10 Things You have to Know about Arranged Marriages

People in the western countries are at their wits end when it comes to comprehending the
rationale behind arranged marriage system. What baffles them most is the success rate that it
enjoys. But, there is a lot more to this traditional system of arranging matches than what meets
the eyes. So, here are 10 most important things that you need to know, or think about, while
going for an arranged marriage.

1) Right age
Love knows no age, but in order to make a good match through arranged marriage, it is
imperative to keep the age in consideration. The preferable age for girls is around 25 or 26 and
for guys no later than 30.

2) Self assessment
Take a pen and paper and list down all the things that you expect in your spouse. Think about
how your partner should be and what level of compatibility do you desire. You need to keep an
open mind over certain compromises that you might have to make.

3) Decent expectations
Expectations in an arranged marriage tend to run high. But remember, with higher expectations
you might face greater disappointments. At the end of the day, it is not necessary that all the
virtues that you desire can be found in one person.

4) Economic compatibility
While opting for an arranged marriage take everything in account. It is best to strive for utmost
compatibility even in terms of economic standing of both the families. In fact, for many parents it
is a way of ensuring financial security for the bride.

5) Beauty and looks

Arranged marriage is about suitability and compatibility. Beauty can easily take a back seat. Your
partner need not be as dashing as Tom Cruise or as stunning as Kate

Winslet. Looks are

important, but not the most important thing.

6) Understanding
Now, this is the million dollar question: how can you understand a person in just one or two
meetings? At times, even a lifetime seems too less to truly understand someone. It is best to
share your feelings about the person with someone you are close to, maybe your friends or
siblings.

7) Observe etiquettes
Yes, there are certain set codes of conduct that the society at large expects you to follow. For
example, do sufficient background research about the person before consenting to meet.
Answering in negation after meeting twice or thrice may be detrimental to the other persons self
confidence.

8) Take advice
Feel free to take advice from those who you feel will be able to guide you in the best possible
way. Do not make any elaborate show of your feelings, until and unless you are sure of the
response from the other side as well. During the initial stages it is best to tread the new path as
carefully as possible, after all it is the biggest decision of your life.

9) Commitment
Arranged marriages are based on commitment and it is the most necessary element that keeps a
relationship going. So, express your feelings aloud only when you are sure about your
commitment level towards that other person. Also, you need to be sure that the other person is
as much committed towards this match as you are.

10) Final decision

Do not just marry a girl or a guy just because your parents or friends asked you to. It has to be
your own decision. You alone, will be responsible and will have to bear the consequences, for
whatever happens in your life life.
Now you know that there is a lot more to these arranged marriages than what meets the
eyes. Whether it is an arranged marriage or love, every union should be based on few key
principles of commitment, trust and love. So, go ahead and fall in love!

5 Reasons Why Arranged Marriage is a Better

Idea

Whether you have already found your life partner or searching for one through arranged marriage,
remember that every relationship has its own beauty and charm. Well, just because you or your best friend
is finding their better half through an arranged setup, it doesn't mean that it is a regressive or an old idea. It
is a journey towards meeting someone and seeing your partner for life in them. So, take a look at some
advantages of going for an arranged marriage.

Socially compatible
Since parents always end up settling for a bride or groom with similar upbringing, lifestyle,
values, cultural and socio-economic backgrounds, it removes the chances of any potential
disparities. These similarities are an advantage, as it makes the partners highly compatible and
therefore, makes the marriage roots much stronger.

Mutual respect
Parental prestige and pride, makes every arranged marriage couple behave in a respectable and
responsible way. They will never conduct themselves or their relationship in a way, which will put
their families or familial relations in jeopardy. This ensures that both the partners will move
equally towards making their marriage and relationship work. Plus both the partners bring equal
level of understanding and respect in their relationship.

Strong bond with the family

In India, it is believed 'you not only marry the person but their family as well'. Well, in an arranged
marriage the couple receives love and support from each other's family. This becomes very
essential for a girl as she has to leave her parent's home and go to her in-laws house after
marriage. In such a scenario that extra scoop of love, care and understanding from the in-laws
side goes a long way to make her feel comfortable and welcomed in her new home.

