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Module I
MANUAL
RCI
Family Coach Training
Module 1:
Foundations of Family
Coaching
Copyright 2011 Diana Sterling,
Licensed to Relationship Coaching Institute.
ISBN-10: 0975500597
ISBN-13: 978-0-9755005-9-0
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
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PROGRAM OVERVIEW
SYLLABUS
CLASS #1
CLASS #2
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CLASS #3
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CLASS #4
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CLASS #5
ASSESSMENT MODELS
Reading to have Completed Enneagram Made Easy Entire
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CLASS #6
ASSESSMENT MODELS
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CLASS #7
MY COACHING PHILOSOPHY
Reading to have Completed None
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CLASS #8
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The pages in the first section of this manual describe the outline for this training module. Read
them carefully, digest and prepare any questions that will help you be extra clear about your role.
We will address these in our first tele-class together, and you will be able to expand on your
individual objectives with your personal coach. This course is designed to be rigorous, as we
believe that momentum can be created from discipline, commitment, rigor and above all compassion and love. There is no time to wait young people and their parents are in dire need
of our services and our skills. Teens are saying, Dont leave us! and we must meet this
challenge. The highest intention of this course is for you to gain confidence and competence in
coaching teens and parents. we support you in bringing your coaching voice and niche forward in
your chosen application. This course is designed to support you in becoming successful in
whatever coaching and teaching venue you choose. It is my honor to be working with you in this
capacity.
Welcome aboard!
Diana Sterling
Developer and Lead Instructor
RCI Family Coach Training Program
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PROGRAM OVERVIEW
OBJECTIVES
The goal of Family Coach Training is to teach a professional coaching skill set that can be
utilized in the community in a variety of settings, including but not limited to individual
coaching, group coaching, leading workshops, teaching classes, public speaking and workplace
applications.
Each participant is expected to participate fully and powerfully in growing their own capacities,
supporting the other students, and staking their claim in the world as advocates for young people,
parents and families. Overall learning objectives include:
Students feel competent to interact with teens, parents and family groups with coaching
skills using the Family Coach Training approach and methodology.
Students apply the skill set of professional coaching to their professional and personal life
in all areas as applicable.
Students expand on their personal development: discovery of hidden potential and gifts,
personal expansion of skills and techniques.
Students create an Individual Success Plan to take coaching, training and leading into
their community by using their own design/model.
Students integrate professional coaching into their chosen professional applications and
settings.
Students experience a synthesis of all four modules to inform their voice, and study of
practice (stitching it all together for experiencing and owning a whole body of work.)
THE PARENT AS COACH APPROACH
The Parent as Coach Approach Tool Kit is included in Family Coach Training program.
The Parent as Coach Approach family of products is one of our most important components to
use with clients as a way of introducing them to new ideas and ways of interacting with others.
We advocate using these tools with any coaching client in session or you may use them as a
marketing tool as well.
This kit includes 1 copy each of the Book, Audio Book on CD, DVD Seminar, Action Cards and
The GradeMaker Parent/teen Accountability System. Also included is the 4-Week Parent as
Coach Workshop (also can be done in one day or as a 4 8 week coaching program.)
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STUCTURE OF COURSE
Module One Foundations for Family Coaching
Module Two Coaching Teens, Parent and Families using The Parent as Coach Approach
Module Three Advanced Coaching Perspectives and Tools
Module Four Application and Business
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Diana Sterling, founder and designer of Family Coach Training gratefully acknowledges Mr.
James Flaherty (author of Coaching; Evoking Excellence) for a rigorous and life changing coach
training course experience taken with him in 1998. Acknowledgements also go to Tracy
Tresidder, PCC for her enduring friendship, collaboration and contribution to many components
of this curriculum as well as her faithful stewardship of The Parent as Coach Approach and
Family Coach Training. Other mentors and teachers that have informed the nature of this
curriculum include Jack Canfield (success coach), Gary D. Rodriquez (NLP trainer) T. Harv
Eker (Millionaire Mind Training), Doug Stevenson (Story Theatre) and Dr. Linda Falkenstein
(NicheCraft) as well as countless men and women whose shoulders we stand on collectively.
