car, in a jungle-type setting.
ME:
HER: Someones in a good mood
ME: Of course! Tinder says we find each other hot
HER: what do you think?
ME: I think youre really cute, and I really like your car
ME: Lets take it for a road trip
HER: Yes!
HER: But its still in Mexico
ME: Ah really,! Which city? I love Mexico!
HER: Puerto Escondido Have you been there?
After this, she was asking all the questions.
3. With this girl, I took the chance of asking a question without being sure she was warm enough. I did this because
she was answering very quickly and I felt I could get away with it. I then proceeded to build a fantasy to open her
up more permanently.
ME:
HER:
ME: Cute photos!
HER: Thank you
ME: Hows your luck on Tinder so far?
This is a line from Fillers (next section)
HER: its more fun and nothing serious so far
HER: and you have already found your dream woman here?
ME: I dont know, just started a while back haha
ME: Can you be my dream woman
HER: If you are my dream man, it could work
ME: How should I know if I am?
HER: I like humorous, tough and intelligent men.. The three main characteristics of my dream man
ME: Wow Nicole, before I got your msg, I wrote those 3 words on a piece of paper to describe myself!
HER: hahaha, very funny
She is now quite warm, so I get her Facebook and seal the deal three days later. More on Facebook Close and
The Finish coming up.

Event Invitation: This move is most effective for matches who are proving especially difficult to warm up. Invite
them to an event that raises your value and helps fuel a conversation. If you are sneaky, you will find out about a
super exclusive event and invite them to that, even if you do not actually have access. When asked about it later,
you can always say I couldnt make it, too busy that night.
During a fashion week, I arrived at an Adidas event to find out that Pharrell Williams, the signer, had just left after
giving a brief interview. I got my friend to send me the photo he took of the celebrity. I then sent it to ten matches
(added on Facebook, but since gone cold) with the caption omg, I just saw Pharell! Nine out of ten responded
within the day.
It can be any famous or exclusive event, or another activity that sounds like a lot of fun. It is better not to frame it
as a question. Here are some examples:
Time for XYZ festival/concert, get pumped!
Wedding party on a yacht, bring some friends
Driving out to [nice beach] ! Come for a tanning competition
hey, Im booking a vacation to [paradise destination], youre coming right?
Only use a question if you can get away with sounding absurd. Nobody likes serious questions, especially early on.
Remember: These girls are usually long shots. Therefore, the goal is primarily to raise your value and warm them
up. If they accept a false invitation, then make an excuse and postpone to another time. If you have the real deal
going on, make sure to let all your cold matches know. This way, you can gradually get some of them to come
around.
In order to maximize your chances of opening her up, warm the temperature incrementally and think of creative
statements that will trigger a conversation. Ideally, she will be the first to ask a question about you. Otherwise she
will respond something insightful and signal a growing interest. Abstain from asking about her until she is engaged
or you are willing to take a gamble. When done successfully, you enter the next phase: the conversational fillers.
In summary, Opening follows these benchmark procedures:

STEP 2: The Fillers Have A Fun Conversation
Fillers serve to hold a simple, yet stimulating conversation until she is warm enough for you to go for the FB Close
(next step). This should be achieved within 7-15 exchanges including the openers. The conversation should
remain superficial. Save the deeper rapport building for when you have her on Facebook (explained in next
chapter). Keep her wanting more and do not act like you are taking the interaction too seriously.
Here you can start to be yourself, but this needs to be an optimal version. Ideally, you have momentum and are
getting quick replies; however, this is not a must. You can space out fillers across medium time intervals, so long
as she is consistently replying. You must respect the Sweetheart Principle, Conversational Value indicators and
Temperature Theory. Even though you are finally in a proper conversation, warm her up gradually. This means, do
not ask too much from her too quickly, or she risks cooling down or falling silent.
Here are some questions to fill the conversation, in gradual order of investment.
Yes/No Questions
The lowest investment questions are of the Yes/No variety. This being said, generally avoid Yes/No questions
because they slow down a conversation. The girl will answer, but might not ask a follow up, leaving you running
on empty. It is much wiser to ask questions that will require proper answers.
The only time such questions will actually help the conversation along is when you are guessing something about
her. This is most effective when you are guessing something a little far-fetched, that way if you are right you gain
value, and if you are wrong it will be funny and she will correct you. To come up with these, use her photos or
other info, and be creative.
Such questions can almost always be formulated as a Yes/No statement. This is much safer because you have a
chance to recover if she does not answer.
88 Omg, you own a lama?

99 Omg, you own a lama! If this was in her photos, can also serve as an opener.
88 I like your travel pics, are you a certified backpacker?

99 I like your travel pics, you must be a certified backpacker
88 Oh nice, do you own that restaurant?

99 Oh nice, you are a restaurant-owner!
88 Oh wow, are you extremely rich then?
99 Oh wow, you must be extremely rich! You can follow up with lets merge our financial empires
88 Ah, so youre the hardcore party type right?

99 Ah, so youre the hardcore party type!

Easy Questions
These questions should also help you understand who she is in order to tailor the rest of the conversation. Here
are examples:
Whereabouts are you from?
Notice that I do not ask Are you from here? because this is a yes/no question. The word whereabouts gives
her a chance to be more specific if she comes from the current city. This is a very low investment question
and she will often ask you the same in return. If she is a tourist, say Oh perfect, I can show you the cool spots!
What part of town are you in?
This will help you later for setting up the date. If you two live close, it will be much easier to suggest something
near your place. Do not say where do you live? because it comes across as creepy.
Are you a student or professional?
I dont advocate talking much about work at this point, but this question can help know what kind of girl
youre dealing with. Depending on the culture, students will have radically different interests and attention
spans than professionals.
Fun Questions
Once you feel she is engaged, move on to some of the more stimulating questions. Here she will have to invest
some time to answer, but she will be motivated so long as the questions are fun and original.
So hows your luck on Tinder so far?
This can spiral into all sorts of entertaining conversations. Do not ask specifically if she has met anyone else
yet. Just joke about the other guys on the app and the superficiality the entire concept. When she asks you
about your success so far, just say you started not long ago, but you find it fun. Do not say you have met
anyone through Tinder.
How do you know [friend or interest in common]
Will only work if you have a common friend or a rare interest in common.
Any cool plans for the weekend?
This is purely conversational, abstain from trying to plan anything with her except as a joke. Remember, you
are much better off getting a one-on-one date, but planning this will come later.
What are you up to right now (other than swiping like mad)?
This will enable you to gage if she is usually busy on evenings.
Whats the weirdest thing youve seen on tinder so far?

Have something funny in reserve in case she asks you. Ideally, something value-increasing like a girl harassing
you for sex.
AVOID:
88 Talking about serious topics like work, studies, the news...

88 Boring topics like the weather
88 The How was your weekend on a Sunday. Almost every guy will be asking this and she might very well not
answer.
88 Talking about the date unless it is as an exaggerated joke or fantasy

88 Getting upset about anything, even if she is taking long to answer or being rude. If she is taking long to
answer, bid your time like it is no big deal. Just act slightly put off with a k.. or a right. if she is suddenly
harsh. How would a sweetheart act?
Girl leaves mid-conversation
Sometimes, you will be having a proper conversation, but the girl will suddenly stop answering. As usual, make
sure she has logged in since your last message before assuming she has ignored you. If she is indeed active on
Tinder, but has stopped replying, she most likely got distracted and forgot to follow through.
This is not a serious snub. Trust me, when you are overwhelmed with matches, there are some questions you
forget to answer. Wait until the next primetime and send her the equivalent of a cute poke. My personal favorite
is the hiding monkey:
If you do not have this emoji, or it is not your style, choose another. The important thing is that it means little and
appears nonchalant. This should draw her back to the conversation and make her realize she has a question to
answer.
Build a Fantasy (if you have not already)

Fantasies are powerful openers, but also a great conversational tool. In fact, it is often easier to escalate into a
fantasy from information she gives you in conversation. If she plays along, realize that your conversation is at a
peak and you should be eying the Close very soon.

Do you speak emoji?
Lovem or hatem, your success will be far greater if you speak emoji. On Tinder, the girl has no idea who you are. If
she has to guess your emotions, she will assume you are like the other douchebags on the app. Therefore, it is very
important that you speak with plenty of emojis, especially when something is up for interpretation. Also include
a laughing haha or lol when something could be seen as serious.
Here are the most useful emojis and how to use them to your advantage:
The Smiley: This is the most useful. use it whenever you would be smiling in real life. Very effective to
appease something seen as forward or sexual innuendo.
Squinting Smiley: When something is both funny and a little forward.
Blushing Smiley: Use sparingly because it will make you look shy. Avoid with women who seek a very
alpha male. Best to use after you say something awesome about yourself to avoid looking like you are
bragging.
Cheeky Smiley: Use when you are poking fun at her.
Ouch Smiley: If she pokes fun at you and you want to show that you have a sense of humor. Can also
express surprise.
Kiss Smiley: Usually only shared between couples. You can easily come across as creepy if you use this
smiley. Best used when she is pretending to be upset about something and you are giving her a little
sweetness.
Crying Smiley: This is much better than a sad smiley because it is exaggerated and funny. Use when she
shoots down a fantasy or is not available to do something you suggest.
Shocked Smiley: Use when she says something you do not want to hear.
Surprised Smiley: Good when she says something you were not expecting or reveals something
particularly interesting about her.
Weirded-out Smiley: Used in the Openers section when a girl does not let you get past Opening without
falling silent. Also use if she says or does something strange that you do not like.
Unimpressed Smiley: Similar to weirded-out smiley. Use if she is not engaging properly. For instance,
you ask a question and she answers hey. Also use if she refuses to give out her Facebook or Instagram.
The Perverted Wink: Most guys will shoot themselves in the foot when using this emoji. If you say
anything that could be interpreted as sexual and add a wink, she will think you are a pervert, like so many
other guys on Tinder. In this scenario, even if the intention is to up the sexual ante, use a regular Smiley
instead. Trust me, the reception will be much smoother.
The wink still has its use. It can soften a joke that teases her ego. It is also a cute way to say hello; for
example, when messaging her on Facebook for the fist time. Whatever you do, avoid looking cheesy or
eager. Apply with caution!

