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to handle?
Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of
emotional distance and being very close?
Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an
argument about it?
Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?
Has your partner ever thrown away your belongings, destroyed
objects or threatened pets?
Are you afraid of your partner?
Phase 1 - TENSION
BUILDING:
Tension increases,
breakdown of
communication, victim feels
need to placate the abuser.
Phase 4 CALM:
Incident is
"forgotten",
no abuse is
taking place.
Phase 2 INCIDENT:
Verbal and
emotional
abuse.
Anger,
blaming,
arguing.
Threats.
Intimidation.
Phase 3 - RECONCILIATION:
Abuser apologizes, gives
excuses, blames the victim,
denies the abuse occurred,
or says it wasn't as bad as
the victim claims.
The original three-phase Cycle of Violence theory was developed by Dr.
Lenore Walker
The fourth phase was added by unknown persons in shelter handouts,
pamphlets etc.
EFFECTS
OF LONG-TERM EMOTIONAL & VERBAL ABUSE
ON THE VICTIM
Isolation from others - Low self-esteem Depression - Emotional problems - Illness Increased alcohol or drug use - Withdrawal from
real life into an Internet alternative reality
Emotional abuse can be defined as any behavior that affects the psychology of
an individual by overpowering him/her. It involves verbal, as well as non-verbal
abuse that eventually undermine the self-respect of the sufferer. Though
emotional abuse can occur to anybody, it is more common among those with
least power in the society, for example, children and women. An individual under
prolonged emotional abuse loses his/her self confidence, self-concept, selfmotivation and self-worth.
Emotional abuse is most commonly associated with abusive relationship and
child abuse. It always precedes or accompanies a physical abuse in domestic
violence. It is often observed that a person who is abused in a relationship can
be an abuser to another person. This way, the person blames his feelings and/or
problems on others. Emotional abuse or maltreatment in children can affect their
development in terms of cognitive, social and psychological behavior. The effects
of child abuse are detrimental and long-lasting.
Emotional Abuse: Signs and Symptoms
Some common types of emotional abuse are neglecting/rejecting, isolating,
abusive expectations (demands, criticism), ignoring, denying (refuse to listen or
understand the feelings), constant chaos, exploiting, aggression (blaming,
commanding, threatening), emotional blackmail (threatening), dominating, verbal
assaults (sarcasm, berating), invalidation and unpredictable behaviors (mood
changes, emotional outbursts).
It is common that the abuser displays his/her abusive characters in order to
humiliate the sufferer, when they are in the company of others. It is very difficult
to identify and assess the sufferers of emotional abuse; hence, many a times, it
goes unreported or unrecognized. Following are the signs and symptoms of
emotional abuse:
Feeling of depression
Withdrawal from social interaction
Isolation from friends and family
Low self-esteem
Fearfulness
Increased anxiety
Guilty feeling
Feeling of shame
Mood changes
Nervous feeling
Not trusting others
Frequent blaming on others
Self-blaming
Pessimistic behavior
Substance or drug abuse
Extreme dependence on others
Avoiding eye-contact
Telling lies
Aggressive behavior
Emotional instability
Suicidal attempts
The effects of emotional abuse has been recognized recently. The ultimate
outcome of emotional abuse is that the sufferer gets scared to be left alone. In
majority of the cases, the recipients of emotional abuse believe that no one else
like/want to be with them, except the abuser. Hence, they continue to stay in the
abusive situations. The sufferer feels ashamed and keeps secret about the
emotional abuse. In this way, the emotional abuse continues.
If the emotional abuse remains unchecked, it can worsen the symptoms and may
lead to serious emotional and psychological disorders. In case, you are abused
or if you notice that somebody is being abused, then you can consult and seek
help from the support services like social service agency, police, legal adviser
and health professional. The best way to prevent emotional abuse is personal
awareness and understanding the rights and duties.
Though, some forms of emotional abuse like ignoring, insulting and isolating
cannot be prosecuted, you can always consider reporting to your near-and-dear
ones. As a service provider, one can contribute to prevent emotional abuse, by
making the public aware about the available support services. Various laws have
been enacted to punish emotional abusers. In some jurisdictions, failure to
report child abuse cases are punished either by imprisonment or in the form of
fine.
By Ningthoujam Sandhyarani
Verbal Abuse Signs #1
The first of the signs of verbal abuse, is blaming. An abuser will always play the
blame game. They will never admit that they are at fault, it's not that they don't
know. They will keep going deeper and deeper into the forest of self vindication
and blame you for every small thing that goes wrong. Wondering where the
blame was earlier in your relationship? Well, the blame for a long time, was on
his/her ex. For quite a while, he/she still continued to blame the ex. Now, it's you.
No biggy! Read more on emotional abuse signs.
