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Welcome to this stylish journey, mdear!

Were headed down a path to better understanding ourselves. Both who we were, and who we
want to be today and beyond; why weve bought what weve bought, and what we want to bring
into our lives from here on out to best represent ourselves.

And were on a path to better understanding the science of style -- principles that can empower
us on a whole new level. Youll hear me say often that I dont believe in style rules, only style
principles. Rules change. Rules can be broken. Rules cant apply to all people in all scenarios. But
principles are timeless, universal. Theyre the foundation. And I firmly believe youll take away
ideas and inspiration from our journey together that will be informing your style choices a decade
from now.

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Before we get started, heres what to expect: Each chapter of the Style & Styleability Workbook,
your roadmap through this journey, touches on these four areas:

Get Clear: Reflections on who you are and where youre at in life.

Get Organized: Making our closets a place we can get creative, break our bad habits, and
uncover data about our own personal style to clear clutter while increasing clarity and creativity.

Get Savvy: Video classes from the Dean Street Studio covering fundamental style principles.

Get Creative: Your chance to play and take your style to the next level, with weekly feedback
from moi, your personal stylist, and one another.

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Get Inspired: Extra goodness each week if you want to dive deeper into the topics and ideas.

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I recommend that you read the Style & Styleability Workbook on your computer. The document
is very interactive with an extensive amount of links throughout, and I think youll want to be
able to click through to read and watch as you go.

However, when it comes to recording your answers, you might prefer one of two ways. If youd
like to type them, download Adobe Reader where you can open the workbook and type into the
spaces provided. Or, print out the workbook and grab a pen to muse in those journaling spots.

I will often encourage you to share your answers within the Treehouse of Trust. So its up to you
if youd like to write freely with a pen and then share later in the group, or copy and paste to share
more easily right away.

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Make sure that you get the most out of each chapter by taking action. This first week, give
yourself two hours and see how that feels. You might fly through style challenges or really hit a
wall. Organizing your closet might lead to a rush of energy to organize your desk as well, or you
might knock it out in ten minutes and move on.

Whats most important to me -- as someone who wants you to get the most value and deepest
education you can -- is that you dont just read the workbook, watch the video and move on. Take
action. Get every ounce of feedback out of me that you can. And experience how incredible it is
to be on a journey in community with the Treehouse of Trust.

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Do me a favor and open up your calendar right now.

First, put both Wednesday live calls on your calendar each week, or the one you know you can
make.

Then, put the Tuesday night deadline to post challenge photos/RSVP for which live call youll
receive your feedback on.

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Finally, schedule those two hours. Is it 30 minute increments during nap-time? Your lunch break
twice this week? Or a wonderful Saturday afternoon date with yourself ?

After this week, you may find you needed less time, but this first week I want you to make sure
you give yourself the space to make the most of this experience. You, your style, your confidence,
your creativity, are worth prioritizing.

Youve been getting dressed for 20 ... 40 ... 60 years? You have a lot of habits ingrained in that
pretty little head of yours! Use this class as your accountability to shake things up, get out of ruts,
stretch your creativity and blossom.

I promise that five weeks from now youll feel a little lighter, a little brighter and a lot more
inspired about that massive investment of finances, space and time known as your wardrobe. C.S.
Lewis was onto something. It really is pretty magical what all is hiding inside the wardrobe.

Lets get started.

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The big question I always want to know is this: Who do you want to be three years from now?

Not three months, where youre scrambling to lose those last 10 pounds or striving to reach that
big sales goal you set.

Not 10 years when, lets be honest -- 10 years ago did you think youd be where you are now? We
all probably got a few guesses wrong back in 2004!

But three years. Far enough ahead to dream big, close enough to see it coming to life.

There's the old adage, "Don't dress for the job you have, dress for the job you want. People make a
visual assessment of you within the first 7 seconds {7 seconds!} they meet you. And you have the
power any day to change that perception; to shift their way of thinking. Shift it consistently and
you'll fundamentally change the way people see you showing up in the world.

I want to repeat that.

The fact that people make a subconscious judgement when they see us should not instill fear or
pressure. It should instill excitement and empowerment! You have the power to influence how
youre seen and perceived. Youre in control. And over the next five weeks were going to get more
clear about the tools at our disposal to write our own visual stories.

I talk to my clients a lot about the power of playing mind games. The more you come to
understand style, the more empowered you become, and the more in control of what others
perceive about who you are.

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And that old dress for the job you want adage? It goes beyond your job. My friends know that I'm
obsessed with my job. I love what I do! But our jobs never fully define us. Theyre only one part of
our life vision. I want you to dress for the life you want. So I'd like you to muse:

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Q: Who do you want to be three years from now?

Where do you want to be living? In what kind of house? With who in your life? What does your ideal
day like? What job are you doing? How else do you spend your time? {The box below is your space to
answer!}

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And now my second favorite question: How do you want to feel?

One of my business mentors, Danielle LaPorte, asks this often. Her belief is that we often focus
too much on goal setting. Then when we get what we want ... we're not happy. Because it doesn't
feel the way we thought it was going to. It turns out that goal, was not our answer to happiness.
So instead, we should start with how we want to feel, and then work backwards to figure out
what will get us there. I love that.

Love. Love. Love.

But I also love applying it to how we dress. We could all put on a striped dress and feel very
dierently. You might feel Parisian, she might feel 60s, I might feel sophisticated and someone
else might feel flat-out uncomfortable. The answer is never going to be in one perfect dress. And
one perfect dress is not going to give us all the same answer.

Therefore I dont want to know which piece would make you feel _____. I want to know how you
want to feel, and then well get to which items will get you there.

Rather than asking you to describe what your ideal style is, I'd love for you to ponder:

{Note: You answered very similar Qs to this in the second video in 3 Steps to Simplified Style. My advice
would be to do this exercise again below. Then pull out your Style Cheat Sheet and compare your answers.
Perhaps you felt dierently doing it at morning versus night, or thought of something one time you forgot
the other.}

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Q: How do you want to feel?

How do you want to feel on your best day? Walking out the front door in the morning? Into a big
meeting? Running into someone unexpectedly? Climbing into bed at night? On vacation? On an
average Tuesday? In your best life?

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Who you are, who you want to be, and how you want to feel is what makes you uniquely you.

Because I'm not interested in a coterie of bettys wearing striped dresses.

This journey is about a tribe of radiant, shining, wildly dierent women showing up as the best
version of themselves.

This week, keep mulling over the two Qs above. Theyre big, life-long questions. You can change
your answers anytime. You probably will. But for now, theyre a marvelous portal to start down
this path of discovering what you looks like. I for one cant wait to see!

Make It Happen: Now head over to the Treehouse of Trust and share your answers to the two
Qs above. Theres great power in speaking something into being, in saying it aloud. Plus, every
time I do, I humbly realize that I might inspire someone else, spark an idea in them, or give them
the courage to share. Together everyone achieves more, eh?

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Over the next five weeks I want to help you see your closet in a new way, and take to the next
level the exercise we began in the 3 Steps to Simplified Style series with my Ribbon and Record
trick.

Each week well go deeper on this concept, getting more clear on your options on how to
organize your closet and expanding to other areas of our wardrobe.

This week we're going to start with your hanging items.

