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SIVRI
THE SECRETS OF
EXISTENCE AND
FULFILMENT
Acknowledgments
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
CHAPTER ONE:
FACING YOUR FEARS
CHAPTER TWO:
GOING FOR YOUR GOALS
CHAPTER THREE:
EMPOWERMENT
CHAPTER FOUR:
ARE YOU A VICTIM?
CHAPTER FIVE:
POSITIVE THINKING!
CHAPTER SIX:
DEALING WITH THE NEGATIVES
CHAPTER SEVEN:
DECISION MAKING
CHAPTER EIGHT:
OVERCOMING EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS
CHAPTER NINE
ACCEPTANCE AND FULFILLMENT
CHAPTER TEN:
KISMET AND THE POWER OF GIVING
CHAPTER ELEVEN:
YOUR HIGHER CONSCIOUS AND THE LAW OF
ATTRACTION
CHAPTER TWELVE:
ATTAINING INNER PEACE
CHAPTER THIRTEEN:
CONTINUING THE JOURNEY
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CHAPTER ONE:
FACING YOUR FEARS
Who hasnt felt fear at some point in his or her life? Either
real fear or perceived fear. In fact, for every single one of us
working in the psychology sector, perceived fear is what we
work with most of the time. Most of our clients are fearful of
something terrible that will happen to them. They seem to
have an innate sense of foreboding that for some reason,
leaves them feeling paralyzed when it comes to dealing with
what they fear the most. The reality is that their minds take
over and as this happens, the physiological effects on their
bodies (release of hormones, heavy breathing, sweaty palms,
etc.) result in the mental processes actually becoming
physical. So what starts in the mind, manifests itself in the
body. Whether these fears are real or not, the results on the
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body to all intents and purposes are the same. For these people
their fears then become very real on every level.
So what is it that people can be fearful of?
Lets look at a few case studies and see if you recognize any
of your fears in the following scenarios
* Dana is thirty-eight years old. She has a good job in
London, is married, has a young daughter and lives in a nice
part of town. From the outside, her life looks fairly idyllic and
trouble free. So what is it that Dana is fearful of?
Every day I wake up and Im worried that Im just not good
enough. My job is so demanding and draining, that I fear I
will have a breakdown. I am worried that Im not a good
mother. I dont have any maternal feelings towards my child
and Im scared that I might damage her psychologically in
some way. My life is not fulfilling me at all. I dont think I
love my husband and Im fearful that the marriage is not
satisfying me the way I had hoped it would. I feel trapped,
lonely and desperate and most of the time I am scared that I
may do something that I regret. Im constantly on edge and I
cant see a way forwards. Also, on top of everything, my
family live abroad and I constantly worry about them too. Im
scared of losing my job, my marriage and my sanity
Danas life is racked with fear. She is worried and fearful in
every situation in her life. Can you relate to any of the fears
she has? Here are some more examples:
* Margaret is sixty-five years old. She is a financial expert in
an international company in The City of London. She has
worked hard all her life and is extremely well respected and
admired in her field. She has many clients, a very good salary,
an apartment in the centre of London and a country house.
What could Margaret possibly be fearful of?
I have been a workaholic all my life. I have worked long
hours every day and have strived for perfection in what I do. I
live for my job and cant see a life away from my work. I have
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you may find these more productive. Below youll find some
types of questions that will help you when you learn to start
disputing your negative and fearful thoughts.
What is the evidence that ?
How can I find out more about ?
What makes that so bad for me?
How does it follow that ?
Who can give me the information that I need?
And if that were the case?
What is the very worst thing that could happen ?
Who says I must?
How does that mean that ?
What would it take to convince me that ?
What does it say about me if ?
Is that something that I really want or need?
Is there any proof that ?
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