A New Habit

Canoga Park, CA
11-21-97
All right, I ll say good day to you, this day of your time. How are you all? Once a
gain, we take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you for allowing t
his transmission to occur, through this particular method and on this particular
time. Once again, each and every time you allow our civilization to communicat
e with your civilization, in this manner, it affords us an opportunity to experi
ence, through each and every one of you, that many more perspectives of the Inf
inite and we thank you for this gift of expansion and sharing.
We would like to begin this transmission, this day of your time, with the follow
ing idea. We remind you that a new habit is in order, a very important new habi
t in your behavior. We have discussed this several times, but it will not hurt
to remind you again because it is so important for you to develop this new habi
t; so remind you again, we will. Until such time as you make this part of your
day to day personality, until such time as this is second nature for you, we wil
l always be willing to discuss this, to remind you, to implement and incorporate
this notion in your behavior, because it will assist you in making the changes
that you wish to make in your lives, on a day to day pragmatic level.
And so, we remind you that this new habit is simply the habit of not automatical
ly, nor immediately, no matter how the situation looks, assigning or ascribing a
negative connotation to it. To give yourself a moment to look at what is going
on and to learn to see it as a neutral circumstance before you see it as negati
ve or positive or anything in particular. But particularly in those circumstan
ces where you may have been taught to, more often than not, automatically assign
a negative connotation, a bad feeling, colloquially, if you wish to put it that
way. Then, even more importantly, can you take the time to incorporate and inst
ill this new habit of neutrality within you so that you can get more out of the
situation. Learn how to change and transform the situation in a positive way, r
ather than simply, automatically assuming it must be negative because of how it
looks, based on how you have been taught.
Now, of course, we are not talking about ignoring your feelings, glossing them o
ver, covering them up, pushing them down, suppressing them. By all means, if fee
lings come up, you should pay attention to them; but the idea is to understand w
hy you have them. They are not automatic, and certain situations do not necessa
rily need to automatically generate those feelings in you, but if they are there
, then you must pay attention to the fact why they are there. And generally, as
we have said, they are there because you have been taught definitions about the
situation that make those feeling seem to be the only logical reaction to have,
when in fact they are not.
Again, we remind you, all situations are neutral. And if you learn to balance y
ourself and look at them, first and foremost, in that way, then you can gain mor
e information, more discernment, more enlightenment from the circumstance as it
has unfolded, no matter what it may be, no matter what it may be. And in remain
ing neutral, at least for a few moments, you give yourself the opportunity to le
arn to assign new meanings to it that will be relevant for you, regardless of wh
at anyone else s intention in the circumstance may have been, regardless of what you
may have been taught in the past to think about such circumstances, as you see
them.
Remaining relatively neutral at first, will give you an opportunity to gain grea
ter insight, more depth of understanding as to how the circumstances came togeth
er, what they are based on in terms of the definitions that are going on in you
and in others, in your society; and give you an opportunity to learn to replace
those definitions in such a manner, so that in doing so, and in assigning new pe
rspective and new meaning to the circumstance, you can then glean from it new i
mpact, new effect, new meaning, new feeling. And learn how any situation can se
rve you in a positive and constructive and creative and expansive way, rather th
an continuing to live your lives assuming that certain situations must only, and
can only be capable of generating negativity in your reality.

You are, you are the one that is generating the reality you experience, and even
though someone else may be involved, it is your perception and your definition
of it that determines the effect you personally extract from it in your life. L
earn the new habit of taking a moment to pause and not automatically assign a ne
gative meaning to circumstances, but give yourself the opportunity to see it as
simply a neutral set of props, a neutral set of equations, a neutral circumstan
ce that has come together for a variety of reasons, and in looking at it as a ne
xus point, you can then begin to assign new meaning by exploring the definitions
that are within you, that have given it the meaning it already seems to have.
For remember that these meanings, these feelings, these reactions to circumstanc
es do not come with the circumstance; no circumstance carries a built in meaning
. The meaning, the feelings, the reactions you have are already built within yo
ur consciousness, based on the definitions of life you have been taught. Learn
the new habit of letting them go, and not automatically assuming that those defi
nitions are definitions of an absolute reality, for there is no reality except t
he definition you give it, and that s what reality is.
So learn the new habit, it will serve you, day to day, in practical and pragmati
c ways. And we will remind you of this as many times as is necessary for it to
become a part of your daily behavior and personality, and when it is, I guarante
e 100% you will see a difference in your lives. And you will see that you have
more ability to determine exactly in what direction your lives ought to go and
what it is you are capable of believing, that is possible for you. And also, si
multaneously, in looking at circumstances neutrally, you will become more capabl
e of understanding how it is you may be of assistance to others who may be caugh
t up in their own definitions, and unable to see a way to break out of the situa
tion and circumstance, and unable to understand that it is their own definitions
that have made the circumstance seem so iron clad, when in fact it is made of n
othing but tissue paper definitions.
Learn that reality is only the product of your strongest beliefs and that is the
only thing that makes it seem so solid and so immutable in that sense. Transmu
te these things by changing your definitions, by changing your awareness. It do
es not necessarily mean that you have to see cosmic consequence in every thing t
hat happens to you, though on one level, of course, there always is. But nevert
heless, it will give you insight, like what you would call an x-ray vision, into
the nature and structure of synchronicity and circumstance and will give more a
bility to understand how circumstance hinges upon the strongest definitions you
have been taught to believe are true.
We thank you for allowing us to share this notion, this perspective with you thi
s day. And in return for the gift that you are giving our civilization in allow
ing this communication to unfold, I ask now, in what way may I be of service to
you?
Q:
Bashar! Bashar! Bashar!
B:

You, good day.