I recommend that my clients hang as many items of clothes as they can. While we usually all
have a chest of drawers somewhere, it's the items that are hanging in plain view that are the
easiest to see, get inspired by and take advantage of. The pieces that are tucked away often get
overlooked and therefore not put to as good of use. Out of site, out of mind, right?

Or, we only wear the top one or two folded items and forget about all those bottom options.
Sounds silly, but its just flat out not as easy to pull something from the bottom of a stack, try it
on, change your mind, fold it and shove it back in there! Hangers just make things easier, and
when its easier youre more likely to play.

Personally, I now hang not only my tops and skirts, but my jeans! I realized I was only ever
wearing the top two pairs because they were on a high shelf and I never wanted to dismantle the
whole stack. Now theyre all equally accessible and I can easily add them into my ribbon rhythm
to see which ones Im not wearing.

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Please note some of the below may mean purchasing new hangers, so this is not something you
need to do right away if youre on a budget. Order these on Amazon right now, or commit to this
being the vision of your closet youre getting to over the next year. Progress, not perfection.

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Step One: Consider if you have any tanks, tees, long-sleeved tops that you could put on a hanger.

Perhaps this means going out and purchasing another pack or two of hangers at your local drug
store. I think that's worth it as you can get 24 hangers for the price of one top, and I promise
you'll wear all the tops you have more, if they're right in front of you.

{As an aside, I personally love these hangers from Amazon. Theyre thin so they save a little space,
the velvet helps tops to slip less than plastic, the rivets are helpful for thin straps and since my
closets are open in my studio, they look far more chic than white hangers. But in the past Ive
bought packs of hangers at the dollar store to give myself more storage for five bucks.}

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Step Two: Commit to having only one item per hanger.

Again, if we dont see things in our closet, were unlikely to wear them. And the time it takes to
get to the bottom layer dissuades us from getting creative and giving it a try. Youre an artist who
wants all your tools laid out at your disposal. This could mean having to buy more hangers. Or
realize our ribbon trick is a godsend because you have too many clothes to fit and need to clear
the clutter.

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Step Three: Nix multiple item or attached hangers.

As you start to see the Ribbon Trick at work, youll understand why this is so helpful. I used to
have four-six item hangers like this one. But once you wear a skirt you cant put it behind the
ribbon ... unless youve managed to wear four skirts in one day. Plus, theyre harder to work with
and I think that extra eort can dissuade us when were sleep-deprived, late and trying to cobble
together a new outfit. Just all around un-graceful and impractical. So Ive switched my closet all
over to individual interlocking hangers like this one instead. Game changer.

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Step Four: Try organizing your hanging clothes by color.

This can get rid of visual clutter, helping you to truly see and remember what you have. Unless
you're slightly obsessive like me, this doesn't have to stay perfect! But if you do it from time to
time it will reacquaint you with what you have and hit the refresh button on the screen grab in
your brain of what's in your closet.

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Plus, it can lead to some easy ah-hah moments like, Wow, I only own blue. Temporary hold on more
blue items!

Personally, I dont organize my clothes by type. All my tanks, tees, blouses are hung together and
only organized by color. That works for me. But if youre used to heading to a certain section for
your work blouses and button-downs each morning, then by all means keep them organized by
type, and then by color within each type.

Since my closet goes left to right, I think of the rainbow from left to right:

white, tan, pink, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple, brown, grey, black

Dont let perfection hang you up {no pun intended}! This is just a way to get some fresh eyes for
what we have. And a rainbow of color always makes this girl happy.

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Watch secret #1 below with the password secret_one:

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For a second look at the pieces and ensembles featured in this video class:

How those jeans fit me vs Molly the Mannequin

Another spin on the cardigan with an otherwise unremarkable outfit.

The blue dress and silk scarf

My blue necklace as a remarkable detail

The little black dress with those accessories on the blog

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Now its your turn:

Q: What are 10 ways or pieces you could add something remarkable to your outfits or from your
closet?
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For a second look at the pieces and ensembles featured in this video class:

The polka dot blouse in action, and another take, and one more {note for yourself which
elements make these three looks feel more/less vodka/cranberry to you}

Two Instagram snaps of the floral dress here and here

Velvet and bow top with a dierent ladylike white skirt

The pencil skirt with a dierent cropped top

And the blue top with the pencil skirt

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Seeking more examples of the 2-Part Fashion Cocktail? I created a Pinterest board just for you to
get a quick overview of some of the other looks Ive worn on the Dean Street Society blog.
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While youre there, re-pin your favorites and spread this little nugget of style knowledge with
your friends!
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P.S. If you were unfamiliar with the women I referenced in exploring where we fall on the
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aects how the clothes they wear read: the singer Pink {vodka hair}, Katy Perry {vodka curves +
persona} + Alexis Bledel {more cranberry}.
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Now its your turn:

Where do you feel that you fall on the vodka to cranberry spectrum? Where would you like to fall? What
are some initial ideas you have on how you could shift that balance?
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Style Challenge: One staple, three new ways

For our first style assignment Im challenging you to find one staple or favorite piece in your
wardrobe and create three dierent outfits with it.

In 3 Steps to Simplified Style, I taught you how our brains create habit grooves that allow us to
save energy. Today, were going to shake those up and look beyond the traditional top we pair
with that skirt or shoes we wear with that dress.

Be patient with this challenge if it takes you a few tries to see your closet with fresh eyes. When
youre not used to stretching your creativity its easy to feel stuck. But keep pressing into it, as this
is a muscle we can all strengthen.

Challenge yourself not to choose the one or two things you typically wear with this staple piece.
What are three NEW ways you could wear it? I promise you, however small your closet, there are
three new outfits hanging in there that work with your favorite staple. This can even include
shoes or accessories.

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Then, heres how to share your style challenge photos each week:

Step One: Get in front of a full-length mirror and take a self-pic on your camera phone. Or use
an app like Camera+ that has a timer, setting your phone up facing you. Or have a someone take
them for you.

Step Two: Use a collage app such as PicFrame. Place your three outfits into one photo like this
{except all of yours should show you head to toe, unlike the center image here}.

Step Three: Post your one photo collage in the Treehouse of Trust where I'll be looking at them
during our live call to give feedback. All with love, all coming from a place of education and
discovering the simplest way to the best version of yourself.

Step Four: Follow this tutorial from Liz on how to get the URL of your exact post.

Step Five: Insert the link when you RSVP in this weeks email for which of two live calls youll
be joining on. When we get on the call, Ill open up the RSVP list and click through each URL
to give personal feedback and have everyone be able to see the outfits were discussing!

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Remember, the goal is not a stellar photo. It's simply a behind-the-scenes shot so that I can help
give you ideas about what might work better or what could also work that you haven't thought of.
However, do your best to choose good lighting. Move your mirror near a window, turn on all the
lights -- the better I can really see the details of your outfit, the more specific feedback I can give.

I personally take self-photos sometimes to simply get outside of myself when looking at an outfit.
Im less hyper-critical when Im looking at the photo, the way other people see it, rather than
back at my reflection in the mirror, where sadly habit has taught us to focus on our flaws.

Another bonus is that snapping pics on my phone when Im in creative mode means Im more
likely to remember my brilliant moment in creating that outfit, and wear it on another day. Its
the same way an author needs to write down a poem or story idea so as not to forget it. Make a
note of your creative ideas {i.e. keeping them on your phones camera roll} so theyre there when
you need them.

