DEVELOPING THE SOCIAL ASPECT OF YOUR

PERSONALITY
THE SOCIAL ASPECT OF PERSONALITY
The personality of a person is shown by his or her pattern of habits, attitude and
relationship which can be acquired by anyone through experiences as a result of the
influence of environment. This social aspect of personality is important because it
implies the personality can be developed, altered, or improved.
THE INFLUENCE OF ENVIRONMENT IN YOUR SOCIAL BEHAVIOR
Social environment plays such an important role in determining a persons personality
that it makes a difference what a man does for a living and even where one lives.
IMPORTANCE OF STUDYING SOCIAL GRACES
1.Knowledge of accepted social graces gives people increased self confidence.
2.Knowledge of good manners increases a persons sense of security, poise and self
respect.
3.Once you know the rules of etiquette, you will be able to know what is expected from
you.
4.Knowledge of good manners will help you do much easy what is expected from you.
5.Knowing good manners will help you get along well with different kinds of people.
ETIQUETTE consists of a set of rules of living on our society. Etiquette is a way of
treating others as you would like others to treat you with respect and thoughtfulness.
BUSINESS ETIQUETTE these are the set of certain patterns of considerate interaction
when doing business of any kind business etiquette are cleared guidelines on how to act
in any business situation having to do with a persons job.
SOCIAL GRACES more popularly known as good manners and etiquette.
MANNERS are social conduct and rules of conduct. Manners are the manifestation of
courteous behavior in various situations.
GOOD MANNERS AT HOME
1. At home, we should practice the social amenities of living so that we will be used
to doing them when we are in public
2. At home, you should help in order to create an atmosphere of mutual respect,
trust, and love.
3. At home, it is very important that we treat each member of the family with love
and respect. Do not take each other for granted.
4. Every member of the family is entitled to his/her own share of privacy.
5. Never violate the privacy of your family or relatives by opening their mails without
their permission.
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6. A close door in your home should be respected. Knock and wait for the answer
before entering.
7. Every member of the family is to have the privilege of entertaining his own friends
with a minimum of interference from the rest of the family.
8. Always be courteous to elders, even to children and the house helpers.
9. Avoid borrowing personal belongings of your parent, brothers, and sisters. Ask
permission in you need to do so.
10.Wherever you wish to go, ask permission and inform your parents about your
where with whom you are going. This is also for security reason and for your
safety so your parents can trace your whereabouts.
11.Respect the feelings of your parents, brothers and sisters at all times. Obedience
to do what is right is an indicator of respect.
12.Avoid snooping of listening in to the conversation of other members of the family,
either over the telephone or when one is entertaining a visitor in the house.
GOOD MANNERS IN SCHOOL
1. Maintain good attendance record
2. Record regularly and be on time for all your class. Notify your teacher and
classmates in case you cannot come to class due to some reasonable causes, like
sickness or some emergency.
3. Do your homework and assignment at home so you will really have enough time
to prepare them well. Do not do your assignment inside the classroom while
discussion is going on.
4. Know and follow all your school rules and regulations.
5. Wear the prescribed uniform and ID if that is your school regulation. Wearing of
uniform and proper identification (ID) are for safety precaution so that NO
OUTSIDERS, who can badly influence you, can enter the school campus. Wearing
of ID and the school uniform is for your protection so that school authorities can
identify readily who does not belong.
6. Try to uphold the good name of your school by bringing honor in various
competitions.
7. Participate actively in all classroom discussions. Take the opportunity to enhance
your leadership traits.
8. Participate in all your school activities. Join various school organization as part of
your leadership training.
9. Strive to achieve academic excellence in all your subjects.
10.Read a lot and learn to listen and share ideas especially during classroom
discussion. You w8ill learn a lot by reading and listening.
11.Wait for your turn to talk when you want to share something worthwhile.
12.Be polite and respectful at all times.
GOOD MANNERS IN PUBLIC
1. The best way to improve the manners in public is for each of us to follow the
Golden Rule: Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you
or Do unto others what you would want others do unto you.
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2. Do not push your way into the public conveyance. Fall in line and wait for your
turn.
3. Do not cut ahead of others on a ticket line.
4. Sit properly inside a public transportation so that others may be comfortably
seated.
5. Close the door quietly in public.
6. Do not comb your hair in public.
7. Do not spit or pick your nose in public.
8. Do not clean your fingernails and scrape off nail polish in public.
9. Women should not smoke in public.
10.Avoid long introduction or conversation on the street and the public conveyances
to avoid human traffic along the way.
11.Remain quiet in the theater to allow others to enjoy themselves.