Higher level of adjustment

High level of understanding and higher adjusting abilities help in making ends meet and also
filling the loopholes of marriage. This increases compatibility and makes both the partners
understand the importance of compromise and adjustment. Plus, every couple knows that their
relationship has a direct effect on their family's bond as well. That is why, a couple in an arranged
marriage would work twice as hard to keep their relationship stable than look for a way out.

Strong sense of commitment

Arranged marriage is based on mutual trust and understanding rather than love at first sight. In
an arranged marriage, commitment is what brings the two people together and love gradually

blossoms. So, commitment is the strongest advantage for those who are going for an arranged
marriage.
Whether you go for an arranged marriage or love, you should keep in mind that a
relationship should be based on mutual respect, understanding, trust and commitment
above all.

6 Defining Moments in an Indian Arranged Marriage

Apart from the perpetual phase of stress, the entire process of an arranged marriage can be
easily divided into several phases. No matter how excruciatingly long and tiring it may seem,
every phase has a charm of its own. Let us figure out the entire process of a typical Indian
arranged marriage in some identifiable phases.

Dreams vs Reality
The biggest hurdle of any marriage is the right picture of a partner. For instance, any guy would
desire Aishwarya Rai, and a girl would want no less than Hrithik. However, it is important to set
realistic goals and set the right criterion for your spouse! Right from physical appearance, social
status, values to career path, you need to focus on every parameter before you embark on
spouse hunt! Also, focus more on the character and nature of a person rather than looks. Looks
don't matter in the long-run but compatibility does!

Shortlisting the right one

This is the phase, which comes next after your biodata for marriage is placed on almost every
possible forum. Be it newspaper, matrimonial websites or simply through word of mouth,
shortlisting is something which takes months to years. Fix upon a timeline before scheduling on

this seemingly never-ending venture. Deciding on parameters mentioned above, exchange

information frequently to initiate the next phase of casual interaction.

The first meeting

The next step, post shortlisting and information exchange is the interaction phase, on a casual
level. This would involve the girl and guy to interact, either by meeting or virtual-chatting. This will
be more of a formal interactive phase, wherein the couple would simply exchange introductions
and talk on superficial things like job, work, their respective family structure, etc.

Family interactions
Based on the information exchanged above between the girl and the boy, it will be family time
now. This period or phase will now be essential for the families to take the matter ahead and go
about interacting with each other, with the perspective M word. The families during this time will
do some background search and learn about each others mutual compatibility levels.

Courtship days
Now this is the phase to chill out and be a little romantic! Wooing is all thats in the minds of the
couple. Going out before the marriage, setting time for some romantic dinners and gifting is all
that is permitted and enjoyed by the couple. However, before getting too cozy, a couple should
remember that setting informal questions for each other, to understand each other in a much
more analytical way will be beneficial in the long run.

Happily engaged!

Post all this, when families ensure that the boy and girl are comfortable with each other, they
would then go ahead with the official ceremonies, to seal the knot. Right from engagement to
wedding, ceremonies will get planned and organised in this period.
No matter how clich it may sound, all marriages, both arranged and non-arranged requires
more or less similar phases. The good thing that comes with it is the lifelong companionship of
someone you love and relate to! So, no matter how excruciating these phases may seem,
enjoying them, with the perspective of receiving the fruit, is what will make the entire process
enriching and enjoyable!

Qualities to Look for in Your Partner in Arranged Marriage

Is ready to make the 'big decision'
Is the person ready to adapt to the changes that are expected to come along with the new
relationship? Are they ready to accept a new person in their life and everything that the new
person brings along, including different choices, food habits, like and dislikes, etc.? Do they
appear ready to commit or is it just the family pressure? These are the very important questions
you need to ask yourself after a few meetings. If the answer to any of these questions is
negative, know that you need to think again.

Is honest
The most important trait that one looks for in a life partner is honesty. Honesty goes a long way
when you decide to spend your lives together. Be it about their past relationships, their choices,
their financial status or something else, if you feel that they are lying about anything at all, take
the hint that they might not the perfect choice.

Values others' feelings

Be assured that a person who gives respect to others' feelings, is a right choice. This can be
seen by their behaviour with friends and members of the family. You can easily see if they are
being rude, demanding or even abusive.

Can communicate well

You will know if you both can communicate well in a couple of meetings. If you feel that you
cannot communicate what you feel with them, then there is no point taking it any further.
Remember that lack of communication is the biggest relationship killer.