This course is possible only because of the many students and Family Coaches around the world
who have brought forth their passion, compassion and relentless desire to help families of all
kinds with coaching expertise. Their wisdom and feedback is the wind beneath the wings of
Family Coach Training.
Thank you to Frankie Doiron and David Steele of Relationship Coaching Institute for their faith
in this body of work and their commitment to making coaching a transformational reality for
thousands worldwide.
Onward!
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Module Two: Coaching Teens, Parents and Families using The Parent as Coach Approach
You will be grounded in specific, proven coaching methodologies for families, parents, teens and
young adults. You will acquire new tools and programs that you'll be able to use immediately.
Using the Seven Ways to Coach from The Parent as Coach Approach
Understanding the differences between coaching teens, coaching parents and coaching
families together
Designing coaching programs for clients using outcome-based coaching methodologies
Creating your family coaching voice with advanced public speaking tools
Module Two: Logistics
a. 10 tele-classes of 90 minutes each to include lab time
b. Required reading or listening (included)
a. The Parent as Coach Approach - family coaching kit of 5 products (included in
tuition
b. The Parent as Coach Approach 4 week workbook (interactive)
c. The Parent as Coach Approach 2 hour training CD The Seven Ways to Coach
c. Study Buddy Call with one buddy for entire module 1 hour minimum
Module Three: Advanced Coaching Perspectives and Tools
Adapting your own voice to a matrix of coaching possibilities anchored on your philosophy of
coaching, The Parent as Coach Approach and new distinctions in advanced coaching
perspectives. Exploring subgroups for niche markets, examining distinctions in coaching
children, teens, parents and families and subgroups within.
Expanding on your existing professional capacity and incorporating leveragability into your
business model. Examining deeper perspectives relevant to coaching families - unique to the
coaching profession.
a. Teaching vs Coaching, Parenting vs Coaching, Outcome vs. Process
b. Coaching Children/Parents of Children
c. Exploring ADHD, Learning Disabilities, Single Parents, Divorced Parents, Blended and
Step Families, Multi-generational families, cultural distinctions
d. Family Coaching models and processes for specific use
e. Stretching yourself beyond where you are to rise to the challenges of family coaching
Module Three: Logistics
a. 10 tele-classes of 90 minutes each
b. Required reading (must purchase on your own)
o Uncommon Sense for Parents of Teens by Michael Riera
o A Mind at a Time by Mel Levine MD
c. Buddy Study Call with one buddy for entire module 1 hour minimum
d. Optional expanded bibliography included
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2. Consulting
3. Teaching
4. Therapy
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When to coach and how to coach are broad questions that the professional coach must learn to
distinguish by using personal know how, skill set, experience and wisdom. Certified Family
Coaches are professional coaches who access their own knowledge and wisdom, and
appropriately bring it forth with the client.
The language of coaching is developed within each coach with different applications discovered
over time. Coaching is not one-size-fits-all approach. It is ever evolving, as so are the coach and
the client. A successful coaching relationship requires that the coach have a generous tool kit of
assessments and skills and become competent in the use of them. These tools are designed for
the coach to learn about who the client is, how they are in the world, and what motivates them.
From this place, a powerful coaching relationship can take place. Academy for Family Coach
Training creates an environment whereby the coaches/staff and students are experiencing their
own successes, self-correcting as they go, and taking new actions that will sustain stated
outcomes; In effect, experiencing the positive benefits of being coached. A good coach is also
coach-able. The Family Coach Training Philosophy of coaching begins with the client having
stated outcomes that then are agreed upon by both the client and the coach.
The coach then designs a Coaching Program, based on their knowledge and insights, to help the
client reach the stated outcomes. A path is set and benchmarks are acknowledged. It is a
powerful partnership that creates real, tangible and measurable outcomes for the client.
