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Further limitations of the survey include the fact that information was sought from only one
family member (the father) and for most of the respondents is likely to have been gathered
retrospectively.
Figure 1: How long before you separated did you sense that there were difficulties
in your relationship? (of those who had sensed difficulties prior to separation)
More than 12 months
Betw een 9 and 12 months
Betw een 6 and 9 months
Betw een 3 and 6 months
Betw een 1 and 3 months
Les s than one month
0.00%
10.00%
20.00%
30.00%
40.00%
50.00%
60.00%
70.00%
Pe r ce n tag e o f r e s p o n d e n ts
4.9% had spoken to their local Childrens Centre; and fewer than 2% had gone to
Family Lives or Gingerbread.
In the post separation year, help-seeking for relationship problems was substantially
greater, with 59.2% of the sample looking for professional help. Of these, 63.2%
approached their solicitor and 48% their doctor. Other agencies addressed included
Families Need Fathers (48.8%), a mediation service (43.2%), Relate (28.8%) and
Citizens Advice (20.8%). Again, perhaps surprisingly, schools figured with16.8% of
the 59.2% of fathers who had sought help for relationship problems looking to their
childs school for this. It is likely that some individuals sought support from a
number of agencies. Today, use of mediation services is likely to be greater given
that in many cases mediation is now mandatory before application to a court.
Employment: problems experienced and advice sought
The employment behaviour of separated/separating fathers should be of substantial
interest to government and employers. In the year prior to separation 40.5% of our
sample reported that they changed their working patterns. This percentage
increased in the year following separation, with 52.5% reporting that they changed
their working patterns. Comparison with non-separating fathers of the same age
and circumstances would be ideal, though is not available. However, we suspect
that these rates are very high.
The nature of these changes is of particular interest (Figure 2 and Table 1). In the
year prior to separation 30% of men who changed their working patterns said they
had increased their working hours while in the year after separation only 11.4%
reported an increase.
By contrast, in the year following separation 16.7% of respondents who had changed
work patterns reduced their working hours whereas only 11.7% had done so in the
year prior. One cannot determine from this simple survey whether the substantial
increase in working hours prior to separation was in response to family tensions or a
contributing factor to them (though we may expect the relationship to be reciprocal
in many instances).
Nor can we know the reasons for the marked reduction in working hours after
separation, which may be indicative of factors such as stress or increased pressure
placed upon a fathers time as he tries to balance work commitments with parenting
arrangements post-separation.2
A worsening economic climate is not likely to be a factor as not all the respondents were
separating during the same years
Figure 2: Types of changes made by those who changed their work patterns
(respondents were invited to select as many as applied)
Changed position w ithin the same company
Moved to a different employer
Became self employed
Year prior to separation (%)
0.00% 5.00% 10.00% 15.00% 20.00% 25.00% 30.00% 35.00% 40.00% 45.00% 50.00%
Percentage of respondents
30
32.2
11.4
16.7
There was a strong correlation between separation and mens absence from work
through illness: 19.3% of the 52.5% of men who changed their working patterns
after separation (8.2% of the whole sample) report being signed off work due to
illness during that year. This figure was double that found in the year prior to
separation, when 11.1% of the 40.5% who changed their working patterns (4.1% of
the whole) were signed off from work due to illness.
Furthermore, 32.5% of the 52.5% of men who changed their working patterns in the
year after separation (13.9% of the respondents to this question) became
unemployed during this period. Again this was considerably higher than before
separation, when 7% of the respondents (18.9% of the 40.5% of fathers who
reported changing their working patterns) became unemployed.
These figures are extraordinarily high: what they amount to is 11% of the fathers
who responded to the employment questions (and most did so) becoming
unemployed or being signed off for illness in the pre-separation year and 22.1% in
the year post3. These figures represent enormous costs to the State and to
employers. For employers costs are compounded by the movement of substantial
numbers of fathers to different employers over these two time periods: almost half
of the 40.5% of fathers who changed work patterns in the year prior to separation
moved to a different employer, as did just over a third of the 52.5% of fathers who
changed work patterns in the year after separation.