Verbal Abuse Signs #2
The next verbal abuse sign is resentment. The abuser will have a lot of
resentment. It's like the slightest error will burn them up. They will feel like no one
is appreciating them, talking to them, giving them credit etc. They will believe that
they deserve much more then they get, as such they will almost always be
resentful and angry with everyone. If you think that your coming into their life will
help them change, you are mistaken. They need a lot to calm down, and often
believes she hasn't effectively explained to her mate how important certain things
are to her.
Undermining is also verbal abuse. The abuser not only withholds
emotional
support, but also erodes confidence and determination. The abuser
often will
squelch an idea or suggestion just by a single comment.
Threatening is a classic form of verbal abuse. He manipulates his
partner by
bringing up her biggest fears. This may include threatening to leave or
threatening to get a divorce. In some cases, the threat may be to
escalate the
abuse.
Name-calling can also be verbal abuse. Continually calling someone
"stupid"
because she isn't as intelligent as you or calling her a "klutz" because
she is not
as coordinated can have a devastating effect on the partner's self
esteem.
Verbal abuse may also involve forgetting. This may involve both overt
and covert
manipulation. Everyone forgets things from time to time, but the verbal
abuser
consistently does so. After the partner collects herself, subsequent to
being
yelled at, she may confront her mate only to find that he has "forgotten"
about
the incident. Some abusers consistently forget about the promises they
have
made which are most important to their partners.
Ordering is another classic form of verbal abuse. It denies the equality
and
autonomy of the partner. When an abuser gives orders instead of
asking, he
treats her like a slave or subordinate.
Denial is the last category of verbal abuse. Although all forms of verbal abuse
have serious consequences, denial can be very insidious because it denies the
reality of the partner. In fact, a verbal abuser could read over this list of
categories and insist that he is not abusive.
Alcoholism is a chronic, progressive, and often fatal disease. Twice as many men
are alcoholics. Studies have found that People who start drinking alcohol before
the age of 14 are five times more likely to eventually become alcohol dependent
than those who start drinking after age 21.
I had no experience of alcohol abuse myself, but I had seen people around me
addicted to alcohol and they had destroyed their family in the process. I had seen
my mother drinking excessively to drown her sorrows and how he 'lost' herself in
the process of drinking.
One of the symptoms associated with alcohol abuse is blackouts, or periods of
amnesia that can span several hours or even several days. Alcohol abuse is a
chronic self-destructive pattern of heavy drinking that produces significant
damage to one's health, career and family relations. The chemistry of alcohol
allows it to affect nearly every type of cell in the body, including those in the
Do not use alcohol to facilitate a creative process too. Most people need good,
fresh ideas in their work. Engineers, teachers, people in the advertising business,
writers, are all examples of people who are paid to be creative. Remember you
do not need alcohol to gain inspiration. Do not start the habit of drinking too.
Habitual drinking lead to addiction and abuse. If you discover that your drinking is
out of control, and you cannot stop when you want to, and that alcohol abuse and
addiction are having a destructive effect on your life, The Stone Hawk program is
designed to enable graduates the ability to move back into their life on their own.
The programs for re-entry focus on teaching students to live ethical lives free of
their addiction, standing on their own two feet.
DEFINITION of the TERM: Emotional/Psychological Abuse
Emotional/Psychological abuse is referred to in the professional literature by many
interchangeable terms such as: emotional abuse, covert abuse, psychological maltreatment,
coercive abuse, abuse by proxy, and ambient abuse.
Psychological maltreatment is a concerted attack by an adult on a childs development of self and
social competence, a pattern of psychically destructive behavior to the child. (Garbarino, et al,
1986, as cited in Tomison & Tucci, 1997).
Psychological abuse can be defined as a repeated pattern of damaging interactions between
parent(s) and child that becomes typical of the relationship when a person conveys to a child
that he or she is worthless, flawed, unloved, unwanted, endangered, or only of value in meeting
anothers needs (Kairys & Johnson, 2002).
Emotional abuse is the systematic, patterned and chronic abuse that is used by a perpetrator to
lower a victim's sense of self, self-worth and power (Mezey, Post & Maxwell, 2002).
It [psychological/emotional abuse] is most damaging to children, who are not aware, nor have
control over, the pattern of relationships surrounding them, is almost always a precursor or
accompaniment to physical aggression, and is based on maintaining consistent power and control
over time (Garbarino, 1994).
The United States National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect reports an
overall rate of child maltreatment of 1.5 million children.
o 204,500 of these children are recorded for emotional abuse
o 212,800 of the 1.5 million children are recorded under the category of emotional
neglect (Sedlak & Broadhurst, 1996)
Children raised in homes where they are exposed to domestic violence between the
parents but are never hit themselves experience the same emotional and behavior
problems associated with verbal/emotional abuse, i.e., exposure to marital abuse is a form
of emotional/psychological abuse of children.