If you're unsure if an outfit works, don't waste too much timevacillating.Make it one of your
three pics and share it to see. This is a safe space to take a risk.

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P.S. With More Grace Than Gumption:

When it comes to sharing in the Treehouse of Trust, feel free to interact, dialogue and share as
much as you like! The only time I ask you to refrain is when it comes to critiquing any photos
someone posts.

Please refrain from the type of comment on the left and share generously the ones on the right:

"I like the skirt better than the pants." vs "Love that skirt!"

"I don't really think those colors work together." vs "Red looks amazing on you!"

"That skirt is the wrong length." vs "Those pants are so flattering on you.

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Can you see the dierence?

The left says something is better vs worse, or it oers a critique. The right shares solely
armation.

The left could absolutely be said delightfully, with love! But research shows that through the veil
of a computer screen, we tend to take things with a negative tone. And when it comes to how we
look it can be oh so easy to misinterpret something a stranger says, not knowing their sweet heart
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You are oh so welcome to leave notes of encouragement, say which of their three outfits you like
best or what about an ensemble you love. And once these five weeks are over, you are all welcome
to use the space to ask for one another's feedback on your ensembles at which point there will
also be more trust built up with one another. But for the five weeks of class please go the extra
mile to oer only armations, and respect that your fellow students are asking for my
constructive criticism at times, but no one elses.

The fact that I have never ever seen a Dean Street Betty do anything but arm on the blog,
Instagram or in Style & Styleability means more to me than I can say! So remember, this
community is a safe space. I only want to go the extra mile myself in articulating to ensure it
always stays that way. Now go forth and share!

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But wait, theres more! {wink}

Each week we have a main challenge that I ask you to post for feedback during our live calls.
However, I want you to continue to explore your closet beyond that one challenge, so use these
bonus challenges when youre getting dressed the other days of the week {i.e. look for something
remarkable three days, and a 2-part fashion cocktail three days}. You can also snap a pic and share
them in the Treehouse daily or anytime.

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Bonus Style Challenge: 1 to be Remarkable

Whats your one remarkable detail in todays ensemble?

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Bonus Style Challenge: 2-Part Fashion Cocktail

Whats your recipe in this ensemble? Where did you add some vodka to freshen up an old piece?
How did you add cranberry to make a fun outfit feel more work-appropriate or everyday?

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Each week Ill share some of my favorite spots for style inspiration and ideas ...

Watch this video with Danielle LaPorte to go deeper on the concept of how you want to feel.

Check out the BBC series Mr Selfridge which has some fascinating insights on how
department stores changed shopping and how the advent of make-up evolved.

Read The Meaning of Sunglasses, a hilarious book with a cheeky take on fashion, history,
trends, trend-setters. {I read this on the beaches of Puerto Rico and was that girl cackling to
herself in a bikini. Fun fact: The authors first kiss was my ex-boyfriend.}
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In the 3 Steps to Simplified Style, I sent you on a scavenger hunt to Pinterest to create a vision
board of your personal style. What I gave you to get started with were photos of celebrities.
Though Id like to point something out: celebrities often look like crap.

My theory is that theyre trying to blend in. Theyre trying to do the exact opposite of Secret #1:
1 to be Remarkable. They dont want anyone to remark, theyd like you not to notice them
thankyouverymuch. Thus, you end up with lots of schleppy tees, ball caps and baggy pants. Or
stunning red carpet or Tonight Show looks.

For more real people, real budgets inspiration, my recommendation is style bloggers. I dont
suggest them in the 3 Steps to Simplified Style because I fear some people see bloggers as
unattainable, more so actually than celebrities. Along the lines of, Sure I cant look like a celeb
because Im not a millionaire, but that girl just wears J.Crew and yet I look so far from her when I wear
J.Crew. But, youre a Style & Styleability betty now, so even the most aspirational of ensembles,
youre going to know how to break down and make work for you. {wink}

So head over to this second Pinterest board and keep adding to the first one you created.

Remember that what we want to focus on is how you want to feel most of the time. So if 75% of
your style is everyday then focus on pinning ensembles that inspire you for Tuesday afternoons,
not Saturday nights. Or, we want to focus on where youre stuck. If you love your work wear but
loathe your weekend stu, thats what I want you to be seeking out.

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Q: What can you learn from your expanded vision board?

How would you describe the style youre drawn to?

What specifically do you love about an outfit: the color, pattern, silhouette, accessories, hair/make-up?
Consider every element thats going into the look you love.

What items did you see that remind you of what you already own? What are the specific items you realize
you need to add to your Wish List? Out of those items, which ones will you prioritize? Which pieces will
get the most use or make the biggest dierence?

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Next I want you to consider your own closet. What is the category you have the hardest time
with? You love this BUT can never figure out how to wear it? An example could be your most
comfortable shoes that dont seem to go with much. Or maxi skirts but you can never figure out
what to pair them with.

Head back to Pinterest once more and this time use it as a search engine. Type in boat shoes,
rocker tee or pearl necklace. Try variations rocker t-shirt concert tee vintage t-shirt.

You may get lots of photos that dont apply, but see if you stumble upon style bloggers, celebrities
or catalogue shots where someone else has identified the kind of piece youre looking for to see
how someone else styled it. What are the dierent kinds of shoes you see with a maxi skirt? Does
this give you ideas either of whats in your closet, or what specifically to look for when shopping?

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Q: How can you style __________?

What are some specific ideas this scavenger hunt uncovered, whether the style/essence or individual
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Expanding your personal style is like cooking. If youre newer, you want to seek out recipes to
inspire you. Over time, as you begin to better understand the chemistry, why certain things pair
well together, you become more bold and creative on your own, able to take risks sans recipe. But
theres a reason cookbooks sell like hot cakes and grandmas signature dish keeps getting passed
on down: A recipe is a path to success.

Make It Happen: Pop over to the Treehouse of Trust and share your updated vision board! Post
the link so others can visit it and/or take a screengrab and post it as a photo. Plus share your
answers to the two Qs above while youre there.

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Last week we started with your hanging clothes, and this week we're moving on to the folded
ones. For me, this is sweaters, cardigans, some long-sleeved tees and previously, pants.

This will vary based on your closet set-up, but between the hanging and folded you should be
incorporating all your "every day wear. Pajamas, workout clothes, etc. don't need to be dealt with
for now.

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Step One: In the Ribbon and Record trick I teach you to create a marker within one stack of
clothes. However, if you have space it actually can be easier to create two columns or stacks,
whether thats on a shelf or in a drawer. For me, since the "back" of my hanging bar is on the
right {i.e. things I wear go to the back/right} I make my folded stacks on the right my "already
worn" ones too.

The other option is if you have cubbies of some sort {i.e. I confess I still had those fabric hanging
cubes left over from college until recently}. I make the bottom one worn and then as I wear
more items I keep shifting the stacks up. A ways into winter, Ill have the top two cubbies --
those right in my line of vision -- filled with sweaters Ive yet to wear, and all those beneath them
housing the pieces that have already been sported.

If theres an area where the record concept didnt sit quite right for your space, try creating two
columns/delineating cubbies/etc.
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Step Two: Organize by color. Again, this may be too OCD for some of you to keep up all the
time, but for me it creates such a fast line of vision. Black and up, are the sweaters Ive yet to wear.