Given the high numbers of the men who did not seek employment advice during
those two years (70.6% of respondents in the year pre-separation and 59% in the
year post-separation) it seems that many who find themselves facing employment
crises are unlikely to be receiving the information and support they need to maintain
themselves in employment and continue to support their children financially. This
is compounded by the finding that just 5.2% of respondents to the who did you seek
guidance about employment issues from question in the year prior to separation
and 10.8% of respondents to this question in the year following separation sought
such advice from anyone outside of their immediate social/professional circle (Table
2). Fathers both prior to and following separation were far more likely to turn to
family or friends4 than to professionals for support with employment: 34.6% of
respondents in the year prior to separation and 41.5% of respondents in the year
following separation. This may not be a productive strategy, particularly where social
capital is low.
Some of these may be the same men - signed off for illness AND becoming unemployed in the same
year.
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This was the only question in our survey which asked about informal advice/support seeking. The fact
that support was sought far more often from informal than formal sources suggests that this pattern
may also prevail in other areas in which the fathers sought support
Year following
separation (%)
59
These results suggest that there is considerable scope for separating and recently
separated fathers to be more adequately supported with employment. Whether
these fathers were unaware of the professional support available to them, unhappy
with its quality or simply unwilling to use it remain open questions. The high
proportion of those who slip into unemployment, change employers and are signed
off sick during and immediately after separation suggests that it could be in
employers interests to look at innovative ways of providing support to these men,
so they optimise their performance and retain them.
Additionally, as family and friends are the first port of call for many, better equipping
these informal sources of support to understand the effects of
separation/relationship distress on work performance, offer appropriate support or
signpost to relevant services may enable more separating men to receive help with
employment earlier. Positive spinoffs in terms of their own wellbeing as well as their
ability to continue to support their children are likely to be substantial.
Table 3: How would you describe your mental health compared to how it had been
previously?
Year prior to separation (%)
Year following separation (%)
Much better
5.0
9.5
A little better
5.8
8.7
About the same
35.5
20.3
A little worse
30.9
33.8
Much worse
22.8
27.7
Year prior to separation: 259 recorded responses, 36 missing responses
Year following separation: 231 recorded responses, 64 missing responses
Throughout the year before and the year after separation, over half our respondents
reported deterioration in their mental health: 53.7% said their mental health had
got a little or much worse in the pre-separation year with 61.5% reporting worse
mental health in the post-separation year. Not all, however, looked for help with
this issue: 24.2% consulted healthcare professionals more often than usual in the
year prior to separation and 47.9% did so in the year post, with GPs being the main
health professionals (Among those visiting a health care professional, only 27.5%
mentioned relationship difficulties to them in the year prior to separation.
Correlations are likely between mental health difficulties and the slide into
unemployment, alcohol/substance misuse and being signed off for sickness.
Alcohol/ substance misuse: problems experienced and advice/support sought
In the wider literature, strong correlations are found, particularly among men,
between mental health difficulties/trauma and substance misuse (Velleman, 2004;
Ballard, 1994). Alcohol or other substance misuse by the men themselves or their
partner was cited as a problem by 22.7% of survey respondents in the year preseparation and 22.2% in the year post separation (figure 3).
Figure 3: Did you or your partner experience problems with alcohol/substance
abuse?
90.00%
80.00%
70.00%
60.00%
50.00%
40.00%
Yes
No
30.00%
20.00%
10.00%
0.00%
In the year before separation
fathers to acknowledge and address other pertinent issues which are affecting their
functioning, but for which they are not seeking help.
Table 5: Percentage of fathers who answered yes they did speak to charities or
other professionals regarding areas listed below:
Year prior to separation
Year following separation
(%)
(%)
Residence/seeing children
17.6
70.7
Child Maintenance
14.5
57.0
Tax/ benefits
3.2
17.6
Finance/ debts
15.3
32.0
Childs behaviour
13.2
33.3
School Performance
20.4
38.2
Contact/Residence
In the year following separation, help seeking in relation to residence/contact was
high.
