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Sexual Jealousy
David M. Buss
Department of Psychology, University of Texas, Austin, USA
Abstract
Sexual jealousy is a basic emotion. Although it lacks a distinctive facial expression and is
unlikely to solve problems of survival, it evolved because it solves adaptive problems of mating.
Some adaptive functions are similar in men and women at one level of abstraction, such as
warding off potential mate poachers and deterring relationship defection. Other functions are sexdifferentiated, such as increasing paternity probability for men and monopolizing a mate's
economic commitments for women. Dozens of studies have documented sex-differentiated design
features of jealousy: The relative upset about sexual and emotional aspects of infidelity; processing
speed and memorial recall of sexual and emotional infidelity cues; physiological distress to sexual
and emotional infidelity cues; qualities of same-sex rivals that evoke jealousy, such as superior job
prospects versus greater physical attractiveness; triggers of mate retention tactics; jealous
interrogations following the discovery of infidelity; and whether an infidelity produces forgiveness
or breakup. Although showing all the hallmarks of evolved functionality, sexual jealousy also
leads to tremendous destruction, from humiliation to homicide. By these scientific theoretical and
empirical criteria, sexual jealousy is properly considered not only "basic" but also "one of the most
important emotions"
Keywords: jealousy, infidelity, emotion, evolution, mate retention
Introduction
Jealousy is usually defined as a complex emotional state activated when there
is a threat to a valued social relationship (Daly, Wilson, & Weghorst, 1982). When
the valued relationship is a close friendship, threats may come from friendship
competitors who threaten to usurp a privileged position as a 'best friend' or BFF
(best friend forever). When the valued relationship is a sexual mateship, threats
may come from 'mate poachers' who show a keen interest in one's mate; from the
mate who gives off cues to infidelity or relationship defection; or even from the
relationship itself, as occurs when there is a mate value discrepancy, which might
correlate with a threat hovering on the horizon of a relationship, even without an
imminent threat of infidelity or defection (Buss, 2000).
Jealousy and envy are often used interchangeably in everyday life, but
psychologists usually distinguish the two emotions. Envy is a complex emotion
activated when someone else has something that you desire or covet but currently
lack. You might envy a work colleague who has secured a better pay raise or
promotion or you might envy a mating rival who is more attractive or well-liked.
John might be envious of a neighbor who is married to an especially attractive or
interesting woman. But John experiences jealousy if that neighbor shows behavior
designed to tempt his own wife into a sexual liaison. Jealousy and envy, in short,
are distinct emotions, despite their interchangeable usage in everyday discourse.
From an evolutionary perspective, jealousy and envy have distinctly different
functions that render them separate emotional adaptations. Envy has been
hypothesized to motivate actions designed to obtain the coveted benefits someone
else has that one lacks, and also to undermine or derogate rivals who seem to
possess benefits that one lacks (DelPriore, Hill, & Buss, 2012). Jealousy, in
contrast, has been hypothesized to function to motivate behavior designed to ward
off threats to valued relationships with behavior ranging from vigilance to violence
(Buss, 1988a; Buss & Shackelford, 1997).
If two emotions have different evolved functions with correspondingly distinct
'design features', they are considered to be distinct adaptations, even if they share
some features and overlap in some affective or cognitive elements (Buss, Haselton,
Shackelford, Bleske, & Wakefield, 1998). For example, a woman might become
enraged at a peer getting a promotion she felt she deserved instead and become
enraged at a husband caught in flagrante delicto with their neighbor's wife an
affective state common to envy and jealousy. But envy and jealousy have distinct
social inputs, information processing procedures, and behavioral outputs. The input
of a man having an affair provokes rage if the man is her husband, but not if the
man is her co-worker. The input of a man getting an undeserved promotion
provokes rage if the man is her rival co-worker, but not if the man is her husband.
Similarly, the behavioral output of the two emotions are distinct. The woman
envious about her co-worker getting a promotion might evaluate the value of that
promotion, and consequently redouble her efforts at work, ingratiate herself with
her boss, or try to undermine the projects of her co-worker. The woman
experiencing jealousy about her husband's infidelity might engage in other
information processing procedures, such as gauging the value of the relationship
and the magnitude of the threat. And contingent on those and other information
processing procedures, she might engage in different sorts of behaviors, ranging
from withdrawing to a retaliatory affair to divorce.
