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Anyway I could say a lot more about this but im kinda lazy right now, so just go out and be
cooler then the girl and try to pull how I recommended
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Weather we realize it or not, we are always a story to the girl. As Julian was saying in a
recent video, she doesnt really even want to know you. She wants the emotions.
My view on this is initially a woman wants a wide range of emotions, but whats more
sustainable is the story she tells her self about you.
You are not a person - You are arousal, who becomes a question, who becomes a story, who
then becomes a person.
Todd once told me that every woman wants a guy she doesnt deserve. So how do you
personally meet that need?
I think you have to deliver to the girl her poison of choice. If she wants high drama, deliver
that, if she wants deep situations where you share with each other on a emoationl level, but
you consider her a little sitter - then give her that.
Its funny when I think of old canned game, thats what it was! Giving the girl an experience,
and story she can fall in to. The guy she could not get, but she finally got him. Every super
hot girl wants that story, because she is so used to having whatever guy she wants.
Here are some other stories girls like to tell them selfs
I just met a guy at the grocery store by chance
Oh, there is a guy at work/school that I really like but he doesnt notice me..
I have a friend but I want to be more without loosing our friendship
The guy im dating has another girl hes seeing, but I want him to like me more....
That guy is a womanizer, but he sees something different in me and wants to open up to
me
Etc.
I think we can all come off the wrong way at times and put our selfs into this negative story
group. Even if we dont mean too. Sometimes we need to do a gut check, see where were
fucking up and adjust our course. You can always change your story and be who ever you
need to be for a moment. Be flexible with your identity
Its always better to start off strong with framing the relationship, but we are all imperfect
and fuck up sometimes. In those situations we can change course. Kind like that episode of
mad men where Peggy is in the
hospital, and Don tells her she can be anybody she wants to be. And to move forward, and it
can surprise her how much this never happened.
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She aint gonna be putting in hours for you, or making the magic. Thats all you baby!
She is not gonna do something for you that you cant do for yourself.
She might compliment your swag, but she cant complete it.
There is nothing for her to give a man that has everything internally, he is complete.
Ive come to understand that respectable traits - -- like honor, virtue, and truth are not
feminine energies. And that woman cant purely possess them. Ive thought about this for
months.
What is virtue?, Virtue to me is being truthful despite how you feel. We all know that a
woman can make a promise, and change her mind when she doesnt feel the same
anymore more. She will discredit her actions and justify them by saying she doesnt feel the
same anymore. Thats not truth.
What is honor? Honor to me is being honorable to the concept of virtue. Holding your
character up to high regards, and judging yourself for your own actions. Once again its very
rare that you will see this characteristic in the opposite sex.
I'm not bashing the female creature, what I am saying is that they are completely different.
And we get butt-hurt over woman when we hold them to the same accountable started as
men. Its a mindset that is destined to mindfuck the guy over in the end.
You can be mad that snakes crawl on the ground and dont fly, they are snakes. You just
I am highly empathetic, and I still am a extremely emotional person by nature. I was raised
by females and am very in touch by with my emotions. So the idea of not giving a fuck was
idea but very hard for me in practice. It was very hard to block out emotions and be cold
when necessary.
So friends, if you are in the same boat and wondering to yourself, how do I give less of a
fuck? I have great news for you.its ok
The great news is that you dont have to become numb to things through a messed up child
hood, or going to jail.
The great news is you can appear to not give a fuck, just by changing WHAT you give a fuck
about.
Its a mental reframe of putting things in PERSPECTIVE. For example if you were being
strangled by a 250lb MMA fighter in a back ally of a club, what would you care about? Would
you care if you taped signified, your homework due tomorrow, or if you have a low card
diet? No! You would care about one thing, Air!
Similarly when it comes to pickup, the idea inset to not give a fuck about girls or what
people think of you the Idea is to care MORE about something else.
I can share with you what I care more about.
I care more about being able to change my life
I care more about living up to my full potential
I care more about never settling for second best
I care more about growing emotionally and becoming a mature man
I care more about the journey and experience then what 1 particular girl thinks of me
I care about my path and purpose more then____
And so on
So ya, moral of the story folks change WHAT you are about and you will give less of a fuck
about the little things that are inconsequential.
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PART 1:
1. YOU. What do you value about yourself and can never be taken away from you?
2. LIFE. What do you value about life and can never be taken away from you?
3. RELATIONSHIPS. What do you value about relationships and will never be
changed?
4. WOMEN. What do you value about women that will never change?
Understanding your answers:
4. What do you value about woman that will never change?
This is what you need to express! This is not just shit you write in your journal. Think about this DAILY.
Question 4 is what you need to look for in a girl, tell the girl, and actively screen for and show is what
you respect by how you treat her.
PART 2:
Now here is another 2 questions from me to you. Take your time to answer. It
should take you maybe 15 minuets of thinking, so block out a time. If you are not
satisfied about your answers, then just write what you think. The answer should
be 50 to 200 words each question. It might take a few times to answer these
questions but it is worth it.
etc.
To continue on this path, read fire in the belly, iron john, way of the superior man, and king warrior
magician lover, and make it a discipline to cultivate these quality's and reframe your mind. in time you
will come into alignment with your ultimate expectations.
I'm going to review you answers now and help you as much as possible. But before we do this realize
this will take time. What you are looking to do is die, you want to kill the old internal you. To be this
person you will need to transform and become the new ____. This a transformation that must happen.
You cannot achieve what you want being the same person you are now. Its impossible.
PART 3
Last step of this exercise is to get some emotional leverage - Answer each
question in 50 to 100 words:
1. Why do you need to get this issue handled?
2. What will you feel if this doesnt happen, and you dont get this issue handled?
3. How will you change your limiting belief?
4. Imagine your self in the future, when you have this issue solved - If you from
2013, could talk to you of today, what would he say?
5. What will change in your life when you do delete this limiting belief from you
mind? and how will it make you feel?
6. What kind of woman will appreciate the man you are, and things you have to
offer?
-Good Luck
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So ya man, been owning. Girls with BFs, without, 10 minuet interactions, on the internet,
whatever they have all been reacting the same. They have been reacting, and I havent.
im just trying to be me.
In regards to my game? Well I dropped all of it pretty much, I am socially calibrated like a
mother fucka, and my ability is stupid-fresh from years in the game. So I have just been
letting the honest expression speak for itself.
A quick note about Honest Expression. I just wanna say something because I think it is
completely misunderstood. Honest expression is not calling out a girl when she flakes, its not
saying shes hot so you want to get to know her. Thats boy-man behavior, so It is none of
those things. And honestly I do none of those things anymore. Getting butt-hurt to call out a
flake just shows you have low options and care more then her. Saying you want to meet a
girl cause shes hot means you have few options of beautiful woman and that physical
beauty is your first level of standards. Honest expression is you talking about your hope,
dreams, fears, desires, dislikes, and your lessons learned. NOT you expressing how your
caving in to that girl. What you are and what you believe, with no desire to get ANY reaction
from her.
This is Natural Game but .natural game doesnt reach its full potential if your fucked
up on the inside as a person. If you still have lots of emotional issues, those issues will slip
through the cracks in ways you cant even see them, but they will be obvious to girls and
other people. You need to fix these issues and develop as a person. Thats how I can go up
to a girl, use not much game and just let her see there is no cracks in the armor as Tyler
puts it. Once she can see that. Its so solid. It allows me to break all kinds of rules, like for
example, when I get a girls phone number I call her the same day! Its not perceived as
needy or anything. I call her because I screened her, and she was worth getting her phone
number. And now I want to talk, not because I want something from her. But just to enjoy the
conversation.
Shit I have been writing for 40 minuets. Ok time to wrap it up
Elite level game seems to not come from more game or new game. But it boils down to a
mastery of discipline of the fundamentals and being emotionally well rounded.
My game at this point is only 2 things. What I like to call Independent Interest + Emotional
well roundedness.
Part of the solution is to be coming from a place of just knowing its all good At all times.
With out a shadow of doubt in your body, soul, and down to a cellular level. You need to
know, is its all good At all times
Outwardly it may appear that you dont care. Its not that you dont give a fuck, its just that
you care more about other things that you KNOW FOR A FACT to be true within your self.
Peace
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career ambitions, your feelings about subjects, or to ask questions about the real her.
For example:
Me: Are you lonely in life?
Chantel: Yes always.
Me: you can have sex with any man you want, but you cant find love
Chantel: i hope find love....cause i dont like have sex with many man
Me: I understand.
Chantel: its the same for you...you look great you can have sex with who you want
Me: not anyone, but if i want i can have sex everyday, but i like it better with a woman i
enjoy to spend time with
This conversation lets the girl know im down to hook up, but im not emotionally invested in
making the sex happen. My words match my actions and behavior.
I have had 6 girls come to my house at 11pm this month for a first date. How? Honestly I say
to them I think your attracted to me, and thats why your taking to me, and im happy about
that, because im attracted to you to. We might have sex, we might not. And thats fine with
me, I dont really care. But if something does happen, it will happen because we both want it
to next thing you know, im sending them google map directions to my house ;)
Demonstrating sensibility.
Its not that girls dont want to have sex. They dont even mind being sluts ever now and
then, they just dont want to be TREATED like a slut, even if they are going to be slutty with
you. Meaning, she wants to be called, talked to, and have neutral time with you first.
You are basically allowing the woman a glimpse into your headspace and mind. Have you
ever had a girl say I need to get to know you better I think this is what she really
means. Its not technique based pickup, its showing you are a man with certain qualitys.
Quality based pickup. Once the girl is convinced you have those qualitys, she is ready to
seal the deal and move things forward.
Remember MM's old 5 to 7 hour rule? This disappeared from the community when RSD
dudes having sex with girls 1 hour from meet to the bed. I can still do this 1 hour pull. But I
prefer 5 to 7 hours because there is better long term retention and I want to pick a girl I
actually enjoy spending time with. I just constantly keep the sexual tension in our
relationship even though we could be having coffee, or shopping for soup at wallmart. I am
still the same awesome vibrant guy, so im not worried about the vibe dying out. I used to
feel like the 5 to 7 hours was for the girls, but now that time is for me ;)
I have not had LMR with the last 10 girls I have been with. im serious, I mean no LMR at all.
Sensibility might not be useful for the drunken bar star in the pub, but its something worth
developing in your communication for retention, daygame, and online game.
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I have not experienced this lately, but I was reflecting back to how I was a year ago. When I
used to have neediness and desperation seek into the cracks of my otherwise solid
interactions with the honeys. Like, girls must have been thinking why is this super cool, well
dressed, charming black man so DETERMINED and focus to make this happen tonight at this
very second it sub-communicates too much of a desire, which can be looked at as if you
want it too badly. Therefore you loose attraction
At an even deeper level this robs the girl of her fantasy to seduce a hot guy who she doesnt
deserve. Which is what all shortys really want.
I also used to be a write a lot of phat FRs and LRs. I think the reason for that was I wanted
to write out my emotional experience, and writing helps to internalize the lessons.. But
intimately I think I was trying to PROVE to my self that I deserve whatever results that I was
getting. But at the end of the day, needing to prove youre the shiznik to your self will hurt
you. Because it is a negative NEED, even though you are taking crisp action. Its still a need.
Can you relate to this? Probably. Maybe you do this in other areas of your life.
A True Player needs nothing NOT EVEN TO FEEL POSITIVE EMOATIONS.
When you roll up on Shorty and you want to feel positive emotions from getting her. That is
also neediness. My vibe these days is more like: Meh, sure I guess i would like to rail you
hard, but it it doesnt happen im really not going to think about it or put any emotional
energy into it. Cuz lets be real, nailing a hot girl is like a 45 minute fuck fest session. But
the VALIDATION YOU GET from it can last days lol you want that high dont you? Yaaaaa
you do . And guess what SHE CAN FEEL IT. AND THATS WHERE YOU FAIL.
Part of the solution is to be coming from a place of just knowing its all good At all times.
With out a shadow of doubt in your body, soul, and down to a cellular level. You need to
know, is its all good At all times
Outwardly it may appear that you dont care. Its not that you dont give a fuck, its just that
you care more about other things that you KNOW FOR A FACT to be true within your self.
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left. If you were able to get the girl excited about you she should be genuinely happy to hear
your voice wishing her a good night and to get home safe. In my experience phone number
are only HOT for about 36 hours. So you got 36 hours or so to cement the emotional
connection before you get added to the list random guys who call her.
6> The first real call maybe 7pm or 9pm I will give her a call the next day.
I might reach her, and maybe she has my number save. Maybe not.
If she says ummmm who is this
I might be like Oh is the 300lbs Chinese man will a small penis you had sex with last night
She will be like what, shut up
And I might be like It was the best 30 seconds of my life hahahah .. naw im just kidding
its Madison you silly girl boom then the awkward its the guy you met at the bar, I had
a red shirt on, remember moment is avoided for me. Get her laughing abit and we are off to
happy conversation land.
7> Be busy when you call - When I call im always doing some other shit at the moment.
So I will intentionally put her on hold, or tell her to check something on google for me, or be
ordering food at mcdonalds ect. But I never ask for the date on the first call. And I always
get off the phone first.
Anyways thats all for now. I cant say anymore, I gotta hoard some gems for myself. Peace.
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of game. Yes, its true that you may see less results, I think your results may be stronger in
the long run because the girls are choosing you. If that makes any sense. What I mean is
you can pull a girl out of a club hard, but IDEALY its better if she is compelled and pushing
herself to leave with you.
This would require a level of abundance that I dont consistently have yet. The type of
outcome indipendance where I would have to be talking to a tall blonde HB9 model and
get distracted by something else and not even realize she is standing there waiting. Im
talking about a super retarded level of abundance.
Again, this opinion of mine comes from pulling hundreds of times. But thats all it is, my
opinion. Who knows. Maybe you are reading this and you can be the exception to the rule.
Maybe someone who looks like tyler (no offence bro) has a different set of social
expectations or whatever placed on him.
I will tell the pulling story of what happened last night. To explain my point..
Natlex, Boris and myself head to Radio lounge on a Monday night
There is a really hot brunette, super tight body, in a corset, black heals and all the good
stuff. Shes like a 8.5 in my book. I open her up, there is a vibe 2 mins, she is giggling and
loves me, then we kiss very passionately. We move to the dance floor and start to grind in
sync. She is rubbing my neck and pulling me into her, she stars to take my hands and guide
them on the inside of her thighs. Her friends see this so we vibe with them, they love me. Me
and my girl kiss some more, and after about 20 mins of talking dancing and kissing we talk
about logistics and where I live and I pull her outside by saying I want to go for a drink, or
another bar, or some shit. I give her a piggy-back ride out the door and down the street. Wall
slam, make out, shes says she cant leave her friends, wall slam, makeout out some more.
She is putting my hands on her, and she is the one going for the makeouts now. I throw her
over my shoulder and walk to my house. She is resisting and begs me to put her down so
she can tell her friends she is leaving. She takes my head, looks in my eyes, and tells me
she is serious and we will leave right after, and its because they have her cell phone and she
doesnt want them to worry about her. Im like, argggg, I know better than this. But fine.
She takes my hand and holds it all the way back to the club, and in the club when she
searches for her friends. We get outside she finds her friends and some other dude she
knows. They all smoke for 10 mins and I am stoking her shoulders and puller her wrist trying
to lead her away. Shes like wait wait im not done. Her friends say they must dance with her
and pull her inside. I try to talk to her and she goes quiet. Her friends are telling me that she
is a lesbian, which is a lie because she told me she had a 3 year old kid when we were
outside. 5 mins latter security comes to me and says that the girls complained I am
bothering them. Im like, your kidding me right. The security guy says no. I bounce.
So.
Ho w did this go from a girl rubbing my cock through my jeans 30 mins ago to security
asking me to back off?
On the surface it looks like the girl was into me, and she was kinoing me, and trying to make
out more with me, etc. but at one point on the way back when they were smoking
outsideI wanted it just 1% more then she did. Poof. Finshed. Done son.
So if I didnt kino her so hard, makeout with her, or wait around to much. My margin for error
would be larger. I could have made more mistakes, showed less intent and she would have
resisted the pull a lot less. Because sex would not have been so bluntly the only option on
the table.
I think what it really comes down to is congruence and your level of game. When we first
start out we learn concepts like intent and game and all that good stuff. Then we get an
average skillset and things are working nicely. But at some point, when the girls start to
automatically respond well to you as soon as you open you mouth. It means youve started
to congruently become a cool-ass man. And once you start to become badass you need to
slowly eliminate your old habits, because if you keep them you will APPEAR to not be
congruent with your new identity.
Thats all for now.
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Im starting to realize more and more that woman like pain they respond to pain, because
they so seldom have the experience of perusing a guy. A girl WANTS to pursue you, but you
rob the girl of that pleasure. Everytime she meets a guy she is just waiting and thinking to
her self oh please let him be different, I hope he doesnt like me to fast so I get a chance
to peruse him, that would be fun and bam, when you finally hurt her pride or her
emotions she thinks to her self this guy is different he is the 1% out of the 99%.... this
is exciting, look at this new emotion I am feeling , I love him .which is fucking retarded,
but its the truth. There is a thin live between love and hate, and there is a thin line between pain
and attraction. Perusing a womanin ANY way puts you in a position of disadvantage, even if youre the
albino bowler of game. i.e. = fucking awesome.
I think that interactions with a female should be treated like a corporate business merger. If the merger
brings no value it should not even be considered. If an employee was taking their job for granted, you
would cut them loose and let them go. I actuly started walking off mid sentence when a girl is boring.
Its not mean, hot girls do it to us all the time! The just walk away from us with no words. This extends
to socially too, if after a week she is acting silly, just forget her like your memory is bad. Delete her
number but keep her on Facebook. Whatever you gotta do man
The whole idea of dates is stupid. When its time for a job interview, have you ever herd of the job
interview leaving the office to come and see you? No. I try to avoid traveling for dates.
With that said the best way to get a female, is to give her no part of you. Sadly, Females are attracted
to pain, and sadly the best way to get a female hooked is to give the female, her personal
Poison of choice.
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something being away from her friends and becomes obsessed to rejoin them. I guess
grinding on the dance floor does not count for real kino its like my wing Frenchboy aka
Fingerman used to say. If your not gaming in a natural sate it doesnt count. So anyways I
isolate the girl and she gets weird on me, and is like Im sorry, I have to go, Im so sorry
and she ejects. I did nothing to creep her etc. I think the solution to this is just to escalate
physically as far as possible infrount of the friends. And if they eject the will bounce her out
of there. But I think most of the girls, if they see there girlfriend is having a good time with
the guy and enjoying him. Then they wont interject as long as hes safe and cool they will
be fine with the heavy Kino in their presence. Lesson learned
I Kino open some more girls. Some say they have Bfs and other are previously checking
another guy in the club and want to keep his interest. I am getting shot down here. Its not
working. I didnt reach an indifference threshold but I started to not give a fuck. I have a
little light on my keychain and started to play club security with girls walking by etc. We
decide to venue change and run with no jackets to Cresset Street.