Above all, trust, love and compassion are integral parts of the coaching partnership. Each coach
must develop their own inner capacity for the higher road of non-judgment and love, even in
the professional setting where action steps, tools and new paths are created. It is the coaches
responsibility to gather their own inner resources and strength to be able to powerfully connect
and offer their clients substantive material, courage and wisdom.
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2. Freedom
3. Power
4. Fun
5. Survival
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1. Use the Choice Theory Handout to assess your own 5 psychological needs.
2. Buddy Call: Discuss with your buddy the following
a. How can I use Choice Theory in my coaching?
b. How will I find this useful to me in my own family?
3. Read: Choice Theory Chapters 12 - 13 to be complete by next class
4. Write and Send into RCI and my buddy:
a. One page Self Assessment
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2. Freedom
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3. Power /Control
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4. Fun
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5. Survival
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1. Share this model with one person you trust who is not a coach.
2. Buddy Call: Discuss with your buddy the following
a. Repeat the train model to practice enrolling your buddy.
b. Take each a turn to practice this.
3. Read: Enneagram Made Easy to be completed by next class
4. Write and Send into RCI and my buddy:
a. One page Learning Summary to include
i. What happened when I shared this with someone I trust?
ii. What did I LEARN from or about my buddy?
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Learning Outcome: How to incorporate Assessment Models into your coaching and how to use
the Enneagram
[ Credit to Tracy Tresidder,PCC and RCI Family Coaching Trainer for her contribution of the
following Enneagram resources. ]
Reading to have Completed Enneagram Made Easy Entire
www.enneagraminstitute.com
www.9types.com
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Everyone emerges from childhood with one of the nine types dominating their personality, with
inborn temperament and other pre-natal factors being the main determinants of our type. This is
one area where most all of the major Enneagram authors agreewe are born with a dominant
type. Subsequently, this inborn orientation largely determines the ways in which we learn to
adapt to our early childhood environment. It also seems to lead to certain unconscious
orientations toward our parental figures, but why this is so, we still do not know. In any case, by
the time children are four or five years old, their consciousness has developed sufficiently to
have a separate sense of self. Although their identity is still very fluid, at this age children begin
to establish themselves and find ways of fitting into the world on their own. Thus, the overall
orientation of our personality reflects the totality of all childhood factors (including genetics) that
influenced its development. Several more points can be made about the basic type itself.
1. People do not change from one basic personality type to another.
2. The descriptions of the personality types are universal and apply equally to males and
females, since no type is inherently masculine or feminine.
3. Not everything in the description of your basic type will apply to you all the time because
you fluctuate constantly among the healthy, average, and unhealthy traits that make up
your personality type.
4. The Enneagram uses numbers to designate each of the types because numbers are value
neutral they imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of each type without
specifying anything either positive or negative. Unlike the labels used in psychiatry,
numbers provide an unbiased, shorthand way of indicating a lot about a person without
being pejorative.
5. The numerical ranking of the types is not significant. A larger number is no better than a
smaller number; it is not better to be a Nine than a Two because nine is a bigger number.
6. No type is inherently better or worse than any other. While all the personality types have
unique assets and liabilities, some types are often more desirable than others in any given
culture or group. Furthermore, for one reason or another, you may not be happy being a
particular type. You may feel that your type is "handicapped" in some way. As you learn
more about all the types, you will see that just as each has unique capacities, each has
different limitations. If some types are more esteemed in Western society than others, it is
because of the qualities that society rewards, not because of any superior value of those
types. The ideal is to become your best self, not to imitate the assets of another type.
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negative, so they often manipulate their kids into doing what they want. Adults who were
raised by a two-parent are divided between those who appreciated their attentiveness and
involvement in their lives and those who felt smothered. A Helper Parent may demand
generosity, thoughtfulness, helpfulness, and attention to others that their child be a
Little Helper.
