COMMUNICATION is your purpose in this life-time. You are learning how to communicate effectively.

You will find that problems arise from lack of communication or when you express yourself
inappropriately. Words are the key to your success and happiness. But until you learn what must be
learned on this path, words can also be your downfall.

You entered this lifetime for the purpose of communicating something specific and important.
However, it may take a long time to remember what it was you came here to express. It may take you
even longer to find the most convincing way to express it. Until you understand that communication is
your purpose for being here, words may forever be a problem rather than the tremendous talent they
are meant to be.

Consequently, you may talk incessantly while communicating relatively little. Or, you may believe you
are a great communicator when, in fact, you dominate a conversation because you do not know how
to listen. Communication is an ongoing exercise in output and feedback - receiving and delivering
valid information. If you do not learn to listen attentively to others, you may gain the reputation of being
superficial.

Whatever your most constant problems in life are, they are all clues to the direction your
communications should take. The 3 destiny has given you a tremendous talent or way with words.
You have used words to talk your way out of many a sticky situation, havent you? What you may not
realize, however, is that it was your own words which caused many of your sticky situation in the first
place. The point is, 3, you must find a purposeful outlet for this wonderful ability.

The following 3 destiny people have unusual and memorable voices. Or, they have the ability to use
their voices in unusual ways: Bill Cosby, Melanie Griffith, Barbara Walters, Alan Alda, Rod Stewart,
Joan Rivers, Kevin Spacey, Tracy Ullman, Katie Couric, Pierce Brosnan, Jerry Hall, Dionne Warwick,
Connie Chung, Billy Dee Williams, John Travolta, David Bowie, Robert Townsend, Johnny Mathis,
Harry Belafonte, Celine Dion, Jodie Foster, Gloria Gaynor, Peter Graves, Herbie Hancock, Phil Collins,
Hillary Rodham Clinton, Dr. Ruth Westheimer. Similarly, people remember your voice because there is
something unusual about it. This ensures that when you do remember what you are supposed to be
communicating, and when you do find the appropriate words, you will be listened to and remembered.

3s have a tendency to deny or play down their emotions - how they really feel. They are more
concerned with giving the appearance that everything is o.k., even when problems are obvious.
Others can be impressed with the way you seem to bounce back from adversity as if nothing ever
happened. Until they get to know you....

Eventually they realize that you have been holding all that emotion IN instead of expressing it and
allowing it to leave your body. Once others see through your facade, they become frustrated by your
lack of emotion. Friendships are lost because others feel you do not want to help yourself. But, of
course, they do not understand your complex nature. They do not understand your fear that friends
will be lost if you burden them with your problems. 3s are notorious for keeping up appearances.
They desire popularity and social acceptance. They have a tendency to turn their problems into jokes.
This way, no one has the opportunity to criticize or find fault in them.

3s guilt exists because it is the energy of joy and lightheartedness. Many 3s mistakenly believe that
they are not allowed to show any emotion other than happy exuberance. Consequently, they live
shallow lives. But when 3s dare to go beneath their own surface and accept that their emotions are
as real as anyone elses, their lives become deep, indescribably beautiful, and richly creative. You are
attracted to creative people because you secretly admire their ability to feel.

Until you learn to take yourself more seriously in this regard, others will not be able to take you
seriously either. And, with all that natural talent you have inside, just waiting to be accepted and
expressed, this can be a very frustrating way to live. The trick, of course, is to take yourself seriously
without becoming too serious. Humor and laughter are vital ingredients of your personality. They
provide the finishing touch to genuine healing.

Although happiness is a major part of what you are meant to be communicating, you will be unable to
develop the language you need until you, yourself, are able to feel happiness. And thats the problem:
There is a huge difference between humor and happiness. Ask any professional comedian about that.
You will never be able to feel and experience genuine happiness until you let go of all that sadness
that is buried deep inside; all that grief you are refusing to accept and express, and all that anger and
fear you are burying under what you call your sense of humor.

3s want and need to be popular, and there is no more popular position on Earth than that of making
others feel good about themselves. Whether you know it or not, this is the position you came here to
fill. However, it is your experience in the field that will decide when, or whether, you get the job. How
much experience with happiness have you actually had?

3s gain this experience by having the courage to do what they want to do; to do what their natural
energies urge them to do. Not what they hope will please other people. Not what they believe they are
limited to because of lack of opportunity, funds, or education. Self-approval, and not just its
appearance, is what you must strive for. Then you can live free from the worry of who you should be
pleasing or trying to impress. You must learn to impress, please and be yourself.

Stop worrying about what others think of you. Peer pressure has always been the source of much
unhappiness in your life. You are afraid of your emotions because they are so intense. But your
feelings are nothing to be afraid of. Why is it that the most emotional people in the world are also the
most creative? And why are the most creative people also the most successful? Because they are
driven by the way they feel.