Psychological/emotional abuse involves behavior patterns that involve one or all of the
following: Rejecting, Degrading, Terrorizing, Isolating, Corrupting/Exploiting, Denying
Emotional Responsiveness (Garbarino, 1994).
Name calling, threatening to kill the victim's family or pet; controlling access to finances;
isolating the victim from family and friends; coercing the victim to perform degrading,
humiliating or illegal acts; interfering with job, medical or educational opportunities; or
making the victim feel powerless and ashamed (Mezey, Post & Maxwell, 2002).
The continuous and unrelenting patern of emotional abuse is often interspersed with
warmth and kindness to create an in and out of bonding , crazy making experience
for the children and spouse. (Loring, 1997).
Childhood victims of abuse and neglect are significantly more likely to be arrested
as juveniles or adults for non-traffic offenses and violent crimes (National Center on
Child Abuse & Neglect, 1995).
Research has shown emotional abuse to be a strong indicator of increased risk for
psychiatric and physical illnesses among adult females (Spertus, et al, 2003).
Children who suffer emotional abuse often grow into adults who see themselves
through the eyes of the abuser carrying a sense of inadequacy and worthlessness that
negatively impacts their job performance, marital and social relationships and
increases antisocial behaviors (National Council on Child Abuse and Family
Violence, 2007).
Direct Costs
Child Welfare System costs to investigate allegations
Treatment Costs
per year
Teen pregnancy
(Prevention Child Abuse, 2001)
$24 Billion
The current child abuse statute in the State of Florida does not provide protection for
victims of emotional/psychological abuse despite it being of greater prevalence than
physical and sexual abuse and having the more grave long-term consequences for life
adjustment and mental health.
(Florida Statute ch. 827 03, 2007).
HB 1169/SB 2736 will enhance the capacity of the State of Florida to protect children of
abuse by
expanding the existing child abuse statute to include the definition of mental injury as
provided in F.S. 39.01 (Florida Statute ch. 39 01(41), 2007) and provide compensation
for victims of emotional abuse (House Bill 1169, 2007)
Speech and acts protected by the First Amendment to the U.S. Constitution or s. 4, Art. I
of the FL State Constitution are exempted from prosecution under the proposed
legislation (House Bill 1169, 2007).
Current Florida Law regarding domestic abuse and neglect appears to be counterproductive by creating an incentive not to report for victims. Victims often fear that the
abuser, if primary breadwinner, might be incarcerated placing the family in serious
financial jeopardy; threats of which the perpetrator uses to silence and control family
members. . International comparisons suggest our current system may significantly
decrease reporting of abuse by as much as 80% . Thus our present system itself employs
a form of financial abuse through standard judicial interventions.
The Courts need to establish a system for domestic violence cases similar to the St Lucie
County Circuit Courts Mental Health Court for domestic violence issues. The Domestic
Violence Court could look to the practices in those countries with a history of more
effective practices for domestic violence issues (psychological/emotional and physical)
such as The Netherlands. Such Domestic Violence Courts would focus on establishing
temporary protective strategies such as, removal of the offender from the home and/or
restraining orders while simultaneously mandating optimal, on-going treatment programs
for both victims and perpetrators. Incarceration of offenders would be reserved as a last
resort intervention for non-compliance with treatment or repeated offenses.
Treatment should be mandated not only for perpetrators but for all victims including both
the affected children and the spouse (Iwaniec & Herbert, 1999).
Expertise in identifying the signs of, and the effective treatment of domestic violence including psychological/emotional abuse- must be improved among mental health
professionals as well as family doctors, pediatricians, police officers and teachers.
To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more
yes answers, the more likely it is that youre in an abusive relationship.
Do you:
It Is Still Abuse If . . .
The incidents of physical abuse seem minor when compared to those you have
read about, seen on television or heard other women talk about. There isnt a better or
worse form of physical abuse; you can be severely injured as a result of being pushed,
for example.
The incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two times in the
relationship.Studies indicate that if your spouse/partner has injured you once, it is likely
he will continue to physically assault you.
The physical assaults stopped when you became passive and gave up your
right to express yourself as you desire, to move about freely and see others, and to make
decisions. It is not a victory if you have to give up your rights as a person and a partner
in exchange for not being assaulted!
There has not been any physical violence. Many women are emotionally and
verbally assaulted. This can be as equally frightening and is often more confusing to try to
understand.
Source: Breaking the Silence: a Handbook for Victims of Violence in Nebraska (PDF)
Abusers pick and choose whom to abuse. They dont insult, threaten, or assault
everyone in their life who gives them grief. Usually, they save their abuse for the people
closest to them, the ones they claim to love.
