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Individuals increasingly connect with others via social media (e.g., blogs, social networking, chatrooms),
a phenomenon that is likely to impact psychological well-being and development. As such, therapists
play an important role in assisting their clients to identify how virtual and in-person relationships
influence their sense of self, interpersonal communication, and how they engage in meaningful relationships. In this article, I describe 3 examples related to working with emerging adults that take into
consideration how this population does relationships in this technological era. Specifically, 3 clinical
exchanges1 illustrate ways to (a) enhance interpersonal skills (b) develop self-awareness about emotions,
and (c) gain a clearer understanding of the intersections of social identity.
Keywords: emerging adults, Internet, social media, psychotherapy
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All clinical exchanges and case material presented in this article are
fictionalized or an amalgam of several cases. Any resemblance to real
persons is purely coincidental.
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chotherapy, Strupp & Binder, 1984). Although specific approaches
may differ with regards to identified change mechanisms, psychotherapists often help their client, (a) enhance interpersonal skills
related to intimacy, including empathy and self-disclosure (Teyber, 2006), (b) develop self-awareness about emotions, where and
with whom emotions are expressed, and how they are regulated
(Greenberg, 2004), and (c) gain a clearer understanding of the
intersections of social identity and the dimensions that influence
self-understanding (Chantler, 2005; Crenshaw, 1991). Despite new
technological outlets, the interpersonal aspects of psychotherapy
remain salient. Yet, to enact this interpersonal approach, therapists
must take into account the new ways young adults do relationships and how technology shapes and co-occurs with their emotions, behaviors, and attitudes toward interpersonal interactions.
Below, I outline several ways in which psychotherapy can
directly address individuals relationships and experiences with
technology, treating the technological mediation of relationships as
yet another aspect of an individuals ecological system that can
and should be explicitly addressed in treatment (Bronfenbrenner,
1977). The three clinical processes presented in this article provide
ways in which the client and therapist can address how computermediated communication is interpersonal in nature, elicits basic
human emotions, and influences a clients sense of self and identity.
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choosing my words. I know it gets me in trouble sometimes, but it
makes me feel more powerful at the moment.
Therapist: That makes sense. You dont have as many distractions like facial expressions and immediate reactions. Yet, at the
same time, it seems like you still do worry about what they think
and take what they say to heart, like last night. And, perhaps, you
miss out on things that you would in a face-to-face conversation.
Ivan: I know. Its weird. Communicating through Facebook or
chat rooms is kinda like speeding in a car. I meet new people all
the time and I can try on different personas. It feels awesome to
throw caution to the wind, but then after the high I feel guilty and
anxious.
Therapist: To let yourself be who you want is simultaneously
exciting and scary. I also hear you saying that you are a multidimensional person who does not like being boxed in. You know, I
am really curious about what its like in here, with me. Who are
you in our counseling sessions?
In this exchange, the therapist and Ivan begin exploring the
dimensions of Ivans identities, the influence of various relationships, and the tension between his private and public selves. Ivans
focus on his online image versus how he presents in person reflects
the extensiveness of sources from which he draws on to define
himself. Ivan describes his feeling of exhilaration in self-disclosure
through social media, which gives him a sense of freedom to
explore his various selves. Again, the therapist continues to use
immediacy and invites Ivan to stay in the room by describing
who and how he presents with her. The intention here is to
highlight how interpersonal interactions, whether through technology or in person, hold meaning and are powerful ways in which
individuals experience who they are to one another, foster intimacy, and create a sense of self.
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