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1. PARENTS RIGHTS
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Question:
Could you please shed light on the importance of
showing respect towards ones parents in the light of
the Quran and Hadith keeping in mind the rude
behavior of children of the present times?
Answer:
Kindness to parents is mentioned as a duty of believers
several times in the Quran. There are many Hadiths
that encourage us to be very kind to our parents.
Obedience must be discriminating. We obey our
parents only in what is right and what is calculated to
please Allah. But we should be kind to them in all
situations. Allah Almighty says that if parents try hard to
persuade their son to associate partners with Allah,
then he must not obey them, but he should treat them
in this world's life with kindness.
Almighty Allah has emphasized that kindness to parents
is one of the most important qualities of believers. He
says in the Qur'an:
"Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save
Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one
of them or both of them to attain old age with thee,
say not Fie unto them nor repulse them, but speak
unto them a gracious word. (23) And lower unto
them the wing of submission through mercy, and
say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did
care for me when I was little. (Al-Isra 17:23-24).
Allah (swt) says:
"And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his
parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear
him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the
command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy
Islam approves. Not only so, but they forfeits his rights
to be obeyed by their children.
We must differentiate here between two things. Being
kind to parents and total obedience to them. Obedience
must be discriminating. We obey our parents only in
what is right and what is calculated to please Allah. But
we should be kind to them in all situations. Allah
Almighty says that if parents try hard to persuade their
son to associate partners with Allah, then he must not
obey them, but he should
"bear them company in this world's life with
justice (kindness)..." (Luqman 31:15).
When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
was told by one of his female Companions that her
mother, a non-believer, had come to visit her, he told
her: "Be kind to your mother."
Bukhari, Vol 8, Book 73. Good Manners and Form (AlAdab). Hadith 002. Narrated By Abu Huraira: A man
came to Allah's Apostle and said, "O Allah's Apostle!
Who is more entitled to be treated with the best
companionship by me?" The Prophet said, "your
mother." The man said. "Who is next?" The Prophet
said, "your mother." The man further said, "Who is
next?" The Prophet said, "your mother." The man asked
for the fourth time, "Who is next?" The Prophet said,
"Your father."
Anyhow as per Islamic teaching, old parents are your
heaven, you can earn it by serving them and being
obedient to them in all cases except when they order
something against Islamic guidelines.
So all these explanation to your brother as it is duty of
all children to care of their parents. At the same time we
would like to mention that:
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Question :
What are the responsibilities of parents in respect of
Children Rights? What if we are living in foreign
country and cant educate our child Islamically?
Answer :
Let us first establish that in accordance with the true
Islamic teaching, both male and female are alike in
the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Children, according to
Islam, are entitled to various rights. The foremost of
these rights is the right to be properly raised and
educated. This means that children should be given
suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious,
ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire
lives. In addition to that he must be given worldly
education as much as child want to attain.
Parents Lack Of Interest
Children learn more from their parents as they are
spending their full time at home with them. So it is the
prime school for children in their early stage, as well
as stage of teenage. Parents should give maximum
time and adhere to Islamic teaching, regularly offering
all prayers (and father praying at mosques, if it is
close), reading Quran, not earning haram or eating
haram food (and of course no drinking alcohol) etc.
Treating well with child and with other family members
and friends to let him understand good moral
behaviours.
Due to lack of interest in children brought up, many
Muslim parents wake up one day and find they have a
rebellious teenager who they can't reason with, and
who is intent on ignoring everyone. Many leave home
in angry and ignore their parents completely and do
whatever they feel good. This is a sad fact nowadays,
the Almighty.
Islam sees that if parents fulfill their duties towards all
their children in terms of providing them with
necessary training, educational backing, moral, ethical
and religious education, this will definitely lead to a
more caring child, a better family atmosphere and a
better social environment and awareness. On the
other hand, any negligence in those parental duties
can lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment of the
parents at a later age.
Child is a Blessing from God
A child is a blessing from God to the parents. You can
not make such a beautiful alive entity without
command of God. There are instances when couples
remain without a child for years and years, with no
defect to either of them, and it has also happened with
prophets. So a child is a one of the greatest gift to
parents, for that they should always be thankful to
God. However being a precious gift, it is parents
responsibility that they should raise the child
according to the guidelines Who has given this gift.
Birth of children
A child does not easily comes in this world. Mother
has to have hard labour of keeping it in her womb for
nine months. During this time she has to keep herself
well guarded from the side effects of her eating,
drinking, hard labour of home and outside jobs. Then
after birth again she has to take care of her infant life
by breast feeding (recommended in Islam) and also
keeping it clean, its natural needs of health and also
save it form ill effects of environment. For that Allah
says to the child :
"And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his
parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear
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These are general guidelines to raise our children
Islamically, so every Muslim must take care of his
children and know the correct path that must be
followed. This will help us to do the job we are
entrusted to do as Allah prescribed, as well as the
responsibility the Prophet, peace and blessings be
upon him, has clarified, with aim of protecting the future
generations of Muslims, as Allah Almighty says: And
Say Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds, and (so
will) his Messenger and the believers. And you will
be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen
and the seen. Then He will inform you of what you
used to do (At-Tawbah 9:105)
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Soorat al-Noor.
5. They should not let themselves or their children
watch immoral and corrupt movies.
6. Their children have to sleep at home and should stay
home as much as possible, to protect them from the
influences of the bad environment outside. They
should be very strict in not allowing their children to
sleep outside the home (sleepovers).
7. They should avoid sending their children to
universities far from home where they would have to
stay in university accommodation, otherwise we will
lose our children, who will be assimilated into the
kaafir society.
We have to be careful to eat only halaal food and the
parents must avoid using all kinds of haraam things
such as cigarettes, marijuana and other things which
are widely available in kaafir countries.
Outside the home:
1. We must send our children to Islamic schools from
kindergarten to the end of secondary school (high
school).
2. We must also send them to the mosque as much as
possible, to pray Jumuah and other prayers in
jamaaah, and to attend lectures, halaqahs and
study circles, etc.
3. We must establish educational and sporting activities
for children and youth in places that are supervised
by Muslims.
4. Fathers and mothers should strive to go to the Holy
Places to perform the rituals of Umrah and the
obligations of Hajj, accompanied by their children.
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Question:
If she committed zinaa when she was not Muslim and
had a child, then she became Muslim, what should she
tell other people and the child himself?
Answer: Praise be to Allah.
Zinaa (fornication or adultery) is a crime that is
forbidden by divine laws and rejected by all wise and
sane people, even if they are not Muslim. Allah has
condemned those who do this in many aayaat of the
Quraan and in numerous ahaadeeth of His Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). He has
threatened those who do this with severe punishment
and disgrace in this world and the next except those
who repent, have faith and do righteous deeds, for Allah
will accept their repentance. The gate of repentance is
open, but it is a condition of repentance that one should
regret the deed and give it up. Islam wipes out
whatever came before.
With regard to the child, he belongs to his mother, and
should not be named after his father. This is the ruling
concerning the illegitimate child: he should not be
named after his father because he was conceived in
fornication, not in wedlock. It is obligatory to take care
of this child and bring him up with Islamic manners and
morals. Because this immoral act has occurred, you
must repent from it, but you should cover it up and not
disclose it; you do not have to tell the people the truth. If
the child wants to know the truth, you can tell him in an
appropriate manner, and let him know that what
happened was in the days of kufr (before you became
Muslim), and that when a person repents and becomes
Muslim, this wipes out whatever happened before.
The child does not bear any responsibility for what
happened, and as long as his mother has become
Muslim, there is no grounds for rebuking or punishing
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