MAKALAH

EVERYDAY MANNERS
Lecturer:
Mariatul Kiptiyah, M.Pd

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Created by:
Randi Candra S

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Luluatul Mubrikah (1235511087)

Uswatun Hasanah

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ENGLISH DEPARTMENT
STKIP PGRI BANGKALAN
2015

CHAPTER I
INTRODUCTION
A. The Background Analysis
Indonesia is well known as a large country in the world and has many
islands that spread from Sabang to Merauke. In every island live people from
different ethnics with different languages, religions, lifestyles, cultures and
different customs. Those different cultures unite and become Indonesian culture.
In this writing will be describe generally about Indonesian culture that is
covered daily general habits of Indonesian. This description is not to give bad
appraisal to our national culture, but only to share the result of our daily
tracking and experiences and combined with references of several sources.
B. Purpose
1. To be able to understand what is everyday manners
2. To be able to know kind of everydat manner

CHAPTER II
DISCUSSION
A. Definition Everyday Manners
In this section well look at manners that help us through the day
everything from a quick greeting to waiting in line to eating a meal to how you
look. No one wakes up in the morning, looks in the mirror, and says, I think Ill
be rude all day today. Yet when we're in a hurry or dealing with strangers, we
don't always use the manners we know we should. It's not just about knowing
these manners; its about being intentional in their use. See what a difference
even the simplest courtesies can make to your day-to-day interactions.
B. Kind of Everyday Manners
Meeting and Greetings
Indonesian people are well known with their friendliness whether to well
known people or unknown people. Every time when meeting someone,
Indonesian pople will greet: Assalamu alaikum for Moslem, good morning,
good afternoon, or good night for non Moslem or as general greetings. To
friends or closed friends they say hi! or hello! and it is not complete for
Indonesian people if they dont make chit-chat after greetings. Indonesians
usually address someone the way by saying Where will you go, sir? or
Where have you been, Madam? In Western, its unusual, because it will be
determined that those people want to know everything other pople want to do.
Wherever I go or where I have been, its not their business, why they must ask
about that? for Indonesian people, those addresses dont mean seriously. It is
just like an idiom to show the existence of attention. They dont care at all
whether the answer is true or not. It may be anything, example: O, I want to go
to shop or Ahh, Ive been at the market. Generally, greeting is a polite
behavior.
On the other hand, if he or she does not greet when meeting someone who
he or she knows in a place, it is probably that people will say, Hi..how arrogant

you are! We meet on the way but you dont greet me, such as youve never
known me yet.
Indonesia consists of various ethnics and languages. It must have various
greetings in each area. There are a lot of unique greetings that often listened if
we are in an ethnic environment with its strong culture. People in Surabaya
sometimes say, Diamput! or Diancuk that are forbidden to say in usual
conversation. Sunda People will say, Siah! to closed friends who never meet
for long time. In Jakarta area, people usually call Bang to men, such as old
brother, neighbour and even the vegetables seller who passes in front of house.
In Makassar, vegetables seller, pedicab driver and small scale seller are called
Sambalu. Of course, there are many greeting used in many ethnics in
Indonesia.
Gesture or body language that is enclosed in greetings uttered different. In
the last several years, huging and kissing on the two sides of cheeck have been
culture of Indonesian people in the certain level of society. Formerly, Indonesian
people greet someone by shaking one hand or two hands, and while nodd the
head. It is probability that the custom of huging and kissing on the two cheecks
are the influence of Arabian culture delivered by Moslems. But that influence is
only done between men. Nowadays in Indonesia, culture of kissing in the two
cheeks is done bertween man and woman as well, although they are Moslems.
Perhaps it is the influence from France (Europe). Like American, Indonesian
people have a custom to greet someone first though to a foreigner. Because of
their hospitality, almost many people open conversation with other people
without introduced by someone first. They like to hear other peoples
conversation and then they butt into discussion, so they can be close a few
minutes later.