Is confident
Life is not really a bed of roses, there will always be ups and downs. When you get a little
comfortable with the person, try to gauge if they are confident enough. You might not have many
situations to encounter in an arranged set up, but you will be able to tell if the person is confident
or not. This can easily be understood by the way they talk and what they talk about.

Does not dominate

When you interact, you will easily be able to make out if the person is dominating or has an ego
problem. Be warned that if you ignore this point now, it is bound to create major clashes later.

No person is perfect. But you can always try to look for the basic traits that you would
want your life partner to possess. These will not only make for a happy married life, but
also make ignoring the imperfections easier.

8 Relationship Secrets Men want All Women to Know

There is no doubt that men and women differ greatly when it comes to love and relationships. But, just
because men do not breakdown and complain frequently like many women do, does not mean that they are
fine with everything that happens. Most of them either suffer in silence or get aggressive or even walk
away from the relationship.
Wouldnt it be better if their point of view was comprehended better by women? Here, we have for you
some real men talking about some things that they expect from their partners when it comes to
relationships. These relationship "secrets" will definitely be helpful for women who want to have a healthy
and more fulfilling relationship.

1. "I am not flawless. Accept it!"

I believe that no one is perfect and my wife should accept that I am not flawless. After all, I am a human
being! At times, I may be a complete mammas boy, but still if I am able to make her laugh at least once,
is that not enough for her to hold on to me? Also, I am not going to write poetry for her, and think about
her every tick of the clock. But I am willing to give her a part of my life, wont that do? She has to
understand that I am not picture-perfect; but perfect just for her, says Bali, a gym owner.

2. "I am as sensitive as you are"

I am always expected to tip-toe around her feelings even if I am not in the mood to. Just because we dont
ask for admiration doesnt mean that we dont enjoy it. Just because we are not wired like a woman,
doesnt mean that we dont have emotions and feelings. Why can she vent out her frustration about my
mother when we have an argument, but I cant do the same? So, I am expected to be her vent hole and her
punching bag, but I cannot expect the same from her? Men usually mask their emotions so that they dont
appear weak and vulnerable. I feel women should learn to value the feelings of men, shares newlymarried Rishabh Bansal, a journalist.

3. "You can give some positive responses at times!"

Sameer Bhutani, a 25-year-old law graduate, complains, If I tell my girlfriend You are pretty, she snaps,
You are just making that up. Once I told her, Honey, you are getting slim, and her reply was, See
properly and you will see that I am putting on weight. I dont understand why cant she just accept my
compliments without such self-depreciation? Instead of revelling in it, she leaves me in a dicey situation
with her mean tones or loads of scorns. I try to make her feel beautiful, but then the way she keeps talking
holds me back from giving compliments. We guys want to shower our girlfriends with praises and
adorations but they act funny at times, which gets on our nerves!

4. "I would love it if you request rather than demand"

None of us like to live with someone who is too controlling or demanding. Just because we love them, we
keep giving in to their demands, even if they are unreasonable. But actually we do not appreciate this
behaviour. Wives keep bossing around, thinking that their husbands are okay with this. In reality, we men
keep ignoring it, but this only makes them more demanding! My wife constantly keeps demanding for
things, and even blackmails me emotionally! She keeps making and breaking rules herself. I would really
appreciate it if she could communicate her needs to me and ask for something nicely. Who would want to
do something good for someone who is forcing them to do it? asks circulation manager, Suhas Malhotra.
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5. "It is a two-way street!"

Fashion designer, Varun Kumar, who has been married for six years, says, Girls expect a great deal of
affection and time from their men, but they forget that love is a two way street. If a wife wants to enhance
her husbands ability to express love, even she should meet his emotional needs. Things like quality time,
gifts, romantic talks, or acts of love are not meant for women alone! They look for everything in their
love paradise but when it comes to returning the favour, they take us for granted. This is really hurtful.
Once they realise this and are prepared to give exactly what they expect, it will really make a lot of
difference.
Read to know about the 7 Small yet Romantic Things Every Wife Must Do for Her Husband

6. "There is no harm in being a good listener"

Trying to grasp what your partner is saying and keeping patience is the recipe for a successful marriage.
Sometimes I notice that my wife is hardly listening to what I say and keeps nodding without paying any

attention; this trait is really annoying. Plus, she is very impatient at times. She gets irritated with things as
small as me coming home late or not taking my son to play. At times, there are situations that need patience
and tolerance. For a healthy and happy relationship, she must be mindful in situations that demand
endurance! says Rahul Mudgal, a designer with a shopping portal.