Figure 4: Did you speak to any professionals or charities regarding residence/
seeing your children?
90.00%
80.00%
70.00%
60.00%
50.00%
Yes
40.00%
No
30.00%
20.00%
10.00%
0.00%
Year prior to separation
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Just over a fifth of respondents approached Citizens Advice for advice about
contact/residence (20.9% in the year before separation and 20.1% in the year after
separation). In the pre-separation year, 23.3% reported that they had sought such
advice from Relate, falling to 8.2% in the year after separation.
Child maintenance
Advice sought regarding child maintenance also saw a large increase from the year
before separation (14.5% of the respondents) to the year afterwards (57%). Of the
35 fathers who sought pre-separation advice on child maintenance, two thirds
sought this from a solicitor, as did 81.0% of those seeking such advice in the post
separation year. Citizens Advice was also used quite frequently: 25.7% used this
service to find out about child maintenance in the pre-separation year; 14.7% in the
year after separation.
Finance/debt
In the pre-separation year 15.3% of fathers said that they spoke to professional
services regarding debt or finance. This figure rose, as might be expected, in the year
post-separation to 32% of respondents. Other research has shown financial
problems to be strongly correlated with separation, both as a stimulus for it and
resulting from it. It is therefore interesting to note that such a small minority of
fathers, particularly in the pre-separation year, sought advice on this topic. Citizens
Advice was the professional service most commonly consulted, with 33.3% of those
who sought such support approaching this agency in the year pre-separation and
50% in the year post-separation.
Those who chose other in relation to sources of support on debt/finance issues
identified a range of services including help-lines and online support services. In the
year before separation, 12% of those who talked with professionals about these
matters said that they spoke to their bank. In the year following separation, this
increased to 16.7% of the 32% of fathers who sought support for financial matters,
meaning that 3.4% of the total sample of fathers approached their bank in the postseparation year. Banks have not previously been identified as potential providers of
information/support to separating families or fathers.
School performance
Of the 38.2% of the respondents who said that they had consulted professional
services regarding their childs school performance in the year after separation,
nearly all (97.5%) said they had spoken to their childs school. The percentage was
also very high in the year before separation where of the 20.4% fathers who had
consulted professional organisations regarding their childs school performance,
89.8% had spoken with the school making schools important touch-points for
around 1:5 fathers before separation and more than 1:3 afterwards. Schools
potential for providing information, referrals or support to this population of fathers
has not previously been identified.
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Childs behaviour
Consulting the school was also the most popular choice for fathers regarding their
childs behaviour, with 52.9% of the 13.2% who consulted professional services on
this topic before separation contacting the school and 67.6% of the 33.3% who did
so in the post separation year speaking with the school.
Health professionals were another important source of support here, with 38.2% of
those who sought professional advice regarding their childs behaviour preseparation and 23.9% post separation talking to a doctor. A robust body of research
shows concern for their childrens wellbeing and achievement to be a powerful
motivator for fathers to seek or accept information or support. There is clear
potential for harnessing separated/separating fathers concern for their childrens
behaviour and achievement to offer support to the men themselves through schools
and primary health care.
doctor (32.6%)5. Solicitors were also spoken with about childrens behaviour: in the
year post-separation, of those who spoke to professional services regarding their
childs behaviour, 36.6% spoke to a solicitor. As Table 7 reveals, both alcohol/
substance abuse and childrens behaviour were far more likely to be discussed with
solicitors by the fathers after, then before, separation: whether this was as part of
attempts to challenge the quality of mothers parenting cannot be determined from
this survey.