Abusers carefully choose when and where to abuse. They control themselves
until no one else is around to see their abusive behavior. They may act like everything is
fine in public, but lash out instantly as soon as youre alone.
Abusers are able to stop their abusive behavior when it benefits them. Most
abusers are not out of control. In fact, theyre able to immediately stop their abusive
behavior when its to their advantage to do so (for example, when the police show up or
their boss calls).
Violent abusers usually direct their blows where they wont show. Rather
than acting out in a mindless rage, many physically violent abusers carefully aim their
kicks and punches where the bruises and marks wont show.
Your abusers apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it
difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him,
that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of
staying are very real.
then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He
tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts
contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on
past abuse and how he will hurt her again. Heplans on telling her to go to the store to get
some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the
shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified
in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her
up.
Source: Mid-Valley Women's Crisis Service
talk about itkeep in mind that expressing your concern will let the person know that you care
and may even save his or her life.
Dont:
Relationships are work under the best of circumstances. However, some relationships
are actually psychologically and emotionally abusive, and in those situations the
relationship can feel like an impossible burden. For the abused partner, depression,
hopelessness, and low self esteem can result. Here are 6 signs you are in a
psychologically or emotionally abusive relationship:
1. Your partner puts you down verbally, in public and/or private. These putdowns
may be blatant or more subtle, but they all add up to make you feel worthless,
inferior, or immoral. Your partner uses this technique to make you feel powerless and
dependant, and create the illusion that he is superior.
2. Your partner either withholds or demands physical intimacy. If your partner denies
you sex deliberately or demands that you fulfill his desires, regardless of your state
of being, this is an emotionally abusive tactic. Both the denial and the demand holds
you hostage and communicates to you that your wishes and needs are irrelevant and
not as important as the abuser's wants and needs.
3. There is an attempt on your partner's part to control your activities. If your
partner demands an account of your daily activities, or puts pressure on you to only
do certain "approved" things, this is a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship.
4. Your partner limits or attempts to limit your contact with family and friends.
Isolation is a powerful technique for an abuser because it prevents you from getting
outside perspective on what is going on in the relationship. If your partner gets upset
or angry when you spend time with others, this indicates an abusive situation.
5. Your partner implies non-physical punishment or threats if you do not comply with
his demands and desires. Conversely, he may occasionally offer a kindness as a
reward to keep you invested in the possibility that the relationship can improve and
he can change.
6. You feel crazy, inferior, less intelligent, or question reality because of the things
your partner says about you. For an abuser, keeping you off balance and feeling
depressed and worthless ensures that you will continue to feel dependent and under
his control.
The Alcohol Use Disorders Identification Test (AUDIT) is a simple ten-question test developed
by the World Health Organization to determine if a person's alcohol consumption may be harmful.
The test was designed to be used internationally, and was validated in a study using patients from
six countries. Questions 1-3 deal with alcohol consumption, 4-6 relate to alcohol dependence and
7-10 consider alcohol related problems. A score of 8 in men or more (7 in women) indicates a
strong likelihood of hazardous or harmful alcohol consumption. A score of 13 or more is
suggestive of alcohol related harm
Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness. Applied to
a social group, it is sometimes used to denote elitism or an indifference to the plight of others.
The name "narcissism" was coined by Freud after Narcissus who in Greek myth was a
pathologically self-absorbed young man who fell in love with his own reflection in a pool. Freud
believed that some narcissism is an essential part of all of us from birth. [1] Andrew P. Morrison
claims that, in adults, a reasonable amount of healthy narcissism allows the individual's
perception of his needs to be balanced in relation to others. [2]
A disproportionate number of pathological narcissists are at work in the most influential reaches
of society such as medicine, finance and politics.[3]
Mythological source
In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who had never seen his reflection.
The nymph Echo had been punished by Hera for gossiping by being cursed to forever "have the
last word". Echo had seen Narcissus walking through the forest and wanted to talk to him, but
because of the curse she wasn't able to speak first. When Narcissus became thirsty and stopped
to take a drink, he saw his reflection in the water for the first time. Not knowing any better, he fell
in love and started talking to it. Echo had been following him and started repeating the last thing
he said. Not yet understanding reflections, Narcissus thought his reflection was speaking to him
and became more engaged. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus pined away at the pool
and changed into the flower that bears his name, thenarcissus.
History
Main article: History of narcissism
The concept of excessive selfishness has been recognized throughout history. In ancient Greece
the concept was understood as hubris. It is only in recent times that it has been defined in
psychological terms.
In 1898 Havelock Ellis, an English sexologist, used the term "narcissus-like" in reference
to excessive masturbation, whereby the person becomes his or her own sex object. [4]
In 1899, Paul Nche was the first person to use the term "narcissism" in a study of sexual
perversions.