RSD Robert says lets go to Thursdays. I dont want to cause I picture Thursdays as ugly girls
and try-hard guys. But we roll in. Iam in full positive mental feedback loop. Buy that I
mean my brain is not registering anything negative. I am not ignoring it I am one step
beyond. I am not even seeing it. Like when you get a parking ticket on your car. You
remove it from your windshield so you dont even see it. And continue driving. When I am in
this kind of zone. If a girl says something dumb. I would just respond with something like
What and make a face like shes dumb. Not what as in, what did you say but what as in
What are you dumb, now I need make this face at you so you know how dumb you are
anyways let me finish my rant
So we roll into Thursdays and in the first 5 seconds I see a Redhead with beads on her neck.
I roll up and ask her if she got them in Hawaii cause everyone in Hawaii has those and I had
just came from there from vacation. Keep in mind I was 100% genuinely curious about this. I
was not looking for what happened next. Also I failed to notice she was in a group of 5
dudes. She instantly blows off the 5 dudes with a back turn talk to me for about 15 seconds.
And she goes for the make out. After 30 seconds I pull her away from the dudes to a
staircase. We make out more and I talk dirty. She starts telling me something I dont
remember what. We get off the stairs because there are too much people and I lead her to
the back of the bar. She is Kino escalating on me! I am not doing much. Its basically a case
of BE COOL AND DONT FUCK IT UP. She starts telling me how she is 24 but was it a guy for 7
years and just got divorced. Im not asking her about this, I am not questioning her. But she
keeps bring it up. Im not sure why. I ignore and continue to talk dirty and I think I say You
dont even want to know what I would do to you rite now a-la-Brad ;). Somehow this brings
up the word bathroom from me. And she pulls my hand and she leads me to the female
washroom. There are girls in there. Were in the bathroom stall and I can hear girls in the
bathroom saying. Ewww you guys are disgusting. Redhead says, Fuck you. The other
girls in the bathroom are laughing. We both undo our pants and I start fingering her. She
goes down on me. I am not getting hard. I realized I am not going to get hard. I realized in
about 10 seconds that this is not what I really want. I was not genuinely interested in this
with her at this moment for whatever reason. And my dick felt that way to. She says she
thinks security is coming cause we made such a scene. We did. Like 10 people saw us and
were screaming. Broken glasses etc. I am trying to pull her to my house. She is putting up
hard resistance! She is not for it! We exchange numbers and agree to meet up latter. I grab
RSD Robert and eject the bar. Its like 1:30. From experience I know I may not pull this girl.
Its happened before where I pumped buying temperature at 1:30 and it just transferred
onto another guy when I leave. I tell Robert we should go back in side after we are already
on the sidewalk. He is stunned and still in shock that I bathroom pulled a girl in 5
minuets. He keeps asking me what DID YOU SAY! Im looking at him like hes crazy, he is not
crazy, but at this point in the night, its not words. I have a strong momentum. Remember 2
hours ago is was not like this? I built it up.
We go back in the bar. Buy this point I had supper relaxed swagger. I cannot even explain.
People were looking at me like I was usher, and I felt it. Guys that were with girls were
looking over at me to study my moves. RSD Robert sees a 3 set. All in black cocktail dresses.
There is a Short-Blonde in the group. He talks to them and gets a laugh and intros me. I
come in Hi, Im shy- They laugh. Please be nice They are giving me the eyes. I smile and
nod at Robert. So that they know he is a cool guy who is safe. And I eject the set. A few
minutes latter he ejects too. We walk around for 5 minutes and come back to the girls. They
are our home base for the night. I talk to the blonde about something, and then lady gaga
comes on.
I say I love her even though shes ugly.
She agrees.
I say its because shes creative.
She is into the conversation fully.
I ask if she saw the new video and how she licks an old woman.
I am feeling like she is down, I am just expressing what I think and were clicking
We chat for like 2 minutes and just then 2 other cute Blondes squeeze by the tight space to
try and get through.
I yell, Hey, watch it punk
Her did you just call me punk?
Me: Lets go outside right now you and me
She gets in my face in a joking way. Its on
For me thats all I need to escalate. A hook. Once it hooks I escalate period. But my kino is
not normal Kino, its so non-chalaunt. And in align with everything Im doing. If its too loud
to chat I cup my hand to her ear, and put my other arm around her. Real natural. But I get up
in her space in an enjoyable way.
We exchange names. We banter for like 20 seconds before her other blond friend says she
needs to the bathroom and decides to bite/lick my face Yes you read that right I can tell
she wants to be the party animal and doesnt understand why I am paying attention to the
Shortblonde. Short-Blonde ask me to repeat what her name is.. I have forgotten it. Back in
the day I would have said a witty comeback line. But girls know when you are giving them
lines, and you loose trust. So I just honestly say I forgot, I got distracted when you friend
bite my face. I pass the shit test barely and they go to the bathroom. I tell RSD Robert.
Im sticking this one out. Im not sure if he can tell why. Its because I can tell by how she got
in my face, threw the name test and is behaving that she has character. It has caught my
attention.
They come out the bathroom and I double claw them. I say I like you she asks why. I says
its because I can tell she is smart, and has so much character, she is like the mother hen
and protector of the group. But dont worry Im cool. So what is you name? She tells me
again. 5 women now surround me. My 2 set have me lockedin back to the wall. And the
original group RSD Robert opened with the 3 black dresses. That blonde looks pissed. Its
really too bad. Guys are looking to me like I have magical powers. I keep double clawing
them casually off and on when talking. They are from Ottawa; I say I went to a tulip festival
there and a fashion show. I ask if she knows Stephen Harper the Prime Minister. I tell her how
to get around the parliament building. All this when doing more Kino to short blond. TallBlonde is getting pissed and being loud and interrupting and just not helping. She is too
talkative. I realize its 2:30 and I start seeding for the pull. Were you guys staying? How you
getting home? They are at the Holliday in. I start singing the Chingy song Holliday in. I tell
them both that I like them both but I choose short blonde. Tall-Blonde says she is going
somewhere, she grabs my crotch, and says not to leave or else! Wow I cant believe she just
did that in from of her friend. Tall-Blonde is 85% drunk and Short-Blonde is like 60%.
As soon as Tall leaves, we make out, no words, explanation or intro.I tell her we should go to
her hotel and order lobster from roomservice like the movie pretty woman. She can be Julia
robbers and I will be Richard Gere. She dies laughing. After about 20 minutes of making out
we decide to find her friend. She is downstairs on the dance floor sandwiched in-between 2
guys. OHH MAN! I can predict this is going to be tuff to pull. Not cause of the guys. But cause
the friends is a loose cannon and she is at the helpless and dumb drunk stage. We try
asking if she has $10 bucks for a cab to get home. She says yes. But then Short-Blonde
decides she cant leave her friend. Who is now grinding with some 40-year-old man. Arghh. I
try to cockblock and pull both girls off the rotating dance floor. They talk for 3 minutes, with
other random chodes trying to cut in. It is a chode Mr. Smith from the matrix fight. TallBlonde pull Short-Blonde back into the dance floor. I think Ohh Man, really, this again! But I
am also monitoring my state and keeping positive its key.
My blonde loves me, and will find me after. But I decide to be SAFE and go join them. We all
dance for 15 minutes together. More chodes grind on tall wasted blonde. I keep my girl
happy. The lights come on. Its 3 am. Now or never. I try to pull again. I take them both by the
claw. Rich chodes get my girls. They heavy Kino my girls, but I am the safe home base. They
loose. This place is sausage fest 2010. Too much dick. Must get girls out of here. I pull girls
to coat check. Now the lights are on and my Short-Blonde is loosing stat waiting in coat
check. I can see this; I am always monitoring their state. So I be very charming and give her
lots of hugs. She is smiling again. We all leave to go to my car because we decided I could
drive them to the hotel. Halfway to my car Tall-Blonde in her drunken state decides to get
into the street and flag down a cab. Short-Blonde give me a look like, sorry, we have to get
in. Dammit I have to ditch my car. Tall-Blonde is giving me a run for my money here. We are
in the cab on the way to the hotel and I can see my girl is loosing state again. I make her
smile and kiss her some more. We get to the hotel and the taxi parks. Just then my
Shostupidrt-Blonde girl says GOODBYE TO ME! I am like what!. In a super serious voice
tone she says, YOU CANT COME IN TO OUR ROOM, IM SORRY ITS OUR RULE! In that
moment I believed her, and in truth I respect this rule. So I tell her ok, we will just cuddle. To
The Path:
Its not easy.
You dont know when you reach your goals.
And you dont know IF they are promised to you...if they even are
You put your self on the line and have faith...to be all you can be...blah blah blah
You make some improvement one month going natural... and the WHAM-O... you loose all
you success and have a frame snap back, as they say...
You are driving along this road blind. You dont know what your maximum potential is and if
you can get there. To this imaginary ideal that the "pros" have
But i now know this..... i am one of the guys who have the Psychological DNA to do it
Its just a matter of time at this point.
BUT - i have given up on the imaginary idea that i will be a pickup superman when i "get
there." Because i used to think when i got where i am right now, that there would be no pain.
Last week I was on a Day2 at a local bar and I saw a cute girl. Perfect teeth, make-out lips,
sharp green eyes and olive skin. I used to be in the bad habit of trying to pick up when I
was on Dates, because I was socially proofed at the time. But its just a disgusting ego habit
that I had to quit. .. and lucky I did. So when I saw this girl I did nothing more then make I
quick joke , and exchange names and get back to my date. She was sitting with a bunch of
her friends and was having a good time with herself. Total face to face time = 1 minute
Latter in the week I see her coming out of an apartment building in my area. It was a fluke
cause I just came home for lunch for the day. Which I never do.
Me: Hey!
Her: (scared) oh hi I was scared
Me: (I go and shake her hand and get very close) hi you dont remember me do you?
(smile)
Her: ummmmmm.noooummm..wait.m..mmmmmmadison?
Me: ya, so what are you up to here?
Her: ya I live here
Me: yeah me to, just around the corner. I wont tell you where exactly cause then you could
come and stalk me.
Her: hahah thats weird in the 9 months I lived here I never saw you.
Me: ya, anyways I think your really good looking.
Her: thank you
Me: do you want to go for coffee sometime and get to know each other.
Her: actually im leaving town in a week
We talk some more and it turn out she works at a place I used to. And we know some of the
old people there. She tells me there is a going away party for her. And I should come tonight.
We exchange numbers and she is on her way. This conversation might seem kind of chode.
But there is a lot of non verbal and triangular gazing at her lips and eyes going on here. Total
face to face time: 4 minutes
I send her a text and make a joke about how she made a good impression on me and tell her
to save my number. In the afternoon I text her and ask what time she is going to to party.
She doesnt answer any of my text. My plan is to pull her form this party, so I call her at
6pm usually I would not contact a girl 3 times in 1 day because it would be needy. But
since she is leaving in a week. I decide its ok. So I call and she picks up the phone. She says
she just finished worked and was going to answer me, she ask if im coming to the party at
the lounge and I tell her maybe later. But I fall asleep, because I have been infield for about
15 days strait and I have not been sleeping very much
I wake up. Its now 2:00 am fuck
Fuck fuck fuck!
I look at my phone, and I have missed text from RSD jrad, nalex, and abower all asking if im
going out. I also missed some text from her.
11:00 pm are you coming?
1:15am I'm at XXX bar
1:30am im at XXX bar and im tipsy
Just then my phone rings, she ask what im doing since my voice sounds grungy. I tell her I
was sleeping. She says come and say hi, she is at a bar in the area. I say ok. She says she is
with a friend. I say cool, and throw on some stupid clothes and stumble out of the house. I
get to the bar and to my surprise, her friend is a fucking guy,not only that but they are in
the middle of the bar grinding on each other! Oh fucking Joy!
I walk by and say hey to the guy and slap his hand in a friendly way. The girl doesnt even
notice me and continues to grind her ass into his cock. Hes rubbing her butt and almost her
boobs. This is nasty. And now im just watching this, I decide not to chode out, and go say hI
to a waitress there i know who I made out with last week at my house. She is happy to see
me, and ask what im doing here. I point to the to people grinding and she is like ohhhh.
I decide be a chump and pull up a chair right next to them and sit there until she notices me.
She does and smiles. I engage the guy in some logic conversation. But as I am talking to him
I know what needs to happen for me to fuck this girl. But it makes me feel sick in my
stomach, cause I can tell he really likes this girl. I am feeling a conflict. Total face to face
time: 12 minutes
I text Abower the situationhe text back: Total Eclipse Of The Chode
Right time to get in gear
I make a few jokes with my girl but they blow over, she doesnt find them funny. I ask how
long they know each other. She says 8 months. My mind starts wondering if he fucked her
already. Cause he clearly knows why I am here. Hes a guy so its odious. I fluff talk with them
both and nothing is going smooth, I feel so bad for the guy. I have game but I just cant
destroy him. I cant do it. Just then I realize that that I can have high value by just subcommunicating. So I sit in my chair, lean back, smile, and put my hands over my head and
chill. She starts talking to me, I start singing along the words to the songs in the bar and turn
the bar table into my pretend drum. She goes back to the other guy and start shaking her
tits gently and acting very flirty in his face and giving him the eye, he gives her the eye
back. I am ready to say fuck it. But then the guy goes walks off and she ask what im doing
later. I say im going home with you. she gets it
The guy comes back and she says to him im starting to feel tired he looks sad
She ask him here he is parked and if he can get home allright. He says ya, but we should ALL
go to eat. He is trying to stall. She says she is really tired. Good girl. He goes to the
bathroom and we grab her jacket and run out of the fucking bar. Wooohhhshh. Total time
face to face: 25 minutes
We are walking down the street and get to her place and I see the guy in the distance. Im
like damn, your friend is behind us and he doesnt look happy. She says, lets wait for him
and walk him to the car. We wait. She ask where his car is, he says it at the corner. She hugs
him , tells him good things, kisses him on the cheek and puts her arm around him and
"works him" so he doesnt feel bad. She ask if he is to drunk to drive. He says hes ok.
Bullshit, they just had 3 huge pitchers of beer. We walk him to the corner and just as he goes
around I tell her she has sexy lips, pull her in and make out near a fire hydrant. Yuck she
smells like garlic. Oh well.
She trys to get me to go to her house. But I convince her to go to hers. She tells me she
didnt like my text messages and that im conceded. I change the subject. She tells me she
doesnt want me inside cause she has a air mattress. I reframe it and tell her I always
wanted one when I was a kid. Blah blah blah
We get inside and her roommate is there. Its a fat guy. I wave hi but he doesnt say
anything back to me and just goes in his room. He must be used to this. We go in her room
and fade to black. She still smells like garlic. Total time face to face: 30 minutes.
After sex we lie there and talk about random stuff. She tells me how she loves sex. I ask her
about her moving back home, if her parents are still together. She says she dosent believe in
love, I tell her I believe in love and its not a bad thing etc. I get the vibe she likes to be unattached. She tells me she is like a man. And has 3 rules. 1 not to fall in love, and 2. that I
have to leave. I ask her if she is serious, and she is and tell me to get out. Complete roll
reversal. She mumbles something about her being here the rest of the week. I cant believe I
am getting kicked out. That is 2 days in a row I have been easily dismissed and am not
feeling like the prize. Its making me think about giving a girl sex, or the opportunity of sex
while maintaining higher value. This need to be fixed. Maybe she would not be kicking me
out if she had to truthfully earn the sex. Like not as a tatic, but truthful earn it. More room
for me to grow. Lesson learned
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to Elite. During this process for the past 3 years I have recently discovered that learning
more is not the answer. I have learned pretty much every theory that exists. The difference
in my results has been unlearning. Stripping away the negative social conditioning that I
have and unlearning to reveal the best me at all times. Not just in the clubs when im in
state. Im documenting what makes the real world difference for me. I read Brad and Alexs
old journals from before they were Instructors, but even after reading them its hard to see
what made the difference. You can tell in how they express them selfs in writing, but there
is no step by step documentation on how to
I was talking to my buddy Fingerman the other day about what is game. And we were saying
that only maybe 5% or less of guys who study this stuff have the necessary combination of
personality traits like critical thinking mixed with insane motivation, love for woman, thick
skin, etc- to get amazing at pickup. I feel I have those requirements, along with a few natural
gifts like charm and the gift of gab.
Do I have what it takes? - Yes
Will I make it? I cant say for sure
But I have made it this far, and I cant turn back now. I have to know how this story ends.
So crack open a beer, and sit back, and read along with me as I document the little things
ive noticed that are taking me to that next stage.
So you may be asking your self why are Investment and Qualification THAT important? I
mean they are not new subjects and have been in pickup theory for many years. Well, I will
tell you why they are extremely crucial to results. Real world results like pulling girls, and not
impressive looking interactions. See, if you are an advanced guy, you are able to walk up to
7 out of 10 girls and inspire instant attraction. Walk up, say a few words, be cool, and boom!
the set is hooked and interested in you. Problem is, just because a girl is attracted to you,
has nothing to do if she will get with you.
Woman that have boyfriends will respond favorably,
Woman who dont Like you will respond favorably
Both of these woman will try to avoid getting with you. Even though they are attracted to
you. They see you walk up like a man, and talk to them like a man does to a woman, get in
their face, take up there space, not react. So they are biologically programmed to feel
attraction to you in that moment as an alpha male. ONLY in that moment. But like I said,
theses woman most likely wont get with you. Newbies dream of this advanced problem of
getting attraction from every set you enter. But as an advance natural, its very time
consuming as you try to decipher which girls actually Like you.
Lets put it this way, I can Plow with a girl all the way to her house, or to a phone number. But
if I do, there will be some heavy backwards rationalization about our time together. She will
seem completely gug-ho for it in the moment. But later talk her self out of it. No investment.
Nothing for her to loose. In fact, I would even go so far as to say that in order to consistently
be high value its incongruent if you DONT qualify hard and make the girl invest.
I read a quote from Tim the other day. We are high value, - so we must act high value
Donald trump has no time to be with every woman that would approach him or what to be
with him, he must screen them out. For which ones are worth his time, since he has a short
and limited amount of time during the day to run his enterprise. He could not be fucked to
give his valuable time to a female that was not worthy. High value males must genuinely
qualify girls hard. And also ask them to show there commitment by investing. Even only if
small, to make sure she is not there for the free ride.
So How do I do this?
1- I recommend reading Alexanders Daygame article which has some hardcore
qualification. I will QUALIFY HARD SEVERAL TIMES before pulling on a insta-date or day2.
2- I will have her invest by doing little task. After the set hooks I will give her something and
say keep this safe for me, I will be back or have her hold my beer for a while, or wait
somewhere in the club for me, buy me a drink etc all of this paints the picture and subcommunicates what kind of man she is dealing with.
3- I will leave. Go talk to friends or find something more interesting to do. If she says
something stupid, I will look at her like shes stupid and walk away. I will come back later,
but she has to know that she can loose me at any time. This must not be faked. This must be
real.
To there you have it. Most solid interactions and results in a nutshell.
If anyone has anything to add that works for them. I would love to hear it
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Hello friends.
Can I ask you a question?
What does it mean to get better in the game?
Seriously think about it, how do you know you are getting better or worse.
The clearest way I can define it is emotional relevance to the girl.
The more on point your game is, the more you strike a chord with the girl.
Great, so now that we know the obvious, that we want to be good, and we want to be
relevant to girls.
The question then becomes how do we get there?
I have thought long and hard about this, and realized that we fine tune our interactions with
girls (aka calibration) based on past experiences we have had.