In summary, here is how Fillers should lead up to the next and final step on Tinder, the FB Close:

STEP 3: The Facebook Close
Sooner rather than later, you need to leave Tinder and begin to chat with the girl on Facebook instead. There are
several reasons for this. The first is that girls do not view Tinder matches as elements of their social life Facebook
friends share a much stronger bond. Second, it helps to get away from the social stigma associated with Tinder
and other dating apps. Finally, it is an opportunity for you and the girl to give each other a background check and
to display some social proof (explained in the next chapter).
How to leave Tinder

The Facebook Close should be achieved within 7-15 exchanges (or 14-30 messages) including the openers. Avoid
getting into anything too profound or talking for hours on Tinder. Remember that the Fillers are supposed to be
light and fun forms of banter. After trying many different FB Closes, the one with the highest probability of success
is the following:
This app is a little buggy, whats your FB name, lets talk there
Notice that there are no question marks to avoid the yes or no framing. There is also a call to action, known to
be a psychological instigator. Finally, you are not framing the move as a personal desire, but rather as a necessity
because of the apps limited chatting capacities.
If the lead is warm and the conversation is going swimmingly, go for the close before you lose momentum. The
Ping Pong is in short game, so work it up to a peak. Then take a slightly longer-than-usual pause (2-3 mins) before
answering one of her questions. This will get her a little wary that you might suddenly have something more
important to do. After the wait, answer the question and throw in the FB Close.
Here is an example:
after opening
ME: Hows your luck on tinder so far?
HER: Ha Ha I hate it its not my thing
HER: and Urs?
ME: I just started, but seems quite cool haha
ME: Hate it, hahaha, are the guys weird?
HER: Ha ha yes here you can find some nice girls
HER: Yes
ME: Oh well Ive heard german guys are very strange ;)
ME: French is a much better bet, trust me, we invented romance, haha
HER: Ha ha maybe its right so u r not German so you must be some kind of interesting guy

2 minute pause
ME: I think so
ME: This app is a little buggy, whats your FB name, lets talk there
HER: [her FB name]
If a girl is stubbornly tepid, evaluate if you are losing momentum the longer the interaction persists. In the case
that you are, use the FB close rather than lose value. You will have a better shot of getting her to come around
once you are Facebook friends.
The Negative Cases

Although our FB Close has a very high success rate, there will be girls that will refuse to give out their Facebook
names. Here is how to bring them around:
Her profile is private: Sometimes you cannot send a girl a friend request if you have no friends in common. This
is not really an objection. Just tell her: You profile is private, add me, its [your name]
She prefers Whatsapp (or other chat app): Whatsapp can be useful for communication, but never ask for it before
the FB Close or it will nullify its effectiveness. When she offers her Whatsapp instead of Facebook, just say you
dont have the app. She will usually come around and give you her FB name.
She does not add people she does not know: This girl probably also does not meet people outside her social
circle. However, you might still have a shot. Avoid telling her the obvious facts that she can block you later or that
she can add you as a limited acquaintance. Girls do not respond well to cold hard logic. Just send her a k... or
unimpressed smiley: . She should feel that she has ruined the conversation and made you think she is strange.
She might decide to come around.
She doesnt use Facebook very much: This is usually another formulation of the previous objection. Therefore
respond in much the same way.
I need to get to know you better first: She is interested, but she is concerned about due process. Just say sure,
what would you like to know? . Put her on the spot to avoid losing value. You can also say sure, ask me 3 really
good questions, and if I answer right, we continue on FB .
When these recommended responses do not work, the conversation will hit a standstill. There is no point in
reinitiating using openers. You can now settle for a phone number or her Whatsapp. If she refuses even these,
your last resort is to wait a day and then tell her ok well Im going to delete tinder, it would be a shame to lose
contact. If she is still silent, block her and move on.

The spontaneous scenario
Under the following circumstances, you can skip the FB Close and go straight for the meet-up via Tinder:
99 You deem that her photos are clear enough and you do not run a substantial risk of an ugly surprise (having
her Instagram helps avoid this).
99 The interaction is already red hot over Tinder

99 She wants to meet you that very same day.
In this rather rare case, the FB Close could ruin the spontaneity and possibly the desired anonymity of the whole
experience. Make sure to get her Whatsapp or phone number to hold her accountable in case she suddenly
disappears and stops responding on Tinder.
The better your Tinder game gets, the more you will rely on Facebook to screen your matches and only go on
dates with the ones you really want. You will get picky because you will have many options. Spontaneous girls are
usually not the best quality ones and you will quickly grow tired of the easy pickings. The next chapter explains
how to optimize your image on Facebook to become irresistible, even to those every-day beauties you only dream
about.

Facebook: the best background check

Common Traps: Who Is She Really?
Most times, a girls Tinder profile is not enough to let you know if she is truly worth meeting. Having her on
Facebook means that you can get a better grasp of who she really is and what she really looks like. Here are some
of the girls that are probably not worth your time.
The fat girl in denial

These are the girls who have become experts at taking pictures that make them look skinny when they are actually
huge. I have nothing against curvy girls who embrace their look. They are marketing themselves correctly and will
get guys who love them for who they are. Fat girls in denial are out to trick men into thinking they are someone
else, and this is very counterproductive for everyone.
To avoid surprises, apply special scrutiny to all girls that leave room for doubt about their actual size. Ask yourself:
- Is she taking a lot of photos from the side?
- Is she always wearing black?
- Are her armed thicker than they should be?
- Are most of her photos close-ups of her face?
- Has she avoided posting beach photos?
Do your research or you will get some BIG surprises! Some girls have crafted their profiles expertly, so be rigorous.
When I am not able to eliminate all doubts, I tend to assess that they are hiding something. If you feel it is worth
the risk then go for it, but make sure you know what the risk is before diving in!
Ugly girl in hiding

These girls had a mysterious or exciting profile picture that made you swipe right without knowing what they
actually look like. Once you get them on Facebook, you realize that you still would not be able to recognize them
on the street. Watch out, these girls are probably hideous!
Similarly to the previous case, these girls are out to trick and must therefore be outsmarted. Here, you must ask:
- Does her Facebook have surprisingly few photos?
- Are all her photos selfies or taken with her computer cam?
- Does she use a lot of very strong photo editing effects?
- Is she never tagged in photos with friends?
- Is she always wearing sunglasses?

I have met some gorgeous women that have failed the above tests. Although rare, there are pretty girls that have
a weird aversion to Facebook and will have very few photos. When in doubt, ask her to send you selfies, ideally
during the day. Girls find this fun* and will usually comply (more on photo sharing in Reinitiate and build rapport
over Facebook).
*Note: Girls do NOT like being told that they have too few photos on their profiles. They have plenty of guys
willing to meet them based on the limited insight they provide. Even the pretty ones will take insult at essentially
being told that their profile is rotten. Therefore, avoid saying can you please send more photos and instead say
oh youre at work, send a selfie!
Gold Diggers
These girls cannot be wowed with good conversation or charm. They are looking for a rich guy that can provide a
flashy lifestyle. Unless you are very wealthy, these women will have scanned your profile and already deemed you
unworthy. As a result, they will turn ice cold and heating them up is a waste of time.
The common signs are:
- Is she often with much older men?
- Do most of her photos focus on luxury? (Expensive hotels, champagne, cars, brands)
- Does she have a job that could never afford her such luxuries?
- Does she frequent clubs known for hosting gold diggers?
These girls will usually not sleep with you until you have spoiled them sufficiently. If you want to risk wasting your
time, make sure to invite her to high-end events or venues. Talk about all the things you would want to spoil her
with, and then try to sleep with her as quickly as possible. Your wallet and your intellect should suffer minimal
damage.
If you think all this analyzing is excessive, know that all girls will study you just as carefully before taking the time to
meet you. If is therefore of paramount importance that you take the time to fully optimize your Facebook.

Optimize Your Image
Refer back to the chapter Create the Irresistible Profile for all the principles to guide you. However, if you are
like most people, you have had Facebook for many years and have not always been careful to perfect your image.
Therefore, add girls as Acquaintances and optimize what they are allowed to see. This trick, as well as others, is
explained in detail in this section. Combined, they will assure your Facebook only enhances your appeal.
Add Tinder girls as Acquaintances

In order for this to work to your advantage, you need to temper with the various Facebook settings and ensure
the following:
99 Acquaintances cannot see photos you are tagged in*

99 They cannot see what others post on your wall
99 They cannot themselves post on your wall*
99 They can only see the profile photos you make visible to acquaintances
99 They can only see the albums you make visible to acquaintances
This should ensure that you would not need to filter through all the junk you have been tagged in over the years.
Also, you do not need to apply a sensor every time a friend posts something dumb. All you need to do is select the
best from the material you have already posted.
Ideally, you will want to have as many value indicators as possible. Therefore, have some cool albums of you
travelling or participating in events. Also, share some of your best Instagram photos on Facebook. If you want to
see how good you look to a woman, just use the View as tool and check yourself out!
*Note: Many girls will add you as an acquaintance and limit what you can see or do on their profile. As usual,
women are typically far ahead of men when it comes to social engineering.
Hide the friends you are adding

Go on Facebooks options and ensure that no one can see whom you are adding as friends. If you fail to do this,
your actual friends will begin to wonder why you are adding dozens of women every month! Also, your Tinder
matches will see you as a player. The Tinder girls you add on Facebook should feel that they are unique and that
you do not do this with everyone.
Delete her from Tinder

Once you have her on Facebook, it is recommended to wait a day and then delete her from Tinder. This way, if
things are going really well, she will not be able to see that you are still chasing after other women on the app.
When she asks why you are no longer in her list, just say that you deleted the app. If you prefer the honest route,
just say: I dont want to see how active you are with other guys

Reinitiate And Build Rapport Over Facebook
Once you are both Facebook friends, you have reached a certain safe zone. Many girls will delete the app shortly
after trying it, making you one of the only surviving matches. Also, you are now communicating in a much more
casual way which is ideal to build deeper rapport. Here I explain various tools to get to know each other better
over Facebook.
Send something cute directly after the add

Once you are notified that she has accepted your friend request, I recommend you send her something cute. I
personally go for the winking smiley: . The goal is to open a conversation window without committing yourself
to actually starting a discussion. If you have a good memory, wait an hour or two. Many girls will message you first.
You can send this first message outside of primetime. However, just like on Tinder, only start real conversations
during primetime to maximize your chances of getting her engaged.
I do this because I am adding so many girls, that some risk getting lost in my friend list. Having opened a convo
box helps me quickly see which girls are currently on my radar. Her response to this cute little nudge will also help
me gage her temperature. If she fails to respond, I know I will have to use another opener.
Opening up a Facebook conversation

It is primetime and you want to continue raising her temperature over Facebook. Unless she immediately starts
asking you questions, you should start the conversation with an opener. The previous wink is a great way to see
how willing she is to engage directly after the add. If this is not the first Facebook conversation, use a hi! or
hey you! .
A novice will then launch into a second opener immediately or whichever question is on his mind. This is a mistake.
A good conversationalist will know to wait. Once the girl responds, you know she is in a mood to chat. If she does
not answer, something has made her cool down.
Luckily, opening a conversation on Facebook is much easier than over Tinder. Here are some of the new tools you
have at your disposal:
99 Detailed information about her: You can now access all her basic information (hometown, schools,
profession) and many of her interests. If you have a strong link to one of these, bring it up in the opener. Be
careful not to talk too much about work.
99 Way more photos: Have a look at her pictures for something you can use. Avoid using something too
specific. You do not want her thinking you had a detailed look at all her photos. For example:
BAD: I cant believe you went to that restaurant four years ago!
GOOD: Wow, that beach you just went to really reminds me of Miami!

