Paper

Final Project of Sociolinguistics

The Difference of Woman and man in Giving Feedback

By:
ARIFIN
NIM: 321 413 065

ENGLISH DEPARTMENT
LETTER AND CULTURE FACULTY
STATE UNIVERSITY OF GORONTALO
2015
 PREFACE

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim Alhamdulillah hirabbil alamin would be the first

word that I really want to deliver to the only almighty Allah SWT for keep giving me
guidelines, blessing and giving me many chances to make and repair many mistakes.
So, I could always try to do my best in everything. This paper is written to fulfill the
final project of sociolinguistics from Mrs. Sri Widyarti Ali, S. Pd, M. Hum.

In composing this paper, I do realize that there are many difficulties which is I
faced from how I should begin until how do I finish it. But, Allah always standing by
my pray to keep giving me guidance to keep trying and offering help and spirit
through the people that I love. They are my parents, lecturer of certain subject, and
my beloved classmates of class 4C.

I also recognize that this paper is still far away from perfect. Therefore, some
critical and suggestions constructively is needed to make this one become better. I
hope that this paper can be useful to give more understanding about The Difference
of Woman and Man in Giving Feedback.

Gorontalo, 20th May 2015

ARIFIN
 CHAPTER I

INTRODUCTION

1.1 Background

In this semester, we have already known that sociolinguistics is a branch of

linguistics which discusses a large number of problems in relationship between
language and society. The matters have finished by some sociolinguists. However, as
students of English Department, we have to compare the result of study which
sociolinguists have done with our sight about reality that happened around us.

As a case, when woman interacts with man in society, whether anytime and
anywhere they must be use a language. Without a language, people will find some
troubles when they do their activities and toward the others. No people or no society
without a language. The role of language among the people in this life is very crucial.

Furthermore, there are many characteristics of interaction that reflected the

way woman and man in making conversation. But, this paper only focus on feedback.
Feedback is conceptualize as information provided by an agent (e.g., teacher, peer,
book, parent, self, experience) regarding aspects of ones performance or
understanding (Hattie and Timperley, 2007, p. 81). Generally, women talk more and
too much about their feeling. It is indicated that women provide more encouraging in
giving feedback. Otherwise, men do not talk about emotions. They usually talk about
sport more, women and machines in the same way.

In fact, not all women can give more feedback than men. Because in our society,
we also found the men who have habit nature such chatty. No matter what the topic
that they are talking about. Even the topic intended talk about problems of woman.
Most people give negative perception that they are abnormal men. But, we can not
judge them directly. Based on this background, I choose this problem as paper on title
The Difference of Woman and Man in Giving Feedback.
1.2 Problem Statement

Based on the previous explanation above, I formulate the problem statement

of paper as:

1. What is the feedback?

2. What is the importance of feedback?
3. How is the difference between woman and man in giving feedback?

CHAPTER II
 DISCUSSION

2.1 The Definition of Feedback

There are many features of interaction which differentiate the talk of women
and men. Mrs. Flemings (as cited in Holmes, 2001, p. 293) distinction reflects one of
them. They are interrupting behaviour and conversational feedback. However, in this
section I will concern on conversational feedback.

Feedback is process in which the effect or output of an action is returned

(fed-back) to modify the next action. Feedback is essential to the working and
survival of all regulatory mechanisms found throughout living and non-living nature,
and in man- made systems such as education system and economy
(BussinessDictionary, 2015, p. 1).

Furthermore, in my opinion, feedback means return of information about a

result of a conversation process.

2.2 The Importance of Feedback

Feedback can give motivation and energy in an organization. It is also can be

useful to achieve that state. When people receive little feedback, they tend to either be
overly self-critical. This is because they are relying upon events rather than specific
feedback to measure their performance and impact (Lang, 2015). In this part, I just
took three questions that answer the purpose of feedback:

What am I supposed to achieve?

What is the best use of my time?

How do I influence others?

 Thus, I can say that feedback is the way to get truly effective information in the
workplace. Might be the leaders actively seek the feedback just because to enhance
their performance.

2.3 The Example of Woman and Man in Giving Feedback

Mary: I worked in that hotel for ah eleven years and I found the patrons were really
really you know good.

Jill: Mm.

Mary: You had the odd one or two ruffiand come in and cause a fight but they were
soon dealt with.

Jill: Right, really just takes one eh? To start trouble.

Mary: Yeah, and and it was mostly the younger ones

Jill: Mm.

Mary: that would start you know.

Jill: Yeah.

Mary: The younger younger ones couldnt handle their booze.

Jill: Mm. (as cited in Holmes, 2001, pp. 296-297).

Another aspect of the picture of women as cooperative conversationalists is

the evidence that women provide more encouraging feedback to their conversational
partners than men do.

One New Zealand study which examined the distribution of positive feedback
(noises such as mm and mhm) in casual relaxed interaction between young people
found that women gave over four times as much of this type of supportive feedback
as men. American studies of informal speech as well as talk in classrooms and under
laboratory conditions have also demonstrated that women provide significantly more
encouraging and positive feedback to their addressees than men do. One researcher
noted that women students were also more likely than men to enlarge on and develop
the ideas of previous speaker rather than challenge them.

In general, then, research on conversational interaction reveals women as

cooperative conversationalists, whereas men tend to be more competitive and less
supportive of others.

The example above is not absolute can accepted by our society. Especially, we
as students which have learned sociolinguistics. To make it sure, I decided to do the
interview. My participants consist of ten students. They are five female participants
and also five of male participants.