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The key point is that distinct inputs, distinct decision rules, and distinct
behavioral outputs are the hallmarks of distinct adaptations. As with most
adaptations, distinct emotion adaptations may have some or many common
components. The visual system, for example, is used in both food selection (e.g., to
select ripe berries) and mate selection adaptations (e.g., to select mates with cues to
health). But the fact that adaptations share common components does not imply
that they are not functionally distinct adaptations, in this case for solving adaptive
problems of food consumption and sexual consummation, respectively.
Analogously, envy and jealousy may share some affective components such as
rage, but if they also display distinct inputs, cognitive procedures, and behavioral
outputs, they are properly treated as functionally distinct adaptations.
Is Jealousy a "Basic" Emotion from an Evolutionary Perspective?
The scientific literature on emotions is rife with debates about whether there
exist "basic" emotions. Debates also surround the proper criteria for evaluating
whether an emotion is basic or not. The most prominent proponent of the existence
of basic emotions is Paul Ekman, who hypothesizes the existence of six or seven:
anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, and surprise are the most agreed-upon six,
with contempt being a seventh candidate around which there is some empirical
evidence, but less than that of the other six (Ekman, 1973, 1999; Ekman &
Cordaro, in press). The central criterion for evaluating an emotion as basic, within
Ekman's theoretical framework, is whether the emotion has a distinctive facial
expression that can be recognized universally an idea originally advanced by
Charles Darwin in his book The Expression of Emotions in Man and Animals
(Darwin, 1872). Other criteria proposed by Ekman for considering emotions as
basic include distinctive universal signals, presence in other primates, distinctive
physiology, rapid onset, brief duration, automatic appraisal, and unbidden
occurrence (Ekman, 1994). Jealousy does not appear on Ekman's list of basic
emotions, and indeed no theorists have proposed that jealousy has a distinctive and
universally recognized facial expression. Nor does jealousy always have a rapid
onset. Nor is jealousy's duration always brief. Rather than being considered "basic,"
jealousy within Ekman's framework may be considered "derived" or a "blend" of
different emotions such as anger, fear, and sadness (Ekman, personal
communication).
The second key proponent of basic emotions from a somewhat different
evolutionary framework is that of Robert Plutchik, who proposes eight primary
emotions anger, fear, sadness, disgust, surprise, anticipation, trust, and joy
(Plutchik, 1980). Plutchik's criteria for basic emotions include: (1) present in nonhuman animals, (2) universally present across cultures in humans, and (3)
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though its central functions in solving adaptive problems may not linked to
survival, and whether or not it is present in other species.
Destructive Consequences of Sexual Jealousy: From Humiliation to Homicide
Sexual jealousy is far from a trivial emotion. One index of importance of an
emotion is the range of consequences it produces. Jealousy produces an
astonishingly large range of consequences, many of which are known to be
destructive. It can lead to cutting off a partner's relationships with friends and
family, which in turn leads to the partner experiencing reduced self-esteem,
isolation, anxiety about well-being, and the terror of being brutalized (Buss, 2000;
Wilson & Daly, 1992). It is the leading cause of spousal battering (Daly et al.,
1982) and intimate partner violence more generally (Buss & Duntley, 2011).
Intimate partner violence can range from minor slaps to brutal beatings. And in
cases in which a man suspects that a mate is pregnant with a child that is not his, it
can lead to blows directed at the partner's abdomen, which in some cases lead to the
killing of the unborn child she is carrying (Buss & Duntley, 2011).
Jealousy is also the leading cause of the murder of mates and ex-mates,
particularly wives, girlfriends, ex-wives, and ex-girlfriends (Buss, 2006; Daly &
Wilson, 1988). Two key triggers seem to set men off on a murderous rage when
the man suspects or knows that his partner has been sexually unfaithful and when
she leaves the relationship and the man believes that the departure is irrevocable or
permanent. Women's jealousy can also lead to mate murder, but at less frequent
rates. When women do kill their partners, two key predictors are: (1) when the
woman is defending herself against a man who is coming after her in a jealous rage,
and (2) after a prolonged period of repeated episodes of physical abuse by a jealous
man, and the woman sees no other way to escape her jealous mate's abuse (Daly &
Wilson, 1988).