99 You can send photos: A picture is actually worth more than a thousand words. If you are doing something
cool, take a picture and send it with a caption. This ought to start a conversation and raise your value. Careful,
selfies are still banned. Therefore, take a photo of your surroundings or have someone else take one of you.
This intrinsic value boost makes such an opener ideal for leads that have gotten very cold. Remember the
Pharell Williams example (Event invitations, in The Art of Chatting chapter)? Whenever you are doing
something really impressive, use it to your full advantage and let the girls know. This is similar to posting
in Moments, but it is more intimate since you are sending it directly to them. Some of them have simply
forgotten how cool you are and need to be reminded.
99 Callback Humor: In a previous conversation, if you used a joke or a fantasy, bring it up as an opener. This
will put her back in the emotional state that had her attracted to you in the first place. As you get better,
you will know to create such humor to build a bond that you can revive later. This is a powerful tool, but be
careful not to rely on it too heavily to carry the conversation. Quickly switch topics once she is engaged. For
example:
ME: Hi!
HER: Hello!
She is not asking questions, so I need a convo opener
ME: Ive chartered our flight to paris
HER: finaaaaally, when do we go?
Great, now the conversation starts
ME: Its waiting, what are you up to right now?
HER: I cant Im at work ...
Now I have taken the conversation in another direction
ME: Working at this time, that cant be healthy . What do you usually do to relax?
99 You can see if she is online or not: You have a better notion of her ability to answer before you even open.
The best time to message is when she is online with her laptop. Otherwise, wait until she is online with her
mobile. Be careful about relying on the seen caption to determine if she has read your message. Many girls
are cunning and will read your message without clicking on it. As with Tinder, assume she has seen it if she
has been online since you sent it.
Since you are now on Facebook, if she fails to answer, you cannot use the Facebook Exit or the Electroshock
(previous chapter). If after a few openers, she is stone cold, wait a few days and ask:
hey, are we still friends?
Most girls will understand that you are about to unfriend them. This can trigger a reaction due to the same
principle of loss aversion.

Rapport builders
For Facebook, I do not call conversational topics Fillers because they should be a lot deeper than those discussed
on Tinder. On the app, the content should be very light and the goal is to reach the FB close as fast as possible. On
Facebook, you need to build rapport in order to bring about the critical temperature that will allow for setting-up
a date.
The best way to build rapport is to have her share stuff about herself. Fortunately, girls absolutely love to talk
about themselves, so all you have to do is ask the right questions. Then, provide valuable insight on the subjects
she is describing. This will create a much stronger bond than the simple horse-trading of information. Also, act
more and more interested, like her investment is gradually winning you over.
On the flip side, men also love to talk about themselves. Dont be one of those attention-seeking chumps. When a
girl asks you a question, answer it concisely*, and then try to relate it to her with have you ever tried that? or we
should totally do that together next time. Ideally, you answer questions in such a way that will instigate a return
to her talking about herself.
*Note: Now that you are no longer on Tinder, you should start lifting some of the mystery you have created
around you. She is now earning the right to get to know you better. However, make sure to stay interesting and
passionate about the elements in your life. For instance, she really needs to know what you do for a living, say
something like I do accounting, it absolutely fascinates me! Did you ever like math in school?
A girl will want to know some essential things about you, but her temperature will rise quickest when she feels
that you are understanding who she is. Building rapport in this way will also help you craft a good understanding
of who you are dealing with. You can then adapt your approach accordingly. Here are some fun topics to gain
insight on the womans personality:
99 What do you do to relax? This can help her imagine relaxing with you. It can also set the groundwork for the
date to come.
99 Are you the party type? Often, the girl will seek to justify that she is not. You can then say that you prefer a
chill drink with good conversation. Again, if she agrees, you are subtly preparing the date.
99 If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be? You can then easily build a
getaway fantasy based on common travel interests.
99 Whats your favorite place to go on vacation? Similar to the previous line.

99 Whats the craziest thing youve ever done? Based on the answer, you can understand if she is a risk taker.
99 What do you do for fun (apart from Tinder)? This way you can learn about her hobbies and passions.
Try to use these questions in context, not out of the blue. Also try to have them spin off into an insightful
conversation where you make her laugh and discover commonalities. Have a cool answer ready when she asks
you the same question in return.

Selfies to build rapport
Ask the girl for a selfie whenever she mentions doing something specific like:
- Working out at the gym
- Going to bed
- At work
- Getting ready for a night out
In reality, it is difficult to choose that perfect selfie. The girl will have to invest quite a bit of effort to please you.
This is also a picture she has taken spontaneously just for you and no one else. Feel free to compliment her.
If, and only if, she asks you to take a selfie in return, you may finally do so. This is the only time you are allowed
to take a selfie. You are accepting to be silly just for her. Make sure you dont look too try-hard and that you are
happy and personable. Exchanging selfies will make her much more likely to meet you and can also lead to sexual
escalation (see next section).
As you warm her up and you both get to know each other better, the conversation can evolve into one of three
directions:
1. The topics turn intimate, even sexual, and can spiral into all-out dirty talk (next section Sexual escalation
techniques). It becomes possible to skip the date altogether.
2. You need to schedule a date, but you do not have time, therefore you apply a time-bridge and leave the
conversation hot for next time (final section Closing conversations and keeping it hot)
3. You hint towards the date and gradually begin planning it with her (next chapter Setting up a great date)

Sexual Escalation Techniques
Sexual escalation refers to making the girl imagine you as a sexual partner. This does not mean you should talk
dirty right away and risk alienating most self-respecting girls. The escalation is done through gradual steps to
avoid burning promising leads. Although this strategy is risky, I recommend a minimum of sexual escalation in all
interactions because it makes them more fun and paints you as a confident male.
To do this skillfully, you need to apply two steps forward with the ability to take one step back. This way, if you
sense that the girl is uncomfortable, you can still recover. Some of these notions have already been explored in
previous chapters. Creating a fantasy is a light form of sexual escalation. Saying something very forward, but
covering with a smiley, is a good way to escalate sexually while maintaining the ability to take a step back. These,
as well as other techniques, are elaborated in this section in progressive order of intensity.
Remember: Girls will have different limits to how far they are willing to escalate with a guy they have never met.
You must keep an eye out for this psychological limit. She will usually shut down a suggestion or hint that what
you said was a little awkward. Once this has occurred, take a step back and focus on setting up the date. Do not
try to push the limits further until you have met her in person.
Joking and misinterpretation

Now that you are building rapport over Facebook, keep an eye out for things she says that can be interpreted
sexually. This makes for good humor and, if she plays along, can quickly escalate further. Do not forget to always
add a to avoid looking creepy and to let her know you are mostly joking. Here are some examples:
Are you inviting me over? or Are you inviting yourself over?
This is funny when she asks you what you are up to or she describes that she is doing something fun at
her home (like watching a movie or cooking)
Wait.. you want me to apply some soap? / tanning oil?
This is if she mentions she is going to shower or to get some sun
Are you essentially asking for a massage?
When she says she has had a busy day at work.
Uh oh, does that mean youre going to booty text me late at night?
When she says she is going out partying with some friends.
Great part of town, do you want to move in for a few months? / can I move in for a few months?
Since you say a few months, you are clearly being absurd. If she agrees, say ok perfect, do you
snore? Then, if she says no, continue with ok, but will you keep me awake with other funny
business? If she warns that she might keep you up all night, you know its on.

If you feel the girl is warm enough, you can also foster a sexual tone by bringing up funny topics. Here
are escalations you can initiate from scratch:
My legs are so sore from that work-out, can you give me a massage?
If she agrees, you can talk about lighting candles and giving her one in return. See how far you can push
it until either she balks, or you are both plainly talking about sex.
I left the AC on for too long.. come provide body heat?
This is also funny and silly, but can rapidly escalate
[bring up a fantasy].. but do you think wed be able to keep our hands off each other?
Fantasies created beforehand or sparked during a conversation are ideal to escalate into intimate and
sexual descriptions.
For all the above suggestions, the innuendo is kept quite light. Even if she does not play along, you will have
upped the sexual ante. This plays a powerful role on her subconscious. She may not be ready to talk dirty, but she
will understand that the two of you are going to be more than just friends.
Intimate role-play
In this frame, you are addressing the woman as if she was your girlfriend or partner in a casual relationship, even
though you have still not met her. This is the next level up from joking and misinterpretation because you are now
fully embracing the roles, rather than merely being suggestive. If you reach this level of affectionate language, the
date will come across as a no-brainer.
You should start using pet names at this stage. For those of you who are not used to using these in person, this is
great practice. Sprinkle some of the following terms:
99 cutie (rather light, good to begin with)

99 baby, babe
99 sweetie
99 chrie (personal favorite, this is the French equivalent of sweetie)
99 sexy (yes, if you have reached to right temperature, keep it hot by calling her sexy)
You should also start emulating physical intimacy by sending or xx. If you see the girl is not reciprocating,
then you must drop the role and revert to a normal tone.
Sometimes, the girl will initiate this frame by using pet names and kisses, but usually it will evolve out of the sexual
innuendo from jokes and misinterpretation. Make sure to keep up the sexual undertone, but vary with a bit of
romance. Say you will cook for her or take her to beautiful places. If you are doing something fun, take a picture
and say you wish she were there. She is your imaginary girlfriend after all!

If a girl lets herself get carried to this level of intimacy, she will thoroughly enjoy it. She will be longing to finally
meet her prince charming. She may even be willing to come straight to your home for a glass of wine (and
perhaps more). Escalation over Facebook can save you considerable time and effort!
Dr. Stinsons rapid escalation
When he was between jobs, Dr. Stinson was living with his father. This meant that he could not bring girls back
home and had little money to spare on dates. He got into the habit of jumping almost immediately into intimate
role-playing with his Tinder matches. This aggressive approach would burn 9 out of 10 girls. However, the
remaining matches were very keen to see him. He would then invite himself over to their place with just a bottle
of wine and sleep with a different girl every week.
If you cannot afford to invest time or money, sexual escalation is the proven method for skipping the date
altogether.
Dirty talk and dirty pictures
For a long time, I thought Dick Pics were the expertise of Internet perverts and convicted felons. Then I went
travelling with The Marv and found myself rolling on the floor laughing because he would regularly send dick pics
to several Tinder matches at the same time. The worse part about it: they would all react with a burning desire to
sleep with him!
After a while, I began to think there was something to it. I started replicating some of the Marvs techniques and
soon enough, I was exchanging dirty pictures with girls that seemed completely normal at first glance!
Firstly, consider adding the girl on Snapchat if she is already a user. This is messaging app that will automatically
delete the image after 1 to 10 seconds. Many girls will feel more comfortable sending naughty photos if they think
you will not be able to keep it on your phone.
Next, use methods to escalate without looking like a pervert and while maintaining the ability to take a step back if
she is not comfortable. This being said, even the slightest misstep can alienate a girl for good. When starting out,
use these techniques with women you are willing to risk losing.
Selfie escalation: Keep in mind an important factor: if you want to escalate into sexual photos, you will almost
always have to go first! Here is how to go about it:
Youve just asked her to take a selfie and now she is asking you to take one in return. You can then say:
Ok.. but Im just coming out of the shower...should I still send it?
If she is even slightly unsure, just say never mind, haha . Never send a shirtless selfie unless she is eager to
receive one. If she insists, send her a photo of you with just a towel around your waist (it definitely helps to have
a relatively attractive body). Gage her reaction. Her acting surprised is not a bad thing, but it mandates waiting
before escalating further. On the other hand, if she is turned on, ask her for a sexy selfie right away.

