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Hello my friend...
I'm just going to dive in and explain this concept as clear and efficiently as possible.
When it comes to building sexual tension one of your biggest weapons is:
The Art of Manipulating Pleasure
If we break it down even more, you'll find that there are 2 key elements.
The pleasure element.
The timing element.
I've used this example before, but let's stick with it...
If a woman were to give you a handjob for 15 strokes over the course of 30 seconds, then
obviously it would feel good.
Now, if she were to suddenly release her grip, stop, and walk away...
Chances are... you're going to still be erect/hard... and expecting the pleasure to continue.
And this expectation is a result of [1] basic conditioning + [2] experiencing a sequence of
pleasure...
Now let's dig deeper...
...in other words, as far as [1] basic conditioning...if you have received let's say 112 hand
jobs in your lifetime where 110 of those times ended up in completion and/or a transition
to an activity (i.e. sex, blow job, etc.) that lead to completion, then your brain (and the
neural pathways associated with this 'handy experience') is going to EXPECT for
handjobs to be completed...
So that's part of the reason why you would have an urge for her to continue the handjob.
...and as far as [2] experiencing a sequence of pleasure...
...anytime you experience any sort of sequence of pleasure (i.e. a handjob, an amazing
backrub, a juicy soft kiss, watching the first 2 minutes of an interesting/exciting movie),
then when that event is PAUSED/STOPPED (before your idea of 'reasonable completion
time') you're going to experience an urge for more...
Makes sense?
There have been a few times when a person has told me that my technique doesn't work
on his woman ...or....he'll say that his woman doesn't respond to a particular tactic?
Assertive
Brave or Courageous
Creative
Like A Fair Person
Healthy
Flexible or Adaptable
Free
Like A Good Friend
Like a Good Teacher
Like She's In Control
Independent
Insightful
Like She Has Integrity (A Good Person)
Intelligent
Powerful
Productive
Respectful
Spiritual
Sexy
Safe
Like She Belongs
One who does it all
Trustworthy
What is the biggest reason why guys would not want to make a woman feel sexy?
This is an easy question.
The main reason: They're scared/insecure. They don't want her to start feeling confident
and sexy and end up leaving him or some other fear. In general, you can always spot of
bad strategy when it's centered around 'fear of XYZ' happening.
Avoid making decisions based on fear. Instead, focus on what you - and make decisions
based on that. And you WANT her to feel sexy, desired and confident. When a woman
feels sexy, she makes decisions based on those feelings.
Moving along...
So what I ended up discovering is guys who struggle with having the right impact on a
woman, often don't fully understand how URGES are created (or they're execution needs
to improve)(or they're philosophically opposed to doing certain pieces that are critical to
making everything work).
The good news is there are lots of guys who don't fully understand how URGES are
created. That's they're lost.
And when you look at it from a simple perspective, how can a guy reasonably expect for
a woman to 'miss him' (i.e. craving being in his presence after they've been apart) if he
does not provide some sort of pleasure while in her presence?
How could a guy expect for the woman to craving his opinion/approval if he hasn't
demonstrated a track record of having a perspective she values while looking out for her
well-being?
Getting back on track...to create a craving, you just need two things:
A pleasure element.
A timing element.
Everything starts with putting yourself in position to be able to say 'stuff' to her that
creates pleasure.
One guy told me one day, and I'm paraphrasing: 'I'm confused, you said that I should
make the girl feel beautiful, but I thought that if a guy kissed a girl's ass he would scare
her away.'
So from his frame of reference, the objective of making her feel sexy/beautiful is
synonymous with 'kissing her ass' where you're chasing behind her saying things like
'Wow. You're sooooooo pretty. Can you please go out with me? Please. Please.
Pleeeeeease!!!'
By the way, that's not what is meant by making her feel sexy.
Again, it's defined as it's resulting impact.
So if a guy she has a crush on walks up to her and says "you look pretty today" and it
leads to her blushing, daydreaming and replaying his words over in her mind, then that
was a successful A+ execution of making her feel attractive/pretty/sexy....even though
he's not using a creative arrangement of words.
And that's why everything we do is for the purpose of being able to create
emotional/psychological pleasure.