Type Three Achiever Parents
A lot of parents, especially Threes, want their children to have Three-like qualities: energy,
confidence, drive, and optimism. They think that if the children are cheerleaders, presidents
of the class, and professionals they'll be successful and happy. But children come with their
own personalities and can be successful in many different ways. It's helpful for Threes to
look for and encourage the talents and interests in their children that are different from
their own. Adults who are success oriented by nature appreciate what they learned from
their Three-parents. Others experienced their Three-parents as too frenetic or pushy, and
they complain their parents didn't spend enough time with them. An Achiever Parent may
demand being outstanding at tasks, fulfilling family hopes, physical perfection, and
popularity that their child be a Little Star.
Type Four Individualist/Romantic Parents
While Fours have a lot to give in terms of insight, creativity, and warmth, they also need to
support their children's interests, whatever they are. Fours can emotionally overwhelm
children who are not at home in their world of feelings. Most kids won't be as sensitive as
they are. Adults who were raised by Four-parents often say they were charmed and
fascinated by their parents or frightened of their emotionality and gloominess. Four parents
often say they are overwhelmed by the beauty and wonder, and sometimes pathos, of
having a child. An Individualist Parent may demand sensitivity, artistic creativity,
emotional depth, and understanding that their child be a Little Therapist.
Type Five Observer Parents
Its sometimes difficult for Fives to disengage from their own projects or thoughts and join
in on the childs frequency. Five-Observer parents need to be careful, if their minds are on
something else, not to become irritable or too authoritarian with their kids. Since Fives tend
to compartmentalize, perhaps theyd feel comfortable setting aside a chunk of time each
day for being truly present with their child. Adults who had Five-parents sometimes say
their parents remoteness and negativity bothered them, but they enjoyed the Fives
whimsical humor. Fives sometimes say their children interested them more as they grew
into the teens and could discuss more complicated things. An Observer Parent may demand
independence, studiousness, intellectual gifts, and curiosity that their child be a Little
Genius.
Type Six Questioner/Loyalist Parents
Six parents are very loyal, but they may be overprotective. It takes a lot of courage for Sixparents to let their children out in the world where the dangers are, but kids are safer when
they learn to solve their own problems. Six parents need to monitor their tendency to take
the devil's advocate position, for this can erode children's confidence. The same is true with
sarcasm and teasing. Adults who had phobic Six-parents say the parents' constant fretting
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got on their nerves. Those who had counter-phobic parents often thought their parents were
too hard on them and expected too much. Both types of Sixes were said to have been
devoted parents. A Questioner Parent may demand dependability, obedience, perseverance,
and trustworthiness that their child be a Little Trouper.
Type Seven Adventurer/Enthusiast Parents
Sevens like having playful children. But if the children are very serious, worried, or
aggressive, Seven-parents have to make big adjustments. Nancy, a Seven, took her Eightish baby on a trip to a foreign country, and he had a difficult time adapting to traveling
around. She and her husband decided it would be best to spend the last half of the trip in
one place. If being with small children feels restrictive, Seven-parents might consider
taking up some new interests that they can do safely at home and that can be interrupted.
Adults who had Seven-parents were sometimes confused by their parents' irregular hours at
home but often enjoyed their stories and jokes. Some complain that their parents wanted
too much attention for themselves or didn't listen to other people. An Adventurer Parent
may demand vitality, good humor, resilience, and spontaneity that their child be a Little
Entertainer.
Type Eight Asserter Parents
Eight parents are protective and can be good role models for taking action and having
confidence. They need to be aware that anger can devastate children, and they need to try
not to impose their will on them. Eights can have a difficult time adjusting to their children
and perceiving how they are different from themselves. It is helpful to look for qualities in
their children they may not be used to thinking of as strengths, such as the ability to back
down or to show vulnerability. Adults who had Eight-parents react differently according to
their type. Judy, a Seven-daughter, was closely bound to her Eight-father. He loved to
show her off, play with her, and teach her songs as a young child. Later, he championed
her singing and acting career.
An Asserter Parent may demand toughness, self-sufficiency, courage, and willpower that
their child be a Little Entrepreneur.