Another angle is to take a selfie of you tanning. It should only show the top of your body, not your swimming
trunks. After she reacts, say:
Im actually tanning naked...
When she shows disbelief, offer to prove it to her. Assuming she is adamant, say that you will only if she send you
a sexy pic in return afterwards. Once the pieces are in place, go into the bathroom to photograph your reflection.
You should be naked, but the picture should go from you head to the beginning of your package. Do not show
the whole thing yet!
When she finally sends you a sexy picture of her, compliment her with something like yummy or sexyyy.
Finally, to push things further, say:
I just took a really naughty photo.. I dont know if I should send it
If she insists, it is time to send her the infamous dick pic! Make sure you are at least semi erect and that you have
trimmed the forest. Also, ensure the lighting and the angle compliments the size and girth. Add a or a as a
caption then sit back as she gets filled with joy!
In summary, this is the safest progression is selfies to send the girl:
Naked + towel > Naked but only partly revealing > Dick Pic
Dirty talk: Two of you have exchanged some explicit photos and it is time to describe the kinky things you have
running through your mind. Ask her what she wants to do with what she saw in the dick pic. Tell her to touch
herself while looking at it, then to send you a photo or, even better, a video.
When she says she wants to have sex with you, ask her which positions and get her to send a selfie of her expecting
you, legs spread.
Describe the things you want to do to her and how aroused you are thinking about it. Send more dick pics if she
desires it*.
*Note: All sexual escalation tactics are far more likely to be effective with girls you have already met in person. If
the date went well, but sex did not happen, I definitely recommend pushing the sexual envelope before investing
more or your time. Far more girls will be open to sexting someone they have shared some intimate time with.
Once you have escalated to this point, you will have a girl dying to come over and have sex with you. These
tactics will only work with a small percentage of women (depending on culture), but it can make for some wild
adventures. Therefore, practice pushing sexual escalation until you understand what her limits are. Identify the
girls with a voracious sexual appetite and give them exactly what they want.

Closing Conversations And Keeping It Hot
You have built some good rapport and you have thrown in some sexual jokes. You know she is not the type to skip
the date because she did not allow the sexual humor reach higher levels. You will need to meet this girl in person
to take things further.
Unfortunately, most women have a lot of trouble planning more than two days in advance. Scheduling further
ahead leaves women feeling burdened and they will likely cancel or change the plans. Therefore, if you do not
have other dates lined up, or some personal activities during the following two days, you need to create a time-
bridge. The purpose of a time-bridge is to leave the girl eager to meet you, without setting up a concrete date.
Here are the steps:
1. While building rapport, bring the conversation to a peak. This means she is highly engaged and you are
building a strong connection.
2. Before it cools down, say you have to run off and do something. I should be an activity that boosts your value,
such as:
99 Going to the gym

99 Going to an important meeting
99 Going to bed because you have important business the next day
99 Meeting friends
99 Going clothe shopping
3. Use this line: Lets talk soon, maybe even in person
4. Her reaction to this line will let you know if she is ready to meet. If she ignores it or says something hesitant
like maybe, then you know she is not warm enough and you will have to put in more work next time you chat.
If she reacts positively to the suggestion, give her two date options. By answering, she is implicitly accepting to
meet you. I like to opt for: Ice-cream or drinks?
5. Finally, ask her when she is usually free. This way, you learn when you should talk to her again to plan the date
in more detail.
Most girls will opt for the ice-cream option because it is lower commitment. I only suggest this to target the
broadest possible range of girls. Once I actually get around to planning the date, they usually always accept to
meet me for drinks instead. The trick is to get them to accept small things, like a short hypothetical meeting,
before bigger commitments. Date planning is detailed in the next chapter.

setting up a great date

Types Of Girls You Will Meet On Tinder
The tactics elaborated in this chapter are targeted at normal everyday girls. They have downloaded tinder out of
curiosity or in the hope of finding someone. When applying techniques from the previous chapters, they can all
be brought to a temperature at which they are willing to take a chance and meet you.
Before defining how to plan a date with normal girls, I would like to address some of the other girls and the tweaks
that are necessary when dealing with them.
The lone traveller

This girl is passing through your city as part of a broader trip. More strikingly, this is a trip she is doing on her own.
You are very lucky if you match one of these girls! She is likely to be headstrong and independent. Put in men
terms: she is mature enough to get sex when she wants it.
After building some rapport and sprinkling in some sexual tension, offer to show her something cool that tourists
usually miss out on. I like to ask her how long she is in town, and then say Ah perfect, that leaves us plenty of time!
After a good night, this girl will be happy to go to your home instead of her hotel or hostel.
The group travellers

Beware! If the girl is travelling in a group of two or more, she will be extremely difficult to sleep with. For one, she
is not as independent as the lone traveller since she is reliant on her friends for security during her trip. It will be
extremely difficult to get her to come out without them. Also, her and her friends are on Tinder to find free tour
guides or to get general tips on the cities they visit.
Even if you manage to get a one-on-one date, she will be weary about being alone with a local guy in a new city.
Her friends will be expecting her back at the hotel and she will not want to stay out too late with you.
I once made the mistake of inviting out what I thought was a lone traveller. It turns out she was doing a Eurotrip
with several girlfriends, but they were getting into town a day later. Although she was alone that night, she
displayed all the symptoms of the group traveller. She only used Tinder to get insights on the places she visits and
she had not met any men on her trip so far because friends always surrounded her. Needless to say, the meeting
was doomed from the start.
If you realize you are dealing with a group traveller, consider inviting the entire group. For instance, you may want
extra girls at an event like a house party. This way, you are using them as much as they are using you. Do not
expect anything from your match.
Expats and foreign exchange students

These girls are new to your city, but they are there to stay a while. They probably got on Tinder because they feel
they do not yet have an adequate social circle and are overall a little lonely. You should not have a tough time
convincing these girls to meet you.

Play up the fact that you know a lot of cool people and that you are well connected in the city. Offer to show her
a trendy place and she should eagerly accept. These girls are among the keenest!
Older women: taming the cougar

When getting to know an older woman, there are a few traps to look out for:
Do not mention her age: She saw your age on Tinder. She knows you are younger but still wants to get to know
you. Bringing up the fact that she is older will make you look insecure, an especially unattractive trait for this
demographic.
She mentions that you are younger: This is a test. She is sizing you up to see if you know how to handle an older
woman. I like to turn the situation on its head and say yes I am, does that intimidate you? You can then go on
to explain that younger guys have more energy and make for fiercer lovers. She will like this.
She says you look young: This is another test. She is not turned-off she just wants to see how confident you are.
I always respond: thanks! Its because I dont smoke and I exercise regularly . I will then move on to say in fact,
you look quite young, I would guess [age inferior to yours]. She will absolutely love that.
Apart from the aforementioned tests, treat this woman like any other normal girl. Odds are she swiped you right
because she is tired of the boring older men she keeps matching. Show that you have an edge and that you are
not afraid to take her on.
Models
These are the girls that have professionally shot photos on their Facebook and Tinder profiles. They deserve
special mention because they have an edge: their entire value is determined by something they do expertly. From
the very first opener, you stand at a value disadvantage.
Here is how to counter this. If you are a very attractive man (8 or above), use the following opener:
Oh cool, you also do modeling!
This is a joke, but she does not need to know that. Telling these girls I used to do underwear modeling for Calvin
Klein has proven very effective (and totally untrue). Most girls will have model-like photos, but not actually get
paid for the shoots. They will admit that they are not actual models and all of a sudden, you are in the power
position. If they really are models, you just evened the playing field.
If you do not have sufficient looks, open with the line:
Oh cool, you also work in fashion
You can then say that you have done some editing or managing work for a fashion magazine in the past. You will
then remind her of the few people in the world that she has to suck up to. Also keep in mind that, if she matched
you in the first place, looks are not as important to her as power or wealth.

This is a rare case where I advocate putting on an act. The truth is that girls that post their modeling photos are
likely to be extremely superficial. They are also immensely overvalued on an app as shallow as Tinder and will
be among the most difficult to sleep with. If you still wish to have success with such a girl, make sure to play her
game, or you will be eliminated at the gate.
Converting Warm Leads

For normal girls, setting up a date that will stick is the trickiest part of Tinder game. Failing to do this properly
can get you labeled as a guy she does not want to meet and thereby squander all the work done up to this point.
Much of the probability for success depends on rapport built-up in the previous chapter. Additionally, you need
to develop the skill to check if she is open for the date before even asking.
Remember the line Lets talk soon, maybe even in person from the time-bridge? This is an example of you
checking her temperature before diving in. Ideally, check her temperature regularly during the interaction over
Facebook. Naturally, if you have escalated to the point of intimate role-play, the signs are quite clear. However,
with most girls, you should make reference to the date, before formally inviting her.
Mention the date in conversation and check for temperature

These examples should be used at conversation peaks to maximize the chances of a positive reaction.
Ill explain that to you when we meet up
Use this when she is particularly intrigued about something. Her curiosity should push her to start accepting
the notion of going on a date, if she is not already fully convinced.
Are you as funny/witty/cocky/cute in person?
She will usually say she is even better in person. Since she is qualifying herself to you, you are gaining value.
I havent met anyone from tinder yet, but I actually feel wed get along great!
You are framing the situation as if you are the one that was skeptical and she has won you over.
Do you have to work early in the morning? I dont want you to be tired if I take you out
This line is great because it accomplishes many things at the same time. It shows that you care about her and
her work. It brings up a date and lets you see her attitude towards it. Also, you get insight about how she
feels coming into work tired. This is important because if you want to spot the girls that are uptight about
going to bed late. They risk cutting the date short right when things are about to get interesting.
If she reacts hesitantly to any of these date references, you need to put in more work and build a deeper rapport.
If she reacts enthusiastically, move on immediately to setting up the date!

Date scheduling
Be careful: you do not yet know if she is available in the next two days!
In the previous chapter, you built a time-bridge at the end of a conversation because you knew that you were busy
for the next two days. Here, you must plan for a time-bridge until you have confirmation that she is in fact available
sooner. Therefore, apply the same steps:
Check for temperature > Offer two date options > Ask when she is free
If she is not free within two days, say great, well plan something then and continue with the normal conversation.
You have just created a time-bridge instead of planning a shakey date*.
If she is actually free, say ok that actually works great for me too. Get her to agree to a time, and then suggest a
cool place. It does not even have to be one of the two options! As mentioned, I would always get girls to agree
to ice cream and then meet me for drinks.
*Note: After a time-bridge, you need to reinitiate a conversation gradually. This means using an opener like hey
, waiting for her to respond, bringing the conversation back up to a peak, and then testing the temperature for
the date. Although this can be done faster this time around, do not make the mistake of immediately saying hey,
are you still free to meet up today

Anti-Flake Protection
Girls are flaky creatures. Even among each other, girls will make plans and then cancel at the very last minute.
Women view social arrangements as a fluid process, subject to change at a moments whim. For men, we view
dates as a business-like commitment, especially when we have put in some work to make it happen.
So how do we reconcile these differences? When asked how he is able to write about a womans perspective so
well, Jack Nicholsons character famously said: I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability. By
default, women do not make strong commitments. Here are the two main reasons:
- Their judgment is more likely to be governed by emotion. This means that she may really want to meet you
while you are chatting, but later she can be in a completely different mood. Since women know themselves,
they do not attach much value to a given plan. They wrongly expect men to understand.
- Very few people will hold women (especially the beautiful ones) accountable for cancelations, so they have
the mindset that such behavior is entirely acceptable.
For the first point, we have already gone over all the factors that can influence her in your favor. If you have built
good rapport and elicited many positive emotions, she will be less willing to cancel. Also, planning less than two
days ahead minimizes the chances of something else coming up. Most importantly, your value needs to be high
in her eyes. Ask yourself: would she cancel a date with Ryan Gosling under any circumstances?
Even if a woman views you very highly, she can still suddenly choose to cancel as the date approaches and she
begins to feel nervous. In order to minimize this risk, you need to preemptively let her know that you would not be
happy with such a move. Be careful, this must be done without looking insecure or like many other women have
done this to you already. Here is the approach that has worked great for me:
Right after setting up the date, I will say: Are you reliable?
This way, you are asking her to put her reliability on the line. The connotation with unreliable women is that they
lie and cheat. At least now she knows how you will categorize her if ever she cancels.
Some will try to dodge this question by asking what you mean or pretending they do not understand. They are
merely trying to avoid a strong commitment. I then like to say:
Im just wondering, if we make plans will you cancel last minute? Sorry I dont do this very often
Now you are the innocent sweetheart whose notion of women will be shattered if she cancels at the last minute.
Since you do not do this often, she cannot assume that something like this has happened to you before. Indeed,
she would be the first and probably the last.
At this point, women should all have reassured you that they would never do such a thing. This does not bring the
risk of flaking down to zero, but pretty damn close!