Otto Rank in 1911 published the first psychoanalytical paper specifically concerned with
narcissism, linking it to vanity and self-admiration.[4]
In 1923, Martin Buber published an essay "Ich und Du" (I and Thou), in which he pointed
out that our narcissism often leads us to relate to others as objects instead of as equals.
Since 2000, on psychological tests designed to detect narcissism, the scores of residents
of the United States has continually increased. Psychologists have suggested a link to social
networking.[5]
Healthy narcissism
Main article: Healthy narcissism
Healthy narcissism is a structural truthfulness of the self, achievement of self and object
constancy, synchronization between the self and thesuperego and a balance between libidinal
and aggressive drives (the ability to receive gratification from others and the drive for impulse
expression). Healthy narcissism forms a constant, realistic self-interest and mature goals and
principles and an ability to form deep object relations.[6] A feature related to healthy narcissism is
the feeling of greatness. This is often used to compensate for insecurity or inadequacy.
child could be seen as a revival and reproduction of their own narcissism according to Freud.
[1]
The child has an omnipotence of thought; the parents stimulate that feeling because in their
child they see the things that they have never reached themselves. Compared to neutral
observations, the parents tend to overvalue the qualities of their child. When parents act in an
extreme opposite style and the child is rejected or inconsistently reinforced depending on the
mood of the parent, the self-needs of the child are not met. [citation needed]
Self-confidence
Healthy Narcissism
Destructive Narcissism
with reality
("Grandiose")
Relationships
Ability to follow a
consistent path
Foundation
Empirical studies
Within psychology, there are two main branches of research into narcissism, clinical and social
psychology. These approaches differ in their view of narcissism with the former treating it as a
disorder, thus as discrete, and the latter treating it as a personality trait, thus as a continuum.
These two strands of research tend loosely to stand in a divergent relation to one another,
although they converge in places.
Campbell and Foster (2007)[12] review the literature on narcissism. They argue that narcissists
possess the following "basic ingredients":
Inflated: Narcissists' views tend to be contrary to reality. In measures that compare selfreport to objective measures, narcissists' self-views tend to be greatly exaggerated.[14]
Agentic: Narcissists views tend to be most exaggerated in the agentic domain, relative
to the communion domain.[13][14]
Selfish: Research upon narcissists behaviour in resource dilemmas supports the case
for narcissists as being selfish.[16]
Oriented toward success: Narcissists are oriented towards success by being, for
example, approach oriented.[17]
Narcissists tend to demonstrate a lack of interest in warm and caring interpersonal relationships.
Campbell and Forster (2007)[12] There are several ongoing controversies within narcissism
literature, namely whether narcissism is healthy or unhealthy, a personality disorder, a discrete or
continuous variable, defensive or offensive, the same across genders, the same across cultures,
and changeable or unchangeable.
Campbell and Foster (2007) argue that self-regulatory strategies are of paramount importance to
understanding narcissism.[12] Self-regulation in narcissists involves such things as striving to make
ones self look and feel positive, special, successful and important. It comes in both intra-psychic,
such as blaming a situation rather than self for failure, and interpersonal forms, such as using a
relationship to serve ones own self. Some differences in self-regulation between narcissists and
non-narcissists can be seen with Campbell, Reeder, Sedikides & Elliot (2000) [18] who conducted a
study with two experiments. In each experiment, participants took part in an achievement task,
following which they were provided with false feedback; it was either bogus success or failure.
The study found that both narcissists and non-narcissists self-enhanced, but non-narcissists
showed more flexibility in doing so. Participants were measured on both a comparative and a
non-comparativeself-enhancement strategy. Both narcissists and non-narcissists employed the
non-comparative strategy similarly; however, narcissists were found to be more self-serving with
the comparative strategy, employing it far more than non-narcissists, suggesting a greater rigidity
in their self-enhancement. When narcissists receive negative feedback that threatens the self,
they self-enhance at all costs, but non-narcissists tend to have limits.
Narcissistic traits
Thomas suggests that narcissists typically display most, sometimes all, of the following traits: [19]
Problems distinguishing the self from others (see narcissism and boundaries)
Using other people without considering the cost to them of his or her doing so
1. Shamelessness Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and
the inability to process shame in healthy ways.
2. Magical thinking Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion
known as magical thinking. They also useprojection to dump shame onto others.
4. Envy A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person's
ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.
6. Exploitation can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others
without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position
where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is
not so much real as assumed.
7. Bad Boundaries narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that
others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet
their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the
narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and be expected to live up to
those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and
other.