Type Nine Peacemakers Parents
Many Nines have a knack for being able to perceive and enter the world of a child. They
can provide enormous warmth and understanding. Nine-parents may need to work on
following through with their children and being able to say no. Rather than always
negotiating, they need to take a definite stand and uphold a position of authority. Adults
who had Nine-parents often say that they and their parents seemed merged. They say this
felt secure, but making a separation was often problematic. Children of Nines appreciate
their parents flexibility in going along with and contributing to whatever interest they
took up. A Peacemaker Parent may demand quietness, lack of demands, gentleness, and
non-neediness that their child be a Little Angel. One of the best attitudes for parents to
have toward their children is an amazed curiosity to support the childs own unfolding. In
childrearing, only one thing is certain: children will develop in unexpected ways. If
parents try to block the childs natural unfolding, they will not succeed. The unfolding
will not stop but merely become distorted and neurotic. It is therefore always best for the
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parent to observe the childs type (with its innate gifts and capacities) and to elicit the
best aspects of the childs type rather than try to change him or her into someone
fundamentally different from who he or she already is.
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These notes were taken from a call with Dr. Lorraine Cassista who can be found at
www.creatingmylife.com
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Ask questions, give compliments, focus on Smiling and comfortable. Relaxed facial A secondary or hidden intention may lie beneath Whether the person likes them. Whether they
content of other person, few references to
expressions. Open, graceful body
their generosity, helpfulness and attention giving. like the other person. Whether they want to help
self, soft voice. Angry or complaining when movement. When agitated, furrowed brow If uninterested in the other person, disengage
the other person. The degree of influence the
they dislike what others say.
and facial tension.
precipitously.
other person has.
9. PACEMAKER
7. ADVENTURER
Start with analytical comments. Alternate Eyes may be bold and direct. May appear
syncopated, hesitant speech with bold, warm, engaging and empathic. Alternatively
confident speech. Discuss worries,
eyes may dart back and forth horizontally
concerns and what ifs.
as if scanning for danger.
8. ASSERTER
6. LOYALIST
1. PERFECTIONIST
Distorting Filter
2. HELPER
Blind Spot
3. ACHIEVER
Body Language
4. ROMANTIC
Speaking Style
5. OBSERVER
Style
Prolonged explanations cause the listener to lose Demands on them to change or do something.
Easy going and relaxed. Smiling. Few
interest. Present multiple viewpoints which
Being criticized, ignored or put down. Someone
displays of strong emotion, particularly
negatively affect their degree of influence and
having an opposing view to their own. The
negative feelings. Face rather than body is
possibly their credibility. Fail to make true wants possibility that anger from another person will
animated
know to others
be directed at them.
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And some more questions to help you with this type of client:
In what ways do you see yourself as success-driven and competitive?
Why do you hold the goals that you are pursuing?
Have you ever gotten into projects that you were not really interested in because of the
need to excel or compete?
What do you think would happen if you took your feet off the accelerator a little bit?
How do you deal with the fear or anxiety that comes up when you compare yourself to
someone else?
Type Four Individualist Creative
Tell me what you like about yourself?
At What times do theses feelings come up in a positive sense?
How can we add more of that to your life?
If you were your happiest creative self what would you be doing, thinking, feeling?
How do you feel about being criticized?
When you feel vulnerable do you withdraw?
And some more questions to help you with this type of client:
What is your personal baseline mood most of the time?
How do you react if you are spontaneously not in that mood?
Notice any tendency to run a commentary on your feelings and experiences, as if asking
yourself, What does this experience mean about me?
Notice your tendency to automatically focus on your differences with people?
What does this cost you in terms of your connectedness with others?
THE THINKING TRIAD: Types Five, Six and Seven
Type Five The Thinker/Observer
What excites you?
Do you follow through?
And some more questions to help you with this type of client:
When we are in our heads how much of your environment do you notice?
See what you missed or overlooked?
Do you ever notice your dependency on certain areas of interest?
How does this area of expertise make you feel about yourself?
How does it feel to relate to others without discussing your areas of expertise?
Are you focusing on your niche to the exclusion of developing some of these other areas?
