June Tuneup - Loren Slocum

Tuneup Your Authenticity, Tap Into Your Life Plan

Welcome to our June newsletter! This month we will be working on Tuning Up Your Authenticity
and tapping into your goals and desires. The summer season is often a busy and hectic one,
with the kids home from school, vacations, daytrips and BBQs, it can be hard to fit everything in.
However, it is important to make time for yourself this summer and make sure you are staying on track
with you life goals.

When was the last time you checked in on your life plan and made sure you were on track with
your goals? How are you feeling about your life and authenticity in regards to your physical and
emotional wellbeing, financial status, passion, contribution and time management? If you fear
youve fallen behind do not worry now is the perfect time to get yourself back on track!!

Pull out your vision board, journal or planner (dont have one? Time to get one!) and take some time to check in on
the goals you set for yourself and make a realistic plan to put things into action.

The goal of this months Tuneup is to make sure that you don't just "get a lot of activities done; but that you bring
real fulfillment to each day by making sure you are filled up first.

Looking forward to Tuning Up with you!

Stay true,
Loren

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Relationship Tuneup Fashion Tuneup

Susan Baker, Highlands Ranch, CO Stephanie Jackson, Bainbridge
Island, WA Facilitator
This month I would like to share some of my personal
insight into the topic of authenticity. This topic is of This months
particular importance to me in my life right now as I am at focus is
a point of what I would describe as "personal revolution" of "Authenticity"
my life. this month so
I thought I
I have always considered myself to be authentic. It is of would look
particular importance to my personal code of conduct that I up it's
show up as who I am with as few "masks" as possible. A definition and
mask is what we put on to hide from public who we really here is what I
are or what our true feelings are usually because we have found....
judged them or ourselves as bad. Oftentimes, I find that the person I forget to be
truthful with the most is myself. I don't know about you, but I find it easy to lie
to myself and not support myself. One of the most important parts of authenticity Authenticity is defined as a quality of
is knowing who we are and what our needs are. being genuine, or a condition of that
which is reliable, trustworthy, real,
This topic was illuminated for me when a friend shared with me that her husband original, unique.
left her after a 20 year marriage and she was left an empty shell. She thought
that she had taken care of herself during that time as she raised her two girls, ran Wow I like that! It is a quality I
the house, and took care of herself physically by playing tennis a couple of times a aspire to bring into my life every
week and getting a monthly massage. Does that speak to any of you??? When he day. It is one of my Code of Conducts
left she was left wondering who she really was. that I live by, to be authentic in all
that I do. With that being said how
To show up with authenticity in your life you have to not only take care of your does that pertain to
physical body but remember to take care of your emotional and intellectual self Fashion/Beauty??
too. It takes commitment to do this but it is so worth the effort. One of the ways As I have written in the past Fashion
that you can do this is by taking time every day to state your "I am" statements. can be a "window" to how we are
These are statements about who you really are. For example: I am loving, I am presenting ourselves out in the
kind, I am sexy, I am giving, I am open minded, I am healthy & happy, I am full world. Are you being "authentic" to
of energy........the list could go on and on as we women are amazing beings! This who you are and what you value or
takes just a few minutes a day but it helps refocus your mind on who you truly are you just "throwing on" any ole'
are and not just what your roles are. thing and thinking it doesn't really
matter?
Next I would remind you to remember what you are passionate about. When I
first considered this question I found it difficult to come up with answers. I had
put others emotional needs ahead of my own for so long that the answers didn't Well, it does mater and you deserve
come quickly but they did eventually come. I would recommend that you give to put out the best version of
yourself a few minutes of quiet time each day to meditate on what you feel yourself to the world and show your
passionate about. Just think about the things that give you a zing of energy in GENUINE, REAL, ORIGINAL, UNIQUE
your body or that just make you feel happy. Don't judge what comes up just jot it SELF. Yu can do this by dressing to
down in a notebook or journal. At first this might not come easily but after you do enhance and show off the wonderful
it for a while you will find that it comes to you easily. Maybe it is something as YOU!!!!
simple as looking at the flowers that bloom this time of year or watching a sunset
or having a healthy lifestyle. So take time this month to think of
who you are and what you want to
Finally for this month I would ask you to ask yourself each and every day what it represent... trustworthy, fun,
would take to make today a GREAT day. Loren has shared with us at our monthly creative, happy, free-spirit, sexy
Lobella meetings what she says each morning to start her day.... "Today is going vixen, kickbutt business woman and
to be the best day of my life again!" I think that this is so powerful as we set the dress accordingly, have fun and
intention for the day. What would you have to do today to make it a great day? watch what happens!!!
Great days don't just happen, we create them. What do you enjoy and how can
you do that for yourself TODAY.