Jealousy is not just dangerous for mates and ex-mates. It is also dangerous to
those who befriend, consort with, or show romantic or sexual interest in a mate or
ex-mate. A vivid case is that of Ron Goldman, a casual friend of Nicole Brown
Simpson, who was murdered because he happened to be with Ms. Simpson when
she was murdered (the criminal trial of O.J. Simpson for her murder resulted in a
verdict of 'not guilty,' but a civil trial in which he was accused of committing
'wrongful death' returned a verdict of 'guilty.') Mate poachers are frequent targets of
homicidal ideation and same-sex rival murders (Buss, 2006; Duntley, 2005). Less
dramatic perhaps is the psychological anguish experienced by a woman's friends
and family who are driven away by a jealous man in his attempt to socially isolate
or "mate guard" her.
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that do not make these arbitrary assignments, there should be a total absence of
jealousy predictions known to be empirically wrong.
The psychiatrist Bhugra (1993) argues that jealousy is a result of "capitalist
society." According to this argument, capitalist societies place a premium on
personal possessions and property, which extend to possessing other people.
Capitalist society encourages "treating the love object in a literal object manner,
taking the partner to be the individual's personal possession or property" (p. 272). If
this theory is correct, then several implications follow. First, men and women living
in capitalist societies should be equally jealous and jealous about the same things.
Second, men and women living in socialist, anarchist, or dictatorship societies
should be entirely free of jealousy. Third, because "motives for jealousy are a
product of the culture," (p. 273) there should be wide variability across cultures in
motives for jealousy.
Another explanation of jealousy invokes low self-esteem, immaturity, or
character defects (Bhugra, 1993). According to this line of thinking, adults who
enjoy high self-esteem, maturity, and psychological soundness should experience
less jealousy or not experience jealousy at all. If personality defects create jealousy,
then curing those defects should eliminate jealousy.
A fifth explanation proposes that jealousy is a form of pathology. The core
assumption behind this explanation is that extreme jealousy results from a major
malfunction of the human mind. Curing the malfunction should eliminate jealousy.
Normal psychologically healthy people, according to this account, simply do not
experience extreme or intense jealousy. Empirically, however, there is a large
psychiatric literature in which individuals have been diagnosed as having
pathological jealousy or synonymous labels delusional jealousy, the Othello
Syndrome, morbid jealousy, or the erotic jealousy syndrome. Some instances of
jealousy are undoubtedly pathological or delusional (Buss, 2000; Easton, Schipper,
& Shackelford, 2007). Nonetheless, it is also clear that many people diagnosed as
having pathological jealousy turn out to have spouses who have in fact been
sexually unfaithful, so it is not clear that "pathology" is the correct diagnosis (see
Buss, 2000, for numerous examples).
Some of these explanations contain grains of truth. Sometimes jealousy is
indeed pathological, a product of brain injury from boxing or warfare (Johnson,
1969). Some aspects of cases diagnosed as pathological do include strong evidence
of actual delusions, as when a man came to believe that his wife set her Christmas
tree lights to blink in synchrony with those of the neighbor across the street (in this
case, it turned out that the wife was indeed having an affair with the neighbor, even
though the belief in Christmas tree light synchrony was almost certainly
delusional)(Buss, 2000).
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wife will conceive one's own rather than someone else's child ..." (p. 242). Symons
makes clear that jealousy as a solution to the problem of jeopardized paternity
probability does not imply the presence of a conscious male motive involving
compromised paternity.
Regarding sex differences, Symons makes clear that he is not proposing that
men have a greater capacity for jealousy or experience jealousy any more intensely
than do women when it is activated. And indeed, studies that assess jealousy using
"global" measures such as "how often do you experience jealousy" or "when
jealous, how intense are your feelings" mostly show no sex differences (Buss,
2000). "When wives do experience jealousy, there is no reason whatever to believe
that their experiences are any weaker or stronger than husbands' experiences"
(Symons, 1979, p. 245).
Nonetheless, Symons does hypothesize that women's jealousy is not inevitable
or "obligate." His rationale is that humans evolved in the context of mild polygyny,
in which women sometimes had to share a husband with one or more co-wives.
The key to women's jealousy, according to Symons, is the magnitude of threat
posed by her mate having sex with another women: "A husband's dalliance may
have no effect whatsoever on his wife's reproductive success or it may presage a
liaison that will entail a reduction in the husband's investment in his wife and her
children; furthermore, today's paramour may be tomorrow's co-wife" (p. 246).