Millon's variations
Theodore Millon identified five variations of narcissist.[4] Any individual narcissist may exhibit none
or one of the following:
amorous narcissist - including histrionic features. The Don Juan or Casanova of our
times - is erotic, exhibitionist.
fanatic type - including paranoid features. An individual whose self-esteem was severely
arrested during childhood, usually with major paranoid tendencies who holds onto an illusion
of omnipotence. These people are fighting delusions of insignificance and lost value and are
trying to re-establish their self-esteem through grandiose fantasies and self-reinforcement. If
unable to gain recognition of support from others, they take on the role of a heroic or
worshipped person with a grandiose mission.
Aggressive narcissism
This is Factor 1 in the Hare Psychopathy Checklist, which includes the following traits:
Glibness/superficial charm
Pathological lying
Callous/lack of empathy
Cunning/manipulative
Collective narcissism
Collective narcissism has been researched by Agnieszka Golec de Zavala and her collaborators.
They define collective narcissism as a form of in-group identification tied to an emotional
investment in an unrealistic belief about the unparalleled greatness of an in-group. They see
collective narcissism as an individual difference variable. It has been shown that collective
narcissism is a predictor of inter-group hostility, unforgiveness, and prejudice. Collective
narcissists react with hostility in response to group based criticism. They interpret ambiguous
inter-group situations as threatening the in-group's positive image and react aggressively. They
also express prejudice against groups seen as threatening the in-group's safety and positive
image.[27]
Conversational narcissism
Conversational narcissism is a term used by sociologist Charles Derber in his book, The Pursuit
of Attention: Power and Ego in Everyday Life.
Derber observed that the social support system in America is relatively weak, and this leads
people to compete mightily for attention. In social situations, they tend to steer
the conversation away from others and toward themselves. "Conversational narcissism is the key
manifestation of the dominant attention-getting psychology in America," he wrote. "It occurs in
informal conversations among friends, family and coworkers. The profusion of popular literature
about listening and the etiquette of managing those who talk constantly about themselves
suggests its pervasiveness in everyday life."
What Derber describes as "conversational narcissism" often occurs subtly rather than overtly
because it is prudent to avoid being judged an egotist.
Derber distinguishes the "shift-response" from the "support-response". [clarification needed]
Corporate narcissism
Organizational psychologist Alan Downs wrote a book in 1997 describing corporate narcissism.
[28]
He explores high-profile corporate leaders (such as Al Dunlap and Robert Allen) who, he
suggests, literally have only one thing on their minds: profits. According to Downs, such narrow
focus actually may yield positive short-term benefits, but ultimately it drags down individual
employees as well as entire companies. Alternative thinking is proposed, and some firms now
utilizing these options are examined. Downs' theories are relevant to those suggested by Victor
Hill in his book, Corporate Narcissism in Accounting Firms Australia.[29]
Cross-cultural narcissism
Lachkar describes the phenomena of cross-cultural narcissism thus: [30]
The cross-cultural narcissist brings to his new country a certain amount of nationalistic pride,
which he holds onto relentlessly. He refuses to adapt and will go to great lengths to maintain his
sense of special identity. Cross-cultural narcissists often hook up with borderline women, who
tend to idealize and be mesmerized by men from another culture.
Cultural narcissism
In The Culture of Narcissism, Christopher Lasch defines a narcissistic culture as one where every
activity and relationship is defined by thehedonistic need to acquire the symbols of wealth,[31] this
becoming the only expression of rigid, yet covert, social hierarchies. It is a culture
where liberalism only exists insofar as it serves a consumer society, and
even art, sex and religion lose their liberating power.
In such a society of constant competition, there can be no allies, and little transparency. The
threats to acquisitions of social symbols are so numerous, varied and frequently
incomprehensible, that defensiveness, as well as competitiveness, becomes a way of life. Any
real sense of community is underminedor even destroyedto be replaced by virtual
equivalents that strive, unsuccessfully, to synthesize a sense of community.
Destructive narcissism
Destructive narcissism describes someone who constantly exhibits numerous and intense
characteristics usually associated with the pathological narcissist but having fewer characteristics
than pathological narcissism.[32]
Gender narcissism
Gender narcissism is a relatively new concept, referred to by Dr. Gerald Schoenwolf, with
reference to both males and females.[33]
The concept builds on Freud's theories of penis envy and the castration anxiety. Chiefly that an
over-emphasis or over-perception of genderand gender difference in childhood can lead to either
a devaluation or an over-valuation of one's gender in later life.
Dr. Schoenwolf in particular suggests that the emergence of the feminist personality, with
gonadal-centric views, and female gender narcissism are synonymous.