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Then I start the rainbow again beneath and my eye is never confused about my not worn vs worn
segments.

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Step Three: A final option here, if you have an area of your bedroom where the record or two
stacks just isnt going to happen, is to use file folder labels. You can thank my oce supplies
obsessed mother for give me handy ideas like this. {wink}

Wrap a label around the folded part of the sweater or pants so you can see it. And once youve
worn an item, remove it. Items with stickers still on them in X weeks or months, equals unworn.

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As youre going along with both your Ribbon & Record, remember the purpose:

1) Break out of your 20% rut, making better use of the investment that is your closet and
discoveries in your 80%.

2) Getting clear on what you love and why. Why do things end up behind the ribbon first? How
can you make more of those choices when shopping?

3) Getting clear on what you dont love and why. Why are things still in front of the ribbon?
How can you avoid making more of those choices when shopping?

4) Clearing clutter. If it still hasnt been worn in X amount of weeks {this is a personal choice
based on the size of your closet} donate it to let it bless someone elses life and free up your
own of physical and mental clutter.

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Watch secret #3 here with the password secret_three:

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For a closer look at the pieces and concepts featured in this video class:

One spin on the little white dress

How I styled the vintage gold dress on the blog

The yellow sweater in action

A few examples of the half-tuck or partial-tuck here and here and here

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Now its your turn:

Think back to your outfit yesterday, today, what you shared in last weeks style challenge photos ... Did
you have three remarkable pieces? What are some outfit ideas you have for when you could add that
second and third piece to take an ensemble to the next level?

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Next watch secret #4 here with the password secret_four:

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For another take on the pieces and ensembles featured in this video class:

The peach and pink dress on a date

The white necklace adding the V to a maxi dress

Accessorizing the white lace top and black leather skirt

An example of high-waisted jeans*

One take on a skinny belt under a cardigan {and the fur collar from secret #3}

*Yes, the pockets dont make my stomach look totally flat, and you know thats an area Im self-conscious
about. But be honest, is that the first thing you thought? Or did you actually think, Darling outfit!

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If you were unfamiliar with some of the celebrities I referenced, youll find them on this Pinterest
board of Oscar style that does {or does not} represent the line or the V.

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Now its your turn:

With this concept of the Line and V, what do you realize about the shapes and silhouettes youve loved
and why? Or those pieces that havent worked or felt unflattering but you couldnt put your finger on
why?

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Style Challenge: Three pieces from your 80%.

This week I'm challenging you to share three pieces in your wardrobe that you don't get enough
wear out of ... because you're not sure how. These could be:

a) I love love love this! But sadly I never wear it. I just don't know how to make it work or can't
figure out what to pair it with.

b) I like this, but I really only ever wear it this one way. After that I'm stuck.

c) I think it might be time for this to go. I keep wondering if I should toss it, but perhaps it has
more potential than I think?

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Note that these arent fancy dresses that you just dont have opportunity to wear more than once
or twice a year. These are pieces that you feel like you should be able to wear on a Tuesday
morning or Saturday evening, but just always seem to put back on the hanger when you try.

Post your collage of three photos in the Treehouse of Trust where well chat about them on the
Lady Date and live calls to help give you some ideas and guidance where you're feeling stuck.

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Bonus Challenge: 3 is the Key

What are the 3 key pieces that make your outfit look like a chic ensemble?

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Bonus Challenge: 4 the Bettys: Bosom and Button

How have you changed the shape of your outfit to emphasize the line or the V {i.e. adding a
necklace, tucking it in, belting}?

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As we talk about classic silhouettes this week, you might watch the Valentino Documentary for
a glimpse inside timeless style

Reading 5th Avenue, 5am on the making of Breakfast at Tianys will forever change how you
think about the little black dress, as well as whether Audrey Hepburn really had the ideal
shape or not.

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Last week we took the vision board of your personal style to the next level. But what if you feel
very far right now, from that vision of the woman you want to be? Today were coming up with a
game plan for how to ease on down the road from the style you currently have to the one you
really want.

I receive many emails from women who want to wear {fill in the blank} -- brighter colors, more
patters, fun jewelry -- but theyre nervous. We dont want to look like we were begging for
attention. And when we do something new, stretch our creativity wings, people notice, therefore
they comment aaaaaaand we get super uncomfortable.

One of my clients is a guy in Washington DC who loves fashion. Nothing crazy, but DC is a
pretty conservative town, so showing up in a striped shirt with a polka dot tie or heaven forbid a
bow tie, would definitely get noticed. So I told him, You can play small and hold back. Or you can
just get the heck over getting noticed and be okay with being the best dressed guy at your oce.

A friend of mine is a suit-maker and he wears a three-piece suit everywhere he goes. Were in a
bar on a Friday night where everyone else is in jeans, and hes the 66 guy in a full suit. It gets
him noticed. And he owns it. Nothing to apologize for. He gets noticed, because he looks
incredible.

You saw my before and after photos in the weeks before Style & Styleability. I didnt make that
transformation overnight. It happened slowly. I evolved. I went from an averagely dressed girl, to
well dressed, to often times the best dressed in the room. {Note: I dont say that bragging, I say
that meaning it could easily make me uncomfortable, as though Im over-dressed.} But even
when Im more dressed up than everyone else -- now, no one thinks anything of it because they

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nervous Im too much, but grounded and owning that I love the way I look without apology.

Being a stylist gave me permission. And now Im giving it to you.

However, if we ramp up from zero to sixty in one day, it can feel super awkward. Instead, you
want to step outside your box one step at a time over the coming weeks and months to evolve
gracefully.

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Pardon me while I talk about bosoms {aka, thank you Fergie, your lady lumps} for a moment.

Blake Lively is known for a sexy evening dress. When I see hercleavageon a red carpet, I don't
give it a second thought. Oh, Blake, boobs, next.

But when Amy Poehler was married to Will Arnett, I was used to seeing her like this, this and
this. Pretty. But nary a near nip slip.

Then she got divorced, and suddenly began an obsession with precariously plunging necklines at
awards shows in 2012 here, here, here and definitely here.

All I could think was, "Woah, there are Amys breasts!!!"

What feels like a natural style choice on Blake doesn't distract me; what feels out of character for
Amy, eclipses how lovely she may look beyond that.

Let me say that a dierent way: Amys low-cut choices are not a fashion dont. But when you
make a 180 degree change, people notice. And it can feel inauthentic.

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The secret to being a Blake not an Amy: Know where your current style falls on the path to your
ideal style.

Or in the words of Shakespeare, Know thyself.

My feeling is that you can go one step outside of your wheelhouse in any direction. Wear no
make-up? Start with mascara and tinted lip gloss. Never wear heels? Start with a sensible 2" heel
in a casual style.

It's when you suddenly leap three steps outside that people say, "Woah, you're wearing sequins!" {to
the girl who's usually in a plain pullover sweater} and "Wow you're dressed up!" {to the girl in a
pencil skirt who typically shows up in yoga pants}. Or, when you throw on the makeup and the
heels and the dress all in the same day, as compared to your fresh-faced, flip-flops and jeans.