In other words: Reference Experiences = Calibration = Emotional Relevance to the Girl.
Step 1: Reference Experiences
Step 2: Calibration
Step 3: Emotional Relevance to the Girl
Bare with me as we follow this model backwards to really understand what makes us good,
you know that every set-back with a girl is really a just moment to shine and show her how
awesome you are. Then you would respond with something more cool like No worries, im
sure I will see you soon, if its meant to happen it will happen. Have fun
Completely different level of calibration based on reference experiences.
So what is a reference experience?
Its something that your may already know, but Iv realized they are 2 kinds.
Emotional reference experiences and Situational references experiences.
Situations reference experiences are when you look at a mixed set of a guy and a girl and
say to your self. Yeah. Ive seen that situation before and ive went up and it turned out that
the guy and girl just met. So I was able to get the girl. Ive seen a situation just like this, and
I think I can do it again. So you have that situational references experience. These are very
external.
Now I feel like and Emotional reference experience is very different. Its an experience that
you have that gives you an internal shift. A big ah-ha moment or click in your soul that
moves you. Its a epiphany that makes you shift gears. It could be your first club make out
kiss or your first AMOG session. Or if could be when you did something stupid and realized
there was nothing to fear.
These are the key type of situations we are looking for. They are the shift that takes you
from normal guy to cool guy. They are like building blocks to your new personality and
identity.
All these new emotional building blocks help create a new person. How? Because these
emotions shifts also help create new BELIEFS
So back to my point, the goal is simply not to just GO OUT!
The goal is to go out and experience many emotional shifts. I have dudes that I roll with from
RSD nation of all different skill levels. In 30 seconds of meeting a guy you can tell who has
had the most internal shifts. These internal shifts and reference experiences are what make
the guy cool and get the girl. NOT the amount of game he knows.
So please. Next time you go out. Push your self out of your comfort zone. Write down to
comfort zones for the week that you are going to work on. Write it on a piece of paper and
keep it in your wallet so that next time you at the bar, and pull out your cash to order a
drink. That paper falls out and reminds you.
The gauge for how fast a guy gets good at this stuff is not only how much he goes out. But
how far he pushes him self when he does go out. What took me 3 years could maybe only
take you 2 or etc.
The truth is its going to take you as long as it takes. But it can be accelerated.
When you go out and push, keep a Win/learn mentality. That getting the girl is not the
ultimate goal. But freeing your self from your socially conditioned chains and creating new
emotional reference experiences that will give you permission to take action that you were
afraid to take before.
You will not only be able to calibrate in real time to whats happening around you. But you
will also be more and more effortlessly relevant to girls in your interactions.
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Conviction
And self respect
Being a man of action = Doing the difficult right thing, rather then the easy wrong
thing.
About 600 PUAs in the world know me. And about 15 dudes on RSD nation know me very
well. They can tell you personally, when they are like Hey, lets go to Club Tokyo im like
NO, ONLY THE HARDEST VENUES! I want to push my self threw as much pain and shit as
possible so that I can make the most growth. The club is my gym, I dont go there to lift 10
pound dumbbells, I was to go and lift the 60 pound weights. Why? Because the hard shit
makes you take a look deep inside your self to know who you are when your faced with
challenges in field. Like that big group of people who are shitting on you or not responding.
You will be able to hold your indifferent because you know you will always be all right. It
confirms in your mind that when you drop the scripts and express yourself, and I mean
REALLY express yourself - that people will EVENTUALY respond well. Because you know that
deep down, with out a shadow of a doubt that.
YOU HAVE EARNED YOUR OWN RESPECT. SO THEY SHOULD RESPECT YOU.
Self Respect:
This is not some feel good B.S. this is the truth. Look, your reading this cause you want to
know what takes your game to the next level? Well I am telling you right now.
When that hot blonde turns her back to you at the bar, your brain doest think oh she is not
interested in guys like me. Your brain thinks No, people dont turn there back to me. So,
then what happens is your mind automatically opens up your mouth and says the right
thing.
This only happens when you are living your life in alignment with who you are meant to
be.i know you might have herd this before. But what does this mean exactly?
Here are some examples from my week:
#1
A old fuck buddy text me and asked me to move her shit for July 1st. However, I have invited
her for coffee 6 times this year and she flaked or blew me off. My response So im not good
enough to go for coffee with, but im good enough to move your furniture? I feel like your
using me, so I cant do it
#2
My ex girlfriend called and got mad at me, she told me I must have a small brain
My responses?
Me: Bitch
Her: You have a lot of nerve saying that to me, you just screwed your self over ( she was
going to help me with a ride)
Me: You have said a lot worse to me. You just told me I have a small brain, so yeah, you get
called a bitch for that
She shut up no response. She is shocked cause in the 7 years of knowing her, this is
maybe only the 2nd time I have called her a Bitch. So this is kinda major. But I didnt back
down and explained how it was justified or accurate. Now she can disagree with me, but in a
way, she has to respect that fact that I called her a bitch. Gentlemen, let me tell you
something. If a girl is acting like a bitch, and she knows it, and you tell her, she cant be mad.
Infact she will respect that YOU ARE RESPECTING YOUR SELF. But like I said this only
happens when your living in alignment.
This is not about a technique to make girls come back to you, this is about an aura, a strong
vibe that you will eventually give off that the woman know what kind of man you are. There
is also a 3rd girl I did this with this week. She called me back today and let a voice mail
saying she was sorry for her actions and telling me how much she cared. The goal is not to
make girls care, the goal is to care for your self.
Permission:
When you become advanced. What makes the difference is not learning more
Its refining what you have, and giving your self more permission and conviction.
At this point I can say that there is no pick up theory or concept that I dont know.
I have learned it all.
But from time to time I will still come on RSDN or bounce ideas off of friends.
I notice when I go out to a club. The first 20 mins to 30 mins is not me trying to sharpen my
rusty skills, but its me trying to remember that I am cool already. And that ya, people react
well all the time to me at this point in my life. Its not that I dont know what to do because I
always know exactly what to do, in all situations. Its the letting my self do it part that I am
becoming ok with. The permission to let go, and let my training take over. Trusting my own
judgments.
So whats the difference in my game? Well, last night me and the boys went to Radio Lounge
in Montreal. Set 1- Blow up, Set 2- Bitch Blowout, called her out on it too. Honestly there
were about 5 blowouts in a row for various reasons. But my mind was not phased, because
the process of alignment has told me that I know who I am, and if I stick with it it will all be
ok. Set 6 Magic, and I ended up spending the rest of my night with a very attractive, nice
lady who goes to school and had a job. When I got to her, I was not pissed about the girls
before, I was not hurt or wounded. I was just correct because I have been trying to live my
life correctly.
What people need to understand is that this is not some magical thing that you turn on at
night when you go out to the club. You have to do this realignment day in and day out. Be
the man you are meant to be with your family, at your day job, and with your friends. Be
that leader of men, with them, not just when your drinking at night. This change and shift in
your identity has to be through out your entire life. If not, what happens is that you spend 8
hours of your day at work not valuing your own opinions to your boss, and then you go out
at night for 30 mins and step to that girl and it doesnt work. It wont work because you
spend 90% of your day not in realignment.
So my friends
from this no matter how destructive this is to her. I know 10 other girls like this in my social
circle, with the exact same situation. Where they are all the girl on the side and they are
hurt, but pursue the man because of this.
3- Think about it. Why do jealously plotlines work in game. They work because the girl is
not emotionally mature. Just last week RSD Prince charming , Natlex, and I went out with
some girls. One of the girls previously said she had no interest in me. Latter in the night she
sees me making out with another blonde girl. And she storms out the club into a taxi and
leaves without saying goodbye. A woman would explain her self before leaving, or express
her true feelings. This is the reaction of a girl, not a woman. Girls do not make sense, and
make poor decisions. Mastering this is part of mastering game.
All your inner game work has no IMMEDIATE relevance to that drunken girl in the club. Its
great for you, to be able to now have the confidence to approach her hard and be instate.
But she personally doesnt care that you read Tolle.
Tolle is for you, not for her. It directly affects you, but not your skill set.
Value is not static, Value is relevant to each type of girl.
All of your self actualization means something, but at the same time it doesnt mean shit
The majority of girls are response junkies. You give them a stimulus and they respond.
This is why button pushing game was so popular 4 years ago. It was the shit
It only stopped working because PUAs used it to cover up there wounded insides.
It doesnt mean the button pushing no longer works. Its not as if in the past 4 years the
female race has involved into smart and emotionally mature creatures. No girls are the
same dumb girls they were before.
Just because the PUA community has changed. Girls have not changed. They are still
mostly dumb bitches.
Considering everything you now know about girls. How could they help you, when most
often they cant even help them selfs. In the past ive often felt hurt and wanted a
relationship to heal me. Thinking if I could just get a hot girl, I could take a break from all this
PUA stuff. But girls are damaged; you cant have a damaged demographic repair you. That
makes no sense. Girls cant even admit to them selfs that they are damaged. And rather
then go fix themselves, all they have to do is put on some heels and a skirt and walk down
to the grocery store and in 5 mins she has attention and she can distract her self from any
real personal development.
Male douche bags have many other traits that are much more effective.
Dont feel bad about this. Or think of it as negative. Just realize its a fact and adjust your
game accordingly.
And good ol Madison is going to name a few. Consider them rules if you fell like it.
Gaming her through insecurity. Initiating, calling, or texting her because you feel that you
need to maintain attraction. I still feel a little this way because I fell that a 9 has lots of
options and I am trying to stay in her mental vision. But in the long run of the interaction like
30 mins in or the first week. It actually plays against me.
I notice that after I get a 9s number the first week she will be very aloof, almost like a test
so that she can see how I react. If I call or text more then 2 times in that first week. Boom I
loose attraction with her. I am no longer the mysterious man. I am no different then the
other guys. I dont stand out by calling her. No matter the connection we have, I have to lay
low for a while and keep her reactive.
MY ONLY FOCUS IN GAME NOW SHOULD BE HOW I MAKE HER FEEL
Subtle game:
The hottest girls game so subtle.
The average person or pooouuahhh would miss it. I even miss it at times.
Its not because I cant see the matrix, because I can.
What I miss are my subtle over extensions
Where the girl can tell I am going out of my way to talk to her in the club again or I am
making a effort to show im not interested or if I turn into her, and give her attention to
easy. This is a fine line. And it shard to walk, too little and the girl genuinely thinks you are
not interested and wont risk her validation to reinitiate you, too little and the man crate a
dynamic where the girl looses attraction gradually. Its so subtle.
This week I number closed a 9 model. And then went back to my group of friend who were
oblique to hers. My back is turned from hers and 5 mins go by and she comes up to me and
starts talking to me again. Rather then talk over my shoulder I fully turn to face her. She
takes a step back and talks from a distance and after 1 min she goes away. In my mind im
like wtf. A full body turn was too much?
She later tries to get her UG friend to dance on stage with her. I decide to distract the UG so
all of the UGs attention is on me for a jealously plotline. 3 mins later she gets off the stage
and gets a little upset. At least now im getting some reaction from her. But not the kind I
would like.
Later a mutual friend comes up to us, I tease her a little, and she is receptive and qualifying
her self to our mutual friend. I put my arm around our mutual friend and pull him in close to
talk, and back turn the girl. She is boxed out. She stands there wanting to get in. sounds
skilled right? Not really
Cause by the end of the night when I go to give her a big spin hug goodbye she is clearly
bothered by me.
I fucked up because I became reactive to her being non-reactive.
Instead of trusting that she may come to me or not. I continued to pump emotions into the
interaction from her. I tried to fill her with jealousy, but it hurt me in the long run. I tried to
make her reactive, but really I was being reactive to her. If that makes any sense.
Anyways we are texting on the phone today, but its all really short replys from her.
That same night I watched one of my Natural 10 buddies pull her aside and game her. And
from across the room it looked like they were almost going to kiss. I noticed his distance was
close, but not to close to be aggressive, her look at her in her eyes with a slight smile. He
touched her arm gently not to much but soft and friendly. Its like he was friendly with a dash
of sexuality. Its so tight, I have yet to be able to do this, I wish I got it on camera. Its was the
best game I have ever seen. For sure he is like this from a life time of entitlement to the
hottest woman. Where he is not afraid that his being friendly will make him less sexual. Its
like brad pitt knows he is still a sexy bastard even if his being super friendly. And its a nonsupplicating type of friendly too. Very interesting to watch. I have this image in my mind
about how it was, and I will try to incorporate this into my interactions. It was super subtle
but so money. I feel like the hottest girls are looking for this subtle finesses. Every on in
the room missed it. But not the elite, we all communicated on this subtle frequency. Even
people with game totally missed it.
On an unrelated random thought. I now think I am ready for a relationship with one solid
girl
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100% entitlement
I trust my self to step up and take action I live in alignment and have done that
consecutively. I trust myself to do what I need to do.
But based on the consistent level of quality of girls I have fucked.
I have disappointed my self.
There have been some hotties, but the space in-between them is to big.
I am not happy with it.
It sounds crazy that sex can determine this. But its linked to a guys mental value of himself.
A while ago I cut off all the girls that were not qualitygoodbye f-buddies.
I was crazy horny and frustrated for a while
It made me take more action.
I delete phone numbers from my phone all the time. Maybe 2 phone numbers a week.
It was time to step-up
I now have a circle of models and woman who are beautiful.
I have 95% entitlement
I have the MOST SOLID 95% you will ever see.
I can number close the hottest girl in the club
But im seldom going for the make out in 10 mins with the hottest girl in the club
I am settling for a make out with my mental 7.9 LOL
But still not 100% entitlement with a sold 10 girl
Only 100% entitlement for 8s
Therefore some of my sub communications get killed when I step to that stunner.
I am not pushing through her
If this was karate I would be punching at the wood board, not through it.
I have to punch through my 10 girl
Like I was really punching through to reach a 12 ;)
Mentally speaking of course.
Its like when you step to a bouncer at a club and he tells you that you cannot get in cause
the club is full.
He is trained to watch your reaction. He will give you the rejection a few times to see if your
belief of entitlement flares up or backs off. Maybe this is whats happening here.
Recently I went out to a club. Ran into a girl I saw around before. Solid 9.5 for conversation
sake. Vibe and personality and everything.
I caveman her, and honey is sitting on my lap.
And I try to comfort talk. So lame.
I dident take my own advice, I dont go for a kiss.
I escalated, but not fully
Long story short. 15 mins in I lost her to a male friend of that came along.
They had some kind of history.
Painfull
I am trying to be emotional empathic to these girls.
I go in hard and escalate fast. Then all of a sudden
I must become incongruent or something.
I dont do something a guy with 100% entitlement should
They sense it.
Im on 95% entitlement on the Smokeshows.
Sllllluuuurp (thats the sound)
And it reframes our complete relationship up until that point.
If you go hard and direct on Jessica Beil its incongruent to NOT spank her ass.
And then us guys say to our selfs, oh, its cause im not handsome, or its because I dont wear
ed hardy. She likes ed hardy douchebags.
Im starting to realize the douche bags have complete entitlement.
But from an outside perspective. That is invisible.
We cant see it, so we attribute the girl liking the guy to something about his physical
appearance.
Entitlement can be neutral, and it can be aggressive in action.
But not passive.
Neutral entitlement is more for when you open indirect and you just chill and let the girl
warm up to you.
But they must both still be 100%
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Slight behaviors that give away personal power, and discourage the girl perusing you.
This is a really hard journal entry to write. Because its hard to center my thoughts about this,
and articulate what im trying to say.
Im not going to give a long definition or monologue about the reality of a super hot girl. But
basically, the Girl feels like she can get any guy she wants. She is used to guys hitting on
her. She is not used to guys with solid core value. She is used to guys calling or texting her
to much. She is used to guys trying to predictably close her.
Ive hit a bit of a rut. My sets with the hottest girls are having some problems. Thats not to
say im not getting some hot and awesome girls, because I most definitely am.
I am not talking about the majority of my time in field. I am just talking about specific
instances with girl who would social be considered Turbos. Big boob, nice tits, perfect teeth,
clear skin, fit body, etc. girls that know they got it going on Out of ALL the sets that
hook. 20% of my turbo girl sets go perfect. But a big chunk dont.
This sequence goes like this in like 80% of those sets.
I go up to a girl
Game
Escalate Hard
Watch her become attracted.
Let her talk to me and ask questions
Try to Escalate,
Try to pull or move around
Attraction dies.
Number close
Try to Escalate and fail
It could be because I am an attractive guy and come in like a guy with value, but by trying to
close it comes off as a guy thats not as high value as she original thought. Im just
speculating here. Its strange because, I do have to make an initial approach and get physical
to show her what type of guy I am , but beyond that, it appears that when I push it. Even a
little, the attraction dies. But in RSD you always hear that the guy has to be the one to move
things forward. So what the heck. Maybe I just need to enjoy more silence in sets and a way
to preserve value.
Maybes its what happens when a good looking and cool guy takes to much action?
Another thing I think is important is preserving the mystery of who I am, and who I could be,
in her mind. Unfortunately, it becomes a mind fuck. I have no problem making out with a girl
I like in 5 minuets, but its almost like I cant do it, for the girls sake. For her benefit. Just to
leave her wondering.
Refining my negative behaviors:
After first physical affection, dont barrage girl with physical contact unless it is a reward or is
earned.
Try to pull or venue change the girl 2 times maximum: I find if I focus too much on the venue
pull, when I do get the number or call her the next day, the number is week and soft.
Possibly because it seems needy, even if I do say things like come, its adventure time or
come, real quick, real quick while trying to drag her.
No next day phone call: I have experimented with this tremendously. And because I game
so hard and aggressive, I think the next day phone call makes it to much. Almost over
barring I will go back to the day 2 or 3 call.
One to 2 phone call a week- maximum. No exceptions. That combined with my texting
makes me to reachable, killing all mystery and effort for the girl. I am robbing her of the
ability to peruse me.
Offer meet up only 1 time a week.
Maybe its time to bring back some old school MM technology:
Disqualifiers
Active disinterest
IODs
I dont know
Mixed with some new school RSD:
Silence with stares.
and
Maybe the sequence should be:
I go up to a girl
Game
Escalate Hard
Watch her become attracted.
HUGE FUCKING UNCOMFORTABLE VACUME
Let her talk to me and ask questions
Let her game me.
Chill Vibe
Number close.
Continue the phone dynamic and day 2 dynamic whit her being in her head
I really think thats what desire and want are. Besides not having what you want. Its
also mostly a degree of the girl being in her head. And on a huge downward spiral where she
is constantly putting her foot in her mouth and giving her up onw personal power, just to
keep the interaction going.
My Friend:
I have a guy friend. For the sake of this conversation, I will call him Charles. Now Charles and
I have been coming across the same Hot girls recently. And he has been capturing the girls
desire more then I have.
The way he acts, and what he does is very different. Essential he doesnt make a move on
girls. He befriends them in almost gay way, and then spends time with them socialy. Asking
about there families, calling them to ask if they want to run random errors with him in a no
pressure type of way. Helping them with there projects. Etc he is NON-DIRECTLY framing
there interactions in a way the girl could imagine what it would be like if they did have a
relationship.