7. "Please do not compare!"

Web developer, Prateek Singhania, shares, Many girls keep looking for their friend's husband's, or their
fathers qualities in guys they meet. If they are truly interested in someone, why do they compare him with
every Tom, Dick and Harry? It is wrong to compare their partner with anyone and wish them to be
someone else. I feel women should not say anything to their men that in any way hints towards
comparison. This is likely to cause shame, anger or frustration in men and is enough to spoil a perfectly
fine relationship. Taunts, sarcasm and making jokes on their activities while comparing them with someone
else can make men feel weak.

8. "Let bygones be bygones!"

Any man will feel disappointed if his wife carries the baggage of her past relationships. It certainly kills
the chances of a happily ever after. The simple fact that a wife is still thinking of her past relationship is
enough to wound the confidence and ego of a man. So, rather than brooding over her past, they can think
about the future that is knocking on the door. Continuously bringing up past relationships can be harmful
in the long run, says Kamal Aggarwal, graphic designer.
Recommended Read: 10 Things You have to Know about Arranged Marriages
If only women knew all that went on in their partners mind, relationships would be so much better
and happier!

Arranged Marriage: What to Ask a Girl in the First Meeting

Getting married is an amusing feeling, but these feelings are multiplied when you have to meet a
girl from the perspective of getting married. Although it is a difficult task, yet it is best to know

what all a guy should and should not ask a girl. Well, last thing you would want is a stranger
rolling out in laughter at your questions (or worse, get beaten up!). So, here are some questions
that guys should ask to get to know the girl better before marriage.

Ice breaker questions

Always remember that just like you even the girl maybe nervous about this meeting. So, your
best approach should be to start with questions that are general and can help you break the ice.
Ask her what her name means, her hobbies, her favourite cuisine, etc. If you feel that the girl is
shy, then begin the conversation by talking about yourself and then get her involved in the
course.

Show interest in career and education goals

A girl feels comfortable when she knows that her prospective partner is interested in her career.
Instead of blabbing about your career goals and job, do find time to ask about her future plans as
well. It will make her feel good about this match, as well. Let her know that you are interested in
her future goals, in terms of her education and career.

Her marriage expectations

A girl would always like it if a guy asks her views on marriage and expectations related to it. So, if
you are meeting a girl for the first time, ask her take on the institution of marriage. This is an
important question as it will help you understand her thought process better.

Ask about duties towards her parents

Maybe this question is a big thing to ask, but it will certainly clear many doubts you might have. It
will help you to understand, if she has any financial responsibilities towards her parents, which
she would like to fulfil even after marriage, just like you.
Recommended Read: What Not To Do to Impress Your In-laws

Ask about her lifestyle

Find out about her social life, her favourite pastime and her other interests. This way you can get
to know whether she is an extrovert or an introvert. Such small details can actually help you in
deciphering whether she is 'your kind of a girl or not'! Do not go overboard with too many
questions as she is not a 'candidate' whom you are 'interviewing' for your wifes position. You are
looking for a life partner who should be compatible with you and your family.

Ask about her choice of clothing

This question is not too important, but at times it becomes quite relevant. If your family is
traditional or conservative and the girl loves western wear, then it might be a little difficult for her
and your family to gel well. But, keep an open mind, as either you or the girl might be able to
compromise on these things.

Now, some funny questions that you should stay away from
The best way to win 'this war' is to equip yourself beforehand. So, here is a list of questions that
our women readers have labelled as disastrous for the first meeting. So, guys learn your
lessons well.

Are you a virgin? (You naughty-naughty boy!)

How many boyfriends did you have? (You are definitely not the next one, so keep
mum!)

What is your blood group? (Are you looking for a wife or seeking a bone marrow
transplant!)

How many facebook friends do you have? (She is definitely not going to add you,
believe us!)

When do you have your monthly cycle? (Be ready to be kicked out!)

How many kids do you want? (Remember, she has not yet said yes to you!)

How much do you earn and how much property have your parents put in your name?
(Excuse us, are you an income tax officer?)

Do you take a bath every day? (Huh!)