12.Treat sales clerk and other service personnel with respect and consideration.
RESTAURANT MANNERS
1. In a restaurant, the waiter usually comes forward for assistance. The woman,
therefore, should follow the waiter.
2. When there is no waiter, the man precedes the woman and leads her to a
convenient place.
3. After choosing the location, the man should pull out a chair and should help sit the
woman. If there is a waiter, this is usually done by the waiter.
4. The man should sit the woman where she can have a good view of the place. She
should not be seated where passing people may strike her chair. She should not
also be seated facing the wall or a swinging door,.
5. If you are going our in a group of four, the man should sit on the aisle seats and
the woman be their back on the wall.
6. If you are going out with two men, the woman should sit between them.
7. In this modern time, the woman can direct her order to the waiter when she is
asked for her preferences. Before, it was not in good taste for the woman to other
directly.
8. When you are unfamiliar with the restaurant and its specialties, you can ask the
waiter to recommend some of its specialties. If there are unfamiliar listing on the
menu. It is all right to ask for clarification.
9. Calli8ng of the waiter needs a certain degree of politeness. You may cause the
following suggestions.
a. Watch his eyes and then raise your hand as if to say . You here.
b. You may call quietly waiter or waitress without making a scene.
c. If your waiter is far away or if you dont remember your waiter, ask another
waiter nearby to call him for your.
d. Never clay your hands or tap in the table with spoon when calling the
waiter.
e. Avoid whistling or calling the waiter Psssssst.
10.When paying the bill, check the orders make and the computations. If there are
now mistake, return it together with the payment.
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11.If you find an error in the bill, request politely for proper adjustment. If the
management doesnt seem to care, simply pay the bill, but do not return to that
restaurant again.
12.When you are satisfied with the service of the waiter, you can give a 5% or 10%
tip out of the total bill.
13.If the bill contains a service charge. You may or you may not give an extra tip for
the waiter. It all depends on the kind of service the waiter has given you. If you are
satisfied and generous enough, you can give an extra top to recognize a job well
done.
14.The woman should avoid extensive making up in public especially in a restaurant.
She should go to the powder room while the man is paying the bill.
15.Avoid a long chat when you see people whom you know in a restaurant. A simple
hello will do the job. You may ask for the telephone number or better still you may
leave your contact numbers where you can continue your conversation.
16.But when introduction are necessary, the man should stand when a woman is
being introduced. But when a woman is introduced to a man or another woman,
the latter remain seated.
17.When a man talks to just one man, the other man does not stand. If the
conversation will take some time, let the man take the seat and join you.
TABLE MANNERS
1. Sit erect at the table. Do not lean your elbows on the table while waiting for your
orders to arrive.
2. When eating, the head should be bowed down slightly, but not too low to your
plate.
3. Carry the food directly to the mouth. Do not stop halfway to talk.
4. Do not talk when your mouth is full. Finish the food in your mouth before you talk.
5. Chew it with your mouth closed, and chew the food thoroughly to enjoy the taste
of the food.
6. When cutting meat, hold the fork in the left hand, tines down, with the handle
touching the palm of your hand, and cut the meat into bite pieces with knife on
your right hand.
7. Hold the knife and fork correctly. There are two eating styles that are acceptable.
They are the:
a. AMERICAN STYLE: you cut the meat with the knife on the right hand and eat
with the fork in the left hand. You cut, spear and bring the meat to your
mouth with the fork.
b. CONTINENTAL STYLE: with your right hand, cut the meat into several bite
pieces. You put down the knife after cutting by placing it on the upper
portion of the plate. Transfer the fork to your right hand to spear the meat,
then bring the meat to the mouth.
8. Dont blow in the soup in the cup to cool it. Wait until cool enough to eat. Spoon
the soup away from you to avoid accidental spill on your clothes.
9. Cut bread into bite pieces with your hands and put some butter with the knife on
the right hand and bring the buttered bread (bit piece) to your mouth to eat with
your left thumb and index fingers.
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10.If you accidentally drop your silverware, apologize briefly and ask for a
replacement. Dont attempt to pick it up.
11.Food eaten with fork. Remember, food is to be lifted upon the fork, nor speared
are meat, fish, poultry (when served cut.)
12.Food eaten with fingers are bread, sandwiches, celery, olives, radishes, nuts,
cookies, bits size chunks of cheese, apples, chicken (when poultry is served whole.
13.If the food you want to take is far from your place, you may request the person
near it by saying. Please pass the chicken.
14. To remove bones in your mouth, cover it with a napkin and get it with your hand
using the index and the thumb fingers.
15.After eating, arrange the fork and spoon on top of your plate in one place.
Preferable on the right side of the plate, and return the cloth napkin on top of the
table.

