Misc.

Relationship Advice

From Sex Talk:

Be careful of your timing: dont attempt a conversation at the wrong time,
such as when either of you is upset.
The power of yes. Say yes as much as possible in an argument: Yes, I
understand how upset you are. This makes the hearing the complaint much
calmer and more reasonable.
Once you start to defend yourself in a conversation, your chances of a
successful resolution to the subject are dead, gone, finished.
Think positive thoughts, e.g., hes really trying. The more positive your
thoughts, the better youll feel, and your family and friends will be more
loving to you.
The most important attribute for happiness is generosity.
Put a smile behind your eyes by thinking about a moment in which you were
incredibly happy. Keep the thought and keep the sparkle.
Make eye contact with everyone you speak to.
Listen attentively.
Be nonjudgmental
Make forgiveness a habit.
Keep your promises. Broken promises cause intense emotional pain, because
when a promise is made, theres a sense of expectation, excitement,
pleasure. Promises have emotional connotations. Recognize how important
they are, and dont make a promise that cannot be kept. Recognize the farreaching damage from breaking your promises.
Compliment: paying/offering a compliment is paying attention, being kind
and giving, responding to something about the person that you like, that
pleases you. When they are happy, you will also be happy, because good
feelings are contagious. Find something you truly like and remark on it. A
compliment is a gift. Give many gifts, give them often, and give them with
love.

Be aware, tuned in, open, and sensitive to the moods of those around you.
Recognize subtle signs, a facial expression, and body language, tone of
voice, moods, and needs. Ask them to share with you what theyre feeling.
Offer to be a sounding board.
Support. Encourage. Admire. Respect. Tell them how much we admire them
and what they do. Praises enhance our good feelings about ourselves and
our love for each other. If your spouse wants to do something, encourage
him. Tell him youre proud he has this goal, that you respect him and have
faith that he can do it. Be his partner/friend. Dont discourage, denigrate, or
criticize.
Always say thank you, please, excuse me. Never take your lover for granted;
never neglect the common courtesies you expect from everyone else. We
neglect to give our partners the respect we give to strangers.
If you cant change it, go with the flow. Go with the flow all the time, with
everyone in your life. Change your thought patterns to healthy, constructive,
positive ones.
When little disasters happen, stay calm, be positive. Dont sweat the small
stuff.
Be curious about your spouse, and about the world in general. Read about a
totally unfamiliar subject, and share the information. Dissect something you
both read/saw; discover what he thought, what she thought.
Learn as much as possible about your spouse. Pretend that youre a reporter
writing an article. Ask questions: What do they need, want, what time do
they remember best? What is their favorite food, shop, whatever?
Ask yourself what you can share, how you can become closer, more intimate,
more loving. What connections do you have, and what can you share?
Constantly send out love messages. Keep replenishing and nourishing the
love.
Women want to delve deeply and to know everything about his emotions,
successes, feelings. She loves to empathize, celebrate, and cheer and cry for
her lover.
He wants to know that hes her hero.

Respect creates an atmosphere of safety and comfort so that we can share

our deepest emotions. We must respect each other in every aspect of our
lives.
Sex creates emotional attachment, during the heated moments of thrusting,
panting, and climaxing. This is an opportunity to create a powerful emotional
connection. Dont get lost in the passion and the physical and ignore the
emotional connection.
To keep emotion during sex:
Maintain eye contact as much as possible. Connect in every way possible.
Hold hands, stroke skin
focus on your feelings and emotional state; remain aware and connected and
your attention to each other the entire time.
Tune in to the sounds and energy of her breathing, sighs, etc.
Dont share too much, burden and overwhelm your spouse with the depth of
your feelings. Know what is appropriate to say and what is better left unsaid.
Think twice before you unburden yourself; think ten times if its something
painful that might hurt the relationship. Think about whether its necessary
and beneficial to share it. If it wasnt your fault in any way, then sharing
personal information fosters closeness.
Dont stop participating in hobbies that dont include your partner. If you feel
that your love is depriving you of one of your treasures, your resentment will
build and you will both suffer.
Dont expect your spouse to satisfy all your needs. Fulfill yourself both within
and outside the relationship.
Dont expect the sexual experience to be perfect every time, and conclude
that otherwise theres something wrong, and youre being deprived. Dont
wait for the right moment, feelings, and atmosphere.
If all you want is a hug/kiss/cuddle but not sex, make it clear. Also, even if
you wouldnt mind sex, make clear that if shes not in the mood, she
shouldnt feel pressured for more than a kiss and a cuddle.
Physical contact is an excellent connector, and ameliorates negative
feelings.
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We can smell a weak man from a mile away

Nothing Is SEXIER To a Woman Than a Guy They Can Tell Is Committed To

Himself!
When you hear the word commitment, its easy to think about love, intimacy
and respect between two people. Most women are desperate to find a man
who is willing to commit to a relationship, but thats not the type of
commitment Im talking about right now. The type of commitment I am
talking about is the very first step you have to take immediately... RIGHT
NOW... TODAY!
Have you ever known someone who breaks their commitments all the time?
Someone who swears up and down theyll be somewhere and then never
shows up? You may consider this person a friend, but you would never trust
them and dont rely on them for anything important. The same goes for
ourselves.
How many times have you told yourself Im going to...? Im going to get in
better shape, Im going to get my finances in order, Im going to get my life
in order, only to fall short of your goal?
Unfortunately, we betray ourselves more than we do anyone else. Over time,
failed commitments can undermine your self-esteem and keep you from
committing to future pursuits. It results in an internal message that says you
cannot achieve your goals. This results in women sensing you are a complete
failure and someone they cant trust.
Negativity Will Make Her Run!
The best way to completely turn a woman off is by being negative. No
woman wants to hear you complain.
About your past relationships, your bad day or how awful you think your job
is.
Be a Class Act
You may think chivalry is dead, but a woman doesnt. A little goes a long way
when it comes to common
Courtesy. Open doors for her, pull out her chair. A simple act of class can let
her know that youre attracted to her and are willing to protect and nurture
her. Dont go overboard though. You dont want her to think you are trying
too hard to impress her.

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5 STEPS INSTANT CONNECTION
According to Craig, the five steps are:
1. Avoid controversial topics
2. Be mysterious. 62% Boost.
3. Find commonalities (music, food, movies) 30% Boost.
4. Focus on Herself, Observations, Interesting Facts, Current Events, Stories
5. Don't be upfront about sex/hooking up. 169% Boost. (Its too aggressive,
follow his formula instead and it warms her up predictably statistically)
3 ATTRACTION FAST HACKS
1. Use good posture and hold your head up high. 54% Boost.
2. Use proper grammar and avoid slang. 11.2X Boost.
3. Don't smile or stare too much. 164% Boost.
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To lengthen your staying power, go in deeper and spread apart her legs.
Shallow penetration and tightness of her legs stimulates you more.
Four stages of male arousal:
Arousaljust getting excited and erect, in control
Plateaugetting very excited, fully erect, still in control
Orgasmlose control, climax
Resolution
Must prolong the plateau stage, by maintaining your arousal without allowing
climax
Maintain tempo, allow your thrusts to slowly gain momentum, and when you
sense you are close to climax, slow down and even withdraw; resume
penetration when the arousal tapers off