Arranged Marriage: What to Ask a Guy in First Meeting

Every woman looks for a man who can put butterflies in her stomach and make her feel special
all the time. Well, if you are searching for that 'dream man' through an arranged marriage, you
need to be extra cautious. Meeting a stranger for marriage can make anybody feel nervous. A
first meeting is the most crucial time because that would make you shortlist the right one. So, it is
important that you ask all the relevant questions before taking the next step. Here are 7
questions that you must ask a guy especially, if you are opting for an arranged marriage.

What are his hobbies and interests?

It is always good to figure out a persons lifestyle and his expectation from a life partner.
However, jumping on to a question like that might make the conversation a little awkward, so try
to take it slow. Frame questions that would allow you to learn about his hobbies, interests and
dislikes. This way you can gauge a better idea about his lifestyle, and also what kind of girl he is
looking for.

Is he comfortable with a career-oriented wife?

If you are a working woman then you would might not like to leave your job after marriage. A
conservative husband or family, posing restrictions on your work might just become a recipe of
an impending disaster. Many men are supportive when it comes to their wives' career, so better
be sure that your future life partner is comfortable with your ambitions. But if he is not, then you
have a lot more to think about before saying 'yes'!

What are his career goals and life plans?

Marriage increases the financial and social responsibilities of a person. So, the guy should be
well-organised in life to understand and bear these responsibilities with ease. You should ask him
about his career goals and job profile, because his ambitions will direct your future as well.

What will be your responsibilities towards his family and home?

You might be the happy-go-lucky types, but he may be a well-disciplined, no-nonsense type of a
person. So, he might have same kind of expectations from his wife as well. Hence, it is best to
ask him politely about what all he expects from his future wife, especially towards his family and
home. This might also give you an insight whether the guy and his family are conservative or
open-minded.

Is he comfortable with your responsibility towards your parents?

From emotional support to financial help, girls want to be close to their parents even after they
get married. Support and understanding are the top qualities to look for in your life partner. Make
sure that the guy respects your parents and your responsibilities towards them after marriage.
So, it is important for you to discuss these things beforehand.

Is he too religious or spiritual?

Girls, it is always a good idea to get a clear understanding of your future partner and his familys
religious and spiritual beliefs. If you are an atheist, getting married into a family that is all about
rituals and praying might demand a lot of adjustments from your end. So, it is best to talk to him
about his familys religious beliefs and their expectations from you.

Does he want to shift to a different city or country after marriage?

Lets accept it, nowadays it is not us but our jobs that decides our location. So, ask the guy about
his job requirements, as it will help you to set your preferences right beforehand. Also, many a
times, a guy may be living in a different city than his parents, but sooner or later he might decide
to shift in with his parents. So girls, be sure whether you are ready to move to a different city with
your husband or not.
He might be good looking or financially stable, but getting a 'good looking' future is
equally important, so hold onto the leash of those turbulent emotions and tread carefully.
A little planning and some good questions will help you sail through this first meeting
very smoothly!

Conversations You must have Before You Get Married

Dear to-be couples, you might be busy with all your wedding preparations, making list of things to
arrange for, going on shopping sprees and deciding on honeymoon destinations. Surely the
dreams of the future life with your beloved would be making your heart throb with excitement.
But, in the midst of all the wedding mayhem you might overlook one of the most important thingsyour relationship. Marriages are made in heaven but they have not been decreed to be perfect
and before you plunge on to take the wedding vows, here are certain things you need to discuss
to ensure a stronger marriage.

Aspects to be assed for life time analysis in a family.

1.Personal traits, personal space attributes and attitudes. Professional and
communication skills along with needed educational prowess to achieve
desired professional goals and objectives to suit educational or entrepreneurial
inclinations
2. Unsustainable or unstabilized personal ambitions, enterprises which could lead
the couple to depression and doldrums.
3.Social obligations, liabilities and stigmas.
4.Family obligations, liabilities and stigmas.
5.Property obligations. liabilities, unsecured and unstabilized properties, loans,
insecurity and legal obligations .

6. Family time requirements, obligation, liabilities and demands.

7.Medical history of self and family along with life expectancy of grand parents.

Money
How to manage finances is the most important thing, especially for the two people who share a
single roof and enter into a lifetime commitment. Differences in money management between
spouses often become reasons for fights. For instance, if one of you likes to splurge while the
other one wants to save for the rainy day, this can be a problem later on. Discuss about an
approximate budget, the expenses likely to be incurred, whether you prefer having joint accounts
or would like separate bank accounts. As marriage counselor Dr. Paul Sago says, "It is always
better to have everything joint or ours in marriage rather than being selfish and thinking about
ones own self."