You see, if Brian's girlfriend has zero respect for him to the point where it's difficult for
him to compliment her and make her feel special/sexy/appreciated/etc, that means his
focus should be on DOING SOMETHING to get the respect back so that his words have
value/power.
That could mean:
A strategy that builds respect.
I want to ask you two questions. The first question is based on the above fictional story.
And the second one is based on real life (the real world).
#1: Which of this two new guys are likely to be more excited about the Wizard's HeroOrgasm Tactic? In other words, which of the two new guys (Freddy or Sam) is starving
to experience the emotional feeling of being a hero during sex?
#2: What do you (men) get out of sex?
Answer to #1: Sam.
Answer to #2: Just like women, we (men) experience physical pleasure + emotional
pleasure from sex (if you got this right, give yourself 1000 points. That means you were
paying attention. lol)
Sex is capable of providing you with physical pleasure + emotional pleasure.
Sex is capable of providing your woman with physical pleasure + emotional pleasure.
Sex is capable of providing Sam & his wife woman with physical pleasure + emotional
pleasure.
The reason why Sam wants to learn the Wizard's tactic is because 'sex feels good'
(physical pleasure) and it also feels good to him to hear his wife tell him, "You're my
sexual hero" (emotional pleasure).
Would you agree?
Now, we're going to move on to the next phase.
I have to warn you, the following example is pretty bad. I'm not going to say it sucks as
an example, it's just pretty 'bad'.
It's so bad that everyone reading this will be able to do a better job than the example.
However, even though it's a pretty bad example, it will still make the point crystal clear.
Here's the bad example. Actually it's not really that bad, it's just that you'll be able to do
much better with a little bit of thinking...
Ok.. here's the bad example....
Sam has a conversation with his wife.
Sam: Sweetie. I was talking to Keith and apparently he has a new girlfriend. He said
they're madly in love already and blah blah blah and he said the other night when they
were making love, she looked so beautiful when she rode him. I kind of smiled...
Sam's Wife: Why did you smile?
Sam: Because it made me think about you. When you ride me you look so beautiful. You
look so sexy and hot. The last time we did it that was going through my mind blah blah
blah...
Question: Do you see what Sam just did?
Question: Do you see what Sam is doing by making lots of comments like this?
Answer: He is basically conditioning her to associate sex with 'feeling beautiful'. If she
were to end up having sex at some point in the future...and she started riding him, she
would remember the conversation and as result she would be experiencing:
Physical pleasure (the physical sensation of sexual friction) + emotional pleasure (feeling
beautiful... because she now knows that he thinks she is beautiful when she rides him...)
Does this make sense?
Some guys will complain that 'well... blah blah blah... if I told Marie something like that
she would just roll her eyes..'
In situations like that the guy needs to get himself to an acceptable standard so that he can
have the right impact on his target men.
It would be no different than if a guy complained 'well... that wouldn't work on the
woman of my dreams because she's in a relationship with another guy and I've never said
one word to her so she doesn't know I exist... so how should I compliment her when
we've never had sex before?'
Again (and obviously) get the woman to accept you - like you - respect you... all of that
stuff...and then you'll end up in a position where you can do some really cool/interesting
stuff that most people aren't doing...
Let's bring this full circle.
For this tactic, it's best to understand that when it comes to this process, men and women
are the same. The more you understand how it feels good to you to have sex and receive
some sort of compliment (good feeling)(like a hero)(the feelings of love and
connection)(whatever emotional feelings that you desire), the more you understand her
experiences.
Except, you'll need to identify the 'emotions' that drive her (i.e. feeling beautiful or
something else).
Because with women, the emotional aspect is super important.
Is everything starting to puzzle together yet?
Either way, keep reading...
You see...if you were to give her lots of beauty compliments for 5 days, then if you were
to stop/pause she would crave those 'feelings', right?
(And as always, good execution is the assumption.)
Do you remember the handjob example? Do you remember the smoking example?
I've done (and maybe you have, too) the whole good feelings for xxx days and then pause
and that alone created arousal!
Step 3: And then you're going to pause (to create an urge) the good feelings.
Step 4: Let some time go by and then initiate (in a way that appeals to her beauty).
You might be wondering, how long should I give the compliments/good-feelings?