Dealing With Flakes
Unfortunately, no matter how good you get, flaking can still happen. At first, this used to enrage me. I have a
busy and fulfilling life, who is she to think she can leave me without plans for an evening? Having a business
background, I also found such a move to be indicative of very poor personal values.
I have since turned this thinking entirely upside down. If a girl cancels, she has entirely justified it to herself and
she does not care how you feel about it. Trying to get her to reverse her decision will only make you come across
as weak and desperate. If you understand women, you see this as a normal behavior to be expected at times.
Experiment: Try cancelling last minute on a girl. You will see that this will in no way ruin her day. In fact, she will
still be willing to meet you another time.
You need to act like this does not bother you in the slightest. Since you are high value, you will use this free time
to do something else just as fun. For example, you can give another girl a chance:
Ok no prob, Ill invite someone else
Get in the habit of planning dates with backup plans in case she flakes. Also, avoid planning a date that requires
any investment before she actually meets you. Her flaking should cost you nothing. If I had a cool event planned
and I absolutely wanted to be accompanied, I would usually invite two or three dates and then cancel if ever more
than one was available.
Importantly, when she cancels, remain in a cheery mood. Ask her when could work better, but do not schedule
a new date. She probably cancelled because she was nervous about the whole situation. To get her to come
around, you will have to build deeper rapport and then invite her out for something lighter and with a limited time
horizon, like a quick coffee. (more on date ideas in the next chapter)

Techniques For Stubborn Medium And Cold Leads
As you get better at getting dates with Tinder, you will reason that girls who refuse to warm up are not worth
the hassle. Either they saw something that disqualified you or they have a deeply engrained reluctance to meet
anyone outside of their social circle. Conventional openers will not work, and trying too many will make you lose
value. You need to put these girls in a special category.
Label these girls as what they really are: acquaintances on the very fringe of your social network. They are like
someone you met quickly at an event and exchanged information just to be polite. She cares little what your think
of her and you should feel the exact same way in return. If she realizes you take offense at her distance, you will
have no chance to bring her around.
Instead, continue portraying yourself as the social sweetheart. Publish cool photos on your Facebook and
Instagram. Occasionally invite these girls to cool events or activities, but formulate it as a mass invitation of the
type: Headed to special party at X rooftop . Do not care whether or not they even respond. Do not send out
the invites more than every two weeks.
These girls will usually not warm up to a one-on-one date, but they may accept an invitation to something cool.
Usually, they will entertain the possibility, but never show up. You do not care - it is all a numbers game. If they
have stopped responding to invitations, try the hey, are we still friends? Finally, delete them and move on.
The reality with Tinder is that it is very difficult to warm up leads that have cooled down substantially, and the more
time passes, the less the girl will care. I recommend getting back to swiping and starting fresh!

tactics for in-person tinder dates

Date Ideas And Framing
Tinder dates need to be simple and relaxed. As explained previously, this means minimal investment on both
ends. You have never met the person before, so nothing justifies putting in a lot of effort into this first meeting.
In fact, if you go out of your way to plan something great, the woman will feel uncomfortable. She has not yet
earned your affection and therefore she will think you are either desperate or expecting something in return for all
your troubles. Sorry, this means no fancy restaurant reservations or hot air balloon rides. Furthermore, if she flakes
on an elaborate date, you lose a lot of value and you can almost never recover.
The date should feel like the natural progression of your Facebook conversations. You both know each other a
little and you want to see if you get along just as well in person. Keep in mind that most women have had some
terrible dates in the past, especially from guys on Tinder who do not know what they are doing. In order to come
across smoothly and to avoid resuscitating bad-date trauma, you should follow these two guidelines:
1) The date sounds like it will not last very long: This will reduce your Risk Premium. Many guys sound great
online, but will bore them to tears on the date. The girl needs to know that if this is the case with you, the suffering
will not be dragged out for too long. Of course, once you have her in front of you and she is having fun, the date
will turn out to last much longer than expected.
2) The vibe should be very casual: Act like you are expecting absolutely nothing. You just want to see if you two
click in person. You can predefine topics of conversation (travel stories, art, music...). She should not have to dress
up or go too far out of her way.
The following date inspirations are explained in order of commitment. It is much easier to get a girl to agree to
a walk in the park or an ice cream rather than a drink at a bar. As you get better, you should push for the higher
commitment options, since they will save you time and energy.
Walk in the park

This is the easiest suggestion, especially if one of you two owns a dog, or it is a beautiful day outside. Define a
short, but beautiful promenade (lets say 30 minutes). Of course, once she shows up, you have brought towels to
lie down and tan, perhaps also some snacks. If the mood is right, you can even bring a bottle of wine.
Ideally, the park is near your home. If not, it helps to come by car. The point is that you need to have something
planned afterwards near where you live. The time spent in the park should be used to get her comfortable to
accept one of the higher-commitment date options, preferably that same day.
Once she accepts, say you need to stop by your home to quickly pick something up, like your wallet. This is a
classic trick: she will get a first glance at your apartment and be much more comfortable heading back there later.
You can also gage how comfortable she is with the idea of coming to your home so fast. Next, bring her to the
second date location.

Coffee or tea
This date is short and very casual. You can do it during a lunch break or in the afternoon on weekends. Much like
the walk in the park, use this time to get comfortable with each other. Once it is clear that you get along, convince
her to grab a drink with you later.
I like to use this date with girls I am not quite sure about yet. This way, I do not waste much time. Of course, I make
sure not to go far out of my way. Either the caf is near my place or it is somewhere I was planning to go anyway.
If this is not the case, choose another date option.
Ice cream
This is a cute original suggestion that women are quick to agree to. If you have an ice cream store near your home,
I recommend offering this over a coffee. You can also propose to go eat the ice cream in the evening or at night,
making it easier to grab a drink directly after.
In a girls mind, eating an ice cream will not take very long. She will probably be willing to travel a bit to see you,
since there is a sweet reward awaiting her. I would not accept to go near her place for an ice cream unless there is
the possibility of another date directly after (see next suggestion).
Grabbing a drink near her place

If the girl lives in a trendy area, she may insist on showing you a cool spot she knows. This can be fun, but only
accept this suggestion if you own a car. Otherwise, you are taking a big chance and you have very limited options
for taking her home.
With a car, you have a golden opportunity. Simply park near the meeting spot and meet her by foot. Walk her to
the desired bar and order a non-alcoholic drink. Insist that she grab something with alcohol and explain that you
are driving. By now she has seen that you are a normal cool guy, and she will be a little disappointed that she is the
only one drinking. As the date progresses and she becomes increasingly attracted, make the following suggestion:
I want to grab a real drink with you, I do not live very far, lets drive there so I can drop off the car, then Ill take you
to a cool place nearby.
If the girl is sufficiently attracted, she will always accept. Park in from of your home and invite her inside*. If she is
not willing to do this quite yet, do the forgot something trick, and then bring her to a nearby bar. Now that you
have had a drink, you cannot drive her back for a while. You should have an easy time getting her to come relax at
your place (see next section on logistics).
*Note: If you do not actually live within walking distance of a decent bar, you will need to make sure she comes
inside you place to grab that drink. Even though I lived near plenty of bars, I would always convince the girls that
my apartment was the best bar around.

Grabbing a drink near your place
Choose a cool bar in your area. I suggest a trendy lounge with sofas so you can sit next to each other and engage
in flirty physical contact. If you need to drive a little to reach this bar, do not drink and apply the tips from the
previous option. In this scenario, the girl is agreeing to travel away from the areas she usually frequents. This is
relatively high-investment, but also more effective than the past suggestion because she will likely get a chance
to see where you live.
When you invite her, do not mention that the bar is near your place. If she is hesitant, fall back on another date
option. Once you become skilled at building rapport and showing value, you will almost always be able to convince
her. I like to throw in: You have to try the cocktails there. My treat . This is a cute way of reassuring that you
will be paying.
Once you are there, order a drink that will take 30-45 minutes to consume like a cocktail or a tall glass of wine.
One should be all that is necessary. Before the end, i recommend going to the bathroom and actually taking the
opportunity to pay the check when she is not looking. This will save the awkwardness when the bill arrives.
By the time the drink is finished, she should be having a great time and not want the night to end (see Stimulating
Tinder-specific topics and lines to keep the conversation hot). You can then use my carefully crafted line:
Come, Ill show you where I live, its only two minutes away
Some girls will agree like it is no big deal. Some girls will look at you suspiciously and begin saying something like
ohh you think its going to be that easy dont you! At which point you need to swiftly counter with:
Its not what you think, I just have some really good wine and I want to show you my place. I promise I wont make
a move on you.
If the date has gone well, this frame should reassure her. You have now set up a fun game whereby you cannot
make a move on her, but you will seduce her into making the move on you. This is explained further in the next
chapter.
Help her up and lead her out of the bar. She will usually gasp: But wait, we still have to pay! Just smile and wink.

The Creepy Car Guy
Owning a car is a great advantage for controlling the flow of the date and for saving time. However, beware of
one crucial mistake:
Never offer to pick a girl up in your car!
The girl will imagine entering the car of man she has never met and the alarms will go off. She will picture you as
a rapist or a kidnapper. These are not the look you want to go for!
The girl needs to talk to you for a least a few minutes before she will be comfortable getting in a car with you. For
example, you can suggest a drink near your place and the girl will say that she does not know where it is or how to
get there. If it is not a hassle to pick her up by car, just say you will meet her where she lives and you will head to
the bar together (she does not know it is out of your way). If she asks how you will arrive, just say you will probably
take public transport or a cab.
Once you actually go meet her, park nearby and meet her at her door. Chat a little then say you though it would
be easier to come by car. She will actually be glad to hop in with you!
Invite her to something cool you wanted to do anyways

If you have some activities on your bucket list, like visiting a part of town or attending a special event, invite a
Tinder match to come along. This can be something you were about to do on your own or an activity you would
rather do accompanied. This carries a relatively high investment on her part, but very little for you.
For example, when I visit a new city, I get Tinder matches to show me the main sites. This way, I do not have to
invest precious tourist time in a date. Instead, I get some good company during the activities I was meaning to do.
Such meet-ups will actually build better memories and trigger more emotions than simply going to grab a drink.
Its two birds with one stone!
As another example, when I was in the mood to relax, I would convince girls to come to the spa with me. Naturally,
this spa was only a few minutes from my home.
You should not invite a warm match to an activity where your friends will be participating. This will dilute the
quality of the interaction. Save such invitations for the medium and cold leads.
No matter what date option you select, you should minimize the factors that will be left up to chance. Girls like
a man that displays leadership and knows how to get what he wants. Therefore, learn to think of all the possible
outcomes and how you will steer them towards your goals. When things are going well, do not lose momentum
by wondering what to do next. The girl should not have to make any suggestions, you have already thought of all
the steps. Mastering the flow of a date is known as logistics. This is the topic of the next section.

