FAKULTI PENDIDIKAN DAN BAHASA

OUMH1303
ENGLISH FOR ORAL COMMUNICATION
MAY 2014 SEMESTER

NAMA PELAJAR

: HAMIDAH BT HASSIM

NO. MATRIKULASI

: 750706136018002

NO. TELEFON

: 013- 8446476

E-MEL

: hamidahilham@gmail.com

TUTOR

PUSAT PEMBELAJARAN

: OUM Cawangan Sibu, Sarawak.

Thanks to fellow emcee. Assalamualaikum and good morning to the respected headmistress Mrs
Salimah Hj Mos, Academic Senior Assistant Mr Jamil B Hj Julai, HEM Senior Assistant Mrs. Latifah Hj Tahir,
the respected teachers of Pre-School, Management Assistant Pupils and parents together. thank you for taking
the time to attend our ceremony today. First of all, I would like to give my gratitude for the opportunity that is
given to me to share with all of you some tips on how to be a good parent to our children. In order to be a good
parent, we have to take note about the important things in parenting our children. We also need to know what the
characteristics of a good parent is.

Ladies and gentleman,

Actually, we all dream of happy family, but to achieve that level we need to work and shows selfdiscipline to become a top model in our family. Parenting is an incredibly demanding job and you may have
some days where you wonder if you have what it takes to be an effective parent. The job is easier if you have
cultivated the right characteristics before your first child arrives on the scene. If you find you lack a few of these
characteristics, you can acquire them in the process of rearing your child.
According to........good parent define to........Parents need to be active participants in the life of their
child. Your child learns by watching you, so be aware of what you project. Embrace your parenting job with
enthusiasm, compassion, a sense of humour and a clear memory of what its like to be a child. Take the time to
know your childs personality and parent your child based on her strengths and weaknesses, according to family
relationship expert, Dr. Gary Smalley. If your child is loyal, consistent and compliant because she wants your
approval, a disapproving look or a soft word could rectify a misstep. A strong-willed, take-charge and
independent child, however, requires more discipline.
Whether you are father or mother, you can nurture your child. You can demonstrate unconditional love
by addressing the behaviour and not the character of the child when applying correction, advises KidsHealth.
Express forgiveness when your child shows remorse for a misdeed. If you know what behaviours are mistakes
or age-appropriate exploration, you can make allowances for those behaviours in ways that encourage your child
to grow and learn. Employ positive reinforcement when you set limits and keep your expectations realistic and
appropriate to your childs development and abilities. Your toddler probably wont sit still for several hours and
your teen isnt going to blindly accept everything you say.
A large part of your job as parent is to teach your child what they needs to become a productive and
responsible adult. Model the behaviour you want to see and take advantage of teachable moments to impart
wisdom and common sense to your child. Your child will respond best to lessons that are creative, fun and
impart a sense of adventure and discovery, according to Dr. Lisa Marotta, a private practice psychologist in
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. Set clear limits for your childs behaviour and employ logical consequences when
your child complies or defies those limits. Your child should know that you have confidence in his ability to
learn and respond to new challenges.