Authenticity is about showing up as the you God meant you to be and not just
"making it" through the days and fulfilling your roles in life. Go out today and
start to come from a place of authenticity.

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Empowering Spouses During Job and Identity Loss Parenting Tuneup

Danielle Lansburgh, Miami, FL Facilitator
Honey, I just need a little time to myself.
In honor of this months
Uh oh. focus on authenticity, I
have asked the children
Most everyone has heard those dreaded words before, signaling a time of to whom I am closest
change or uncertainty in a relationship, and the emotional purgatory to share what truth
thats sure to follow for the one whos feeling the sting of being means to them and
distanced. Of course, there are variations on the needing space theme, their responses are
from Just leave me alone to Its not you, its me. Yeah, Im cringing at very meaningful,
the memory, too. precious and full of
authenticity!
These kinds of situations are about as inevitable as traffic, and the
results can be as mixed as separation between intimate partners, to the Sean age 9: Truthful means sharing what
relationship actually becoming stronger. Yet in some cases, giving a youre thinking on the inside and really
partner a little time and space can actually prove to be one of the best meaning it on the outside.
forms of support you can give them when theyre feeling stressed, in
doubt, or otherwise disturbed by something going on in their lives. Rachel age 7: Truth is a good thing cuz when
you tell the truth everything else is the
This is especially true when we as women consider how todays economic greatest.
realities can potentially affect our relationships with our husbands or
partners. Youd be hard pressed to engage in a conversation these days Luke age 4: It's good.
without hearing a story about someone who has been recently laid off or
is in deep fear of being laid off. This reality translates into an inordinate Julianna age 6: Truth means trust.
amount of stress placed upon heads of households and their families.
Max age 5: Truth is good so you don't get in
Its one thing to deal with the usual ups and downs of relationships, such trouble.
as disagreements, communication issues, and need fulfillment. Add to
that the uncertainty of how money is going to come into the home if Matthew age 9: When you lie you feel bad
income is reduced through job loss, and now a little space between inside. When you tell the truth you feel happy
partners every now and again isnt sounding like such a bad idea. inside. You should always tell the truth
because when you lie your mom will always
As counter-intuitive as it may seem to us gals, if the men in our lives find out.
experience a hit to their esteem such as a job loss or some other kind of
financial diminishment, its essential that we play a key role in helping Tuneup of the month, Let's all check in with
them get through the crisis but not pushing as hard as, say, getting them our kids and discuss the importance of
to fix that long-broken household item. Losing a job, the familys medical integrity/truthfulness and find out why it is
benefits, a pension or even a car can, well lets just say make him feel important for them and what it means for
a bit insecure. their beautiful souls.
Now, were going to be concerned about our families welfare, too
when household income is all of a sudden slashed but at the same
time were rolling our eyes knowing the pride of men, while also knowing
full well that we love the lug heads regardless of whats going on. We
wouldnt have married them if there wasnt more to them than their bank
Recipe Tuneup
Carly Maxwell, Grants Pass, OR Facilitator
account (well ideally anyway).