MANNERS IN DATING
1. Your parent should be informed as to whom and where you are going out dating.
This is an indication of respect for your parents.
2. Seeing each other at a designated place from your home is permissible, but do not
make it too often. You should always let your parents or guardians know the man
with whom you are going with for security reason or for your safety.
3. For women, avoid wearing seductive attire so as not to arouse the mans basic
instincts.
4. Learn to control your emotion yourself. Do not do things which are done only by
married couple, you will later regret because you are not yet ready for the
responsibilities.
5. To be treated like a lady, requires a lady like behavior.
6. In this modern age when dating expenses can be shared when both the man and
the woman are working. However, good manner dictates that the man is
responsible in shouldering expenses if he was the one who asked for the date.
7. A lady should not telephone a man unnecessarily. Most man will get upset if the
woman makes the first move. Ladies, it is still part of good manners to wait for the
man to call you.
8. Let the man be the one to ask for the date.
9. A woman should wait for her escort to open the door, pick up drop articles and
help in the car.
10.When entering the restaurant, remember that when there is a waiter the woman
should precede the man by following the waiter; when there is no waiter, the man
should precede the woman so that he can look for a vacant table.
11.When entering the entrance door of a restaurant, good manners dictate that the
man should open the door for the woman. The woman should give chance for the
man to open the door for her.

12.When going out dating, be considerate of the pocket of your escort. Avoid ordering
too expensive food on the menu. However, you should also avoid ordering the
cheapest food on the menu.
13.Etiquette dictates that you have to finish all the food you ordered.
14.The man should stay on the danger side when walking and crossing the street.
15.When riding a jeep or bus, the woman should precede the escort.
16.When from a jeep or bus, the escort should get out first before the woman and
guide the woman down.
17.During dating, avoid doing things being done only by married couple. It is very
hard to regret at the end. Remember. TRUE LOVE KNOWS HOW TO WAIT
18.Go to places where you will have the chance to meet different people. In this way,
youll have the chance to know the person better. Chaperons should also be
treated with concern and respect so that they can also enjoy your company.
19.Do not limit yourselves to seeing a movie where it is dark and minimum
interaction or conversation can take place. Go to various places where you can
talk, discuss, share ideas, and even plan for your future. Observe his or her
behavior particularly so that you will be able to know what kind of person he or
she really is.
20.Dating is an opportunity for you to know each other better. Do not do anything
that will destroy the trust of your parents. Use dating to develop your friendship
with one another with clean wholesome form of entertainment to make you both
better persons.

PURPOSE ON INTRODUCTION
The purpose of introduction is to make certain that the person being introduced
will know each other.

Strategies on how to do the Job of Introduction effectively

(If you will be the one who will do the introduction)
1. When making introduction, gain the attention of the individuals.
2. Look at the person you are addressing.
3. Speak distinctly so that everybody can understand by stating the names clearly.
4. If you forget someones name, admit your lapse and ask about his name.
5. Include a conversational lead when necessary so that the people who are
introduced will have something to talk about.