It would also be useful to know whether and when concerns relating to alcohol/drug
use or child behaviour are being raised with solicitors rather than with more
appropriate services simply because these are the only professionals some fathers
speak to; and/or because the men are unaware of other more relevant local services
(if these exist). Future research should examine fathers use of legal services to
speak about these issues, determine whether such conversations deliver costeffective and appropriate support, and explore the availability of other more
appropriate services and strategies to increased fathers use of these.
A lot of men answered questions on alcohol around 75% of the entire sample
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Conclusion
Our small survey shows that help-seeking by fathers, particularly for relationship
problems, is common in the period before separation, and even more so afterwards.
This is consistent with other studies which have identified active help-seeking by
men at important life-transitions, including in older age (when they use health
services as much as women do, for example) and when they first become fathers.
The birth of a child (particularly the first child) is a time when fathers are particularly
open to help and support (Cowan, 1988) and a recent study found two fifths of
expectant fathers personally seeking information about the process of pregnancy
and birth from their local maternity service (Redshaw & Heikkila, 2010). 6 In addition,
almost all expectant fathers read about pregnancy/ birth/infant development (Lewis,
1986) and discuss such topics with their partner and with friends and family. A
substantial study of more than 1,000 expectant fathers information-seeking about
the birth, found 58% searching on the internet, with substantially higher percentages
among better educated men and men expecting their first child (Johansson et al,
2010).
As our survey shows, a considerable proportion of separating and separated fathers
also seek help on a range of issues. This is not to say that they always approach the
most appropriate sources of support or that services make the most of their helpseeking, particularly in looking beneath the presenting problem. However, it is
clear that the notion that men dont ask for help must be questioned.
There are, of course, fathers who are not seeking or finding professional support at
all. While it is encouraging that over a third of the 89% of fathers who sensed
difficulties in their relationships with their childrens mothers prior to separation had
sought professional support for this issue, that still leaves more than two out of
three suffering in silence with this problem, and even higher proportions
attempting to manage other debilitating problems on their own. The men who
completely fail to obtain support are likely to be men with high needs: other
research has shown that younger, poorer separated fathers are unlikely to see
solicitors (Lewis et al, 2002); and that while younger separated fathers experience
greater mental health challenges than older separated fathers, they are no more
likely to access mental health services (Quinlivan & Condon, 2005). These are also
the men least likely to see their children or provide financial support for them and
for whom, therefore, support is of particular importance.
New initiatives, with a good evaluation history (perhaps imported from other
jurisdictions and adapted for and trialled in the UK) could offer opportunities. Where
such interventions are being trialled in the UK they currently tend to be with families
using the Family Courts. Most of the fathers who need support will therefore never
access them.
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Some opportunities to engage with this population of fathers will come from better
responsiveness to the fathers own help-seeking; others will develop from going to
where the fathers are in, for instance, workplaces and jobcentres, as well as
Citizens Advice and other crisis services and specifically seeking to address them via
such intermediaries. Additional, and substantial, opportunities are likely to be
afforded by father-inclusive practice in childrens and family services, health,
education, housing, social care etc. where professionals engaging with other family
members (mothers, children, grandparents) become mindful of fathers (and of
separating and separated fathers) and systematically seek to engage with them.
Training and other needs are certain to be identified if these services are to be
reconfigured for this purpose but may prove cost effective when the importance and
benefits of engaging with, rather than ignoring, separating and separated fathers are
understood and accepted.
Recommendations
There is still much uncertainty in our knowledge of how fathers in general, as well as
separating/separated fathers, access support services, and what barriers may be
preventing their wider use of them. This is particularly true for fathers from more
marginalised social groups - young fathers, fathers on low incomes, fathers from
minority ethnic groups. There is a pressing need for more detailed research to be
undertaken in this area, and with specific attention paid to the ways in which
separated/separating fathers do or dont access support. Such work could benefit a
range of Government Departments involved in supporting families, including the
Department of Health, the Department for Education, the Department for
Communities and Local Government, the Department for Work and Pensions and
the Ministry of Justice.
Services:
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Employment:
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