Ladies and gentleman,

Family communication isnt always easy, but it is a priority if you want to be an effective parent.
Actively listen when your child speaks, looking directly at her and making it clear that what she has to say is
important to you. You can validate her feelings and repeat the important points in your own words to make sure
youre both on the same page. Negotiate with your child, presenting clear choices whenever possible. Always
treat your child with kindness and respect, giving praise and encouragement when you have the opportunity.
Raising a child can be very difficult. Children learn how to be adults from none other than adults
themselves. Parents need to be willing to teach their children. In my opinion, there are key things that a parent
needs to do to be a "good" parent. Parents need to be good listeners. They are sometimes too quick to judge their
children's actions and words that they do not hear them cry for love, attention or help. Parents need to listen to
their child's feelings and reactions to things. Also, they need to let them have their own opinions and voice them
too. They should look at their child and show them that they are listening to them. Understanding their point of
view and where they are coming from also will help one to be a good parent.
If parents want their child to do what is right, I think that they need to set an example by also doing
what is right. Children should be taught how to be responsible, caring, hardworking and patient from watching
and learning these traits from their parents. Making time and traditions for your family is another part of being a
good parent. True, many parents do have to work a lot to provide their family with the things they need.
Spoiling children does not mean parents don't need to show love and spend quality time with their kids. Parents
should invest time, not money into their children. Children shouldn't have to ask if they are important to their
parents to know. They should just know. The time a parent puts into their family and the traditions they have
will always be there.
Parents should respect their child's interests and get involved in their life. They should participate in
activities that they all can enjoy. Parents should try out new things that their child likes. Unconditional love is
the key to being a good parent. Parents need to love their children no matter what. If a child doubts a parent's
love for them, the parent is not being a good one. Even when a child is disappointing, parents should keep
loving their children. I think "loving" is the most important characteristic that an ideal parent needs to
demonstrate. When we are loving, we are consciously sharing our thoughts and feelings; we are tenderly
touching and holding our child with care. We are playful and joyful in our actions and in our guidance. We take
time to listen and to explain things to our child so they are able to understand. We always answer the child's
questions. We create quality time where we can look into the child's eyes and connect with their "soul." We
create an environment that is safe from any emotional, mental or physical harm.

Ladies and gentleman,

Another major characteristic that an ideal parent demonstrates is being a positive role model. A positive
role model demonstrates and presents a healthy lifestyle that involves exercise, nature, art and self-expression. A
positive role model prepares food that nourishes the eyes, the mouth and the body. They are wise in their words
and actions. They strive to express their wants in a positive manner. They have hindsight, now-sight and
foresight. They are not afraid to say they made a mistake and they are open to feedback on how they can do
things better. They don't blame others, nor do they portray themselves as a victim. They teach the concept of
acceptance by using everything for their upliftment, advancement and growth. They demonstrate the concept of
patience by being present and enjoying what is going on in the moment no matter what. They consciously
present the concept of cause and effect so the child can learn through its experiences what is effective, and what
is not effective. Since they know they are more than just a mother or a father, they take time to nurture and care
for themselves so they can give from their overflow.
Ideal parents demonstrate moral and spiritual responsibility. They believe in hope. They hold a space
for their child to develop into who she or he truly is verses trying to make the child into something "they" want.
They consistently demonstrate good boundaries and give their child permission to say "yes" and "no" when it's
appropriate. They encourage the child to dream, to be more, and to think "outside the box." They teach the child
to regularly look into the mirror and say, "I'm loving you."
Ideal parents also create a social environment where the concept of "family" extends out into the
community and expands to all our brothers and sisters on the planet. Friends are welcomed and play is an
opportunity to learn, to grow, to communicate, and to share. Formal education is embraced and the development
of the intellect is valued and praised. Discipline and consistent daily routines, that support the family and the
community, are demonstrated and reinforced. The child knows that they can count on their parent to hold, to
comfort, to listen, to understand, and to love them.

Ladies and gentleman,

A good parent builds an atmosphere of encouragement. Youve seen them. Moms and dads who
love their children and yet, for whatever reason, constantly discourage and frustrate them. This may be the dad
who regularly second guesses his son or daughter. He communicates doubt instead of confidence.
Consequently, his son or daughter grows up to be hesitant, afraid to step out and risk, and unsure of himself. A
good parent communicates that she believes in her children. Regardless of their age, children need parents who
are encouragers.
A good parent also creates an atmosphere of joy and laughter at home. I know a father who looks
like he is miserable much of the time. I suspect there is little laughter in his home. How sad! Our children live
in a tough world. At school they may feel tremendous social pressure, hear many put downs, and yet have to