Consequently, he hypothesizes that selection favored a context-conditional jealousy
adaptation in women with the capacity to distinguish threatening from nonthreatening adultery, and to experience jealousy as a function of the perceived
threat to the husband's investments. In contrast, from a man's perspective, his mate
having sexual intercourse with another man always poses some risk of decrease in
paternity probability, assuming that she is not pregnant or post-menopausal.
Although Symons argues that male sexual jealousy is more invariant and
'obligate' than female sexual jealousy, he does propose contexts in which male
sexual jealousy can be suppressed or deactivated notably, in the context of wifeswapping, 'swinging,' and polyamory. He suggests that these activities are
motivated by men's evolved desire for sexual variety, and that having sexual access
to other women in an exchange is a tradeoff for allowing other men to have sex
with his wife. Nonetheless, studies of swinging and polyamory do note that
jealousy is a pervasive problem in their communities (Buss, 2000), suggesting that
it is difficult to entirely suppress male sexual jealousy when witnessing or knowing
that a wife is having sex with other men.
The next milestone in the evolutionary analysis of jealousy came from Martin
Daly and Margo Wilson (Daly et al., 1982; Wilson & Daly, 1992). They argue that
jealousy cannot be defined purely as an internal emotion nor purely as an external
situation. Instead, sexual jealousy is "a complex psychological system whose
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more precise question not whether each sex experiences "jealousy," but rather
which precise triggers of jealousy are more distressing this evolutionary
psychological hypothesis was able to guide researchers to discover a sex difference
that had previously gone unnoticed by mainstream jealousy researchers.
Those who are dispositionally or chronically more jealous show even larger
sex differences in jealous responses to sexual versus emotional infidelity (Miller &
Maner, 2009). This latter finding highlights the importance of integrating stable
individual differences with evolutionary theories of sex differences in personality
(Miller & Maner, 2009).
Cross-cultural robustness of sex differences in reaction to jealousy dilemmas.
These sex differences have now been replicated in Germany, the Netherlands,
Korea, and Japan (Buunk, Angleitner, Oubaid, & Buss, 1996). They have also
been replicated in Brazil (de Souza, Verderane, Taira, & Otta, 2006), England
(Brase, Caprar, & Voracek, 2004), Romania (Brase et al., 2004), Sweden
(Wiederman & Kendall, 1999), Norway (Kennair, Nordeide, Andreassen, Strnen,
& Pallesen, 2011), Spain, Chile (Fernandez, Sierra, Zubeidat, & Vera-Villarroel,
2006), and Ireland (Whitty & Quigley, 2008). In sum, men's jealousy, compared to
that of women, appears to be relatively more sensitive to cues of sexual infidelity.
Women's jealousy, compared to that of men, appears to be relatively more sensitive
to cues of emotional infidelity the same sex differences have been found in all
cultures that have been studied to date.
Sex differences in physiological responses to jealousy dilemmas. Verbal
reports are reasonable sources of data, but ideally, converging evidence from other
data sources is more scientifically compelling. To explore the generality of the
above findings across different scientific methods, 60 men and women were
brought into a psycho-physiological laboratory (Buss et al., 1992). To evaluate
physiological distress from imagining the two types of infidelity, the experimenters
placed electrodes on the corrugator muscle on the brow of the forehead, which
contracts when people frown; on the first and third fingers of the right hand to
measure electrodermal response, or sweating; and on the thumb to measure pulse or
heart rate. Then participants were asked to imagine either a sexual infidelity
("imagining your partner having sex with someone else ... get the feelings and
images clearly in mind") or an emotional infidelity ("imagining your partner falling
in love with someone else get the feelings and images clearly in mind").
Subjects pressed a button when they had the feelings and images clearly in mind,
which activated the physiological recording devices for 20 seconds.
The men became more physiologically distressed by the sexual infidelity.
Their heart rates accelerated by nearly five beats per minute, which is roughly the
equivalent of drinking three cups of strong coffee at one time. Their skin
conductance increased 1.5 microSiemens with the thought of sexual infidelity. And
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Collectively, the studies by Schutzwohl and his colleagues show that men
more than women showed faster decision time, greater information search, more
cognitive preoccupation, and better memorial recall of the sexual aspects of
infidelity stimuli and scenarios. Women, in contrast, showed faster decision time,
more intense information search, greater cognitive preoccupation, and better
memorial recall of the emotional aspects of infidelity stimuli and scenarios. In
short, the psychological design of sexual jealousy does not merely consist of
affective components; it also includes the ways in which women and men perceive,
search, encode, and remember information about the details of a partner's infidelity.
