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Nag-aholics
Breaking free
from the
Nag trap
By Kate Thompson
Are you at your wit’s end with your demanding, demeaning, faultfinding, Ignoring or belittling how others
spouse or kids? Are you forced to nit-picking, pestering, urging and feel about the topic
hound your loved ones, just to get any- wheedling, just to name a few. Nagging
thing done? Do you wonder what the is exhausting. It's one communication A behavior that many don't even
know or believe they're doing
heck it's going to take for them to get it? device that does not add anything posi-
tive to relationships. Instead, it takes a A behavior others can often identi-
You might feel the need to nag about lot away, by damaging trust, feeding fy long before the nagger does
household chores, getting a better job, resentments and frustration, and dimin-
quitting smoking, staying out late, or ishing respect. WHY we nag:
financial issues. No matter what the We have opinions about what oth-
subject, saying the same thing over and Anyone can be a nagger (the one nag- ers should do, eat, say, wear, want,
over and over again is nagging. ging), and anyone can be the naggee like, or be.
(the one being nagged).Usually thought
When you see their eyes glaze over and of as a feminine trait, men also have the We have opinions about what oth-
their faces take on a blank expression, ability to badger beyond belief. Most ers should not do, eat, say, wear, want,
you likely become very aggravated. people who nag their partners don't like, or be.
Maybe you walk away from such even realize they are doing it. We want help getting things done.
encounters discouraged and frustrated,
feeling that they'll never get the mes- For clarification, below are the who, We believe that people in relation-
sage. Maybe you feel a bit foolish after what, why, when, where and how of ships should help and please each
you've repeated yourself again, for the nagging. From the list, see what you other.
umpteenth time. can discover about yourself. Check any We believe that people in relation-
items that describe your beliefs about ships should want to help and please
You're not alone. Nagging is the most nagging, or that apply to you. each other.
popular weapon of choice to stir loved
ones to action! But wait! There is a bet- WHO you nag: We believe it's good for people to
ter way! Family (kids, wives, husbands, sib- learn certain skills and attitudes – and
lings, parents, extended family mem- that it's our job to teach them.
Nagging 101 bers) We believe tasks will get done
The word nag comes from the Others (friends, co-workers, subor- more easily and quickly with more
Scandinavian word, nagga, which dinates, students, team members) people pitching in.
means to gnaw. Hmmm. We believe our lives would be bet-
WHAT nagging is: ter if people just did things the way we
Nagging may include attacking, blam- One-sided repetition of what you wanted them to.
ing, coaxing, complaining, criticizing, think or want
spouse does put dishes in the dishwash- How to keep politics from
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