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Knowing whats in your wheelhouse is not about being afraid to go to big. This is not me trying
to reign you in. Its me trying to push you. Because I find that 99% of the time we are not too
bold, we are too timid.

Instead, knowing your wheelhouse is about giving you an anchor. So that you can then take a step
outside your box with confidence.

Its taking your everyday, average, usual, typical, go-to style ... and then asking yourself, How can
I take that up just one notch? Whats one thing I could change up? How could I take just one thing to the
next level?

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Going one step outside your wheelhouse will get you noticed. You may get compliments. And in
our bizarrely self-conscious brains that can sometimes feel awkward. Oh gosh, people keep
complimenting me today, this isnt usual, I must be too dressed up, this is awkward.

Own it. Trust me that you can go one step outside of your wheelhouse in any direction: more
colorful, more cheeky, more makeup, more accessories, more form-fitting, more dressy, more
fashion forward. That may get you noticed. In the best way. Dont panic. Getting noticed, does
not mean youre screaming for attention.

Ill say that again in case you missed it.

Getting noticed ... does not mean youre screaming for attention.

It means you look nice. Go with it. Say thank you. Smile. Then go do it again tomorrow.

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Start with this brainstorming:

Q: Whats in your wheelhouse?

What does your typical, daily, go-to style tend to look like?

If youre stuck, start by listing things that are NOT your style. Things that are in a friends wheelhouse,
but arent you to help you get more clarity. Or consider times when a friend has pointed to something
and said, Oh thats so you and whether or not you agreed.

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Q: What are 3 ways in which you could go one step out of your style wheelhouse?

Stuck? Heres a few ideas:

I do the same simple eye makeup everyday, so I could try a bold eye

I always wear flats so I could wear a pair of heels that arent too high but make me feel a little more
feminine

I wear a lot of patterns, but never more than one, so I could try mixing two

I always sport black so I could try wearing one great color

I never remember to accessorize and could play with layering bracelets or one great necklace

OR look to the women on your Pinterest board. When I feel stuck for what the next version of my style is,
this is exactly what I do. I look to my friends on Instagram who I consider stylish, and I get inspired
about specific pieces or combinations I hadnt come up with on my own.

P.S. If you find more images on your quest to answer this question, add em to your board! That place is
going to be a treasure trove to rival Ariels when were done.

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This is how you gently push the boundaries of your personal style; how you take your style to the
next level, without feeling uncomfortable or not like yourself in your own skin.

Make It Happen: Commit to pushing the envelope in one of the ways above, then head over to
the Treehouse of Trust and share it!

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By now youve made some progress into your Ribbon and Record, whether you started it before
class, during the 3 Steps to Simplified Style or dove in when class began.

Keep that going. Depending on how large your closet is, now could be right about the time that
youre reaching the end of your safe 20%. Which means it will get a little more challenging to
find new pieces to wear, because youre pushing beyond your habits and go-to items.

Stick with it! What if you come up with outfits the night before? Or come up with three or five
outfits at a time for this week? You dont have to commit to this practice for all time. If I think I
have to do something like give up dairy for forever its much more daunting than committing to
try it for a month. Do this just for the remaining few weeks of this class to get you into that
uncomfortable 80%.

Pushing yourself creatively is like training for a marathon. You dont train hard 52 weeks a year.
Right now were in a push of a few weeks. Thats what this class is all about. And then in a few
weeks you can rest, go back to your go-tos, trusting that pushing yourself will have expanded
your horizons so that neutral is a bigger playing field then it was before we started.

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Step One: Create accessories spaces that have a right and left or top and bottom just like your
closet.

Personally, my necklaces hang on hooks and once worn they go to the right side. My scarves are
on a ladder and once worn they're put on the lower rungs. My belts are rolled in square dividers
in my top drawer and once sported go into the squares on the right.

This organization will look dierent for you based on your space and set-up. But in general I'd
like you to start creating a separate spot, stack or certain side for once your jewelry, tights, socks,
purses and any accessories are worn.

Step Two: Have your accessories where you can see them!

So many people have necklaces tucked in a pretty box up on a shelf. Of course they never get
worn. Or their purses are in some convoluted storage bin under the bed. So of course its easiest
to just keep wearing the same purse everyday, even though you have 10 others that are gathering
dust.

We can get into the same rut of wearing just two necklaces everyday when we own 20, that we do
with our jeans. And we can have a chest full of purses, yet are unsure which ones to part with and

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donate, just like when we have a packed closet of sweaters. Make the best use of everything you
own, plus make it clear for yourself a month from now what's clutter. If you dont wear it, pass it
on to someone who will.

Remember, this doesn't have to take more than 30 seconds! You dont have to organize any
more than just decide what your marker or side is, and start putting things there when you take
them o later today.

And/or, do some hunting on Amazon for a new space solution that might let you get X o of a
top shelf or out from under the bed to where it can really be of use to you. Something along these
lines lets me see all my jewelry displayed on my dresser, and a decorative trunk at the foot of my
bed holds all my purses. After all, if youve spend the money on the accessories, may as well
invest in something to help you get use out of them.

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For a second look at the pieces and ensembles featured in this video class:

The black and white top, with the black and white version of that pencil skirt

The same pencil skirt styled elsewhere

And in the blue and green version

Pardon Women Wear Dailys snarky tone, and note this is not a political statement, but
regardless of party aliation in the United States, this sums up how poor tailoring hurt poor
Paul in his aspirations

The J.Crew denim homepage {where you WILL see bootcut, but a far more narrow silhouette
than the bootcut most of us owned 10 years ago} <-- P.S. This is not an aliate link, I just think
J.Crew is a good middle of the road barometer for whats in style without being overly fashion
forward, whether you put their preppy spin on the styling or your own.

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Now its your turn:

Whats one takeaway from the video class that has you thinking dierently about the shapes you have in
or will add to your closet? Is it a silhouette youre going to stop choosing, or one element youre going to
start paying more attention to?

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The Sixth Sense Worksheet: Revisit Chapter One of the workbook in which you wrote about how you
want to feel. This time I want you to go deeper in one of two ways.

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Take a look at the words above and narrow it down to a handful. Maybe three or five. Make this
your tagline that you want to remember every time you go into a dressing room or are looking in
the mirror deciding if a piece should go: Does this make me feel _____? {For example, Artistic,
feminine, wise and/or joyful.} That description of your recipe for feeling marvelous, is all your
own and your north star in curating a closet that represents and inspires who you are.

Make It Happen: Per usual, head over to the Treehouse of Trust and share the two answers above
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Style Challenge: Dress-up three casual pieces, or dress down fancy ones.

This week I'm challenging you to find three pieces in your wardrobe that are typically casual ...
and try out ways to dress them up.

Or, pieces that are typically dressy ... and play with how you can make them work in the everyday.

I often find my clients have items they rarely wear because they seem "too fancy" for work. But
actually with a few tricks, we can totally pass them o as oce appropriate.

Or, they have a basic that doesn't feel special enough for a night out. And with a few additions
we can make it so much more "Hellooooo there."

Now, do take into account that the 2-Part Fashion Cocktail can only go so far. Pearls and yoga
pants, arent dressing up or down anything, theyre just leading to an unsavory recipe for awkward.
{wink} But, pearls certainly can dress up jeans. So experiment and lets see what new concoctions
we can uncover.