Characteristics of mating rivals. A partner's potential and actual infidelities
constitute key threats to a valued romantic relationship. Another key threat comes
from intrasexual rivals. Abundant evidence suggests that mate poaching is a
common human mating strategy (Schmitt & Buss, 2001; Schmitt et al., 2004).
Although sometimes seen as morally repugnant, mate poaching has an evolutionary
logic in that many desirable potential mates are already in existing romantic
relationships. Indeed, in many or most traditional cultures, most post-pubescent
females are married (Symons, 1979). Given a mildly polygynous mating system
characteristic of humans, most cultures contain a pool of unmated bachelors and a
more limited pool of unmated females, creating a great incentive for mate
poaching. Mate poaching by rivals can have the goal of a short-term sexual
temptation or a longer-term mating relationship.
Sexual jealousy, consequently, should be activated to the degree that the rival
or potential mate poacher poses a viable threat if the rival exceeds an individual
on key components of mate value. Since key components of mate value are
universally sex-differentiated, different rival characteristics should pose sexdifferentiated threats and evoke sex-differentiated levels of jealousy or emotional
distress. A cluster of predictions following from this hypotheses was tested in
Korea, the Netherlands, and the United States (Buss, Shackelford, Choe, Buunk, &
Dijkstra, 2000).
In all three cultures, men more than women report greater distress when a rival
surpasses them on financial prospects, job prospects, and physical strength. And in
all three cultures, women report greater distress than do men when rivals surpass
them on facial attractiveness and bodily attractiveness. Although additional crosscultural tests are needed, the fact that precisely the same sex differences in upset
due to rival characteristics emerged in cultures as diverse as The Netherlands and
Korea supports the key evolutionary hypothesis about jealousy evoked by rivals
differing in sex-differentiated qualities linked to male and female mate value.
Potential mate poachers pose threats to the degree to which they more closely
embody the mate value qualities desired by each sex. Moreover, other studies
document that men are more distressed by a partner's heterosexual affair than by a
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Table 1. Continued
Jealous Mate Retention Behaviors
Men married to physically attractive women show more intense mate guarding.
Men married to younger women show more intense mate guarding.
Men show more intense mate guarding when partner is both physically attractive and near
ovulation.
Women married to men with higher income show more intense mate guarding.
Women married to men higher in "status striving" show more intense mate guarding.
Jealous Interrogations Following Discovery of Infidelity
Did you have sex with him? Men more likely to grill partner about sexual aspects.
Do you love her? Women more likely to grill partner about emotional aspects.
Forgiveness or Breakup Following Infidelity
Men, relative to women, find it more difficult to forgive a sexual infidelity.
Women, relative to men, find it more difficult to forgive an emotional infidelity.
Men, relative to women, are more likely to break up following a sexual infidelity.
Women, relative to men, are more likely to break up following emotional infidelity.
In short, a formidable body of research has documented a number of sexdifferentiated design features that define the evolved emotion of sexual jealousy
(see Table 1). Men and women differ in their relative upset about sexual and
emotional infidelity, which correspond to the sex-differentiated adaptive problems
they historically faced in the context of forming long-term mateships. These sex
differences are robust across methods (e.g., forced choice dilemmas, measures of
physiological distress) and across a wide spectrum of cultures. The sex differences
emerge in studies of information processing of infidelity cues speed of
processing, attention, information search, and memorial recall. Moreover, sexual
jealousy shows sensitivity to rivals who pose threats, depending on sexdifferentiated components of mate value: job prospects, financial prospects, and
physical strength (men more than women); facial and body attractiveness (women
more than men).
The empirical evidence supports the hypothesis that sexual jealousy is a basic
or primary emotion. It evolved to guard against threats to a valued romantic
relationship and possesses highly predictable sex-differentiated functional design
features. Despite lacking a distinctive facial expression, there is no reason, from the
perspective of modern evolutionary psychology and biology, not to consider sexual
jealousy a basic evolved emotion that should be included within any
comprehensive theory or taxonomy of emotions (see Sabini & Silver, 2005, for
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arguments for including both jealousy and parental love as basic emotions from an
evolutionary perspective).