Visit to Friends Home

Visit to relatives home or friends home is one of the customs that always

done by Indonesian people. Visit to new neighbours house is rare to do except

the neighbour invites his or her other neighbours to attend the celebration for

new house. Besides, there is not a custom to give gift or food to the new
neighbour, it is only attending invitation.
Indonesian people has a high mutual cooperation characteristic. When
relatives or friends make party or hajatan, they will come to give some helps
without asked. It is meant as a visit and make good friendship. Visit activities is
usually done when the celebration of Idul Fitri, Idul Adha, Cristmast and New
Year time. There is not certain time for visiting. In general Indonesian people
might not like to make an appointment. Visit can be done in the morning, in the
afternoon ar in the evening. It is one bad habit of Indonesian that must be
changed. However, some people who live in big cities with busy routine
activities will like to make meeting or visit appointment in the beginning. In the
fact that, Indonesian people have very high tolerance to guest. Although the
guest visits at the suitable time for visiting without making appointment, the host
will tolerate to welcome the guest and serve well. It is impossible to ask the
guest to go home and say Sorry, I am busy and you disturb my personal time.
Visit to the friends home is often done by young people (teenager) or
school age children. After finishing class, they dont go home in direct. They
like visiting to a friends home for doing homework or just playing. They like to
make surprise to their friends and suddenly come without giving information.
Sometimes, they come in to the bedroom (and of course after permit to the host
ar the room owner). They often ask for some drink or meal, and even they can
serve themselves in the kitchen. But it is occured when they have been closed
and known well. Politeness value is still be a characteristic of Indonesian.

Getting Invitation
Almost all Indonesian people are difficult to say No or I cannot when

getting invitation for a party or celebration. Eventhough they know that they
have another business or appointment in the same time with the invitation, they
will say I will see later or If I have a chance Ill come. Besides, Indonesian
people who are majority Moslem usually say Insya Allah, and for Western
people it means uncertainty. But for Moslems, it is an exception that it must be
said when making appointment. We have to give information as we will come

late or cannot come at all. The fact that, we are rare to do it. Some people will be
angry when they dont get invitation from a friend or family who makes party.
Perhaps they might forgot to write our name in guest list. Another Indonesian
habit is invite other friend who are uninvite to come to a formal party.

Eating
In Western country, eating etiquette is an essential thing in daily habits.

This eating etiquette is called table manner. In Indonesia, table manner has been
applied by certain people such as rich people or upper circle of society. It can be
done in the luxurius restaurants or hotels. For general circle of society, using
spoon, fork, knife and other various of eating pitfalls is uncommon thing. Plate,
spoon and glass are commonly used. In the village area, people usually eat by
using hand, namely right hand and wash hand in the water bowl. Eating together
is considered to build togetherness and harmony. But, there are several ethnics
that have certain custom about eating etiquette. For instance, Bugis ethnic in
South Sulawesi has a certain eating etiquette in the family. When eating, it is
first priority for old people, men or guest to have their meal. Women and
children will have their meal after that. It is forbidden to make converstion in the
dining table. It is related to the politeness. However, for some Bugisess family
who have been released from the original custom environment will consider
eating together.
There are some bad habits often found in the dining table such as cleaning
leftovers from a meal in the teeth or gargle in front of other people who still
having their meal. For some people it is okay, but we dont know that it will
disturb them.