deal with the pressure of grades, the future, etc. Home should be a place where we look forward to being at
the end of the day. A good parent works to create a home that is a place of warmth, acceptance, and laughter.
Besides, a good parent realizes that one of the best gifts that he can offer his children is himself .
Too many parents try to buy their way to their childrens hearts. Ive been around many teens during the last
eight years. I have not known any who I thought were deprived by having to drive an older model car, etc.
However, I have known a number of teens whose parents were too busy for them and unavailable emotionally. I
have known several who received no moral or spiritual direction from their parents, whatsoever. Consequently,
these kids felt as if their parents really did not know what was going on in their lives not to mention their hearts.
Our children need a parents who is fully engaged in their lives.

Ladies and gentleman,

A good parent is respectful to their child, even when disciplining. Children first learn respectful
behaviours from their parents and caregivers, so a child who is consistently treated respectfully by a parent is
more likely to develop a healthy self-respect, and a respect for others, including their parent. Parents should
keep in mind that it is possible to be respectful and firm at the same time.A good parent also knows how to
listen, more than talk. Sometimes, all a child needs is a listening ear, a safe place to talk things out, and for the
parent to put themselves in the child's shoes, rather than jump in and fix his problems for him. A parent who is
willing to tune into their child's words, tone of voice, and body language, will have a better chance of hearing
what their child is really saying. Empathic listening sets the stage for open communication and can go a long
way in strengthening the parent-child relationship.
Parent also needs to take advantage of opportunities to allow their child to make age-appropriate
decisions, thereby, instilling a level of trust in the child's ability to do so. Entrusting a child to make certain
choices is a great way to empower a child, and ultimately help a child learn how to become responsible. When
parents try to control too many things in a child's life, it sends the message, "I don't trust you to make the right
decisions, my way is better." Consequently, the more control a parents uses, the less cooperation they will get.A
parent's main role in their child's life is to be a leader which is someone the child can model, and learn from, but
most importantly, someone who will keep them healthy and safe. Leadership in parenting requires being firm,
when necessary, and a willingness to put rules in place, even when those rules are not readily accepted by the
child. Parents, who are leaders, accept that there will be times when their child will not like them for putting
certain limits in place, but they enforce them anyhow, knowing that it's their job to do what's best for their child.

Ladies and gentleman,

It takes courage to be a good parent. The need for courage in parenting can show up in different ways,
such as taking an unpopular stand to instil values, rules, and limits, even if it goes against what their child, or

others may believe. At other times, courage may be needed to let go and allow a child to make certain choices
and experience the consequences of such choices, so he can learn and grow. Courage is not reckless, nor is it the
absence of fear; it's the willingness to try, and do what needs to be done, despite having fears.
Parents who are confident don't have all the answers, but they are confident in their abilities to do the
best they can. When they don't know the answer, they look for it. Rather than dwell on their own mistakes,
confident parents are willing to admit them, learn from them, and make better choices in the future. They see
problems as opportunities to learn and grow. As a result, they're in a better position to help their child develop
self-confidence, as well.
Gratitude in parenting helps a parent appreciate their child as they are. Gratitude says, "I like who you
are and who you are becoming." Gratitude helps parents become aware of, and help build on a child's strengths.
A grateful parent focuses on and accepts the present moment, doesn't fret about past mistakes, or worry about
the future. Gratitude in parenting helps parents become more approachable, and a positive influence in their
child's life.
Probably one of the hardest characteristics to develop in parenting, but the most needed, is the
characteristic of understanding. Many times it can be hard for parents to deal with a child's misbehaviours,
mostly because they don't understand them. One of the worst things a parent can do is take their child's
misbehaviours personally. As part of their growth and development, children are going to misbehave and do
things that go against the rules. Knowing this can help parents anticipate and redirect a child toward more
positive and acceptable behaviours, and avoid a lot of unnecessary anger. Understanding can also lead to
forgiveness.
Happiness is not given to a chosen few; it's available to those who choose to make it a part of their
everyday life. Many people wait for things, events, and other people to make them happy, but this is a mistake.
Choosing to be happy is a choice we can all make because it comes from within. It's a reservoir that we can tap
into whenever we choose. It's not designed to make problems go away, although, sometimes it may. Happiness
can help us rise above our problems, and not just survive, but thrive, in spite of them. Plus, it just feels good to
be happy. Parents who practice happiness have a greater chance of influencing their child's perception of
happiness, and their attainment of it, as well. Most children are naturally happy and enjoy being around happy
parents.