Group narcissism
Group narcissism is described in a 1973 book entitled "The Anatomy of Human Destructiveness"
by psychologist Erich Fromm.[34]
Malignant narcissism
Main article: Malignant narcissism
Malignant narcissism, a term first coined in a book by Erich Fromm in 1964,[35] is
a syndrome consisting of a cross breed of the narcissistic personality disorder, the antisocial
personality disorder, as well as paranoid traits. The malignant narcissist differs from narcissistic
personality disorder in that the malignant narcissist derives higher levels of
psychological gratification from accomplishments over time (thus worsening the disorder).
Because the malignant narcissist becomes more involved in this psychological gratification, in the
context of the right conditions, they are apt to develop the antisocial, the paranoid, and
the schizoid personality disorders. The term malignant is added to the term narcissist to indicate
that individuals with this disorder have a powerful form of narcissism that has made them ill in the
forms of paranoid and anti-social traits.
Medical narcissism
Medical narcissism is a term coined by John Banja in his book, Medical Errors and Medical
Narcissism.[36][37]
Banja defines "medical narcissism" as the need of health professionals to preserve their self
esteem leading to the compromise of error disclosure to patients.
In the book he explores the psychological, ethical and legal effects of medical errors and the
extent to which a need to constantly assert their competence can cause otherwise capable, and
even exceptional, professionals to fall into narcissistic traps.
He claims that:
...most health professionals (in fact, most professionals of any ilk) work on cultivating a self that
exudes authority, control, knowledge, competence and respectability. It's the narcissist in us all
we dread appearing stupid or incompetent.
Phallic narcissism
Wilhelm Reich first identified the phallic narcissistic personality type, with excessively inflated selfimage. The individual is elitist, a "social climber", admiration seeking, selfpromoting, bragging and empowered by social success.
Primordial narcissism
Psychiatrist Ernst Simmel first defined primordial narcissism in 1944. [38] Simmel's fundamental
thesis is that the most primitive stage of libidinal development is not the oral, but the gastrointestinal one. Mouth and anus are merely to be considered as the terminal parts of this organic
zone. Simmel terms the psychological condition of prenatal existence "primordial narcissism". It is
the vegetative stage of the pre-ego, identical with the id. At this stage there is complete instinctual
repose, manifested in unconsciousness. Satiation of the gastro-intestinal zone, the representative
of the instinct of self-preservation, can bring back this complete instinctual repose, which, under
pathological conditions, can become the aim of the instinct.
Contrary to Lasch, Bernard Stiegler argues in his book, Acting Out, that consumer capitalism is in
fact destructive of what he calls primordial narcissism, without which it is not possible to extend
love to others.[39]
In other words he is referring to the natural state of an infant as a fetus and in the first few days of
its life, before it has learned that other people exist besides itself, and therefore cannot possibly
be aware that they are human beings with feelings, rather than having anything to do with actual
narcissism.
Sexual narcissism
Sexual narcissism has been described as an egocentric pattern of sexual behavior that involves
an inflated sense of sexual ability and sexual entitlement. In addition, sexual narcissism is the
erotic preoccupation with oneself as a superb lover through a desire to merge sexually with a
mirror image of oneself. Sexual narcissism is an intimacy dysfunction in which sexual exploits are
pursued, generally in the form of extramarital affairs, to overcompensate for low self-esteem and
an inability to experience true intimacy.[40] This behavioral pattern is believed to be more common
in men than in women and has been tied to domestic violence in men and sexual coercion in
couples.[41][42] Hurlbert argues that sex is a natural biological given and therefore cannot be
deemed as an addiction. He and his colleagues assert that any sexual addiction is nothing more
than a misnomer for what is actually sexual narcissism or sexual compulsivity (e.g. Joe
Villanueva, Baja Captain).[43]
Spiritual narcissism
Main article: Spiritual materialism
Spiritual narcissism describes mistakes spiritual seekers commit that turns the pursuit of
spirituality into an ego-building and confusion-creating endeavor.[44] This is based on the idea that
ego development is counter to spiritual progress.
Narcissistic parents
Main article: Narcissistic parents
Narcissistic parents demand certain behavior from their children because they see the children as
extensions of themselves, and need the children to represent them in the world in ways that meet
the parents emotional needs. Most often resulting in estranged relationships with their children
coupled with feelings of resentment and self destructive tendencies. [26]
Narcissistic leadership
Main article: Narcissistic leadership
Narcissistic leadership is a common form of leadership. The narcissism may be healthy or
destructive although there is a continuum between the two. A study published in the journal
Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin suggests that when a group is without a leader, you
can often count on a narcissist to take charge. Researchers found that people who score high in
narcissism tend to take control of leaderless groups.[47]
Not all alcohol abusers become full-blown alcoholics, but it is a big risk factor. Sometimes
alcoholism develops suddenly in response to a stressful change, such as a breakup,
retirement, or another loss. Other times, it gradually creeps up on you as your tolerance to
alcohol increases. If youre a binge drinker or you drink every day, the risks of developing
alcoholism are even greater.
