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Love or Infatuation
The issue of this theme is something that centers or focuses on the subject
of LOVE. There are many books and messages that have been published on
the subject of LOVE. Love is one of the most used and misused words in the
world. Love means different things to different to different people. We live a
pluralistic world
A relationship often begins where two people professing to love each other
decide on love. Though, both may have different meanings they give to love.
It could be true LOVE or INFATUATION.
Quick Overview of the Meaning of LOVE
A hole in the heart ------------Ben Hecht
A grave mental disease --------Plato
A feeling you felt when you feel something you have never felt before
---------Anonymous
A desperate madness -------------John Ford
A sentimental measles ----------Charles Kingsley
A mutual understanding ------------Oscar Wilde
To will the good of another ------------St. Thomas Aquinas
But for the sake of this teaching, our focus will be on the divine pattern for
discerning and choosing a suitable companion/helper as such to have a
successful, fulfilled and happy marriage that is heaven on earth.
Gods intention and plan for man God created man with an
intention to empower him with every necessary things with a singular view
to ESTABLISH HIS KINGDOM on earth. Hereby, man is an Ambassador or
Representative of (God) Heaven on Earth. 2 Corinthians 5:20, Matthew 6:10.
Genesis 2:15 - God placed man in the Garden He planted in Eden and
commissioned man to CULTIVATE IT and GUARD IT. Every MALE MAN
has a specific assignment, purpose and mission or task given by God to fulfill
and do on earth. You need to locate your Eden and discover your
8.
Pastoral Guidance & Counseling: Seek and respect the godly counsel
given by your Spiritual leaders who have right intentions for you.
Nonetheless, beware of match-making.
Whichever of these, the role of personal convictions, peace of mind and
parental consent and advises cannot be overemphasized.
Avoid these:
PRESSURE: - Avoid Peer pressure, Family pressure, Societal pressure
and other forms of marital pressure.
PERSONAL JUDGEMENT: - Avoid self-condemnation regardless of
your past and avoid being judgemental.
25 PEOPLE YOU CANNOT PROPOSE TO
1.
Someone who is an Unbeliever, who is influenced or controlled by other
things except Christ. 2 Corinthians 6:14
2.
Someone who is a Backslider a consistent sinner is a child of the devil.
1 John 3:8-10.
3.
Someone who is a New Convert a Spiritual Baby. 1Peter 2:1-2.
4.
Someone who is Immature - spiritual, physical, emotional, financial,
educational immaturity.
5.
Someone who just broke up from a relationship. Such person has not
been fully healed.
6.
Someone who is a divorcee. Matthew 19:9. Divorcee is someone who
legally ended a failed marriage.
7.
Someone you have an intention to change. Are you the Holy Spirit?
8.
Someone with unproven characters and bad testimonies. Philippians 4:8.
9.
Someone you cannot accept his/her past, present and future. Every life
is made up of these tripartite functional phases the past life, the present
life and the future life. If you want to know who a man is, get to know
his/her past, present and future.
10. Someone with an unacceptable friends & family train. Someone you
cannot accept his/her friends, family and relatives. You cannot separate your
partners friends and family from his/her life.
11. Someone who is a threat to you. That is, someone who always threatens
you for love and makes you feel inferior.
12. Someone who can make you lose your real identity; be it spiritual,
physical and emotional identities.
13. Someone who will not respect and honor your personal or family
standards. Proverbs 22:28.
14. Someone who doesnt have a joyful heart and spirit, that is always moody.
15. Someone that always insist he/she can never change when he/she des
wrong. You cannot handle his/her temperaments.
16. Someone you cannot enjoy or that you dont enjoy his/her company. Such
cannot be your friend and once there is no friendship, there is no love. Love
always begins with friendship.
17. Someone under any pressure or sexual pressure...
18. Someone who is not your friend or who is a stranger. Here, Im not talking
about just a casual friend or mere social media network friend.
19. Someone you dont trust.
20. Someone who is manipulative.
21. Someone who is with an intention to impress, oppress, suppress, depress
and regress. An IMPRESSOR, OPPRESSOR, SUPPRESSOR, DEPRESSOR AND
REGRESSOR
22. Someone who is a polygamist or having different religious marriage belief.
23. Someone who is always in haste, reckless and careless. That is, avoid
AUGUST RUSH Final Year Brethren (FYB), NYSC syndromes.
24. Someone because of his/her possessions money, properties, physical
endowment, positions, etc. All these are unstable reasons and not
formidable enough to see you through the tide of marriage and storms of
life.
25. Someone who is insane, mentally retarded or possessed. Such cannot
consciously decide rightly.
I pray you will not make a wrong choice.