3s are so afraid of being hurt, that they bottle up their feelings, especially the feeling of fear.
Appearances, physical and otherwise, play a very large role in your life, and this is perfectly natural for
you. Accept your natural desire to be attractive, popular, and appreciated. But notice how you cling to
the trivial and mundane because you are afraid of taking anything too seriously. Rather than risk the
pain of failure or disappointment, you tend to view opportunity as potential trouble, rather than
potential happiness. Remember all the opportunities that have slipped through your fingers over the
years. Remember the ones that slipped conveniently into the hands of someone you thought was a
friend.

And that brings us to the next important aspect of the 3 destiny. FRIENDS. It may take you a whole
lifetime to realize what friendship really is. Eventually, time and circumstances will teach you that
people change along with their priorities. So do the feelings people have for one another. It can be
painful for a 3 to realize that they no longer have anything in common with someone they believed was
a life-long friend. 3s are highly influenced by the opinions and lifestyles of friends. So much so that
they do not bother to use their own creative powers to be original. What was once considered to be
friendship often turns into resentment. These are not easy aspects for you to deal with, let alone admit
to. But please dont run away from this experience. Only by facing these issues will you be able to see
the enormity - and sheer beauty - of your higher potential. And isnt the quest for your higher potential
the reason you are reading this book in the first place?

Just remember that it is not your role to keep everyone happy or to sacrifice your own happiness in the
name of friendship or social acceptance. This is the negative side of the 3 destiny in which the
happiness you came here to experience will forever elude you.

You are a natural performer, but there is no need for you to be on stage all the time. Your natural
energies thrive in natural surroundings. When you are calm and centered, you will find that your
greatest inspiration comes from nature itself. You must learn to be comfortable when you are alone
with nature; alone with yourself. Part of learning how to communicate is to listen, to accept feed-
back, and to change your act when the feed-back is less than enthusiastic. Listen very carefully, and
allow others to have their say.

Deep down, 3s know they are meant to communicate. Some assume that they must, therefore, always
be right. If you do not listen to what others have to say, you cannot know if you are right. You will miss
the other side of the story. Without the input of others, you cannot learn anything new. This is a difficult
lesson for a 3.

Do not be swayed by popular opinion. We are living in times of great change. Therefore, what may
have been true yesterday, may not be true today. Be willing to learn new things and your
communications will always be fresh, entertaining, and inspiring. There is no need for you to be
constantly talking, gesturing, making people laugh, gossiping, and expressing what you have heard
about other people and popular trends. Your ability to listen must be perfected.

3s are often found in the beauty business or other creative fields. This is a good start. But, eventually,
you will realize that surface beauty is only an illusion. Your true talents will emerge when you learn to
look beneath the surfaces of things and people. Then you will discover - actually see - the reality of
what you are dealing with. You will know whether these things and people are what you really want in
your life. Never judge a book by its cover, or a person by their look. It is all veneer. True beauty is a
matter of what is going on inside.

Creativity is one of the most precious gifts that the 3 energy offers. When your imagination is free from
the masochistic bonds of peer pressure, your creative capabilities will astonish you and everyone
around you. Your approval is the only approval you need. It will come when you realize just how much
positive and creative energy exists inside you - under the surface. It will come when you allow yourself
to feel this energy. And, when you do, there will be no question as to whether you take yourself
seriously or not. No one has more potential for creative genius than a 3. Unfortunately, it is also true
that no one is more prone to wasting this potential than a 3. This does not have to be the case with
you.

Your urge to follow popular things and people, and to establish a position for yourself in society, is not
without significant reason. Your desire to be popular is part of the 3 experience. You need to be liked.
But you spend so much time trying to please everyone else that you have no time to figure out what
you are meant to be doing for yourself. Many 3s give the appearance of being superficial when, in
fact, their feelings run very deep indeed. Once you start to express your deeper feelings, your life will
start to unfold naturally and beautifully.

It can be difficult for you to focus on one thing at a time. Your well disguised self-consciousness often
outweighs your ability to concentrate. You tend to scatter your energies in too many different
directions. Your ability to start things is impressive. The problem lies in your ability to finish things.
Here is yet another reason why you feel others do not take you seriously enough. And, ironically, one
of the reasons you cannot focus on one thing long enough to complete it is that you are worried, in the
first place, about the approval of others. It is a vicious circle until you learn to take full responsibility for
your own happiness, your own success, and your own life.

When you worry about what others think of you, your imagination becomes stifled. It cannot produce
the creative wonders that you are capable of producing. A free imagination is LIMITLESS. You may
believe that you are already creative. Others may see your talent too. But it is probably only a pale
reflection of your true potential. If your ideas are not original then your imagination is not free. Your
ideas cannot be original if they are based on pleasing others.