Female Participants

1. Sri Amielya Mardjoen

Yeah, I agree with that. But, woman will give more feedback regarding to the
topic they are talking about. However, if the man give more feedback to the
woman about womans matter, it is unreasonable as a man. For example,
conversation about collection of dolls between woman and man. But, if the
man give more feedback in class discussion, it is reasonable for student as
usual.
2. Fransiska Farah Pikoli
Not really. Because sometimes I also give less feedback when a man asked me
to make a conversation. You know, I usually reply with mm, hmm, ya. It
depends on mood. In addition, I prefer like the man who gives me more
feedback. Because it will create enjoy atmosphere than uncommunicative
man.

3. Karina Thalib
 Yes, I am sure. Because most of women to be good nature in sharing. They
really like love story film and all about things that contain femininity.
Otherwise, in gorontalo culture, the men are not interested with that. They
always give opinion straight to the point without mazy. The woman also is
known as a good listener and good adviser in giving suggestion. Well, talking
about the chatty man, I think it is fair. Because some of men have potential as
good listeners and good advisers. So, not all the chatty men can assumed as
the abnormal men.
4. Ayuni Arista Ibrahim
Yes, for sure. Because women have more sensitive and sense of caring. Mood
of people whether woman and man determined their quality in giving
feedback. In addition, I think It is proper although the man are chatty than
woman.
5. Fadlia O. Said
Yup, I do agree with that. Because women have more imagination than men.
Naturally, women are also known as good listeners. It is because women are
dominant using feeling than logic. If only one side more dominant in make
conversation. Then the interlocutor will be less in giving feedback. According
to me, mood is not determined someone to give less feedback. But, topic is
really important if woman and man make a conversation. Well, I think it is not
ordinary if the man is chatty. Because everyone has the right to speak.

According to my female participants above, almost all of them agree with the
study that have done by sociolinguist. However, there is one participant (Fransiska
Farah Pikoli) assumed that not all women can give more feedback than men. Because
as herself, sometimes she also just giving the less feedback to the interlocutor (man).
It deepends on my mood she said. The four of the other participants also assumed
that people whether woman and man will give more feedback, if they are interest
about the topic. They really agree which woman is better listener than man. It just
because woman naturally has high sense of sharing and caring. While, their opinion
about the chatty man, they thought that it is common and fair as long as the man is
not talking about womans matter.

Male Participants

1. Wahyu S. Humonggio
I disagree about that. Because topic is determined people in giving feedback.
For instance, if the topic is about sport, woman may give less feedback to
man. The woman is better listener than man? I do not think so. Because even
men have potential to be a good listener to. As an example is myself.
Sometimes I also available to hear problem my female friend and then I give
her solution. According to me, the chatty man is strange. Because man
identical with cool and quiet nature.
2. Abdul Rahman Uno
It is not really. Because some men also can give more feedback well to
interlocutor (women). I think not all women can be referred as good listeners.
Both of woman and man naturally have potential to be good listeners. It
depends on the character of each person. It is also related with character of
man whether masculine man or melancholy man. Talking about the chatty
men, I think it is fair and maybe that is the habit.
3. Indra Hasbih
Yeah, that is true. Okey, let me give you example. The example is two
differences facial expression of woman and man when zayn malik out of one
direction group. Response of man just flat and relax. Otherwise, woman
maybe crying and wondering about that. Woman is better listener than man? I
think so, because men have a high sense of self-centered than women. women
tend to hear the opinion and suggestion from others. My opinion about the
chatty man, I think it is not the matter. Because a man did it just because that
they are really friendly and easygoing to communicate with other people.
4. Moh. Ismail Asona
Yes, I agree about that. Because I am the one typical man who has less
feedback in making conversation to woman. The study shown which woman
 also potential as a good listener. Because every woman has its own character.
The chatty man? I think it is fair. It depends on how he is active in create a
conversation. For example, the man active in discuss about anything, but it is
not about womans matter.
5. Mamat Rahim
I am not really sure. It depends on the character of each people even woman
or man. As the nearest example is myself. Because I always give well
response about everything to the interlocutor (woman). According to me, it is
naturally if the woman known as a good listener. The chatty man is not caused
that they are included as abnormal men. However, we do not know that
actually he is the extrovert one or even he enjoyed at the time.

According to my male participants above, there are three participants which are
not quite sure and disaggre with opinion from sociolinguist. Because the the man also
has potential in giving more feedback and good listener to. While two others agree
with their experience. For example, indra observed that two rosponses of woman and
man when zayn malik out of one direction. Talking about the chatty man, it is not
strange. Because some men are extrovert and active in communication. But,
regarding to the topic. For example talking about sport as usual as a man.

CHAPTER III

CONCLUSION

Feedback is return of response as a result of conversation. It is regarding to

the feedback intended to and how the speaker be able to influence the interlocutor.
Based on the result study of sociolinguist that have finished and result of interview
that I did, I can conclude that most of women quite agree with the study from
sociolinguist. While the men give opposite statements about that. Actually, both of
woman and man potentially in giving more feedback. It deepends on their topic and
mood at the time. some of women and men also have the same chance to be good
listeners. We also not seldom found women which have quiet nature. So, they just
give less feedback than man. The last is about the chatty man. According to them
(women and men). It is not ordinary and strange. Because as human social we have
the right in speaking as long as the man is not discuss about all about belong to
woman.

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