Strategies on the proper way of Introduction

1. Introduce a man to a woman. State the womans name first:
Mrs. Madrid, I would like to introduce Mr. de Vera to you
Or
Mrs. Madrid, this is Mr. de Vera
2. Person of higher rank or authority should be mentioned first.
3. In social situation, church dignitaries, royalty or heads of state are mentioned first
as a sign of respect.
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4. When introducing persons of the same sex and approximately the same age,
either of the two may be mentioned first.
5. Present a person of lower rank to his superior.
6. Present a young person to older person.
7. A newcomer may be presented to the group when there are four of five people in
a room.
Example:
I would like you to meet my new assistant Miss. Joyce De Vera. Then
mention each persons name to the new like: Joyce, this is Jeffrey, Jerico, Jaymie,
and Ryan Jay.
8. When there are five people, it is preferable to introduce the newcomer to just two
or three people at a time.
9. Self-introduction is acceptable on occasions when it will be necessary:
a. If the host is so busy to do so, you may introduce yourself to any of the
guests.
b. When meeting someone new in your office.
c. When meeting some at the conference. You may start by saying, :Hi, Im
Kate, from Notre Dame of Tacurong College. Whats yours?

Things to remember when Acknowledging Introduction

1. When introducing people, use names and titles appropriately.
2. When you are being introduced to someone, give him or her the courtesy of your
full attention.
3. Look directly at the person as you try to fix to your mind some facial features that
will help you recall the persons name.
4. The simplest form of acknowledgment that is acceptable is: How do you do, Mr.
Torres?
5. Another form of acknowledgement that may be used in less formal situation is: :I
am glad to meet you, Mr. Pascual. Or Hello, Jerico.
6. A woman remain seated when introduced to a man.
7. However, a woman is expected to stand when introduced to a man or woman
considerable older than herself or of higher rank.
8. You should stand when you are being introduced to your prospective boss or
employer.
9. A man should stand when being introduced to a woman.
10.A handshake is a gesture of trust and an expression of friendliness. Handshake
should be done properly with a firm grip, but not too strong so as not to hurt the
person.
11.When you do shake hands, do it gracefully but firmly. Avoid putting undue
pressure into the handshake. Look at the person SMILE, and shake hands in the
manner that attests to your pleasure in the meeting.
12.Men normally shake hands when being introduced.
13.Etiquette dictates that a woman should be the first one to offer her hand for a
shake hand when introduced to a man. This is done because a gentleman will
never refuse an extended hand of a woman.
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14.If a man, however, offers his hand in excitement, the woman should not refuse or
ignore it. The man will be insulted if you refuse his offer of a handshake. Do not
put malice in a handshake. It is a sign of acceptance of friendship.
15.When leaving someone you have just met, you simply say Goodbye, Jerico. The
name should be mentioned, since the plain goodbye may sound rather abrupt.
You may also say, It was a pleasure meeting you. Hope to see you again, Jerico.
Mentioning the name of the new friend will help you remember the person should
you have the chance to meet again in the future.