He lives alone in a nice apartment, and eventually the girl will come over to chill and it will
be late and she will stay over. And he will not make the move when she is in his bed. He will
pretty much reject her. Later the next day, or next time he see her. He will have sex with her.
He then gets very busy and she gets attached. This is where the girl starts her downward
spiral of over extending her self to call him, or ask why he is not her BF yet. etc. He gives no
validation and calmly explains how he is busy and it makes perfect logical sense. But its too
late. The girl is emotionally invested and its over for her
Wash, rinse, repeat
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The last step to a complete package
That x factor
Im typing this for me
And maybe it will not make any sense to you
Thats ok. Its only ment to make sense if you are at the same stage or level.
Girls say shit to me like I want you to always be in my life, you are so awesome, and I like
you so much, you so cool etc. But thats not my penis in there virgina. Thats not sexual.
Well , I do fool around or kiss these girls. So I guess im not a total chode LOL. Plus I have sick
game. Or being as I now like to call it. I am a swirl
I guess this is all in part because of what has been happing in my personal life with my
family and ex girlfriend. Etc.
I have also gotten some private message on RSDN that have thrown me for a loop.
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State 3.0:
When the notion of state came out. Everyone was state dependant. You would not feel you
could pull a girl with out state. State was like a drug. Fingerman got me in the habit last
summer of not feeling state and going for it anyways. That is what you have to do. A man
takes action without state dependency. You take responsibility for your situation. Taking
responsibility means not putting the blame on state. Feel the fear and do it anyways. Over
time, you will not even think about state, and will become a man who acts through his
beliefs about himself. I honestly have not thought about state in like 5 months. To me state
is a cop out excuse.
On a funny note. Ive had a nasty cold the past month. Probably from making out with
random girls every week. So I went to the hospital to check it out. Turns out Im sick with
ammonia and bronchitis. In the last 4 days that I went out sick. I pulled 3 times.So State is
for fags
Comfort zones:
If you are not constantly pushing your self through brick walls every time you go out. You are
wasting your own time. Seriously. I know dudes that have done bootcamps and seminars
that are useless several months later. Well, not really useless, but there is no after effect.
And that blame falls on the person. Cause here is what happens. Every time you go out and
you dont push your comfort zones, you mind and heart knows it. You are not keeping a
promise to your self, you are in effect lying to your self. So your integrity level goes down.
And you feel that failing feeling in your heart. Stay on it.
Trust:
If you push through your comfort zones enough. You gain massive reference experiences.
You mind starts to make many distinctions like hey, I have been approaching mixed sets for
weeks now, and never got punched in the face or when I touch girls, they like it etc. So
what happens, hazaaaa! self trust. You trust your self to take action and you trust that you
will be ok. You trust that what ever does happen, you can handle. It stats to internalize as an
understanding that you got this. You understand that you can step into the unknown and
swim. That gives you a nice little glow inside.
Approach anxiety:
95% dead. I dont think it will every be 100% because we are all a little socially conditioned
in small ways, from tv, friends, and what we see. But for the most part. I never think about
approach anxiety.
Calibration:
I dont calibrate really anymore. I trust my intuition and experiences
If a situation happens infield. I say to my self, has this ever happened to me before? How
did I deal with it? Did it work? If not, maybe I should try something different like this. And
then I continue
Or I just trust my gut feeling and listen to it. And its usually right based on the amount of
right action I have taken.
DHV storys are dead:
If you are a man that lives through your intentions, not just in the club, but in your everyday
life with friends, at work, and with strangers in the street It will reflect in your actions with
that girl, and also in the storys you tell from your life cause you do so much awesome stuff.
Body language and the cool storys you tell, will be automatic.
As for me personally, I dont think blasting through LRM is always the best thing.
I have not been in a serious committed BF and GF relationship in 7 years. My last GF was 7
years ago. I have had a few offers for relationships
Some of them are ugly and want relationships.
Some of them are cute, but we have compatibility issues, and they want relationships.
Some of them are solid all around, and they dont want relationships.
They all have one thing in common.
I blast through the LRM, and sleep with them.
Here is a recent example from a FR: The story of HB Pussycat Doll
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/155454?page=6
In that story the girl is saying I want to see you so much after this and I really want to get
to know you better, and come see me next week etc.
Then I sleep with her within 2 hours of knowing her... and guess what?
She wont pick up calls and cancels on our dates. She is being super flakey. Which of course
then makes me reactive.
So I started really think about all this..i began to understand that if a girl is giving you Anti
Slut Defense, its not always for her protection, its also sometimes for you. She wants to
respect you and herself. She knows you can fuck her, because you have already went direct,
escalated, kissed her, and pulled her! But she wants to have something to work too. She
wants you to be a challenge, she also wants to know she has a man of value. A Man thats a
10. I think this fuck a girl by any means attitude in the community is probably hurting us. I
dont mean in a spiritual way. I mean with the 5% of girl that you meet that you might
actually think are relationship worthy.
Her logical thinking might be something like:
if I cant fuck him the same night, maybe something is wrong with me or like
Oh, he kiss me in the club, come home with me, but wont fuck my pussy, maybe he doesnt
like me, or maybe he has a hotter girlfriend
Im not saying dont sleep with a girl cause you dont have the guts to pull the trigger, or as a
technique to make her go in her head.
All im saying is that if meet a girl one night at a club, and she excites your mind. And you
think you might want to date this girl. Maybe its better to pull her to your house, or hers.
Fool around,.. but NOT fuck her. And that way when you try to see her the next week, when
her reality snaps back. She wont hate you or herself for it.
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and values. I know what it is exactly that I run away from. I have exposed it to the lie. No my
only challenge is defeating these demons. Bad money management, time management, and
discipline. I am terrible at eating properly and constantly am an escapist from things that are
not pleasurable.
As T Harv would say. I have bad habits, and even though logically I am trying to make
changes its not working. It works emotionally for a while when I feel pain. And it works even
better in stretches when I feel TRULY inspired. All my jobs or area of my life that I have done
well I felt great inspiration. I probably need a mix off all the ingredients to make some
changes in my lifestyle.
Maybe some tapping, subliminal audio programming, emotional leverage and visualization.
This week I will start doing millionaire mind
Think and grow rich
And David Ds wake up productive.
This is not a post about making friends. I can make female friends. This is a post about fear
of the friend zone.
When I was in highschool no girls liked me. I had crushes on my friends that were girls. They
did not feel the same. I got beat up for liking the school bullys girlfriend. I have been
traumatized by the friend zone. Im sure its the same for many guys on RSDN. I made a vow
to my self a few years ago to do what ever it takes to fix this. And I have, so maybe now its
time to adjust some of my old beliefs about being stuck in the friend zone.
My friend Andree recently said to me,
That was high school, your not in high-school anymore
But I still am scared of getting to know a girl that I am romantically interested in as a friend
first. That just makes no sense to me. I have all these memories of being stuck in friend zone
and not being able to get out.
But I need to grow as a man. My last serious committed relationship ended 5 years ago. And
I am a serial dater, and I have not had a committed relationship since. No doubt this is
affecting my growth as a man. And affecting to my ability to relate to girls that are more
relationship material. Those girl who want to friend zone you first and get to know you and
then decide if they want to date you or bang you. It sucks to give that much personal power
away to a woman, where she is calling the shots. But maybe its necessary at this point.
In the last 2 months I have seen 2 girls that I was interested to actually date, but I slept with
both of them within 2 hours of meeting them. And then they have both backwards
rationalized it. I am the one at fault for the sex, and it happened to quickly, they feel weird
about it, and they dont want to date. They just want to be friends now.
David D said that we must ask our selfs 'What are we running away from? - and then step
into it.
I have taken a vow of chastity for the month of October. I am not going to escalate on any
girls. This sounds like a bad idea at first, but if I am truly a naturally attractive and sexworthy man at this point, then it should not matter all that much. Because im not sleeping or
making out with a girl should not make me less attractive at this point.. .well thats my
theory anyways. And hopefully it will help me communicate all the right values to a
relationship worthy woman.
My friend Andree also said to me
Build something with the girl. You must always remain as a friend in a relationship anyway,
you just become closer friends, then marriage, then eternal friends
Any comments on how I can transition from true true friendships to relationships would be
appreciated.
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Mr. Madison,
I've been following your stuff for a while, and seeing your mindset at work helps to
internalize the thought patterns I need to adopt to grow. Much respect. For what it's worth,
I've had a fair amount of experience with this, and if I can offer any value and shed any light
on the subject, as for the most part I'm a passive observer/learner on these boards, I'd be
stoked.
Six years ago, I was like the ancestor of the modern chode; like prehistoric chode: chodus
erectus. But, I've always been a really philosophical guy, I've always been able to relate
really really closely with people. I was basically tag-along upper-tier social class. I'd strip
away all the bullshit and social facades and pretensions and artifices of even the most
artifical people... but I had really disempowering beliefs about love and dating. I'd only go for
the ones "I could probably get," and even then, it was through like these ridiculous 'heartfelt'
expressions and shit. Poems were involved.
....But something really weird kept happening with all of the stunners, the social elite. I had
social ties to all of them, yet did not have the brash alphaness of the guys "that got them."
But I made a resolution that even if I would never be able to date these girls, then I would
enjoy them on a very, very intimate level, and have them as my closest friends. A fatalistic
compromise. I befriended the perfect tens, and spent all of my time with the ones with the
coolest personalities.
Chode Times: The Nature of my Friendships with Stunners
-One on One interactions ONLY. Little interaction in a group environment. US vs. THEM
dynamics; should we both be in a social grouping at the same time, we'd interact, but it'd be
'a different mode'. This would develop quickly; I'd just have to be in a situation where we
wind up hanging out alone, after a party, late coffee, etc.
-Engaged them on my terms: late nights driving aimlessly together, or walking along
beaches, etc, until like five in the morning. Talking about art, life, philosophy, music, ideas of
love. Since there was NO romantic aspect to my behaviour (I deemed it beyond impossible
with these girls), if they said something stupid, or acted weird, I'd bust them on it HARD;
they had to live up to my idea of friendship; they knew, since they were all friends, that
other girls would answer my calls at four in the morning and be dying to hang out. This
weeded-out the less interesting girls, and let the smarter ones know that I had standards
that took some effort to live up to. I knew I had value to offer in friendships (if not
relationships), and it wasn't just offered to anyone. Common quote: "He's so different."
-I constantly used their attractiveness as a disqualifier in life, if only jokingly. "Psshh, that
just happened because you're gorgeous. Bullshit." Part of this was deep-seeded frustration
of their 'unattainability,' part of it was straight-up social commentary, and separated me
from the pack that flattered and doted on them constantly. I was completely comfortable
with them, though, because I 'knew' I would never get anywhere with them. I still
acknowledged their sexuality though, and they were aware that I recognized it, but it did not
affect my interaction with them.
-I was slow to offer encouragement and compliments. A girl would really have to impress me
for me to verbalize something like, "I'm really glad we're friends," or "You're amazing. You
hide it at first, I don't know why, but there's something about you that you don't let come
through in the way you interact with most people. Why are you so guarded?"
-We never 'talked business'. Petty relationship stuff was quickly dismissed; There was no way
I was going to be the emotional sounding-board, that wasn't part of the relationship. Our
time was about more than the petty stuff of the everyday. Serious times. Serious thoughtful,
playful times. haha. The same rule applied to me. We could talk broad concepts, but never
specifics, never specific people.
-Physical closeness. I was seriously lacking closeness in my 'love life,' so I'd be really close
with my stunner friends as a substitute for that. Cuddling up beneath blankets, spontaneous
silent hugs that would last minutes, spooning and sleeping together. Grabbing, pushing,
physical playfulness. In retrospect, fucking perfectly calibrated physicality. Assumed physical
closeness.
As the friendships progressed, I always stayed the same, yet the girls would slowly change. I
always spoke authentically, and lived purely in the moment: I had ZERO outcome
dependance. Again, because 'romance' with these girls, in my mind, was literally
IMPOSSIBLE. All of them, literally, all of them would regularly say "I love you." It fucked with
my head, I wouldn't say it back, I didn't like vocalizing unspoken things, yet they didn't care,
they said they didn't need to hear it back, they just needed me to know how much I meant
to them. Honestly, I just believed these types of friendships were natural and everyday for
me. I enjoyed them, they meant a lot to me, but they still were infinitely far away from a real
'romantic' relationship. The comfort of second place. I had hot friends, but my male friends
were getting laid, on the regs. Strangely enough, looking back, I think that the stunners & I
had perfect romantic relationships... just without the sex.
Inevitably, there would be one final shift, and I think that this is what you're getting at, Mr.
Madison; I would pull away from the stunner's life for a short while (now I recognize this as a
'takeaway') and she would move forward to try to close the gap. I'd go travelling, and when I
got back, she'd be different. Or she'd hear word of some HB6-7 being attracted to me, and
hear of me flirting back playfully, and it'd make her different. She'd perceive a potential loss.
She'd see my attention, time or emotional-based, focused elsewhere, and feel the threat of
'losing me'.
Her friends would start asking me questions, "Do you have feelings for Stunner?" Horrified,
I'd deny it; it was impossible. "What!? She's one of my closest friends. I could never mess
with that." Invariably, she'd get to a breaking point where her internal monologue could no
longer be held back, and the whole thing would come to an emotional climax, fueled by
alcohol, late at night, alone, and she'd say something like "I hope you think of me as more
than just a friend..." or "I haven't been able to stop thinking about you," or "I don't want to
lose you. I love you. Listen to me. I. LOVE. YOU. Do you realize what I'm saying?" This
happened no less than four times. The stunners would get progressively more agressive, kiss
me on the cheek, get inches from my face, waiting, variations on a theme. At this point,
amazingly, the bare minimum of assertive masculinity I could summon, just moving my face
inches towards theirs, would result in a makeout.
I was still such a chode, though, that I could only close on one of these occasions, contented
myself on the makeout alone on the other three, and in a matter of DAYS or A COUPLE OF
WEEKS, these newfound 'relationships' would EXPLODE in my face, as my needy, neurotic
romantic mind would take over and sabotage everything, utterly destroying the life-defining
friendships I had with these girls. This destroyed me inside. I couldn't hold anything together.
Enter RSD.
I still have some of those 'stunner' friendships, now. But they are long-term, I can't cultivate
them from scratch anymore, because I'm too calculating; I've lost the perennial ease and
comfort which I had with the stunners. I always have an agenda, and it's immediately
present; those long-term friendships don't develop, because I'm fixated on escalating. I need
to be escalating, I'm still a beginner in many ways. But with those old stunner friends that I
still have, I refuse to escalate on them; I've lost so many close friends, and in the last six
months, I've been given that 'moment of truth' twice, but pushed it away, to preserve the
friendships. I need to work on approaching and shit, becoming a more centered man, so I
don't have to worry about ruining the most meaninful relationships of my life, again.
--So, Mr. Madison, you wonder about "Those girls who want to friend zone you first and get
to know you and then decide if they want to date you or bang you," and how to "transition
from true true friendships to relationships." For me, anyways, I think it's been about keeping
the friendships "man to woman" vs. "person to person" (I never was like, an emotional
tampon, or a 'girlfriend' to girls). I've strung the friendships along that razors edge where
friendship teeters over into romance in the past, because that was the limit I perceived, but I
also think that that precarious, deliberate balance is what really gives value to the malefemale friendship. I think the girl can sense that you're balancing on these delicate
boundaries, and that at any moment you have the ability to push things into the romantic,
yet you don't; it reduces the magnitude of the action she would have to take to pull you in to
her life, romantically. There's so much trust involved in that, and if you can pull that off, and
maintain that almost romantic friendship, then I think that you're basically foreshadowing
the future relationship itself. Strip away the frame battles and the games, develop a really
deep level of comfort, communication, and friendship, and keep an underlying recognition of
each other's sexuality: I think that's the foundation.
Thanks for all your posts. I hope there's something in this sprawling mess that helps.
-Arnaut
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Good post by BradAdding it to the archive
Posted October 12th, 2010 at 9:30 PM #13
BradInstructor | Trusted Member
Join Date: 08/28/2007 | Posts: 2690
It's LMR not LRM Goran, maybe that's why your confused... Last Minute Resistance...
And I have to disagree whole heartedly with your logic on this one. Although your logic is
sound, my actual experience goes completely against this.
Part of it is being cool after sex, the frame is like you are close buddies, chatting and joking
around, no luvy shit and no "too cool for school" either. Just cool, chill and playful.
As someone else hinted at, the other aspect is having GREAT sex.
It is so rare for a girl to find a cool guy, non judgemental and non needy who gives her
AMAZING sex.
Also being discrete helps, but not always necessary in this scenario.
If you come at it this way, I have NEVER had a problem meeting up with a girl. It's literally
happened DOZENS of times.
If your logic is to try and "show that you are the prize" there are other ways of doing this.
If I have a real turbo, and I want to see her again, I'll kick her out right after sex. No
cuddling.
This is usually new to her. When a girl this hot gets fucked by a guy, that dude usually wants
to cherish the moment and keep her around. But a true player, coming from abundance
needs some sleep yo! So I'll kick her ass out.
This will accomplish the same type of dynamic you are looking for.
As for the approach that you espouse, that has happened to me a few times as well, usually
At 16 I became addicted to sex. That phase did not last long, I was never addicted to drugs
or alcohol. But I used woman like a drug, to pump my state to an unachievable constant
standard.
Im past that now. But because of the book, I have realized that my constant thirst for female
energy doesnt come from a lacking. Rather, It comes from a love of female beauty and
energy. One that cannot be captured. How do you capture the essence of all woman? Thats
impossible. Its actually not realistic or healthy. This is the Don Juan syndrome. A craving for a
lifestyle that equals what my internal barometer requires.
But to be a mature man, or have a true King archetype. I must consider my surroundings
beyond any immediate gratification of for my self. To do this, a king must have "Inner
Order. The King energys main concern must not be himself, but his Kingdom. The new
quest is to be self-less by doing less and refocusing my energys, I would actually be
maturing more in the right directions. The re-birth of the man. The end of boy psychology
and the birth of man psychology.
A man ask himself - Where do I accept send rate behavior from my self?
A man ask himself - How could I have handled that better?
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Personal power and understanding what true 9s and 10s screen for.
Sorry tomorrow I have a group drink date with a girl off of facebook. A true 9, she looks like
Angelina Jolie. But what makes her a 9. is not just her looks. She had her own fashion
company, she imports and exports leather bags. Works long hours, is a passionate woman,
funny, and has a great sense in eclectic music. Wifey material in other words
So lately I have been with some really stunning woman. Never anything less then a 8. Btw,
newbies. Yes, I am putting a numerical value on a woman, but I am also looking at other
characteristics.
I am currently dating the 5th ranked track and field long jumper in Canada. A director of
operations for a Media company, and just normal girls who are students but are stunning ly
beautiful.
So anyways, yeah for the true dimes. Woman that have careers, follow there passions, and
are expressive, love there family etc. the true 9,s and 10s. ive been wondering what has
made the difference in my game that has allowed me to have these woman in my life. And
I think it narrows down to 2 factors
Personal power and understanding what true 9s and 10s screen for.
When I see a goddess of a woman I realize this
Your personal power is not something a girl take form you. Its something you DECIDE to give
up. Even if you only decide to give it up subconsciously on an unconscious level.