In the Public Places

There are a lot of Indonesian habits in public places look strange for

western people. They are try to get in front of the line, throw the rubbish
everywhere, pass wind and spitting in public area, teke pee not in toilet, etc.
Indonesian people are often inpatient when take in line for paying bill in cashier

or buying ticket then try to cut in the line. And the most terrible is entrust to
someone because it is lazy to wait for long time.
Rubbish is unfinished problem in Indonesia. Though there is a warning
board Dont throw your rubbish here put in public area, but there are still
anyone not responsible.
Pass wind in public area is a customary for Indonesian people. When
passing wind, they even not feel mistake and laugh each other.
In the certain condition, it is normally for Indonesian spitting in public
area. When in Fasting month, majority of Indonesian Moslem will be fasting. In
this condition, people will always spit in order to keep the validity of fasting.
Commonly take pee activity in public area is done by men. For instance,
there is no any toilette found in the trip, they will take pee behind the tree or
between bush or another closed places. Whereas, it is better to input the urine in
the bottle and clean up when meeting a toilette. Because it will damage another
live creations
And one another bad habit is teenagers habit to dominate almost all part of
street with their friends. It happens in public places like mall and public path.
When someone who wants to pass says Excuse me! they just look with I dont
care expressions. As if one tries to get through, they will protest by saying
inpolite words. Perhaps walking etiquette in public must be taught in school
etiquette material.

The Use of Time

Rubber Hour is a term that familiar in Indonesian ear. Rubber hour refers

to the elasticity time concept which a certain time is not a certainty at all. It will
be something can be delayed ( analogized to stretchable rubber), in order that it
characterizes as a marker of a period between that time. Rubber hour has been
culture in Indonesia. In a formal party or meeting that needs punctuality time,
there are still somme people come late. Indonesian people cannot be discipline in
time yet. But, it does not mean there is no one in Indonesia who are able to
commit to the time.

In the Bedroom
What Indonesians do in the bedroom is similar with the thing people do in

the world, namely preparing to go bed. There are several habits that had been
done since child till adult such as washing feet, hands and face, brushing teeth
and so on. Praying before sleeping is a suggestion in every religon. Using
piyama or blanket may be done apart people such as young people, but almost
people in Indonesia use sarung for sleeping. It cause of sarung is a special
characteristic and culture of Indonesia.
Teenagers usually listen to music, phone / calling, chat or read books
before going to bed. In the village environment, there is a custom to sleep
together in an extended family. Father, mother and children sleep in the same
room.

Educational Environment
There are several habits must be changed in Indonesian educational

environment. Many students from lower level up to higher level or university

less in using their spare time to do positive things such as reading book, repeat
the school materials and do assignment or homework. Time in waiting lecturer,
public transportation or when stand in line just used for playing chat with
friends. So, in the classroom, those will make other bad habits like doing
homework in the classroom or cheating in the examination. Even discipline of
time is less priority for the students. When the class begins, one or two students
still come late. The teachers and Lecturers muust give good example to their
students first to commit in time.

In the Toilet and in Bathroom

Take pee, take bath and do another personal activities are not separated

with the important rooms called toilet and bathroom. In Indonesia, public toilet
is rare found, moreover separated toilet between man and woman. If there is
public toilet, it may be common toilet for man and woman. It is exception for

certain places such in mall, hospital, bank, office and hotel. A bad habits always
found in public toilet is the user of that place does not clean the closed. Because
of it is a wet toilet so it will be so dirty. It is uncomfortable for other users.
Indonesian people usually take bath twice in a day, in the morning and in
the afternoon depends on the someones habit. Maybe it is because of the
weather and climate in Indonesia caused Indonesian people often take bath to
keep clean and healthy. They take bath in the morning because they determine
that activities begin in the morning till afternoon to socialize with many people.
Other opinion is taking bath is better to do in the afternoon after finishing
activities. It is done by people who keep etiquette in worship and praying to
God, and need comfort atmosphere to take rest.
Generally Indonesian people use wet bathroom, with water dipper and
vessel. In the city, people use shower and bathtub, and contrary in the small
village where people use natural shower and well.

REFERENCE
Ani Enggi. 2011 http://makalahccu.blogspot.com/. diakses Rabu, 25 Maret
2015
The Emily Post Institute, Inc. 2015 http://www.emilypost.com/everydaymanners. diakses 25 Maret 2015