Share your challenge photos in the Treehouse of Trust and let's try to multiply your closet for all
of your life scenarios!

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Bonus Style Challenge: 5 Star Proportions

Why do the proportions in todays outfit work, or not?

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Bonus Style Challenge: 6th Sense Feelings

Which of your 6th Sense Feelings are embodied in todays outfit? Perhaps let your words inspire
the outfit you decide to put on? If only half of the words are present, what change could bring
more of them into this ensemble?

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While PopSugar may not be the Wall Street Journal, Im incredibly impressed with their list of
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I was in our hotel room during a conference last year when a new friend said, "I have a vintage fur
vest I want you to have. I packed it to wear, but it just doesn't look good on me."

She showed me the vest, and it was almost identical to one I'd been wearing earlier that day. And
at about 5'4" and not especially curvy, our frames are similar. So I pulled the liar, liar card:

"I don't believe you. Why doesn't it look good on you?"

"It just makes me look wide."

"Mmm I bet it doesn't. It looks like you're a small person, wearing a fur vest. The fur looks wide, not you.
Did you think I looked wide when I was wearing mine today?"

"No! You looked adorable! But when I came back to the room and tried mine on ... I just looked wide."

"That's because when you look in the mirror, you're seeing the parts. And when you look at me, you're
seeing the whole."

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We do this all the time. You stare critically in the mirror and your eye goes right to your self-
conscious areas. That 150% Mirror I talked about in 3 Steps to Simplified Style. You notice right
away that your thighs seem wide to you, your arms are a bit flabby in your mind, that part
underneath your arm does that bulgy thing when you wear a strapless dress, your stomach isnt
perfectly flat.

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Let's take out the 10% of people who dress in a really unflattering manner. I don't mean the
rather overweight woman wearing white spandex pants we know would highlight cellulite on the
best of bodies.

I mean the hilarious woman in your oce who has a perfectly nice figure and pretty eyes who
looks great in blue and always has the loveliest silk scarves.How often when she walks into a
meeting are you analyzing her stomach under that pantsuit or her arms in that dress?

If you DO notice an "imperfect" part about others ... it's probably the same one area you're
always staring at on yourself.

Am I right?

You're self-conscious about how your thighs touch, so you're always noticing everyone else whose
do or don't? Youre always afraid you look a little pregnant in a dress so youre always looking to
see if anyone else does too?

But when you see a thin girl in a fur vest your brain thinks, "That's a small person in a bulky top
layer." Or what translates to, "What a cute outfit!" Then you turn around and see yourself in the
same outfit and think, "Gah! Look how heavy I look in the middle. I'm never wearing this fur again!"

We see ourselves as the parts; the imperfect parts. We see everyone else as the whole; the head to
toe vision walking down the street towards us.

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Next time you hear that thought in your head, squint or un-focus your eyes a little at the mirror.
{My parents used to make us do this while decorating the Christmas tree so we could see if there
were any gaps in the lights.}

Blur out the parts. And just for a moment try to step outside yourself and see the whole. I
guarantee that remarkable color, darling detail or a dose of vodka is outshining the little
imperfection you're fixated on. See yourself through the eyes of others. Because I actually believe
99% of us are the kind of people who want to see the best in others, and therefore thats all we
notice.

Oh, and my friend at the conference? She tapped me on the shoulder two hours later while I was
busting a serious move to Miley Cyrus on the dance floor ... wearing the fur vest! With a big ol
smile on her face. I thought my heart was going to burst with joy. We cant stop, we wont stop
indeed. {wink}

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Q: What are the areas of your body that you fixate on?

Please note: This list is not just to write out your flaws and insecurities. But rather, to commit that you
will start noticing this week just how often you hear those negative thoughts.

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This week, be aware of how often those thoughts creep into your head. And commit, just for this
week, to calling yourself out each time it does. Force yourself to step back and consider what you
look like as the whole, not just the parts. Squint your eyes a little and imagine what youd think if
you saw someone else in your clothes head to toe. Then be as gracious to yourself as you are to
others.

Make It Happen: This might feel uber vulnerable, but head over to the Treehouse of Trust and
share what the areas are that youre hardest on yourself for.

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Again, this is not intended to focus on the negative. But in my experience, hearing what other
bettys are struggling with -- especially when theyre gals whose photos youve been looking at for
the last few weeks -- well, it will often shock you. And if you cant believe that girl with the
gorgeous gams is self-conscious about her thighs ... well, might you too have an inaccurate self-
perception?

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If youre still unsure, watch this video from the Dove Campaign.

As a stylist, I can attest that almost every client I work with sees herself in the mirror as the
portrait on the left. And myself, the men shes on dates with, and the woman on the other side of
the conference table, see her as the portrait on the right.

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I find trends to be silly. Not that they exist, but the emphasis we place upon them.

Trends to me are a commentary on an artistic niche. Theyre for those in the fashion industry
noting themes after Fashion Week; fascinating if youre a student of design.

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Theyre also a sneak peek at whats going to be in stores next season. But as someone whos not in
the food industry, does it really matter to me whats going to be on the shelves at Trader Joes in
three months; without a job in the tech industry, what new computer or car is going to be on the
market next year?

In no other industry do we really strive to be in the know unless its our profession or serious
hobby. But because fashion is sexy, fashion trends appear in US Weekly and on The Today Show.
There are plenty of Apple geeks out there who know the blogs to follow, whereas I never hear the
next iPhone news. But its hard to consume any womens magazine without being informed about
the newest fashion trends.

The reason this bothers me is pressure. I see that it makes my clients and readers feel pressure --
to be cool, to be relevant, or at least not uncool or irrelevant. You dont necessarily want to be a
trendsetter, but you do want to make sure youre not left awkwardly and blindly behind. But I
dont see that as being an issue.

No one is ever going to look at you and say, "You know, I'm really disappointed you haven't tried the
___ trend." No one's wondering behind your back, "Didn't she get the memo that ___ is really in?"
Tangerine was a big color one spring and high-waisted jeans another. Did it ever occur to you
that a friend of yours didn't own either? Definitely not.

Trends are not about missing out. They're not about must-haves. Theyre not about new style
rules you need to know.

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I think they're about creativity and new inspiration. I think trends are a great time to say,

"Hmm ... tangerine. I guess I really don't own any orange in my closet. Maybe I should play with that.
Tangerine doesn't look quite right on me but what about coral? Poppy?"

I feel like high-waisted pants would look awful on me, but I see them looking cute on so many other
women ... maybe I should give five or 10 dierent brands a try in the dressing room and just see?

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Q: What are some trends youve tried? Whats been a fail and why? Whats been a great
discovery and how?

Take a few moments to think about this question to really see how aected you are by trends, for better or
for worse. I want you to be aware of the voices that havent actually helped, as much as creative
opportunities you might have been missing. These could be literal trends you read in an article, or
subconscious trends you started to pick up on on Instagram, Pinterest or blogs.

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Trends are about helping you to think outside the box. Instead, they often make you feel as
though there's one certain box you're supposed to be in.

So the next time you read an article about what's on trend, don't hear it as a list of must-haves.
Simply consider each an opportunity, a new possibility, and disregard those that don't work with
your personal style and life style.