You always give it up. They cant have it, unless you give it.
Most men think How can I have control over a woman that is not interested in me?
But the truth is, the woman may not be interested in you, but once you demonstrate that
you keep you power for your self, and you are who you really say you are thorough and
through she then becomes interested. With the most amazing woman that are fulfilled on
the inside, its not like you walk up, spit a line, and she has attraction. Its more like you show
strength and character in the presence of the situation or her negative reaction, and then
she is attracted and will let you into her world.
You keep the buyers frame, even before she admits that shes selling if that makes any
sense.
Another factor is understanding that the hottest woman are screening for this.
They have met so many men who look like the are real men, but are just boy-men.
They look at how well you keep your composure, eventfully a really beautiful and satisfied
woman will withdraw all IOIs
Maybe for a few hours, or even a week.
I dont know if they are aware that they do this, but I think it helps fro them to test you.
You might ask for her number, and she might just flat out ignore you or walk away, or not
respond to your email. She watches for how this affects you.
They also respect a man who doest give them anything they havent earned. I work in
fashion, and I see on facebook so many woman who travel the world and have great
vacations every 4 months, and as far as I know these girls dont have jobs. Someone is
sponsoring these trips. Beautiful woman can create the lifestyle of your dreams with no
effort. VIP , champagne, Rio and South of France. All that shit. No effort.
So here is the kicker. I cannot provide a woman a trip to France, and some times, I can
barely take her to a movie
But what I can give her in moderation is my respect.
And I can notice weird quirky things about her that others might not notice. I can be
attracted to the fact that she plays video games, and tease her about being a nerd. Not as a
gimmick. But to demonstrate that I am a man with Depth so anyways yeah ,notice the
small things about her. Keep your personal power for your self. And moderate the amount of
respect you give her, and challenge her into interacting with you.
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i got to get back to using MY Journal as a tool.
Cause im not happy... im sad like every 3 weeks for some reason
like my soul is sad....
i think i need to connect with family more, and settle down into a relationship...
i am proud that i have recently took a lot of steps ta mature as a man...reading lots of books,
and daily focus on being a man of charecter and value.
and my music...super important to write some songs, i put pressure to be better then
everyone else. but i guess i can be better if im not taking action in that area.
Music is not just a business, its therapy, and ive forgoten that recently
Try not to become a man of success but a man of value. Albert Einstein
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SN:
even when ur trying to act like ur not sexual, u push the sensitive card too much and it
seems like an act
i noticed it
SN:
i think its possible that ur tooo sexually forward with girls
girls like sex as much as guys
BUT
ME:
after a month of dating a girl
thats long for me
i reach a breaking point where i dont want to pretend
SN:
i dont think its the time thats the problem
i think its ur approach from the beginning
ur too forard from meeting 1
like u show overly sexual interest
and they see it
ME:
dude
if i dont make it clear it dosen t happen
thsts the story of my life
ive never had the luxuary of a girl decide shes going to randomly fuck me after a month
never
SN:
im not saying u should drop the sexuality just dont push it so much
for example
with emily
u had a shot
she wan interested
she came to ur event
but then u and her got frisky
and it scared her off
i on the other hand,,, take tess
i meet her
and she's now the one being sexual
and she's not backing off
cause i dont make them feel like thats all i want
SN:
actually the girls instigate mostly at their houses
ME:
anyways, i am noticing a pattern, i am getting the girls and loosing them. perhaps im still
emoationaly scared from my past
SN:
no ur not
thats what everyone says
its not a scar
its ur approach
simple
adjust
ur not tweaking
its like this
u make a hit song.. everyone says its hot buttt something is missing
u do a second
they say teh same thing
but u never adjust u just keep [ushing out the same formula
do what i did with far too long.. i saw what people liked and what they didnt and adjusted
apply that to ur dating
ME:
so keep the sexuality to a max of 50%
never use my nitro's?
i say test, lower it to 25%
see what occurs
then adjust from there
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MY NEW BELEIFS AS OF DECEMBER
*Being late cost me money
Strengthening and projecting reality, bringing her to call into question her reality by:
Narrate the situation the way you want it to be:
"I like that we like each other"
Telling vs asking
"tell your friends you're coming with me to the bar and that we'll be right back"
Shaping multiple choice:
"How much do you like me, tons or super tons?"
Project expected behavior
If you're too aggressive, you are an unanswered question and you get boring and there is no
arousal.
Sometimes be really positive and sometimes be really negative and confronting, but never
try to make her react
She sees you as an unanswered question
If you take it too fast you become predictable and boring
Same thing if too slow.
Just roll with the girls, play out the interaction.
Negative example of things to say:
"Shut the fuck up"
"You're crazy"
"I'm a human being, I'm not a clown that you can use"
"Bitch you want to fight"
"Relax Relax Relax"
"Are you a player"
"That's an ugly name"
"You have something in your teeth"
Leave when they leave.
Facilitatory lies
-This is my ex-gf
-Im gonna be sick, will you help me (in the bathroom stall)
-This club is boring
-Lets go to the casino
-music sucks
Fight, boring, music sucks, hunger, casino, smoking
Don't have urgency, don't try to drag her out of the club against her will, it lowers you value.
Topics to screen ONS
-Find the one who's willing to leave her friends.
-Are you a risk taker.
You only get laid when the girl games you, by not escalating you make that happen.
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I Have been sucking lately... Not newbie sucks but they type of sucking were is still get a
make out or a number from a 6. Not that special
i think i have begun to put a lot of pressure on my self to live up to a certin result and always
get batter.
that combined with the fact that i have been only going out 1 night a week for 2 months
now, im falling off.
My skills are there but super rusty, and my head space....damn.... my head space is shit. i
am constancy angry when im not getting the result i want. i am gaming to close. no other
reason.
part of that is probably cause of the winter. if were gonna drive or travel 30 mins in the cold,
i am there to close. no other reason.
this is probably hurting me...
Its funny because when you start to suck there is things you need to adjust. Really small
adjustments, but you can even see where they are. Like im totally blind to the small
mistakes im making, but ones I figure it out I will probably be obvious to me.
Ive become so obsessed with just pulling, that i havent pulled at all.
I had 3 new girls last month, and this month, NONE. we all have our dry spells, but this one
is coming from me. And i have to work to get out of it, i even have some AA coming back.
thats so weird. i dont like it. its time to get back into the gym. The Game gym, and the real
gym... And to be congruent and reflect the sexy black man image that posh white woman
adore.
Ive also take all my best LRs and used a software audio program to make them into a audio
file I can listen to on my mp3 player.. this willl help me to see what im not doing anymore.
Part of this is probably cause I started a new job and it killed my mojo, and I am not sleeping
well. To adjust for this I will start going to 5a7 with Mathieu on Wednesday and Thursdays.
Clubs on Monday and Tuesday
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If it wasnt for the way they look and there ability to
manipulate man, I think the female would be extinct.
cut them loose and let them go. The whole idea of dates is stupid. When its
time for a job interview, have you ever herd of the job interview leaving the
office to come and see you? No.
A female can be smart and intelligent in the workplace, and
do dome logical thinking, but outside of those moments she is a hyprictical
creature by nature. A female can commit to something wholeheartedly and in the
next moment feel like she owes no explanation or phone call. If a dude were to
do that to you , you could say dude, thats fucked up and the guy would say
to you my bad. This honor system doest exist with females.
With that said the best way to get a female, is to give her
no part of you.
put a label on any of them as being good or bad. Women are not centered, decisive,
purposeful or strong in the sense that men are built to be.
But at the same time, they are emotional, more socially aware, caring for other peoples
feelings and built to understand and care for a childs needs without verbal communication.
There's a purpose for all of us and even though they respond to different behavior, I wouldn't
say that women are "addicted to pain". It's emotional spikes none the less. And WHY they
value it so much so as to enter and stay in an abusive situation, we can't label without being
in their bodies and understanding THEIR experience of the world.
For us emotional spikes, instability and the commotion that enters our lives when allowing
women to be in them, is sort of disturbing. We take no particular pleasure from it. But it's
also something that challenges us to step up and really root ourselves amidst the storm.
Sure, you can keep relationships with women to a 30 min. maximum and have several of
those. Which is TOTALLY fine. For each his own. For me I see the longer sort of relationships
as an interesting challenge in and of themselves.
Cuz sure, it's manageable to be centered, confident and on your purpose when you deal with
only yourself. But doesn't the real test of our masculinity come amidst the storm of female
polarity? Is it not something that, once conquered, makes us feel more alive and stronger...
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A few thoughts after some chapters in the Book IRON JOHN:
Dont confuse the self-centered and assured goddess you see on a young girls face with the
ultimate goddess. As you get to know this woman, you will see the idea that you are in love
with she dose not possess. And you will find the next woman to fill this burning desire for the
goddess. This in it self is a sign of immaturity in a male. Unconscious chasing the
Unconscious.
The Eternal Twin with the golden hair: Our eternal twin always knows, and is the collective
wisdom of our generations and lives through out instincts. You always know what to do.
The Warrior Energy: In our society in young males is often killed at a young age. But the
warrior energy is not something you must learn. Is always there ready to be lived out, the
question is will you listen to it in those times?
You do not step into a womans space. You create the room for woman to deal with you, you
dictate how and when.
When a woman questions or dislikes your behavior and you react to what she is saying
bitterly, it reflects negatively on you. Even if she is wrong in the first place.
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love you. I mean the dont really love YOU. So it next to impossible to respect them. Ive been
feeling a little fucked up lately. Thats because I have been used by girls for my
networking. Lots of beautiful woman ask how my day is going, or want to hang out, only
then to spin it into a business meeting. That hurts, to be used like that. For people to not
really care about you, but to be interested in what they can benefit from being around you.
Im talking bout real love. Like me personally, I have only loved 5 woman. And thats kinda
weird considering im in my late 20s now. Like I have only had 5 real GFs. Considering I have
been intimate in some way with about 100 woman.
I know girls that have 12 BFs by the time they are 22. But love and happiness doesnt seem
to shine on me as lucky as it shines on some people. Ive been thinking lately that I am TOO
different. Like love is not meant for me, like my life is meant to give a s a sacrifice for the
growth of myself and those around me. Like a Ghandi or something, but not in a religious
way. That my life is not for personal pleasures but for pain. And to be an example for
others. Thats why love escapes me. Its not meant for me. Its not my destiny. Love is
something for me to admire from afar, but not be a part of. I'm just never been lucky in the
love department. It seems to be beyond all my control. Probably has something to do with
me being a weird guy combined with the fact that im super smart. IQ 134. so I cant be
around retarded people, but I cant be with smart unemotional people also. It only leaves a
small percentage of girls I can be in a real relationship with. A very small percentage that we
can click soul to soul effortlessly. I can vibe with ANYONE, but it takes emotional energy.
Anyways
Valentines has got me a little down. I tell my self I wont buy in to the public anxiety, but its
hard to avoid it. I think players want to be in love. Most of them anyways. They want to
experience that feeling so they are forever searching for the perfect goddess. But she is
never to be found instead we find flawed females in perfect makeup and clothing. They are
not fair or even smart. Most often they are just creatures that are alive.
Ive been thinking more and more these days, game is not something you do to make a girl
attracted.
Its like game is you. You are game.
The girl is attracted to you for whatever random reasons, and game is just amplifying that
attraction.
Its not like game helps you to make girls who dont like you attracted.
Thats counter productive and hurtful to you self.
Its much better to just find the girls you click with, game them, and make it happen.
You dont game the girl into liking you.
She likes you anyways, and game is just a tool to make it happen.
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At the MMI Seminar, one of the ideas I had was to keep a financial success journal. The same
one I would keep a FR and LR journal. If I do this my strengths and financial sticking points
will coming light and I will also help me in many ways I probably cant even imagine now I
love learning and I look forward to sharing my discoverys.
Feb 16th 2011
The way you do anything, is the way you do everything T. Harv eker
If thats true, then Im willing to start paying more attention to my finances. Working in
finance I have realized that the really rich people I encounter know everything about their
money, they even know country conversion fess. However the spenders try to be care free,
which mean a lack of detail. So if the way I do anything is the way I do everything, then I am
will to pay deeper attention to things I do the over looked things.
Incorporate 20 mins of money management into morning ritual. This will set my mind right
for the day
Brush teeth for full 2 minis timer on my electronic tooth brush in the morning. Habits that
will affect me for the rest of my life. Also will set up night ritual where I give attention to
detail to winding down. Shower etc.
Wash my ass utterly. Think about it
survive. The New rich minds work as overseers that should be paid for their capabilitys and
there ability to bring the product or project to the next level. This determines their
compensation. The utilization of their abilitys.
The general black man is not meant to be kept down in society. But with his mentality its
just impossible for him to prosper. And not matte how hard he tries, with his viewpoint of the
world its impossible for him to succeed. And for that reason a young black male might feel
like the financial system is against him. He doesnt have the mental blueprint for the money
game.
Rich people laugh at money, its a game to them, its chess that they watch from a 10,000
birds eye view. But not passively, with action. Money is not related to weight but freedom,
and at the same time they love there money, there thoughts, actions, and behaviors are
geared to be excessive and overcome.
Its almost as if it were in there DNA.
If you dont have the skill, that part can be cultivated.
They are convinced in there actions whole heartedly.
You must be around it regularly to understand and install it.
March 16 2011
Working sucks.
Well working for someone else
I hate having to use social dynamics in the work place. I feel like a work place is also a place
I make friendship and in my really life I would never game my friends.
It seems like in a corporate environment they are always are trying to encourage team
bonding and outings and all that bullshit. But I remember old jobs where I got fired. All those
hours spent bonding with people pretty much means nothing after you are out of the clan.
Its hard to get to be close to our boss. Cause eventually in some way your boss is gonna be
a dick. And thats what a lot of bosses feel the need to do. And in a lot of ways as a
employee you may feel the need to beta your self. Which kills your warrior spirit. The
independent and rebellious side of a man starts to die out when he is taking instruction, not
guidance from another person for 40 hours a week. Telling you when to eat, when to talk
etc. im pretty sure that shit fucks with your spirit. Your boss wants you to listen to them, and
not get overly ambitions. Basically Bosses are Bosses.
In our society were get a good job and we work hard for the company, because thats what
good people do. Yet, I have 2 roommates who are financial free making passive income in
the range of $3000-$15,000 a month. They are both younger then me, yet if I were to tell an
older adult like my mother or something it would sound like a silly story to them. Eventually
we have to break free of the mindsets our parents gave us. I mean, were so fucking
conditioned man! We wake up, and put on our nice clothes to get on a metro or bus with 100
other people who are in the same Ratrace. Talk about group heard theory man
Right now in my day job im up for a promotion. Which basically means proving im worth
the extra pay. Which basically feels like trying to prove to a girl that youre a awesome guy
to get into her pants. Which sucks cause you never know if you will actually receive what
you want at the end of all that effort. It seems like the best I dea would be to mindfuck
everybody in the work place so that they are scared of loosing you and having them feel
that you are higher value. That seems like the best way to negotiate a raise. Mind games.
Lol
I have a friend who is soooo good at controlling his bosses. He always can figure out his
bosses archtype. He knows how they think. How to pad their Egos and how to get what he
wants with little resistance. But me, man when I get into a job I start loosing my awareness.
Any thoughts on social dynamics in the workplace?
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Just came back from a club, and witnessed the sickest player I have seen in a long time. Saw
him from across the room and moved in to watch him work the girls he was with. It reminded
me what it looks like to be a sexy male. Like we all know what a sexy woman looks like, but
what a sexy male looks like. How he moves how he angles, how he vibes, how he smiles
how a sexy male points while dancing. Its unmistakable. And I have not seen it a while I
forgot what it looked like in my self. I have been hanging out with guys who know game and
have there own charismas. But I forgot what a obvious, player, I will fuck you good and you
can tell by my smile type of charisma is like. You have to see it to understand it. And once
you see it you try to keep that energy.
At first I thought this dude was possibly gay the way he was dancing like Jon Travolta with
the girls. He looked middle eastern/euro, but he rocked and kept adjusting his fitted cap, not
in a gay way, but with swagger. Undeniable and inexcusable swagger. After he charmed the
woman he went to get his boys. Who all know who he was. Then I met him by the bathrooms
and told him he had swagger. He tells me he is from France and we shake. They take of
shake where game recognize game and you are just happy to have a monument with a
likeminded dude. We talk about culture and im almost thinking I wanna invite this guy to the
RSD meeting/event we will b having this week , but just then a hottie he was dancing with
sneaks out the barroom and his radar pick her up. He slides to the corner and she hugs him,
like she never wanted to loose him. This is game, and this is what being a sexy man should
look like. It was just right, and I was like duh. Of course she is gonna wrap her arms around
and embrace him with all her might. How could she not. This was not being cool. This was
next level sexycool. It reminded me of my game 3 years ago. I dated hotter girls then I am
now, but I knew less game. So then what happened I had experiences, and I learned
what type of girl I could not have. Experiences shaped my neurological pathways and told
me what kind of guy I am, what I am worth of, and how attractive I could be. It also told me
how sexy I could be based on how much muscle I have and how well I m dressed. Or who
likes me etc. Its like this guy just knew ti with out a doubt that he was sexy. Not cool, or cute
or trying to pick a girl up. He knew that he was sexy.
After our little interaction my vibe changed, I remember how I used to be and what that
looked and felt like. To be absorbed in my own sexuality. For so long, maybe 2 years, I have
been fighting being a player and I didnt like how I hurt girls or how I could not find love.
But I realize now that its a part of me. Like just down to the root. And I should not judge it or
hide it. If I enjoyed it and absorbed it, I would look like this dude as I strolled through a room.
I remembered what it was like to be a baby in the game. To not have the game or any of the
1000s of approaches wear you down and make you feel like you have a weight of all these
approaches and no successes. That hurts, and for the next 1 hour I was able to let it go
completely. Like I rest my approaches back to #1. and everything changed. Woman who
were not interested stayed a little longer and got slightly excited, girl who walked off, calmly
herd me say what wrong with you then stopped and looking up saying sorry. Its was like I
was just too fucking cool. Cooler then everyone, and this was not something I needed to
prove. Its something I just knew.
Welcome back this part of Madison, its been a while, we have missed you.
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Heavy kills most pulling. Because you are a forgone conclusion and they girl can anticipate
what will happen next. She can tell what will happen if she leaves with a random dude buy
how you act. If she cannot logical accept fucking you, then kino might get you good
reactions, and makout, but not a pull with no resistance. And thats what I like, non
resistance pulls. Heavy Kino is great for fast 10 min pulls and drunk chicks. Not for groups of
girls having a ladies night out.
High Value men dont need to Kino, they just need to show they are indifferent.
A girl just has to know you are nto intimidated by her. That can be communicated in many
ways I wont get into here. But once she believes you have more Value then her you dont
need to kino.
And I also advise against making out. Making out is only pumping Buying temperature for
DTF girls. A slight small 4 second kiss with no tongue is better. Maybe a few throughout the
night.
Anyway I could say a lot more about this but im kinda lazy right now, so just go out and be
cooler then the girl and try to pull how I recommended
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The Kick
The First
Perspective thats what you gain.
I became very sure about who I was not, and who I wont be.
But in the moment I lost all control of what I was, and what I could do.