It depends. There is no set number. Although, if you're just testing it out, 2 days of good
compliments could be a good starting pointing. You want her to 'on some level' notice
that pausing, because that's what creates the urge. Although you might want to play
around with different numbers.
You see...If you've ever had a woman stop calling/texting as much as she use to. It's
because she went from calling/texting a few times a day to ZERO (only returning your
calls/texts).
She's technically performing Step 2.
How long it would take you before you started missing her varies based on: who you are,
your perspective, other stuff that's on your mind, the level of pleasure you get from
hearing from you, etc.
Because each text/call when they were frequent provided you with a certain level of
pleasure (i.e. the pleasure of getting attention from a woman you're into, the pleasure of
talking to her, a whole list of things)... but when she stopped/paused/reduced the
calls/texts, you had the urge to hear from her (or be with her).
It's the same thing.
Does it make sense?
For Step 3 & 4, it sometimes helps to switch to a sexy persona where you're more calm
and serious. That way, it ends up magnifying the impact. And in a way, she'll want the
'happy guy' back - she'll want the happy/fun guy to wake up and play - she'll want to hang
out with the naughty/fun guy.
Think about it for a second....and I mean really think about it...(act like it's two different
people)...if the naughty-nice-"make her laugh" persona/guy (or whatever persona
you're sporting) is very entertaining + making her giggle a lot + making her feel
hot/attractive/sexy + making her have a good time + making her feel desired + other good
feelings...ends up "leaving" (or transforming) into the serious guy/persona who respects
her....he's not mean.... buuuuuuuut he's not flirting, making her feel sexy, not making her
laugh....
Who does she want to hang around?
Yes. If you're going to do a 1 day version. Make sure the compliments are really strong
and impactful. Make sure you're upbeat and playful. And when you do the pause, you
should definitely incorporate a 'persona shifting strategy'.
Let's now talk about a more advanced version!
Oh yeah... it gets better!
With the advanced one, you're going to do two-layers of Urge Creation.
Layer 1: Pleasure ==> Pleasure ==> Pleasure ==> Pleasure ==> PAUSE (i.e. 3 days of
really good compliments, making her feel sexy, talking about her affect on you...and
optionally, the 'persona shifting strategy'.)
Note: This isn't a report of how to compliment and how to provide emotional pleasure, so
I'm not going to go into detail about how to be effective with that.
Note: For a review, you can check out blog posts:
http://superpowermedia.com/blog/special-gift-80-ways-to-make-her-feel-good
http://superpowermedia.com/blog/multiple-streams-of-pleasure-free-pdf
So that's Layer 1...
Let's get to the next layer....
Layer 2: (Smooth) Sex Stories.
As you know, the more she thinks about sex from the perspective of it being
fun/pleasurable, the more the urge to have sex with build. So the more you can talk about
sex, the better.
Of course, our approach is more advanced than just that because we'll feature strategic
elements...
Let's get to it.
Method #2: Advanced
Step 1: Make sure she respects you and your sexual value is high. It's not a must, but the
more she values you, the more effective you'll be at Step 2.
Step 2: (Layer 1) Give her a steady stream of 'good feelings'. Typically you want to focus
on one or two main emotions (i.e. beauty compliments) + (Layer 2) Tell several Smooth
Sex Stories.
Note: You can use "The 3 Story Method" (We'll talk about that in a second).
But first, (for Layer 1) make sure you're able to provide comments/compliments that
provide pleasure. You can start with making her feel beautiful. Although if you're
advanced you can pick combinations. The key is to be able to keep her in an
upbeat/positive mood while providing the compliments. Remember: It's not about the
arrangement of words. It's about the resulting impact so that your words have
value/power.
Step 3: And then you're going to pause (to create an urge) the good feelings.
Step 4: Let some time go by and then initiate (in a way that appeals to her beauty - or
whatever the emotion/feeling is).
That's the structure.
As far as the 3 story method, here's a simple system that you can use. All you will need to
do is tell her a Red Story ==> Then an Orange Story ==> and finally a Green Story (a sex
story).
What makes it so simple is that you can just find an endless number of each time of these
stories from your memories, from people you know and online.