Your light and humorous approach, your optimistic expression, your social inclination, and your
emphasis on friends, represent some beautiful 3 characteristics. Still, you must learn to focus. Your
concentration is prone to drifting, even to the point of blackout, particularly when you are bored,
unwilling to face a particular reality, or unable to tolerate silence. Some 3s become so self-conscious
in a quiet atmosphere that they will talk about anything in order to end the silence.

When 3s get talking, they can talk up a storm. They often find themselves on one giant verbal roll.
Sometimes they have a difficult time bringing the conversation to an end. They appear to be, and are,
repeating themselves and talking incessantly. They feel that they must communicate, even when they
have nothing to say. This is a negative trait until it is realized that, in social situations, there is no need
to fear silence and no need to constantly prove how sociable and friendly you are.

Watching and listening to 3s telling a story or recounting an experience, is quite an experience in

itself. The pitch of the voice changes according to the attention being received. Watch how the 3
reacts to and interacts with an audience, how he physically moves into the audience, how he draws
the audience back into the story, and maintains its attention. He can repeat the same story time and
time again, along with the same mannerisms, the same sound-bites, and the same enthusiasm as
when the story was first told. If the listeners tire of the story, embellishments are added to keep it
exciting. When a 3s communication skills are not developed, we see and hear a person who
constantly repeats the same old stories as if they are stuck somewhere in the past and unable to
move on. However, when a 3 realizes that intelligent, timely, and purposeful communication is his or
her function in life, we see and hear a person who has the power to influence and inspire the entire
world.

When you really do focus for a prolonged period on something you feel passionate about, you are
truly a beauty to behold and your form of expression remains fresh and alive. You need to establish
what you want from life and to surround yourself with others who are pursuing similar goals. Finding
what you want to do; that thing that makes your heart beat faster and makes time stand still, signifies
a vital turning point in the 3 destiny which leads to the happiness you are seeking.

You belong in a field or lifestyle that appreciates and contributes to creativity, and offers an abundance
of social contact. If you are not involved in creative pursuits, then you need to be around those who
are. You are meant to be with creative, passionate, emotional people so that you can understand the
creative process, learn to take your emotions seriously through their example, and find your own
passion - your own Will - your own creative dream - along the way.

Recognize your strong tendency to criticize or ridicule others, especially in your younger more
immature years, and especially in reference to their appearance. These anti-social traits need to be
turned around into the positive so that you learn the art of sociability. You can hurt other people with
your careless use of words, but if others criticize you, you can be cut to the quick. Never dish out what
you cannot take. 3 is the energy of appearances, and your own appearance has manifested for the
purpose of making you memorable. The way you look is important to you, but there is likely to be at
least one physical aspect that causes you concern. 3 is the energy of attraction, and you must realize
just how attractive you are when your emotions are free and you are being yourself. Almost
miraculously, when your emotions are free, your physical appearance changes to meet your own
approval. In other words, if you believe you are beautiful, so will everyone else. But remember we are
talking about belief - not pretense - not the appearance of belief.

Your ability to attract is part of your destiny experience. But you must also be aware that as life
proceeds, appearances change. It is important that you learn to recognize and move along with these
changes. 3s often get stuck in time-warps, causing them to cling to people and things that were once
fashionable, but are now clearly out of place. Popularity is important to you, but it can only be
maintained in the present, otherwise the only people you will attract are those who are also stuck in
some long-gone segment of time. If you find yourself surrounded by those who are constantly
reminiscing about old times, and repeating the same old stories, you may have to update your
understanding of living in present time. The only way to release yourself from the anchors of the past
is to release those old unexpressed emotions that are holding you there.

Eventually you will learn that your appearance - your physical presence - is a matter of what you are
feeling on the inside. Once you recognize your self-consciousness and learn to relax with yourself,
inside and out, you will start to attract the very people you need and desire instead of a string of
superficial friends who are going nowhere and have nothing to offer.

You have the gifts of words, attraction, sociability, creativity, optimism, memory, friendship, and humor.
Use these precious talents to see beyond what others see; to break through those confines of popular
opinion and dare to follow your own heart; to do what you want to do; to accept and release the pains
of life, so that JOY can replace them, and not just the pretense of joy that many people seem content
with these days. Your purpose is to discover internal happiness through your own experience and to
communicate it externally to others. You have the power to lift others out of that negative spiral of
gloom and doom in which so many are trapped.

Find your own happiness and others will realize that they can find theirs too. Take yourself and your 3
destiny seriously, because what the world needs more than anything right now is a serious dose of 3s
optimism, beauty, and laughter.