Behavioral Output of Jealousy: Mate Retention Tactics, Interrogation
Following Infidelity, Forgiveness, and Breakups
Emotions such as sexual jealousy could not evolve unless they influenced
behavior, either directly or indirectly. Studies of the behavioral output of sexual
jealousy have focused on a broad class of behaviors called mate retention tactics
(Buss, 1988b; Buss & Shackelford, 1997). Buss (1988b) developed a taxonomy
and corresponding measurement instrument consisting of 104 acts of mate
retention, clustered into 19 mate retention tactics. These ranged from vigilance
(e.g., checking up on a partner, dropping by unexpectedly, snooping through mail)
to violence (e.g., threats, hitting).
Men's, but not women's, intensity of mate retention was predicted by their
wife's age younger wives are recipients of more mate retention effort than older
wives. Specifically, men married to younger women were more likely to conceal
their wives from other men, monopolize their time, punish flirting and other signals
that their wife might be unfaithful, engage in emotional manipulation, ratchet up
their signals of relationship commitment, increase the flow of resources, increase
their signals of possession with words, physical proximity, and jewelry, threaten
rivals with violence, and actually direct violence toward potential mating rivals
(Buss & Shackelford, 1997). These effects remain robust even after controlling for
the age of the men doing the mate guarding. Interestingly, age discrepancies
when men were married to women substantially younger than themselves also
predicted the intensity of men's mate retention tactics, an effect also found by Daly
and Wilson (1988) in the context of violent tactics. Importantly, age-related
predictors of men's mate retention tactics remained strong after statistically
controlling for "length of relationship." No such correlates were found between the
husband's age and the wife's mate retention tactics.
Analogous correlations supported the hypothesis that men would devote
greater mate retention effort as a function of the physical attractiveness of the wife.
Husbands' perceptions of their wife's physical attractiveness proved particularly
predictive of mate retention tactics, especially increased vigilance, commitment,
resource display, verbal signals of possession, physical signals of possession, and
intrasexual threats. Haselton and Gangestad (2006) replicated this effect in a
sample of dating couples, finding that a woman's physical attractiveness was a large
predictor of the intensity of men's mate retention tactics. In contrast, women's
perceptions of their husband's physical attractiveness were either uncorrelated with,
or slightly negatively correlated with, their mate retention tactics.
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have sex with him? For women, among the most common interrogations was: Do
you love her?
Forgiveness or breakup following infidelity. When people discover that a
romantic partner has betrayed them with an infidelity, they face a major decision:
Should they forgive the partner and remain in the relationship or should they break
up and end the relationship? The cross-cultural finding that infidelity is a major
cause of divorce suggests that many choose to break up (Betzig, 1989). But not all
do. The aftermath of infidelity undoubtedly depends on a variety of factors, such as
family pressure, the presence of dependent children, and whether the betrayed
partner is economically dependent on the unfaithful partner. Another key influence
might be the particulars of the infidelity, and whether it involved sexual, emotional,
or economic components.
Using a forced-choice procedure, Shackelford, Buss, and Bennett (2002)
found that men, relative to women, reported they would find it more difficult to
forgive a sexual infidelity than an emotional infidelity. Moreover, men, more than
women, would be more likely to terminate a current romantic relationship
following a partner's sexual infidelity compared with an emotional infidelity.
Women showed the opposite pattern of responses, being more likely, relative to
men, not to forgive and to terminate a relationship following an emotional infidelity
than a sexual infidelity. Confer and Cloud (2011) found the exact same pattern in a
separate study.
In summary, sex-differentiated behavioral output of jealousy follows patterns
predicted in advance by evolutionary theories of jealousy. Men devote more effort
to mate retention when their wives are young and attractive, two key cues to
reproductive value. Women devote more effort to mate retention when their
husband have high earnings and engage in high levels of status striving. Verbal
interrogations following from the discovery of infidelity are also well predicted by
the evolutionary account. Men more than women interrogate their partners about
the sexual aspects of an infidelity, women more than men about the emotional
aspects. And whether men and women forgive their partners following an infidelity
depends, at least to some extent, on whether the infidelity involved a sexual liaison
or a deep emotional involvement that presages the long-term re-allocation of
resources.
Discussion
Sexual jealousy is a basic emotion in the sense that it evolved, shows a high
level of functional complexity, and shows all the hallmarks of 'special design'
required by standard in modern evolutionary biology and psychology. It lacks a
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