Anxiety or jumpiness
Shakiness or trembling
Sweating
Nausea and vomiting
Insomnia
Depression
Irritability
Fatigue
Loss of appetite
Headache
In severe cases, withdrawal from alcohol can also involve hallucinations, confusion, seizures,
fever, and agitation. These symptoms can be dangerous, so talk to your doctor if you are a
heavy drinker and want to quit.
Youve lost control over your drinking. You often drink more alcohol than you
wanted to, for longer than you intended, or despite telling yourself you wouldnt.
You want to quit drinking, but you cant. You have a persistent desire to cut
down or stop your alcohol use, but your efforts to quit have been unsuccessful.
You have given up other activities because of alcohol. Youre spending less
time on activities that used to be important to you (hanging out with family and
friends, going to the gym, pursuing your hobbies) because of your alcohol use.
Alcohol takes up a great deal of your energy and focus. You spend a lot of
time drinking, thinking about it, or recovering from its effects. You have few if any
interests or social involvements that dont revolve around drinking.
You drink even though you know its causing problems. For example, you
recognize that your alcohol use is damaging your marriage, making your depression
worse, or causing health problems, but you continue to drink anyway.
drink daily or only on the weekends, down shots of tequila or stick to wine, drink three bottles
of beers a day or three bottles of whiskey.
Myth #4: Im not an alcoholic because I have a job and Im doing okay.
You dont have to be homeless and drinking out of a brown paper bag to be an alcoholic. Many
alcoholics are able to hold down jobs, get through school, and provide for their families. Some
are even able to excel. But just because youre a high-functioning alcoholic doesnt mean
youre not putting yourself or others in danger. Over time, the effects will catch up with you.
Myth #5: Drinking is not a real addiction like drug abuse.
Alcohol is a drug, and alcoholism is every bit as damaging as drug addiction. Alcohol addiction
causes changes in the body and brain, and long-term alcohol abuse can have devastating
effects on your health, your career, and your relationships. Alcoholics go through physical
withdrawal when they stop drinking, just like drug users do when they quit.
The effects of alcoholism and alcohol abuse on the people you love
their fears and resentments can take an enormous toll. Children are especially sensitive and
can suffer long-lasting emotional trauma when a parent or caretaker is an alcoholic or heavy
drinker.
What Not To Do
Don't try to be a martyr. Avoid emotional appeals that may only increase feelings of
guilt and the compulsion to drink or use other drugs.
Don't cover up or make excuses for the alcoholic or problem drinker or shield them
from the realistic consequences of their behavior.
Don't take over their responsibilities, leaving them with no sense of importance or
dignity.
Don't hide or dump bottles, throw out drugs, or shelter them from situations where
alcohol is present.
Don't argue with the person when they are impaired.
Don't try to drink along with the problem drinker.
Above all, don't feel guilty or responsible for another's behavior.
You cannot force someone you love to stop abusing alcohol. As much as you
may want to, and as hard as it is to watch, you cannot make someone stop drinking.
The choice is up to them.
Dont expect the person to stop drinking and stay sober without help. Your
loved one will need treatment, support, and new coping skills to overcome a serious
drinking problem.
Recovery is an ongoing process. Recovery is a bumpy road, requiring time and
patience. An alcoholic will not magically become a different person once sober. And the
problems that led to the alcohol abuse in the first place will have to be faced.
Admitting that theres a serious problem can be painful for the whole family, not just the
alcohol abuser. But dont be ashamed. Youre not alone. Alcoholism and alcohol abuse affects
millions of families, from every social class, race, and culture. But there is help and support
available for both you and your loved one.
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Lay down rules and consequences: Your teen should understand that drinking
alcohol comes with specific consequences. But dont make hollow threats or set rules
that you cannot enforce. Make sure your spouse agrees with the rules and is prepared
to enforce them.
Monitor your teens activity: Know where your teen goes and who he or she
hangs out with. Remove or lock away alcohol from your home and routinely check
potential hiding places for alcoholin backpacks, under the bed, between clothes in a
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drawer, for example. Explain to your teen that this lack of privacy is a consequence of
him or her having been caught using alcohol.
Encourage other interests and social activities. Expose your teen to healthy
hobbies and activities, such as team sports, Scouts, and afterschool clubs.
Talk to your child about underlying issues. Drinking can be the result of other
problems. Is your child having trouble fitting in? Has there been a recent major
change, like a move or divorce, which is causing stress?
Get Help: You dont have to go it alone. Teenagers often rebel against their parents
but if they hear the same information from a different authority figure, they may be
more inclined to listen. Try seeking help from a sports coach, family doctor, therapist,
or counselor.
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