Logistics: The Key To Success
I am constantly baffled at how intelligent men will stubbornly disregard logistics in their pursuit of women. They
prefer to just go out and see what happens. These are some of the common results:
- They will invite a woman back for a drink, but have no alcohol in the house
- The girl will come over, but the roommate is playing poker with a few friends and spoils the mood
- They will initiate sex in a messy room that smells like pizza
- Of course, they will have forgotten to buy condoms and the girl leaves disappointed
With Tinder, you have the luxury of collecting a ton of information about the girl before the first date. You also
know exactly when and where you will be meeting her. Failing to optimize the logistics is simply unforgivable. In
other words: if you fail to prepare, prepare to fail.
The main logistical elements you need to work on optimizing are the location, the means of transport and your
home.
The date location

The location selected for the date should be conducive for proper conversation, relaxation and a gradual increase
in intimacy. If she has selected the location, look it up and suggest another if the logistics are off.
Here are some of the small details that will make a big difference:
- Sit next to her: This way, you are both looking at the rest of the venue. If you are sitting face to face, there will
be much more pressure on the interaction. Also, you must be able to casually touch her and increase the intimacy.
If you are meeting her at a park, bring a large towel instead of two small ones. If you are sitting in chairs, pull one
up within arms reach. If you cannot casually touch her here, she will not be comfortable when comes the time to
escalate further.
- Interesting setting: Conversation will be much easier if there are other people or an interesting dcor to talk
about. The meeting will also come across as more of a fun experience than an actual date.
- Proximity to your home: I feel I cannot say this enough. You must try to convince the girl to meet you near your
place before settling for another date option. This will greatly increase your chance of success.

Means of transport
The means employed to go to the date and to head back home are very important in determining the outcome of
the night. Here are the elements to keep in mind:
- Do not let her take her car: If she comes to meet you in her car, she will most likely not want to drink and she
will have a quick and easy way to leave the date. Both make for bad logistics. If you spot that she was planning to
drive, offer an alternative like picking her up in a cab (or actually in your car). You can imply that you do not want
her to drink in drive.
- Have access to your own car: As explained in the previous section, if you must go out of your way to meet her,
having a car will give you a huge edge. This being said, make sure it is tidy and you have some good music ready
to play. If you own a junker, leave it in the garage.
- Know the public transportation schedules: If a girl misses the last bus or metro, she will suddenly be more
inclined to sleep over. Simply say you can drive her home the next day, once you have sobered up.
- Other means of transport: If you do not have a car and you must travel during the date, make sure you know
exactly where you are going. Any sign that you are lost and the girl will start wondering what she is doing with
you. My personal favorite is to hail a private driver with the app Uber. This will come off as much slicker than taking
her home in a cab or bus.
Your home
Having a nice place is far more important than driving a flashy car or wearing designer clothes. The state of your
home will immediately determine if she can see herself spending time there and, crucially, if she would like to
sleep over that night. Here are the elements to revise before going out to meet a girl.
- The home must be clean: If you are not a tidy person, make an effort right before the date or hire a cleaning lady.
You bed must be made, clothes folded and the smell should be fresh. No girl will want to follow you into a messy
bed with dirty socks in it.
I would usually purposely leave a small mess on my desk. When I would arrive to show a girl my place, I would take
a few minutes to clean it up and say Im sorry, I was not expecting to have company tonight...
- Have some alcohols in stock: Almost all girls will appreciate a good wine, but you should also keep some vodka
handy just in case. This provides the ideal pretext for coming back to your home. It will also ensure that she relaxes
and that the sexual tension rises at a healthy pace.
- Have a good playlist ready: When the sexual tension reaches critical levels, you do not want to break the mood
in order to fix the music. I recommend a Deep House mix. These hypnotizing vibes set a great mood. Whatever
you choose, try to play some music she does not already know. This will fascinate her and keep her from talking
too much about your taste in music.
- There should not appear to be anybody else around: If you live with other people, arrange that they be invisible
when you enter the home. The best is to text them in advance. Many girls will completely exclude the possibility
of sex if they think they will be overheard.

- Arrange for proper lighting: The lights must be dimmed when you arrive or dim quickly after you turn them on.
Completely dark is weird and too much light will prevent her from getting in the mood. Trust me, this will make
a big difference!
- Have a spare toothbrush and contact lens solution: Believe it or not, this can seriously tip a girls decision in
favor of spending the night with you.
- Have some condoms near the bed: Keep them within reach, but out of sight. This way, you do not have to get
up and look for them when the moment arises. This is an absolute must for health reasons and because many girls
will refuse to sleep with you unless you have some.
Beyond these tips, this sections goal is to get you to scrutinize and carefully break down all the manageable
variables affecting your dates. Proper logistical planning will multiply your rate of success. Most guys have no clue
what they are doing and girls will be amazed to find themselves on a date where everything flows so smoothly.
Luckily, logistics is the most important factor and it is also the easiest to fix. You do not even need much practice
- just get in the habit of properly preparing your dates beforehand.
Logistics is the entire machine that is either robust or shaky. In addition, proper conversation is required to give
it motion. You do not have to be an expert conversationalist - you just need to be able to guide her through the
date without losing steam. The next section contains advice to ensure she never gets bored.

Stimulating Topics And Lines To Use On Tinder Dates
This section will inspire you to come across as fun and interesting during the date. Girls from Tinder, especially,
will enter the date feeling quite nervous. Many have never ventured out on a blind date before. The primary aim
should be to make them feel relaxed and comfortable. For this, you need to focus on giving off a casual friendly
vibe.
In person, how you carry yourself will matter a lot more than what you say. As you get better at dates, you will
radiate confidence and women will feel drawn to you. If you are interested in speeding up your learning, there
exists a whole science aimed at perfecting your game during dates. Such material is beyond the scope of this book
but I highly recommend certain readings on our website: www.tinderadvisor.com.
In essence, be cool and relaxed and the woman will be glad she is spending time with you. Follow the tips in this
section so that you do not have to think so much about what to say, but instead focus on calibrating your body
language and reading her comfort levels. The more relaxed she feels around you, the easier you can convince her
to follow you back home.
Avoid killing the mood

Here are the things to absolutely avoid talking about during a Tinder date:
88 Me, myself and I: The most common complaint I get from woman is their dates could not stop talking about
themselves. Just like on Facebook chat, you want her to open up and talk about herself. When you share
stuff, make sure it is relevant to what she has been saying. Of course, answer her questions, but avoid lapsing
into long monologues about your life. Keep it light and entertaining.
88 Work: Naturally, if you have been working all day, this is the easiest topic to relate. Make an effort and talk
about something else! My motto is I dont talk about work past 7pm. Even if you work in the same field,
do not make this the premise for your conversation. Your goal is to free her from work-related stress and to
bring her relief by talking about more relaxing subjects.
88 Politics and religion: I am sure you have a lot of great insight about both of these topics, but please keep it
to yourself. You are trying to have some casual fun, not spark an ideological debate.
88 Something depressing: You want her to feel happy around you, so avoid provoking any negative emotions.
88 The Exes: If she asks questions about your ex, answer but keep it brief. You do not want her thinking you still
care or that you have some baggage. Similarly, do not ask about her ex. Most girls will bring up past relations
at some point in the conversation, but do not dig for more details. What matters is now, not the past.
88 Anything you are insecure about: The girl does not want to know about your problems. If you are trying to
lose weight, coming into money problems or on the rocks with your parents, keep it to yourself. She is not
your councilor and she is likely looking for someone who can resolve his issues on his own.
Girls will often bring up some of these mood-killers. When this occurs, you must guide the conversation safely
back into the light and fun category.

Fun topics and lines
So what is left to talk about? Plenty! You can discuss travelling, hobbies, passions... These will pass the time and
get her comfortable. Additionally, make sure to apply some elements that will boost her attraction. Here are some
topics that spark fun conversations and create spikes in sexual tension:
99 Sexual interpretation: Anytime a woman says something that can be interpreted sexually or gives away
something about her sex drive, you should tease her lightly and launch into a sexual conversation.
For example, she could say that she loves chocolate, to which you could comment ah because it is an
aphrodisiac! But whats the point of turning yourself on during the day? Then proceed to launch a discussion
about how much sex is necessary to stay healthy. Women love talking about sex. Of course, make sure you
have some interesting insights.
Avoid making her feel like a slut. This would be highly counterproductive. Let her know that you think she
has a naughty side and that you dig it. Whenever you talk about sex, describe it a fun activity, necessary for
a balanced lifestyle.
99 Where are your sexy selfies? Often during a conversation, a woman will show you pictures on her phone.
Act interested and start swiping through her photos. After a while, ask: where are those sexy selfies you take
in the mornings? Often girls will actually have nude photos of themselves on their phones. Even if she does
not, this will spark tension and create a fun scenario. She will blush and say that you cannot see them. As
attraction rises during the date, you can get her to playfully agree to send them to you later.
99 Are you on Tinder right now? There will almost always be a time in the date where the woman will check
her phone for messages. This is the perfect opportunity to say: Are you swiping on Tinder right now? She
will blush and you can tease her for being a Tinder addict.
99 Talk about past Tinder dates: This is best saved for midway through the date. Put on a serious look, stare
her in the eyes and ask: So... how many Tinder guys have you met so far? You can then laugh about her bad
past experiences. If you are the first, talk about some of the creepy guys she found on the app.
When she asks about you, the answer should already have been prepared. A girl will much prefer hearing
that she is the first one you meet. If you admit she is not, say the other dates where fun, but that the girls
were not your type. She should not begin to suspect that you are a Tinder expert. Girls want to feel that they
are special, not just another number.
I would sometimes tell this true story to boost my value and let the girl know that I am not the type to get
attached too quickly. Feel free to borrow it:
I went on a date with a Turkish/German girl. I was her third Tinder date and the previous two had gone very
sour. When I asked her why, she told me it was because they fell in love after the first meeting. Even though
she did not sleep with them, they both started saying she was special and that they wanted something
serious. The funny thing is, after the first date with me, she started displaying that exact same clingy behavior
she disliked so much! She did not learn from her two suitors! I politely told her I was not interested.