But the fact is that theyre still going to have to go through their motions Authenticity is in
when they lose their work role a major part of their identity and sense abundance if we look
of purpose as every belief a man holds about his masculinity comes for it! I look for the
under attack if his ability to provide and protect is compromised, as well best quality of fruit and
as his very sense of strength and virility the traits that our culture veggies and meat
says makes a man a man. available based on their
color, texture, and
And what are the chances that theyd just openly talk about these taste. I ask the people
matters? Asking for directions is too difficult for them, let alone them
wanting to express their feelings.
Im sure most of us ladies have taken the Honey, we need to talk
approach before. Remember those results? Shutdown! We go on and on
expressing our feelings, they nod their heads in a semi-state of token
agreementif youre luckyeyes glazed over, and youll end up having a
similar conversation before long. All too often we unwittingly try to
feminize them to a certain degree through talking and talking.
Remember, theyre needing affirmation of manhoodand a little time
and space to get back to that place of feeling good about themselves.
And there are simple actions women can implement to help their men get
through the loss of a job, a financial bump, or just about any
circumstance that proves to impact how a man feels about himself:
1. First, stay calm ... panic doesnt help anyone. It only creates more
stress. Two panicked individuals making decisions will simply not produce
results that are beneficial to anyone. Somebodys got to maintain calm. If
not him then its you, mamma.
2. Connect with your spouse and re-assure them. This too shall pass.
Were going to be just fine. Youre still you. 2 Carrots shredded.
3. Let them mourn the loss ... for a while. Set timelines on the mourning,
and how long that process will take. Ask, dont tell. Encourage him to
hang with his buddies, get out and play some sports, go fishing; manly
stuff. This is how they process their feelings. They DONT want to talk
about it!
4. Reinforce what you love about your man. Tell him how he makes you
feel as a woman, and remind him of how you make him feel. This will
motivate him, not depress him. In other words, KEEP SHAGGING!
5. Use it as an opportunity to find an even deeper calling. Neither one of
you should jump at the first thing out of fear. Bills must be paid, yes, but
neither of you should ever lose sight of what you really want. Start to
help your spouse build a mental picture of what they really want, not just
what they dont want.
Sudden change, particularly in jobs and finances, can go from a slight
ding to outright trauma, especially when our very survival and livelihood
seems at stake. However, our lives are not going to be primarily
determined by neither economic forces nor circumstances that are out of
our control.
The level of love and support we give and receive to and from those we
care aboutduring good times or badwill ultimately make the
difference in our lives, as well as how we respond to lifes challenges.
This economic downturn will not last forever, nor will its effects on our
relationships and families. With this truth in mind, we can outlast this
and any trial in our lives, and in the process watch our relationships and
families grow even stronger as a result.
working the markets
what they currently have in stock that is the
best and the freshest. Having relationships
with your local friends at the markets are key
for landing excellent choices when purchasing
groceries, they are very helpful
Choose a theme for your authentic meal and
go all out! I am preparing an ITALIAN night!
Music, candles, linens, napkins, beautiful
green salad, steamed asparagus, wine and of
course the main dish TURKEY SALTIMBOCCA.
Dessert will be fresh sliced strawberries!
TURKEY SALTIMBOCCA
Ingredients:
One large turkey breast Pounded thin in a
ziplock bag.
3Tbps olive oil
2 red onions chopped.
2 cups of chopped mushrooms.
2 Tbps parsley.
6 Basil leaves chopped.
1 10oz pkg frozen spinach thawed and
drained.
1 tsp salt
1 tsp black pepper.
1/4 c parmesean cheese.
1 tbsp lemon juice and some lemon zest.
1/2 c bread crumbs.
1 cup vegetable or chicken broth
Instructions:
1.Preheat oven to 325 degrees.
2. In a skillet heat up 3Tbps olive oil.
3. Add vegetables and basil to skillet saut
for a few minutes until soft.
4. Add the drained spinach, salt, black
pepper, parmesean cheese, lemon juice and
lemon zest to the skillet.
5. Stir together and add bread crumbs.
6. Place turkey on a clean surface and spread
vegetable mix on the center of the turkey,
leaving a 2in border on all sides. Roll up and
place seam side down in a pan.
7. Pour 1c veggie or chicken broth and cover
with foil.
8. Bake for 1hr to 1 1/2 hrs, remove foil the
last 20 min of baking.
9. This dish is delicious and beautiful! Slice in
thin type slices and arrange on a platter.
Surprise your friends and family with a
gorgeous dinner! Remember to have fun and
appreciate the authentic meal you can create!