Ladies and gentleman,

Be involved in your child's life. Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often
means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what
your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically. Being involved also does not mean doing a
child's homework or reading it over or correcting it. Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child
is learning or not. If you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is learning. Adapt

your parenting to fit your child. Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider
how age is affecting the child's behaviour.
The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's
motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious
and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table. For example, an eighth
grader is easily distracted, irritable. His grades in school are suffering. He's argumentative. Should parents push
him more, or should they be understanding so his self-esteem doesn't suffer?With a 13-year-old, the problem
could be a number of things. He may be depressed. He could be getting too little sleep. Is he staying up too late?
It could be he simply needs some help in structuring time to allow time for studying. He may have a learning
problem. Pushing him to do better is not the answer. The problem needs to be diagnosed by a professional.
To be a good parent, you also need to establish and set rules. If you don't manage your child's
behaviour when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you
aren't around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is
my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going
to shape the rules he applies to himself. However, you can't micromanage your child. Once they're in middle
school, you need let the child do their own homework, make their own choices, and not intervene. Besides, you
also need to foster your child's independence. Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control.
Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she's going to
need both.

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Good Parenting Quotes:

1. When you have brought up kids, there are

memories you store directly in your tear ducts. ~ Robert Brault
2. Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six
children, and no theories. ~John Wilmot
3. There comes a time when a woman needs to stop thinking about her looks and focus her
energies on raising her children. This time comes at the moment of conception. A child needs
a role model, not a supermodel. ~Astrid Alauda, on the hot mom trend
4. Your children need your presence more than your presents. ~ Jesse Jackson
5. Dont worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.
~Robert Fulghum
6. If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their
shoulders. ~Abigail Van Buren
7. If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see
whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves. ~C.G. Jung,
8. Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve. ~Roger
Lewin
9. There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is
wings. ~Hodding Carter, Jr.
10. Do not ask that your kids live up to your expectations. Let your kids be who they are,
and your expectations will be in breathless pursuit. ~Robert Brault
11. Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. ~Charles
R. Swindoll

12. There is only one pretty child in the world, and every
mother has it. ~Chinese Proverb
13. Never raise your hand to your kids. It leaves your groin unprotected. ~Red Buttons
14. Good, honest, hardheaded character is a function of the home. If the proper seed is sown
there and properly nourished for a few years, it will not be easy for that plant to be uprooted.
~George A. Dorsey
15. Parents need to fill a childs bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world cant
poke enough holes to drain it dry. ~Alvin Price
16. It is better to bind your children to you by a feeling of respect and by gentleness, than by
fear. ~Terence
17. Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be. ~David Bly[
18. Affirming words from moms and dads are like light switches. Speak a word of
affirmation at the right moment in a childs life and its like lighting up a whole roomful of
possibilities. ~Gary Smalley
19. Dont demand respect as a parenting. Demand civility and insist on honesty. But respect
is something you must earn with kids as well as with adults. ~William Attwood
20. God sends children to enlarge our hearts, and make us unselfish and full of kindly
sympathies and affections. ~Mary Howitt
21. No one knows how children will turn out; a great tree often springs from a tender plant.
~Norwegian proverb
22. Parents can tell but never teach, unless they practice what they preach. Arnold
Glasow

23. The best inheritance a parent can give his children is a few minutes of his time each
day. ~O. A. Battista
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