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My hope is that this Style & Styleability experience is helping you gain more clarity about the
picture you're creating each time you leave the house, the story you're telling, and what you want
to say. Whether that's tomboy today and whimsical tomorrow, or French sophistication every day
of the week.

Make It Happen: You know whats next. Head over to the Treehouse of Trust and share your
answers!

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Our next spots to start organizing are those pieces you wear once in a blue moon {i.e. your fancy
party dresses} or those that are out of season {i.e. swim suits or winter coats}. Heads up that both
of these categories vary wildly upon the amount of space you have, your lifestyle, etc. so take
which advice works for you and ignore the rest.

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Step One: For your fancy clothes, does it make sense to simply keep them at the back of your
closet, or move them to another closet?

In my home on Dean Street, I have a gown closet. Yes, really. {I told you this would depend upon
your own set up!} I moved everything down there that I would wear to a wedding, but not to
church -- that was my personal delineation of whether a cute dress was fancy or special
occasion.

Now that most of my clothes live at the Dean Street Studio where I have open garment racks
that are basically the decoration on either side of the fire place, I want those marvelous pieces
hanging there. Even if they end up in front of my ribbon for a long while.

The first decision was because I needed the space. Having dresses I rarely wore was extra clutter.
The latter decision is so that I can see which of those dresses I am and am not wearing after a
period of time. I might have fewer occasions to wear them, but when I do, what do I want to
wear, and whats gathering dust that I should let go?

If you have one mother-of-the-bride dress you havent worn in five years, keep it. Perhaps youll
be invited to a black tie fundraiser. But if you still have your sorority formal dresses that could
now pass as Halloween costumes, or 24 dresses to wear to weddings and only went to two last
year ... Basically its up to you if this is an area of your closet where you need to strongly
implement the ribbon, or hold onto investment pieces just because. Your choice.

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Step Two: Seasonal clothing also depends upon your rooms set-up. My mom likes to put her
summery suits in the guest room closet. Even though she could technically wear them to work in
the winter {the climate in California is not that dierent} she likes to be able to have fresh
options to switch out twice a year.

Meanwhile, my winter sweaters have their own place in the wardrobe and theres nowhere else in
the studio I could shove them if I wanted to, so they stay put.

What I will say though, is that I very often find there are lots of things my clients relegate to
winter or summer that could carry over to have much more use. What about the sweater with
shorts in the fall? The light-weight dress with tights in the spring? Before you hide something
away, challenge yourself to pair it with something that could make it work for longer than you
think. Or, if you decide to put things away, do it not because youre lacking vision but, like my
mother, the change of season refreshes rather than limits you.

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checking in to make sure you didnt just set up something when you moved in years ago and
never reconsidered whether it makes the most sense. But instead making intentional choices that
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the summer because she forgot she already owned two? This girl.}

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For more inspiration on rocking color:

My yellow skirt with a dierent pink tank

The mint pencil skirt and hue-on-hue color blocking

This example of hue-on-hue is a color combo Id swoon for in a floral bouquet, a pillow or a
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 How I mixed color head to toe using the jewel tones principle

And the Pinterest board noted in the above blog post with a few ideas of photos that might
spark your color inspiration

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Now its your turn:

When you stand in front of your closet what colors do you see? Now that were talking about tones or
hues, do you see more pastels, primary, jewel, muted or neon? Remember that just because I love jewel
tones, doesnt mean they make you feel the way you want to feel. So how do you feel about the colors in
your closet? What do you want to start adding more of or stop buying?

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Heres a second look at pattern inspiration:

Using #3 classic colors and #4 busy + bold, I pulled o three patterns for fall and did it again
here with accessories, both of which also use #1 stripes

I love this polka dot outfit using #2 black + white and #4 busy + bold, and this example which
also includes #1 stripes

Note this outfit includes a blouse and skirt you already saw styled in the posts above, for more
ideas on how to remix them

#1 stripes plus #4 bold + busy make for a darling pink and blue pairing

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Which of four mixing principles was an aha moment for you? What did you realize you were already
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principle are you most excited to implement or take to the next level to add prints interest to your
ensembles?

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Style Challenge: Wear three pieces still hanging in front of the ribbon.

As we keep pushing ourselves with the ribbon and record, I want you to create outfits using three
of the pieces still in front your ribbon. These are pieces that haven't been worn in the last three
weeks ... or maybe longer!

As you're creating outfits, put on your Sherlock Holmes cap and ask the smart questions: Why
haven't you worn this? What is it that's drawn you to other pieces ahead of this?

Using what you've learned in all eight video lessons, does it have to do with:

1. Not being remarkable? What remarkable detail could you add?

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3. If you focus on 3 is the key does it feel more like a full ensemble?

4. Is it lacking the V or the line? Can you create the shape with accessories, tucking, etc?

5. Is the proportion simply o ? Could it be tailored or layered to fix it?

6. Does it make you feel _____? Would accessories, hair or make-up change the feeling?

7. Do you not love the color? Or dont have the right color to pair it with?

8. Do you not love the pattern? Or dont have the right print to mix it with?

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It may be that this challenges brings to light pieces you dont even bother to photograph but just
realize you should let go o. Hooray for clutter clearing! But if youre hesitating on the donate
pile, do your best to style it and post it for feedback. Even if the ultimate decision is to let it go,
you might get some extra ideas on why it didnt work to shop smarter next time.

Then share your final photos in the Treehouse of Trust. Let's try to solve some lingering pieces
to round out your total empowerment over your closet before we head into our final week!

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Bonus Challenge: 7 Jewel Tone Hues

Try a new color pairing, whether thinking about jewel tones or shades of one hue {i.e. blues/
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Bonus Challenge: Figure 8 Pattern Pairings

Mix two patterns you havent worn before employing at least one of the four principles taught in
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While this is not my favorite film adaptation of the book {one of my all-time favorite novels!}
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Just four weeks ago we began this journey together. One that most likely youd never been on.

Weve talked about your life, lifestyle, daily rhythms, whats appropriate for your work or your
kiddos.

Weve talked about your style, your style chemistry, what inspires you, who you connect with,
what inspires you, how you want to feel.

Weve talked about your heart, what your insecurities are, where youre unkind to yourself
unnecessarily with your silent words.

Then weve taken all of that knowledge about who you are and what you want and merged it with
all of my style knowledge on the hows and whys of this thing we do every day.

After today, we will have covered ten principles that illuminate how we can look the most
eortlessly chic, and be the most empowered over these inanimate objects that have such power
over our joy or self-confidence.

Plus we got practical, setting up your home for success, clearing clutter, streamlining and
systematizing little by little all of this stu called a wardrobe.

And finally, perhaps most importantly, we took action in getting creative.

Every week, you heard your fellow bettys talk about how challenging the challenges are. But yall
kept showing up. You set aside the time for yourself, you keep staring at the closet even as it grew

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dark outside, you didnt give up even though you hated the first few outfits, you took pictures
even though you were unsure.

And you made discoveries. Ones that were hanging right there all along, had already been bought
and invested, and now theyre seeing the light of day and shaking o the dust or the tags. Youre
wearing these discoveries into meetings and parties and showing o your creations you crafted by
making the best use of what you already had.

Love, I hope all of that makes your heart bubble up the way it does mine!

Your daily beauty and self-confidence is something most women are only scratching the surface
of and youve peeled back layers you may not have even realized were dimming your joy all these
years.