I didnt like the feeling of no knowing what I was thinking, and being unable to finish a
thought.
That scared me, which then made me panic and not able to breathe.
It was a feeling of being nauseated, dizzy, hot on the inside with cold skin.
Every emotion extreme with no control over it.
Over happy, over anxious.
Anxiety attack until the point it freezes your heart and you cant feel it beating.
Anxiety to the point you dont know knowing.
T the point jumping of a balcony seemed like the only option.
Some people like this? What is there to like.
A chance to be different. Feel different emotions?
I wouldnt even call them emotions, cause in the moment your awareness of where you are
is tainted.
The only think I liked was the gained perspective.
My purpose has never changed.
Who I am meant to be, who I am not.
I am sure of that now.
And because of that I am more centered.
My soul is at ease with this new certainty.
I learned that to escape pain is not a pleasure.
To face the pain or bathe in the pain is design.
Not to be absorbed in the pain is a destructive way.
But to observe the pain form a outside perspective, like a movie on a screen.
Dont I identify with the pain.
Pain is a gift, its not negative, just the opposite side of the spectrum of the gift that is
senses.
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RAISE YOUR STANDARDS
Anthonny Robbins Youtube
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Been falling off the wagon lately. Here are my Goals for June to July 1st:
I seen to have no physical or emotional energy these days, I say a relationship would be
great but all the 9 smart super attractive woman are already involved. I probably dont
sleep or eat right, or be active, And I beast on tipsy girls in bars mostly lol. I have to go back
to my small rituals. Because willpower wont last, but rituals last a long time. Pain of
discipline vs. pain of regret
Pulling is not something you execute, its an opportunity you are given, and you blindly lead
the girl into it.
If you want the hottest girls, you MUST eventually take them off guys who are more
handsome and cooler. You can do this by making the girl REACT more to you more then
them . This is done smoothly by psychologically dominating the girl. Its hard to own
internally centered guys, so some simpleways make the girl react are push pull, C+F,
teasing, or putting pressure on the girl.
Once you get the girl in a solid isolation enjoinment. (Like your Bedroom, not car or
bathroom). Its better to give her a glass of wine and sit on your bed and talk to her for 20
mins before lying her down and going for the lay. This should also help retention and buyers
remorse afterwards.
Neck kisses are a necessary step for some girls before they will mouth kiss you.
Hotter woman are attracted to guys who try less. If you are not pulling hotter woman easily
its cause you are gaming too much. They can feel you doing it to them. Being able to be ur
self around a hot woman is sometimes enough for her to have an interest in talking to you .
Being ur self is expressing your thoughts, values, beliefs, likes, hates. Ex. I find your
cigarette smoke offensive. This is the full range of emotions she must experience to fall
for you. Fear and Love create the same chemical reaction in the body, bot shoot
phenylethylamine into the system
What you have done is your Journey, it makes you able to handle whats about to happen.
Self Trust.
Ive pulled girls in 15 mins, and lost them cause they were not ready to fuck in 16 mins. Just
because she is at my house in 15 mins, doesnt mean she is ready. She may still require 1
hour of comfort talk at my house.
To experience the feeling of love a woman needs to: A, feel you are similar and understand
her. B, See her in the way she sees herself, or longs to be perceived. C, are in unison with
her longings, hopes, and dreams.
In the act of trying to preserve attraction, you loose attraction. Just let her go.
If youre having problems setting up Dates with 8s, 9s, or 10s. Its probably cause you
dont know what her hobbys, dreams, and talents are. If you did, you could set up the date
around something that already fits into her lifestyle. That way there would be less resistance
to see you. Beautiful woman get offered dates ever day. She cannot spend hours meeting
random met for drinks every day.
Social circle game is about you repeatedly attracting a girl so strongly that she wants to fuck
you, not you perusing a girl.
Every girl will do what you want, if you tell her the right thing, you just have to know what it
is.
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Frustration by Paul Jenka
As a man, you have two choices: the comfort and convenience of a committed relationship,
or the uncertainty and excitement of the single life. If you choose the latter, you need to
come to terms with an emotion that can bedevil you if youre not careful: frustration.
Depending on your appetite and the rotation you employ, you may be seeing quite a
number of girls per week. This is the benefit of learning how to pick up women. Carefree,
fun, light and full of variety thats abundance at its best.
However, even the most seasoned player needs to deal with frustration because women can
behave in a particularly irresponsible manner when they know things are casual. Of course,
it depends on the girl, but many women feel entitled to break plans at the last minute, to be
annoyingly vague or to be old-fashioned teases. I discuss strategies for mitigating this in
Attraction Formula, but nothing is 100%. Youll find yourself up against a wall sometimes,
chasing smoke. Even the best of us do it. However, over time, youll learn to ferret out timewasters and other false-starts.
The worst thing you can do when youre frustrated and I still do this, too frequently is to
act out. That means sending a mean or insulting text, or making a strongly sexual
comment (my strategy) in a last-ditch effort to get her attention. This rarely works. The best
strategy if you want to sexually enjoy the most women is to remain cool-headed and have a
nonchalant attitude. This is easier said than done, because if youre excited to sleep with a
woman, its extremely frustrating when things fall apart.
A good part of the solution is to have a deep inventory so that you always have ten girls in
play on a given night. Youll definitely get laid that way maybe not by the girl you really
want but at least you wont be going ape-shit-batty! Also, knowing how to meet new girls
greatly reduces the stress that a single girl can cause
It seems that frustration is the price a man pays for the excitement of single life. Many men,
its my belief, ultimately settle into a workable relationship because they havent mastered
the single life. In my opinion, thats a bit backward; it makes more sense to retire once
youve understood how to play the game most effectively (each man has a different
potential). In the early stages of the hustle, the war-path is littered with false-starts, missed
opportunities and should haves As you hone your skills and really learn how to meet
women in large numbers, how to effectively pipeline your dating schedule and how to
manage a working inventory, youll encounter frustration less frequently. I cover all these
issues and strategies in Attraction Formula. Though it may decrease, frustration with the
fickle female will never entirely dissolve. As a mans libido wanes I think this can happen
naturally, but thats cold comfort to a virile man with fire in his loins.
So, keep your head up high and eventually youll master the art of picking up women. I
came before so you should get up the learning curve faster than I did, because Ive done a
lot of the work for you. Also, expect that the initial phase can be frustrating, but once youre
had a taste of female abundance youll not only pursue the course more vigorously, but
handle the occasional frustration more gracefully.
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Its weird. I didnt think that at this stage in my game this SP would come up again. Its super
old, and I defeated it like a year and a half ago. But no its come back in some weird mutated
way. They adapted like a virus that has figured out away around my immune system.
There is a New Weed in my mental Garden
I got lazy and let my mental garden get filled with a few weeds. They were slow to grow. And
somehow snuck up on me and I didnt even realize they were there.
I dont approach the Hotties in Daytime anymore.
Retard.
Which is crazy, because I have had 40% of my FB come from daytime approaches.
I seem to have developed a Ego based on the fact that I have been with a triple digit number
of girls, which is more than anyone I personally know. Not a cocky Ego or anything, just the
fact that I dont want to approach and suck badly. I dont want to be bad, for someone who
should be this good.almost like im too good, to do badly.
I am no longer a man of action.
I dont want to approach if I dont think I will get the desired result. And the desired result is
not a good interaction or phone number, my desired result is having a mega supper hottie,
with perfect skin, mind and sense of humor in my life.
There is also a conflict in me. I dont get nearly enough 9s. My subconscious is like How
can you be this good and not get 9s?!?!?!? Well maybe you just cant. How bout that, huh?
Take that mr. mpua!
Possible Solutionzzz:
i. - Just because I didnt have many 9s in the past, doesnt mean I wont have them now. I
am a different man now then I was even last year.
ii. - Identify with being a man of action, and not the results I getfor now.
iii. - Roll hard on the hotties, vibe, tease, and have them fall into my frame of authority, and
have them seek my validation.
Then just let everything work it self out over time.
ix. -Handel a situation she is having in the moment. Take the lead in what she is doing
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interesting conversations. What follows is what happenings inside the mind of o woman
when you call her.
Were sitting in her car and her sell phone rings.
*Ring ring ring.* oh no, its mark, she says.
She tells me its a guy she gave her number to a few weeks ago and he has been asking her
out on dates for like 2 weeks. She told him that she would meet up with him tonight at a
club, even thou she had no intention of meeting up with him because she was chilling with
her sister.
She picks up the phone and talks to mark in the sweetest voice I have ever herd. The kind of
voice where if you were a guy on the other end of the phone you would this she IS
interested. Mark ask where she is. She says downtown. Mark ask why she did not come and
see him. She says she was busy. He ask if shes alone, she says no. He gets ruffled and stalsl
and hang up the phone.
So here is the million doller question I ask her WHY DONT YOU JUST TELL MARK YOU ARE
NOT INTRESTED?
She says get this I can only be a complete bitch, or very nice to people, I dont know
how to be in the middle. And he is a nice guy, so I dont want to be a bitch. So I dont tell
him no when he wants to meet up. I am just always busy Fucked up eh. She is
unintentionally, and yet also intentionally leading him on.
I say you have to tell him no, because other wise he will think he just has to work harder
and he will have a chance she is surprised by this.. girls really dont see it this way. They
just think if they are busy, and continue to accept your advance that you will get the point
Personally this is why I never invite a girl out to met me more then 2 times. I tell girls this,
and explain that if she is curious she can invite me out too.
We talk more and she tells me that her sister is fat and like a 5, and can have any guy she
wants in the club. My girl is mad, because she is a 7 and says she cant have any guy, and
that if she wants a guy and focus on him, he will get scared and she will not get the men she
really wants. And it pisses her off!
She also tells me that guys talk to her, and dont realize that they are the 7th guy of the
night to hit on her. Most girl that go to clubs are just there to feel the attention and reject.
They just want to feel wanted. But they already plan to go home alone. If she is cold its for
that exact reason, she tells me that physical compliments DO NOT work on her because she
was born that way, its all genetics luck. It has nothing to do with her. Whats more impact
full is if you say you like her energy, style, or her make-up because she worked on that.
She says that all girls are confused, at all times. They never go to a club to fuck a guy. If a
girl does go to fuck a guy in a club she is gonna to fuck you based on you fitting her type or
archtype. If a girl does give a man a chance, she is not thinking I wanna fuck this man she
is just thinking ok we will talk. She says that girls have no motivation behind talking and that
a girl can talk to you forever without needing it to go somewhere. Girls are always wondering
what is your motivation to talk to them.
She says is always confused, before she fucks him, and even after.
She tells me that she has problems, money, finance, and family, and 1 week of the month
guys are too much to deal with. So when a guy starts getting demanding or asking to man y
questions when she is on her period, its too much to handle, and she will blow him off. She
doesnt know why, and she is sorry she doesnt it. Its not you, its her.
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The issue with that is that when there is constantly a new headspace or belief system
coming out every 2 weeks, you dont have enough time to internalize the old ones before
your hit with the new ones. This just ends up in having followers that are mindfucked.
Moreover, how do you tell someone you are enough when he has been himself his whole
life and not gotten the success he imagines. How do you tell someone he is enough when
he only gets one night stands and cant keep a girl. There are no references in his life to
support this new idea.
The major problem is that RSD dose not give any processes or formats to implement new
belifs. Because sometimes just going out is not enough.
I had a bout of this recently with some new concepts I am trying to internalize. But these
new concepts are exact polor opposites of beliefs that I have internally. So it just creates an
exhausting emotional battle inside. During this process its very easy to feel tired. Because
throughout the day my mind is wrestling back and forth, fighting its self.
I do, I dont, I will, no I cant. Etc. With no solid life experiences to say this new information is
true.
Like suppose you have a ceiling, and you have only ever fucked cute girls by being the "fun
life of the party". How do you then internalize being Icey?
Back to my example of you are enough. The pain body and social conditioning will not let
you believe this. When you go out to the club and you see tanned eastern European guys
with all the beautiful woman and you are a 5,3 Asian man. How can your mind fight this?
Honestly, when you look at the facts in front of you. And what about all your rejections you
had that week. How can your mind internalize the new way of thinking you are enough?
To move through this process, must a student say, fuck rsd, quit the main forum, and just
think for them selfs? Lockdown mode until the dust settles. If you need people to change
beliefs for a pickup system to work, you must give them a clear repeatable process to do so.
-Fin Part 1
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you confidence when you are not doing well, you think to your self, ive done well before, I
can pick my self out this slump, and I can do it again. But when you have really long
droughts, with sub par success, you start to doubt WHO YOU ARE.
Even having a belief like being an advanced guy starts to create self pressure.
I have been feeling a lot of self pressure lately, as ive started to become more noticeable,
and credible with pickup. And all that self pressure sneaks in the back door. You dont even
realize it. Its like having a identity crisis. Because on the outside you are a pimp. You can
successfully pick up most girls. But internally you know you cant get every girl, or even
some of the ones you really want. Its worse then being a chode who can get any girl.
One of my aspirations was to be one of the best. I know without a doubt that I have the
passion, motivation, intelligence and ability to be that if I wish. However im starting to
realize this if a foolish goal, cause it will always require comparing my self to others. A
healthier goal might be to reach my full potential. Alexander recently told me I am at 60%
of my total potential.
Cool right, lots of room to get even better,. right.
Not so much.
Cause I have no idea how to get that much better.
Its like playing a game of connecting the dots in the dark. There is no roadmap at this stage.
Do you learn from your self? Cause our minds have blind spots lie to us all the time, and we
dont even realize it.
What is required to get more of the hotter girl?, more emotionally maturity, or just a sicker
skill set.
I get a few of the hotter classy posh girls. Not most, I am not the preference of the archtype
of girls I prefer. Talk about going against the grain. Gezzz
My goal is to clear my mind and forget everything, and just live the questions
Go to Vegas World Summit, and be a free sprit. Try not to understand, just trust my skills,
and live up the moment.
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Paris BOOM BOOM
RSD advocates "being not doing", it's not something you do it's something you are.
But on the other hand RSD also says "it's all about the process", "we're all cut from the same
cloth", "everybody starts equal at the start of the night", so it's not something you are it's
something you do.
This apparent contradiction is the source of problems you can face when you are actually
out in the field. You fucked 100+ girls so you should be a pimp all the time, right. But
because of that you don't follow the process anymore, you "don't want to look bad", so
you're not a man of action anymore. As a result you're not as successful.
But if you were to identify yourself with being a man of action, and not think about the fact
you fucked 100+ girls, you may be afraid to lose your confidence.
That's because you don't want to be "that guy" anymore, the guy with less success, and
fucked up views about relationships between men and women. So you don't want to let go
that new pimp identity.
And even if you were ready to, you would realize there would be no end to this. Action,
action, action... doing not being... you're not closer to being a naturally attractive man
anymore.
(That's my way of understanding what you wrote above).
So what is the solution ?
-Maybe check the fundamentals. Are you really unaffected by a hot girl blowing you off ? Or
worse (lol), by a supbar girl blowing you off ? Is your sense of self challenged when that
happens ? If this is the case, maybe go on a blow off rampage until it fades out. (That's what
I'm starting to do these days)
-Maybe you are still approaching the girls you really want with some mindsets of when you
were a chode. On the surface you're a pimp, but on the inside you can't help thinking /
emotionally reacting in ways that originates in the chode you were before. It doesn't happen
all the time, in fact it may never happen, except when you meet your special princess. If this
is the case, a good start would be to list those mindsets out.
-Maybe put the forums and rsd on hold for 3-6 months.
No naturally attractive guy thinks so much about how to pick up chicks the way we do
here. They're more obsessed by the girls than by the results, whereas on the forums people
focus more on the results (ie "I have to get past the 50 / 100 / 200 girls mark"). It will make
you think less about it, or in a more natural way.
You'll get less game-induced negativity, and this can improve results. By game-induced
negativity I mean all those negative emotions you get in the field that don't come from what
happens, but by what should happen (and doesn't) being given the knowledge / skills you
have. Like you become all emotional and negative because you didn't get laid by a new girl
this week, or the girls you fucked are not 9s, so instead of thinking "yay, I fuck new girls all
the time", you think "fuck it I'm fake I only fuck subpar girls what's wrong with me", and as a
consequence of negativity you become more reactive and you start to suck at night.
-Maybe check the reasons you are into this.
-Maybe spend some time with instructors, to see how they deal with that contradiction.
-Or maybe you're just tired, so go on holidays without internet and you'll come back a
BEAST that pulls SMOXXSHOWZ lol
All ze best.
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Before Vegas.
Before I felt I was in a little slump. Maybe doing 10 approachs a week. I was struggelign with
the fact that I had skills but not my idea female situation, not enough FBs or a GF. It botherd
me that I did not know what the next step would be. How could I get any better, when there
was no one localy to teach me what was missing. I was excited to use Summit as a tool to
install new minsets and figure out what my road map would be for the future.
After Vegas
I am taking action but im not internally dialed in to where I could be. I am comparing my
self to instructors and the road I have ahead of me to grow to that level. Its a little
intimidating, I have all the skill I need. Its more of a personal, character, standards,
boundaries, and fear development from here on.
Since my 4 Vegas pulls, I had a little relapse, being afraid to be venerable and I felt the need
to maintain my identity. I actually suffered with this in Vegas to. I would pull Sunday, and
then could not even hook on Monday.
I miss the Vegas me. Easily excited, creative, and full of Zest.
But im back at work now, i just want to be a pimping it up with ladies all day, but instead i
am being a chode. i feel like i just got off drugs.
Leter to Myself...
Hey Me, whats up. Tying to get you shit together, thats good. Props for that. But like your friend Dan said. that is the
danger of self help, you are never enough and always trying to correct. It can be a bad pattern/ habit. I herd you are
going hard on your self since Vegas, wanna keep that success going. Pretty sure more pressure Is not what you need
Madison. Learn to get all the hot girls and you will get that 1. I guess its normal that ur bumbed out, its been a whle
since you had a GF. Well there is the old saying that says you dont get what you want, you get the feedback you
need. Do what you know is true for you and works for you with hotter woman. Your more maturely rounded now, so
what things you were not too good at before should improve much better now. So keep walking
You already know that you get less physical enought with with 8s and 9s
You already know that you dont go sexual on 8s and 9s
Tell these 7s whats up if they go against how I like to live my relationships
All you need to do is take a break form RSDnation this month and focus on being you. The you who gets laid. That
can jack some swaggers form time to time
Just chill and work on this stuff in your down time, not at work. It takes up to much of your emotional energy. And you
will just feel tired all the time. Even though you might not actively be doing anything the engine is still burning coal
and energy.
MINDSETS:
Not thinking how can I get her to like me, im thinking how can I fit her into the mold of what
I want
Force a reaction, do not let her not react
I have spent X #of years learning to be good with girls, Value is my passion and life. I am not
getting anything from them, I am offering them q massive amount of value. She is a 21 year
old whos biggest accomplishment is matching her shoes to her underwear.