99 You look better in person: Even if it is not always true, I girl will love to hear that her pictures do not do her
justice. You can then talk about how most girls are experts at looking much better in pictures. Site funny
examples of girls who looked good on Tinder, but turned out to be huge once you added them on Facebook.
Ask her if she has had similar experiences with men and how she would react if he turned out to be very short
or very overweight.
99 Is Tinder an app for casual sex? This is a useful topic to discuss because it allows you to reassure her that
you do not expect easy sex when meeting her. In fact, you see Tinder as a great way to meet new people.
Explain how it is better than meeting in a club or grocery store because you get a lot more insight on the
other person before investing time. It also helps to mention an article or the story of friends who actually
found love on Tinder.
This way, she knows that this a genuine date and that you did not get on Tinder hoping for shortcuts. When
casual sex actually happens later on in the night, it should be because you built up strong attraction, not
because you used Tinder.
99 Trust me, not all Tinder dates are this much fun: If you are her fist Tinder date, warn her not to go home
later and start swiping every guy right because she had fun with you. Talk about how most girls have bad
experiences and name a few examples. Say you were not expecting anything when meeting her and that
you are pleasantly surprised that you both get along so well. This will make her feel special and paint this
date as a rare opportunity.
The above suggestions help make her comfortable with the fact that the two of you met on Tinder. They also bring
a considerable sexual element into the conversation. To properly build attraction, you need to learn to spot the
difference between creating discomfort and sparking sexual tension.
She is uncomfortable the mood turns awkward, weird or when she hints that you went a little too far. If this
happens, realize that you need to slow down and take a step back. Sometimes, she will start off uncomfortable
(like when you ask if she has any sexy selfies), but then realize that you are smiling broadly. Like the smiley in
chatting, humor can help prevent discomfort and even replace it with sexual tension.
Sexual tension will cause her to blush and stutter, but also laugh as her temperature rises. Whether she likes it or
not, the conversation is making her think about having sex with you. Progressively dialing up the sexual tension is
crucial to build up her attraction and bring her to the point where she can no longer resist tearing off your clothes.
If you are escalating fast enough, while atoning for possible discomfort, you can lead into the final elements of the
date that will convince her to spend the night with you. This is the subject of the final chapter.

coup de grace: the finish

Setting The Right Objectives
A proper seduction begins with the opener and ends with sex. There is nothing chauvinist about admitting this.
The woman matched you because she saw you as a potential sexual partner. The question is: do you have what it
takes to win her over? You will only know the answer once you sleep with her.
All girls, naughty or nice, downloaded Tinder and agreed to meet you in hopes of finding intimacy. If you take
too long to charm her into bed, she will look elsewhere. After all, she has hundreds of matches waiting for their
chance. Do not worry about taking it slow - that is the womans job. Your objective is the following: get her to
trust you and escalate as fast as possible to the level of attraction where she is willing to have sex with you.
The previous chapter elaborated different date ideas and how to lead her from one to the other. Moving through
the steps may take several meetings, but ideally they should all happen in the same day. Proper logistics and
skillful conversation will determine your ability to glide seamlessly between them. If the girl is a really tough
cookie, here is the full process:
If you feel she is comfortable and you are building a good connection, practice skipping some of the stages. There
is no harm in hinting at taking things faster. At worse she will show resistance and you can take a step back. Here
are instances where proper escalation accelerates the process:
99 Straight to the intimate date: With proper rapport built over Facebook, you can convince a majority of girls
to meet you for an intimate date.
99 Straight to your place: It is possible to convince the more adventurous girls to grab a drink directly in your
home. They usually know what they are getting themselves into. If you would like to follow Dr. Stinsons
example, try inviting yourself over to their place instead!
99 Straight to Sex: Over Facebook or Snapchat, if you escalate into dirty talk and dirty pictures, the girl will be
willing to have sex pretty much as soon as she walks in the door.
99 Going from the casual date directly to your place: You can convince a girl to come grab a drink at your place
if things go really well during the casual date. It is all about making her feel comfortable!
Sex is the main goal because before it happens, you are just a stranger she decided to meet from Tinder. Once you
have spent a night together, you take on a relatively special position in her life. From this point, you can usually
choose to develop the intimacy in the direction of your choosing (more on this in What comes after scoring at
the end of this chapter).
In essence, be the seductive force that can overcome the womans inhibitions. She will thank you for it. This
absolutely excludes begging or being forceful. The next section explains how to get her into your bed in romantic
and exciting fashion. In fact, she will often be the one making the move on you!

Pushing The Sexual Tension Into Overdrive
At this point, you have convinced her to come hang out at your place. If you did the forgot something trick earlier
in the day, this is not her first time visiting and she should already be comfortable. Otherwise, you convinced her
by offering to show her where you live. If you have something else of particular interest in your home, you can
use it to help tempt her. For example: the infamous come over and see my dog do backflips. Either way, it needs
to sound fun and get her curious.
She will not accept to come over if she does not feel relaxed around you (conversational skills) and if your home is
too far away (logistics). However, once you become skilled at dates, you will be able to get any Tinder girl willing
to at least come check it out. The key to convincing the toughest girls is this line from the previous chapter:
I promise I wont make a move on you
This deals with the girls only possible remaining fear. She knows you are a cool guy and going to your place
sounds convenient and fun. She would hesitate only because she is worried that you will take the opportunity to
make a move before she is ready, thus ruining the whole evening. By promising this will not happen, she will agree
to pursue the date in the comfort of your home*.
*Note: As a subtle logistical detail, you invite her to your home when the date feels incomplete. If it has already
lasted for a while or you have had many drinks, she can decide to call it a night and see you another time. However,
if you have only had one drink and she is starting to enjoy getting to know you, she will not want the evening to
end. Once she sees you want to leave the bar, she will know that the only way to continue the date is to come with
you. This will also save you money on drinks!
You should use the promise I wont make a move with every girl you invite because it sets up the ideal frame. You
are the man and your job is to escalate the sexual tension, but at the same time you are not allowed to make the
first move. This creates a fun environment and will actually allow you to escalate much faster.
Here is how this will play out once she is in your home.

Where to sit
As the two of you enter your place, turn on some music and pour the drinks. The lights should already have been
dimmed before you left for the date. Next, you have a few choices about where to sit:
99 Chairs: This is the least intimate because you are each sitting on separate entities. If you must sit on chairs,
make sure they are right next to each other.
On my balcony, I had a large camping chair that could barely fit two people. I would always say: hey, lets
see if we can both fit on here. Next thing you know, we dont have a choice but to cuddle and interlock our
bodies.
99 The couch: This is a decent option. Make sure you sit close to her so you can gradually start caressing her and
perhaps even give her a massage. If she looks at you coyly, just tell her that you are just touching and that
you will keep your promise not to make a move. The couch can turn into a nice place to make-out later on,
but you will almost always have to transition to the bed when comes time to have sex.
99 The bed: You are golden if you can find a reason to sit down on the bed as soon as you enter the home. It
helps not to have any other options in the room and if the bed is within reach of a table so you can rest your
drinks. Already being in a bed will accelerate sexual tension and will help sex come about more naturally.
No matter where you choose to sit, you need to be within range to touch and eventually kiss her. This is essential
to create a sexual vibe.
Physical escalation
You now have her within reach and you might feel like devouring her immediately, but you must show restraint!
If you have followed the conversational advice from the previous chapter, you have already begun building up
sexual tension earlier in the date. Subsequent physical escalation in your home should therefore appear as a
natural continuation. The trick is to move slowly. Do not suddenly leap in! Turn her on gradually to the point
where she is dying for you to break your promise.
Here are physical escalations in increasing order of intensity. If she becomes uncomfortable, take two steps back
and work your way back up.
99 Light touching: This will come across as normal during conversation and should already have been initiated
during the date. Keep looking her in the eyes, but touch her legs and arms lightly to add emphasis to what
you are saying. Occasionally, accidently brush past her breast and act as if you do not notice.
99 Feel her body: Pretend this is out of scientific curiosity. Say you want to see if she has any muscles. If she is
in good shape, compliment her as you squeeze her stomach and legs to confirm. If she is curvier, lightly pass
your hands around her form and tell her how much you like her bodys shape. This will build comfort, get
her slightly turned on and reassure her that you are attracted to her physique. All are important precursors
to sex.
99 Stroke her body: If she has some exposed skin on her back, start lightly passing your fingers along the area.
This should be very subtle, like the level of pressure that induces goose bumps. If her back is covered, focus
on the rear of her neck, passing behind the ears. Eventually, venture down beneath her shirt, but quickly
come back up.

She might question you for doing this. Just say that you enjoy touching her and encourage her to relax and
enjoy it. Reassure her that this is permitted so long as you do not kiss her on the lips.
99 Massage her lower neck: From the light stroking, you can start to massage her neck and upper back. Whisper
that you are helping her release stress from her long day. She might ask you for a full massage. You should
accept, but keep it to no more than ten minutes. Tell her the massage will feel better if she takes off her shirt
and unclips her bra. Once finished, return to the conversation and have her massage your neck while you
talk.
99 Smell her hair or neck: Bring your head closer to hers and smell her hair. Take a slow but deep breath. You
can also smell the perfume on her neck. Whisper that she smells amazing. Tease her for using a seductive
brand of shampoo or perfume. Explain how hard she is to resist and how unfair she is playing.
99 Kiss her, but not on the lips: You are conversing in very close proximity, while stroking her body lightly. Lean
in as if you were going to smell her again, but this time, kiss her on the forehead. If she likes it, later kiss her
on the ear and then neck. Go back to the conversation as if nothing happened. If she calls you out, just say
you are attracted to her, but you are a man of your word, so you will not kiss her on the lips.
99 Tempt her to kiss you: If all other escalations have gone smoothly, the girl should be quite turned on by this
point. The sexual tension is running high. Tell her its too bad you cannot kiss her. Give her an Eskimo kiss
by having your noses touch lightly. Grab the back of her neck as your lips come dangerously close. Let her
know she will have to be the one to make a move on you. She will either leap in or hold off to tease you a
little. Since her lips are close, you can surprise her by licking her upper lip. If she is taking too long and the
attraction is at a peak, get her to command you to kiss her.
The great thing about waiting so long to finally kiss is that once it happens, she will want to release all of the
build up in an explosion of passion. The first kiss will actually be an intense make-out. You can immediately start
touching her breast and ass. Sex will feel greatly overdue and you should be able to guide her to your bed within
minutes.
Often, you will get stuck at one level of intimacy and you will not be able to move forward without creating
discomfort. This is normal; especially when you are still new at creating sexual tension with a girl you just met for
the first time. Even once you are highly skilled, a woman may be reserved and unused to acting frisky in the middle
of a conversation. Whenever you are stuck, do not push ahead! This will ruin your chances with her. Simply accept
that, with this girl, it will not happen like in the movies.
Fortunately, you can then try a different angle. If the physical escalation is proving difficult during the conversation,
convince her to sleep over that night. This can suddenly revive the sexual tension and get it to hit boiling. It is a
lot easier to escalate once you are both in bed with only your underwear!

The sleep-over proposal
She has been at your home for a couple of hours. The conversation is going well and you are touching her on
occasion, but the mood is not quite right to escalate further. Ideally, she has missed her last bus home. You should
start hinting that she is better off spending the night. If you want to be cautious, say something like:
You can spend the night here you know. This couch is very comfortable.
This is funny and will help you gage how she feels about waking up at your place in the morning. Once you have
sufficient comfort, you should rather say:
Actually, my bed is really comfortable. I can even split it with you. Well both take half and well make sure to stay
on our side.
This is also a humorous way to invite her to stay while excluding sex from the equation. If she is still hesitant, you
can list some of the benefits, such as:
99 You have a spare toothbrush and contact lens solution.