Red stories
Red stories are funny/entertaining stories. They're the 'set up story' for your 'Set Up'
Story. Although you can get away with going straight to Orange Stories. Red Stories help
to get her in the right mindset (upbeat, laughing, "Wow. There are a lot of interesting
people in this world". Red stories are centered around people doing
interesting/funny/entertaining things.
Types of red stories.
Funny stories about something dumb someone did.
Funny stories about something embarrassing someone did.
Stories of creepy guys (creeping the girl out when he's trying to win her over)
Bizarre stories
Any really funny story involving people
[Getting her to tell red stories]
Orange Stories
Orange Stories are your Set Up Stories. Once you tell her a bunch of orange stories, it
will be a lot easier to tell Sex Stories (Green Stories).
Types of orange stories.
Guy meets a new girl - and he really likes her
Guy meets a new girl - but now things are started to go down hill
Guy meets a new girl - here's what's good and here's what's bad
Stories from your past - weird/unusual girl
Stories from your past - something you learned
Stories from your past - the first time you ever did XYZ
Stories from your past - a sexual disaster story (you expected X, but Y happened)
Any interesting relationship story
[Getting her to tell orange stories]
Green Stories
Green Stories are your sex stories. Although they're called 'sex stories', they don't always
involve the act of sex..
It's something very close to sex - for example, the guy/girl being horny.
Note: Although it's not required, reading "52 Sneaky Dialogue Examples For Telling
Sexy Stories" will be a great tool because all of those examples are green stories!
Note: Don't try to evaluate the story in terms of 'turn on' potential. It's a different
process. In some cases, it's better if the green story isn't the type of story that will turn
her on, because it will allows you to keep talking about light-hearted sex stories.
Although you should have a sprinkling of 'hard' green stories (something with some
'emotional content'). We'll refer to these as Dark Green stories. And the light-hearted sex
stories, we'll refer to them as Light Green stories.
Types of green stories
*Examples:
Sex Stories that compliment her in some way ==> ("..blah blah blah that made me think
about how sexy you look when you're riding me.")
Starved/Undersignal Sex Story ==> (i.e. based on her recent complaints/conversation,
you may discover that your target woman is currently feeling underappreciated [starving
to feel appreciated] - possibly from family members, coworkers, kids ==> you would say
something like: "..blah blah blah it was an interesting theory she had. In her lecture, she
suggested the next time the guy has sex with his woman, he should whisper to her what
he appreciates about her to complete the love-making bond. And when we cuddles her
after the love-making session, he should always give her light kisses on her back because
women love how that feels and it helps her to feel really loved and appreciated blah blah
blah..."
Remember: Sex is capable of providing her with physical pleasure (the feelings of sexual
intercourse) + emotional pleasure (feeling sexy, feeling appreciated, feeling loved,
feelings of fun, the feeling of doing something new, XYZ, etc, etc, etc.)
Do you see how the 3 story method works?
The goal is actually to tell as many green stories as possible! It's not really about the red
and orange stories... they just serve the purpose of making things smooth.
The more she is exposed to green stories (thinking of sex) the better. When sex has been
swimming on her mind for awhile, she's in a state where she can access sexual thoughts
easier. Her mind is free to wander about other sexual concepts that are happening secretly
in her mind. You can start to get away with 'steamier sex stories'... you see once sex has
been swimming on her mind for a while, she's more receptive so when you tell a harder
sex story (Dark Green Stories) ..."blah blah blah...he really loves her blah blah blah it was
the first time she had her pussy licked... and just like you when she came she grabbed his
head really hard...by the way, is there a way you can work on easing up your grip or does
it feel that good... I will say you do look so hot when you're moaning and cumming blah
blah blah". You get the point... After you hit her with a few Dark Green Stories
(something that is right for her) you can almost guarantee that her sexual arousal has been
increased!
(Also, be on the lookout for carry-over tension. I haven't talked about this before, but it's
when you get the woman horny, but she doesn't want sex - maybe it's not the right time however, the next she's ready. If you spot this pattern, then over time you'll be ok with it.
Keep in mind, you will not need to do too much the next day. Focus more on managing
the timing and removing situational blockers (i.e. kids being up too late and stuff like
that).
And just to give you a feel for how easy it, I'll provide some example stories.