Any girl you are capable of getting, you are capable of getting again. She is a replaceable
part of yourself improvement process
It doesnt matter if I get this one. It matters if I get to the level where I can effectively get
this caliber of woman
Whomever has the stronger belief wins
She has the choice of your value, but be willing to walk away. Be secure in your value
Not conservative, act like ive never been told no
ADVICE:
Book: Influence by Robert B. Cialdini
To have sex a girl needs value + comfort
If you get blown out, you can always recover. A Set is never done because girls are state
based. You can always reopen due to social energy
Substitute high energy with dominance
Game based on the scene
Bait: dismissive, push away, tease
Eye contact is good for dominance
5 point game
Give a girl a little bit of the cookie, not the whole bit
Story of the girl in Todds acting class: offering 9s something different like a real connection,
encourage them.
Investment is emotional
Intrigue game: Dont deliver what she is interested in
Make your style of game thats congruent to the fun and what you want
Physical connection vs. Physical escalation. Physical connection is sitting on lap, nibbling,
forehead resting on forehead
Create commitment form the girl so that she has to rationalize her interest
Every girl wants the guy she doesnt deserve, But also wants to be protected.
Teach the girl about a subject you are a authority on
Comfort is: Teaching, Sharing, common communication Madison
Invite the girl out on a unique experience date that is your unique niche
When we walk over to a girl we act like the man who has everything, we use the
mannerisms
Woman respond to markers of status, not the actual status its self
DRILLS:
The Authority Improve game
If this is true, what else would be true
QUOTES:
The what would I do if she was already my girlfriend opener- Honey I thought you were
home studying, you here at the club to get your swerve on huh ok 2 can play that game
your so bad etc
Aww you like me
Hi, im ___ , I wanna date you and 5 other girls
Ok little brat, thats cute, run along now
Oh you have ___, I guess you have been excessively infused by gender stereotypes and cant
think critically for your self.
Thats cute, your trying to assert your womanhood into the world
You can fuck off now, goodbye, you can leave ( When a girl dose the wrong thing)
What the fuck, did your mother not teach you social courtesy, what is this (Force a reaction,
do not let her not react )
As much as. I want you to be chill can you do that for me? (compliance)
You know what, you seed so genuine before but now you seem like your full of bullshit
thats a shame
Have her sell herself: Do you believe that as long as were together im going to take care of
you
Babe why are you acting like___ I like it when you act like ____
If im not providing something that you need, you can get it from him, I just want you to be
happy. Honestly I like you and that doesnt change anything for me, well have a good time
Hesitation game: Oh you surprise me, I cant believe you, I didnt think you were gonna be
like this,
A man that has not properly learned to get you form scratch should not be allowed to fuck
you
ALEXANDER: RELAXATION
MINDSETS:
Arousal is a girl being excited and scared by you
Seek to influence the girl
Walk around the club and get your influence on
The greatest misconception is not that your game is shit, but that you are intimidating them.
Do not try to pick them up. But bring them to your level.
Her: This guys is cool, relaxed, influence, and creative. She thinks, is this guy even
interested? The girl will grow into your mold.
If you come from a cool relaxed place, the range of whats acceptable to talk about expands.
If you are an Alpha, or a man of value, compliments should be meaningless to you and
insults should be meaningless to you.
(compliment) I am just a man, (insult) I am a man meaningless
ADVICE:
Everyone one will disappoint you, you must become the creator
When you bring a girl home, instead of dealing with LRM have fun with it and do the
unexpected to the point she wonders if you even want her.
Seek to express you self. Do what you want
Tapping your feet will keep you in a biological trigger to get you creating. Shrugging your
shoulders too.
Relaxation = You get board = you create = you Influencing = you complimenting or teasing
The frame battle is won by time stand off
Your smile should be a smile at the potential of whats going to happen.
Isolate by saying you feet hurt, or when hers do - This is not the cool thing anymore get
some photos, take photos, get some bullshit hats were all gonna crash here then sex
Lead your self.
She can read your intention and that you are your own man. Go to the beat of your own
drum, freely following your own spirit.
Make your moves in a isolated place. The club is where you build influence and curiosity
QUOTES:
Excuse me, how is your day. Have you fulfilled you news years resolutions?
MINDSETS:
Gaming is chasing, Gaming is trying, Gaming is hoping
Sweetheart, your smarter than that, dont mess this up.
Im not the guy you try to get a drink out of, im the guy you try to get a life out of.
Communicate I am not like other guys, and I need her to be different cause im not the first
guy to hit on her that night.
I am not like other guys, I am a unique and special snowflake, a guy like me is not gonna
come across again communicate this.
If you play the hand and game that everyone else plays you will loose, go outside that box
and tell her to come outside that box with you.
Approach slowly: less content in less time, your approach should be to under-wow her. If
you are important, they will wait.
I liked that I picked you
Taking responsibility for your world. React or define your world, will define the natures of
interactions around you.
Actively communicate your expectations of what you want form a girl, and how you will
enhance her life.
Have a strong ability to communicate intensely more then anyone else PERIOD.
ADVICE:
Logistics, physicality and smiling are enough to get you laid sometimes.
What is your value proposition.
When you start being the value proposition that girls would be foolish not to choose you.
As long as the girl is your highest priority, then how can she feel like she is winning with you
Articulate things that are more valuable to the girl then her. Communicate how she many
benefit from YOU. So she can think about how she doesnt have that in her life right now.
When faced with a choice, ask myself: Do what feels good.
Verbals should be: Cool, add value, what I expect, or want to do. Anything more can kill
emotion of situation - madison
A lot of verbal game is spinning your wheels
Dont lash out at girls who reject you. Just express that your are busy now with life and you
started dating and you are can hang out soon.
Play by your own rules.
NEVER go for a meetup through text, or send a text that requires a response.
Story of the 19 year old in Vegas who wanted to hook up with the make ford model
reframed that it would be foolish for her to not see things from Ryans standards.
DRILLS:
3 types of communication:
1-Impersonal factual
2- Personal factual
3- Personal emotional. This is the type that makes a connection ( I was like,. You know
how sometimes I felt)
QUOTES:
Drawn-out pimp talk: I appreciate your nice outfit, I need girls to know my girl has it
together, my girls deserves the best, she can settle. When people see my girl is focus there
gonna know Im focused, my girl must have standards. (actively dictate lifestyle and
expectations)
Take my number: I dont need your number, you are right, I dont ever wanna be in a
situation that you are not here
I like you this much (show fingers) how much do you like me (compliance that you like each
other)
I liked you and now im upset cause you took that away form me and now im like BLAH about
you
Reframing her actions to your standards ( You can be ____ and you can be ____, but if you
want, its not good in this way____)
ADVICE:
Make your life a positive reframe in everything you do.
A lot of times your sticking point is related to your SELF DOUBT.
Convey value through sloppy approaches. Brad like the approaches that are not perfect.
(Stumble, drink falls, stand up calmly and be like excuse me, do you like tomatoes
Her consistently seeing you being consistent is what makes her like you
The byproduct of entitlement is indifference
Momentum can be a cheat code to help you get indifference
Observe your self with girls you are already entitled to. Then act like yourself with all girls.
Dont calibrate to the girl, calibrate to the directness of the pickup/approach
Whenever something that is happening that you do not expect or like, behave like a CEO
would. You are the CEO of your own world.
Use time to reframe importance of situations
Positivity is a choice
Interview mode should be a inside joke to you use it to self amuse
If she says her legs are sore, use that as an opportunity to isolate and go sit down together
NEVER break eye contact in silence
If you frame is stronger, active disinterest wont matter as much with hotter girls anymore
QUOTES:
Hey, whats your name, your name, (mocking tone) English, (hand mocking a talking mouth)
look at the hand, its called flirting.
Excuse me, whats your name, cool, orange peels, yes, orange peels
You know how to party - Black shirt - Macaroni and cheese opener
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Conversations with Alexander
Its not character traits. He believes in roles that we play. We are not a certain way/ we are
jut used to playing those certain roles.
Analyzing is ridiculous. Just be in it or dont be in it. and cross that bridge when you come to
it. Otherwise its all speculation.
Easy excitement from everyday things. Cut threads that kill the vibe.
He agrees that quick fucks make harder retention for relationships
The final stages of game are not about that. Its more like personal development and
certainty in your self regardless. If it can be done, I can do it. Extremely projective of own
positive thoughts.
Good emotions are not enough a gorgeous girl can get good emotions from anywhere. Its
important, even maybe more important that you strongly and intensively express your
negative emotions. A gorgeous woman cant get that because she rarely gets that from
people. She paradoxily respects that more
Me: The Situation and dynamic are more important then your cold approach.
Alex: I 100% agree. Contextual dynamic is the most important thing. Sometimes the girl cuts
her self on glass, and you do everything right. Sometimes the fung sheui in the room is off.
Alexanders question to me: Whats next for you?
Me: I cant learn anything, I just teach my self and make my own distinctions
I am 65% of the way there. Whats missing is not more game, Whats left is being more
comfortable with my self accepting and believing
Have fun with language and make your own saying Right on, ___ time, or get it in ya.
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Hotter Girls AnyoneAnyoneBueller...?
* The more you push the more you lose, like a carnival game.
* When a hot girl says Youre a handsome guy, you will find someone else soon What she
really means is that you were to focused on her and youve raised red flags,
* Neediness = Too much interest at THAT time.
* You lose most hot girls from being in-congruent. Its in-congruent for a cool man to be in
need, game, or chase a girl.
* So how is it done?
We are high value, so we must act high value Tim
Girls are Chodes
* If it wasnt for the way they look and their ability to manipulate man, some females would
be extinct.
* All girls will disappoint you; they will never meet your expectations for a human.
Alexander
* Men in our society
* Abundance comes from having standards from the girl. If you have standards for the girls
behavior, then you deserve her more than a guy who would accept whatever.
* Getting hotter woman is not a matter of game; its a matter of inner game, and all the shit
thats going on inside you
* In the act of trying to preserve attraction, you lose attraction. Just let her go.
* Negs, IODs, Active Disqualifier, = full range of negative emotions = you having standards
and boundaries
Hotter woman are attracted to guys who try less. If you are not pulling hotter woman easily
its cause you are gaming too much. They can feel you doing it to them. Being able to be
yourself around a hot woman is sometimes enough for her to have an interest in talking to
you. Being your self is expressing your thoughts, values, beliefs, likes, hates. Ex. I find your
cigarette smoke offensive. This is the full range of emotions she must experience to fall
for you. Fear and Love create the same chemical reaction in the body that shoots
phenylethylamine into the system
Personal power and understanding what true 9s and 10s screen for:
* Subjective firmness
* Do you nod or acknowledge when some says something I dont agree with
* too nice to people who intentionally disrespect you
* Keep my space when walking down the street I tend to move out the way so people dont
bump me e first, even when the clearly are taking up my path.
* Dont negotiate with terrorist (some woman are emotional terrorist with men, and use
status, image, or being a object of desire against them) Alexander
* Hot woman are not bold to venture outside their circle, because they dont have to.
* If youre having problems setting up Dates with 8s, 9s, or 10s. Its probably because you
dont know what her hobbys, dreams, and talents are.
* You need emotional maturity and emotional intelligence.
Game is not something you do to make a girl attracted. Its like game is you. You are game.
The girl is attracted to you for whatever random reasons, and game (the skill set) is just
amplifying that attraction. Its not like game helps you to make girls who dont like you
attracted. Thats counterproductive and hurtful to you self. Its much better to just find the
girls you click with, game them, and make it happen. You dont game the girl into liking you.
She likes you anyways, and game is just a tool to make it happen.
A Players World:
Frustration - its hard out here for a pimp.
Players Love to Love.
The Don Juan syndrome and me.
The guys who rack up numbers quickly figure out what girls like about them. And the type of
girl that respond to them.
Get in her head before you get in her bed. Marinate the meet before you eat.
Every girl will do what you want, if you tell her the right thing, you just have to know what it
is.
Dont listen to what she says; listen to what she does.
Pick your poision
A female wants to be outsmarted. Pimps give girls and off date where the gift is a day to be
with him.
Anybody can control a womans body, but a pimp controls her mind.
Pimps teach a girl how to mold herself.
They feel lots of pride to work hard for their man.
Even though there together hes not attached to her cause she rolls with other men = he is
secure in himself.
Pimps are masters of letting a womans imagination run by its self.
Its us against the world Sell her the dream.
They love the girl for what she does for them not for no reason.
Act accordingly when a trick gets out of pocket.
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me. That was like wow, I guess I do have some ways to grow. But I still was not sure HOW.
But I did realize that the Instructors had I higher level of emotional independence. No matter
what was happening, or what you said, good or bad, or no matter what a chick in the club
did, could not change how they felt in that moment. Some people were nice, and some
people were dicks, but they were all acting in alignment with there desires in that moment.
I think some time around that it hit me what it takes to go to your maximum potential. Its
emotional independence, and emotional maturity about your self. The mind must switch
from a place of I have to learn this and looking for acceptance of being good at game or
with girls. Too a place of constantly giving your self reassurance that you got this and you
already know. Constantly reassuring that you have this handled. Tyler said this is coming
for guys that have been with 100+ girls. A good visualization would be its almost like you
are finished coming up the hill, and now its a matter of taking out your toboggan and
enjoying the ride on the other side.
I recently got a piece of the Vegas Summit speech. It took awhile cause it was at Tylers
house in LA and I had to wait for it to get here. When I watched the video I could see a huge
change from even 2 months before when I gave a different speech. Like I was so at ease
WITH my self the difference was like night and day. And comparing that to the speech I
gave last week. Its like im a completely different person. Wow. I think teaching others helps
to solidify in your mind that you got this. The speeches I gave were totally a reflection of
my personal game style, and old school player mentalitys. No one else could offer this. It
reminded me of what I specialize in and what makes me different and unique. Not to
mention that I have now been given to ok to teach on bootcamps with another instructor
has also solidified it even more in my mind. Its a long wait to be an instructor, but I am in
that line.
This month I also quit my job, and moved to another company, I felt like my value was not
being given a fair trade for what I bring to the table at work. I have made some major life
changes in the month of October. I really do feel like that also helped me move in the right
direction in a powerful way.
I recently made a video of the hottest girls I have hooked up with and called it madisons
bragging rights as a validation joke. But watching the video helped to remind me of some
of the successes I have had. I was like damn there was THAT many hot chicks. Ok I
guess I AM the man. It also allowed me to get back to some of the old things I used to do like
take girls to Museums, mold them and give life advice, or make sexual jokes in daygame. So
I guess in a sense the emotional maturing has changed my outer game aswell.
I think at this point emotional maturity and coming of age is the new outer game.
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from elder men to boys who are turning into men is lost.
Simply put. Freemassonry is about the art of manhood. The science and craft of making
real men. Its not by chance that some of the greatest minds through out time were masons.
There are very big reasons for this. This is in no way by chance. Its natural that many that
aspire to operate on a higher frequency would gather together. I cannot comment about
what actually happens or the rituals. But I can say that before becoming a mason I read
hundreds of websites. And after I became I mason I was told 3 mason secrets. Out of all the
hundreds of website and videos on the internet. Only 2 of there were correct. Like 98% of
what you read is not correct or is only opinion.
To be very clear, I am NOT and advocate for Freemasonry. I do not think it is for the common
man. Many oaths that are made are not for people who would not be willing to keep them.
Are you confident? Are you confident around a lot of people?...what about a room full of
men. What about 40 men who are much older then you, Do you think they would value your
opinion or care about what you have to say. Could you resonate on the frequency of mature
men. What about if those men where high ranking and officials. What if you looked awful
when this was happening and your memory was failing you. Then could you operate at your
best state? See, its all a test. Ive learned to not try and compete with the environment or
situation, but to relax into my own funk. To be at one and comfortable with my nature. To
own myself.
One thing I have gotten from the working for it for 1 year to the memorization and
understanding of the core values, to the actual nerve destroying ritual. Even that Journey is
your reward. The Journey is what it means to work for something and be rewarded. The
information that is given to you in the first ritual is information that some males go a whole
lifetime without ever learning from their fathers. It is truly ancient knowledge.
I wish I could write more about what i was actually taught, however it is against the
constitution. But I also understand why the information is not shared publicly. See if I were to
sit you down and tell you everything of the first degree in 1 hour. You most likely value it for
a week. Become lazy after a while and then fall back into your old habits. But If i made you
wait 1 year for this information that was hundreds of years old, and then gave it after a year
of waiting you would value it more and apply it.
Knowledge is not power its the value of the knowledge and action with that knowledge
that gives us power. Infact, it is the transformation and the Journey IS the reward.
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The Direct Game Myth
All this shit here is all solely based on my opinion; I could get into crazy detail here. But
Imma try and keep is short and sweet. These opinions are my own and do not reflect anyone
else so ya
Check it out, There is a myth about direct game, not that direct game is better. But that you
somehow DONT loose hot girls by going direct on them.. mehhhh.. I dont think that is
true.
I think sometimes you actually loose the girl by going direct.
Its like this. Yes- you can positively show strength, confidence, and individuality by going in
direct. But you can ALSO do these things and be strong without being direct. You can have
solid sub communication without verbally expressing interest. Realize that everything you
do affects the direction things play out in the story of you and the sweetheart you are
meeting.
Its like the movie; Back To The Future Part 3. Were Marty Mcfly makes one small action, and
it completely changes the outcome of the future.
The fucked up concept is that going direct can negatively influences the contextual dynamic
of the relationship nerdspeak time- gosh!
Basically is changes how thing happen or could happen. Most advanced guys go direct and
then lean back and let the interaction breathe, trying to create a vacuum for the girl to fall
into. This goes back to the concept of, get the girl to chase you. And this does work, but I
feel like it Alienates a lot of girls who have a different ideal about getting picked up.
Every girl has a socially conditioned ideas about meeting a guy, like some oh, I dont get
picked up, I cant talk to you, youre a random stranger...etc. All girls have a socially
conditioned fantasy pickup in her mind. Some Hugh Grant and Julia Roberts bullshit. Where
she accidently meets the stranger in the grocery store, and she falls for him, and she has
to seduce him. That is a hot girls fantasy. When you go direct you rob her of that
fantasy. Some girls will write you off immediately, as here is another guy who
wants me.
Les face it, when you step to a 9, she knows she getting picked up. And the ultimate factor if
you get her or not, is not how cool you are, because she already know 10 cool guys that are
close friends of hers. They have slowly worked their way in her lifecycle over the years lol.
That 9 is in no need of meeting another cool guy, she has no lack of cool guys in her like. You
are cool guy number 11. My belief is that besides lifecycle and a few other things, the
determining factor if you are going to get her is if she just feels like meeting a guy at this
time. Period. If SHE decides to be receptive so to speak, and if she DECIDES to leave a space
for you to come into her life. So you walking up to her confidently and saying your interested
is nothing new in her world. Guys that are better looking, more awesome, and cool walk up
to her direct all the time. So are your really starting with the best foot forward? -understand?
This has nothing to do with being Higher Value. Many girls reject higher value
guys for stupid reasons. I know I am high value then most girls. These chode
guys you see who get these beautiful girls are not Higher Value, they just happen
to be in the right place at the right time.
Can you get girls by verbal direct style game, yes. You can, I have and many do. But from
what ive seen with my self and others is that going direct get you girls you would
have gotten anwyas. Its almost like its a way of screening for girls that are
already somewhat interested. But what you really want is to expand your
portfolio and diversify right? Different types of girls who would not have initially
been receptive, cause she looks at you and thinks that guy is not my type I
dont know bout you, but those are the only girls im interested in these days.