Before we close this final chapter together, I want you to get clear on what youve learned. It will
never be as fresh in your mind as it is right now, so tell it to yourself again.

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Q: What have you learned over the last month? What were the most powerful takeaways from
this journey that youll use on a daily basis or have changed you for years to come?

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answer. This gift will help remind others of gems they might have forgotten about, and make
what youve learned here more palpable and muscle memory for one another going forward.

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The final area we want to organize are our shoes and those miscellaneous drawers like pajamas
and workout clothes.

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Step One: For your miscellaneous drawers, as always, all I want you to do is designate a side.
Have a drawer over-flowing with old tees to workout in? In a month you'll know which half of
those you can toss. Have 12 pairs of pjs jammed in that drawer? See which ones you're wearing in
the next month and get honest about how many pairs you really need. One month from now
even your "miscellaneous drawers" will have so much more breathing room!

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Step Two: For your shoes, you can designate a side. Or you can employ my cotton ball trick. Pop
one in each shoe {this will cost you a dollar at the drug store} and youll soon be able to easily
identify which ones havent been sported.

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And if you're holding onto shoes but not wearing them because they're uncomfortable ... as a
NYC girl who walks everywhere, I feel your pain!

Make a pact with yourself from here on out to walk around the store again and again to see if
shoes are really comfortable. Buy a half size up if you're unsure. Go back to a brand you know is
comfortable on your feet for a second pair in a dierent style or color.

If you really need more time with them at home to be sure theyre comfortable, steal my stylist
trick on photo shoots: Put masking tape on the bottom while you walk around at home so dirt
and markings dont scu up the bottom. If youve realized theyre uncomfortable and the tape
sticks when you remove it, use Goo Gone to clean up the bottoms before you return them.

Commit to shopping smarter because I can't stand one more client showing me her darling shoes
with glee and then immediately declaring she never wears them because they're so painful!

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As for shoes you already own, heres a few of my tricks for making them more pain-free:

Baby powder: Keeping your feet dry prevents the sticking and rubbing that can lead to blisters.
Liquid band-aid: I put this on when I feel a shoe pressing somewhere to create a barrier before
I walk around all day.

Runners stick: This looks like a mini-deodorant and prevents the chafing that leads to blisters.
Moleskin: When its warm outside, this sticks better than band-aids {that always sweat o }. Be
sure not to stick it to an open blister, but putting the sticky side on your skin where you feel a
pinch before a blister is a great long-lasting cushion.

In-soles, cushions, heel grips: It can be worth it to get a few types and try them in a variety of
your shoes to see which ones need which.

Gummy dots: These small circular gel pads are great for creating space between my foot and a
shoe where I feel its going to pinch or rub. To find out where the issue is before I leave the
house, Ill walk around in the shoes for 20 minutes, take them o and see if theres any red
marks. Those are the spots to employ any of the above before you leave the house!

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As a final organizing note, for any area of your closet where you hit a wall with I dont have any
space to organize them the way youre saying, take half of them and put them under your bed.

If you dont miss those shoes or workout clothes in the meantime, well, theres your answer. If you
do, then youll be motivated to clear the clutter from the first round, switch it out with the
second, and eventually have whittled yourself down into the amount you can own that gives you
room to breathe.

And ultimately, dont you want more room to breathe?

White space is the answer to chic. In home decor, in graphic design, in an outfit thats not too
fussy from head to toe. White space is luxurious. You didnt have to cram the furniture in a little
room, the desperate copy in a small sales ad, every accessories in hopes of looking cool. You have
room to breathe. You didnt have to try so hard.

So when your reflexes kick in and you want to hold onto more stu because you have regret over
the money you spent or fear of not having enough clothes, my vote is to choose grace, breathing
room, chic white space.

I dont think youll ever regret that.

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Another pass at a few of my favorite finds from this secret:

The chartreuse green dress

That crop tweed blazer here and here

Also a very similar example I found for my Mom

My giant black sweater

The vintage black dress

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Which takeaway will make the most dierence in helping you to shop smarter? Whats the biggest
mistake you realize youve made as to why certain items dont feel as chic as youd like?

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Now its your turn:

Whats one finishing touch you could be better about incorporating? Is it learning a new hairstyle?
Investing in a chic handbag? Also whats the fastest go-to to add chicness on a day youre in a rush?

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Our other challenges have been about the stu youre not sure you love, this one is about what
you totally love!

Style Challenge: To get an A as we wrap up class, I want you to give me an F:

1 outfit youd wear to kill on a First Date or date night with your beau {feeling gorgeous, sexy
or _____}

1 outfit thats your new Fast Change go-to when you realize you have 10 minutes and no time
to hem and haw {feeling eortlessly chic or _____}

1 outfit for Final Interviews or Fabulous Events {feeling powerful, successful or _____}

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Bonus Style Challenge: Start With A Kick

Start wearing those shoes that don't get as much love. Make the same eort you do with a skirt
you're realizing you never wear. Try to make 3 outfits work with a pair of shoes you haven't worn
during Style & Styleability.

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Bonus Style Challenge: End With A Twist

Create 3 outfits this week based around your accessories. Maybe its bolder makeup, a new
hairstyle or a fabulous piece of jewelry.

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 One of my favorite TV shows is The Americans in which Keri Russell plays a spy. Its very
Alias a la Jennifer Garner, but what I love is that while Jennifers undercover ensembles were
almost always a version of sexy, Keris are often mousy or awkward making her a brilliant
example of the power of our hair!

And finally, if there were ever a fairytale to fall into fashion, it would be Sex and The City. The
TV show is outdated if you start at the beginning, but even popping in one of the movies or if
you were a fan of the series thinking back to their characters, consider this as one example of
how fashion tells a story.

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And that, mdear, is the end of Style & Styleability ... and the beginning of your more empowered
journey into personal style!

Your style will be ever evolving. Take part in the next round of Style & Styleability, and Im sure
youll see new ways in which youve grown and changed. We should always be exploring, creating,
taking new risks and spreading our wings. So this process is a gift.

There will also always be more to learn. People study fashion, pop culture, sociology, psychology
for their whole lives and continue to have new discoveries.

But the foundations weve covered will last a lifetime. The creative stretching weve done has
expanded you. And while that will ebb and flow, it will never retreat all the way back to where
you started. Youve pushed your vision of yourself and your creativity. And that jumpstarts some
marvelous explorations in all areas of our lives and self-expression, from here to eternity.

My hope is that the Treehouse of Trust has been a gem for you. A place to hear that youre not
alone, that we all face the same challenges and that in truth were all far too critical of ourselves. I
hope youve found inspiration there, seeing others grow, and hearing the insecurities and
challenges we typically dont have insight to when we pass another woman on the street. And I
hope youve been armed and grown in your confidence, whether in taking a risk or embracing
something new.

And if youre ever in doubt. If the voices creep back in. When youre nervous about taking a risk,
fully showing up, pushing your boundaries, remember that glorious Marianne Williamson quote.

... as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same ...

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Who knew there was that much power in a fabulous dress or red lipstick? Yet Ive seen it to be
true. And Im thrilled to know youre now one more person giving permission to your colleagues,
children, the woman in line next to you at the grocery store, to shine.

I cant wait to hear more of your story as a part of Dean Street Society. See you there ...

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