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Communication In general, clients come to work with helping professionals to be heard, to be understood, and
to understand more of themselves in the process. Research has shown that empathic listening
Exercise is a key component in the relationship between client and practitioner (Meyers, 2000). Empathy
30-60 min. can be defined as a specific, moment-by-moment response to the clients immediate experiential
field (Bohart et al., 1993, p. 20). Rogers (1975), further stressed the importance of listening:
Group being listened to by an understanding person makes it possible for [a person] to listen more
No accurately to him/herself, with greater empathy toward his/her own visceral experiencing, his/her
own vaguely felt meanings (p. 8).
Research has shown that the practitioners careful listening, attendance to and remembrance of
details, and nonjudgmental acceptance are identified by clients as contributing to the empathic
relationship that they share with their practitioners (Meyers, 2000). These aspects have been
found to contribute significantly to clients feeling cared for and safe.
Goal
The goal of this exercise is to practice three core components of empathic listening: pausing/
wait time, paraphrasing and reflecting feelings.
Advice
Empathic listening has been said not to be reducible to a technique or skill. Rather, it has been
suggested that it emerges as a relational, interactional variable unique to each encounter (Meyers,
2000). In this light, this exercise can best be perceived as a tool to familiarize individuals with
the concept of empathic listening and practice the essential skills. This tool is unlikely to replace
a genuine and intentional process. The evaluation of every part of this exercise can be done in a
larger group or in small groups, depending on the total size of the group and the time available.
At the heart of empathic listening lies the question: How does an effective practitioner
communicate that he/she is listening to and understanding the client? In order to increase
further understanding of the concept of empathic listening, it can be valuable to discuss the
following questions:
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Suggested Readings
Bohart, A., Humphrey, A., Magallanes, M., Guzman, R., Smiljanich, K., & Aguallo, S. (1993).
Emphasizing the future in empathy responses. Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 33, 12-29.
Meyers, S. (2000). Empathic listening: Reports on the experience of being heard. Journal of
Humanistic Psychology, 40, 148-173.
Rogers, C. A. (1951). Client-centered therapy: Its current practice, implications, and theory. Boston:
Houghton Mifflin.
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Tool Description
Instructions
Before starting the exercise, briefly explain what empathetic listening means by mentioning the following key
ingredients:
Feel free to use the Listening Skills Assessment - Practice Worksheet in appendix 2 for the following practice
exercises.
a. Observer: The role is to observe the dialogue between the speaker and interviewer. With detailed notes,
the observer can share constructive feedback.
b. Interviewer
c. Speaker
1. The speaker shares a response to the prompt, Something Ive been thinking about recently....
2. The interviewer listens and after the speaker finishes sharing these initial thoughts, the interviewer pauses.
3. If the speaker remains quiet, then the interviewer paraphrases what the speaker has said.
4. The interviewer pauses again after paraphrasing.
5. If the speaker does not respond, the interviewer asks an open ended question and then pauses again.
6. The conversation continues in this way for 90 seconds.
The observer times each of the pauses and records the number of seconds of each pause. The form in appendix
1 can be used to register the pauses. Participants may then trade roles, so that each person has an opportunity to
practice pausing and to record wait time.
After the practice session, prompt participants to respond to the following questions:
Before participants practice paraphrasing, review the following information about paraphrasing with participants:
Paraphrasing means rewording of another persons thoughts and/or feelings. Paraphrasing says to the speaker:
I am listening
I am interested
I care about what you are saying
I am trying to understand what is important to you
What do I paraphrase?
Use the following questions to discuss the activity with the group:
Before participants participate in the activity, review with them the strategies for reflecting feelings. We can reflect,
or paraphrase, feelings both verbally and nonverbally. Verbal reflection means labelling or naming the feeling: You
feel upset, You are worried, Youre excited because... and by matching the speakers tone of voice and pace of
speech. Nonverbal reflection means matching the speakers gestures, posture, facial expression, breathing etc.
Organize participants in triads for three rounds of practice. Label them A, B and C.
Round A B C
Scenario 1 Speaker Paraphraser Observer
Scenario 2 Observer Speaker Paraphraser
Scenario 3 Paraphraser Observer Speaker
Scenario #1: You are very excited about your job placement. Your supervisor sets aside time to work with you
one-on-one and is very patient when you are learning something new. You can ask questions without being
embarrassed. Other workers are very friendly and invite you to join them for breaks. You are proud of the work
you are doing and feel you are learning a lot.
Scenario #2: You are feeling stressed trying to manage your work for school and a part-time job. You are
working almost every day after school and feel so tired by the time you get home. It is hard to feel motivated
to start homework or to study when its 9 or 10 oclock. However, you want to do well in your courses and are
afraid you are falling behind.
Scenario #3: You are upset with one of your friends. He has not been returning phone calls when you have left
messages. You have always tried to get together at least once a week since you both have a busy schedule.
He says he values your friendship, but the last couple of weeks, he has been too busy to spend any time with
you. When you tried to talk about it, he just brushed you off and said it was not a big deal.
Ask each participant to choose one scenario and read it. After every participant has read his/her scenario, the first
speaker takes on the role of the scenario and shares the content of the scenario in the first person, conveying the
feelings nonverbally so that the paraphraser can practice listening between the lines. The paraphrasers task is to
try to label the emotion(s) and to reflect nonverbally how the speaker is feeling. The observer records examples of
feeling language and nonverbal matches between the speaker and paraphraser. After completing this first round,
the participants switch roles.
Allocate 3 or 4 minutes for each round of role-playing. After each round, invite the observer to share his/her notes
with the paraphraser.
Ask the participants for feedback about what it felt like in each of the 3 roles. Invite descriptions of how paraphrasers
demonstrated nonverbal paraphrasing.
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Name:
Dates Observed:
Comments:
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Name:
Dates Observed:
Comments:
Attentive Listening
Faces speaker
Leans forward
Maintains eye contact
Nods, smiles
Does not interrupt
Encourages speaker to continue speaking
Pauses
Other:
Empathic Listening
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