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References:
Personal DBT Skills Group notes 11/25/08, 12/2/08
David Burns, M.D., Adapted from Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
Skills Training Manual page 107
Alec L. Miller, Jill H, Rathus, Marsha M. Linehan, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy with
Suicidal Adolescents, pages 311 and 312
As many of you know, DBT was originally developed for the treatment of people who
experience emotion dysregulation. This (emotion dysregulation) entails being highly sensitive
(which can be a gift if you know how to channel it!), highly reactive and slow return to baseline.
DBT is based on a Bio-social model. Individuals have a biological predisposition to emotional
dysregulation. Then, socially there is a poor fit between the family environment and the
emotionally dysregulated individual. This poor fit is evidenced by an invalidating
/inconsistent environment. This leads us to having difficulty tolerating stress, poor
communication skills, etc. We dont trust our own judgment, have low self-esteem, identity
crisis and dont know how to self-sooth. Everything is mood driven the moment is what
counts, NOT the overall goal. We never learned that Thoughts are not facts, emotions are not
facts.
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The child is told s/he is over- reacting. The child goes from inhibiting to exploding; from stuffing
to being out there and getting angry.
In failing to validate private experiences, the environment does not teach the child to:
a) Label private experiences (including emotions) in a manner normative in large social
communities for the same or similar experiences.
b) Effectively regulate emotions.
c) Trust emotional and cognitive experiences as valid response to events. Instead the child
learns to actively invalidate experiences and search social environments for clues as to
how to feel, think and act, in a given situation.
DISTORTED THINKING
1. All or nothing thinking: You look at things in absolute, black-andwhite
categories.
2. Overgeneralization: You view a negative event as a never-ending pattern of
defeat.
3. Mental Filter: You dwell on the negatives and ignore the positives.
4. Discounting the positives: you insist that your accomplishments or positive
qualities dont count.
5. Jumping to conclusion: You conclude things are bad with out any definitive
evidence.
i. Mind reading: You assume that people are reacting negatively to you.
ii. Fortune telling: You predict that things will turn out badly.
6. Magnification or minimization: You blow things way out of proportion or you
shrink their importance.
7. Emotional reasoning: You reason from how you feel: I feel like an idiot, so I
must be one.
8. Should statements: You criticize your self or other people with shoulds
shouldnts, musts, oughts, and have-tos.
9. Labeling: Instead of saying, I made a mistake, you tell yourself, Im a jerk
or a loser.
10. Blame: You blame yourself for something you werent entirely responsible for,
or you blame other people and overlook ways that you contributed to a problem.
Acceptance --
Acceptance
AND
Change =
--Change
Middle path
Examples:
- You are doing the best you can, and you need to do better, try harder, and be more
motivated to change.
- You are tough and you are gentle.
- Balancing reward with punishment.
This perspective helps pave the way toward the middle path by helping you:
Expand your thoughts and ways or considering life situations
Unstick standoffs and conflicts.
Be more flexible and approachable.
Avoid assumptions and blaming.
Validation
A How To Guide to verbal and Nonverbal Validation
How can we validate others?
1. Actively Listen. Make eye contact and stay focused.
2. Be mindful of both nonverbal and verbal reactions in order to avoid invalidation (e.g.,
rolling eyes; sucking teeth; walking away; saying, Thats stupid, Dont be sad, or I
dont care what you say).
3. Observe what the other person is feeling in the moment. Look for a word that describes
the feeling.
4. Reflect the feeling back without judgment. The goal is to communicate that you understand how the other person feels (e.g., It makes sense that youre angry, I Understand
that you are having a rough time right now) (for self, I have the right to feel sad).
5. Show tolerance! Look for how the feelings, thoughts and actions make sense, given the
other persons (or your) history and current situation, even if you dont approve of the
behaviors, emotions, or actions themselves.
6. Respond in a way that shows you are taking the other person seriously (with or without
words). If someone is crying, give a tissue or a hug. If someone is presenting a problem,
start problem solving immediately (unless the person wishes merely to be heard).
Homework:
Take a few minutes and read/absorb the above.