CLASSIC POST: "Kill Beatrice"

May 10, 2009 by Nick Savoy

Top pick up artist (PUA) Future contributed this to the Love Systems insider (LSi) a couple of
years ago. Its referenced in this coming weeks LSi so seemed worthwhile to republish it
here.
Beatricide
Lets talk about love. One of the most important pieces of literature in the world is a love
poem. When Dante Alighieri wrote The Divine Comedy, his intent was to show the journey of
a wicked soul transformed by the power of love for a beautiful woman. In Dantes case, the
woman was named Beatrice. He met her once when he was nine years old and again when
he was eighteen. From his infatuation came one of the most beautiful poems ever recorded.
And he never got the girl.
Weve all been there, I think, although most of us arent compelled to write epic poetry in the
wake of a pretty girls passing. Too many of us fall sway to the halo effect: she arouses me,
and thus can do no wrong! It is a position born from loneliness, from inexperience, from fear.
If youve been to The PUA Forums or taken a Love Systems PUA bootcamp, you know its
axiomatic to eschew attraction to a single woman. When a student asks me how to get This
Specific Girl in a phone consultation, I ask him to prepare a new question. Before you can
become attractive to women, there is one thing you must do first: kill Beatrice.
I dont say this callously. Im a lover. I enjoy the women Im with. I genuinely seek to find the
best in people, although they often disappoint me, as Im sure they do you. Nevertheless, I
seek the goodness in other people. When I start hitting on a woman, I really do hope shes
not going to be a silly twit whose value doesnt rise beyond the surface beauty that drew me
into conversation with her.
Im not alone. Whenever we ask students at bootcamps about their plans for the future, most
of them say theyd like to find That Special Girl, even if they have to seduce a thousand
young ladies to find her.
Pause.
That needs more emphasis. You must must become a creature of options. For your own
sake. Not to become a poon-hound. Until you attain a meaningful, confident, consistent
success with the women you desire, your own limitations will devalue the power of your love
and limit your ability not only to acquire but also to keep The One.
Love Systems starts and ends with perceived options. Beautiful women are usually
conditioned to be acceptably bitchy because they can get away with it. [Dont complain about
this learn how female psychology works so you can use it to your advantage]. Their options

dont close off when they act poorly, so they continue to do so. Less attractive women usually
learn that when they like someone, they need to treat him well. Otherwise their options are
drastically limited. Pretty girls are able to set their own standards of behavior, and since the
odds are good they werent raised well, those standards typically stretch the bounds of good
taste. I didnt make the rules.
Most men act like ugly girls: dont make waves, dont risk the loss, and dont treat her like
merely one of your social options. Bad call. The women smell it. They feel it, like loser-water
splashed all over them. They smell the underlying vibe of your every movement: I hope I
dont mess this up. This neediness the perception that you arent treating them like they
are women, like you are a man is at the root of so many failed pick-ups. That girl youre
pining for might even like you, in that way
Just a little.
Teeny.
Bit.
But in her gut she senses a sharp discord with her own feelings of inadequacy and innate
discomfort: this guy likes me too much. Boom. You lost the girl.
And so we come to the so-called seduction community. We are told over and over again how
bad oneitis is. Message boards teem with the mighty keystrokes of those who are
mad-learned on the knowledge. But when youre in the middle of that emotional maelstrom,
its hard to hear WHY its important to kill those feelings for that special, magical girl, to kill
Beatrice.
Why? Because shes not special, and neither are you.
Listen to the radio. Nearly every song is a testimony to how awesome love is.
And it is.
Its an overwhelming state that inspires, confounds, and defines. Through its experience, all
your other emotional potentials fall into sharp relief.
In fact, in the book Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix distills the experience of
love down to three core emotions:
1.) This person is highly unusual and specifically tailored to loving me.
2.) Ill never feel like this again.
3.) This feeling should last forever.
Biochemically, you are DESIGNED to react to loving emotions exactly how you do. Your
emotions are NOT special.
They are, in fact, the textbook definition of common.
Plebeian.
She has loved before.
So have you.
She will again.
So will you.
No, shes not different. When I hear guys rant about how, No, shes different, shes a sweet

girl, my head starts to spin. Do a search for the triumphs of Love Systems instructors;
wherever you stand on the morality if the issue, at some point the testimony of other mens
wives and girlfriends has to amount to something. Its not good or bad. It just is.
Imagine the most heinous, depraved, slutty thing youve seen or conceived. Now, know
this: you know someone whos done something like that or worse. Such is the reality of
modern reality. Suck it up and deal. After all, youre probably a normal, decent person, and
all that deviance and judgment you just threw out in our imaginary situation there is
NOTHING compared to the festival of sin that is your daily, hourly sexual fantasy life. What
separates your thoughts from your actions? Sadly, its probably an issue of will and game
(and for some of you, of course, the law).
No one is actually that special. But everyone is that special. That one girl isnt worth a damn
because everyone has a nugget of gold lodged somewhere in their chest. Everyone has
some hidden glory. Sometimes its hidden very deeply. But there truly are a vast number of
interesting, beautiful women, despite their minority status. In that same regard, no single girl
is all youve made her up to be. Not one. None. No one. Some of you are reading this and
thinking about This One Girl You Know. Seriously, not even her. EVEN IF EVERYTHING
YOU SAY ABOUT HER IS TRUE! THERE IS A GIRL WHO IS BETTER-LOOKING,
SMARTER, FUNNIER, AND NICER. YOU JUST HAVENT MET HER YET. That glorious sun
goddess is still just another glorious sun goddess. We live on a planet with 6,200,000,000
human beings. And women are in the majority. Seriously, shes not that special.
And thats why you have to kill Beatrice. That muse is only holding you back because what
shes really doing, what shes really, really accomplishing, is holding you back from being
your true, glorious self. Find her seventy thousand superior counterparts. Then return.
With understanding.
Experience and willingness to learn breed perspective. When you dont accrue a lot of
experience with girls, its easy to get sidetracked by illusions, to forget how mortal these
divine creatures are. Then, you can find a girl you want, a girl you like, a girl you can love.
And you will not love her out of habit. You will not love her because shes just the prettiest girl
youve ever been with. You will love her because shes the best girl to receive your love. And
that statement means something because you have allowed other, female things to happen
to you!