Business conduct and office etiquette for moving up the corporate

ladder
1. Dress appropriately for your job. No plunging necklines, bare shoulder or even
sleeveless dressed on some jobs, no shirt, no skirts thats too short and very high
slits, no jewelry that dangles and jingles, no make-up or perfume thats too
obvious.
2. Observe all written and unwritten rules and regulations or each job.
3. Dont compare the conditions of your present job to condition on a previous job. If
a condition elsewhere seem preferable, perhaps you should consider changing
jobs. Meanwhile, accept the situation you are in and dont moan or complain. Life
will be much more pleasant for you and those around you.
4. Make an effort to get along well with everyone, from your boss to the lowest rank
employees.
5. Respect the chain-of-command and dont go over anyones head.
6. If youve made a mistake, admit it. Try not to do it again, and dont make excuses
of blame someone else for it.
7. Dont engage in office politics or gossip, it will ruin your career.
8. Be polite: say please, thank you and yes, Mr. Pascual or No, Sir.
Impoliteness and rudeness are not long tolerated.
9. Always address your superior in the last name until and unless you are told first
names are preferred. When there are visitors, or outsiders, call your superior
always in the last name with appropriate title.
10.Social business etiquette may differ in some aspects, so dont expect your boos to
stand up when you walk in, or to pull up a chair for you.
11.Dont smoke, it hats one of your job regulations.
12.If coffee or snack is permitted at your desk, dont let the dirty coffee cup or
crumbs remain on your desk.
13.Never chew a gum in public, especially while working.
14.Be considerate to those who work around you. Work quietly, dont slam drawers,
dont even talk in loud tone if others are trying to concentrate.
15.Never ask other employee how much they are making or earning . Salary is
confidential.
16.Better to be a lender than a borrower.
17.Always keep in mind that when your boss criticizes you, it should not be taken as a
personal attack, it is your professional performance that concerns him.
18.Keep your personal problems out of the office.
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19.Keep your friends and family out of the office. It is not advisable for your friend
and relatives to visit you at your place of employment during office hour.
20.Keep your personal telephone call out of the office. If someone calls, you can
tactfully handle the situation by saying, Im sorry, were busy today, may I call
you back this evening, or say just call me tonight at home. Never use, therefore,
the company telephone for personal calls except for emergency purpose.
21.Write your personal letters at home.
22.Keep your personal habit like drinking, sleeping and language private.
23.Dont use the office as meeting place for your date.
24.Keep busy. Do something constructive for your employer. No employer wants to
see and employee doing nothing.
25.Look pleasant while at work. Keep the expression of your face pleasant and
receptive.
26.Do not argue with your boss, about the right way of doing things. No matter
what you were taught, you are working for this employer and his way is the right
way. You can make suggestions but do it in a tactful way.
27.If your employer is still at his desk at quitting time, ask him if he needs you before
you leave. The extra few minutes not only extends a courtesy, but is a job
insurance as well.
28.Dont be habitual complainer. If some aspect of your work situation troubles you,
discuss it privately with your supervisor or employer.
29.Never violate a confidence. Loyalty to your employer is your primary obligation.
Do not criticize your company or your boss to your friends. If you cannot be loyal,
you better find another job.
30.Welcome and help new employees.
31.Compliments in an office situation when sincerely meant are always a form of
polite gestures like for the woman who has a new haircut or looks particularly nice,
or a man who has worn a complete new attire for a change.
32.Dirty jokes, offensive jokes, green jokes must be used judiciously. Even a clean
joke should be used only when you are quite sure your audience is receptive.
33.Dont take more than the allowed time for your coffee break and lunch. This
means, be back to the office as well as back at work at the end of the lunch and
break period.
34.Never make up while on the job. This applies to nail cleaning, hair combing, as
well as facial repairs. Be tactful, go to the powder room or ladys room.
35.Maintain good attendance record.
36.Avoid the habit of borrowing from officemates and not being able to repay them as
promised. You will violate confidence.
37.Always report to the office on time. It is a sign of professionalism.
38.Never be a gossiper. Also do not entertain gossips and intrigues in the office. Let
the gossips stop in your desk, which means do not relay it to others. You can say
to gossip bringer: Baka naman hindi totoo. Let us very first.
39.Always do the best that you can in everything you do. It will give you a happy
feeling of self-fulfillment and self-accomplishment.
40.Accept criticism. You should receive constructive criticism graciously and willingly.
Remember you can learn from your mistakes, and no one will criticize you unless
he thinks youre worth it.
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41.Be polite and courteous at all times to every people in all levels you come in
contact with.
42.Never be rude or indifferent to an outsider who visits your company. Even those
who come to your office by mistake should be treated well. They can be
prospective customer if you are able to give a good impression about your
company.
43.Treat all customers and clients with concern and respect. Remember they are the
people giving good business to your company. In reality, they are the main source
of income. The salary you get from your company come from your customers and
clients. They deserve to be treated well by giving them good service.
44.Learn to listen to customers complain and help them solve their problems. In
doing so, you are able to make other people happy which in return gives a good
image to your company.
45.Consider every customer important. Give them good service at all times.
Recognize the importance of others. Practice the golden rule. Do not do unto
others what you would not like others do unto you.
46.A satisfied customer means a good business for your company. And good business
means stable position for you.
47.REMEMBER. You are hired by the company to provide salable goods or services to
its customer in order to achieve their further objective. You should be of help
rather than a hindrance to the achievement to the company objectives.
48.Be cooperative. Cooperation makes even the hardest task very easy.
49.Avoid serious personal relationship with a married person. You will be creating a lot
of trouble at the end. This kind of relationships does not usually last long.
50.REMEMBER. There is always room for improvements. Always strive to improve in
every respect affecting your office career.

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