So - If you are going to go direct go PRIMAL. What do I mean by Primal. I mean dont
appeal to her logical mind. But illicit biological reactions that she cant help. You know that
old David D saying that attraction is not a choice. The way I like to think about it, is that I
want to do things that get a involuntary attraction from her, and I let her logical mind catch
up latter. I want Primal reactions from the girl
How do I do this, with statements,. I wrote about it a little in a LR I wrote a while
back: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/155454/forum?page=21
I see a chick up against the wall in a baseball cap, tall 5,11 light skin half Jamaican/ Half
irish girl. A perfect tall model body. Later I find out she is like 145 pounds or something. They
type of girl that could wrap her legs around you for miles.
Roll up, im spitting statements at her while also vibing.
You can wear that hat here, because I say so
There can be 2 cool people here, you are over the swagger limit
Who the fuck do you think you are
Why are you pretending to be gangster, whats this bullshit, just be yourself
Her: your very close to my face
Me: I will fuck you up
Your tall, do you play basket ball, I would dunk on you and take your lunch money.
I lock in against the wall.and here comes the bachelorette party UG: Shes my girlfriend
Me: Cool (pause) which one of you is the butch in the relationship (stare them down)
blah blah blah (double claw)
After this, she was putting her are around me, reopening me, starting back the conversation
with things like sowhere are you from?"
Do you get the point im trying to make here?
Not yet? kk what im hinting at is you cant get girls that are not reacting to you.
Ideally you want a girl to reacting to your PRESENCE ALONE. But you got to start
somewhere, and you dont have to verbally express interest. You want to be
shaping the Contextual dynamic from the beginning, right off the opener.
The story I gave above was from night time. But what about the day? In day i would
probably wave at her. Some guys like to smile first, but smiling is no good cause some girls
are so caught in their own world of what they are doing they might not ever notice you. So
wave. Distract that chick visually. Roll up, and make statements
The girls that you do get will require less pursuing because of the dynamic you create from
the start. And the perfect / not like the other guys role you allow her to relate to
you.
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cleansing and rejuvenating. It feels good just knowing that im there in bar, and my only
motivation for the night is to enjoy my conversations and interactions with everyone, not
even to pick up.
I will say that I feel like I have just entered instructor level game or whatever that means I
duh no.
Jolly good show Madison, jolly good show.
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In regards to my game? Well I dropped all of it pretty much, I am socially calibrated like a
mother fucka, and my ability is stupid-fresh from years in the game. So I have just been
letting the honest expression speak for itself.
A quick note about Honest Expression. I just wanna say something because I think it is
completely misunderstood. Honest expression is not calling out a girl when she flakes, its not
saying shes hot so you want to get to know her. Thats boy-man behavior, so It is none of
those things. And honestly I do none of those things anymore. Getting butt-hurt to call out a
flake just shows you have low options and care more then her. Saying you want to meet a
girl cause shes hot means you have few options of beautiful woman and that physical
beauty is your first level of standards. Honest expression is you talking about your hope,
dreams, fears, desires, dislikes, and your lessons learned. NOT you expressing how your
caving in to that girl. What you are and what you believe, with no desire to get ANY reaction
from her.
This is Natural Game but .natural game doesnt reach its full potential if your fucked
up on the inside as a person. If you still have lots of emotional issues, those issues will slip
through the cracks in ways you cant even see them, but they will be obvious to girls and
other people. You need to fix these issues and develop as a person. Thats how I can go up
to a girl, use not much game and just let her see there is no cracks in the armor as Tyler
puts it. Once she can see that. Its so solid. It allows me to break all kinds of rules, like for
example, when I get a girls phone number I call her the same day! Its not perceived as
needy or anything. I call her because I screened her, and she was worth getting her phone
number. And now I want to talk, not because I want something from her. But just to enjoy the
conversation.
Shit I have been writing for 40 minuets. Ok time to wrap it up
Elite level game seems to not come from more game or new game. But it boils down to a
mastery of discipline of the fundamentals and being emotionally well rounded.
My game at the point is only 2 things. What I like to call Independent Interest + Emotional
well roundedness.
If I have a chance I will try to talk bout them soon or wtv.
Peace
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b]Had a conversation with the infamous Cliff from Clifflist and David fame. He
really liked this post, and we had a insightful conversation that had some
additional good points. Below is the conversation
Cliff: dude
Madison: hey
Cliff: love your elite game post, its all about coming from a good place
Madison: i think this doesnt work for a lot of guys cause they dont fully believe ti when they
do it, it like a "technique" . it feels like something that cant be taught, but must be learned
from experienced. honestly it took my 4 years to really get to this point where i truly get no
validation from a woman, where there is nothing that she can offer me. I am very happy with
me.
Cliff: I understand that - I think that's a big piece and one it would be great to be able to
create, for me things have ebbed and flowed - I haven't gotten that kind of consistency
Madison: yeah, i agree. everyone talks about the mindset, but not how actually ingrain and
learn them
Cliff: it's all well and good to want to learn from guys like X, but I think integrating his kind of
sharpness and experience isn't something that happens easily
Madison: true
Cliff: X is very interesting though, but by teaching not pursuing and letting go of attachment,
I think a lot of guys end up in a limboland in the middle somewhere, not that there's
anything wrong with the philosophy, just that it's not getting absorbed so easily even though
the way he teaches it, it is all about changing your story (what you tell yourself)
Madison: "it is all about changing your story (what you tell yourself". thats 100% - i think for
my self my story changed recently which helped me to cement my value in my mind
Cliff: and most likely it's just something that happened, not something you can really explain
so that someone else can skip the process you went through to get there
Madison: yup, the process is what made the difference. i traveled. hung around the best, got
my career together, lost woman i cared for, and became more emotionally mature because
of all of it. Its almost like everything that happened was a "Rite of Passage." not something i
can really explain so that someone else can skip the process to get there
Cliff: I think that's the holy grail of seduction products - if one day someone can put out a
product that can really get someone from where they are to there
Madison: yeah, when i listen to guys like X or a few others talk. i think thats what the are
really trying to describe an " emotional maturity" of some kind
Cliff: I think you are right but I think very few of these guys really get to the level you
describe or where Brent is at (he pretty much has no social anxiety whatsoever - some of
the stories of his evenings are just incredible - stories from his students who describe how
there were like 15 women practically lined up and waiting to find out which one he would
pick to go home with, and from what I understand he can just take them all at the same time
if he feels like it)
Madison: Your right, i dont think everyone can be in the top 5% of guys at this. But i think
everyone can make improvement. Not everyone is naturally social, gifted, or good looking,
but i do think they can all make emotional maturity improvements, which a woman will test,
see how you react, and then become more attracted.
Cliff: not everyone has the desire to be in the top 5% you said something in one of your
reports lately that was really amazing - it was a really hard core response to some woman,
kind of something you'd expect from Vince Vaughn or someone like that - the kind of sharp
talk that puts you on the level or above these sharp tongued women. That was very
impressive
Madison: interesting, do you remember what it was?
Cliff: you should remember - it was not the kind of thing you would say to any woman, only
one that needed to be shown that you were on her level
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Dear Diary.
Allrighty, here we go my Diary and last post of 2011. Deciding to take a break, even
giving my account to my buddy to change my password for me. I decided I needed to make
a change because I was on this crap to my. And the main forum has turned into loose and
lucid Diarrhea lately. Any attempt to post thread of value quickly drop to the bottom , getting
bumped off to self deprecating threads.
So ya.
I also need to refocus my mind and stop leaning. So much of my energy this week has been
going to drama, 6s, not sleeping, stress etc. I feel like im focused, just on the wrong shit
dayumit. Ned to get back to the basics of life that keep me in a good place of emotional and
physical wellness. I cant have everything all the time, and thats ok. I need to focus on a few
basic staples that get the best results and let the other distractions go. Like mastering the
social dynamics in the workplace that I have been neglecting so I can secure my job and
move up the corporate ladder etc.
Spirituality , food, exercise, good friends, family, sleep, money, virtue, discipline.
When I dont sleep and I fuck to many girls I become miserable. Which Is odd cause you
would think I would feel on point. But im so excessive it burns me out quick, I dont call my
numbers or get pushy with the girls, so thats a fail. I end up frustrated, groggy, and
unproductive in my personal time or work. Then I feel like I have to compensate for the
deficit. Loser get it together man!
I also need to correct the small things that piss me off. That I know I need to do. Not move
for rudely walking ppl on the street. Tell ppl NO easily. And Speak up when I see public things
of justice. Or I disagree with something I hear. Hmmm,,,what else?
Banged to 6s off Badoo in the last week. *sigh* where do I begin. I learned a few lessons:
All girls have emotional issues, 6s have pain huge pain body issues of being used, and 8s
have over abundance issues. But at least with a 8 you can look at her and enjoy her
company as you kill time is she is pleasant to have around you.
This week 6s said to me I hate men I cant make love to a man, but a man cant make love
to me You just want 1 thing, You dont know what love is I had you wrong, your just like
the rest which I then respond im sorry men hurt you, but I did nothing, so its not my
problem etc. Basically 6s are exhausting to handle all that bagged. I got to talk to them for
2 hours about boring shit before we can bang, and after we do all her drama comes out.
What would be smooth is if I could apply my stone cold emotionless demeanor to 8s+.
Headtrip.
I do have a main girl. Who is sexy as fuck and smart. I really like her and would be with her.
But she has been detached lately and not returning phone calls. Not sure why, I got a little
needy for 2 days. Im gonna let ti breath, lay back, send some value , tease, bait, and wait for
her to make Arrangements to hook up.
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LESSONS OF THE MONTH.
For example last night I saw 2 girls that I fucked already at the W Hotel party. I see them
with guys then trying to make me jealous. I dont respond at all. Jealousy is not something
im interested in my reality.
I have 2 responses to anything, ignore/delete or live through soul 100%
Last night I met 2 girls sitting down. If they said something that sounded like a lie, I have no
problem saying you are a fucking liar.
When I asked if they were single, they said the both enjoy my company and are single but
not looking for anything. Whats my response?.....its not well gezzz ummmm you guys are
missing out or something like that. My response is a big laugh from the belly HAHAHAHA
as I stand up and get the fuck out of there! 2 girls who come to a party and sit in a corer and
want man attention but are being retarded is faggotry I dont even want to acknowledge.
Cultivate your style. Be your own man. Live your essence brothers
This will still help me to remain a unanswered question to the girl, where she is the one who
feels like she earned and persued me. Ive also stopped taking numbers, and started to give
girls my number at 12:30 and say text me in 30 mins and we will meet up for a drink.
credit Marco.
Closing 6s
Two 6s asked me to go out this months on ..datesyuck ..
I went for these drinks, I am so uninterested in seeing them again that I just go full blast.
Basically im like where do you live, lets eat dinner at your place, then I send them some
subjective photos. Hahah im so lazy I just want a DTF 6.
But I dont even get to fuck these girls because they believe they are in control and like the
feeling of being chased by a more high value guy. Rather then fuck me, and they know I
would never want to see them again lol. They prefer to tell them selfs, omg, this high value
guys wants to sleep with me so badly. Thats a better ego boost then. I fucked this really
high value guy, and after he had a orgasm he just put on his clothes and left its basically
a ego defense mechanism.
Point is, 6s have to go fully through the process the same way a 8 would. But the reasons
are different. 6s need to believe you like them for them.
Stay away from 6s. Same work, less satisfying reward lol
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Shit with exercise girl affected my ambition to workout I used to be crazy hardcore on a
wellness lifestyle, exercise, paleo diet, the works. Dated a fitness instructor, and embraced
the life. That ended up going worse then bad and I kind of lost my ambition to workout, not
the best thing. Its too bad. Cause I felt great when I was doing it, I think I just started to
associate working out to her. I need to push through at and associate new reasons to work
out and new mental relationships with that activity. New ambitions, new growth, new loves
for wellness moving on man. New everything, learn from the pain. Out with the old in with
the new. Embrace change!
So now im back to dating, and I have 3 girls ive went out with lately who would all be worth
having some kind of relationship with. Lets hope I dont get in my own way this time
Cheers,
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What a day, last few days a dark cloud has come over me... i had my ups this is
definitely a down period.
Been thinking about how to make the best of my worse personality traits. I think
that even if we learn game, we learn how to be socially calibrated and "fit in" it still
doesnt erase the 16 or 20 years of not being cool or getting crapped on. So the
result is you are cool, but still a little "weird" in some ways. Not to blame how we
grow up, but i can definitely still see some of my thoughts or actions that are offputting to people. I have these because i was mentally fucked over for so many
years, its kinda still in my programming. I am a beast in cold approach pickup, But
this "weirdness" i have is more in social circle situations. im sure after several
interactions some people think " wow this guy doesnt get it"... no i get it. but i was
mostly isolated in my childhood. So im just working out the kinks. So i might not be
as social circle savvy about the way things are supposed to feel as they are
happening compared to people that were in the in crowd their whole lifes. As a guy
that had to work hard and go out and get the little that he had, the sit back and let
relationship happen organically approach never worked before. So of course how
would i know what i dont know. Its impossible to know what you dont know, you just
have to fail and learn. Trial and error.
You really gotta commend guys like Jeff owning their annoyingness
The only thing let to do is feature the weirdness express it to people, dont let it
be a surprise. Showcase it and be all of me.
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Mon 8 DG
Tue 9 DG
Wed 10 NG
Thu 11 DG
Fri 12 SKIP
Sat 13 DG + NG
Sun 14 DG
Mon15 DG
Tue 16 DG
Wed 17 NG
Thu 18 NG
Fri 19 NG
Sat 20 DG
Sun 21 DG
Mon 22 DG
Tue 23 DG
Wed 24 NG
Thu 25 DG
Fri 26 SKIP
Sat 27 DG + NG
Sun 28 NG
Mon 29 DG
Tue 30 DG
In interactions - Social Proof: Whore girls out like dogs to my single friends in set- back turns.
In Interactions - Game other girls in front of girls i previously approached. - indifference
In Interactions - Portray the guy who breaks hearts, and she could be the lucky next
contestant be the guy she doesnt deserve
In Interactions - Group hugs
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Notes from time with Julien..... to sort and edit.
Beliefs:
Girls are attracted to status and champ subcomunications
anticipate all objections and handle them before.
Me: Status, Higher Vlaue, Abundant, Intent, Aloof
Express myself and not looking for anything in return
You cant make an omelet without breaking some eggs
Build a empire for the legacy
If I cant do it , no one can
Get the reference experiences then adjust
You dont have to marry every girl you open
Strategies:
make your first rejection set fun
Use social proof to create drama
Assassin technique
Hooking:
be real, be cool, be natural, none of that fake politenessshit
I saw you and I decided to give us a chance
Shhhh focus
Look into my eyes and oink like a little piggyoink..oink..oink
Have you ever met a man without fear before Do you think I could handle you
I dont like most girls
what are you doing in your life and shit
Attraction Behaviors:
Blame her for me having to diss her
Ask her question, then tell her she can go now based on her answer
Tell her what you want her to do, dictate the rythem
Attraction Quotes:
Im actually serious, your not that bad a person
When conversation gets dry imamate chode pickup talk
Suck the shit off my dick I raped a lion story
Come meet my friends dont embarrass me
Say: Yuck Your drunk push her away, even if she isent drunk
Girl refuses to be pulled bye, have fun with your boring life| with your gay boyfriend|
You could be my daughter or grand daughter you dont have to be so cool. Dont try so
hard
I have these conversations all the time, what do you want a boy or a real man
She gives me a compliment. I say I hate your mom
im wearing ____ so it makes me look more attainable
Heartbreaker frame:
Comfort Quotes:
Ive meet a lot of women it sucks but its true. I know any regular guy telling you this would
be weird. But theres something different with you. But ive meet so many girls, and your not
the stereotype. I cant believe im opening up to you
I think youre the one - hug
Why do you love me so much
You are the best kisser ever, you make me feel like im the only girl in the world
Pulling:
Text your friends and say your meet her in 20 mins
I dont do phone numbers unless I really like the girl, aka afterparty
Tell her to go home and come to the afterparty. You dont have to but it will be cool.
Otherwise I
will go pull another girl cause I can
Cockblocks:
Suck a hot cock whore
Boyfriend upset im just some clown
Implys you are powerful If I had a girl that broke my heart, I would not break up with her. I
would lead her on with the perfect combination of hope and remource and then destroy her
like a dog
Going in vs. drawing them in
7 kino stack : spin skaes, clasp, spin hug, waltz, neckbite, surprise kiss, body rocking
blah blah blah opender, im a preditor I live in my moms bacement
Me Whats your name? her I dont have a name. me Good then I dont have to call you
after
Moving set why do you hate me, whats wrong with me, are you American, Adrian I
imsorry, shake my hand
harry potter wand
Assassin technique
Be the doer not the receiver, Overwhelming, not be overwhelmed. Social mode, not logical
mode
Im happy that I have started to get my grove back. I lost it this summer, and I was supper
rusty.
Now its back and my day game is back to normal. Number closed a hotty in the
mall today. And got a 6 foot model interested. Which is cool I guess. But I definitely
need to work sexuality, role playing, and story telling back into my skill set.
See, for a overly ambitions guy like me , not making progress is the same as dying. This is
incredibly good, but equally as incredibly dangerous and harmful.
You can never be completely consistent at game. You can do everything right, and be fucked
by logistics or the girls emotional state in life, or do everything wrong and just get lucky. For
me I was having "low success" now because I made a rule. That rule was - NO drunk chicks,
and no 7s EVER again. Drunk chicks have no retention, are not worth the time for a cheep
lay, and I've done my bit of cock charity with not so attractive girls. Because of this my ego
to a big hit. I was starting to feel the pain of things not working out they way I wanted right
away. So the emotional lesson I had to learn about consistency was deep. What I have at
any moment in my life will change, but what makes you happy is the meaning you
give it.this week I learned that people, situations and things might make me
happy at one period in my life. And those same people, situations, and things
could make me miserable and give me pain at another point. Dream girls could
end up breaking ur heart. Or that new job you hate could end up teaching you a
priceless lesson. It goes both ways.
That was lesson 1
Lesson 2 that I learned came from when I decided to stop gaming 7s
Some interesting things happened. First I got some conversations of girls that were 7s. Girls
that I felt higher value then, and I was pissed off that they expected me to put effort into
getting them. I was like, wtf, seriously. Assuming they should just recognize I'm the best
thing to happen to them and chase me. Dident happen lol
And on the flip side I insta dated a tall model 8.5 and a Solid Blond 9 this week. But after 4
hours lost the girls in the end game. I lost the girls by being lazy and not doing everything I
know needed to be done. I guess I could explain it as I expected things just to happen
because I was equal value as them, and got frustrated when it dident. I would not of had
that frustration with a 6. For example in both of these dates there was a moment were I
should have said something like "stop being stupid, we have a good thing going here, and
your being retarded about a ex boyfriend who doesn't want you. He doesn't want you, that's
why he left, so move on with your life". But instead I excepted bad behavior from the hot
girls. Behavior I would not except from a 6.
The lesson..I learned that with hotter girls, it's not more or new game, but you
emotionally allowing your self to do the things you know you need to do, and
make the moves you know you need to make. That could be boundaries, push
pull, touching, or whatever.
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