consider why we may not express Reasons for repressing the emotions and then discuss some of emotions the ineffective ways people express emotions.
what we feel and how we express it
are influenced by the culture and Cultural and Social Expectations social groups to which we belong. Self-Protection Protecting Gender socialization seems Others Social and Professional particularly important in shaping Roles feelings and the expression of them.
In the United States, men are
expected to be more restrained It is taught that anger is unattractive than women in expressing most and undesirable in women emotions
Thus, many women engage in
Another feeling rule that is learned emotion work in an attempt to make by many Western women is to care themselves feel caring (via deep about others. acting) when they don t naturally feel that way. In societies that teach men the feeling rule that they should not feel or express a great many emotions, some men may suppress feelings Self-Protection or avoid expressing them. Over time, men who do this may become alienated from their feelings, unable to recognize what they do feel,
we don t want to give others Adolescent girls bullying tends to
information that could affect how be indirect instead of overt one for they perceive or act toward us. fear of being disapproved of
known as the chilling effect. When
we have a relationship with someone whom we perceive as Girls learn not to stand up to boys more powerful than us, we may at school because they fear being suppress complaints and called bitch expressions of dissatisfaction or anger because we fear that the more powerful person could punish us.
we fear we could hurt or upset
Protecting Others others Regarding Asian view, Hurting Repressing our emotions can be others is shameful. Conflict constructive and generous damages the social relationship and should be discouraged
However, Consistent lack of
emotional disclosures in couple s communication causes wane of intimacy. Physical and Social and Professional Roles psychological effect of repressing emotions over the long term can harm you and your relationships
our roles make it inappropriate. A A doctor who expresses anger
judge who cries when hearing a sad toward a patient might be regarded story perceived as unprofessional. as unprofessional
Our ethical obligation: Considerate
choice of whether, when, and how to express our feelings. Thus, we Ineffective expression of emotions should be a Responsible communicator. 3 usual situations are figured out. Excessively general and abstract They are: Speaking in Generalities, verbal statements. Unable to clearly Not Owning Feelings and communicate the speaker s feelings Counterfeit Emotional Language
Limited repertoire for nonverbal
I feel bad : Depressed, angry, expression of emotions. Withdrawal guilty, ashamed, or from interaction: Sadness, anger, anxious??????? depressed, or fear
However, people can only
recognize limited kind of emotions that humans can experience. Not Owning Feelings Limited emotional vocabulary restricts our ability of clear communication of emotions
Stating feelings but also denying
personal responsibility is ubiquitous You make me angry is obstruction to effective expression irresponsible of emotions I feel hurt and insecure when you don t call when you say you will. Would you be willing to call if we agree that it s okay for calls to be short sometimes? shows Counterfeit Emotional Language responsibility for a feeling, communicates definitely what is felt, and produces solutions to fix the relationship
One form of such language seems Clear description of communicators
to express emotions but does not feelings and the connection actually describe what a person is between their feelings and other feeling behaviours
I feel frustrated because when I m Only when identifying situations and
working and you walk in, I lose my your emotional reactions to them is train of thought is a more possible, you can communicate to constructive than Why can t you others concisely leave me alone?
Another form of this language uses I feel this discussion is getting