When are you most effective?
Type Six Loyalist
Do you question the decisions you make
Tell me what plays in your mind when confronted with situations?
Do you tend to support yourself or do you challenge yourself?
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And some more questions to help you with this type of client:
How often do you err on the side of caution?
How many possibilities for self-development and fulfillment do you miss?
How many times in your life did you let significant opportunities for growth and
challenge pass you by? Why did you decided to let them go?
Would belief in your own abilities have changed the outcome?
Recall some times when you did fly against commonsense and took a chance?
Was it a conscious choice? What was the outcome? How did you feel at the time?
Are there areas in your life now where you know that you are resisting your true desires
out of fear or doubts about yourself? What can you do differently?
Type Seven The Adventurer
What would peace look like for you?
What happened last time you got too busy?
What would you like that you dont have in your life?
What/how would you like things to be different from your life one year from now
Who could you look to for support?
How do you tend to sabotage yourself?
And some more questions to help you with this type of client:
When you catch yourself entertaining others, getting the juice flowing, so to speak, notice
whom you are doing this for?
What does this excited state do for your contact with yourself?
With others?
Is it satisfying?
Is it possible to drop one or two activities per day to give yourself a little breathing room
and to ensure that you will be able to fully enjoy the experiences you have committed to?
Are you more serious about the excitement of having new plans and possibilities than the
excitement of the process and satisfaction of finishing them?
To what degree are you addicted to staying on the move at the expense of actually
accomplishing something important to yourself?
THE INSTINCTIVE TRIAD: Types Eight, Nine and One
Type Eight The Asserter
How does it feel to lose control?
How do you manage your will to dominate?
And some more questions to help you with this type of client:
How often do you depend on others? How does it feel?
Do you ever put yourself under tremendous pressure to provide for others, to be strong
for them, to never cry, show weakness, doubt or have indecision?
Explore the various circumstances in which you have put yourself under this kind of
pressure? Who were you doing it for? Was the outcome worth the effort?
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What do you think would have happened if you had been a little easier on yourself?
How often are you reactive to situations?
How could you act on impulse in a more relaxing quiet manner?
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1. Practice: Enroll a practice parent client someone who may be curious about what you
are up to with Family Coaching who is not familiar with the Enneagram.
Ask this person to take the test either on line or with the book. DO NOT TYPE THEM
YOURSELF you are empowering them to catch onto themselves.
Allow this to unfold over a day or two. After they take the test, conduct a session
without coaching just stay curious and ask them what they learned about themselves.
Do not try to coach them into a new place.that comes later. Observe yourself using this
tool.
2. Buddy Call: Discuss with your buddy the following
a. Share your practice session with your buddy and insights?
b. Discuss how you see using this tool in your coaching.
3. Write and Send into RCI and my buddy:
a. One page Learning Summary to include
i. What am I learning about these distinctions?
ii. What did I LEARN from my buddy?
iii. What am I already learning about myself?
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Time:
Instructor:
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Learning Outcome: Tying together past experience and new learning to form your own
personal voice or philosophy of coaching
Reading to have Completed None
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Time:
Instructor:
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Learning Outcome: Synthesize Family Coaching to date. Explore integration into your
coaching business.
Reading to have Completed None
Blooms Revised Taxonomy presents a guidepost to adult (and teen) learning. Synthesis is
Creating: Builds a structure or pattern from diverse elements. Put parts together to form a
whole, with emphasis on creating a new meaning or structure.
This is the highest form of learning and mandatory for all family coaches to push their own
learning capacity to this level, as it will be required in the complexities of family coaching.
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Understanding: Comprehending
the meaning, translation,
interpolation, and interpretation of
instructions and problems. State a
problem in one's own words.
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Congratulations on all of the learning, growth and insights over the past 8 classes.
See you in Module Two!!
Onward!
Family Coach Training - Module 1: Foundations of Family Coaching
2011 Diana Sterling, Licensed to Relationship Coaching Institute / All rights reserved
www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com
Rev 10/11
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