99 You can drive her home early the next morning, once you have sobered up.
99 You will make her a killer breakfast.
99 You are not expecting sex and you are just doing her a favor because you enjoy her company.
If she cannot be convinced, it is no harm done since you were just being nice. Help her call a taxi and consider if
she is worth pursuing in a second date.
A surprisingly large number of girls will be tired and find your bed too difficult to resist. Say you only sleep in
your underwear, and try to get her to do the same. Proceed to cuddling and start applying some of the previous
physical escalators. Usually, sex will happen rather quickly. If the comfort is still insufficient, give it another try in
the morning - many girls associate a lot of positive emotions with morning sex.
By the end of the date, you must get to the point where the girl admits she wants to have sex with you. If
despite all these efforts she is not attracted enough, you know you need to practice creating more trust and sexual
tension.
However, even if you are successful and she is burning with desire, there is still a final obstacle. Some girls will
insist that they cannot sleep with a guy on the first night. The next section gives you the tips to overcome such
objections.

Overcoming All Potential Objections
You and the girl have reached the stage of intimacy, yet she refuses to sleep with you out of principle. In the
gaming world, this phenomenon is well known as Last Minute Resistance (LMR). On Tinder dates, LMR can be
particularly potent given that this is the first time you meet after matching on a dating app. Essentially, the girl
does not want to feel cheap or to give you the impression that she sleeps around with every match.
You should see LMR as a form of test. She has suddenly destroyed the mood and put the whole experience in
question. How will you deal with this turn of events? If you get impatient and keep trying, she will remember you
as the guy she met on Tinder who wanted to sleep with her, but failed to get what he wanted. Indeed, most
guys will go mad with frustration and she will conclude that they were desperate for sex and trying to use her for
that purpose only.
Stay calm and insist you cannot help yourself: sex is normal for two people who are attracted to each other. You
both have a strong connection and you are doing what comes naturally. For most girls, repeating this logic should
be enough to make her feel special and come back to living in the moment.
For the more stubborn cases, you can also apply a freeze-out. Around the time where she tries to make you feel
bad for pushing ahead, stop all signs of affection and take some distance. You can even turn on the light and
check your emails. Make sure not to look angry, just disappointed. Since she was turned on, she will suddenly feel
a sense of loss and try to recreate the mood she just ruined. Let yourself get seduced, but tell her not to reproach
you for escalating sexually. If she tries to stop you again, return to the freeze-out and say she is taking the teasing
a little too far. Make her feel like seducing you without reward is totally unfair and that she is effectively ruining a
good thing.
Here are some specific objections you will run into and how to deal with them:
- She is not an easy girl: She needs some last minute reassurance that you have both developed a strong bond
and therefore she can accept to sleep with you even though she would usually refuse other men.
- You do this with a lot of girls: Again, she wants to feel special. Just tell her that you have both a strong connection
and a high degree of attraction. This is something that is usually hard to find. It helps for her to think she is the first
girl from Tinder that you sleep with.
- You will not want to see her again: Some girls worry that if they have sex with you too fast, you will move on to
the next target. Explain to her that this logic is self-defeating. If she ruins the moment, things will be awkward and
you two will probably not see each other again. If you two have fun, you will both want to repeat the experience
regularly.
- She does not know you well enough: Act offended. You two got along so well and were building a good
connection, why would she diminish it? Eventually, a freeze-out might be necessary.
- She is on her period: This is more of a technical objection than true LMR. Nevertheless, many men do not know
how to deal with this. If blood makes you squeamish, do not let it show. Many women will get seriously turned
off if they sense that you are disgusted. Look at her in the eyes and say that it does not bother you in the slightest
and that it is completely normal. Tell her to go remove the tampon and that, meanwhile, you will lay down a towel
on the bed. The key is to look completely unbothered. A woman may say that she does not like sex on her period,
but this is always a lie. A woman does not like a guys reaction - that is all. Think about it, she sees herself bleeding
5 days per month - there is nothing weird about it to her!

- She never has sex on the first night: Explain that it feels like you two have known each other for much longer.
You would usually never offer to have sex so fast, but you are really attracted to her and just cannot resist. Freeze-
outs will probably be necessary. Eventually, explain that you are not looking for anything serious and that you
want to keep having fun with her, but not if there is no passion. At this point she might confess that she wants
something serious. If you are not interested, make the choice clear: you can both have repeated fun starting
tonight or she should find another guy that is also looking to settle down.
If a girl is trying to get you to wait, she is probably hoping to get you to invest into something serious. This may
be because you came across as too much of a nice guy and did not put enough emphasis on the sexual tension. It
may also be that the girl is not the type to entertain casual relations. In the latter case, ask yourself if the possibility
of a relationship is worth exploring. If you do not see it ever happening with her, remain friends and find another
girl.
Once on the verge of having sex, if you fail to convince her that same night, you will have to build the mood back
up the next time around. It might be even more difficult because she will assume that you are expecting it. I
suggest prepping her over chat. You two have reached the level of intimate role-play, so talk about all the naughty
things you wanted to do last time around and what you have planned for her in the next meeting. Send some
photos!
As explained, LMR can be managed without losing your cool and without the girl leaving upset. Overcoming this
final obstacle means she has decided that she can trust you and that you have brought sufficient value to the table.
Sex is therefore the point where you confirm that you are good enough for her. The chase is over, but you are now
in the position to develop something great.

What Comes After Scoring
Congratulations, you have successfully proven to a woman that she can actually find a guy she likes on Tinder!
Hopefully, you put on a half decent performance in bed and the woman will want to see you again. You must
now decide how you will develop the connection you have started to build with her. Will you pursue a serious
relationship, create a casual sexual relationship, or leave it at a one-night stand?
This section provides a few pointers to help the woman understand what you want in the longer term.
A few words on sex
Many guys think that the aftermath of sex will largely depend on their performance. Dont worry: women are not
as shallow as we are! As long as you are not completely awful, she will remember sleeping with you as a positive
experience. This is because, all the foreplay leading up to the sex is also very important to a woman.
Here is a crucial tip: make sure to have an orgasm! The Marv and I had a long debate about this point at the
beginning of our travels. As a result, we asked women from around the world this question:
Which do you prefer, a guy lasting for two hours ending without an orgasm or a guy climaxing in the first ten
minutes
A whopping 95% said his orgasm is most important. Women gain the most satisfaction from knowing that they
managed to please you. So relax and focus on enjoying yourself. She is not expecting this to be the best sex of her
life, nor should you worry about giving it to her on the first night.
Have no fear of perfection, youll never reach it
- Salvador Dali
Keeping it to a one-night stand

If you feel you will only want to spend one night with the girl, make sure to have sex on the night you meet.
Do not worry: women are not nave. They understand that you two may not be compatible in the longer term,
but still want to make the best of some attraction built up during the date. There is nothing wrong with some
adult fun. They will not regret the experience, so long as you do not give them the hope that this could become
something more.
On the other hand, if you have several meetings, sleep with her and then disappear, she might be upset. Similarly,
do not make any firm future commitments during the seduction, like promising to see her again. The girl needs to
wake up unsure about whether or not she will hear from you. Ideally, she immediately discards the night as a fling.
In the days following the encounter, she might send a message suggesting a repeat or inviting you to another
date. Politely say you are busy, with no alternative suggestion. Girls will usually get the message the first time and
will not hold it against you. If you change your mind, you can usually see them again up to several months later
and get them interested in some casual sex. The benefits of honesty!

Create a casual relationship
This means you are interested in sleeping with the girl again, but as of yet, you do not want her to get attached.
Here are the rules to follow:
- Sleep with her on the first date, second at the latest: If the girl is getting you to invest too much time before
having sex, she is going to expect you to commit in the near future. She has also invested her time and she will
want something in return. You need to provide sufficient attraction for her to forget about anything serious and
focus on having fun. Seducing her quickly will also signal that you have your choice of women and that she should
not try to tie you down any time soon.
- Do not see her more than once a week: This is an established benchmark in the seduction community. Do not
bother testing it, you will end up in a relationship or you will lose the girl.
- No lazy mornings: Ideally, she is not spending the night at your place. If she does, make sure to wake up early
in the morning because you have work to do. You can always have a quick breakfast before dropping her home
and going back to sleep. Do not spend the whole morning lounging around lazily with the girl. She will start
thinking she belongs in your home.
- Use subtle reminders: It helps to talk about how great casual relationships are if ever you feel she might be
getting attached. Say something like: whats great about hanging out with you is that its not complicated like
all those serious relationships. We dont have to worry about jealousy, we can focus on work, we lead completely
separate lives, we have great sex ...
I recommend having a few casual relationships going on while you are single. You should not want sex and not
know where to get it. That will push you to make bad decisions like calling up an ex or waking up next to a girl
you are less than proud of. Having girls in your life will also help you radiate the confidence that other women find
so attractive.
Begin a serious relationship

When you find a woman that you feel has potential to become a girlfriend, do not let her get away. Use your news
skills to sweep her off her feet and get her to spend a night with you. Do not make exceptions just because she
is better than all the other girls! This will make her think you are trying too hard and that you do not have the
confidence to seduce her. Once sex is out of the way, you can focus on making her feel special.
Reward her for following her instincts and allowing herself to sleep with you. She should feel this was the right
move and that it intensified the connection you already shared. Send her a text the next day telling her that you
had a great time and that you cannot wait to see her again. Make sure the next date is much better than the one
that led to sex. Make it seem as if she caught you and not the other way around.
Show her that she is enough and that you are not looking anywhere else anymore. Yes, that means deleting
Tinder! (you can always reload your account later) Stop seeing your casual sex friends and quit all those Tinder
dates you had lined up. If you do not, she risks noticing and the drama will put an unpleasant stain on the rest of
your relationship. Let her know that you are ready to focus on building something that will last.
Most importantly, remember that relationships do not always work out. If she no longer makes you happy, you
should feel confident that you have the ability to find better. There are plenty of amazing women looking for that
sweetheart to win them over. Best of all, they are just a few swipes away!

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Traditional Attraction Phase

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Tinder is Not Yet Real Life

Differentiate Yourself By being The Absolute Biggest Sweetheart

(See chapter on Tactics for in-person Tinder dates)

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Here are some examples of frame variations:

My good friend Dr. Stinson is truly a pioneer in this field.

(read about Sexual Escalation Techniques in the Facebook chapter)

1. You have close friends in common with the girl

(see chapter on Setting up a great date)

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On Tinder, You Carry A Risk Premium

Optimize Your Perceived Value

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Methods For Dealing With Specific Flaws

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Avoid The Douchebag Trap

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So which one is cooler?

1. You smiling in a bathrobe with an amazing suite behind you.

2. You freaking out in front of a Hilton sign.

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Formatting The Perfect Shot

88 only your face

88 you wearing sunglasses

99 Have a photo of ONLY you, the sole focus of all attention.

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Other examples include:

99 being in a very nice restaurant with some wine or a fancy meal

99 You at the top of a mountain in hiking clothes or light ski/snowboard gear

99 Hold a camera and be in front of a set or a breathtaking setting

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Private Photo Trick

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Show Different Facets Of Your Character

Additional Mandatory And Optional Shots

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About White Panda

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Flying to the moon and back

The fortuneteller brought me here

Dancing in the moonlight... it just feels so right

Cute Line Evoking Familiarity*

Rise and shine, porcupine

What you cooking, good looking?

Take care, teddy bear!