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Background
Parts of Self
Everyone has parts of self. Perhaps you have experienced ambivalence, when one part of you wanted to eat healthy food, while
another part wanted to eat junk. You may have noticed that you have different states of mind for different roles perhaps you
have a professional work self, which is different from a playful parent self, which is different from a romantic lover self.
Healthy parts of self form in response to positive, affirming relationships with loving and attuned people. They live in the
present, feel and manage the full range of emotions, hold positive beliefs about self/world, and engage in desirable behaviors.
Wounded parts of self form in response to traumas and to wounding relationships with abusive, neglectful, rejecting, or
enmeshing people. They are stuck in the past, and in painful emotions. They hold negative, irrational beliefs about self/world,
and engage in unwanted behaviors. Healthy parts and wounded parts can have competing agendas, which can lead to internal
conflicts and distress.
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Introjects
Thanks to mirror neurons, we automatically and unconsciously form mental representations of people we observe. Its not a
choice its a biological reflex that we have no control over. Usually, these representations are not lasting and exert no meaningful
long-term influence. However, when we interact with people who are especially important to us (like parents), over a long period
(like childhood), those mental representations persist. It appears mirror neurons make and save recordings of significant
messages. These recordings can lead to parts of self called introjects. We can introject people who are supportive, loving, and
kind. We call these adaptive introjects. We can also introject people who are unkind, neglectful, abusive, or rejecting. These
maladaptive introjects play back recordings of others wounding messages, like Youre worthless, Youre irrelevant, or You
dont matter keeping reactive parts stuck in the past.
The DNMS assumes a childs basic true nature is good with a
natural curiosity and eagerness to learn and a desire to be in
respectful harmony with self and others. Because a wounding
message will not match a childs good true nature, a recording
of it will attach superficially to an innocent part of self, like a
mask or costume of the wounding person. The part does not
like it, want it, or need it, but cannot remove it (without help).
Maladaptive Introject
I dont like
@#!&@
Maladaptive
introject mask
this mask!
In the picture below, you see reactive parts form when a parent repeatedly conveys a wounding message. They can react to the
wounding with behaviors, beliefs, and emotions like sadness, fear, anger, withdrawing, pleasing, controlling, numbing, selfloathing, perfectionism, etc. An introject of the parent will also form, and it will repeat that parents wounding message.
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When stressful experiences happen in adulthood, the maladaptive introjects that formed in childhood can get activated, and
deliver a wounding message from the past to reactive parts now. This keeps the reactive parts triggered and stuck in the past.
DNMS Resources
In the DNMS, special guided meditations are used to help a client connect to three Resource parts of self: a Spiritual Core Self
(or Core Self), a Nurturing Adult Self, and a Protective Adult Self.
The Spiritual Core Self: Considered the core of ones being. Its a state of mind experienced during meditation, prayer, yoga,
peak spiritual experiences, enlightening near-death experiences, and profound connections with nature usually for just a few
minutes at a time. Some people believe this is a part of self that existed before the body arrived and will exist after the body dies.
The following qualities, commonly experienced during deep prayer or meditation, are characteristic of the Spiritual Core Self.
Sense of interconnectedness to all beings
No desires or aversions
No ego, no struggles
Non-judgmental, non-critical
For those of faith, this is the part of self that resonates with divine love from a higher power. Connecting to this Resource does
not require a belief in God or spirituality. Clients averse to notions of spirituality can be guided to connect to a Core Self.
The Nurturing & Protective Adult Self: Most people have all the skills needed to be a good enough caregiver, whether
they are aware of it or not. A caregiver skill that was applied just once in the past can be applied again in the future. The DNMS
uses two guided meditations to heighten awareness of these skills. One meditation strengthens a Nurturing Adult Self (a part of
self that can competently nurture a loved one), the other strengthens a Protective Adult Self (a part of self that can competently
protect a loved one). The meditations are anchored by a
clients personal, meaningful relationship with a child,
The Healing Circle
pet, plants, or helpless person. A remarkable experience
Spiritual Core Self
current or past when all or most of the skills on a list
of 24 caregiver skills and traits were naturally, effortlessly,
and appropriately applied.
Nurturing
Adult Self
Protective
Adult Self
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Getting Unstuck
The DNMS focuses special attention on getting maladaptive introjects totally unstuck. The Conference
Room Protocol serves to identify and defuse a group
of maladaptive introjects connected to a single
targeted theme (like perfectionism, enmeshment,
abandonment fear, sexual safety, etc.). The Needs
Meeting Protocol guides the Resources to (1) meet all
their unmet needs - one at a time, (2) help them
process through painful emotions, and (3) strengthen
a loving emotional bond. As these needs get met, the
introjects begin to feel safe, wanted, and loved, so they
can return to expressing their good true nature. As a side
effect, the masks/costumes disappear for good, and
never again play back the wounding messages.
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Mature,
sensitive, loving,
attuned Resources
Youre okay
Unresolved Disturbance
Connection
During DNMS
Isolated
child part
stuck in the past
Im bad
Isolated
child part
stuck in the past
Im bad
New
Neural
Pathway
Mature,
sensitive, loving,
attuned Resources
Youre okay
Disturbance Resolving
Integrated
child part
Im okay
Connection
After DNMS
Disconnection
Before DNMS
Mature,
sensitive, loving,
attuned Resources
Youre okay
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In Conclusion
The DNMS offers hope to therapists looking for a comprehensive, gentle, structured path to help clients resolve complex trauma
and attachment wounds. The DNMS offers talk therapy clinicians a tool for deeper processing. It offers trauma-treatment
clinicians a tool for gentler processing. It offers all clinicians a means for addressing all-important, and difficult to treat,
attachment wounds.
Published Research
There are currently two published, peer-reviewed journal research articles about the DNMS. The first is the Developmental
Needs Meeting Strategy: A New Treatment Approach Applied to Dissociative Identity Disorder, published in the Journal of
Trauma and Dissociation in December 2004. The second is the Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy: Eight Case Studies.
Published in Traumatology in March 2007. Both articles are posted at www.dnmsinstitute.com.
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