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We all do our best to stay positive, but occasionally we can slip into negative thinking patterns that can wreak
havoc on our lives. We might worry about our past mistakes or current stresses, and how these could lead to
negative outcomes in the future. We might obsess about or over-analyze regular experiences and interactions,
reading into them things that arent actually there. We might nd that as soon as one bad thing happens, we
associate it with all the other bad things that have happened in our lives and begin to feel miserable. We might
feel anxious in the present, having a hard time getting out of our own heads as we worry and obsess about the
things that could go wrong.
If you nd yourself in this place frequently, you are what psychologists call a ruminator, or, an over-thinker, and
this way of thinking can be harmful to your health. Psychologists have found that over-thinking can be
detrimental to human performance, and can lead to anxiety and depression, especially in women, who are much
more likely than men to ruminate on stress and disappointments than men.
As a psychologist and recovering over-thinker myself, I have a lot of compassion for people who end up in these
spiraling negative thought patterns. Many over-thinkers are lovely, intelligent, nurturing people who value
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that they are worrying about or seeking support and reassurance from, because they can become obsessive,
anxious, depressed, negative and difcult to be around. This is not a switch in the brain that can be easily ipped
off, but rather, a pattern from which it requires dedication and work to recover. Based on research in psychology
and my personal experiences, here is my advice for how to stop over-thinking and nd peace in the present
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The rst and easiest thing you can do is BREATHE. Breathing will relax you, calm you, connect you to the present
moment, and ground you to Mother Earth. It sounds so simple but often when our mind starts to race to bad
places, we become manic and frantic when what we need to do is relax the body and mind.
The breathing technique that works for me involves lying down and taking a two-second long deep inhalation in
through the nose, followed by a four-second long exhalation out through the mouth. This breathing pattern
increases the CO2 in the bloodstream, which can relax the body and calm the adrenal systems response to the
obsessive thoughts. Do this for 10 minutes or until the excessive thinking slows down.
4) Talk Less
So many over-thinkers, especially those of us of the female persuasion, cant help but want to talk it out when
we are feeling stressed and worried. While talking about the worries can sometimes help, it usually will make
things worse, especially if the person you are talking to is also an over-thinker, and you spend the entire time
over-analyzing and dissecting every detail of every negative problem in your lives. You might end up working
yourself up into a frenzy of negativity and feeling even more upset after the conversation.
This type of co-rumination, where two ruminators get together to over-think about their lives together, can lead
both people deeper into negativity and stress. For example, research has uncovered an association between
co-rumination amongst female friends and increases in the stress hormone cortisol.
If you really feel the need to express your issues, you can always write them down, to clear them out of your
mind and realize that your concerns might sound silly when you read them back to yourself. This type of
free-association journaling has been incredibly benecial for me.
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6) Practice Mindfulness
One of the big things that over-thinkers struggle with is the ability to live in the present moment. So consumed
by the failures of the past and the worries over the future, the present moment does not get the attention and
love it deserves. Lao Tzu said that if you are depressed you are living in the past, if you are anxious you are living in
the future, and if you are at peace you are living in the present. So how can we live in peace in the present
moment?
Well, we have already discussed some of the strategies that can help you quiet the mind and ground yourself to
present moment, including breathing, talking less, getting physical and doing other activities that help redirect
attention and bring the mind into ow. But one of the best things you can possibly do is practice mindfulness, a
form of meditation where you focus on the present moment without judgment. As the obsessive, worrying
thoughts come in, you acknowledge them, and then let them go, energetically releasing them and clearing your
space. I strongly recommend learning mindful meditation techniques such as Transcendental Meditation, or if
you are having trouble doing it yourself, seeking counseling from someone who practices Mindfulness-Based
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our reality over time. Like attracts like, and so the more you worry about something, the more you will begin to
attract exactly the energy you are worried about! If you still havent seen the wonderful online series Spirit
Science, I strongly recommend you view Episode 1, which does an excellent job explaining how our thoughts
create our reality.
We must be mindful of our thoughts because our thoughts have power, more than we realize. If you obsessively
fear losing your job, you are actually INCREASING the likelihood of getting red, not decreasing it. Same if you
are worrying about contracting a life-threatening disease or medical condition: The more energy you send in that
direction, the more likely you are to unknowingly give permission to your body to manifest this condition.
Your thoughts and feelings will energetically create your life, which is why my life partner, sound healer Jimmy
Ohm always says, Worrying is a misuse of creative energy. Do you want to create a happy life, living at peace in
the momentt? If so, you have all of the tools to make this a reality by being mindful and present in your
thoughts. You also have all of the tools to create a life of worry and negativity, if you continue to over-think and
obsess about negative events. The choice is yours and I lovingly hope that you choose wisely. Blessings and
Love!
Authors Note: Do you agree? Are you an over-thinker or recovering over-thinker? Have these tips worked for you?
What other suggestions can you make to break this cycle? I would love to hear from you on Facebook!
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Dr. Kelly Neff is a renowned psychologist, author, founder of The Lucid Planet and the host
of the nationally syndicated new talk radio show, Lucid Planet Radio, airing Wednesday
afternoons at 5pm ET. She has reached millions of people with her articles
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Unleashed, Mind Body Green, My Tiny Secrets, and now, The Lucid Planet. Before she
became a full-time author, Dr. Neff spent seven years as a psychology professor where she
helped thousands of students learn about health, relationships, love and sexuality, and
co-authored the groundbreaking manual in her eld, Teaching Psychology Online. She has a
B.A. in Psychology from Georgetown University and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Social Psychology
from Claremont Graduate University. Dr. Neff is an avid participant in the visionary art, music
and culture scene in her home state of Colorado and beyond. You might nd her traveling
the globe to give workshops, speeches and do research at transformational festivals. You can
nd her on Facebook and Twitter. Light and Love!
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