Reading Group Questions

How To Date and Stay Saved by Kim Brooks

Chapter 1

1. What does love have to do with dating relationships and God?

2. True or False: Once you get saved your desire for sex automatically goes away. Explain
3. Besides getting saved, what else is necessary in order to grow spiritually?
4. What is key when it comes to whether or not you will be a victorious single believer?
5. Fill in the blank: God is a God of _________________ .
6. Why did God send Jesus to die in our place?
7. When it comes to dating relationships, we love God, ______ .

Chapter 2

8. True or False: When it comes to Christian dating, it is okay for a woman to pursue a man?
Why or why not?
9. Fill in the blank: Men are ___________ by nature.
10. What is God's established order for the home? Explain.

Chapter 3

11. What is the purpose of dating as described in the book?

12. How can information be gathered about the person you're dating?
13. Fill in the blank: Beware of the ___________________ and the ___________________ .
14. Fill in the blank and answer question to follow: In dating relationships, seek ____________
first. Why is this important?
15. Fill in blanks with the same word: Don't view ____ as an enemy. ________ is your friend.
Explain
16. Why should you not marry someone just for sex?
17. Fill in the blank and answer question to follow. Set ______________ up front. Why is this
important?

Chapter 4

18. Name the 5 ways to tame the beast known as the flesh
19. How is a lust problem dealt with?
20. True or False: Satan knows your weakness. Explain

Chapter 5

21.What are 2 things to always do (at all times) while dating? Explain each.
22.What does the following statement mean to you: Only God can change someone.
23. In dating someone, what are 5 things you need to “watch.”|
24. Explain the Holy Ghost Traffic Signal (what does each color signify in a dating relationship).
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25. True or False: The marriage bed is blessed and a bed shared between two people who are
not married to each other is cursed. Explain.
26. Fill in the blank: Sex puts the _______________ on. Explain.
27. Fill in the blank: Real love is not an emotion, it's an _____________ .
28. How do we glorify God in our bodies?
29. What do you do after you make a mistake such as engage in sex outside of marriage?

Chapter 7

30. Name 5 ways to true intimacy without sex.

Chapter 8

Bonus Discussion Topic: Name 2 things you will take away with after reading the testimonies from
the 12 couples who waited until after they were married before they had sex with each other.
 Reading Group Questions – Answer Key
How To Date and Stay Saved by Kim Brooks

The following are answers and answer hints to the Reading Group Questions.

Chapter 1

1. Your relationship with God should be the foundation of every relationship thereafter. Love
has to be vertical, first, before it can ever be horizontal. Pages 2-3

2. False: Once you get saved, or receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, you
become a new creature in Christ Jesus. Indeed, old things are passed away, and behold all
things are become new (2 Corinthians 5:17). Your spirit gets saved, but you still have to
battle with the flesh. Page 3

3. It's so important to not only get saved, but to also mature spiritually and allow your mind to
be renewed by the Word of God. Page 3

4. Consistency is key. The more consistent you spend time with God in prayer and in His
Word, the more victorious you will be as a single believer. Page 5

5. Relationship Page 8

6. God sent Jesus to die in our place so that even though mankind born after Adam is born with
the same sinful nature that Adam had (where mankind's first inclination is to sin rather than
live righteous), all we have to do is receive Jesus Christ into our hearts according to
Romans 10:8-10 and utilize God's love letter, known as the Bible, as a guide for our daily
affairs and discretions. He sent Jesus to die in our place because of love. Page 10

7. first Page 11

Chapter 2

8. False. It is not God's will for the woman to chase after a man. It sends the wrong signals,
and it throws everything out of order. God is a God of order (1 Corinthians 14:40) God's
established order is found in Proverbs 18:22 Pages 13-14

9. hunters Page 16

10. God's established order for the home is as such: Christ, husband, wife as stated in
Ephesians 5:23 Page 18

11. To discover, through prayer, the leading of the Holy Spirit, and through gathering
information whether or not the person you are consistently and exclusively dating has the
potential to be your spouse. Page 27

12. The only way information can be gathered about the other person is to create dating
 environments where communication is a key component. Page 27

13. Chameleons, Counterfeits Pages 33 and 50

14. friendship Ask any married couple and they will tell you that their genuine friendship with
one another is what keeps them a happily married couple – especially during those times
when they get on each other's nerves. Pages 34-35

15. Time Page 39

16. If you marry someone just because you want to have sex with them, you don't really get to
know the person to make sure you like and admire them as an individual. Page 40

17. boundaries. It'll let you know if the person is interested in seriously dating you, or only
interested in having sex with you. If it's the latter then the person will disappear, if it's the
former the person will more than likely stick around. Setting boundaries up front also sets
the tone (and expectation) of the relationship, and reduces the chances of something “just
happening” later down the line because you have verbally sealed the deal, which decreases
your chances of sinning . Page 46 and Pages 48-49

Chapter 4

18. 1. Guard your thought life.

2. Guard the (eye and ear) gates
3. Don't be guilty by association
4. Walk in the Spirit
5. Practice Daily Sanctification
Chapter 4

19. A lust problem is dealt with by crucifying the flesh and feeding the spirit daily. Page 88

20. True Page 89

Chapter 5

21. Watch and Pray. Watch means to keep awake, watch, be watchful. Pray about the person
you're dating – ask God to show you their heart. Page 95-96 and Pages 109-110

22. Page 100 (answer in your own words)

23. Watch for whether or not the person has the qualities you're believing God for in a mate,
watch their fruit, watch their reputation, watch their relationships with others, and have
someone else watch the two of you Pages 96 – 106

24. Red – Stop, end the relationship

Green – Go (or continue in the relationship – green light of peace)
Yellow Take it slow
Pages 114 – 118
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25. True Pages 124 – 125

26. blinders Pages 127 – 129

27. action Page 130

28. We glorify God in our bodies when we make a decision to become abstinent until
marriage, then we walk it out. Page 131

29. Ask for forgiveness. Don't run from God – Always run to God. Pages 131-143

Chapter 7

30. Verbally share each others dreams, desires, and goals

Speak words of life and encouragement over one another
Acts of kindness
Give thoughtful gifts
Spend Quality time with the person you're dating
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