Marital Conflict And Marital Abuse

Marriage is an contract between two person in presence of social gathering along with parents .
both groom and bride are nurtured in different climate and social environment and social order.
thought processes of both are different as their nurturing environment so there may be clashes of
thought is the product is called marital conflict . repeated conflict in thought hurt the ego of both or
either of partner resultant to be treating each other as foes. low tolerance level with boosting of either
side or both the side parents leads to making harm to each other by way of mentally physically,
financially, socially is abuse (Marital Abuse),
Marital conflict? well it is common to a normal rational being who met and become in a marriage vow.
Conflict may be defined as depending to the gravity of the issue that may result in marital conflict. So
it could be a reasons to a certain issues in which not agreeable or unacceptable to the other party.
While marital abuse is an act of doing beyond what is acceptable to the other side ( either husband or
wife). If the rights of one's is going beyond the limit then abuse is clearly define. Marital conflict could
be normal and repairable marital abuse are the usual cause of separation. The first one is momentary
while the second spoils whole life,
Every marriage experiences some degree of conflict. Most marriages experience strong differences of
opinion. Arguments are not uncommon. Spouses are occasionally grumpy and unkind to each other.
Spouses lose their tempers and can sometimes blow up at each other. Everyone is capable of being
hypercritical or falsely accusing his or her mate. Small skirmishes for control over a particular issue

can break out from time to time. These are all a part of the normal tension and conflict that inevitably
arise when an imperfect man and woman join their lives together in a marital relationship.

How to make your arranged marriage work

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They say marriages are made in heaven. But then, there are also those made here on earth. Though
anarranged marriage may feel like a pre-historic concept, such matches are still prevalent in society.
Whether you marry someone you've fallen in lovewith, or someone your parents have chosen, as a
couple you are bound to go through some ups and downs. It's just that if it's an arranged marriage, it
may take you a tad longer to understand the thought process of your partner. If you are about to enter
into an arranged marriage, here are some pointers you need to keep in mind:
Pre-marital jitters
Pre-marital jitters are very common among couples who opt for an arranged marriage. And if you're
experiencing them, ask yourself what is causing the anxiety. Among the most prominent reasons is the
fear of sharing space and adjusting to a relatively unknown partner. Then, of course, is the fear of how
to deal with a new family; how much you'd have to change your behaviour to adapt to their thoughts
and habits.
The best way to overcome this problem is by interacting frequently with your partner. It will put you at
ease with your partner and also improve the intimacy between the two of you.
Never complain
An arranged marriage means more responsibilities and expectations. Both partners are under
pressure to make the marriage work. Your partner may not share all your likes and dislikes and
his/her family may not follow the same values as yours. You may be constantly corrected about the
way things are done in this house. Relax!
Adjustment is the name of the game. Have a frank talk with your partner, list out your anxieties and
figure out a way to do things without antagonising your new family. In the initial days of your

marriage, don't take rude remarks or the seemingly harsh moves of your partner too seriously. Also,
don't adopt the tit for tat philosophy. Stay away from troublemakers and look for allies. Also, don't
complain or sound whiny to your partner. Remember, he/she is just as confused and nervous as you
are.
The magic of love
Love is that essential ingredient that can help both of you overcome hurdles. If love at first sight hasn't
happened, don't worry. It may take time, but you will grow to love each other. Even if you're in love
already, don't expect your partner to immediately reciprocate the feelings. Give him/her time and
work on how you can earn his/her love. Be patient and don't get frustrated every time your partner
says or does something wrong.
Remember, marriage is like a whirlpool which takes one from a carefree world to a world filled with
commitment and sacrifice; a world with love as its backbone.

Remember some 'Golden Rules'

The entire process of finding your 'Mr. right', can itself be an enriching and memorable journey.
So, try to keep it simple and uncomplicated. Of course, questions like his financial stability and
knowing your compatabilty with him are very important. But yes, saying the right thing at the right
time is equally important. Keep certain things on hold for the first meeting. Try to know him as a
person, his dislikes and likes, his goals in life, etc. This would break the ice and clear the ground
for a stronger relationship in future.